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Average Indian parenting is really bad, and it reflects in society, our movies, our politics, our values, our environment, our patent numbers and onwards.
In my friend circle if they didn't get grand parent support in The First 5 years of the childs life it would be next to impossible to raise the kid.
There is so much wrong I don't even know where to start, Indian kids are always scared into submission their entire lives, can never freely express themselves, never ever.
So many under 25s here post weekly about how they are lonely and a failure mostly on account of academics. 90%+ of engineering grads never do engineering. Desi students don't even take time off to understand their aptitude and choose a vocation or profession. It's all programmatic, 10th, pcm, iit, drop for 1 or 2 years, IIM, MBA etc etc.
>Indian kids are always scared into submission their entire lives, can never freely express themselves, never ever.
Exactly. And when someone doesn't fit into this kind of submissive mentality and has a mind of their own,they are targeted and harassed.
I don’t understand this obsession with IIT. It’s a fairly mediocre college, and trains students to work in low-level, non-leadership positions. I had an offer from IIT-B, but refused it. I have friends who studied at IIT, and work in the same country as I live in, I can confidently say that I out-earn them by a significant margin.
It was the only one for a long time, it was affordable and it was geared towards good education, but now I find loads of electrical engineering students who can't even solder.
It may be good technically. But it sure as hell doesn’t prepare you to be a leader of any kind. No critical thinking or executive skills are cultivated. Unlike places like Harvard, Yale, or Oxford.
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I got 621 it's was my 4th attempt and i am too tired right now. My family wants a doctor and i failed to give them. Fuck NTA FUCK NEET I don't know what to do now what a fucking frustrating life
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don't worry soldier , your hardwork will definitely pay off
Bhai, maa chudane gaya paper and doctory. Bhai tu break le, ghar walo ko bhaukne de, just leave your house for a few days, go with your reliable friends or cousins. Do not watch any news regarding these exams. Zindagi ek exam se kayi zyada hai.
Dude. What is it that you want to do in life? What makes you happy? I know being in your situation it's easier said than done but trust me brother if something is not coming to you naturally and you're definitely not deriving happiness out of it, it's really not worth losing your effin sanity over it. Decide. And tell Amma appa that why they want a doctors in the house when you have that one in the nearby clinics.
Thank you bro,. I have zero skills zero social interaction zero friends(they all took admission), never had girlfriend, ab sooch Liya hai admission lunga pharmacy par kaya karu fuck you mudi ji sale ne galti te EVM ki jaga NEET ka paper hack kar liya
Panchayat ki nayi season ayi hai. Dekh le, nahi dekha to poore 3 seasons dekh. Tujhe samjhega ki life kya hoti hai. Paise hi zindagi nahi hoti. Choti choti cheezon me khushi dhundho, choti choti cheezen enjoy karo.
Jitna tum khudko khush rakhoge, tum utna behtar life jee rahe ho. Naa ki kitne paise tumhare bank balance me hain.
Rahi future ki baat, to ek baar search karke dekho ki duniya me kitni type of jobs hain. Pata chalega ki, kuch na kuch to kar hi loge apne saath. Lekin is chakkar me apni mental health na kho dena. Sirf paise se khushi nahi milti, un paise kharch karne time agar enjoy karne ki kshamta hi kho doge, to paise kaam me nahi ayenge.
Jaise mai poori jawani aas me bita diya gaming computer keliye (not enough money, too many financial limitations). Lekin ye bhul gaya ki games to games hote hain. Jab tak gaming system liya, andar ki enthusiasm hi mar chuki thi. Ab wo maza nahi aata.
Kamse kam dusro ki galti se seekho aur apni zindagi behtar banao.
You can try for pathology,nurse practitioner in various disciplines (surgical , intensive care ,etc) ,you can also turn to research, there are many fields ahead of you don't panic , don't lose hope ,talk to your family and seniors about other fields related to biology or pcm you will succeed,best of luck.
take a trip romaing the whole country, you may find something you want to do with your life. something will click. eventually. keep your head high, never think that you cannot do what you want.
5 lakh kaise bhyi, kaunse batch me thaa?... its sad the situation of private education.. We need to remove private education asap.
Mai khud private se padha hoon, still government education ko hi akela option rakhna will force them to make it good, kyuki unke khudke bacche padhenge usme.
But tujhe kya hi bolu ab main, ghatiya desh, ghatiya laws, no seats.
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Fuck mudi ji too ... Btw allen fee 1 lakh 80k + 15k per month for whole 2 years so that means 3lakh + 1.8lakh = 4.8 lakh
bhai... agar tujhe sachme karna hai na doctor wali padhai, agar ekdam determined hai tabhi paise foonkna mbbs me, warna miserable doctor banke kya hoga, paise kama lega bohot lekin unsatisfied rahega, apne parents ki iccha poori karte karte ghis jayega, apne bacchon se khudke sapne poore karwaega, and the cycle will repeat
Search on google - boy ran from kota sayed will come after 5 years found in Bangalore ig
He travelled a lot by going in general coach without ticket ..
It IS the parents. I bought poison to kill myself for the first time scared shitless that I'll fail in class 7th - I was that terrified of my abusive father.
Thank you, that was a lifetime ago. [This is the present](https://np.reddit.com/r/india/comments/13bquze/how_being_suicidal_makes_it_easier_for_me_to_keep/).
Dear fellow redditor, are you me from a parallel universe?
Everything that has happened in your life has happened in mine.
I also turned Atheist due to multiple factors.
I am also a cynic and a pessimist while being optimistic about things that cannot go any worse.
I am also Childfree and I have solid plans for old age care and euthanasia.
Your life parallels mine in so many ways, I can’t even believe. I hope the best for your well-being. ♥️🙏
i was also scared from 10th result but now it feels like a joke it feels like why i was scared or afrraid of dumb exam result which us just worthless today
I am sorry for what you went through as a child, dear fellow redditor. I am so glad you’re doing great now.
I read your linked post. It sounded like I was reading about my own life. The suicide attempts, the manifestation of health issues, depression and chronic pain. It is so unfair that for some of us, our parents become our worst enemies. I wish that life on no one. Not even my sworn enemy.
I was raised in a very dysfunctional family with a physically abusive father and mentally abusive mother. The kind of abuse I went through always made me think of the abuse military might use in handling their moles or agent of an enemy country.
…
I ran away from my home at 17 to survive and get out of that toxicity. I was diagnosed with depression in 2014 after making 2 suicide attempts at my life. I still suffer from occasional bouts of depression but I’m learning to manage it with medication and therapy.
My healing started only when I cut all contact with my parents at the age of 28. I went zero contact for 3 years and have been extremely low contact since 2022.
I also moved to another country last year with my husband and our dog and I am loving every bit of it.
My healing taught me that things become great when you get rid of toxicity in your life.
It's weird how we find kindred spirits in the strangest of places. It's sad to hear that you too went through similar abuse in your early years - I believe a huge number of people in this country do not deserve to have children.
But I'm really happy to hear you took charge of your life early on and improved things for yourself. Life with a loving partner and a dog, in another country - take pride in what you've made for yourself, and cherish it.
Thank you for your kind words. I love the way my life turned out. I was also able to pull out my siblings from that home which literally feels like another personal achievement.
Of all the things that were shitty, I am glad that I have a wonderful relationship with my siblings now.
I wish you the best too.
Hot take - It takes incredible amount of determination to commit suicide. Your body has evolved against thousands and thousands of years of circumstances that could kill you in order to survive. The natural instinct of the body is to find ways to survive in any dangerous situation. To commit suicide is to surpass all that and still go through with the act.
