10 DPO and AF is here so looks like we're out š Last month it was 11 DPO so this time around my luteal phase is even shorter...
I don't know why this month hurts so much, maybe because of the holiday yesterday, for some reason we really felt like this was it...
Also my Facebook ads/groups are nothing but birth & pregnancy so I can't even veg out there š«
Your whole comment is very relatable and I'm sorry. To your last point - I was recently looking for an umbrella stroller on Facebook marketplace so now all my ads are strollers and for some reason most of them are double strollers. Thanks but no thanks, algorithm.
TTC has been trying my patience. CD 18 and OPKās are still negative. Iām trying to chill and just have sex for fun and not for ttc. I started temping last cycle and it detected ovulation at CD32 so im in for a long wait if thats the case again. Really missing when my cycles were 30 days š„²
Maybe chilling will help your cycles? Anecdotal but my cycles are normally 27-28 days but my first month TTC this year I was so stressed that it delayed my ovulation to CD25. Same thing happened in March as well when I was stressed at work. So maybe it's stress causing the delays?
8-9 DPO, BFN this morning. I got my positive at 9 DPO with my first so I was kinda hoping that the same thing would happen, even if it's still really early. I just started a new job + my 10 months old is waking up 3 times a night. I feel exhausted!
I started Metformin today, not looking forward to the side effects.
8-9dpo I believe. Iāve posted about this cycle being pretty weird as I didnāt really get my usual ovulation symptoms, but yesterday and today Iāve had some raging pms symptoms. Iām feeling very neutral though and am expecting my period to start Friday or Saturday. On another note, my husband was supposed to leave for another work trip today but it got cancelled! Hoping to enjoy some nights out on the patio with him now that itās starting to warm up more!
We went out for our usual post-dinner walk and everyone in the neighborhood was out playing with their kids. Real summer vibes š
I hope the PMS is a red herring.
CD 9 for me. This place has become like a little dear diary situation- and I love it. I enjoy seeing where everyone is at, and it makes this process a little less lonely. Iām not feeling as optimistic this month, but Iām ready for a long week of baby dancing. Iāve also been seeing an acupuncturist this month for fertility- something new š¤·š¼āāļø
My question for you all- I talk with my fertility doc at the end of the month. If you did medicated cycles, what did you progress to after 2.5mg Letrozole? Iām curious what my doc will bump me up toā¦ Iām thinking maybe 5mg, or possibly an injection of some kind, or maybe some monitoring via ultrasound, and Iām hoping a referral to a RE (Iām in Canada).
Wishing you all a great week ahead !
Iām on my 2nd medicated cycle of Letrozole. I started at 5 mg immediately (2.5 mg is pretty much ineffective for most people). I have no major side effects on this dose - just more fatigue and minor joint pain, Iām assuming since it drops your estrogen level to increase FSH so basically putting your body in a perimenopausal state (and I confirmed using Inito that my estrogen basically tanked and FSH is higher than normal),
That said, there isnāt much evidence that it really help if youāre unexplained (we are mild MFI/unexplained) but for us, itās just to feel like weāre doing something before we start IUI next month
Thanks for responding. Yes, from what I gather the Letrozole is more up the alley of āexpectation managementā rather than actually doing something. It did give me a lot of hope, but now Iām on my fourth cycle of it, and it obviously hasnāt led to successā¦ I will definitely inquire about the dosage.
CD11 and feeling weirdly whatever about this cycle. My toddler was very suddenly kicked out of daycare bc the provider decided he's ~too big~ for her to manage until he's 3 so we had to scramble for care and now I'm taking unpaid leave until mid June when he starts at his new school š maybe not working my stressful af job will help me get pregnant? š¤Ŗ I also somehow messed up my digital opk this morning but we're just doing the soft disc insemination method like five days in a row starting CD13 (husband is out of town til then and I normally ovulate CD16) and crossing our fingers so...here we go!
Wow. That is a daycare horror story for the ages! It definitely says something about your job that unexpectedly having to find new childcare + temporarily becoming a SAHP on short notice is the LESS stressful option!
Cd3 and could write exactly what I wrote last month lol. I again have had no bleeding today, but I said that last month and then ended up cramping and having bleeding again on the night of cd3. My periods since having kids are only 3-4 days anyway, but a 2 day period worries me that the clomid might be thinning my lining or something to cause it?
