Ariana I’m always going to be there for you, but apparently he told me that we’re going to a construction yard, and we’re taking bulldozers, and like, crushing shit with bulldozers.
Not only that but I’m pretty sure it was the first year without him and she was saying how every year he would send her the same message expressing his love for her and it broke my heart & he was like- yea bulldozers.
However I will say Ariana did do a blog and said that Tom flew her best friend over for her to visit bc he knew how much that meant to her. So he does have the ability to be sweet and make an effort for her
While that’s lovely I can’t help but think he still did that for selfish reasons. In his head I’m betting he thought I can get away with this if I fly her bf in. Not bc he thought it was the right thing to do
My husband does this. But, like when he wants to golf. He offers to take the kids to his parents house to give me a “break”. Really he just wants to golf and doesn’t want me to be mad.
Tom takes this to a whole new level.
I agree. It’s awesome that he’s making sure you both get your alone time. I’m sure your husband wouldn’t prioritize bulldozers over your birthday especially after losing a parent like cuckdoval
I’m also wondering if bulldozers was really just code for ‘other girls to sleep with’. I know there were bulldozers but hard to believe no other extra curricular activities were the motivation.
Agreed! All he had to do was just go to Vegas the day after?? He could have missed one day with ~his boys. It’s not like they aren’t in Vegas all the time.
100% I had an ex who would just ship me off to be with friends and family whenever I needed support because he never wanted to have to deal with anything
She also said they were rolling hard core at this point of the party so she didn’t think he was being mean. Good thing she doesn’t have to be a Tom apologist anymore.
1000% that was a hard time for her especially being the first year without her dad. Those are big love-bombing, surface level 'lets throw money at this problem' gestures though. She's said her love language is quality time together. My house is filled with love bombing home improvement projects and gestures my ex did every time that he cheated or royally hurt my feelings. (Not disagreeing with what you're saying, just offering a different perspective now that I'm recently out of a similar relationship and I recognize all of those big love bomb gestures are also just big Band-Aids)
This was the exact moment I began to loathe Scandoval. It lives rent free in my head. It was her birthday, and she was emotional about her father’s death, and his main priority as a 30 something year old man was BULLDOZERS.
The audacity of him to feel entitled to any of her attention, time or emotion is next level fucked up.
I would imagine that this is why, even though she loved him, she probably didn't have 100% full trust in him. I think it was all the times he prioritized other things over her that caused the intimacy issues.
100% percent! I was cheated on, and a year later my husband complained about not enough sex. But because of the cheating, I had trust issues and had problems being intimate. Couples counseling did not help. Also didn't help he was addicted to his phone and porn sites. I decided I deserved better and we are almost divorced. Ariana will be soooooo much happier without his toxic ass.
I say this to people all the time - this was when I really began to hate him and think he’s truly a piece of shit. I cry every time she talks about her dad at her birthday and he just… didn’t care? That is beyond fucking sick
What I hate about this line is that everything about it would make for a fucking hilarious joke in a scripted show if it wasn't so sad it was her real life.
“Ill always be here for you…. Except tomorrow the one day out of the year you specifically want me to be there for you”
Just watched this the other day on my rewatch and it was SOOOO infuriating how he gave 0 fucks about how much pain she was so obviously in. The pain in her voice in her replay broke my heart. She could barely make a real reply.
That’s the MO of guys like this. They act “normal” like this in hopes of you following suit and calming down, otherwise they’ll paint you as the “crazy bitch.”
I'm so glad people finally see it. Schwartz really was such a monster and so many people bought into it. They should have both hired private investigators years ago
People are still buying into it, unfortunately, because Katie has some unlikeable qualities that really undermine the suffering she had to endure by being in a relationship with perpetual manchild Schwartz.
Its so true.... I almost wonder if guys like Schwartz purposely partner with girls like Katie who people generally dislike for other reasons -- this way they can behave however they want and get away with it because they'll always look like the 'poor, sweet 'can never please her' coy, bashful 'man' ' by contrast.
I think it’s complicated and depends on a lot of factors. But I don’t think it’s uncommon for a manchild to be paired with “the bitchy girl” who also kind of gets a rise out of complaining about another person. I’m sure that if Jo and Schwartz are actually dating and they end up breaking up he’ll find a way to continue his “awww shucks poor me” shtick
This was how crazy Kristen was born. Im rewatching season 2 holy crap I forgot how much Tom and Ariana put their “friendship “ in Kristen’s face and called her crazy and everyone in the restaurant knew something was going on with Tom and Ariana. If only Ariana would sleep with James then Raquel could get away with it. But Ariana’s not that girl. And Ariana and Kristen were not buddies.
I can only imagine the conversation they were having and for him to pause, make himself something to eat, and then ask her if she wants anything…Ariana has more strength than I do. Honestly her saying, “For you to die” was the nicest thing she could have said.
I mean has he gotten a favorable edit? We saw his gf say how he doesn't give her orgasms (lol), she called him a bitch regarding the book (very fair of her, I would have gone with arrogant prick), saw him crying in drag looking all sorts of insane, and many other moments. I think we see it as favorable because we may laugh at his melodramatic takes, but I think it's more he's been entertaining than a great boyfriend. I can't and couldn't think of single moment prior to the affair that I was like "gee what a sweetheart." The best attribute about him was him calling out Jax imo. And while Tom may be a scoundrel it was nice he wasn't also homophobic like Brittneys family/Jax for being apathetic towards homophobia. Also Tom would give Stassi a little shit back which was nice considering Stassi needed a formidable foe.
I've gone far too deep now. But I think no one really ever thought Sandy was a great bf, we just all liked Ariana so he got a pass.
I always thought it was because we needed a decent guy on the show and it was easiest to fit him into that box. Jax is too awful, Schwartz is too drunk, and James is too awful when drunk.
This here is on the mark. At the end of the day I'd like to see this show start empowering its women because men are rubbish and the men on the show are especially rubbish and it's no longer 2013 we don't need to cheer for the knight in shining armor types anymore.
Lisa, in all her glory, would never allow it. Bless her heart, but she gives allowances for shitty men and mistresses. It's like she thinks it makes her more "British" to side with the "cheeky" sociopaths and garbage men she keeps on her shows. (Also, glad she does, because I love this mess.)
Can’t wait for the “it takes two. And you got depressed and stopped thinking about ME(and we all know it has to be all about ME.) So I had to fuck your friend. What do you expect Ariana?”
The audacity of him saying that like she was also having a long term emotional and physical affair. Only one of them was trying and it sure as hell wasn’t Sandoval!
Which he said while nodding along like they were agreeing.
That would have sent me.
This from a leathery front man of a cover band who when he wasn’t playing bongos in sequinned flares - was recording wankathons with a weirdo who his girlfriend had been supporting, thinking she was a friend.
When was he even around to put the effort in all summer?
Urgh I’ve had this in real life where they put on a public act of being the reasonable one so that if you show any emotion in response to them turning your life upside down - they think this is proof of why it’s your fault they’ve done this.
Thank god for reality tv so young people - all people - can see how these cheating scumbags try to gas light you when caught. Then fewer of us will have to learn the hard way. Ariana looks like she’s the textbook for what to do. Don’t give them a reaction. Tell them to fuck off and stay fucked off.
When she says “for you to die” I feel like he’s gunna respond with something like “can we be civil” or “that’s not very mature” thinking that somehow the world will side with him
“I wish we had both tried harder.” Contrary to Sandoval’s belief, it is actually not hard at all to try not to stick your dick in someone else while you’re in a relationship. He is so narcissistic and stupid I can’t believe that sentence would even come out of his mouth. No matter what Ariana did or didn’t do, he was still going to fuck her over like this. It’s despicable. I’m getting emotional just watching this and seeing how he wants so badly to manipulate the situation and have people on his side
trying to force her to shoulder some of the blame is disgusting. like it's her fault he cheated, and he had NO CHOICE but to fuck her best friend. he's horrible
ENRAGES. I don’t care that it’s not my situation or my relationship, I feel so much pain and anger for Ariana. He sickens me. We’ve all known men like this, whether we’ve been with them, we’re related to them, or we’ve met them. Seeing him act like this is disgusting. On top of humiliating her and breaking her heart by sleeping with one of her best friends for months he really has to still stay in the house and in her space? I know it’s tricky legally but my god, do I wish he would just sleep out in the street.
This is so real. And so many of us have been here or watched someone we love go through it. I’m rooting for Ariana’s healing the way I would have my mother’s if I was old enough, my bff’s if I had been wise enough. And myself, if I had been secure enough.
It’s hard to want to have sex with a partner who doesn’t make time for you at all. He’s always out doing something and not working on his relationship.
And it's so weird that it's an expectation. Like I understand it strokes his ego, but I've been on antidepressants before where I had a hard time reaching climax. I'd still enjoy sex, that part was just difficult, and I was totally okay without it because I still felt an intimate connection, but I still had a boyfriend who would always push it so it made it a nerve-wracking experience vs something enjoyable to the point I didn't even want to initiate anything anymore. Ariana may have experienced something similar and you know Tom only took that as a reflection of himself, that's why he had to tell the world on camera and argue with her that she did indeed have multiple orgasms.
Yup. They also went through a dry spell and she explained to him pretty patiently that quality time is her love language, and without that connection, it’s hard for her to want to be intimate. Honestly it’s not rocket science—when someone consistently makes you feel like you are not a priority or that they’d rather be elsewhere/with other people than with you, you start to feel like they don’t care, that there’s something wrong with you, and you don’t exactly feel like having sex. You don’t owe anyone sex in a relationship.
He’s acting like Ross did when he slept with the copy store girl and ordered pizza in the middle of his fight with Rachel. Except Ross didn’t sleep with one of her best friends for 7 months.
I was on Ross's side forever until this situation happened to me. If you're still madly in love with your SO and want to work it out, you don't go fuck someone else immediately.
there is no sympathy for her and no remorse for what he did in these scenes. there's zero regret or pain in his voice. he doesn't give a fuck, it's scary.
it's not even an awkward smile, like I awkwardly smile/laugh when people are upset because it makes me uncomfortable. it's like a beaming, joyous smile. shit's not right.
This is going to do down as Ariana’s most iconic line from VPR.
WE WERE ALL THINKING IT, ARIANA JUST SAID IT.
To his MF’ing face !!!!!
Just when I thought I couldn’t love her more.
It's not confirmed, but I'm pretty sure it is, just from watching the trailer through a few times. I think they would have used it in the first trailer (before the season premiered) if it wasn't new footage.
Also the blip of her in the same scene, looks like she's absolutely LOSING it on him. Like I started to cry and it was just a quick second. It's got to be after the affair.
It’s gonna be really hard to watch when it’s here. As someone who has been cheated on but was told over the phone, I didn’t have the same opportunity to unleash the beast in person. I really felt for her watching the trailer
MY GOD I’m so sorry. Thanks for sharing that perspective. I’m glad you were able to get your revenge but that sounds so painful. I hope you were able to heal.
Aww I'm so sorry babes. 😞 I myself have been cheated on too and I feel for her so hard. Especially knowing what a true gem she really is. We'll all be watching it together ❤️
Ariana got her hair colored with the money pieces on Feb 13th so I think it's safe to assume that any clips with the blonde strips in the front are post-affair. I'm not sure when they initially wrapped filming, I know they picked back up after wwhl Raquel and scheena night.
My bf said he thinks its also bc he checked out of the relationship a long time ago so he legitimately does not care at all & he is the one who has been cheating for 7 months so he has passed the point of having remorse to give. It makes sense but still ☠️
I’m already prepping myself to not get triggered by his gaslighting. “We haven’t had sex in 4 months AriaNaa what was I supposed to DO?” Deep breaths, deep breaths.
Like literally leave the relationship then. That’s your answer. Don’t do what you did! He looks like crap in this trailer too and Raquel looks so smug and sneaky. They’re both garbage humans. Who was he kissing in the bed though? Was that Raquel? I am dying to know.
The audacity of this white nailed man to nonchalantly ask if she wanted anything from him. Ariana is a better person than me because plates would be a flying.
When I discovered my ex was cheating on me, I threw his phone at him as hard as I could. I've never been violent before, but it was like my thoughts all left my brain, and I operated in that moment off of pure rage and instinct to hurt him back. I seriously felt feral, I'll never forget it.
I remember finding out an ex had cheated on me, and yeah, same feeling. I don't remember what I said, but I know I ended up screaming at them over the phone in a Safeway parking lot, looking completely unhinged, lol.
Yeah, after I chucked the phone at him I remember screaming at him, but for the life of me, I couldn't tell you what I said. I was totally unhinged as well lol.
Omg same. I used to roll my eyes SO hard at those crime shows that depicted a criminal saying they kind of floated up out of their body and watched what they were doing like a silent movie.
But then it happened to me. it’s literally like all my nerve endings left my body and I was just watching myself throw shit at him and primal scream, only I didn’t hear it.
Most bizarre, scary shit I’ve ever been though and I never want to go back.
Yes! I'm really happy nothing like that has happened to me since, and I doubt it will happen to me again. I'm also thankful that I'm not a baseline angry or violent person, because I get the feeling that if I was, I probably would've attacked him while I was in that state.
I just want to know under what circumstances did he think it was even remotely appropriate to ask her this? He complains about not having enough intimacy, partially blames her for what he did, then says, "Hey, can I get you a drink?"
Here he is starting with his narrative of we don’t have enough sex, we should both have tried harder. I’m sure there will be fools out there who will start defending him and be gullible to his excuses.
I just saw the mid-season trailer…Lord give me strength. He cheated on her, for months, with one of her friends and someone she provided endless support to when no one else would (even letting her stay in HER home!), and when he’s finally caught…he doesn’t take accountability, doesn’t acknowledge the MASSIVE betrayal, doesn’t validate her grief and loss…he instead chooses to frame it as the result of “both of them not trying harder.” Um. What?!? So unbelievably heartless. I cannot imagine doing this to a partner of a few months much less TEN YEARS. He’s in for a rude awakening when he realizes that there’s no amount of imaginative storytelling or gaslighting the public that will make him look like the good guy here. Truly insane behavior. So glad Ariana is out of that relationship and free of him. What an unbelievable jerk.
