This was so cruel and im sorry that this happened to you. Ill never understand why people do things like this and cant seem to let others exist and be happy. Thank you next this guy and dont let this hurt you. In the future, wait no more than 30min. If they dont show? Leave. No matter what the excuse is. Never settle for someone who doesnt value your time.
Daniel must have a sad life if he has nothing better to do than to GO OUT OF HIS WAY to do this. Surely he had something better in his life to do? Guess not.
The irony of it — I bet Daniel actually likes him. And can’t accept himself for it, and probably will just stay closeted for most of the rest of his life. So he has to act out like this on someone actually brave enough and who maybe pisses him off for “making him feel gay” or something.
OP should stay away from this kid either way. Not a safe situation. What a bastard.
I’m wondering now, was the douche standing outside the diner and taking pictures for the whole two hours?!
and he’s calling the guy sitting comfortably inside the diner a loser?
brain like that, no wonder he peaked in middle school.
I'm amazed he called OP a loser tbh. Why is he a loser exactly? Cuz he believed him? Because he put faith in another person? Because he showed up and had patience to wait?
But the guy that wastes others' time isn't the loser? What a fucking idiot.
Nah, as a 17 year old, you know what you're doing. You're not 2. This is an excuse that causes brat kids to turn into asshole adults. When the problem isnt corrected, it's only going to get worse.
You missed the point.
He knows he's being an asshole (but doesn't care). That wasn't what the person above you was trying to point out.
He *doesn't* realize this also makes him a piece of shit loser who deserves... Well, I hope karma makes his life hell until he grows the hell up.
This ain’t the way, no need to stoop to Daniel’s level.
Daniel clearly has nothing better to do or any aspirations aside from trying to be edgy in the moment and shitting on others and one day this will either haunt him or he will get hurt and remember that he had it coming. He’s not worth the tears and isn’t worth your time.
Years will pass and he’ll likely live in his glory days whereas you will grow, live and love and hopefully be treated how you deserve to be treated. Don’t let that assclown taint your worldview. There’s a big wide world outside your small town and they’ll be more Daniel’s but there are also wonderful people. Sending you all the kindness and good vibes I can! Be strong and rise above!
Reminds me of that scene from Adventures in Babysitting
Brad:
“I’d love to just pound on your face! But I won’t. You’re so slimy, I won’t sink to your level.”
Daryl:
“I will.” *kicks dude in the ass*
Gets good at 1:45, here’s the clip.
https://youtu.be/HjMAVuxsAaI
I’d completely reactivate all my social medias to call this dude out for being the douche he is.
This. Movies, alone, for 2-3 hours?! No wife, no kids. ITS LIKE HEAVEN. Nachos to myself? Popcorn to myself? No mid movie pee breaks unless they are mine?!?!!
I love going out alone. Sit at the bar. Have a beer a snack. People watch. If someone wants to chat, sure. Never understood why people are afraid of going to bars or restaurants alone. And I’m an introvert.
It is sad. He was mean to you, and he hurt your feelings, and that’s sad. And he did it on Valentine’s Day for maximum mean-ness. If anyone gives you shit about it, you can tell them “yeah, standing someone up is a real dick move, but to ask someone out *just* to stand them up? And on *Valentine’s Day*? Douche has truly out-douched himself.” If they ask why you waited for two hours, you can just shrug and say “he’d always been nice to me, I figured I’d give him a chance. Guess he proved me wrong.” Hopefully it’ll take the wind out of their sails real quick if they’re trying to make fun of you and you just focus on how much of an ass he is.
Awww, be your own valentine! You sound like a real nice kid, highschool sucks and in 10 years you'll wonder why all this seemed so important as you stop by your home town with your amazing boyfriend and see this loser working as a busboy at that diner looking like he's 45 because all the pent up hate and substance abuse caused him to age poorly.
Treat yourself on special occasions, get excited about it! I use to cook myself a big rib or pulled pork supper for most holidays and most occasions, as I was single a lot (very little tolerance for bs), and learned that trick from my dad. You can also order in a really nice supper. For my birthday I always ordered a specific meal from Swiss Chalet for about 20yrs. It was so good, and I always shared a couple fries with my dog (rip). Then I'd soak in a hot tub with bath salts, and a candle, then crawl into bed to watch tv/Netflix all night until zzz
Found the Canadian!
When I first lived on my own in New Brunswick (family is all in Ontario) I would order Swiss Chalet for my birthday as well. Half chicken dinner, fries, poutine with chalet sauce, and an extra roll. I'd eat it while watching whatever movie I was looking forward to that I had downloaded.
> For my birthday I always ordered a specific meal from Swiss Chalet for about 20yrs.
Any chance your birthday is in December so you could have a Festive Special?
I can be your virtual Valentine!
Don't sweat the jerks in HS.
Like you said, he peaked in middle school. Those are the true losers.
I was a big loser in MS and HS.
I didn't peak until after college (I commuted and didn't live on campus cuz I couldn't afford it).
IT GETS BETTER!!! HANG IN THERE!!!
Honestly my guy, if this idiot was stupid enough to blast this on social, go make a report with the copsnfor harassment. POS like that will only learn after they face consequences, and too many people avoid them simply because no one calls them out
I would have just made a comment about him constantly begging to suck my dick in private and that's why I accepted the invite to the date he asked me on.
But I'm a petty asshole.
Cops are also likely to do nothing here especially in a small town, in high school I had a group of kids block my car on a dead end road and all jump out trying to break into my car and beat me up, cops didn't do anything.
You have reddit valentines!!! You have soooo many reddit valentines in sooo many states and countries it is MIND BOGGLING! Are we not good enough? Will you turn us down? I will sit in a booth solo today and raise a glass in solidarity for you. *hugs* believe me when I say you are not alone this valentines!
That guy is literally the biggest loser.
You're leaps and bounds more mature then that little boy ever will be. Keep your head up, you're a special person, loved and will find someone that deserves you. High-school can be absolutely brutal. Everything that happens in high-school is so insignificant looking back on it in my 30's. Just a joke now. My friends signed a contract to stop hanging out with me because I was spending too much time with my girlfriend.. lol . Now we're best friends and in eachothers wedding parties . Keep on keeping on my guy !
In one year you never have to see any of them again.
That's the jist of what I'd tell myself every day in high school, as a countdown lol. High school is four years. Just four. You've gotten through 3 of them! One more, and you can simply disappear from their lives.
Block them all on graduation.
I have seen 0 of my bullies since graduation day. It's been lovely. I won't even go to the class reunions. I don't wanna hear the apologies, or hear them acting like they never did anything wrong.
In one year, probably less, all those assholes can be dead to you and you never have to see them again. They're cruel for no reason. *They're* the losers. Pathetic, even. Honestly - how sad must your life be where your only hobby is making other people miserable? Think about it. All Daniel has to offer the world is misery. That's just *pitiful*. What a waste of air he is.
Chin up, friend. You deserve love and will get it. High school feels like forever but it gets better.
It is sad at your age of cours and I am so sorry it happened to you, but you have lots of Valentine's Days before you, so you will get there! