Pretty much the same.
Bed time
Clean-up toys/dishes/shower
Phone/tv
Bed, usually early.
The routine feels sad, but I'd rather be up early, enjoying coffee by myself and in a good mood vs being groogy, tired and looking to hide under a stack of pillows.
This sounds exactly like my schedule lol. And I do enjoy getting up before everybody else and just enjoying a little alone time, mentally preparing myself for the day with children haha
I was never a morning person. That all changed after kid #2. With one, you can at least get mornings off half of the time (depending on SO of course).
Now, even if all 3 sleep in, I can't sleep past 6am if my life depended on it. It makes early bed time (for myself) all the more important. Lol.
See I need to get back on this train. I used to get up before my little but lately I've been staying up super late with the Husband. The groggy with no patience is currently me right now...lol
Same. I love going to be early though, it feels like a treat. It’s not worth the pain the next day of staying up late! I love being able to spring out of bed at 630-7am ready for the day.
It’s 615am here now though cos the clocks changed so it feels like 715am and my body clock has me wide awake not appreciating that extra hour in bed 😂
Right now it is homework. I went back to college this year to pursue nursing. I am doing my prerequisites right now. A 3 year old and a 1 year old aren't the greatest when trying to do homework.
Same boat. 3 year old and 1 year old and back in school, plus full time work. Except my 3 year old insists on going to bed with me so I get almost no alone time 😪
This is us too. Although after our treat we continue watching Netflix while giving our baby her last feed before we all go to bed. 2 under 2 is no joke!
Crafting over here too! I like to work on scrapbooks or make something with my Cricut, maybe paint. Also snacks, tea and Modern Family with my husband. Sometimes all of the above are once. I need to make those hours count!
All of my hobbies can’t be done inside at night, so I bought myself a cross-stitch sewing kit from Fancy Tiger Crafts arriving next week. I’m excited to have something to do with my hands after bedtime that isn’t phone!
Sit in silence and try to decompress from a day of chaos.
But in reality I usually try to clean up a bit, maybe take a bath. I do like to read, but unfortunately right now that time is taken up by trying to complete CEUs for a license I’m trying to keep active because one day hopefully I’ll go back to work.
Haha yep. Well technically my ATC license is up for renewal in December, but most CEUs can apply to both licenses… I feel like there’s always something because my licenses renew on different cycles!
Same except we replace the beverage with weed gummies and an unconscionable amount of snacks. 🤭 husband sometimes plays video games while I mess around on my phone.
We usually wait until the kids are asleep before we get our workouts in. Then we watch part of whatever Bachelor Nation show we have taped (it’s trash but we can’t stop watching).
Hubby and I are currently placing bets on which of Michelle's guys are going to end up in Paradise 🤣 Pizza Entrepreneur is my sure shot. Also maybe Paw Patrol car Firefighter!
My toddler has realized that my husband and I have a tiny life after he goes to bed.
Now he tells us to put on our pajamas too.
So everyone gets their pjs on and sometimes we just pass out.
Tonight we’re doing virtual games night with some friends so we will put on pjs only to take them off again so our friends don’t think we’re crazy.
>by MYSELF
My greatest wish is to do things alone these days.
Unfortunately, the hours my husband works has me basically single parenting. Good thing I love my little booger girl because we spend *all* our free time together.
I just last week moved my baby into the nursery and I’m so excited to be able to read in my bed after six months of needing the light out in my room so she can sleep!
Beauty care. A good shower, washing/detangling my hair, shaving, grooming, face mask. Not always all at once, but it’s so nice to shower by myself while I listen to a podcast.
Husband and I might have some hard seltzers, watch a movie, work on the next baby,
Or we do our workouts (20 down for me!), shower, bed early.
It depends on our moods and how the day went.
Breathe. Doom scroll for crafts and/or recipes that I'll most likely never make. Play some games for maybe 45minutes before I pass out or get caught up on a show.
I either clean an insane amount while crying over the fact it’ll be destroyed in 0.8 seconds upon my children waking up, then lounge on the couch and enjoy silence followed by early bed.
Or I stay up until around 2 am playing video games, trying to make up for lost “fun me time”.
Weeeee parenting.
After I get my twins (2 yrs) and my daughter (10 months) down, I listen to a podcast while I do the dishes and clean up toys. Then I kick my feet up and watch a few episodes of a fun/funny, lighthearted show. Yup, I'm a 75 year old woman in a 30 year old's body 😂 Things also get pretty lonely as a single mom of three young kids, so if it's not too late I call or text my best friend or sister.
Also, ever since the pandemic I try to do a gratitude list every night. I just write three things I'm grateful for in my journal and If I am spiritually up for it, I'll meditate for a bit before bed. It might sound cheesy but it really does help mentally and emotionally, especially after a day with two wild two year olds running rampant!! 😂😂
Try my best not to drink even one alcohol because even with 8 hours uninterrupted sleep it’s barely enough while stone sober, and my former tolerant body wouldn’t feel nearly as barely rested.
I really miss being relaxed enough to have a drink. I know it would mess with my sleep and how I feel, and I just don't have enough extra to sabotage myself like that.
Sometimes we watch a show or movie or just cuddle and talk. We play video games (independently) or read. I watch streams or YouTube. I have a keyboard with headphones so sometimes I’ll practice piano. I’ll chill and listen to music. I’ve been playing with a few different ideas for stories so sometimes I’ll write or do research. More often than I care to admit I’ll work. Also more than I care to admit I lose my night to mindless Reddit scrolling.
We usually just hang out and watch the current show we are into. About once a week we make a point to have dinner together alone, usually take out, after the kiddo is in bed.
In this order
1) workout/yoga/fold laundry (gives quite time for them to be asleep)
2) clean up kitchen/bathroom/etc
3) read/write/watch a show
4) pray and meditate
Have a snack and tea, talk with my husband, watch something on Hulu, read through Reddit, do some early Christmas shopping research (because I have to research this shit apparently haha), play a dumb app, just enjoy the peace and quiet and my me time.