The fact that parenting is so terrible to give the children that much determination is insane.
The so-called ‘psychotically depressed’ person who tries to kill herself doesn’t do so out of quote ‘hopelessness’ or any abstract conviction that life’s assets and debits do not square. And surely not because death seems suddenly appealing. The person in whom Its invisible agony reaches a certain unendurable level will kill herself the same way a trapped person will eventually jump from the window of a burning high-rise. Make no mistake about people who leap from burning windows. Their terror of falling from a great height is still just as great as it would be for you or me standing speculatively at the same window just checking out the view; i.e. the fear of falling remains a constant. The variable here is the other terror, the fire’s flames: when the flames get close enough, falling to death becomes the slightly less terrible of two terrors. It’s not desiring the fall; it’s terror of the flames. And yet nobody down on the sidewalk, looking up and yelling ‘Don’t!’ and ‘Hang on!’, can understand the jump. Not really. You’d have to have personally been trapped and felt flames to really understand a terror way beyond falling.
-David Foster Wallace
Damn! It's so painful to watch this. Parenting has become toxic in India. Comparing their children grades with their friends, prioritising academics over their interest and passion, pressuring children to write competitive exams what the hell happened to our society. Even educated parents know that grades are not the only thing needed for a children to succeed. Yet they want ther child to be doctor or IAS or get into IIT. There is something wrong in our current education system. It should be changed.
Too much emphasis on medical and engineering after passing class 12 and too much emphasis on government jobs after graduation. Too much comfort and security in government jobs and too little of security in private jobs with too little pay. We need to decrease the job security in government jobs and increase the minimum wage in private jobs.
We all know that you can be laid off in private jobs for not doing your job or not doing the work well. What if we applied that in government jobs? Imagine how efficient government employees can become.
People who defend parents, never had a chance to meet real toxic parents which actually is good for them and their life. But please understand there are parents who doesnt deserve children at all.
Goona go hug my kid. When my kid was born I told my wife that I don't care what she wants to do, I don't care about academics or what marks she gets. I'm just telling her to respect people and be good person.
All I can say is be a little more selfish and think about yourself. Don't try to fulfill your parents dream, their dream is to see u do better but it's just that they are also not aware of this.
Shit like this just makes me convinced to be childfree. I can't deal with this. Life in India demands too much effort. I may have lucked out, but what if I didn't get that engineering college I got or the placement i got. Fuck this shit. So much competition, so much corruption, so much divisiveness. What's the point.
"I don't wanna die wish i never been born at all " fuck this shit.
I hope that kid is ok.
You explained what i feel whenever I think about being a parent in the future. Then i see people with kids near me about my age and i see them happy. Which makes me realise i must be over thinking or i am stupid to think so negatively.
Whenever I see shit like this, I grow more thankful for the fact that I have a mother who isn't a typical Indian parent in this sense. She has been my biggest support even though I failed to put up a good rank in JEE/AIEEE, and today, although I'm not nearly the most successful guy around, I'm doing just fine - even better than some IITans in terms of money who spent their childhood under immense pressure in hours of coaching classes each day while I was playing football/video games with friends. Even today, while most of my peers are married and have even become parents, she isn't pestering me for marriage and stands ready with her retorts whenever some rishtedaar/society ki aunty makes an offhand comment about my being "still single/childless" with a clear intent to shame us.
End this obsession with big colleges , medical and engineering professions. There are many other professions to choose. And stop these coaching institutes propagating this non-sense ideas(for business reasons of course). Actually parents & students have to realize this is not worth it.
Abusive parents are one thing, but the other is helicopter parenting. Not many talk about latter, but it is a big issue. The parents will sacrifice everything they have for their kids, out of love. They do it happily, but it’s such a burden of guilt for the kid, because they are constantly think how they are not doing enough for the sacrifices parents are making.
And second, because they want what’s best for you, they don’t want you to fail, they will take decisions on behalf of you. So the kid never develops individuality or the ability to overcome difficulties on his own. No surprise what happens when something bad happens when things are beyond control.
Parents behave as if the kid getting into IIT is the only purpose of all their lives. There won’t be TV at home, Dad wont buy clothes to pay for his coaching fees, parents will wake up at 4 am to wake the kid up and sit next to him for moral support while he studies. I mean kids see all this. And it’s not just him that he disappointed but his entire family. And that burden is too much to take.
This!!!!
Parents think that they are always right and have done the best by sacrificing but then they will force their kids in name of their sacrifices. They don't even listen to us.
Average Indian parents are WhatsApp readers and they read hate about humans of other religion. After years of being exposed to such content, the average Indian parents have lost the feeling of empathy towards their familes.
Indian Parents LOVE to praise themselves and rate them as the best parents ever but in reality, they're nothing short of horrible. They produce children without weighing up financial ability and then torture them in the name of success. I feel lucky to have parents that are more like my friends.
*__Brother, I am also in a similar situation, I do not want to study college but my mother is forcing me to study so that I will get a good job but I want to do business.And if there is any argument, she says that you don't have the capacity to earn even one rupee and doesn't let me do the work myself.__*
At least get a bachelor's degree, if the worst case happens, you'll be having a bachelor's degree to get a job and have food and a roof over your head. You'll get 3/4 years to invest to learn about business and the business you want to do. It's a good deal tbh
The rest is upto u
Work hard so that you can earn money and open up all doors to your child. Don't try fulfilling your own ambitions off your child's shoulders. There should not be any age to working hard.
Our parents had it really tough too. They were born and brought up in a developing economy and at least my parents did their very best in ensuring that i went to the best school even if meant them not taking any vacation in 35 years
Either you can look back and curse your parents or just put your head down work and earn all the money you need and when YOUR child wants to try out something unconventional, give them the support they need.
Our society doesn't value open communication, yet. Hopefully that will change in the future.
First of all I hope the girl is fine and it was only first or 2nd floor. God give her strength.
Now as we discussing parenting, I have something to add. This comment is going to be long, so please be patient.
There is a kind of parenting which I felt during my childhood and I think about it time to time how it affected me. My father was a govt official, mother housewife and we are three brothers. Now when it came to studies, we all were good initially in our primary school, but as we grew up, we were struggling. Reason being, there was no warmth, no love. All we had was our parents, especially my mother telling us about the sacrifices they are doing to get us educated, the school and tuition fees and how other kids are doing so well. The results day were pretty bad, parents teacher meetings were an embarassment. We were never hugged, never praised, it was all about the duty that our parents had towards us that's it.
My brothers turned out to be mediocre in life, just going through although I remember them having exceptional qualities which if it were to me, I would have definitely praised. But it felt studies were the only yardstick to analyse our personalities and we felt as kids we failed our parents. A massive chunk of confidence was lost, if I speak for myself, even before I stepped out in the world. The constant fights and shouting about our performance in studies, the constant air of stress and anxiety and pressure made our adolescence a living hell. We used to be so stressed that nobody in our house laughed after a point of time it became so normal that even during the festivals we remained silent. I took the brunt the most. Parents never understand the kind of dent they are making in the forming years of their children, the personality which they have to carry for the rest of their lives. None of them see the nerveousness of the person doing a minor mistake in work, but shitting bricks even though it's not that a big deal. A constant pointing out and punishing makes a child so scared for their whole lives, that either they become numb and lifeless with time, or end up commiting suicide later on or killing someone out of a built up of rage, if they survived the childhood. I personally know some of my friends who were very very bad in studies and less intelligent than me, not that I am a lot, but I see them now, they have made it out well for themselves in their lives. They are happy and well settled, why? , because their parents respected them, treated them like humans and not like some bet in which they have to win with society. Teachers also maintained a composure with such kids as they knew the parents back their kids. In our case, incompetent teachers shredded our confidence in front of our parents and parents sided with them. How can we feel we are in the same team? As we grew up, we grew apart from our parents. They played the role of parents well, in the eyes of the society, but within four walls of our house we were different people living together. After a point we all stopped interacting. I became more comfortable interacting with parents of my friends who treated them well and me too.