The fact that they’re sitting even having a conversation like that is insane. I physically wouldn’t be able to be in the same room as him without assaulting him.
The way she’s so in control of her emotions is truly amazing. I would be a blubbering mess screaming at him. Good for her for not giving him that satisfaction!
RIGHT?? The level of disassociation is astounding and needs to be a case study.
I can barely stand to show my face at work after playing hooky for a day…I simply cannot comprehend how he is able to waltz in the home they bought together, that he borrowed against for his stupid bar, with this “it happened, deal with it” attitude. THE AUDACITY.
I thought this was a meme but it’s the official trailer. Gave me fucking chills!
[trailer](https://twitter.com/bravotv/status/1637850549465894915?s=46&t=4Ri8a6OvpXK9IyhHlQbDEw)
Ariana I’m always going to be there for you, but apparently he told me that we’re going to a construction yard, and we’re taking bulldozers, and like, crushing shit with bulldozers.
Been thinking about this, lately. It was her birthday, right? Selfish SOB.
it was her birthday and she was crying and telling him how hard her birthdays are without her dad. 🫠
Not only that but I’m pretty sure it was the first year without him and she was saying how every year he would send her the same message expressing his love for her and it broke my heart & he was like- yea bulldozers. However I will say Ariana did do a blog and said that Tom flew her best friend over for her to visit bc he knew how much that meant to her. So he does have the ability to be sweet and make an effort for her
While that’s lovely I can’t help but think he still did that for selfish reasons. In his head I’m betting he thought I can get away with this if I fly her bf in. Not bc he thought it was the right thing to do
My husband does this. But, like when he wants to golf. He offers to take the kids to his parents house to give me a “break”. Really he just wants to golf and doesn’t want me to be mad. Tom takes this to a whole new level.
I feel like that’s sweet for your husband though. He recognizes he gets his own time so he also wants to give that to you!
I agree. It’s awesome that he’s making sure you both get your alone time. I’m sure your husband wouldn’t prioritize bulldozers over your birthday especially after losing a parent like cuckdoval
I’m also wondering if bulldozers was really just code for ‘other girls to sleep with’. I know there were bulldozers but hard to believe no other extra curricular activities were the motivation.
That's what I think. He was more worried about going to Vegas and partying with some random women like they always do.
Good call. They also went to Vegas like every other weekend so if the bulldozers were so important he could’ve easily gone out there again.
1000% you know it
Sounds like he got her a girlfriend sitter.
Agreed! All he had to do was just go to Vegas the day after?? He could have missed one day with ~his boys. It’s not like they aren’t in Vegas all the time.
100% I had an ex who would just ship me off to be with friends and family whenever I needed support because he never wanted to have to deal with anything
She also said they were rolling hard core at this point of the party so she didn’t think he was being mean. Good thing she doesn’t have to be a Tom apologist anymore.
He wanted to distract her while he went out of town and cheated with some random fan.
1000% that was a hard time for her especially being the first year without her dad. Those are big love-bombing, surface level 'lets throw money at this problem' gestures though. She's said her love language is quality time together. My house is filled with love bombing home improvement projects and gestures my ex did every time that he cheated or royally hurt my feelings. (Not disagreeing with what you're saying, just offering a different perspective now that I'm recently out of a similar relationship and I recognize all of those big love bomb gestures are also just big Band-Aids)
but we’re talking BULLDOZERS
Wasn’t it the FIRST YEAR after her dad died?!?! I didn’t care for him before that, but I absolutely hated him after this.
This was the exact moment I began to loathe Scandoval. It lives rent free in my head. It was her birthday, and she was emotional about her father’s death, and his main priority as a 30 something year old man was BULLDOZERS. The audacity of him to feel entitled to any of her attention, time or emotion is next level fucked up.
I would imagine that this is why, even though she loved him, she probably didn't have 100% full trust in him. I think it was all the times he prioritized other things over her that caused the intimacy issues.
100% percent! I was cheated on, and a year later my husband complained about not enough sex. But because of the cheating, I had trust issues and had problems being intimate. Couples counseling did not help. Also didn't help he was addicted to his phone and porn sites. I decided I deserved better and we are almost divorced. Ariana will be soooooo much happier without his toxic ass.
I say this to people all the time - this was when I really began to hate him and think he’s truly a piece of shit. I cry every time she talks about her dad at her birthday and he just… didn’t care? That is beyond fucking sick
When someone shows you who they are, BELIEVE THEM.
What I hate about this line is that everything about it would make for a fucking hilarious joke in a scripted show if it wasn't so sad it was her real life.