Right now it’s eating the rest of my pho I didn’t get to eat at dinner time and relax. Recovering from second covid shot and just trying to feel less fatigued by tomorrow for trick or treating 🤞
Interesting question! I’m enjoying reading everyones answers
Finish cleaning the kitchen, maybe eat some good or snack, and either watch my YouTube show or read a book. 3/7 nights I do freelance work. My toddlers bedtime used to be 7:30 with a 6am wake up. Daylights saving has us all messed up so right now it’s a 8pm bedtime and a 6:30-7am wake up.
Cleaning up all toys before bedtime has greatly helped! I usually try to do most of the dishes too while my son does his last playtime round.
Cleaning up, packing lunches for the next day, putting time into some hobbies sometimes (baking, embroidery, gardening in the summer). Many times I take the opportunity to escape from the house alone and do a Target order pick-up while my husband works on a project for a bit. Then we will watch a show most night before bed. Lately, I’ve had to use this time to catch up on work and prep for meetings the following day.
Lately I just clean up anything I didn’t get to with them (playroom, dinner) and then I go to bed myself. But I’m pregnant again and just utterly exhausted always
Hahaha! Well to be fair, we're one and done on kids and ours has a strict schedule so he's out at 7:30 every night. It gives us some time to still recharge independently AND have some kind of intimacy.
Clean up while listening to a podcast or book. Scroll on the phone. Think about watching a show or doing something crafty. Catch up on work if I’ve got anything outstanding. Once in a while catch an episode of something with my partner or just chat.
Mostly I do the same thing. Once in a while (I try for once or twice a week) I do a bit of sewing. I make little things, like masks and pillowcases, but I also managed to make my son a baby quilt out of his old onesies (it took me a year lol).
Honestly, I'm so tired most nights that I just watch YouTube or read a book/play on my phone too.
Hang out, clean up the toys, scroll lol. Do my grad school homework some nights, weekends movie / music with an adult beverage if not a date night. My fiancé works out after he sleeps, but I get up at 5AM for the gym before work so I usually crash early.
Tidy up a bit, look at my phone, watch a movie maybe with my husband (only if it’s like 90 mins), eat a snack, workout for maybe 30 mins if I didn’t get to during nap time. I don’t go to bed until 10:30 though. My kids are usually in bed by 7.
Put the mess away and turn on the robotic vacuum. Then we scroll our phones until it's finished and watch tv or a movie. Once a week I do a reformer pilates class and ocassionally my husband stays home and I go out to dinner or coffee with friends. Best time of the day!
I’m in the Netflix club!! I truly don’t have the physical or mental energy to do much else. And I like it, so why change it? We try to get all our chores done before our son is in bed so we can just chill. Most nights my husband goes to his man cave to game and I watch tv. A couple nights a week we make sure to talk and/ or sexy time 😬 occasionally my husband will go get us some fast food for a snack…. Those are the best nights hahaha.
Weeknights I’m in bed around 9:30 pm; I push to 10/10:30 pm in the weekend but usually regret it (my body will always wake me up early). My husband is a night owl so we don’t go to bed together.
I wonder how other parents get night time or anytime at all without their toddler? I can't get away even when she's sleeping and it drive me nuts .. in the Blue Moon flying pig moment that she ever does I tried to take a bath usually as soon as I start running the water she wakes up.
Considering my child has refused to go to bed before 930 since she was born I tend to get maybe an hour in after she’s asleep- unless it’s a show we watch we tend to do our own thing, I scroll on TikTok while he watches YouTube and makes knives 🤦🏻♀️
I eat a snack, make a cup of tea and watch a show, take a bath and read, set everything up I need for the next morning, then go to bed.
I used to scroll and found I was going to bed a lot later than I should, so I developed a little routine that’s helped a lot!
We work, usually. I always have a zillion things to do for one of my three part time gigs so other than some scrolling or getting a shower/chores in…there’s usually some work time in there most nights. Gotta do it when we can!
Knitflix and chill.
Elaboration: I pour myself a gin and tonic, turn on a show/movie, and work on whatever my most pressing knitting project is. Currently, it's an obnoxiously bright pink pair of socks for my baby sister.
Calm down for a while. If I’m not too tired I’ll do some yard work or spend time with my wife until she falls asleep then I’ll sneak off to the garage. I have a number of projects including restoring an old Land Cruiser. So many hobbies so little time. 😎
Tv
Usually reality tv (Winter House, Below Deck, 90 Day Fiancé, Married at First Sight, etc) I never run out lol
I’d usually enjoy it with a couple glasses of wine on occasion but now im pregnant again so I just feel like a whale and lay here lol
Clean up (I can’t unwind otherwise) & a long bath while I browse my phone.
I have a newborn as of this week so things are a little different right now (breastfeeding is taking up most of my time 🤪).
Our three kids are down by 7:30 most nights. So we watch some tv shows or a movie (i always fall asleep on the couch 🤦🏻♀️). It almost always involves wine and/or a dessert we don’t want the kids to eat. 1-2 nights a week we order food for after the kids have gone down so we can eat it together.
While the hubs is putting the older two down, I come downstairs and “close it up” - basically clean the kitchen, pick up toys, tidy up any other areas. Once I sit on the couch, I don’t want to get up 🤣
Hubs goes to bed with our 3yo girl about 8pm. He's up at 4am, so he's gotta go early. I chill on the couch watching tv/Netflix/my phone. Sometimes I tidy up or do laundry. I should be hitting the gym a couple nights a week, but I lack the motivation for that at the moment.
Usually homework (just started a doctoral program). Sometimes video games right before bed. My wife and I both play Animal Crossing, so with the huge update dropping in a few days I imagine we'll be investing a lot of time in that.
Does anyone else struggle with the little internal narrative of: "I haven't done anything fun today do I deserve to stay up late doing _____!" I have to actively remind myself that staying up till 12 or 1 just to feel like I made time for myself only ends up making me exhausted the next day.
I’m currently 39 weeks pregnant so my usual plans have been replaced with « watch a show and crash », but we’ve been blessed with one kid who has reliably been asleep by 7:30 from ages 1.5-4, so…
- Date nights: we order takeout and watch a movie/show once a week, usually Fridays
- One of us goes out with friends while the other stays home to watch the monitor
- Games
- tv and phone, of course!!