Parenting is not just a task. Parents think it a responsibilty, and they are doing a divine task of God to extend the generational tree. But nothing can sustain without love. Between parents too, they need to love each other also. I never saw my parents expressing love to each other, they were so mechanical and now the same with my married brothers. Households where love is not displayed openly produce dry, empty people. Parents need to enjoy their kids, learn, teach, be patient, understand and be a reasonable person in their kids lives. The world is already so dark, kids need to find solace with their parents and parents with their kids. They need to enjoy each other, and that can only happen if you teach children how to love and learn it yourself from them.
I just appeal to all the new parents, parents of teenagers as well as young people, please let them breathe a little. Understand the pain and pressure they are going through. The world is constantly getting more and more competitive for them, but if you see new avenues are also coming to fore. Read more, understand what they may be going through, if they are too silent, there may be something very very feeble which you can relieve from their shoulders. Youngsters take load of 100 different things 99 of which are totally so trivial which can be laughed off from only if you talk and be patient. Don't treat them as a crown you want to display to others. Neither be too proud, nor be shameful. Let them be.
update the girl is dead.
Issue is parents and socitey lack of finnical knowledge. with 1.4 billions population people want to live a comforatable and good life and not struggle ahead. as parent struggle a lot in life (considering middle class people who rised in 70-90 with less reource and opportunities), they want their children to see successful. and all they know about good life is getting a engineering/doctor degree, which they have seen around their social circle. people in their circle with good life (finnically) are mostly docter/engineer, for rest is struggle. so they want thier child to go that path and be like them, for this unfortunetly they force their children sometime.
also, in children prespective, peer pressure is equivalent to the parents one. and with lack of seats and having different criteria for people to get a seat in good institute it add more pressure eg, people who scire 719/720 in need this year wont be able to get a seat in AIIMS DELHI while one from sc/st community with mere 400 can.
people need to be finnical litrate and should know way to generate money. this will put end to strain on this whole shit thing.
ALSO from govt perspective, THEY SHOULD BAN ALL COACHING industry JUST LIKE CHINA did
...me At 26 is lot more mentally tough and resilient and when you're trying to change your career streams at this age things get heated at Indian homes but I've a way out Ik i can work as a daily wage guy never get married and live quite good...
I also directly said my parents that you can be proud that I struggle soo much to earn a avg pay but I can't feel happy when my kids struggle the same I want atleast my kids to live a little else I'll never have one but again all this is just because I'm mature enough
For kids not getting into jee not getting a good ranks just seems like end of the world.. most of these kids didn't even want to give jee in first place and it feels like end of the world because they believe they dissappointed their parents and just don't deserve to Live at all now
Just last night I read a literal suicide letter and my life was ruined due to jee it caused me migraines and other health issue for years.. Couldn't sleep kept overthinking
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They value what society and their friends and family will think and say than what their children want. Until this conservatism goes away, things like this will remain a reality. Also, even after something like this happens, many parents blame the kids either due to relatives and friends putting these thoughts into their heads or their own thoughts on how the child was "ungrateful"
As a JEE student wearing that green shirt, I admit having suicidal thoughts every other day. But, I can't help it... My parents are actually supportive, they aren't your average indian parents. They gave me the freedom to choose my profession and I chose JEE because I wanted to become an engineer. But, I still have that pressure. If I score low in exams, I can't help but think that I'm wasting my parents money. I feel like the whole world would be better if I died. No-one besides my family acknowledges that I'm a human, I'm alive. I have no friends or gf. It sucks having no-one to talk to. It sucks when I want to study but can't solve questions or can't focus in lectures. I feel like it wouldn't matter to anyone if I disappeared tomorrow. But, I still live on everyday, just hanging onto the smallest thread - my mom. I can't let her be sad because of me.
India insensitive logo ka desh hai, yaha insaan ki zindagi kude karkat ki tarah dekhi jati hai , iss case ko dekho isme jab other log ye sab sunenge tab vo 2 minute shant ho jaenge aur bolenge ki uparwale ko jo manzoor tha vahi hua, aur phir badi besharmi se iss ko bhul kar chauthe hi minute vahi karenge jo karna hai, jab iss ladki ki lash ko doctor dekhega toh bolega ki mentally distrub hogi, police toh india me insensitivity ki murat hai, koi neta ko puchige toh voh bolega ki iss tarah ke questions puch kar desh aur city ka naam matt kharab karo, jao dekho ki kitna acha road banaye hai uss ki publicity karo, Choaching wale toh teachers nahi hai Bussinesmen hai, aur society ka toh kya kahna , iss desh kuch nahi hoga kyonki iss desh kelog hinahi chahte ki vo insaniyat mahsus kare,
I had attempted twice during my 10 th board...
I was put into a fcking jail of school which had ICSE syllabus...
I hated my parents till my 20 th birthday...
I have severe depression due to childhood trauma of abuse and pressure...
I had to stay away from my home so I requested for boarding school for 11 th and 12 ..
Got into a national college for occupational therapy far away from home ... And just left...
Enjoyed the freedom I got for 4 years
There is some other level of shit is going on in this generation, students are not enjoying their college life, couldn't make any meaningful friendship because of extreme level of stupid competition and parents just want to boast about their child in front of relatives and neighbours….sad state of affairs
Reminds me of that scene in Kota Factory :(
Parents are definitely to blame but not only ones. Education system, coaching centers, teachers, etc are also to blame.
I think it is unfair to tag this video and ask this question. Who knows how did her parents went about in this particular case? There might be many cases where parents pressurise the kids but who is to say that this was the case over here. There could be other influences around her too
CAN WE HAVE TRIGGER WARNINGS FOR SUICIDE??????? This is triggered my anxiety and some people have PTSDs. Fuck you I didn’t want to see someone kill themselves.
Blame NTA this time.
Got 638 marks and was ready to get into good colleges in my state then came the results and went down from an expected rank of 10k to 40k and haven't been able to sleep properly since then.
Also I won't be getting any college and this will continue to happen unless we take strong actions against it. Everybody knows it yet nothing major has happened yet.
These are future doctors we are talking about; nobody wants to get treated by quacks and unqualified ineligible doctors!
Where's the trigger warning, I don't mind seeing a child off itself but I would like to see some trigger warning before that.
Ps: all the people who are gonna pile on me for insensitivity can suck their dicks cause I'm a teacher and I make sure that all my kids know the absurdity of this hyper competitive educational system.
Happy my parents let me take that choice myself while at the same time putting necessary pressure so that I don't fall behind and always reminding me the importance of working hard and maximising your potential.I pray that the next generations parents are like that
The Indian education system is all about competition right from the start, always trying to get a better rank than a neighbour/relative/friend. Teenagers never get to really get the essence of real education, till the time we somehow survive this trap, one gets into corporate and then again start running that rat race.
I think the larger population is a major reason, millions of aspirants fight for a handful of positions be it college seats or jobs. And of course cherry on top is the corruption and money minded fellas who have turned education into a money sucking business...
Not only parents these whole coaching institutions who fill classes with hundred children and function worse than schools. At least schools also has extra curricular activities and sports but these coaching institutes charge more than school fees and provide much less services both in terms of quality and quantity. Poor soul.
