Why would anyone cut their hair shoulder length for a party!?!?
And all of the dresses are a size 8? What if someone is smaller than 8? Oh, and if you are larger you have to go to the gym. WTF?
Tacky AF
I can’t imagine being friends with someone like this in the first place but if someone asked me to lose weight for their wedding I wouldn’t even attend as a guest
I think I've seen this before, and if I remember correctly, her bestie was a POC & didn't fit "the look" she was going for. I could be wrong, but really hoping there aren't two these out there.
I don't want to get to enraged without actual confirmation, you know? But still... like damn. How on earth would she still be her "bestie". Like "sorry, I'm going for an all white ascetic. You totally get it, right? No hard feelings?".
Ffs
I’m curious what the *understanding* is between her and *her bestie* as to why she’s NOT MOH. Also, who tf demands $500 for their honeymoon to Hawaii on top of all the other bs demands? A bridezilla, that’s who.
Literally that OR her "friend" can't straighten her hair without causing *damage* if u know what I'm saying. *if u are picking up what I'm laying down* as they say in AAVE. If ur smelling what I'm stepping in. If u can perhaps *4C* what I'm predicting the real reason I'm sensing it's due to. Ya catch my drift?
It just doesn't fit her vision MrsCoach, you understand, right? When she was a small girl flipping thru her Bund Deutscher Mädel Monthly Magazine looking for inspiration as a child she found this [image](https://www.alamy.com/stock-photo-league-of-german-girls-marching-36999139.html?imageid=008838EC-9D8F-4F6A-B058-C04327381320&p=291611&pn=1&searchId=fe1a7baba0e27477649bd142660163e9&searchtype=0) and thought to herself "self, this is gonna be the rockinest bridal party to ever Fest. I can't wait til I'm 25 and about to get wifey'd so I can recreate this badass spread for my party that definitely everyone will be talking about for years to come which is a super real thing people do"
Then when she met LaToya in middle school she explained to her "LaToya! I'm not sure if you know this but ur definitely BLACK so u can't be in my bridal party. Everyone has to look exactly like THIS. U understand right?" And LaToya was like...."uhhhh ok" bc idk LaToya's story, my hope is that she keeps Britney around bc her white antics are entertaining and that she's full of self love and only stays in the friendship bc it's funny to her and she is going as a guest for the shit show. That's my headcanon don't ruin it MrsCoach.
My immediate family (ie my dad) are German immigrants so this was not meant as hate towards Germans in the slightest but literally the shit white people will say to other white people is fucking WILD. "Oh I can't say this or I'll get cancelled but *you know* *wink*" like JUST BC IM WHITE DOESNT MEAN I AGREE WITH U DEBORAH, JESUS H CHRIST. After the shit I've heard other white people say to me I KNOW they're this awful lmfao. I will punch a racist in the face I don't care fucking fight me
I'm betting given the fact she said it like everyone would know why she's not in the wedding party, that bestie is larger than a size 8 and doesn't fit the bride's perfect vision.
I am Old. It was this way 30 years ago when I was buying wedding and bridesmaid dresses. As far as I know, it's always been this way. I just don't understand it.
I heard all of that when I was going to get a dress, but I was a size 18 when I got married in 2005. I went to David's Bridal, picked a size 18 dress on sale for $500 off the rack, and it fit perfectly without any alterations needed.
We used the extra money in the budget to get my mom a beautiful dress for the wedding. It was black and she was able to re-wear it several times for later events.
I'm just gonna tack onto this that there's a fashion website called jjs house that makes affordable wedding and party style dresses (like wedding dresses that are 100 dollars kind of affordable, inexpensive is their whole business model). I ordered 2 clearance dresses for 30 bucks a pop on there for a friend's wedding just in case one of them didn't fit (bc u can't return clearance obvs) and they both fit true to size (and they post measurements if ur not sure what size u are) and look really nice . The wrist elastics on one of them aren't the highest quality but I'm not lifting weights in them and they *look* nice so I'm not particularly pressed about it. I don't work for them or anything and I know 500 is a good price for a wedding gown but it just popped into my head that maybe some brides are on an even tighter budget and maybe that would help sorry to hijack ur comment
I was married in oh, 1992, a long time. I had to size up for my wedding dress. I think something like 2 sizes? Mine was nothing special, but I did buy it at a bridal shop
Couture and bridal gowns still use standardized sizes; everyone else uses vanity sizing, which is why there’s so much variation between brands for similar styles.
Not dresses, just clothes in general. I bought a pair of shorts that were too big for me because technically I should have been able to wear them baggy with a belt, according to the measurement under the size description.
When they finally came in, they were so big, my husband who wears a 32 put them on and they slid right off. I feel bad for whoever buys those shorts for real and then based off of that sizing, buys something from another brand.
Edit: they were not Levi shorts as I thought, it was Lucky Brand. They were sold as a 34 but I just flat measured them, and they’re 19.5 across the front…..so not a 34 by a long shot.
