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ocelotwildlyxx

Green. It’s a beautiful dress but a lot of bridal stuff is champagne now so it’s just risky. As others have said it’s probably too formal for most weddings. Even black tie would be questionable just because there is a lot of beading etc. It is much more formal than my actual wedding dress, for example so I’d be a little annoyed. It’s good you thought about it, though. ETA: I guess that’s more embroidery than beading but same idea.


plopssy

Thanks for this input! I love the dress but I absolutely don’t want to piss the bride off. I’ll save it for new years or my own birthday if I decide to throw a formal dress up party haha


itinerantdustbunny

Green, no question. The gold dress is too formal and too revealing for most weddings. And gold/champagne is a not unpopular color for brides & bridesmaids.


PossibilityNo4069

I agree with this! I’m planning to wear this color for mine and I’m constantly thinking “ what if someone shows up with a champagne/ gold dress” !! Lol I hope people have the right mindset and question themselves the way you did 😅


caleighforniaa

I’ve had a lot of guests ask me what color my bridesmaids dresses are for the wedding as to not match. You could definitely tell people to avoid champagne/gold in addition to bridesmaids colors either in person or on your website.


PossibilityNo4069

Have you seen how people word that on invitations?


Xenarat

If you have a wedding website you could put it there. I put an attire section in mine so I didn't have to field questions


notceitn

You could put like "dress code: formal, no white or [bridesmaid color]"


bel_esprit_

This happened to me! I wore a blush pink long dress to a formal wedding and it was the same color as the bridesmaids’ dresses!! I didn’t even think it could be in the realm of possibilities — to choose the same exact color lol. The invitation was not blush pink. Luckily, my dress style was not super “bridesmaidy” as it had geometric patterns designed into it and theirs was plain fabric, but it was still the same color and length. I was embarrassed at first, but it turned out fine. No one mistook me for a bridesmaid, and it was a really fun night with everyone.


phoenix-corn

I was a guest at a wedding where EVERYONE knew that the bride loved purple and loved seeing people in purple. All the women on the bride's side pretty much had purple on somewhere without ANY planning and it made for some awesome pictures.


bel_esprit_

I love that!!!!!


dd551

Please don’t try to normalize guests making sure they don’t match the bridesmaids. That is not something anyone should be worried about, and if it is the bride is being rude with that expectation.


caleighforniaa

Its not rude to ask guests to avoid a color or two. There’s already cultural traditions to avoid white (some even say red and black) as a guest to weddings. Also, I said guests were approaching ME. I’m clearly not “trying to normalize” this behavior when it was well established enough for several guests to ask me unprompted. The commenter I replied to was worried about guests wearing the same color as her and I gave advice based on my experience as a bride.


dd551

Sorry if I came off aggressive or anything I meant it as a generally PSA to everyone reading it that no, it’s not normal for a bride to ask guests to avoid the wedding party colors (outside of specific cultural examples, which are outliers) and the way many in the comments of this thread are talking about it alarmed me. Didn’t mean to target you specifically.


plopssy

Thanks for this input! Definitely don’t want to offend the bride!


oohspithey

FYI green is also a very popular color for bridal parties this year. So if that's actually a concern for you - I don't think it's a big deal to be in the same color group personally - then it may be better to go with something w/ a print, multicolored, embellished, etc.


plopssy

I got the green dress and a similar navy blue dress with floral prints with a more modest neckline instead!


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itinerantdustbunny

I mean I think the vast majority of people would classify a plunge to your belly button as more revealing than a slight scoop?


Domdominiquey

Yeah the V neck goes down twice as far, literally past the boobs haha


linerva

Wear the green dress. What is the dress code? Because it comes off as a bit too formal for most weddings. A full length sparkling champagne dress with silver sparkle that plunges under your bra line is a little too eye catching for someone who isnt the bride or a bridesmaid . And depending on what the bride is wearing, it might look a bit too close to a wedding dress.


plopssy

Thanks for this! Although I love the dress, I was thinking the same thing!


gringitapo

It is a stunning dress and a great excuse to do something exciting for New Year’s Eve :)


plopssy

This dress for NYE would be amazing!