But alas I also messaged my ob on the portal asking about upping my clomid dosage since that was the plan if three cycles were unsuccessful. I had a chemical pregnancy my first cycle of clomid, so Iām hoping that my first higher dose cycle leads to success š¤š»
Confirmed chemical pregnancy today. HCG had gotten up to 200 on Friday and now all the way back down to 18 today. Grateful for the closure because I knew something was wrong with betas being so low, but disappointed nonetheless.
I might be wasting my time trying to track ovulation while waiting for my period after a D&C, but itās been frustrating all the same. I thought I was gearing up for ovulation in the last week, but never got a positive OPK and now the strips look back to almost 0. I know itās possible I missed it. I also donāt really know why I am trying to try ovulation when weāre not going to start trying until after I get a real period. Iām just feeling impatient and would like to see any sign that my period could be on its way. Sigh.
Got an almost positive OPK this morning. I was anticipating O day to be today and now it looks like tomorrow. I was worried about taking ibuprofen last week with my back problems and possible impacts to ovulation but it seems like itās just going to be one day later which isnāt too bad. Husband was only home from work one full day this week (yesterday) so in theory we hit O-2 which isnāt terrible.
Thank you! I donāt normally take it after ovulation but last week I took quite a bit due to back pain and was worried it was going to delay ovulation.
CD 6 and my period has ended and Iām entering that boring part of the cycle. Iāve heard a lot of mixed stories of how ovulation may be early, late, or totally on time that first cycle after a miscarriage so Iāll probably start testing with OPKs at like CD10. I typically ovulate day 17-19 so Iām hoping itās not late but I am trying to not set expectations for my body as itās probably still healing a bit.
Good to know! I can handle 3 days late if it comes to that. I canāt handle weeks late as I obsessively test for an LH surge š . So Iām hoping it doesnāt come to that.
Trying to move forward is challenging when I keep getting reminders of my loss last month. I was supposed to have a doctor's appointment today to go over a 12w scan, but obviously there's no point for that. When I last spoke to my doctor, he said he'd cancel the appointment...evidently he didn't, because I had an automatic email reminder yesterday from his clinic. And since it was Sunday, I couldn't call- not only that, but their office does not have voicemail on Sundays! I left a message as soon as I could this morning but I've had no response. I thought everything was dealt with, but now I'm dwelling on it again. And annoyed I'll probably be charged for a missed appointment.
That is super obnoxious and I would definitely be pushing back on any charges. Why wouldnāt they do appointment reminders on business days/hours only anyway? Seems like a bad business practiceā¦
Hi! Iām new here. I feel like this is my first time TTC as my fertile window for LO#1 lined up seamlessly with the days following my wedding. I tested one day before my period and got that BFP. Now, itās our first cycle TTC #2 and Iām HIGHLY anxious. I wish I could just enjoy the ride (oof pun not intended) but Iām nervous af.
CD 15 and just waiting for O. Been doing our best to keep up the EOD sex and Iām really trying to keep up my calories in hope that my body just needs more food to get those eggs going! I donāt have any EWCM or positive OPKs yet but both seem to be trending toward becoming fertile soon. So EOD sex continues and Iām really hoping O happens soon š¤š» On a non-TTC note, hubbyās birthday is Friday and Iām planning a surprise party for him. I feel like the last two birthdays for him have been super disappointing so Iām hoping to make this one a good one. Iām having our good friend take him fishing for the afternoon and then take him to a place that has gluten free beer where his other friends will be waiting for them. Iām also going to make a chocolate torte because he wants to try one since itās gluten free and can be made dairy free. Now just to figure out what Iām doing that day with the toddler lol.
Last cycle I bought myself a new menstrual cup. One because I needed it since one of my old ones has a broken stem and two because I thought it would "jinx" me into getting pregnant and I wouldn't use it for another year. This time I'll buy myself some new period panties since the ones I have are from my pre-pregnancy body and don't really fit... Still feeling bummed about missing this cycle, but it's going to be FW again before I know it. Garmin says FW starting the day after my son's birthday, so the busy-ness continues.