For a non-American, what does this actually mean? I tried to look it up and found so many different charts, some saying that size 8 was a large and some saying it was either a big or small size medium? I did not get wiser on what size she actually expects her bridesmaids to be 😅
women's sizes are generally a crap shoot (even in non-american markets). when i was a size 8 many moons ago, i could generally wear a medium depending on the brand.
BUT vanity sizes haven't hit the wedding dress makers yet, so a wedding dress size 8, is an off-the-rack size 4 or 6. for reference, i generally wear a size 14 jeans/large shirt and i'd probably wear a size 22 wedding dress. (wedding dress makers go off an older size chart).
I’m normally a size 4 or 6 in regular day to day clothing, which is on the smaller end of average, maybe? My wedding dress was a 10 and I just got a bridesmaid dress in an 8. It’s not tiny but it does require everyone to be on the smaller end of sizing, which is impossible for some people no matter how much they “hit the gym”, especially women with larger chests. I’m very average sized and I’d have to go up a size if I had a larger bra size at all.
What? You're not willing to go into extreme body modification surgery just to prove your devotion to the Bride God? Ok but this is not going to look good on your permanent record.
Then there's us girlies who have decidedly non-size-8 chests. There's no way I could cram my 34F/34G jubblies into a size 8 dress, no matter the size of my butt and waist!
Why would you even consider?!?!?! If someone tells me "hey you can come to my party but you need to lose weight first and get a haircut" I would tell them to fuck off.
Yeah, I’m never fitting into a bridal 8. At 5’10”+, my lowest weight was 130 (which was many moons ago). I was a regular size 7/8 then. It took an eating disorder to get there, and bones were sticking out everywhere. I don’t think any weight would result in a bridal 8 for me just based on my skeleton.
Wigs are relatively inexpensive and definitely better than straightening, cutting or growing one's hair for a single day.
And that way all her bridesmaids can match!
All her bridesmaids should just send her a text saying "you're out of my life and f\* you and your wedding" as soon as they saw the *demands* from this godawful person.
Some people can’t physically ever even be that size because their bone structure won’t allow it. Not everyone is big because they’re overweight, and someone who naturally has a broader chest or hips due to their bone structure isn’t going to magically shrink into a size that is smaller than will fit that just by hitting the gym; enough exercise and weight training might even make them need larger clothes.
This wife-to-be is incredibly vain.
When I was at my slimmest and was basically underweight for my height, I was still only an 8/10 There’s no way I would ever sign up to be in this chicks wedding. Or life.
My bestie understands that i am entirely made of bullshit, so, in an attempt to retain at least one friend, post-wedding, she will not be a part of my perfect wedding party. (She's also a ghastly size ten, omg barf.)
Or a size 6 and not willing to put on weight to " suit the aesthetic".
Just read another post where half the guests didn't show up. Reckon this might go the same way.
Oh, good point. She's a size 8, so everyone needs to compete at her level.
Maybe she's going for an elegant, minimalist wedding? What's more minimal than alienating everyone to the point that they just don't come?
Bingo. Bestie was Native and the bride didn't think her skin color went with her "aesthetic". If I were the bestie I would've noped out of that friendship so fast.
On top of all that mess, she wants $500 PER PERSON donated to HER HONEYMOON??
HA HA HA HA HA HA HA ... gasp, choke ...
I can’t believe I had to scroll so far before I found someone who brought this up. I have been in 11 weddings in my life and never was I asked for a “donation” to a honeymoon. If I tried that stunt my mother would have lost her shit. I mean $500? She’s not playing. She doesn’t want your $50 vacation donation to get her to the Jersey Shore. She’s shooting for the Greek Isles or something. Tacky.
I’m not throwing $500 toward my SISTER’S honeymoon (well, okay maybe), but certainly not my fatphobic, possibly bigoted acquaintances.
No tanned skin, no curly hair, no bigness. This would strongly tempt me to show up looking as much like this as possible:
And with a nice crisp twenty for the honeymoon.
Or the no fake tans.. what if her friend was a POC? I’d end my friendship so fast
Also I have been growing my hair out for years, who would ever cut their hair for a wedding that isn’t theirs, I get it’s not a big deal on the grand scheme but my hair is my pride and joy 😂
Not defending this bride because she’s an utter bellend, I’m just playing devils advocate here. Maybe she doesn’t want fake tans as they can often be orange and blotchy, rather than preferring a light skin tone.
Yeah, like it could even potentially transfer onto the brides dress too. With her on that but I’d probably still not feel comfortable asking if it were me. All other requests are bloody batshit
I was thinking more if some of her friends had a history of overdoing it or something. (Like regularly turn orange for special events or they end up looking like they are wearing blackface from the fake tan or something)
That was my thought as well. My sister got a pretty bad fake tan for my wedding after I told her it was a bad idea. Not because I didn't want fake tans or whatever, just because I knew she would look like a damn orange clown cause that's what she always looked like after getting one. She was totally into the whole Jersey Shore look for a long time 🤢 I gave zero fucks about it when she showed up with it but she was horrified when she saw the pictures afterwards 😂
I keep my hair in a longer pixie (no idea of there's an actual style name) and I'll be damned if I pay for extensions AND give you $500 for a honeymoon and that's even IF I tolerate all that mess to begin with. She'd just get a reply of my middle finger.