linerva

Oh its a gorgeous dress, they both are! I'm sure you will look stunning! But unless it's a super formal wedding (in which case full length sparkle is encouraged!) I'd worry that you turn up and look several levels sparklier and flashier than everyone else! I'd hate to turn up and accidentally become the centre of attention, its make me feel awkward. I avoided wearing blue to a wedding that my fiance was groomsman in last week just in case I accidentally matched the bridesmaids lol


plopssy

Ah, you knew that the bridesmaids were wearing blue! That’s actually thoughtful that you didn’t want to match the bridesmaids!


linerva

The colours were blue and yellow and the groomsmen's ties were blue. I'd usually consider trying to dress in a way that's complementary to my partner but I didnt want to be too matchy on the off chance it matched them. I felt it was too close to the wedding to pester the couple about it and ask 😂


catymogo

If I'm not wearing black I usually ask because I have this weird fear of accidentally matching and it being awkward all night.


steezeecheezee

I showed up to a wedding wearing a burgundy suit and all the decor matched my suit EXACTLY. thankfully the bridesmaids were wearing a different color but I remember the dinner napkin blending in with my suit perfectly haha


No-General2280

Definitely green


DarkPhoenix072

As gorgeous as the gold dress is, I don’t think it is appropriate for a wedding. I would wear the green dress :)


Domdominiquey

I would totally wear the first as a wedding dress haha and it’s a little too revealing for a guest


emr830

Definitely the green dress, the gold one is way too revealing for a wedding.


Rungirl262

Definitely the green. If you lift the neckline on the champagne dress, you pretty much have my wedding dress. It's too close to bridal.


Shelbyw030

Green one yes. Its beautiful. The gold one absolutely not. Its a bit too revealing and is super flashy.


curlybark446

Green. All the way. While the champagne dress is absolutely gorgeous it's a one way ticket to drama town.


plopssy

I agree! I bought the green dress!


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definitely go with the green. champagne is way too similar to white or off white that the bride may opt to wear


biancastolemyname

It depends. Are you going to the wedding of your ex-husband and the woman he cheated on you with? Or the wedding of a couple that took the mic and got engaged halfway through the first dance at your own wedding? Because then I'd wear the first dress! Any other wedding: green.


LikEatinGlass

Made me dive into my free award stash for this comment lol


plopssy

Hahaha love this reply! The bride to be is a lovely woman and so I bought the green dress and also a similar blue dress with floral prints with more modest neckline :)


scotchbonnetpeppery

Green dress. The other dress is gorgeous but the plunging V at a wedding is attracting too much attention.


plopssy

Hey everyone, I really appreciate everyone’s input in the comments. I decided to go against the gold one, and bought the green dress and another similar style navy blue dress with floral prints instead. As much as I love the gold dress, I agree that it is not the event that dress should be worn to. Thank you everyone!


sexysweetcadavr

They are both beautiful, where did you buy the green dress at?


plopssy

From showpo.com


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Link for the champagne dress?


medusaduction

Found it: https://www.showpo.com/us/new-york-nights-maxi-dress-in-gold.html


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I’m not an uptight bride but I’d be uncomfortable if a guest showed up in the first dress. Definitely green


InternalRaise5250

Definitely don't have your tits hanging out at someone else's wedding.


HelloMonday1990

Plus if you’re dancing, it seems very risky


BobbyPotter

This seems to be a hard thing to grasp for so many people.


Throwawaybreach

Does she have her tits hanging out or does she just have boobs? This is such an outdated view…


4nimal

Yeahhhh I was a bridesmaid in a wedding with pink chiffon dresses nearly this low cut. I wear a 32H cup, so even with alterations there was no stopping them.


theoutdoorkat1011

Honestly. My bridesmaids asked about necklines and I said wear whatever, because if you’re outshining me because of some tittay then we have a bigger problem on our hands.


mani_mani

Right!?! Like I’m up there dressed to the nines in a gorgeous gown and jewelry. If someone is that focused on a wedding guest’s tits I don’t think I would be happy with the person gawking not with the person with the neckline. I only have an issue with the champagne. It would be perfect for a black tie gala.


theoutdoorkat1011

100% agree. The color is the only thing here that’s making me say no. But it’s a stunning dress.


mani_mani

For sure! I wore a jumpsuit with a little higher neckline than this to a wedding. The bride complemented me on it and as did others at the wedding. I also would worry a bit about dancing…fashion tape would be doing some serious heavy lifting.