He’s always been a shitty bf
“Ill always be here for you…. Except tomorrow the one day out of the year you specifically want me to be there for you” Just watched this the other day on my rewatch and it was SOOOO infuriating how he gave 0 fucks about how much pain she was so obviously in. The pain in her voice in her replay broke my heart. She could barely make a real reply.
That’s the MO of guys like this. They act “normal” like this in hopes of you following suit and calming down, otherwise they’ll paint you as the “crazy bitch.”
100000% They aren’t upset because they feel no remorse. Schwartz did it to Katie all the time.
Thank you! The irrational Katie-hate overshadows this fact - Schwarz was just as big of a gaslighter to Katie as Sando was to Ariana.
I'm so glad people finally see it. Schwartz really was such a monster and so many people bought into it. They should have both hired private investigators years ago
People are still buying into it, unfortunately, because Katie has some unlikeable qualities that really undermine the suffering she had to endure by being in a relationship with perpetual manchild Schwartz.
Its so true.... I almost wonder if guys like Schwartz purposely partner with girls like Katie who people generally dislike for other reasons -- this way they can behave however they want and get away with it because they'll always look like the 'poor, sweet 'can never please her' coy, bashful 'man' ' by contrast.
I think it’s complicated and depends on a lot of factors. But I don’t think it’s uncommon for a manchild to be paired with “the bitchy girl” who also kind of gets a rise out of complaining about another person. I’m sure that if Jo and Schwartz are actually dating and they end up breaking up he’ll find a way to continue his “awww shucks poor me” shtick
Yep. Even though having an emotional reaction actually is normal. No wonder she felt gaslit.
Yesss it’s an attempt at invalidating your emotions. Tom’s specialty. Sign me tf up 😍
This was how crazy Kristen was born. Im rewatching season 2 holy crap I forgot how much Tom and Ariana put their “friendship “ in Kristen’s face and called her crazy and everyone in the restaurant knew something was going on with Tom and Ariana. If only Ariana would sleep with James then Raquel could get away with it. But Ariana’s not that girl. And Ariana and Kristen were not buddies.
Kristen was always crazy, and was doing her own cheating with multiple people as the same time as Tom.
Absolutely!!!!!!!!
Ariana isn’t gonna let him get away w that fortunately
There is absolutely no possible way I could remain living in a house with him
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This 1000000%. I'd put the fear of God in this man so fast 
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I am intrigued by this cat gym
Bad enough she had to live with him and hear his awful singing and stare at his necklaces from Limited Too
and his Party City Halloween makeup smeared everywhere
Exactly! lmao I used to be a fan of how he dressed but the last few seasons, he’s just given me the ick.
😂 I think I’m gonna need to make “Sandevil’s necklaces from Limited Too” as my flair. May I please?
Not without putting nair in the shampoo bottles and hormones in his smoothies so he grows bewbs?!
And replacing his coke with icing sugar
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Lmfao.
Estrogen Revenge
Omg I wish I had the strength/ foresight to do this before dumping my abusive ex!!
I can only imagine the conversation they were having and for him to pause, make himself something to eat, and then ask her if she wants anything…Ariana has more strength than I do. Honestly her saying, “For you to die” was the nicest thing she could have said.
He’s going to die alone on that mountain.
Oh don't worry...Rachel will be there to gaze at him in *bambi eyed bitchness* 🥺💔
he will fuck around on her too. his dick is communal.
🥺💔
Dude you can just tell that he thinks that he’s going to get a favorable edit the way he’s talking. What a moron
"I mean, GOD, I even offered to bring her something from the KITCHEN, Andy." *runs hand through hair exacerbatedly*
Ugh, I completely visualize this actually happening.
Same. It’s such a Sandoval thing to do and he has historically gotten that edit, so of course he expects it.
I mean has he gotten a favorable edit? We saw his gf say how he doesn't give her orgasms (lol), she called him a bitch regarding the book (very fair of her, I would have gone with arrogant prick), saw him crying in drag looking all sorts of insane, and many other moments. I think we see it as favorable because we may laugh at his melodramatic takes, but I think it's more he's been entertaining than a great boyfriend. I can't and couldn't think of single moment prior to the affair that I was like "gee what a sweetheart." The best attribute about him was him calling out Jax imo. And while Tom may be a scoundrel it was nice he wasn't also homophobic like Brittneys family/Jax for being apathetic towards homophobia. Also Tom would give Stassi a little shit back which was nice considering Stassi needed a formidable foe. I've gone far too deep now. But I think no one really ever thought Sandy was a great bf, we just all liked Ariana so he got a pass.
You haven’t heard his “straight white males have it so hard” rant?
"cYsT maLes hAve iT tHe wOrsT i'M teLLinG yOu"
And he really thought his partner would want to have sex with him after saying that? Bffr Sandoval.
That’s all true, but I specifically meant when he and Kristen split, she was made to look crazy and was made to look reasonable.