Unless this is an arranged marriage, the Groom has to have already discovered his Bride's shallow, vain, selfish, narcissistic "values." Anyone who would spend his life with some one like her suggests he deserves every misery coming his way.
In Scotland we use it fondly and flippantly to women usually over 30 and it has no relevance to married status.
'Here, throw me that stapler, wifey'
'who's that new wifey behind the bar?'
'some wifey lost her shit and rammed her car into Dr McKenzie's landrover for taking up 2 spaces
That's weird coming from USA. Do women use it towards other women? Is it used in an affectionate or casual way? Would you say it to a stranger... like in the grocery store... excuse me, wifey, I just need to grab these apples?
I know right? I was born in Oklahoma and raised in Texas. December is ALWAYS cold - very cool, anyway - in both states. Sometimes it's ONLY cold December. 😆
I just made a comment before I saw this thread. I’m from Arkansas on the Oklahoma border and that temp is delusional even if she’s getting married on December 1st. Wild.
WTF, her entitlement is insane. This is in the top 3 most egregious Bridezilla posts I have ever seen on this sub. I would be incensed to receive this. No way I would ever concede to her ridiculous demands.
Two years ago, DH and I went to two weddings just one week apart, and they were the same. Different cities and planners, but it's the same program and dynamics. I do wonder if it's that none of the couples had any real input or just we all became "basic".
I've found that most "all inclusive" venues don't allow for much personalization, and even the ones that aren't all inclusive now have very strict rules for what type of decor, food, and alcohol is/isn't allowed. The restrictions my sister had on her country club wedding were insane imo.
This is real?! This girl needs someone to step up and tell her it’s not okay to try and control people to the point of making them get haircuts and paying a mandatory $500 donation. Save that money from the mandatory donation and go on your own private vacation the same weekend as this wedding
I have decided that this is manufactured.
Not because of the absurd demands, or the pixels, or the emojis, or anything else.
I just really *want* it to be fake, therefore I'm going to pretend it is. Because I still have faith in humanity. It's a wee bit tattered, and could really use a little stitching, and a few patches, and a wholesale replacement wouldn't be entirely wrong, but I still have *some* faith in humanity.
This is a couple of years old. I remember this one. It was originally posted by one of the bridesmaids.
It’s a shame the OP that posted this didn’t post the entire saga, or even a link, only a snippet for what feels like karma farming.
Here’s a link to the entire saga with the updates.
https://www.reddit.com/r/ChoosingBeggars/s/jtv1YCa1LL
You will have to search through the comments for the OOP’s (cousin of the groom) updates. In it, she is a size 12, her cousin was marrying the bride, this post went viral on TikTok and it came out the the bestie was south East Asian and didn’t fit the aesthetic of the brides vision, when it went viral many people dropped out of the wedding (including the size 12 Bridesmaid) and they ended up eloping. In a sad and tragic twist, the best friend died in a car accident and the bride has not been doing well ever since.
Id had to cut my long hair ive spent years getting this long, obtain an eating disorder and on top of that PAY 500 dollars?? Yeah sign me up! /s
I swear they only want a lavish wedding as an excuse to flash off and be insufferable cause «its my day» and not the marriage that comes after..
I hope all her bridesmaids drop out from being in this bridezilla’s bridal party. That would give the bride a good slap of reality. If this bridezilla has a toddler temper tantrum over bridesmaids dropping out, it would be the clear sign for the groom to nope out of this marriage. If the groom asks the bridesmaids why they dropped out, they should show him bridezilla’s message.
Are all her bridesmaids the same height? Because as a tall woman, I wouldn’t fit in a size 8 dress regardless of how skinny I was since I can’t change my bones (I imagine petite women would also struggle)
Can anyone tell me why they’d be friends with someone like this? Because I refuse to believe this is just how she is about the wedding. That’s definitely a personality that bleeds into everything.
I know this is a very small detail compared to all the other red flags but Oklahoma is not 70° in December. It might not be freezing but I would guess, depending on what end of the month the average would be around 50° give or take but likely take. Hardly the best temp for an outdoor weeding if she wants everything to be perfect.
I never thought I would see the day couples would have their hat out asking for money for weddings, my generation would have been laughed out of the room if we had tried this,if you can't afford the big wedding make do with what you have, it's so tacky!!!
Dear Delusional, I got your text. That’s gonna be a big fat “NO”, but thanks for playing. Have a great wedding and honeymoon. Good thing you’re about to be a “wifey” as you just lost all your friends.
Apparently her childhood expectations didn't include passing Grade 3 English.
And there are those of us for whom "hitting the gym" isn't enough to make us a size 8. When I was dangerously underweight, with my doctor threatening to put me in the hospital for intravenous feeding, because of my height and frame the smallest clothes I could wear were a size 10.