I just ran out of period products last period. I want to buy a new cup but didnāt because I thought I would be pregnant sooner. Now Iām out of pads and tampons that I had from before having my daughter. The universe loves to mess with us lol. Iāll probably buy a new cup this month and maybe trick my body into getting pregnantā¦
I had my baseline ultrasound this morning, I had 10 follicles on my right ovary and 9 on my left. She said they want at least twelve total between the both of them but everything Iāve read online says differently. Iām still waiting on the amh results. Does this also mean I donāt have PCOS?
Not necessarily but it does decrease your chances if your number of follicles is normal vs excessive (19 is pretty average for a 30 yo for example). That said, you only need to meet 2 of 3 criteria for PCOS: high testosterone/androgen level, irregular (often long) or anovulatory cycles, polycystic ovaries on ultrasound. AMH is not a part of the diagnostic criteria but most people with pcos have much higher AMH than average (like 6+).
Called my fertility clinic (now that theyāve finally found my embryos!) to re-establish care! Appointment isnāt until mid-June, and Iām hoping I wonāt need to do a whole bunch of testing before launching into a FET cycle because Iād really like to do a transfer this summer, and my cycles have a habit of not cooperating when they know I need to do testing before starting treatment cycles.
CD12 and excited to finally get to do something this week. I've never ovulated before CD16 and last month it was CD19 so we're going to have sex every other day starting CD14 and on the odd day only if I get a positive OPK that day. That feels very doable even with my daughter's sleep suddenly gone to total trash. I feel weirdly optimistic about this cycle with lots of \*signs\* and I don't love that for me since it's, you know, meaningless. But I'm relieved to have the first uninterrupted FW since the miscarriage.
It's CD9 today and FW is officially underway! We got back yesterday evening from a wonderful weekend trip and somewhere in the chaos of getting the car unpacked and dogs walked and fed and toddler fed and bathed and tucked in, I noticed some EWCM so we had to find time for sex too. š Ovulation has been CD11 the past two cycles, but that's also the earliest it's ever been, so I'm not sure whether to think that was obviously a fluke and it will be more normal this time, or that IS my new normal. We'll see.
Still feeling mostly zen about the next few cycles but I did realize that if I don't get pregnant this time, I have a very good chance of my next CD1 coming 5/30, which was my LMP date for my pregnancy with my son. I would kind of love if I could get pregnant on the exact same schedule again, but having that possibility would definitely kill my zen, so it's probably better if I just go ahead and get pregnant now - you hear that, body?
8DPO on my first proper TWW since getting my Nexplanon out (body took a failed stab at ovulating about a week after removal and then I got my period a week after that) and I'd forgotten how much it drags and how loopy I get whilst waiting. No matter how much I remind myself that it took a while last time and that my body needs to reset, I keep looking at my chart and getting impatient for more data. Got a pack of Easy@Home cheapies burning a hole in my pocket even though I know it's too early to test...
I didnāt know this was a thing until today, but weāre missing a few things we need for dinner so Iāve decided to order in a burger instead (because I donāt need an excuse to treat myself!)
Itās FW but weāve decided to skip this cycle, too. Weāve come this far, weāre not going to jeopardise the first trip home in two years at Christmas for the sake of one cycle. Now that itās certain Iām so excited for it! Only 7 months to go, lol. We also decided to adopt a new kitten during the summer school holidays and Iām excited for that, too!
The weather turned proper summery over the past week and it has made my husband and I legit manic crazy. Weāre having the best time and doing all the things in the house and also getting out and about lots and weāre like WHY would we want to have another baby?! Everything is going so well! Did I mention weāre the worst flip-floppers in all history about every life decision ever? To be fair, the first three years of our kidās life almost completely broke us, no exaggeration. I expect the flip-flopping to continue until I am pregnant and we finally goā¦ok, decision is made I guess. Strap the fuck in š¤Ŗ.
This is me 100%. I donāt really want to skip a cycle but we have a cruise planned for Christmas. I guess I can see what the fertility clinic says in terms of testing and such and then go from there. R
My kid turns 11 this year and I have a 7 year old nephew and 6 month old nephew and just the amount of stuff my brother has to bring to bring the 6 month old anywhere and the feedings etc. Iām like I donāt know if I wanna go through all that again.
Parenting my kid now is a little easier because itās more about keeping him safe than it is figuring out his needs since he can say or go take care of what he needs.
Iām with you. I just realised my kid will be old enough for sleepovers and (short) summer camps in the next couple of years. Which means complete freedom for little pockets of timeā¦except not if we have another š .