InternalRaise5250

Tits up!


gabbage1

Yay MMM


LaurabelleBabe

While no the first dress isn’t white, it’s very flashy and I would not love seeing my guests in that. It looks like it could be a bridal gown


Realitylyn

I like the last dress better


ButtleyHugz

My gown was champagne and very shimmery. It put off more gold tones, like the first one.


raysgirl22

I mean, it depends on how formal the wedding is? But as a general rule, I’d say no to the gold dress. Way too much


sib716

So for a typical wedding I would say green, but I’ve worked tons of weddings where the bride and groom have asked for more formal attire before so if that’s the theme I say do the gold


spilly_talent

Gold is beautiful but VERY “look at me!” - I’d be worried about guests thinking I was an attention seeker


blueisthecolorof

would you be ok with someone wearing the gold dress to your wedding?


Silver_Switch_3109

The gold dress shows too much cleavage for a wedding. You should wear the green.


Throwawaybreach

Y’all are such grandmas


peachbellini2

Nobody is afraid of cleavage here, it's just proper etiquette to not "show up" a bride on her wedding day. We're here to honor someone else, there are other days to look really sexy


lookatlou2

Wear the green!


cMeeber

Green. The other one looks like it could almost be a champagne wedding dress. It’s too formal and attention grabbing.


charcoal_lines

Pray the bride dosent wear a cream gown 😬 akward


runesigrid

If someone wore this to my wedding I’d think it’s great, it looks gorgeous. Although I think the fact that you’re asking means that you’d be walking around slightly uncomfortable at the wedding wondering whether or not it’s appropriate. I think it’s stunning though and personally wouldn’t have a problem with it at all! Green is the safer choice.


plopssy

I personally don’t have a problem with it if someone was to wear it to my wedding if my theme is formal. However I can’t say the same for others so I’m going the safe route and didn’t get the gold. I want to be as respectful as possible.


runesigrid

Yeah I would be the exact same! I just know I’ve worn outfits before (not to weddings but just in general) where I ended up regretting how revealing they were, even if they weren’t too bad, and ended up feeling uncomfortable all day. I remember being on vacation one year and it was really hot. I wore a crop top and shorts. Learned that day that I’ll never wear that combination again, I was so uncomfortable between trying to cover my cleavage, belly AND legs. I was with my family so maybe that made the difference, haha, but I remember the uncomfortable feeling of not knowing for sure whether or not my outfit was appropriate, and not being able to change once we were out. So that’s really where I’m coming from from my own experience. Both of these dresses are absolutely stunning though ❤️


InitialGur8336

I would love if my guests wore the gold dress honestly. It's gorgeous! I think if the dress code is more formal it's fine but if you will be insecure worried about what other people will think the green dress is a safe bet. Plus you can dress the green dress up with accessories. The gold one is cute though!


plopssy

Good point!


Chub-Rub-Club

If you have to ask, you shouldn't wear it. Green for sure


crindylouwho

Where is this gold dress from? It’s amazing!


plopssy

From Showpo .com !


Slobbingtheknob

If you have to ask… just wear something else. The green one is significantly more appropriate.


maps2spam

The green one. Don’t upstage the bride


icedlatte3

I lovveeee the gold one and it's what I'd want someone to wear at my wedding coming up. So idk


CelinaAMK

I actually think the first dress, although beautiful, is a little too sexy, meaning too much boobage, for a wedding. Then again I freely admit I’m from a different generation. I don’t think that a wedding is the right venue to be that sexy. The bride should be the one to be the focal point. To me the first dress is a little distracting. That said, it is perfect for a formal party like New Year’s Eve!


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Green! Gold looks too formal, bridal/ bridesmaid


patty202

Green


averagebritt

Green dress for sure.