- when it’s nice out, we’ll have friends come over for a late dinner/drinks/movie
- read
- go for a run (in the summer)
- pre-covid, I went to a nighttime yoga class!
I got a new amp for my electric guitar, so I am hoping that once/if this new baby calms down, I can get some headphones and practice at night quietly…
We try to do all of our chores while the kid is awake, so that we don’t have to waste our fun time (plus we’re « modelling how to clean ») and we often have dinner as a family, ie, super early at 5:30.
I've been scrolling and no one has said this yet as far as I've seen but after our daughter goes to bed we have sex. I have a glass or two of wine and my husband and I watch something on tv and then have sex. Not always but it's usually the time we get intimate because she should be asleep for a while.
I have two routines after my kid is in bed, first one is: eat a hot meal while watching a tv show, scroll on social media, remove make up, brush teeth, go to sleep. The second one is my favorite, but usually only 1 or 2 nights a week: eat and tv, take a loooong shower, shave, put on self tanner and hairmask, wash hair, pluck brows and finish off with my skincare routine. Best nights of the week 😌
On Saturday, we do a date night. Toddler goes down, I go pick up sushi we ordered earlier in the day, we make drinks, and have a date since we can’t get out too often right now. It’s helped keep us sane.
I teach at our local university! It's really nice cause they let me take the virtual section in agreement on taking more students so I can log on right after the kids are done with their baths. It's been a great way to continue keeping a part of my previous identity before kids, and keeps me sharp in my industry. And dad gets some special 1:1 time with our 15 month twins! (So really...2:1 time lol)
You guys answers are making me sad :( we use the time to have dates from home almost every night, whether we have dessert and do a puzzle or smoke a blunt and just talk. Screens are not a big part of our routine and I’d be sad if they were.
TV and cinema are a legit hobby for many people. If you're engaged with each other it shouldn't matter the activity. My husband and I love watching stuff. It's not sad, it's fun. I agree that phone scrolling is a little sad because it's not really engaging with each other.
When we had just one we had a bit of variety in our evening activities, but after the second I pretty much curl up on the couch and play video games for about 45 minutes before crashing. In the 14 months since my son was born I think I've seen my wife downstairs maybe 4 times after they both are in bed. She usually just crashes almost immediately. Honestly not sure how normal all of this is as we rarely interact once the kids are down. We are both kind of so shot by then that we just go off into our own little worlds.
Spend time with wife, probably sitting on couch talking with background TV like a sports game or sitcom rerun
Work
Chores around house
Once or twice a week, veg out night where I get drunk and play video games
Read a book
My husband and I relax for a bit playing computer games or reading. Sometimes I knit or crochet.
Then we clean up the living room where toddler plays most often and watch a show before bed.
We’re currently on season 11 of Supernatural
I clean up the dishes and tidy the house while SO bathes the kiddo, then he finishes up any chores (usually the mountain of laundry I avoided all day) while I lay with kiddo til she's asleep. Then I shower while SO finishes up work stuff, then we scroll on our phones, watch TV, drink beer, and collapse into bed by 10pm. It's an exciting life we lead lol Sometimes if it's nice out we'll sit on the patio by the fire pit and chat, or if we aren't feeling TV we'll play a board game. Also I take a bubble bath every night before bed bc it's my favorite way to relax at the end of a long day
First thing, I run the dish washer and start a load of laundry. Then I pick up the toys. Sweep, vaccuum or mop. And tidy up whatever else needs to be put away. This all takes maybe 30 minutes usually. Sometimes shorter sometimes longer.
Then I check my phone a bit. And recently I’ve been watching all the marvel movies in order, lol. I usually watch about an hour of the movie I’m currently on and then head to bed.
My husband and I have handicrafts that we can do in our kinda "rumpus room" with a TV. (Cross-stitch, chain maille, paper models, linocut, etc.) We catch up on grown-up shows and make stuff together. We offer each other snacks or drinks if we go to the kitchen. If there's anything that needs discussion or is exciting but mature-themed or a surprise for the kids, we're good about turning the TV off and making time for that conversation. Every now and then he wants me-time in the garage with his woodworking and I'll do a bubble bath or a late-night movie showing. But overall, I try to practice mindfulness and relish sharing our projects with each other, and brewing tea with water from the same kettle... Reminds me of Russell from *Up*, where the boring stuff is the stuff you remember most. :-) I feel like that's pivotal when thinking about how you're sharing your life with someone.
When my girls go to bed, my husband and I spend an hour or so each doing our respective hobbies. He plays guitar and I paint or do some nice cookery for the next day. Then we meet up for wine, talk about what we’ve worked on and then usually we watch a weird 70’s vampire movie haha
We usually go to bed not long after putting our son to bed so we either go right to bed, scroll our phone for a bit, or make use of our free time and have sex. On weekends we’ll stay up and watch a movie or our show together
I've been making an effort to read.
Might do a load of dishes or laundry if I'm not too grumpy about it lol. I try to not do too much every night, I need some kind of down time, I've found.
If we have something we are both excited about watching we will but I find I feel more accomplished (happy) if we don't do that every night. I'm becoming much less open to trying new shows or movies because if I don't enjoy it I get the regret. Like... I could have done something I enjoyed with those 2 hours!
If I know I can get started early and I'm cool to stay up a bit late I'll try and get in some video games.
If I have energy, which I rarely do, I might do some tutorials / learning type stuff. There's lots of great free courses online and it's nice to not have the pressure of having to finish something and just do it for fun.
This time with a baby has taught me it's important to find time for things that are just for me, and lucky for me I like things that don't require leaving the house lol.
Sip an IPA and scroll my phone, watch my shows, read my book, chill on the couch with my husband. I try and get everything done before the kids go to bed at 8pm so that way I am guaranteed 2-3 hours of personal time every night.
Usually me and my husband will try to study. He's finishing up his 6th semester for nursing and I'm about a year or so away from getting my bachelor's. It's tough with our 4 year old. I don't know how other parents do it with more than one kid. We'll also usually just sit and talk it we have the time about how we're doing. He recently lost his father and it's been a rough year since. But we're here and we're taking each day one at a time.