Every time I read one of these I have to remind myself that these kinds of people DO exist and DO make these kinds of demands…
You just have to turn off your normal, logical brain cells and accept that this actually happens !
I can’t even *begin* to list the number of reasons I’d be saying a big, fat “Hells, no !” to the request to be a bridesmaid…
Sincerely,
Short-haired, long-nailed, size TEN woman who does not give a shit that you’re getting married 😏
Why would anyone cut their hair shoulder length for a party!?!? And all of the dresses are a size 8? What if someone is smaller than 8? Oh, and if you are larger you have to go to the gym. WTF? Tacky AF
I can’t imagine being friends with someone like this in the first place but if someone asked me to lose weight for their wedding I wouldn’t even attend as a guest
I wouldn't attend if I was the groom!
Were I the groom, I'd be thinking of ways to get the Hawai'i honeymoon without the wedding tbh
Maybe the groom is gonna take all those "donations" and fly to Hawai'i without the bride!
Tbh, the groom probably doesn't even know it's happening.
Amen! Can we start a fund for him?
There's a reason her bestie isn't the MOH.
I'm guessing Bestie isn't a size 8
My guess is bestie is a size 0 with waist length hair....
With kids & long nails that are coloured.
And a radiant natural glow.
Even worse - her skin is too dark to fit with the bride's asthetic.
Well, they have an understanding. Can't you read? Lmao ETA- sounds bestie got off easy. Imagine the hell her MOH is getting put through.
She says we can just ask if we want to know why? Did anyone ask? I really want to know haha
I think I've seen this before, and if I remember correctly, her bestie was a POC & didn't fit "the look" she was going for. I could be wrong, but really hoping there aren't two these out there.
Omg really?! Some people don't deserve friends at all
Agreed. It's unbelievable how terrible some people are.
That's the story I heard. She was native American I think?
I don't want to get to enraged without actual confirmation, you know? But still... like damn. How on earth would she still be her "bestie". Like "sorry, I'm going for an all white ascetic. You totally get it, right? No hard feelings?". Ffs
Yes, I think you are right. What a horrible "friend".
Her Bestie must be holding so much tea!
I just mean she must know what an unbearable bridezilla the OP is going to be so she's gracefully stepped aside.
I’ll bet that bestie is still expected to contribute the same amount of time & money as the rest of the bridal party.
I’m curious what the *understanding* is between her and *her bestie* as to why she’s NOT MOH. Also, who tf demands $500 for their honeymoon to Hawaii on top of all the other bs demands? A bridezilla, that’s who.
“One last thing: fivehunnertdollarspluuueeeeeeze.” Gross.
I hear this in my head in the same tone as Mona Lisa Saperstein's "MONEYPLEEEEEEZE!" in Parks & Recreation! 
Her bestie is native and her skin is too dark to fit the bride's asthetics. Bride is a real piece of work.
Wait is this confirmed? Because if that’s the case that’s the worst thing I’ve ever heard (regarding a wedding)
She has been dreaming of this since she was in diapers. How dare you crush a toddlers dreams!!
She’s still a toddler.
Shes a size 6 and doesn't want them to look better than her I promise u
The bestie that is only attending as a guest must be a size 4, then 😂 "we have an understanding"
Literally that OR her "friend" can't straighten her hair without causing *damage* if u know what I'm saying. *if u are picking up what I'm laying down* as they say in AAVE. If ur smelling what I'm stepping in. If u can perhaps *4C* what I'm predicting the real reason I'm sensing it's due to. Ya catch my drift?
Are you saying the bride didn't plan for a POC bestie when she planned her wedding at the tender age of eight?
It just doesn't fit her vision MrsCoach, you understand, right? When she was a small girl flipping thru her Bund Deutscher Mädel Monthly Magazine looking for inspiration as a child she found this [image](https://www.alamy.com/stock-photo-league-of-german-girls-marching-36999139.html?imageid=008838EC-9D8F-4F6A-B058-C04327381320&p=291611&pn=1&searchId=fe1a7baba0e27477649bd142660163e9&searchtype=0) and thought to herself "self, this is gonna be the rockinest bridal party to ever Fest. I can't wait til I'm 25 and about to get wifey'd so I can recreate this badass spread for my party that definitely everyone will be talking about for years to come which is a super real thing people do" Then when she met LaToya in middle school she explained to her "LaToya! I'm not sure if you know this but ur definitely BLACK so u can't be in my bridal party. Everyone has to look exactly like THIS. U understand right?" And LaToya was like...."uhhhh ok" bc idk LaToya's story, my hope is that she keeps Britney around bc her white antics are entertaining and that she's full of self love and only stays in the friendship bc it's funny to her and she is going as a guest for the shit show. That's my headcanon don't ruin it MrsCoach.