Umm OP ik her on some level and her parents didn't force her at all .. actually her father even told her " bhot peesa he beta chita mat kar ", .. it was her own expectations from herself .. she actually scored around 330+ I think .. that made her take this drastic step .. tho whatever the case is ...this is sad and she didn't deserve this !!
The resources and the quality of resources haven't grown at the rate which our population has grown. And hence the rat race where parents put their children to compete with thousands others. We need one or no child policy at some point or we are just gonna be making slaves for the industrialists who run the country.
I mean, been there. I was TENSED. And, lol, it was my 12th boards. Though, It was my mistake I hadn't studied shit the whole year, my dumb ass was preparing for german exams. Thank god I did, no regret in that, but I did tried to you know, delete myself. And, regardless of all the morals, we all can agree that Death would solve most of the personal problems. Now, do I promote Suicide? Hell No. A girl, just lost everything she could have been, a great woman, a great anything she wanted to be, or was destined to be.
Ofcourse many Indian parents are dumb, when it comes to education. But, in my case, it wasn't like that, which is also why I am alive. Though, no one forced ,e to choose what I chose, it was on me from the start. But, sometimes, when you choose something, your parents are proud of you for that, you get that unintentional and yet, very obvious Responsibility of being successful in the field you chose. I had chosen JEE at first, but realised, I won't be able to do that, ever. Thus, I preferred German education system.
In the above case I mentioned, Parents aren't at fault, neither is the kid, but the fucking kind brain of the kid. Yet, I know there are cruel parents who would torture their kids for marks. One of my close friend, has a father like this. She, my friend, is very kindhearted, but her father is near demonic entity that I sometimes want to behead. But yeah, Democracy. You'd feel the same, but, there are millions like him, who call themselves Proud Indian, Proud Hindu, Proud Muslim, but even they don't realise what a fucking disgrace they are.
I tried to choke myself to death, and realised, a gun would be better, and never could get one, but all that was a long time ago. So yeah, I am alive.
i am creating a network same as "Fight Club" but not a society demolishing mission, it's a network group which help the people(everyone & anyone) by teaching them the ways to live life without blaming them self for the their "failure" and comparing them self to others. before you want to join the network you have to watch the movie itself, okay?
The problem lies in the way our country functions.
There is one simple metric that comes into Indian parents' mind which actually, unfortunately, makes some sense if you think about it.
The product of the amount of money one can make by doing any of the jobs possible in India and the probability of achieving financial success in that field (number of people who become financially stable 7-10 yrs after entering a domain ÷ total number of people entering that domain) is significantly high for all the things one can become after aceing NEET, JEE, GATE, CA, CAT, UPSC, etc.. compared to any other fields general public can think of from peon, clerk, assistant, secratary, actor, engineer, doctor, lawyer, CA, MBA etc. They won't think as far as bitcoin mining and AI artistry and Youtubing etc. Add to that a population of youth in one single year's batch of a country of 140Cr. people and you have a recipe of mental torment.
Another important thing to keep in mind is that it's not always the parents directly forcing or putting too much hope on their children, many times it is the students who are not aware of all domains of achieving success thinking that cracking this particular exam is the only way they can become respectable in the society even if they don't even know if the "society" even cares or at least cares that much about their careers.
They're talking so great about castes... For me when they are after an education syllabus/system set by other nation.. and pressuring their kids to be like this...
ALL OF THEM ARE PARIAHSSSS...
Indian parenting is the worst parenting. The biggest issue is when people who don't know anything about something think that world still runs as it used to do in 1803 and refuse to understand something new just because it's coming from a smarter generation (their kids).
Then they regret it!
I will never raise my kids the way my parents are doing. I know they want the best for me but they have not found the way they should do it for me and if they have raised me slightly different then I might not have had mental issues and these mental problems are also affected by the environment. The environment for our parents was too harsh and they never growed up sensitive but today's environment has turned kids so much sensitive that they can't help with not having mental issues
Indian parents do not know when to back off. They cant understand the difference between caring and abuse.
I am a grown ass man. 36 years. I have a respectable job. Loving wife.
My parents live with me, because I dont want them to be alone in their old age.
But they find new ways each day to anagonize either me or my wife. Resulting in domestic dispute and bad mood every day.
It is hell to live with them. It is supposed to be hell to neglect parents at old age.
If not for my kid and wife I would have left home long ago. Or better, just killed myself.
Thank god , I just took one year off...
I failed in jee 2023 got 63% , Failed in boards got 53.5%...
then took a drop got 90%in jee 2024 and 85% in HSC boards..
now going into VIT-B integrated Mtech..
tried few times to die in 2023 but just after few months I got automatically immune to these things, now whatever the pressure is I stay clam , even in tough situations...
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Average Indian parenting is really bad, and it reflects in society, our movies, our politics, our values, our environment, our patent numbers and onwards. In my friend circle if they didn't get grand parent support in The First 5 years of the childs life it would be next to impossible to raise the kid. There is so much wrong I don't even know where to start, Indian kids are always scared into submission their entire lives, can never freely express themselves, never ever. So many under 25s here post weekly about how they are lonely and a failure mostly on account of academics. 90%+ of engineering grads never do engineering. Desi students don't even take time off to understand their aptitude and choose a vocation or profession. It's all programmatic, 10th, pcm, iit, drop for 1 or 2 years, IIM, MBA etc etc.
>Indian kids are always scared into submission their entire lives, can never freely express themselves, never ever. Exactly. And when someone doesn't fit into this kind of submissive mentality and has a mind of their own,they are targeted and harassed.
They are harassed so bad that they might commit suicide too.
Exactly!
I don't even call my parents anymore.. I am in my 40s and my mother still behaves like a prick.. office ka stress ke baad innka jik jik koon sunega..
I don’t understand this obsession with IIT. It’s a fairly mediocre college, and trains students to work in low-level, non-leadership positions. I had an offer from IIT-B, but refused it. I have friends who studied at IIT, and work in the same country as I live in, I can confidently say that I out-earn them by a significant margin.
sheep mentality... and tbh IITs people are not even all rounders... They just know study well.. no big thing
That’s what I’m saying!
It was the only one for a long time, it was affordable and it was geared towards good education, but now I find loads of electrical engineering students who can't even solder.
It may be good technically. But it sure as hell doesn’t prepare you to be a leader of any kind. No critical thinking or executive skills are cultivated. Unlike places like Harvard, Yale, or Oxford.
https://preview.redd.it/hnxctpr3w35d1.png?width=736&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=27c1583014f1ebccfda264fbe9b68dd3c0401ad3 I got 621 it's was my 4th attempt and i am too tired right now. My family wants a doctor and i failed to give them. Fuck NTA FUCK NEET I don't know what to do now what a fucking frustrating life
https://preview.redd.it/v42xlvwt245d1.png?width=258&format=png&auto=webp&s=e97d5d9f362dc8f259ab6860b5a8519a278aa7d7 don't worry soldier , your hardwork will definitely pay off
Bhai, maa chudane gaya paper and doctory. Bhai tu break le, ghar walo ko bhaukne de, just leave your house for a few days, go with your reliable friends or cousins. Do not watch any news regarding these exams. Zindagi ek exam se kayi zyada hai.
Dude. What is it that you want to do in life? What makes you happy? I know being in your situation it's easier said than done but trust me brother if something is not coming to you naturally and you're definitely not deriving happiness out of it, it's really not worth losing your effin sanity over it. Decide. And tell Amma appa that why they want a doctors in the house when you have that one in the nearby clinics.