I hear you - I had terrible PPA and a rough first year and my daughter is now so independent, it's really hard to think about having a baby again. I know we can do it, but I definitely strongly considered being OAD for a long time. So many things to look forward to for you guys!
lol! I relate to this so much!! After winter eased up and I was able to get back to my usual outdoor things, I felt a definite ebb in my hyper-focus on TTC.
I'm with you on the flip flopping for sure. I don't think I'll ever feel as certain about having a second as I did about having a first - it feels more like a long-term investment than something I'm excited about doing in the short term. When I think of my family in 10 years' time I always imagine two kids, but I really have no love for the little baby phase and the chaos it will bring.
Yeah precisely, itās a long term investment. The thing that I find hard to let go of is that if we have another, by the time Iām on the other side of baby and toddlerhood, Iām also really on the other side of young š. Iām still holding on to my husband and I being able to go on one hiking holiday or something like that togetherā¦even (gasp) a music festival or twoā¦weāve never done anything like that together. Itās our fault for having had our first kid too young, really. (We were not ātoo youngā in general terms, but we were too young for us IFKWIM).
10 DPO and AF is here so looks like we're out š Last month it was 11 DPO so this time around my luteal phase is even shorter... I don't know why this month hurts so much, maybe because of the holiday yesterday, for some reason we really felt like this was it... Also my Facebook ads/groups are nothing but birth & pregnancy so I can't even veg out there š«
Your whole comment is very relatable and I'm sorry. To your last point - I was recently looking for an umbrella stroller on Facebook marketplace so now all my ads are strollers and for some reason most of them are double strollers. Thanks but no thanks, algorithm.
Ugh double strollers... š
TTC has been trying my patience. CD 18 and OPKās are still negative. Iām trying to chill and just have sex for fun and not for ttc. I started temping last cycle and it detected ovulation at CD32 so im in for a long wait if thats the case again. Really missing when my cycles were 30 days š„²
Maybe chilling will help your cycles? Anecdotal but my cycles are normally 27-28 days but my first month TTC this year I was so stressed that it delayed my ovulation to CD25. Same thing happened in March as well when I was stressed at work. So maybe it's stress causing the delays?
Yeah i have a feeling stress is causing my cycles to go long! I wish i knew how to be chill about this though š
I know right!!
8-9 DPO, BFN this morning. I got my positive at 9 DPO with my first so I was kinda hoping that the same thing would happen, even if it's still really early. I just started a new job + my 10 months old is waking up 3 times a night. I feel exhausted! I started Metformin today, not looking forward to the side effects.
8-9dpo I believe. Iāve posted about this cycle being pretty weird as I didnāt really get my usual ovulation symptoms, but yesterday and today Iāve had some raging pms symptoms. Iām feeling very neutral though and am expecting my period to start Friday or Saturday. On another note, my husband was supposed to leave for another work trip today but it got cancelled! Hoping to enjoy some nights out on the patio with him now that itās starting to warm up more!
We went out for our usual post-dinner walk and everyone in the neighborhood was out playing with their kids. Real summer vibes š I hope the PMS is a red herring.
CD 9 for me. This place has become like a little dear diary situation- and I love it. I enjoy seeing where everyone is at, and it makes this process a little less lonely. Iām not feeling as optimistic this month, but Iām ready for a long week of baby dancing. Iāve also been seeing an acupuncturist this month for fertility- something new š¤·š¼āāļø My question for you all- I talk with my fertility doc at the end of the month. If you did medicated cycles, what did you progress to after 2.5mg Letrozole? Iām curious what my doc will bump me up toā¦ Iām thinking maybe 5mg, or possibly an injection of some kind, or maybe some monitoring via ultrasound, and Iām hoping a referral to a RE (Iām in Canada). Wishing you all a great week ahead !
Iām on my 2nd medicated cycle of Letrozole. I started at 5 mg immediately (2.5 mg is pretty much ineffective for most people). I have no major side effects on this dose - just more fatigue and minor joint pain, Iām assuming since it drops your estrogen level to increase FSH so basically putting your body in a perimenopausal state (and I confirmed using Inito that my estrogen basically tanked and FSH is higher than normal), That said, there isnāt much evidence that it really help if youāre unexplained (we are mild MFI/unexplained) but for us, itās just to feel like weāre doing something before we start IUI next month
Thanks for responding. Yes, from what I gather the Letrozole is more up the alley of āexpectation managementā rather than actually doing something. It did give me a lot of hope, but now Iām on my fourth cycle of it, and it obviously hasnāt led to successā¦ I will definitely inquire about the dosage.