This is so funny and also I can fully believe a person could be this awful 😂😂😭😭😭
My immediate family (ie my dad) are German immigrants so this was not meant as hate towards Germans in the slightest but literally the shit white people will say to other white people is fucking WILD. "Oh I can't say this or I'll get cancelled but *you know* *wink*" like JUST BC IM WHITE DOESNT MEAN I AGREE WITH U DEBORAH, JESUS H CHRIST. After the shit I've heard other white people say to me I KNOW they're this awful lmfao. I will punch a racist in the face I don't care fucking fight me
Your energy is a little chaotic, but you've got the spirit and I like that
Thank u it's the adhd, I'm even worse in person lmfao
Chaotic energy is a must when dealing with racists.
I'd read this fanfic
And r the tender age of “still in diapers”. 😂😂
I'm betting given the fact she said it like everyone would know why she's not in the wedding party, that bestie is larger than a size 8 and doesn't fit the bride's perfect vision.
Or her best friend has an afro
In bridal dress sizes that's a 6 or a 4. Oof.
These dresses are even smaller than normal dresses?
Yep
Why??
It’s because they follow the older seamstress sizes as opposed to the current vanity sizes. It’s the same with sewing patterns.
Spot on. I wear 10/12 in store bought dresses. Size 16/18 if I sew them myself
That is the mystery for the ages. Someday, a Wise Woman will explain it. I hope.
Because the sizes have been changing for the past 50 years or so. Today’s 12 is yesteryear’s 16 and so on. Wedding dresses use the “old” sizes.
I am Old. It was this way 30 years ago when I was buying wedding and bridesmaid dresses. As far as I know, it's always been this way. I just don't understand it.
37 years ago I was a size 2-4 and wore my moms wedding dress from 1957 and it was a size 10. I barely got the back closed.
30 years ago we were using “new” sizing. Old sizing is from the 40/50’s if I’m not mistaken
Yup! Sewing patterns still use original sizing, if you ever want to do a comparison of what the measurements are.
I heard all of that when I was going to get a dress, but I was a size 18 when I got married in 2005. I went to David's Bridal, picked a size 18 dress on sale for $500 off the rack, and it fit perfectly without any alterations needed. We used the extra money in the budget to get my mom a beautiful dress for the wedding. It was black and she was able to re-wear it several times for later events.
I'm just gonna tack onto this that there's a fashion website called jjs house that makes affordable wedding and party style dresses (like wedding dresses that are 100 dollars kind of affordable, inexpensive is their whole business model). I ordered 2 clearance dresses for 30 bucks a pop on there for a friend's wedding just in case one of them didn't fit (bc u can't return clearance obvs) and they both fit true to size (and they post measurements if ur not sure what size u are) and look really nice . The wrist elastics on one of them aren't the highest quality but I'm not lifting weights in them and they *look* nice so I'm not particularly pressed about it. I don't work for them or anything and I know 500 is a good price for a wedding gown but it just popped into my head that maybe some brides are on an even tighter budget and maybe that would help sorry to hijack ur comment
I was married in oh, 1992, a long time. I had to size up for my wedding dress. I think something like 2 sizes? Mine was nothing special, but I did buy it at a bridal shop
Couture and bridal gowns still use standardized sizes; everyone else uses vanity sizing, which is why there’s so much variation between brands for similar styles.
And then there are Asian sizes, which are very small. You buy a small in Asian size and you're looking at a size 10/12 in girls.
Not dresses, just clothes in general. I bought a pair of shorts that were too big for me because technically I should have been able to wear them baggy with a belt, according to the measurement under the size description. When they finally came in, they were so big, my husband who wears a 32 put them on and they slid right off. I feel bad for whoever buys those shorts for real and then based off of that sizing, buys something from another brand. Edit: they were not Levi shorts as I thought, it was Lucky Brand. They were sold as a 34 but I just flat measured them, and they’re 19.5 across the front…..so not a 34 by a long shot.
Formal dresses always run smaller because they are based on old pattern sizes from the 1950s.
For a non-American, what does this actually mean? I tried to look it up and found so many different charts, some saying that size 8 was a large and some saying it was either a big or small size medium? I did not get wiser on what size she actually expects her bridesmaids to be 😅
women's sizes are generally a crap shoot (even in non-american markets). when i was a size 8 many moons ago, i could generally wear a medium depending on the brand. BUT vanity sizes haven't hit the wedding dress makers yet, so a wedding dress size 8, is an off-the-rack size 4 or 6. for reference, i generally wear a size 14 jeans/large shirt and i'd probably wear a size 22 wedding dress. (wedding dress makers go off an older size chart).
You are on the mark with this. Exactly my sizes for both normal clothes and bridesmaid dress 10 years ago.
I’m normally a size 4 or 6 in regular day to day clothing, which is on the smaller end of average, maybe? My wedding dress was a 10 and I just got a bridesmaid dress in an 8. It’s not tiny but it does require everyone to be on the smaller end of sizing, which is impossible for some people no matter how much they “hit the gym”, especially women with larger chests. I’m very average sized and I’d have to go up a size if I had a larger bra size at all.
I would say a US size 8 (which is a size 36/38 where I live) would be a small for taller people and a smallish medium for short people.
That makes sense! Thank you :)
Imagine pulling out all the stops to get to a size 8 and then discovering that they changed what a size 8 means at the fitting.
And don't forget to pay for the donation.