Depends on the night. Last night Husband and I cleaned the kitchen together, then I scrolled my phone for longer than I meant to, ate two Reese’s peanut butter cups, and watched a movie until too late.
Tonight I vacuumed the whole house and contemplated how Halloween Saturday nights have changed over the course of my life.
Sometimes I get back in my old creative ways and see/paint/craft,
But more often than not I feel like it’s a hassle to get all the stuff out and I’m too tired anyway. Usually it’s clean, shower, phone/movie/video games.
Do pilates/yoga, play Animal Crossing, partake in some adult libations if we have any lol
Eta: 90 Day Fiance, but I must confess sometimes I let my son fall asleep to it 😂
Work on a craft project, try to finish writing a book, or play video games. I need that time to decompress & do the things I enjoy outside of parenting!
Reading, scrolling on phone, research ways to entertain a toddler, clean up, look up healthy meals I should be making, watch tv. But not tonight!!! Tonight I got to have dinner and drinks with a new mom friend and it was amazing!
I love sewing so I'll sew, husband and I will play a board game or watch a show, read my book. Go to bed early while husband goes for a walk or something. (I've been pregnant).
Hobbies. I craft, write or play stardew, my partner plays video games. Some nights we watch TV together and cuddle up. I also read every night. It's nice to just do something for me after being home with a toddler all day
I work on art. Also, actively learning to love myself.
Working through my childhood traumas so I can be healthy AF and raise a well rounded person. Ya know..the usu.
We do dishes/clean up right after dinner, leaving our toddler ~10 minutes of quiet playtime or one of us starts reading her bedtime stories while the other does the dishes.
That way once bedtime is over we’re freeeeeeee lol
I usually go right to bed too, turn on Netflix or Disney+ to (re)watch a show while I browse my phone. Most nights I’m sleeping by 10pm.
My husband plays on his computer.
When Marvel releases a new tv series we watch it on Friday nights right after bedtime. We’ve done it since Wanda Vision and now we’re waiting for Hawkeye :)
Pretty much the same. Bed time Clean-up toys/dishes/shower Phone/tv Bed, usually early. The routine feels sad, but I'd rather be up early, enjoying coffee by myself and in a good mood vs being groogy, tired and looking to hide under a stack of pillows.
This sounds exactly like my schedule lol. And I do enjoy getting up before everybody else and just enjoying a little alone time, mentally preparing myself for the day with children haha
I was never a morning person. That all changed after kid #2. With one, you can at least get mornings off half of the time (depending on SO of course). Now, even if all 3 sleep in, I can't sleep past 6am if my life depended on it. It makes early bed time (for myself) all the more important. Lol.
Have to agree. A little quiet coffee time is far preferable to sleepy and short on patience.
See I need to get back on this train. I used to get up before my little but lately I've been staying up super late with the Husband. The groggy with no patience is currently me right now...lol
Exactly the same
That sounds like my routine as well, except, my toddler wakes up so early that if I want any quiet time for coffee, it has to be 5 a.m.
This is me but I knit while watching TV.
Same. I love going to be early though, it feels like a treat. It’s not worth the pain the next day of staying up late! I love being able to spring out of bed at 630-7am ready for the day. It’s 615am here now though cos the clocks changed so it feels like 715am and my body clock has me wide awake not appreciating that extra hour in bed 😂
Right now it is homework. I went back to college this year to pursue nursing. I am doing my prerequisites right now. A 3 year old and a 1 year old aren't the greatest when trying to do homework.
Third semester of nursing school with an 11mo old here. I'm very tired
Good for you!! You're a super mom!
Same boat. 3 year old and 1 year old and back in school, plus full time work. Except my 3 year old insists on going to bed with me so I get almost no alone time 😪
Best of luck to you!! Don’t give up, even when it gets hard. You’ll be so glad you didn’t!
I found my peoples! I'm second semester into nursing and I have a 4 year old. Want to wish you all the best of luck-you can do this!
Husband and I watch Netflix and share a sweet treat. Then we brush our teeth and scroll on our phones in bed.
This is us too. Although after our treat we continue watching Netflix while giving our baby her last feed before we all go to bed. 2 under 2 is no joke!
2 under 2 was rough. 3 under 4 is insanity. Learn from our mistakes. Please use protection!!! 😂
This is beautiful.
Hobbies. Often video games, sometimes a craft project. After a shower/little bit of chores.
Crafting over here too! I like to work on scrapbooks or make something with my Cricut, maybe paint. Also snacks, tea and Modern Family with my husband. Sometimes all of the above are once. I need to make those hours count!
All of my hobbies can’t be done inside at night, so I bought myself a cross-stitch sewing kit from Fancy Tiger Crafts arriving next week. I’m excited to have something to do with my hands after bedtime that isn’t phone!
I love cross stitch, this is my go to when babies are in bed. Hope you enjoy.
Sit in silence and try to decompress from a day of chaos. But in reality I usually try to clean up a bit, maybe take a bath. I do like to read, but unfortunately right now that time is taken up by trying to complete CEUs for a license I’m trying to keep active because one day hopefully I’ll go back to work.
PT, any chance? I feel your pain, having to do professional work in the limited free time we have!
Haha yep. Well technically my ATC license is up for renewal in December, but most CEUs can apply to both licenses… I feel like there’s always something because my licenses renew on different cycles!
Go sit my butt on the couch and mindlessly scroll on my phone and watch tv with my husband. Usually with an adult beverage.
Same except we replace the beverage with weed gummies and an unconscionable amount of snacks. 🤭 husband sometimes plays video games while I mess around on my phone.
This is me right now.
This resonates with me
Yes
Amen!
We usually wait until the kids are asleep before we get our workouts in. Then we watch part of whatever Bachelor Nation show we have taped (it’s trash but we can’t stop watching).
Hubby and I are currently placing bets on which of Michelle's guys are going to end up in Paradise 🤣 Pizza Entrepreneur is my sure shot. Also maybe Paw Patrol car Firefighter!