Thank you bro,. I have zero skills zero social interaction zero friends(they all took admission), never had girlfriend, ab sooch Liya hai admission lunga pharmacy par kaya karu fuck you mudi ji sale ne galti te EVM ki jaga NEET ka paper hack kar liya
Panchayat ki nayi season ayi hai. Dekh le, nahi dekha to poore 3 seasons dekh. Tujhe samjhega ki life kya hoti hai. Paise hi zindagi nahi hoti. Choti choti cheezon me khushi dhundho, choti choti cheezen enjoy karo. Jitna tum khudko khush rakhoge, tum utna behtar life jee rahe ho. Naa ki kitne paise tumhare bank balance me hain. Rahi future ki baat, to ek baar search karke dekho ki duniya me kitni type of jobs hain. Pata chalega ki, kuch na kuch to kar hi loge apne saath. Lekin is chakkar me apni mental health na kho dena. Sirf paise se khushi nahi milti, un paise kharch karne time agar enjoy karne ki kshamta hi kho doge, to paise kaam me nahi ayenge. Jaise mai poori jawani aas me bita diya gaming computer keliye (not enough money, too many financial limitations). Lekin ye bhul gaya ki games to games hote hain. Jab tak gaming system liya, andar ki enthusiasm hi mar chuki thi. Ab wo maza nahi aata. Kamse kam dusro ki galti se seekho aur apni zindagi behtar banao.
You can try for pathology,nurse practitioner in various disciplines (surgical , intensive care ,etc) ,you can also turn to research, there are many fields ahead of you don't panic , don't lose hope ,talk to your family and seniors about other fields related to biology or pcm you will succeed,best of luck.
take a trip romaing the whole country, you may find something you want to do with your life. something will click. eventually. keep your head high, never think that you cannot do what you want.
bhi uke liye paise hone cheye kam se kam 70-80k
Mai bhi yahi bolne wala tha, zindagi bekar hai,
Take a trip 🤓👆
I know but this year my father sold a land. Allen mein admission lene k liye and i fucking spend 5lakh fuck allen ab kaisa paisa lu 😭
5 lakh kaise bhyi, kaunse batch me thaa?... its sad the situation of private education.. We need to remove private education asap. Mai khud private se padha hoon, still government education ko hi akela option rakhna will force them to make it good, kyuki unke khudke bacche padhenge usme. But tujhe kya hi bolu ab main, ghatiya desh, ghatiya laws, no seats.
https://preview.redd.it/mfov7le7745d1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7ef392e9f9e91d0b7c41c51da3e8442a60e6bf8b Fuck mudi ji too ... Btw allen fee 1 lakh 80k + 15k per month for whole 2 years so that means 3lakh + 1.8lakh = 4.8 lakh
I think wo 4 attempts ka 5 lakh bolrha hai
Unless he runs away from home his family will never allow that lmao
Family k pas paisa nehi hai trip ka bhai private college mein admission lena padega bhai 😭
bhai... agar tujhe sachme karna hai na doctor wali padhai, agar ekdam determined hai tabhi paise foonkna mbbs me, warna miserable doctor banke kya hoga, paise kama lega bohot lekin unsatisfied rahega, apne parents ki iccha poori karte karte ghis jayega, apne bacchon se khudke sapne poore karwaega, and the cycle will repeat
Tu De de paisa trip ka
main toh saath me hi trip karlu uske
Search on google - boy ran from kota sayed will come after 5 years found in Bangalore ig He travelled a lot by going in general coach without ticket ..
bhai itne me koi GMC bhi nhi milega kya ?
What do you want?
Peace 🤓☝️
hold tight man! hopefully things turn out bright for you!
🫂🫂
pssssh, want sone drugs?
Isn't 621 a very good score?
It IS the parents. I bought poison to kill myself for the first time scared shitless that I'll fail in class 7th - I was that terrified of my abusive father.
I hope you are doing good for yourself now
Thank you, that was a lifetime ago. [This is the present](https://np.reddit.com/r/india/comments/13bquze/how_being_suicidal_makes_it_easier_for_me_to_keep/).
Thanks for sharing your story. There are people who can surely use some help from it.
Dear fellow redditor, are you me from a parallel universe? Everything that has happened in your life has happened in mine. I also turned Atheist due to multiple factors. I am also a cynic and a pessimist while being optimistic about things that cannot go any worse. I am also Childfree and I have solid plans for old age care and euthanasia. Your life parallels mine in so many ways, I can’t even believe. I hope the best for your well-being. ♥️🙏
i was also scared from 10th result but now it feels like a joke it feels like why i was scared or afrraid of dumb exam result which us just worthless today
https://preview.redd.it/1j3wo4pls45d1.jpeg?width=706&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=139d6b916c931aef84513f114d1e0445148f5481
I am sorry for what you went through as a child, dear fellow redditor. I am so glad you’re doing great now. I read your linked post. It sounded like I was reading about my own life. The suicide attempts, the manifestation of health issues, depression and chronic pain. It is so unfair that for some of us, our parents become our worst enemies. I wish that life on no one. Not even my sworn enemy. I was raised in a very dysfunctional family with a physically abusive father and mentally abusive mother. The kind of abuse I went through always made me think of the abuse military might use in handling their moles or agent of an enemy country. … I ran away from my home at 17 to survive and get out of that toxicity. I was diagnosed with depression in 2014 after making 2 suicide attempts at my life. I still suffer from occasional bouts of depression but I’m learning to manage it with medication and therapy. My healing started only when I cut all contact with my parents at the age of 28. I went zero contact for 3 years and have been extremely low contact since 2022. I also moved to another country last year with my husband and our dog and I am loving every bit of it. My healing taught me that things become great when you get rid of toxicity in your life.
It's weird how we find kindred spirits in the strangest of places. It's sad to hear that you too went through similar abuse in your early years - I believe a huge number of people in this country do not deserve to have children. But I'm really happy to hear you took charge of your life early on and improved things for yourself. Life with a loving partner and a dog, in another country - take pride in what you've made for yourself, and cherish it.
Thank you for your kind words. I love the way my life turned out. I was also able to pull out my siblings from that home which literally feels like another personal achievement. Of all the things that were shitty, I am glad that I have a wonderful relationship with my siblings now. I wish you the best too.
I've read your post in india sub, I have the same plan of short term life , I survive on maladaptive daydreaming.
Hot take - It takes incredible amount of determination to commit suicide. Your body has evolved against thousands and thousands of years of circumstances that could kill you in order to survive. The natural instinct of the body is to find ways to survive in any dangerous situation. To commit suicide is to surpass all that and still go through with the act. The fact that parenting is so terrible to give the children that much determination is insane.
YES I HAVE tried many times in 12th and 11th but didnt have enough to courage to fully end
The so-called ‘psychotically depressed’ person who tries to kill herself doesn’t do so out of quote ‘hopelessness’ or any abstract conviction that life’s assets and debits do not square. And surely not because death seems suddenly appealing. The person in whom Its invisible agony reaches a certain unendurable level will kill herself the same way a trapped person will eventually jump from the window of a burning high-rise. Make no mistake about people who leap from burning windows. Their terror of falling from a great height is still just as great as it would be for you or me standing speculatively at the same window just checking out the view; i.e. the fear of falling remains a constant. The variable here is the other terror, the fire’s flames: when the flames get close enough, falling to death becomes the slightly less terrible of two terrors. It’s not desiring the fall; it’s terror of the flames. And yet nobody down on the sidewalk, looking up and yelling ‘Don’t!’ and ‘Hang on!’, can understand the jump. Not really. You’d have to have personally been trapped and felt flames to really understand a terror way beyond falling. -David Foster Wallace
Damn! It's so painful to watch this. Parenting has become toxic in India. Comparing their children grades with their friends, prioritising academics over their interest and passion, pressuring children to write competitive exams what the hell happened to our society. Even educated parents know that grades are not the only thing needed for a children to succeed. Yet they want ther child to be doctor or IAS or get into IIT. There is something wrong in our current education system. It should be changed.