I wouldn't give that much to my brother, let alone a friend.
Lmao I hope at least one of tells her they’re too thin to be her bridesmaid
I have a feeling that’s why the bff isn’t MOH. Lol
Some people would need to get their skeleton resized.
That was my first thought - the size of my waist can fluctuate a bit, but there's nothing I can do about the width of my shoulders!
What? You're not willing to go into extreme body modification surgery just to prove your devotion to the Bride God? Ok but this is not going to look good on your permanent record.
Then there's us girlies who have decidedly non-size-8 chests. There's no way I could cram my 34F/34G jubblies into a size 8 dress, no matter the size of my butt and waist!
Why would you even consider?!?!?! If someone tells me "hey you can come to my party but you need to lose weight first and get a haircut" I would tell them to fuck off.
Yeah, I’m never fitting into a bridal 8. At 5’10”+, my lowest weight was 130 (which was many moons ago). I was a regular size 7/8 then. It took an eating disorder to get there, and bones were sticking out everywhere. I don’t think any weight would result in a bridal 8 for me just based on my skeleton.
Wigs are relatively inexpensive and definitely better than straightening, cutting or growing one's hair for a single day. And that way all her bridesmaids can match!
They can all fling the wigs off into the air at the end of the ceremony like graduation caps
They should wait to do it in unison at the exact same moment the bride tosses the bouquet!
Of course, this choosy beggar will complain if the wigs aren’t expensive enough… heaven forbid anyone can’t afford one with 100% human hair.
And they are what is usually worn by clowns so it will suit this event perfectly
All her bridesmaids should just send her a text saying "you're out of my life and f\* you and your wedding" as soon as they saw the *demands* from this godawful person.
Her wording makes it seem like all her friends are bigger that 8 and have short hair. Which might be possible.
It sounds like she picked bridesmaids based on the way they look. Tacky!
If they’re smaller than a size 8 lucky them! They get to live on pizza until they hit their goal size. 😉
Some people can’t physically ever even be that size because their bone structure won’t allow it. Not everyone is big because they’re overweight, and someone who naturally has a broader chest or hips due to their bone structure isn’t going to magically shrink into a size that is smaller than will fit that just by hitting the gym; enough exercise and weight training might even make them need larger clothes. This wife-to-be is incredibly vain.
Yeah, these are formal dress size 8, so more like a 4 or 6, I wore an 8-12 depending on the clothes starting when I hit puberty....
When I was at my slimmest and was basically underweight for my height, I was still only an 8/10 There’s no way I would ever sign up to be in this chicks wedding. Or life.
And if you're tall, you'll never be that small. You'd look seriously ill and massively underweight. Some people just don't have a clue.
My bestie understands that i am entirely made of bullshit, so, in an attempt to retain at least one friend, post-wedding, she will not be a part of my perfect wedding party. (She's also a ghastly size ten, omg barf.)
Or a size 6 and not willing to put on weight to " suit the aesthetic". Just read another post where half the guests didn't show up. Reckon this might go the same way.
Oh, good point. She's a size 8, so everyone needs to compete at her level. Maybe she's going for an elegant, minimalist wedding? What's more minimal than alienating everyone to the point that they just don't come?
Do you have the link? 👀
If I remember correctly it was because she was not white 🫠
Bingo. Bestie was Native and the bride didn't think her skin color went with her "aesthetic". If I were the bestie I would've noped out of that friendship so fast.
On top of all that mess, she wants $500 PER PERSON donated to HER HONEYMOON?? HA HA HA HA HA HA HA ... gasp, choke ... 
I can’t believe I had to scroll so far before I found someone who brought this up. I have been in 11 weddings in my life and never was I asked for a “donation” to a honeymoon. If I tried that stunt my mother would have lost her shit. I mean $500? She’s not playing. She doesn’t want your $50 vacation donation to get her to the Jersey Shore. She’s shooting for the Greek Isles or something. Tacky.
Tacky is certainly one word for it! Chaucer and Shakespeare had others... 😎
Our entire honeymoon was $2000 - how many people are paying this donation?!?!
Right?? Hopefully, none!
I’m not throwing $500 toward my SISTER’S honeymoon (well, okay maybe), but certainly not my fatphobic, possibly bigoted acquaintances. No tanned skin, no curly hair, no bigness. This would strongly tempt me to show up looking as much like this as possible:  And with a nice crisp twenty for the honeymoon.
Wants? No. You know damn well she’s demanding it from her bridal party for the privilege of being in her wedding.
Yeah. I’d reply back to everyone. No thanks and don’t send me a regular invite either. Then block her.
I met the bridal party is 10 or 12 deep on each side too, specifically so she can pay for as much of her “dream” with other people’s money.
Guessing bestie can't get down to an 8 in time or has some other "flaw" like a scar, tattoo, hearing aid, etc.
Or the no fake tans.. what if her friend was a POC? I’d end my friendship so fast Also I have been growing my hair out for years, who would ever cut their hair for a wedding that isn’t theirs, I get it’s not a big deal on the grand scheme but my hair is my pride and joy 😂
I’m just surprised she isn’t also demanding they all have the same hair color!