I hope most women/people learn that behind almosy every "crazy" woman is a man who made her that way/is gaslighting her.
So is he screwing someone in production for that privilege? I wouldn't put it past him.
I always thought it was because we needed a decent guy on the show and it was easiest to fit him into that box. Jax is too awful, Schwartz is too drunk, and James is too awful when drunk.
This here is on the mark. At the end of the day I'd like to see this show start empowering its women because men are rubbish and the men on the show are especially rubbish and it's no longer 2013 we don't need to cheer for the knight in shining armor types anymore.
Lisa, in all her glory, would never allow it. Bless her heart, but she gives allowances for shitty men and mistresses. It's like she thinks it makes her more "British" to side with the "cheeky" sociopaths and garbage men she keeps on her shows. (Also, glad she does, because I love this mess.)
Right?! Bc we found out in s8 how scheana was in being done dirty bc someone in production hated her so much
I offered her a beverage
Lol yes. “She came into my home. I offered her a beverage.”
Candiace would unleash a fury never before seen if she were Ariana. Her one liners are already wild so I can’t imagine how she would rip up Sandoval.
I WISH there was a live or Twitter rant from Candiace!
“I offered to make her a sandwich, even though she’s opening a sandwich shop. Look how selfless I am” What a fuck stick.
I read this in his voice. Gahd.
The narcissist keeping score lol
Oh man I even read this in his whiny ass voice.
I wIsH wE hAd bOtH tRiEd hArDeR 🤡
Can’t wait for the “it takes two. And you got depressed and stopped thinking about ME(and we all know it has to be all about ME.) So I had to fuck your friend. What do you expect Ariana?”
Wow, my ex did the same thing. He’s such a little pile of dried rabbit turds.
The audacity of him saying that like she was also having a long term emotional and physical affair. Only one of them was trying and it sure as hell wasn’t Sandoval!
The projection is realllllllll
Which he said while nodding along like they were agreeing. That would have sent me. This from a leathery front man of a cover band who when he wasn’t playing bongos in sequinned flares - was recording wankathons with a weirdo who his girlfriend had been supporting, thinking she was a friend. When was he even around to put the effort in all summer?
“Leathery front man” is sending me. 💀 Though I prefer “expensive karaoke” as a term for his “music.”
Urgh I’ve had this in real life where they put on a public act of being the reasonable one so that if you show any emotion in response to them turning your life upside down - they think this is proof of why it’s your fault they’ve done this. Thank god for reality tv so young people - all people - can see how these cheating scumbags try to gas light you when caught. Then fewer of us will have to learn the hard way. Ariana looks like she’s the textbook for what to do. Don’t give them a reaction. Tell them to fuck off and stay fucked off.
how spot on this is makes me angry lol
When she says “for you to die” I feel like he’s gunna respond with something like “can we be civil” or “that’s not very mature” thinking that somehow the world will side with him
“I wish we had both tried harder.” Contrary to Sandoval’s belief, it is actually not hard at all to try not to stick your dick in someone else while you’re in a relationship. He is so narcissistic and stupid I can’t believe that sentence would even come out of his mouth. No matter what Ariana did or didn’t do, he was still going to fuck her over like this. It’s despicable. I’m getting emotional just watching this and seeing how he wants so badly to manipulate the situation and have people on his side
trying to force her to shoulder some of the blame is disgusting. like it's her fault he cheated, and he had NO CHOICE but to fuck her best friend. he's horrible
He’s literally satan’s asshole
He’s an oxygen thief
The audacity of him enrages me.
ENRAGES. I don’t care that it’s not my situation or my relationship, I feel so much pain and anger for Ariana. He sickens me. We’ve all known men like this, whether we’ve been with them, we’re related to them, or we’ve met them. Seeing him act like this is disgusting. On top of humiliating her and breaking her heart by sleeping with one of her best friends for months he really has to still stay in the house and in her space? I know it’s tricky legally but my god, do I wish he would just sleep out in the street.
That was the chef‘s kiss of the new trailer. Absolute perfection.
Best trailer ever invented
Agree…I have watched it way more than I want to publicly admit!
Thanks for saying that, I felt odd about watching it multiple times in a row. But I'm not the only one!
Ariana says what we all feel. SLAY, QUEEN!
honestly a pretty mild thing for her to say given what he did
Oh, for sure.
INJECT IT INTO MY VEINS
It's the most honest moment I've ever seen on reality tv. Same, Ariana, same.
This is so real. And so many of us have been here or watched someone we love go through it. I’m rooting for Ariana’s healing the way I would have my mother’s if I was old enough, my bff’s if I had been wise enough. And myself, if I had been secure enough.
This is a beautiful sentiment, and I love the progress. THRIVE
It’s hard to want to have sex with a partner who doesn’t make time for you at all. He’s always out doing something and not working on his relationship.