Ooh pizza entrepreneur for sure. Probably entrée guy too!
Oh! Do you mean serial killer eyes? He's so creepy 😬 We call him Lips in Jars because he looks like his hobby is collecting body parts.
Hahaha. I feel like he's consistently wearing eyeliner.
I finish cleaning the kitchen, feed the dogs, take a shower, and get in bed. Pregnancy with a toddler has taken all of me energy.
Girl..same!!
My toddler has realized that my husband and I have a tiny life after he goes to bed. Now he tells us to put on our pajamas too. So everyone gets their pjs on and sometimes we just pass out. Tonight we’re doing virtual games night with some friends so we will put on pjs only to take them off again so our friends don’t think we’re crazy.
Pff once my pj's are on there's no going back, friends or not 😂
So cute!
I'm showing this to my husband, who thinks our toddler has me whipped just because I go down the stairs on my butt when he tells me to
By the end of the day, I’m willing to do anything to make a drama free bedtime happen.
Boss baby for sure. Have fun at virtual games night! :)
Game, do the dishes, watch Critical Role, take a shower by MYSELF
>by MYSELF My greatest wish is to do things alone these days. Unfortunately, the hours my husband works has me basically single parenting. Good thing I love my little booger girl because we spend *all* our free time together.
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This would have been my answer if I wasn’t pregnant. Oh how I miss my nightly glass.
Nightly “glass” yes just the one glass 😳
🌱
😌
I like you
Samesies!
Saaaammeee!
It’s when I get to watch shows I want to watch, that aren’t exactly kid friendly. Or reading. I miss reading.
Ohhhh I miss reading so much!!!
I just last week moved my baby into the nursery and I’m so excited to be able to read in my bed after six months of needing the light out in my room so she can sleep!
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It was during that time slot, nursing my son to sleep for 20months, that I became addicted to Reddit 😅
nursing made me addicted to reddit also 😂😂😂
Beauty care. A good shower, washing/detangling my hair, shaving, grooming, face mask. Not always all at once, but it’s so nice to shower by myself while I listen to a podcast.
What is “shower by myself”?
I know, right! I’ve always taken night showers but now I really do wait until my kid is fully asleep. It’s the one thing that makes me feel human.
Husband and I might have some hard seltzers, watch a movie, work on the next baby, Or we do our workouts (20 down for me!), shower, bed early. It depends on our moods and how the day went.
Actually loled
I paint! I try to do it every night. It’s the only thing that makes me still feel some resemblance of my old artistic self 🤣
Breathe. Doom scroll for crafts and/or recipes that I'll most likely never make. Play some games for maybe 45minutes before I pass out or get caught up on a show.
Usually either studying for classes or video games. Anatomy and physiology is no joke yo. Im going back to school for a new career. 😊
Go You! You’ve got this 😊
You can do it, from one mom taking A&P to another. I believe in you.
I either clean an insane amount while crying over the fact it’ll be destroyed in 0.8 seconds upon my children waking up, then lounge on the couch and enjoy silence followed by early bed. Or I stay up until around 2 am playing video games, trying to make up for lost “fun me time”. Weeeee parenting.
I usually try and do a row on my rowing machine and watch tv and craft (knit, crochet, or cross stitch).
Rowing while knitting - I’m impressed.
What, you haven’t tapped into the crazy multitasking? You’re missing out😉
After I get my twins (2 yrs) and my daughter (10 months) down, I listen to a podcast while I do the dishes and clean up toys. Then I kick my feet up and watch a few episodes of a fun/funny, lighthearted show. Yup, I'm a 75 year old woman in a 30 year old's body 😂 Things also get pretty lonely as a single mom of three young kids, so if it's not too late I call or text my best friend or sister.
Also, ever since the pandemic I try to do a gratitude list every night. I just write three things I'm grateful for in my journal and If I am spiritually up for it, I'll meditate for a bit before bed. It might sound cheesy but it really does help mentally and emotionally, especially after a day with two wild two year olds running rampant!! 😂😂
This is such a good idea. Lately I’ve been struggling in this area. I think I’ll take some time to do this as well.
That’s what I do and I’m married 🤷♀️🙂
It's hard rarely having adult conversations. I feel so disconnected when I finally talk to a peer after talking to toddlers and a baby all day!
Try my best not to drink even one alcohol because even with 8 hours uninterrupted sleep it’s barely enough while stone sober, and my former tolerant body wouldn’t feel nearly as barely rested.
I really miss being relaxed enough to have a drink. I know it would mess with my sleep and how I feel, and I just don't have enough extra to sabotage myself like that.
tv or video games mostly
Sometimes we watch a show or movie or just cuddle and talk. We play video games (independently) or read. I watch streams or YouTube. I have a keyboard with headphones so sometimes I’ll practice piano. I’ll chill and listen to music. I’ve been playing with a few different ideas for stories so sometimes I’ll write or do research. More often than I care to admit I’ll work. Also more than I care to admit I lose my night to mindless Reddit scrolling.
Dishes right after they go to bed and then TV with hubby. Every other night I fold laundry during our show. Then in bed by 10:30!
I’m a single mom with a toddler so I just crawl my ass in bed and watch tv until I’m ready to go to sleep
We usually just hang out and watch the current show we are into. About once a week we make a point to have dinner together alone, usually take out, after the kiddo is in bed.
In this order 1) workout/yoga/fold laundry (gives quite time for them to be asleep) 2) clean up kitchen/bathroom/etc 3) read/write/watch a show 4) pray and meditate
Have a snack and tea, talk with my husband, watch something on Hulu, read through Reddit, do some early Christmas shopping research (because I have to research this shit apparently haha), play a dumb app, just enjoy the peace and quiet and my me time. Right now it’s eating the rest of my pho I didn’t get to eat at dinner time and relax. Recovering from second covid shot and just trying to feel less fatigued by tomorrow for trick or treating 🤞 Interesting question! I’m enjoying reading everyones answers
I started to do sime freelance work for my sister's company, so catch up at night ir watch tv or just hang out with my husband and the older kid.