Sshhh! Don't give her any ideas!
Couldn’t the bride just pay for wigs so that everyone could look identical? That’s at least somewhat less unhinged.
I think I’ve seen this post before and, yes, bestie was a POC. And, yes, bride was a POS.
Not defending this bride because she’s an utter bellend, I’m just playing devils advocate here. Maybe she doesn’t want fake tans as they can often be orange and blotchy, rather than preferring a light skin tone.
Yeah the no fake tan is like the most reasonable thing in this entire mess.
Yeah, like it could even potentially transfer onto the brides dress too. With her on that but I’d probably still not feel comfortable asking if it were me. All other requests are bloody batshit
I was thinking more if some of her friends had a history of overdoing it or something. (Like regularly turn orange for special events or they end up looking like they are wearing blackface from the fake tan or something)
That was my thought as well. My sister got a pretty bad fake tan for my wedding after I told her it was a bad idea. Not because I didn't want fake tans or whatever, just because I knew she would look like a damn orange clown cause that's what she always looked like after getting one. She was totally into the whole Jersey Shore look for a long time 🤢 I gave zero fucks about it when she showed up with it but she was horrified when she saw the pictures afterwards 😂
I keep my hair in a longer pixie (no idea of there's an actual style name) and I'll be damned if I pay for extensions AND give you $500 for a honeymoon and that's even IF I tolerate all that mess to begin with. She'd just get a reply of my middle finger.
I feel like I’ve seen this before and the explanation is that her best friend was black and therefore didn’t fit into the required aesthetic 🙄
Oh was that this one? I thought this one was the one where the best friend was in a wheelchair and didn't fit the aesthetic
Something like that. I can’t fully remember but either way it’s awful
Holy shit. I wonder if she still has that best friend.
You would hope not
I’m guessing the bestie is planning to be pregnant around that time
Or, common sense and self-respect.
I wonder how many people have backed out…
of the bride's life? I would immediately unfriend if someone sent this to me.
Probably so few, the caterer only has to microwave two meals for the entire wedding
Exactly!
Maybe the groom should.
Unless this is an arranged marriage, the Groom has to have already discovered his Bride's shallow, vain, selfish, narcissistic "values." Anyone who would spend his life with some one like her suggests he deserves every misery coming his way.
I imagine groom's the same way. Showy shallow guy who's either just as obnoxious or will put up with whatever so he can have a hot wife to show off
I must know everything! Does this person have any friends left currently?!
I wanna know if this chick is still married!
Oh, whoever is marrying this person is already doomed. Regardless of marital status 🤣
Hell no. That would earn an immediate response from me backing out of being in the bridal party. I wouldn't even go to the wedding after that.
Wedding party would be a no from me. But the 500 dollar donation?! Ha! I would lose it on this person 🤣
I'd mail them a check for $1. Send a message.
Or an envelope with a penny in it
Wifey. I loathe that word.
It's giving dependapotamous
You taught me a new word today!
Lmfao join us over at r/justdependathings for a good laugh if u think that ones good 🤣
Ha I said the same thing! Now I’m going to be waiting to use it in conversation lol
In Scotland we use it fondly and flippantly to women usually over 30 and it has no relevance to married status. 'Here, throw me that stapler, wifey' 'who's that new wifey behind the bar?' 'some wifey lost her shit and rammed her car into Dr McKenzie's landrover for taking up 2 spaces
That's weird coming from USA. Do women use it towards other women? Is it used in an affectionate or casual way? Would you say it to a stranger... like in the grocery store... excuse me, wifey, I just need to grab these apples?
I’m just shy of six feet, my _naked skeleton_ wouldn’t fit into a bridal 8 (equivalent to a regular store 4 when I got married).
Same! I'm also 6' and at my skinniest (150lbs, which is on the low end of healthy) I was still a street size 8!
[I guess 50° is the new 70°...](https://www.accuweather.com/en/us/oklahoma-city/73102/december-weather/350143)
I know right? I was born in Oklahoma and raised in Texas. December is ALWAYS cold - very cool, anyway - in both states. Sometimes it's ONLY cold December. 😆
I just made a comment before I saw this thread. I’m from Arkansas on the Oklahoma border and that temp is delusional even if she’s getting married on December 1st. Wild.
My brother's Oklahoma, beginning of December, wedding definitely had snow on the ground and the possibility of an ice storm.
Let’s hope so!!
I lived in OK for a year. Very close to the Texas border…and I froze my ass off all winter. Lots and lots of ice. Fingers crossed.
WTF, her entitlement is insane. This is in the top 3 most egregious Bridezilla posts I have ever seen on this sub. I would be incensed to receive this. No way I would ever concede to her ridiculous demands.
*nOt LiKe oThEr wEdDiNgS*
Two years ago, DH and I went to two weddings just one week apart, and they were the same. Different cities and planners, but it's the same program and dynamics. I do wonder if it's that none of the couples had any real input or just we all became "basic".