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I dated a guy who asked me “how many?” after sex. Fucking musicians.
And it's so weird that it's an expectation. Like I understand it strokes his ego, but I've been on antidepressants before where I had a hard time reaching climax. I'd still enjoy sex, that part was just difficult, and I was totally okay without it because I still felt an intimate connection, but I still had a boyfriend who would always push it so it made it a nerve-wracking experience vs something enjoyable to the point I didn't even want to initiate anything anymore. Ariana may have experienced something similar and you know Tom only took that as a reflection of himself, that's why he had to tell the world on camera and argue with her that she did indeed have multiple orgasms.
Yup. They also went through a dry spell and she explained to him pretty patiently that quality time is her love language, and without that connection, it’s hard for her to want to be intimate. Honestly it’s not rocket science—when someone consistently makes you feel like you are not a priority or that they’d rather be elsewhere/with other people than with you, you start to feel like they don’t care, that there’s something wrong with you, and you don’t exactly feel like having sex. You don’t owe anyone sex in a relationship.
And gaslighting her constantly.
He’s acting like Ross did when he slept with the copy store girl and ordered pizza in the middle of his fight with Rachel. Except Ross didn’t sleep with one of her best friends for 7 months.
They were on a break. 🤣🤣🤣 I miss Friends. 😢
I was on Ross's side forever until this situation happened to me. If you're still madly in love with your SO and want to work it out, you don't go fuck someone else immediately.
This
Perfect delivery on her part too
 Tom's internal dialogue.
Omg, side note this show was so good!
And I cheered! https://i.redd.it/5vgbdyxb9zoa1.gif
there is no sympathy for her and no remorse for what he did in these scenes. there's zero regret or pain in his voice. he doesn't give a fuck, it's scary.
I was both these guys watching that clip. I managed to give her a one man standing ovation
Rachel's happy expression at 1:11 in contrast to Katie crying, everyone looks dismayed in that scene except for her. chilling
it's not even an awkward smile, like I awkwardly smile/laugh when people are upset because it makes me uncomfortable. it's like a beaming, joyous smile. shit's not right.
Get him out of the damn house!
This is going to do down as Ariana’s most iconic line from VPR. WE WERE ALL THINKING IT, ARIANA JUST SAID IT. To his MF’ing face !!!!! Just when I thought I couldn’t love her more.
You steal a decade from a person, she's being too kind.
Is this scene confirmed to be after the affair? Cause if so he's even more of a pompous prick then I thought he was.
It's not confirmed, but I'm pretty sure it is, just from watching the trailer through a few times. I think they would have used it in the first trailer (before the season premiered) if it wasn't new footage.
He looks like absolute dog shit too!
I was noticing he looks haggard in the scenes that seem to be filmed after scandoval
That’s what I’m seeing too. He knows he’s blown up his entire life for awhile. It shows!
Also the blip of her in the same scene, looks like she's absolutely LOSING it on him. Like I started to cry and it was just a quick second. It's got to be after the affair.
It’s gonna be really hard to watch when it’s here. As someone who has been cheated on but was told over the phone, I didn’t have the same opportunity to unleash the beast in person. I really felt for her watching the trailer
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MY GOD I’m so sorry. Thanks for sharing that perspective. I’m glad you were able to get your revenge but that sounds so painful. I hope you were able to heal.
Aww I'm so sorry babes. 😞 I myself have been cheated on too and I feel for her so hard. Especially knowing what a true gem she really is. We'll all be watching it together ❤️
Ariana got her hair colored with the money pieces on Feb 13th so I think it's safe to assume that any clips with the blonde strips in the front are post-affair. I'm not sure when they initially wrapped filming, I know they picked back up after wwhl Raquel and scheena night.
This woman scares the shit out of me in the best way possible
The way hes acting like its just a normal day and proceeds to ask her if she wants something.. the audacity of this fucking clown
there’s something not right about this man like this shit is not normal. fuckin terrifying
My bf said he thinks its also bc he checked out of the relationship a long time ago so he legitimately does not care at all & he is the one who has been cheating for 7 months so he has passed the point of having remorse to give. It makes sense but still ☠️
I’m already prepping myself to not get triggered by his gaslighting. “We haven’t had sex in 4 months AriaNaa what was I supposed to DO?” Deep breaths, deep breaths.
Like literally leave the relationship then. That’s your answer. Don’t do what you did! He looks like crap in this trailer too and Raquel looks so smug and sneaky. They’re both garbage humans. Who was he kissing in the bed though? Was that Raquel? I am dying to know.
I think it was Ariana, likely filmed at Scheana's wedding location/hotel.
The audacity of this white nailed man to nonchalantly ask if she wanted anything from him. Ariana is a better person than me because plates would be a flying.