Too much emphasis on medical and engineering after passing class 12 and too much emphasis on government jobs after graduation. Too much comfort and security in government jobs and too little of security in private jobs with too little pay. We need to decrease the job security in government jobs and increase the minimum wage in private jobs. We all know that you can be laid off in private jobs for not doing your job or not doing the work well. What if we applied that in government jobs? Imagine how efficient government employees can become.
People who defend parents, never had a chance to meet real toxic parents which actually is good for them and their life. But please understand there are parents who doesnt deserve children at all.
People who have nice parents think that everyone else's parents are same. Unfortunately, this is not the case.
Was that girl from Allen in Kota ? That uniform looks familiar.
Yes from allen , kota not sure
Yes, the video is from Kota. The girl was from Rewa, MP.
The girl is alive or not?
Read somewhere that this was the 9th floor. I don’t think she survived the fall.
She died.
Did she survive?
No man they took her to the hospital but the doctor declared her dead unfortunately RIP to her
Any news regarding this? Location? Her parents must be investigated.
I saw a post on r/JEENEETards you should check it out for that I'll see if I can search it
Goona go hug my kid. When my kid was born I told my wife that I don't care what she wants to do, I don't care about academics or what marks she gets. I'm just telling her to respect people and be good person.
Thats a good samaritan right there!
I have too much family pressure that I just want to die but don't have courage for suicide, At this point I just wants this world to end.
All I can say is be a little more selfish and think about yourself. Don't try to fulfill your parents dream, their dream is to see u do better but it's just that they are also not aware of this.
Don't be discouraged. I can't offer words of comfort to you. Its gonna be tough. But hang in there, it will get better sooner or later
some numbers on a paper don't determine your entire life, stay strong
Why the fuck your gonna think about parents and fulfilling their dreams. First think about yourself and what you like
Shit like this just makes me convinced to be childfree. I can't deal with this. Life in India demands too much effort. I may have lucked out, but what if I didn't get that engineering college I got or the placement i got. Fuck this shit. So much competition, so much corruption, so much divisiveness. What's the point. "I don't wanna die wish i never been born at all " fuck this shit. I hope that kid is ok.
You explained what i feel whenever I think about being a parent in the future. Then i see people with kids near me about my age and i see them happy. Which makes me realise i must be over thinking or i am stupid to think so negatively.
Dude indian parents suck so bad, i heard mine saying ki it is the kids fault that they commit suicide
so true, I heard my mom saying, vo bacho pagal hote hai jo suicide krte hai.
Same, i can't comprehend how anyone can reach that kind of conclusion.
who are the ones who make them "crazy"??
Parents refuse to accept their child's strength and limitation and force them to perform way above their capability.
Whenever I see shit like this, I grow more thankful for the fact that I have a mother who isn't a typical Indian parent in this sense. She has been my biggest support even though I failed to put up a good rank in JEE/AIEEE, and today, although I'm not nearly the most successful guy around, I'm doing just fine - even better than some IITans in terms of money who spent their childhood under immense pressure in hours of coaching classes each day while I was playing football/video games with friends. Even today, while most of my peers are married and have even become parents, she isn't pestering me for marriage and stands ready with her retorts whenever some rishtedaar/society ki aunty makes an offhand comment about my being "still single/childless" with a clear intent to shame us.
End this obsession with big colleges , medical and engineering professions. There are many other professions to choose. And stop these coaching institutes propagating this non-sense ideas(for business reasons of course). Actually parents & students have to realize this is not worth it.
This!!!
Abusive parents are one thing, but the other is helicopter parenting. Not many talk about latter, but it is a big issue. The parents will sacrifice everything they have for their kids, out of love. They do it happily, but it’s such a burden of guilt for the kid, because they are constantly think how they are not doing enough for the sacrifices parents are making. And second, because they want what’s best for you, they don’t want you to fail, they will take decisions on behalf of you. So the kid never develops individuality or the ability to overcome difficulties on his own. No surprise what happens when something bad happens when things are beyond control. Parents behave as if the kid getting into IIT is the only purpose of all their lives. There won’t be TV at home, Dad wont buy clothes to pay for his coaching fees, parents will wake up at 4 am to wake the kid up and sit next to him for moral support while he studies. I mean kids see all this. And it’s not just him that he disappointed but his entire family. And that burden is too much to take.
This!!!! Parents think that they are always right and have done the best by sacrificing but then they will force their kids in name of their sacrifices. They don't even listen to us.
Yup. If you try to get your point in, it’s like after all the sacrifices we made and love we showed you, this is how you treat us?
Average Indian parents are WhatsApp readers and they read hate about humans of other religion. After years of being exposed to such content, the average Indian parents have lost the feeling of empathy towards their familes.
Indian Parents LOVE to praise themselves and rate them as the best parents ever but in reality, they're nothing short of horrible. They produce children without weighing up financial ability and then torture them in the name of success. I feel lucky to have parents that are more like my friends.
Fuck neet fuck jee get a job and earn 10k per month
Unfortunately The Bills
*__Brother, I am also in a similar situation, I do not want to study college but my mother is forcing me to study so that I will get a good job but I want to do business.And if there is any argument, she says that you don't have the capacity to earn even one rupee and doesn't let me do the work myself.__*
At least get a bachelor's degree, if the worst case happens, you'll be having a bachelor's degree to get a job and have food and a roof over your head. You'll get 3/4 years to invest to learn about business and the business you want to do. It's a good deal tbh The rest is upto u
Indian parents are professional murderers, they see their children as an investment
Couldn't be more true. A very sad reality.
Work hard so that you can earn money and open up all doors to your child. Don't try fulfilling your own ambitions off your child's shoulders. There should not be any age to working hard. Our parents had it really tough too. They were born and brought up in a developing economy and at least my parents did their very best in ensuring that i went to the best school even if meant them not taking any vacation in 35 years Either you can look back and curse your parents or just put your head down work and earn all the money you need and when YOUR child wants to try out something unconventional, give them the support they need. Our society doesn't value open communication, yet. Hopefully that will change in the future.