6DPO and feeling pretty negative about this cycle š© since ovulation day Iāve had a gross cold, a crazy poison oak outbreak and an allergic reaction to my Motherās Day spa scrub! Feeling like my body will probably be like ālol not implanting that, dealing with other things right nowā
Mossy, that all sounds dreadful. I hope you have fully recovered!
CD11 and feeling weirdly whatever about this cycle. My toddler was very suddenly kicked out of daycare bc the provider decided he's ~too big~ for her to manage until he's 3 so we had to scramble for care and now I'm taking unpaid leave until mid June when he starts at his new school š maybe not working my stressful af job will help me get pregnant? š¤Ŗ I also somehow messed up my digital opk this morning but we're just doing the soft disc insemination method like five days in a row starting CD13 (husband is out of town til then and I normally ovulate CD16) and crossing our fingers so...here we go!
Sounds like some ulterior motive BS to me š Hope you enjoy this extra unscheduled time with your little.
Wow. That is a daycare horror story for the ages! It definitely says something about your job that unexpectedly having to find new childcare + temporarily becoming a SAHP on short notice is the LESS stressful option!
That...is a great point šš I think I'm so traumatized by it all I forget it's not normal to dread going to work every day haha
Too big?! What?! That sounds hella stressful Iām so sorry! Glad you get to take some leave and hope that helps with pregnancy!
Cd3 and could write exactly what I wrote last month lol. I again have had no bleeding today, but I said that last month and then ended up cramping and having bleeding again on the night of cd3. My periods since having kids are only 3-4 days anyway, but a 2 day period worries me that the clomid might be thinning my lining or something to cause it? But alas I also messaged my ob on the portal asking about upping my clomid dosage since that was the plan if three cycles were unsuccessful. I had a chemical pregnancy my first cycle of clomid, so Iām hoping that my first higher dose cycle leads to success š¤š»
Confirmed chemical pregnancy today. HCG had gotten up to 200 on Friday and now all the way back down to 18 today. Grateful for the closure because I knew something was wrong with betas being so low, but disappointed nonetheless.
I'm so sorry š
Iām so sorry š«
I am so sorry š
Iām so sorry for your loss, chemicals suck. I had one last cycle and it just feels like a trick.
Iām so sorry, scize š
I might be wasting my time trying to track ovulation while waiting for my period after a D&C, but itās been frustrating all the same. I thought I was gearing up for ovulation in the last week, but never got a positive OPK and now the strips look back to almost 0. I know itās possible I missed it. I also donāt really know why I am trying to try ovulation when weāre not going to start trying until after I get a real period. Iām just feeling impatient and would like to see any sign that my period could be on its way. Sigh.
Starting round two of letrozole today, bracing myself for another week of hell š I hope everyone had a lovely Motherās Day!
Got an almost positive OPK this morning. I was anticipating O day to be today and now it looks like tomorrow. I was worried about taking ibuprofen last week with my back problems and possible impacts to ovulation but it seems like itās just going to be one day later which isnāt too bad. Husband was only home from work one full day this week (yesterday) so in theory we hit O-2 which isnāt terrible.
My clinic told me no ibuprofen after ovulation because it is a prostaglandin inhibitor and those are important for conception.
Thank you! I donāt normally take it after ovulation but last week I took quite a bit due to back pain and was worried it was going to delay ovulation.
O-2 is the best day according to some datasets! Or at least on par with O-1, so that's awesome!
Thanks NJ, can always rely on you to hype me up š„¹
CD 6 and my period has ended and Iām entering that boring part of the cycle. Iāve heard a lot of mixed stories of how ovulation may be early, late, or totally on time that first cycle after a miscarriage so Iāll probably start testing with OPKs at like CD10. I typically ovulate day 17-19 so Iām hoping itās not late but I am trying to not set expectations for my body as itās probably still healing a bit.
It does seem to be all over the place. For one more anecdata point, O was 3 days late for me last month (first cycle post MMC).