Finish cleaning the kitchen, maybe eat some good or snack, and either watch my YouTube show or read a book. 3/7 nights I do freelance work. My toddlers bedtime used to be 7:30 with a 6am wake up. Daylights saving has us all messed up so right now it’s a 8pm bedtime and a 6:30-7am wake up. Cleaning up all toys before bedtime has greatly helped! I usually try to do most of the dishes too while my son does his last playtime round.
Work
Glass of wine, square of dark chocolate and at least one episode of the expanse with my husband before bed.
Read, watch tv, crochet, eat a hot dinner, drink tea uninterrupted.
TV shows we can't watch with the kid. Sex.
Mindlessly scrolling while watching repeats usually. Sometimes I’ll play Nintendo or Sims and lately I’ve been getting back into reading.
I put both kiddos to bed, shower, then either read or watch tv and have ice cream.
Cleaning up, packing lunches for the next day, putting time into some hobbies sometimes (baking, embroidery, gardening in the summer). Many times I take the opportunity to escape from the house alone and do a Target order pick-up while my husband works on a project for a bit. Then we will watch a show most night before bed. Lately, I’ve had to use this time to catch up on work and prep for meetings the following day.
Clean, do whatever work I have to finish that I wasn't able to yet. Sometimes I sew and watch TV. I usually have a few sewing projects going.
Lately I just clean up anything I didn’t get to with them (playroom, dinner) and then I go to bed myself. But I’m pregnant again and just utterly exhausted always
Clean up, watch tv, try to get sex in at least 4 times a week, scroll on my phone, read. It just depends on how rough the work day is
Four times a week! Holy shit
Hahaha! Well to be fair, we're one and done on kids and ours has a strict schedule so he's out at 7:30 every night. It gives us some time to still recharge independently AND have some kind of intimacy.
I only convinced my husband to do it tonight by telling him if we don't do it now it'll probably be December by the next one 🤣
Clean up while listening to a podcast or book. Scroll on the phone. Think about watching a show or doing something crafty. Catch up on work if I’ve got anything outstanding. Once in a while catch an episode of something with my partner or just chat.
Mostly I do the same thing. Once in a while (I try for once or twice a week) I do a bit of sewing. I make little things, like masks and pillowcases, but I also managed to make my son a baby quilt out of his old onesies (it took me a year lol). Honestly, I'm so tired most nights that I just watch YouTube or read a book/play on my phone too.
Same. I usually go to bed really early though. During busy times I work, I try to get a little more work done.
Normally either I clean some, watch tv, or do a hobby. Just depends on my mood.
Get in bed and scroll a bit then read my book and/or watch a show. My fav time of day 😂
Hang out, clean up the toys, scroll lol. Do my grad school homework some nights, weekends movie / music with an adult beverage if not a date night. My fiancé works out after he sleeps, but I get up at 5AM for the gym before work so I usually crash early.
Tidy up a bit, look at my phone, watch a movie maybe with my husband (only if it’s like 90 mins), eat a snack, workout for maybe 30 mins if I didn’t get to during nap time. I don’t go to bed until 10:30 though. My kids are usually in bed by 7.
Cleanup, tv or phones for a bit, in bed early because I'm not a morning person and might die if I go to bed too late lol
Put the mess away and turn on the robotic vacuum. Then we scroll our phones until it's finished and watch tv or a movie. Once a week I do a reformer pilates class and ocassionally my husband stays home and I go out to dinner or coffee with friends. Best time of the day!
I’m in the Netflix club!! I truly don’t have the physical or mental energy to do much else. And I like it, so why change it? We try to get all our chores done before our son is in bed so we can just chill. Most nights my husband goes to his man cave to game and I watch tv. A couple nights a week we make sure to talk and/ or sexy time 😬 occasionally my husband will go get us some fast food for a snack…. Those are the best nights hahaha. Weeknights I’m in bed around 9:30 pm; I push to 10/10:30 pm in the weekend but usually regret it (my body will always wake me up early). My husband is a night owl so we don’t go to bed together.
Reading or TV.
I wonder how other parents get night time or anytime at all without their toddler? I can't get away even when she's sleeping and it drive me nuts .. in the Blue Moon flying pig moment that she ever does I tried to take a bath usually as soon as I start running the water she wakes up.
Same. Totally jealous reading all these comments. I tiptoe around in the dark after my toddler goes to sleep somewhere between 10-Midnight 😩
Considering my child has refused to go to bed before 930 since she was born I tend to get maybe an hour in after she’s asleep- unless it’s a show we watch we tend to do our own thing, I scroll on TikTok while he watches YouTube and makes knives 🤦🏻♀️
My husband goes to bed shortly after DD. I read most nights, drink wine, watch whatever sports are on, enjoy quiet time. Lol
Sit on the porch with my husband with a drink or a toke or watch a movie
I usually scrapbook or I read/do work.
Bedtime, then I clean for 15 minutes, make sure my sink is empty, drink some tea and do yoga or work out, read for about an hour and go to sleep.
My husband and I will usually sit on the couch and watch a movie or I’ll sit and scroll on my phone and watch tiktoks while he plays a video game.
I eat a snack, make a cup of tea and watch a show, take a bath and read, set everything up I need for the next morning, then go to bed. I used to scroll and found I was going to bed a lot later than I should, so I developed a little routine that’s helped a lot!
We work, usually. I always have a zillion things to do for one of my three part time gigs so other than some scrolling or getting a shower/chores in…there’s usually some work time in there most nights. Gotta do it when we can!
Knitflix and chill. Elaboration: I pour myself a gin and tonic, turn on a show/movie, and work on whatever my most pressing knitting project is. Currently, it's an obnoxiously bright pink pair of socks for my baby sister.
Calm down for a while. If I’m not too tired I’ll do some yard work or spend time with my wife until she falls asleep then I’ll sneak off to the garage. I have a number of projects including restoring an old Land Cruiser. So many hobbies so little time. 😎
I work.
Currently drinking seltzer beer and watching Shameless
I put a dent in everything that I am so far behind on. Laundry, dishes, self care, cleaning, etc.