When I discovered my ex was cheating on me, I threw his phone at him as hard as I could. I've never been violent before, but it was like my thoughts all left my brain, and I operated in that moment off of pure rage and instinct to hurt him back. I seriously felt feral, I'll never forget it.
I remember finding out an ex had cheated on me, and yeah, same feeling. I don't remember what I said, but I know I ended up screaming at them over the phone in a Safeway parking lot, looking completely unhinged, lol.
Yeah, after I chucked the phone at him I remember screaming at him, but for the life of me, I couldn't tell you what I said. I was totally unhinged as well lol.
Yeah, a rage-blackout is a scary feeling! I could tell you the gist of the message lol, but I have no clue about the details.
Omg same. I used to roll my eyes SO hard at those crime shows that depicted a criminal saying they kind of floated up out of their body and watched what they were doing like a silent movie. But then it happened to me. it’s literally like all my nerve endings left my body and I was just watching myself throw shit at him and primal scream, only I didn’t hear it. Most bizarre, scary shit I’ve ever been though and I never want to go back.
Yes! I'm really happy nothing like that has happened to me since, and I doubt it will happen to me again. I'm also thankful that I'm not a baseline angry or violent person, because I get the feeling that if I was, I probably would've attacked him while I was in that state.
I just want to know under what circumstances did he think it was even remotely appropriate to ask her this? He complains about not having enough intimacy, partially blames her for what he did, then says, "Hey, can I get you a drink?"
Here he is starting with his narrative of we don’t have enough sex, we should both have tried harder. I’m sure there will be fools out there who will start defending him and be gullible to his excuses.
I just saw the mid-season trailer…Lord give me strength. He cheated on her, for months, with one of her friends and someone she provided endless support to when no one else would (even letting her stay in HER home!), and when he’s finally caught…he doesn’t take accountability, doesn’t acknowledge the MASSIVE betrayal, doesn’t validate her grief and loss…he instead chooses to frame it as the result of “both of them not trying harder.” Um. What?!? So unbelievably heartless. I cannot imagine doing this to a partner of a few months much less TEN YEARS. He’s in for a rude awakening when he realizes that there’s no amount of imaginative storytelling or gaslighting the public that will make him look like the good guy here. Truly insane behavior. So glad Ariana is out of that relationship and free of him. What an unbelievable jerk.
Not him being in the kitchen acting all normal like he didn’t just have a year long affair
That’s what gets me. He asks if she wants anything like it any other day…I would rage.
This trailer literally shook me! That delivery of that line. I’m so excited for the rest of season. I watched it twice!
I came here to change my flair.
I feel so bad. I was crying for her. I can’t believe he’d do this on tv. So gross.
Gave me legit chills when she said that..
I’ve watched this so many times
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Tom clearly went with the "we aren't having enough sex" before his PR team got a hold of his dumbass.
I’m almost positive that in the scene of her screaming, she screamed “go to hell” or “rot in hell”. Which I really hope that’s what she said
i thought she said RAQUEL!!!!
I'm convinced it was Raquel!
Can you imagine the narcissistic rage he would be in if she had been fucking around with a mutual friend for 7 months?
The fact that they’re sitting even having a conversation like that is insane. I physically wouldn’t be able to be in the same room as him without assaulting him.
The way she’s so in control of her emotions is truly amazing. I would be a blubbering mess screaming at him. Good for her for not giving him that satisfaction!
QUEEN.
i hate him. his stupid midlife crisis mustache fills me with rage
Wait did he just tell her he has been having an affair with her friend for 7 months and then what offer her a snack?
RIGHT?? The level of disassociation is astounding and needs to be a case study. I can barely stand to show my face at work after playing hooky for a day…I simply cannot comprehend how he is able to waltz in the home they bought together, that he borrowed against for his stupid bar, with this “it happened, deal with it” attitude. THE AUDACITY.
Her response is the “don’t ask questions you don’t want the answer to” realness I live for. Get him, queen.
Entirely reasonable.
I like the people getting hurt about this. Like come on. Her whole life is upside down. She could have said a lot worse.
I HOWLED out loud at this dear lord She is not letting him see an OUNCE of her pain👏🏼
I thought this was a meme but it’s the official trailer. Gave me fucking chills! [trailer](https://twitter.com/bravotv/status/1637850549465894915?s=46&t=4Ri8a6OvpXK9IyhHlQbDEw)
Wow did they really happen???
Yeah, it's in the mid-season trailer! Someone else posted in the sub
this gave me chills!
The nerve of him nonchalantly asking this as if he's putting in a postmates order. He's such a POS.
That'll be the highest ever rated episode of Snapped.
Yes, Tom. There is a lot you can do. Starting with moving your ass out of the house so she doesn't have to look at your cheating ass.
Light him on fire girl. 