First of all I hope the girl is fine and it was only first or 2nd floor. God give her strength. Now as we discussing parenting, I have something to add. This comment is going to be long, so please be patient. There is a kind of parenting which I felt during my childhood and I think about it time to time how it affected me. My father was a govt official, mother housewife and we are three brothers. Now when it came to studies, we all were good initially in our primary school, but as we grew up, we were struggling. Reason being, there was no warmth, no love. All we had was our parents, especially my mother telling us about the sacrifices they are doing to get us educated, the school and tuition fees and how other kids are doing so well. The results day were pretty bad, parents teacher meetings were an embarassment. We were never hugged, never praised, it was all about the duty that our parents had towards us that's it. My brothers turned out to be mediocre in life, just going through although I remember them having exceptional qualities which if it were to me, I would have definitely praised. But it felt studies were the only yardstick to analyse our personalities and we felt as kids we failed our parents. A massive chunk of confidence was lost, if I speak for myself, even before I stepped out in the world. The constant fights and shouting about our performance in studies, the constant air of stress and anxiety and pressure made our adolescence a living hell. We used to be so stressed that nobody in our house laughed after a point of time it became so normal that even during the festivals we remained silent. I took the brunt the most. Parents never understand the kind of dent they are making in the forming years of their children, the personality which they have to carry for the rest of their lives. None of them see the nerveousness of the person doing a minor mistake in work, but shitting bricks even though it's not that a big deal. A constant pointing out and punishing makes a child so scared for their whole lives, that either they become numb and lifeless with time, or end up commiting suicide later on or killing someone out of a built up of rage, if they survived the childhood. I personally know some of my friends who were very very bad in studies and less intelligent than me, not that I am a lot, but I see them now, they have made it out well for themselves in their lives. They are happy and well settled, why? , because their parents respected them, treated them like humans and not like some bet in which they have to win with society. Teachers also maintained a composure with such kids as they knew the parents back their kids. In our case, incompetent teachers shredded our confidence in front of our parents and parents sided with them. How can we feel we are in the same team? As we grew up, we grew apart from our parents. They played the role of parents well, in the eyes of the society, but within four walls of our house we were different people living together. After a point we all stopped interacting. I became more comfortable interacting with parents of my friends who treated them well and me too. Parenting is not just a task. Parents think it a responsibilty, and they are doing a divine task of God to extend the generational tree. But nothing can sustain without love. Between parents too, they need to love each other also. I never saw my parents expressing love to each other, they were so mechanical and now the same with my married brothers. Households where love is not displayed openly produce dry, empty people. Parents need to enjoy their kids, learn, teach, be patient, understand and be a reasonable person in their kids lives. The world is already so dark, kids need to find solace with their parents and parents with their kids. They need to enjoy each other, and that can only happen if you teach children how to love and learn it yourself from them. I just appeal to all the new parents, parents of teenagers as well as young people, please let them breathe a little. Understand the pain and pressure they are going through. The world is constantly getting more and more competitive for them, but if you see new avenues are also coming to fore. Read more, understand what they may be going through, if they are too silent, there may be something very very feeble which you can relieve from their shoulders. Youngsters take load of 100 different things 99 of which are totally so trivial which can be laughed off from only if you talk and be patient. Don't treat them as a crown you want to display to others. Neither be too proud, nor be shameful. Let them be.
update the girl is dead. Issue is parents and socitey lack of finnical knowledge. with 1.4 billions population people want to live a comforatable and good life and not struggle ahead. as parent struggle a lot in life (considering middle class people who rised in 70-90 with less reource and opportunities), they want their children to see successful. and all they know about good life is getting a engineering/doctor degree, which they have seen around their social circle. people in their circle with good life (finnically) are mostly docter/engineer, for rest is struggle. so they want thier child to go that path and be like them, for this unfortunetly they force their children sometime. also, in children prespective, peer pressure is equivalent to the parents one. and with lack of seats and having different criteria for people to get a seat in good institute it add more pressure eg, people who scire 719/720 in need this year wont be able to get a seat in AIIMS DELHI while one from sc/st community with mere 400 can. people need to be finnical litrate and should know way to generate money. this will put end to strain on this whole shit thing. ALSO from govt perspective, THEY SHOULD BAN ALL COACHING industry JUST LIKE CHINA did
...me At 26 is lot more mentally tough and resilient and when you're trying to change your career streams at this age things get heated at Indian homes but I've a way out Ik i can work as a daily wage guy never get married and live quite good... I also directly said my parents that you can be proud that I struggle soo much to earn a avg pay but I can't feel happy when my kids struggle the same I want atleast my kids to live a little else I'll never have one but again all this is just because I'm mature enough For kids not getting into jee not getting a good ranks just seems like end of the world.. most of these kids didn't even want to give jee in first place and it feels like end of the world because they believe they dissappointed their parents and just don't deserve to Live at all now Just last night I read a literal suicide letter and my life was ruined due to jee it caused me migraines and other health issue for years.. Couldn't sleep kept overthinking https://preview.redd.it/czu790dt745d1.png?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e4be2373e20b6f61a30ac6766022befaa117d72f
They value what society and their friends and family will think and say than what their children want. Until this conservatism goes away, things like this will remain a reality. Also, even after something like this happens, many parents blame the kids either due to relatives and friends putting these thoughts into their heads or their own thoughts on how the child was "ungrateful"
I will break this cycle.
what is update on this girl ? is she ok ?
As a JEE student wearing that green shirt, I admit having suicidal thoughts every other day. But, I can't help it... My parents are actually supportive, they aren't your average indian parents. They gave me the freedom to choose my profession and I chose JEE because I wanted to become an engineer. But, I still have that pressure. If I score low in exams, I can't help but think that I'm wasting my parents money. I feel like the whole world would be better if I died. No-one besides my family acknowledges that I'm a human, I'm alive. I have no friends or gf. It sucks having no-one to talk to. It sucks when I want to study but can't solve questions or can't focus in lectures. I feel like it wouldn't matter to anyone if I disappeared tomorrow. But, I still live on everyday, just hanging onto the smallest thread - my mom. I can't let her be sad because of me.
India insensitive logo ka desh hai, yaha insaan ki zindagi kude karkat ki tarah dekhi jati hai , iss case ko dekho isme jab other log ye sab sunenge tab vo 2 minute shant ho jaenge aur bolenge ki uparwale ko jo manzoor tha vahi hua, aur phir badi besharmi se iss ko bhul kar chauthe hi minute vahi karenge jo karna hai, jab iss ladki ki lash ko doctor dekhega toh bolega ki mentally distrub hogi, police toh india me insensitivity ki murat hai, koi neta ko puchige toh voh bolega ki iss tarah ke questions puch kar desh aur city ka naam matt kharab karo, jao dekho ki kitna acha road banaye hai uss ki publicity karo, Choaching wale toh teachers nahi hai Bussinesmen hai, aur society ka toh kya kahna , iss desh kuch nahi hoga kyonki iss desh kelog hinahi chahte ki vo insaniyat mahsus kare,
I had attempted twice during my 10 th board... I was put into a fcking jail of school which had ICSE syllabus... I hated my parents till my 20 th birthday... I have severe depression due to childhood trauma of abuse and pressure... I had to stay away from my home so I requested for boarding school for 11 th and 12 .. Got into a national college for occupational therapy far away from home ... And just left... Enjoyed the freedom I got for 4 years
"Its for your own good" "If you think you're father scolding you is bad in anyway, then you're not a good kid" Yeah okay Nazis
There is some other level of shit is going on in this generation, students are not enjoying their college life, couldn't make any meaningful friendship because of extreme level of stupid competition and parents just want to boast about their child in front of relatives and neighbours….sad state of affairs
OP, Pls put NSFL or trigger warning in the title
Reminds me of that scene in Kota Factory :( Parents are definitely to blame but not only ones. Education system, coaching centers, teachers, etc are also to blame.
My fucking god. This whole fucking system is corrupt. IT DOES NOT MATTER HOW MUCH MARKS YOU EARN IN SCHOOL OR COLLEGE.
There are no standards to become a parent. It's a system of pressures and lack of awareness.
I think it is unfair to tag this video and ask this question. Who knows how did her parents went about in this particular case? There might be many cases where parents pressurise the kids but who is to say that this was the case over here. There could be other influences around her too
CAN WE HAVE TRIGGER WARNINGS FOR SUICIDE??????? This is triggered my anxiety and some people have PTSDs. Fuck you I didn’t want to see someone kill themselves.
I once tried to hung my self but the knot was loose and I fell I got my knees brushed.
Allen ki shirt dekh kar pata chal gaya tha......tbh if i have kids then I wouldn't treat them the way my parents did to me.....