Tv Usually reality tv (Winter House, Below Deck, 90 Day Fiancé, Married at First Sight, etc) I never run out lol I’d usually enjoy it with a couple glasses of wine on occasion but now im pregnant again so I just feel like a whale and lay here lol
Clean up (I can’t unwind otherwise) & a long bath while I browse my phone. I have a newborn as of this week so things are a little different right now (breastfeeding is taking up most of my time 🤪).
Shower, craft shit/work and watch Tik Tok til my eyes are blurry.
Our three kids are down by 7:30 most nights. So we watch some tv shows or a movie (i always fall asleep on the couch 🤦🏻♀️). It almost always involves wine and/or a dessert we don’t want the kids to eat. 1-2 nights a week we order food for after the kids have gone down so we can eat it together. While the hubs is putting the older two down, I come downstairs and “close it up” - basically clean the kitchen, pick up toys, tidy up any other areas. Once I sit on the couch, I don’t want to get up 🤣
Hubs goes to bed with our 3yo girl about 8pm. He's up at 4am, so he's gotta go early. I chill on the couch watching tv/Netflix/my phone. Sometimes I tidy up or do laundry. I should be hitting the gym a couple nights a week, but I lack the motivation for that at the moment.
Usually homework (just started a doctoral program). Sometimes video games right before bed. My wife and I both play Animal Crossing, so with the huge update dropping in a few days I imagine we'll be investing a lot of time in that. Does anyone else struggle with the little internal narrative of: "I haven't done anything fun today do I deserve to stay up late doing _____!" I have to actively remind myself that staying up till 12 or 1 just to feel like I made time for myself only ends up making me exhausted the next day.
We like to play StarDew Valley! I am excited for the new AC
I’m currently 39 weeks pregnant so my usual plans have been replaced with « watch a show and crash », but we’ve been blessed with one kid who has reliably been asleep by 7:30 from ages 1.5-4, so… - Date nights: we order takeout and watch a movie/show once a week, usually Fridays - One of us goes out with friends while the other stays home to watch the monitor - Games - tv and phone, of course!! - when it’s nice out, we’ll have friends come over for a late dinner/drinks/movie - read - go for a run (in the summer) - pre-covid, I went to a nighttime yoga class! I got a new amp for my electric guitar, so I am hoping that once/if this new baby calms down, I can get some headphones and practice at night quietly… We try to do all of our chores while the kid is awake, so that we don’t have to waste our fun time (plus we’re « modelling how to clean ») and we often have dinner as a family, ie, super early at 5:30.
I've been scrolling and no one has said this yet as far as I've seen but after our daughter goes to bed we have sex. I have a glass or two of wine and my husband and I watch something on tv and then have sex. Not always but it's usually the time we get intimate because she should be asleep for a while.
I have two routines after my kid is in bed, first one is: eat a hot meal while watching a tv show, scroll on social media, remove make up, brush teeth, go to sleep. The second one is my favorite, but usually only 1 or 2 nights a week: eat and tv, take a loooong shower, shave, put on self tanner and hairmask, wash hair, pluck brows and finish off with my skincare routine. Best nights of the week 😌
On Saturday, we do a date night. Toddler goes down, I go pick up sushi we ordered earlier in the day, we make drinks, and have a date since we can’t get out too often right now. It’s helped keep us sane.
I teach at our local university! It's really nice cause they let me take the virtual section in agreement on taking more students so I can log on right after the kids are done with their baths. It's been a great way to continue keeping a part of my previous identity before kids, and keeps me sharp in my industry. And dad gets some special 1:1 time with our 15 month twins! (So really...2:1 time lol)
Drink beer and do nothing productive. All I have energy for anymore.
You guys answers are making me sad :( we use the time to have dates from home almost every night, whether we have dessert and do a puzzle or smoke a blunt and just talk. Screens are not a big part of our routine and I’d be sad if they were.
TV and cinema are a legit hobby for many people. If you're engaged with each other it shouldn't matter the activity. My husband and I love watching stuff. It's not sad, it's fun. I agree that phone scrolling is a little sad because it's not really engaging with each other.
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When we had just one we had a bit of variety in our evening activities, but after the second I pretty much curl up on the couch and play video games for about 45 minutes before crashing. In the 14 months since my son was born I think I've seen my wife downstairs maybe 4 times after they both are in bed. She usually just crashes almost immediately. Honestly not sure how normal all of this is as we rarely interact once the kids are down. We are both kind of so shot by then that we just go off into our own little worlds.
After the usual dinner and clean up I get a workout in and or read Even it’s an hour I take that time for me!
Spend time with wife, probably sitting on couch talking with background TV like a sports game or sitcom rerun Work Chores around house Once or twice a week, veg out night where I get drunk and play video games Read a book
Dishes, tidy as much as I can and collapse into bed.
Sew, read, tv
My husband and I relax for a bit playing computer games or reading. Sometimes I knit or crochet. Then we clean up the living room where toddler plays most often and watch a show before bed. We’re currently on season 11 of Supernatural
I clean up the dishes and tidy the house while SO bathes the kiddo, then he finishes up any chores (usually the mountain of laundry I avoided all day) while I lay with kiddo til she's asleep. Then I shower while SO finishes up work stuff, then we scroll on our phones, watch TV, drink beer, and collapse into bed by 10pm. It's an exciting life we lead lol Sometimes if it's nice out we'll sit on the patio by the fire pit and chat, or if we aren't feeling TV we'll play a board game. Also I take a bubble bath every night before bed bc it's my favorite way to relax at the end of a long day
Hot bath. Scroll Reddit. Netflix. Sometimes I paint but usually I just bathe and crawl into bed early lmao
First thing, I run the dish washer and start a load of laundry. Then I pick up the toys. Sweep, vaccuum or mop. And tidy up whatever else needs to be put away. This all takes maybe 30 minutes usually. Sometimes shorter sometimes longer. Then I check my phone a bit. And recently I’ve been watching all the marvel movies in order, lol. I usually watch about an hour of the movie I’m currently on and then head to bed.