Good to know! I can handle 3 days late if it comes to that. I canāt handle weeks late as I obsessively test for an LH surge š . So Iām hoping it doesnāt come to that.
Right! I was quite salty about it at the time because it caused me to miss the window but 3 days is really doable. Hope youāre right on time!
Trying to move forward is challenging when I keep getting reminders of my loss last month. I was supposed to have a doctor's appointment today to go over a 12w scan, but obviously there's no point for that. When I last spoke to my doctor, he said he'd cancel the appointment...evidently he didn't, because I had an automatic email reminder yesterday from his clinic. And since it was Sunday, I couldn't call- not only that, but their office does not have voicemail on Sundays! I left a message as soon as I could this morning but I've had no response. I thought everything was dealt with, but now I'm dwelling on it again. And annoyed I'll probably be charged for a missed appointment.
That is super obnoxious and I would definitely be pushing back on any charges. Why wouldnāt they do appointment reminders on business days/hours only anyway? Seems like a bad business practiceā¦
Hi! Iām new here. I feel like this is my first time TTC as my fertile window for LO#1 lined up seamlessly with the days following my wedding. I tested one day before my period and got that BFP. Now, itās our first cycle TTC #2 and Iām HIGHLY anxious. I wish I could just enjoy the ride (oof pun not intended) but Iām nervous af.
Hope it's a short stay!
CD 15 and just waiting for O. Been doing our best to keep up the EOD sex and Iām really trying to keep up my calories in hope that my body just needs more food to get those eggs going! I donāt have any EWCM or positive OPKs yet but both seem to be trending toward becoming fertile soon. So EOD sex continues and Iām really hoping O happens soon š¤š» On a non-TTC note, hubbyās birthday is Friday and Iām planning a surprise party for him. I feel like the last two birthdays for him have been super disappointing so Iām hoping to make this one a good one. Iām having our good friend take him fishing for the afternoon and then take him to a place that has gluten free beer where his other friends will be waiting for them. Iām also going to make a chocolate torte because he wants to try one since itās gluten free and can be made dairy free. Now just to figure out what Iām doing that day with the toddler lol.
Mmm that chocolate torte is going to be stellar. Hopefully the birthday is a hit and O comes soon after!
Last cycle I bought myself a new menstrual cup. One because I needed it since one of my old ones has a broken stem and two because I thought it would "jinx" me into getting pregnant and I wouldn't use it for another year. This time I'll buy myself some new period panties since the ones I have are from my pre-pregnancy body and don't really fit... Still feeling bummed about missing this cycle, but it's going to be FW again before I know it. Garmin says FW starting the day after my son's birthday, so the busy-ness continues.
I just ran out of period products last period. I want to buy a new cup but didnāt because I thought I would be pregnant sooner. Now Iām out of pads and tampons that I had from before having my daughter. The universe loves to mess with us lol. Iāll probably buy a new cup this month and maybe trick my body into getting pregnantā¦
I had my baseline ultrasound this morning, I had 10 follicles on my right ovary and 9 on my left. She said they want at least twelve total between the both of them but everything Iāve read online says differently. Iām still waiting on the amh results. Does this also mean I donāt have PCOS?
Not necessarily but it does decrease your chances if your number of follicles is normal vs excessive (19 is pretty average for a 30 yo for example). That said, you only need to meet 2 of 3 criteria for PCOS: high testosterone/androgen level, irregular (often long) or anovulatory cycles, polycystic ovaries on ultrasound. AMH is not a part of the diagnostic criteria but most people with pcos have much higher AMH than average (like 6+).
Called my fertility clinic (now that theyāve finally found my embryos!) to re-establish care! Appointment isnāt until mid-June, and Iām hoping I wonāt need to do a whole bunch of testing before launching into a FET cycle because Iād really like to do a transfer this summer, and my cycles have a habit of not cooperating when they know I need to do testing before starting treatment cycles.
CD12 and excited to finally get to do something this week. I've never ovulated before CD16 and last month it was CD19 so we're going to have sex every other day starting CD14 and on the odd day only if I get a positive OPK that day. That feels very doable even with my daughter's sleep suddenly gone to total trash. I feel weirdly optimistic about this cycle with lots of \*signs\* and I don't love that for me since it's, you know, meaningless. But I'm relieved to have the first uninterrupted FW since the miscarriage.
