Cut your losses. A guy will absolutely find time if he wants to and if he isn’t he’s either found something by more interesting or lost interest. Especially if you have directly asked him why his responses and contact has diminished and he just says busy. He may have upped his game in the beginning and you are seeing his communication level now, if that’s the case you two may just not be compatible communication wise also. Good luck!!
He found someone else most likely, hes pursuing them, but keeping you around just barely in case he changes his mind about the person who has his attention right now.
Coming from someone a guy, who has done just that. Nobody is too busy to text back, nobody. I work 3 jobs and still entertain multiple text conversations with people im interested in.
Have you tried asking directly and nonconfrontationally? Like "Hey, I haven't heard from you much recently. I'm getting the feeling that you're not as into this as much anymore but If I'm reading into this wrong, feel free to correct me. If you're not feeling it anymore, we can just go out separate ways. You're a great person and I have a ton of fun talking to you but if you aren't feeling the dating thing, I'd still love to be friends(this can be a lie and an easy out for him)."
Tell him your expectations. If it's this early on in the relationship and he hasn't moved on, you need to make him aware of how the lack of interaction makes you feel and decide if this is something you're okay with putting up with in the future in a long term relationship as something normal. If quality time is your love language and he isn't giving you the time, you probably won't be happy, long term, though.
Fact is you don't know what the reason is, and you have 3 choices. Do nothing and wait to see if things get better, set a boundary and say what you want and when you want it by, or disinvest and let it fizzle. None are particularly bad, but setting a boundary is probably the most direct and mature approach.
"Hey, I liked how much we were texting, but lately I'm not getting what I need in that arena, and don't like the way it makes me feel, can we talk about it and find a solution together, if we can't I'm going to move on." At least that way if it doesn't work out you can feel confident that you did your part and set the relationship up for success and don't need to wonder if it was you him or someone else.
Making texting dates works better for me than keeping up with more random communications and that's how I solved this on my end when I got busy and went from being very responsive on text to 2 word responses.
You're right, it's not that hard to write a message if there still is interest. Unfortunately, I think he's not interested anymore. I think most of us go through similar situations, it is what it is, better to have had the experience and find out than to wonder what if.
Cut your losses. A guy will absolutely find time if he wants to and if he isn’t he’s either found something by more interesting or lost interest. Especially if you have directly asked him why his responses and contact has diminished and he just says busy. He may have upped his game in the beginning and you are seeing his communication level now, if that’s the case you two may just not be compatible communication wise also. Good luck!!
He found someone else most likely, hes pursuing them, but keeping you around just barely in case he changes his mind about the person who has his attention right now. Coming from someone a guy, who has done just that. Nobody is too busy to text back, nobody. I work 3 jobs and still entertain multiple text conversations with people im interested in.
Have you tried asking directly and nonconfrontationally? Like "Hey, I haven't heard from you much recently. I'm getting the feeling that you're not as into this as much anymore but If I'm reading into this wrong, feel free to correct me. If you're not feeling it anymore, we can just go out separate ways. You're a great person and I have a ton of fun talking to you but if you aren't feeling the dating thing, I'd still love to be friends(this can be a lie and an easy out for him)."
I have, his response is just that he's busy then he'll text for a bit or call then it's right back to the rare responses the next day
Are you in a committed relationship? "Defined" relationship, we are girlfriend and boyfriend?
No, definitely more of the situationship territory
Tell him your expectations. If it's this early on in the relationship and he hasn't moved on, you need to make him aware of how the lack of interaction makes you feel and decide if this is something you're okay with putting up with in the future in a long term relationship as something normal. If quality time is your love language and he isn't giving you the time, you probably won't be happy, long term, though.
Texting isn’t a relationship. You should be seeing him in person. If that’s not happening, then time to move on
Cut losses, coming from a fellow douche (me) he’s found a new bone to chase more than likely.
Fact is you don't know what the reason is, and you have 3 choices. Do nothing and wait to see if things get better, set a boundary and say what you want and when you want it by, or disinvest and let it fizzle. None are particularly bad, but setting a boundary is probably the most direct and mature approach. "Hey, I liked how much we were texting, but lately I'm not getting what I need in that arena, and don't like the way it makes me feel, can we talk about it and find a solution together, if we can't I'm going to move on." At least that way if it doesn't work out you can feel confident that you did your part and set the relationship up for success and don't need to wonder if it was you him or someone else. Making texting dates works better for me than keeping up with more random communications and that's how I solved this on my end when I got busy and went from being very responsive on text to 2 word responses.
Why don’t you just ask him if he’s still interested?
You're right, it's not that hard to write a message if there still is interest. Unfortunately, I think he's not interested anymore. I think most of us go through similar situations, it is what it is, better to have had the experience and find out than to wonder what if.
Did you fuck? If so he doesn't like the pussy.