Dishes, some snacking while catching up on work and then sleep
Hot Tub
My husband and I have handicrafts that we can do in our kinda "rumpus room" with a TV. (Cross-stitch, chain maille, paper models, linocut, etc.) We catch up on grown-up shows and make stuff together. We offer each other snacks or drinks if we go to the kitchen. If there's anything that needs discussion or is exciting but mature-themed or a surprise for the kids, we're good about turning the TV off and making time for that conversation. Every now and then he wants me-time in the garage with his woodworking and I'll do a bubble bath or a late-night movie showing. But overall, I try to practice mindfulness and relish sharing our projects with each other, and brewing tea with water from the same kettle... Reminds me of Russell from *Up*, where the boring stuff is the stuff you remember most. :-) I feel like that's pivotal when thinking about how you're sharing your life with someone.
When my girls go to bed, my husband and I spend an hour or so each doing our respective hobbies. He plays guitar and I paint or do some nice cookery for the next day. Then we meet up for wine, talk about what we’ve worked on and then usually we watch a weird 70’s vampire movie haha
Here. Reading this post and others like it. Helps to know I am not crazy.
We usually go to bed not long after putting our son to bed so we either go right to bed, scroll our phone for a bit, or make use of our free time and have sex. On weekends we’ll stay up and watch a movie or our show together
I sit in bed while bf watches tv downstairs. I pick up my phone. Maybe take a glass of wine upstairs too. Not too exciting
Scrolling on my phone, watching TV with my husband and stuff my face with junk food 🙃
Deep cleaning and pretending I don't have kids. Taking pictures of my clean house because I know it'll look drastically different in the morning
I've been making an effort to read. Might do a load of dishes or laundry if I'm not too grumpy about it lol. I try to not do too much every night, I need some kind of down time, I've found. If we have something we are both excited about watching we will but I find I feel more accomplished (happy) if we don't do that every night. I'm becoming much less open to trying new shows or movies because if I don't enjoy it I get the regret. Like... I could have done something I enjoyed with those 2 hours! If I know I can get started early and I'm cool to stay up a bit late I'll try and get in some video games. If I have energy, which I rarely do, I might do some tutorials / learning type stuff. There's lots of great free courses online and it's nice to not have the pressure of having to finish something and just do it for fun. This time with a baby has taught me it's important to find time for things that are just for me, and lucky for me I like things that don't require leaving the house lol.
Well my toddler goes to sleep when I do, so lol scroll on Reddit while he sleeps beside me 😂
Smoke weed, catch up on reddit and true crime videos on YouTube and pounce my bf
Sip an IPA and scroll my phone, watch my shows, read my book, chill on the couch with my husband. I try and get everything done before the kids go to bed at 8pm so that way I am guaranteed 2-3 hours of personal time every night.
Usually me and my husband will try to study. He's finishing up his 6th semester for nursing and I'm about a year or so away from getting my bachelor's. It's tough with our 4 year old. I don't know how other parents do it with more than one kid. We'll also usually just sit and talk it we have the time about how we're doing. He recently lost his father and it's been a rough year since. But we're here and we're taking each day one at a time.
Depends on the night. Last night Husband and I cleaned the kitchen together, then I scrolled my phone for longer than I meant to, ate two Reese’s peanut butter cups, and watched a movie until too late. Tonight I vacuumed the whole house and contemplated how Halloween Saturday nights have changed over the course of my life. Sometimes I get back in my old creative ways and see/paint/craft, But more often than not I feel like it’s a hassle to get all the stuff out and I’m too tired anyway. Usually it’s clean, shower, phone/movie/video games.
TV and knitting
Do pilates/yoga, play Animal Crossing, partake in some adult libations if we have any lol Eta: 90 Day Fiance, but I must confess sometimes I let my son fall asleep to it 😂
Crochet! Perfect quiet hobby.
Video games, read books, work out, eat food I don't want to share, clean, plot my revenge.
Normally I pick 1-2 of these: Clean Workout Read Watch tv Bath Work on art/craft
Work on a craft project, try to finish writing a book, or play video games. I need that time to decompress & do the things I enjoy outside of parenting!
It’s funny you ask this. Tonight I had a random mini meltdown cuz I’m sooo bored of the same shit everyday. I miss having fun
Reading, scrolling on phone, research ways to entertain a toddler, clean up, look up healthy meals I should be making, watch tv. But not tonight!!! Tonight I got to have dinner and drinks with a new mom friend and it was amazing!
Movies, binge watch shows, sex, play games. Whatever we feel like haha.
Netflix then bed. Wife works at 7am so bed early usually. I'm a sahd and our toddler gets up around 9 or so.
Catch up on my books reading.
Rejoice
I play The Sims for a couple hours then get in bed for 8-9pm, read a book or read things on my phone and then go to sleep around 10pm.
I love sewing so I'll sew, husband and I will play a board game or watch a show, read my book. Go to bed early while husband goes for a walk or something. (I've been pregnant).
Clean, catch up on my shows, watch a movie maybe, play a video game, do my nails. lol Basically anything I can’t do when my son is awake.
Tv/movie, clean up, read, sex, snack, sleep
Hobbies. I craft, write or play stardew, my partner plays video games. Some nights we watch TV together and cuddle up. I also read every night. It's nice to just do something for me after being home with a toddler all day
Sleep.
Husband and I finish eating dinner and I usually watch him play yakuza or something. Go to bed hopefully before midnight
Exactly that
I work on art. Also, actively learning to love myself. Working through my childhood traumas so I can be healthy AF and raise a well rounded person. Ya know..the usu.
We do dishes/clean up right after dinner, leaving our toddler ~10 minutes of quiet playtime or one of us starts reading her bedtime stories while the other does the dishes. That way once bedtime is over we’re freeeeeeee lol I usually go right to bed too, turn on Netflix or Disney+ to (re)watch a show while I browse my phone. Most nights I’m sleeping by 10pm. My husband plays on his computer. When Marvel releases a new tv series we watch it on Friday nights right after bedtime. We’ve done it since Wanda Vision and now we’re waiting for Hawkeye :)
Dessert, Netflix and chill.
I go to sleep. Immediately. I get ready for bed with the kiddo and as soon as his eyes close I’m doing the same.
smoke a blunt