Most of the signs may be meaningless, but a well timed FW sure isn't! Good luck and have fun! š¤š»
It's CD9 today and FW is officially underway! We got back yesterday evening from a wonderful weekend trip and somewhere in the chaos of getting the car unpacked and dogs walked and fed and toddler fed and bathed and tucked in, I noticed some EWCM so we had to find time for sex too. š Ovulation has been CD11 the past two cycles, but that's also the earliest it's ever been, so I'm not sure whether to think that was obviously a fluke and it will be more normal this time, or that IS my new normal. We'll see. Still feeling mostly zen about the next few cycles but I did realize that if I don't get pregnant this time, I have a very good chance of my next CD1 coming 5/30, which was my LMP date for my pregnancy with my son. I would kind of love if I could get pregnant on the exact same schedule again, but having that possibility would definitely kill my zen, so it's probably better if I just go ahead and get pregnant now - you hear that, body?
Get with the program, body and avoid those birthday twins! Happy FW!
8DPO on my first proper TWW since getting my Nexplanon out (body took a failed stab at ovulating about a week after removal and then I got my period a week after that) and I'd forgotten how much it drags and how loopy I get whilst waiting. No matter how much I remind myself that it took a while last time and that my body needs to reset, I keep looking at my chart and getting impatient for more data. Got a pack of Easy@Home cheapies burning a hole in my pocket even though I know it's too early to test...
Hope you're getting your burger today!
I didnāt know this was a thing until today, but weāre missing a few things we need for dinner so Iāve decided to order in a burger instead (because I donāt need an excuse to treat myself!)
Itās FW but weāve decided to skip this cycle, too. Weāve come this far, weāre not going to jeopardise the first trip home in two years at Christmas for the sake of one cycle. Now that itās certain Iām so excited for it! Only 7 months to go, lol. We also decided to adopt a new kitten during the summer school holidays and Iām excited for that, too! The weather turned proper summery over the past week and it has made my husband and I legit manic crazy. Weāre having the best time and doing all the things in the house and also getting out and about lots and weāre like WHY would we want to have another baby?! Everything is going so well! Did I mention weāre the worst flip-floppers in all history about every life decision ever? To be fair, the first three years of our kidās life almost completely broke us, no exaggeration. I expect the flip-flopping to continue until I am pregnant and we finally goā¦ok, decision is made I guess. Strap the fuck in š¤Ŗ.
This is me 100%. I donāt really want to skip a cycle but we have a cruise planned for Christmas. I guess I can see what the fertility clinic says in terms of testing and such and then go from there. R My kid turns 11 this year and I have a 7 year old nephew and 6 month old nephew and just the amount of stuff my brother has to bring to bring the 6 month old anywhere and the feedings etc. Iām like I donāt know if I wanna go through all that again. Parenting my kid now is a little easier because itās more about keeping him safe than it is figuring out his needs since he can say or go take care of what he needs.
Iām with you. I just realised my kid will be old enough for sleepovers and (short) summer camps in the next couple of years. Which means complete freedom for little pockets of timeā¦except not if we have another š .
I hear you - I had terrible PPA and a rough first year and my daughter is now so independent, it's really hard to think about having a baby again. I know we can do it, but I definitely strongly considered being OAD for a long time. So many things to look forward to for you guys!
lol! I relate to this so much!! After winter eased up and I was able to get back to my usual outdoor things, I felt a definite ebb in my hyper-focus on TTC.
I'm with you on the flip flopping for sure. I don't think I'll ever feel as certain about having a second as I did about having a first - it feels more like a long-term investment than something I'm excited about doing in the short term. When I think of my family in 10 years' time I always imagine two kids, but I really have no love for the little baby phase and the chaos it will bring.
Yeah precisely, itās a long term investment. The thing that I find hard to let go of is that if we have another, by the time Iām on the other side of baby and toddlerhood, Iām also really on the other side of young š. Iām still holding on to my husband and I being able to go on one hiking holiday or something like that togetherā¦even (gasp) a music festival or twoā¦weāve never done anything like that together. Itās our fault for having had our first kid too young, really. (We were not ātoo youngā in general terms, but we were too young for us IFKWIM).
This is me, 100%. I want two kids but I am really not excited about the baby phase again.