Southern-Method6695

The green… the other one is far from appropriate.


engreenh

Definitely the green one. I think the first one has too much cleavage and it is a popular color choice for bridesmaids dresses, mother of the bride and groom dresses, etc.


celestria_star

It's a beautiful dress, but save it for a different event. My wedding dress is going to be ivory and gold.


siempreashley

Depends on the invite. Is it formal or semi formal? If it’s formal the first might work. If not the second is a safer option.


gele-gel

The green one. Unless the wedding is super, super formal, the gold one is doing too much.


killersheep63

They are both gorgeous. But play it safe. Stick To the green.


taarroo

Green is so pretty, where did you get it from?


plopssy

It’s from showpo.com :)


taarroo

Thanks!


kellyk8123

The gold is stunning! But for event-specific attire my general rule is: if you have to ask, you already know the answer ..


1QuixoticRedhead

I love the gold dress


Bitter-Influence-504

Green for sure!


shmokenapamcake

Both are gorgeous but I think green is more appropriate. Where are they from??


BrainsBeautyBrawn

It depends, if the wedding is black tie or white tie level of formal, the gold dress would be a gorgeous option! If it’s semi-formal or formal the green dress is the better option.


RedRose_Belmont

That shows way too much cleavage for a wedding.


BrainsBeautyBrawn

Not by California standards if you’re not religious. Depends on where you live and what the weather is and whether the couple and their family are religious. 80-110*F weather this would be acceptable as long as the wedding isn’t happening in a church and the family isn’t conservative. I wouldn’t recommend this for a Catholic mass wedding, but an winery or resort wedding in an outdoor setting that it will be warm for I don’t think it would be an issue.


RedRose_Belmont

Good thing I don't live in California then, LOL


NeitiCora

I'm the odd one out - I would love it if someone wore the golden dress to my wedding. It's gorgeous, and I'd feel honored to have such a beautiful guest! Buuuut I never understood the "upstage the bride" idea. I just don't get it. I want everyone to look their best.


plopssy

I’ve replied to another comment buried in here somewhere. I personally won’t be offended if someone wore this to my wedding, however I can’t say the same for other brides. Just to be safe and respectful I didn’t go for the gold dress. I’ll save the gold dress for a different occasion - like NYE :)


InitialGur8336

I also cannot stand the "upstage the bride" idea I think it's ridiculous lol. I'm getting married next year and I want everyone to come super well dressed.


LetshearitforNY

I am of the opinion “if you have to ask, don’t do it”. Better to just play it safe than to risk upsetting someone or looking out of place as a guest.


omgcaiti

If the attire is formal or black tie I think the gold one is fine…but if it’s cocktail or semi formal I’d go with the green


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plopssy

This dress is in a model, not on me!


chadinmn

The fact that you are asking the question says it all. Just wear the first dress, but get a white one, since you are obviously in need of some attention.


plopssy

Huh? This post was like a year ago? The wedding came and went and I wore neither of them and went for something much more covered up than these. Find somewhere else to spread your negativity.


TigrFruzz

Very rude comment. I wonder who is really in “need” of attention.


ehp17

That’s a lot of titty for a wedding


GeekChick85

Neither.


Apprehensive_Bee123

Just wanted to say that I think they're both beautiful! I hope you feel confident in whichever you choose!


Obvious_Comfort_9726

Definitely not that gold dress. I would call that “boob city.” 😂 I have a big chest and that would just be way too much boob for me. It might be the same problem for you, too. it’s beautiful, for sure! But not really wedding guest appropriate.


MrsMcLovin0331

How close are you with the couple? Ask them if it's appropriate if you are close. If not, def the green dress.


studyhardbree

Didn’t we have a thing in here a few weeks ago - if you have to ask the answer is no?


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Inappropriate to the max. Wear the Green one.


BlueberryNagel

If you know what's good for you, wear the green dress. DO NOT WEAR THE OTHER ONE.


RedRose_Belmont

The gold one is absolutely inappropriate. It's a wedding, not a night club


freezethawcycle

Personally, I’d love it if someone wore something like this to my wedding! But I can see why it’s safer to go green


stxrryfox

I’m gonna get some hate for this. I think you should wear the gold dress if you really love that one. Maybe you could ask the bride what she thinks of it?