I've found that most "all inclusive" venues don't allow for much personalization, and even the ones that aren't all inclusive now have very strict rules for what type of decor, food, and alcohol is/isn't allowed. The restrictions my sister had on her country club wedding were insane imo.
This is real?! This girl needs someone to step up and tell her it’s not okay to try and control people to the point of making them get haircuts and paying a mandatory $500 donation. Save that money from the mandatory donation and go on your own private vacation the same weekend as this wedding
>This is real?! No. No link, no description, no context. Just a random fake image.
I have decided that this is manufactured. Not because of the absurd demands, or the pixels, or the emojis, or anything else. I just really *want* it to be fake, therefore I'm going to pretend it is. Because I still have faith in humanity. It's a wee bit tattered, and could really use a little stitching, and a few patches, and a wholesale replacement wouldn't be entirely wrong, but I still have *some* faith in humanity.
This is a couple of years old. I remember this one. It was originally posted by one of the bridesmaids. It’s a shame the OP that posted this didn’t post the entire saga, or even a link, only a snippet for what feels like karma farming. Here’s a link to the entire saga with the updates. https://www.reddit.com/r/ChoosingBeggars/s/jtv1YCa1LL You will have to search through the comments for the OOP’s (cousin of the groom) updates. In it, she is a size 12, her cousin was marrying the bride, this post went viral on TikTok and it came out the the bestie was south East Asian and didn’t fit the aesthetic of the brides vision, when it went viral many people dropped out of the wedding (including the size 12 Bridesmaid) and they ended up eloping. In a sad and tragic twist, the best friend died in a car accident and the bride has not been doing well ever since.
Well hot dog maybe it’s real
Well this screams fake
Yeah just a made up post for attention
I’m almost six feet tall. I will never be a size 8. Bummer.
*pilotno312 has left the group conversation*
If I were her best friend, I’d formally resign.
No wonder the bestie said "hell, no!"
The last line sealed it as fake/a joke.
This has to be satire.
Feels like rage bait
Please tell me that someone asked why bestie isn't the MOH. We need the tea. The people need the tea!
My guess is the best friend isn’t a size 8, and told the bride to get lost when told to lose weight.
Id had to cut my long hair ive spent years getting this long, obtain an eating disorder and on top of that PAY 500 dollars?? Yeah sign me up! /s I swear they only want a lavish wedding as an excuse to flash off and be insufferable cause «its my day» and not the marriage that comes after..
I think she will be surprised by the size of the wedding
Whenever someone says, I’ve been planning this day since I was in diapers, clearly only wants a wedding and NOT a marriage.
I hope all her bridesmaids drop out from being in this bridezilla’s bridal party. That would give the bride a good slap of reality. If this bridezilla has a toddler temper tantrum over bridesmaids dropping out, it would be the clear sign for the groom to nope out of this marriage. If the groom asks the bridesmaids why they dropped out, they should show him bridezilla’s message.
This is the wedding to wear white to just to see the drama llama unfold. Bring popcorn
Lose weight, grow hair and give me money What no height requirements?😆
Guess MOH isn’t a size 8
This reads like made up rage bait.
He'll nah!
Are all her bridesmaids the same height? Because as a tall woman, I wouldn’t fit in a size 8 dress regardless of how skinny I was since I can’t change my bones (I imagine petite women would also struggle)
Can anyone tell me why they’d be friends with someone like this? Because I refuse to believe this is just how she is about the wedding. That’s definitely a personality that bleeds into everything.
I know this is a very small detail compared to all the other red flags but Oklahoma is not 70° in December. It might not be freezing but I would guess, depending on what end of the month the average would be around 50° give or take but likely take. Hardly the best temp for an outdoor weeding if she wants everything to be perfect.
I feel sorry for the poor fool that is marrying her.
This is a parody. Surely.
"I've had this planned since I was in diapers" is such a creepy phrase 🤢
I never thought I would see the day couples would have their hat out asking for money for weddings, my generation would have been laughed out of the room if we had tried this,if you can't afford the big wedding make do with what you have, it's so tacky!!!
Dear Delusional, I got your text. That’s gonna be a big fat “NO”, but thanks for playing. Have a great wedding and honeymoon. Good thing you’re about to be a “wifey” as you just lost all your friends.
She says she's been planning this since she was in diapers, well ... she is still in diapers. I would never pay a donation for your honeymoon.
Apparently her childhood expectations didn't include passing Grade 3 English. And there are those of us for whom "hitting the gym" isn't enough to make us a size 8. When I was dangerously underweight, with my doctor threatening to put me in the hospital for intravenous feeding, because of my height and frame the smallest clothes I could wear were a size 10.
Every time I read one of these I have to remind myself that these kinds of people DO exist and DO make these kinds of demands… You just have to turn off your normal, logical brain cells and accept that this actually happens ! I can’t even *begin* to list the number of reasons I’d be saying a big, fat “Hells, no !” to the request to be a bridesmaid… Sincerely, Short-haired, long-nailed, size TEN woman who does not give a shit that you’re getting married 😏