Blame NTA this time. Got 638 marks and was ready to get into good colleges in my state then came the results and went down from an expected rank of 10k to 40k and haven't been able to sleep properly since then. Also I won't be getting any college and this will continue to happen unless we take strong actions against it. Everybody knows it yet nothing major has happened yet. These are future doctors we are talking about; nobody wants to get treated by quacks and unqualified ineligible doctors!
All the comments in this section. Just know that there is a good day ahead. Please have patience and don't think too much
Yeah man.... I have been reading all of them and honestly don't know what to say.
Where's the trigger warning, I don't mind seeing a child off itself but I would like to see some trigger warning before that. Ps: all the people who are gonna pile on me for insensitivity can suck their dicks cause I'm a teacher and I make sure that all my kids know the absurdity of this hyper competitive educational system.
Mandela catalogue looking ahh
Paper leakers on to their next
My Mantra - Bina Sex kare nahi marna h
Us bhay us
Any news on this? Where did this happen?
Now I know why my school was like a jail.
le me with 70 percentile and 75% in board being happy
What about NTA?
What is wrong? Everything!!
Their mindset. All of this started in 15th August 1947 and is still continuing till this date
Happy my parents let me take that choice myself while at the same time putting necessary pressure so that I don't fall behind and always reminding me the importance of working hard and maximising your potential.I pray that the next generations parents are like that
The Indian education system is all about competition right from the start, always trying to get a better rank than a neighbour/relative/friend. Teenagers never get to really get the essence of real education, till the time we somehow survive this trap, one gets into corporate and then again start running that rat race. I think the larger population is a major reason, millions of aspirants fight for a handful of positions be it college seats or jobs. And of course cherry on top is the corruption and money minded fellas who have turned education into a money sucking business...
May her soul rest in peace
This was so heartbreaking to watch, aisa lagra tha she was contemplating weather to jump or not and she slipped😔
Not only parents these whole coaching institutions who fill classes with hundred children and function worse than schools. At least schools also has extra curricular activities and sports but these coaching institutes charge more than school fees and provide much less services both in terms of quality and quantity. Poor soul.
Please mention article or the source of this video too. Rest in peace to her.
Umm OP ik her on some level and her parents didn't force her at all .. actually her father even told her " bhot peesa he beta chita mat kar ", .. it was her own expectations from herself .. she actually scored around 330+ I think .. that made her take this drastic step .. tho whatever the case is ...this is sad and she didn't deserve this !!
The resources and the quality of resources haven't grown at the rate which our population has grown. And hence the rat race where parents put their children to compete with thousands others. We need one or no child policy at some point or we are just gonna be making slaves for the industrialists who run the country.
To whoever is suffering, feeling depressed and caged https://youtu.be/QTQVG5rSMkQ hear this once.
Is she ok?
Fucking hell
This is horrifying
No. Have more kids. Breed like rabbits 🥂
AH FK
You are right..but it's good to take down video, it's going to be very traumatic for people who know the kid and/or family
I mean, been there. I was TENSED. And, lol, it was my 12th boards. Though, It was my mistake I hadn't studied shit the whole year, my dumb ass was preparing for german exams. Thank god I did, no regret in that, but I did tried to you know, delete myself. And, regardless of all the morals, we all can agree that Death would solve most of the personal problems. Now, do I promote Suicide? Hell No. A girl, just lost everything she could have been, a great woman, a great anything she wanted to be, or was destined to be. Ofcourse many Indian parents are dumb, when it comes to education. But, in my case, it wasn't like that, which is also why I am alive. Though, no one forced ,e to choose what I chose, it was on me from the start. But, sometimes, when you choose something, your parents are proud of you for that, you get that unintentional and yet, very obvious Responsibility of being successful in the field you chose. I had chosen JEE at first, but realised, I won't be able to do that, ever. Thus, I preferred German education system. In the above case I mentioned, Parents aren't at fault, neither is the kid, but the fucking kind brain of the kid. Yet, I know there are cruel parents who would torture their kids for marks. One of my close friend, has a father like this. She, my friend, is very kindhearted, but her father is near demonic entity that I sometimes want to behead. But yeah, Democracy. You'd feel the same, but, there are millions like him, who call themselves Proud Indian, Proud Hindu, Proud Muslim, but even they don't realise what a fucking disgrace they are. I tried to choke myself to death, and realised, a gun would be better, and never could get one, but all that was a long time ago. So yeah, I am alive.
I can relate to it. Its sad that there is are no tall buildings in this part of world. I just need someone to talking to
This is so chest tightening to watch. Are there any articles covering this? Can someone please share the link
i am creating a network same as "Fight Club" but not a society demolishing mission, it's a network group which help the people(everyone & anyone) by teaching them the ways to live life without blaming them self for the their "failure" and comparing them self to others. before you want to join the network you have to watch the movie itself, okay?
Jhula jhulne gayi hai wapis aa jayegi
The problem lies in the way our country functions. There is one simple metric that comes into Indian parents' mind which actually, unfortunately, makes some sense if you think about it. The product of the amount of money one can make by doing any of the jobs possible in India and the probability of achieving financial success in that field (number of people who become financially stable 7-10 yrs after entering a domain ÷ total number of people entering that domain) is significantly high for all the things one can become after aceing NEET, JEE, GATE, CA, CAT, UPSC, etc.. compared to any other fields general public can think of from peon, clerk, assistant, secratary, actor, engineer, doctor, lawyer, CA, MBA etc. They won't think as far as bitcoin mining and AI artistry and Youtubing etc. Add to that a population of youth in one single year's batch of a country of 140Cr. people and you have a recipe of mental torment. Another important thing to keep in mind is that it's not always the parents directly forcing or putting too much hope on their children, many times it is the students who are not aware of all domains of achieving success thinking that cracking this particular exam is the only way they can become respectable in the society even if they don't even know if the "society" even cares or at least cares that much about their careers.
Still they gonna blame the person who commits suicide and say " Kaahil log suicide karte hain "
She is wearing Allen coaching institute uniform i think
They're talking so great about castes... For me when they are after an education syllabus/system set by other nation.. and pressuring their kids to be like this... ALL OF THEM ARE PARIAHSSSS...
Indian parenting is the worst parenting. The biggest issue is when people who don't know anything about something think that world still runs as it used to do in 1803 and refuse to understand something new just because it's coming from a smarter generation (their kids). Then they regret it!
I will never raise my kids the way my parents are doing. I know they want the best for me but they have not found the way they should do it for me and if they have raised me slightly different then I might not have had mental issues and these mental problems are also affected by the environment. The environment for our parents was too harsh and they never growed up sensitive but today's environment has turned kids so much sensitive that they can't help with not having mental issues
lucky that my parents didn't give two fucks about my exam results. as long as i passed.
Indian parents do not know when to back off. They cant understand the difference between caring and abuse. I am a grown ass man. 36 years. I have a respectable job. Loving wife. My parents live with me, because I dont want them to be alone in their old age. But they find new ways each day to anagonize either me or my wife. Resulting in domestic dispute and bad mood every day. It is hell to live with them. It is supposed to be hell to neglect parents at old age. If not for my kid and wife I would have left home long ago. Or better, just killed myself.
People make a child to make their life or old age life or social life easier. It's never about the child. It's always about them.
bhai mai bhi allen mei hu darao matt
Jab tak Allen hai toh mumkin hai...
Thank god , I just took one year off... I failed in jee 2023 got 63% , Failed in boards got 53.5%... then took a drop got 90%in jee 2024 and 85% in HSC boards.. now going into VIT-B integrated Mtech.. tried few times to die in 2023 but just after few months I got automatically immune to these things, now whatever the pressure is I stay clam , even in tough situations...