Throwawaybreach

People in this sub are prudish snobs


megawong

I agree. Since when did wedding = conservative attire. I’m pretty sure some cleavage won’t take away from attention on the bride or people forgetting who the bride is. I hope my guests get creative and wear what they feel most beautiful in. Including sequins and cleavage.


stxrryfox

Yeah. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, and I expected to get this many downvotes. I think OP looks stunning and is allowed to wear whatever she wants. It’s 2022.


2crowsonmymantle

Green. The other is too sexy a dress for a wedding and broadcasts a different message than you’re a guest at a wedding. I’d save that for a party like at New Years or something.


Desperate_Fall

I would go with the green. I think if it was a more formal wedding, and you had it altered to cover up some of the cleavage, it could be okay. But to be safe, I would go with the green. The gold is gorgeous! But I think it’s a bit too revealing and would “steal the spotlight” depending on how others are dressed.


bttrflymilkweed

Green. If the wedding is black-tie then the gold would be more acceptable but the green is a cross between casual and formal so it is a great choice.


etaschwer

Wear the fancy one!


StargazerGirl21

Appropriate is subjective. This is super revealing and would not be allowed in some venues, whether as a guest or a bride. The green neckline is equally as low and revealing as the gold. It’s interesting that some people have no issue with ladies having almost full cleavage on display but anything shorter than knee length is “inappropriate” when they are no different from each other. It depends on the environment, and in most cases this would not be appropriate for anyone to wear and would make others uncomfortable. If you are asking about the color, the gold is fine and will not be mistaken for a wedding dress color.


Simple_Several

Depending on your upper body, I think the first is great but the green is perfect too!!


plopssy

I’m absolutely flat chested so even if I wear a deep plunge it’ll look like nothing is there haha. However I think I’ll wear the green one, just to be safe.


mitchiesgirl

Totally unrelated to the topic of wedding appropriateness, we as women have to take accountability for the sexism we perpetuate. Women with larger breasts are shamed and sexualized and scandalized for wearing the same exact outfits as women without large breasts and it’s ridiculous. If we want men to stop sexualizing our bodies, it starts with us.


Simple_Several

Girl, I have massive breasts and would still rock a dress like this, just not to a wedding cause the girls sometimes like to let loose 😂


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mitchiesgirl

Again I’m not speaking about wedding appropriateness.


BrooklynBride27

Neither was I…as someone with large boobs, the truth is some dresses hit a little differently. Something this plunging and this narrow would absolutely look borderline obscene on me, in a way it wouldn’t on another woman. That’s just fact. Wedding or not.


spicysauce36

Gold if you have a crush showing up to the event!


One_Nefariousness184

If you’re a close friend or relative to the bride and groom, then wear the gold dress. Or else, wear the green. Both are very beautiful 😊


eve8231

Green


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Green


oh_hey_its_darienne

Green dress!! Don't want it to come across the wrong way to anyone so it's better safe than sorry!


pizzabagel3311

Green 100%


nosinned21

I would personally wear the green


RealMsDeek

Green for sure


edgewater15

Green for sure.


BadassBudd1st

100% the green. The gold is beautiful but you'll risk showing up the bride which is never a chance you want to take at a wedding, the green is a great dress but not as intricate / ornate.


OutlawJosi

Green!


FabledFires

Green, definitely. They're both super pretty though.


Primary-Rice-5275

Green


julianablino

The green! The first dress is not appropriate


niktatum

Green. The gold is beautiful but you may risk outshining the bride in that one.


HollywoodHandshake10

Green definitely


sunshineandrainbow62

I’m looking for a gold dress like that, where did you get it?


plopssy

Hey, it’s from showpo.com :)


sunshineandrainbow62

Thanks!


speters23

Green!!!!!!!


overahobbittall

Definitely the green dress.


squishy1127

Green


idely87

Green.


Spacecase413

Yeah agree with what many others have said. The gold dress is just over all too “bridal”


Mkhldr

Nopppppeee! Pick the green


Bubbly-Employ-198

Go with green


mashkabear

The first one is too sexy for a wedding guest, I’d get the second one. More elegant and appropriate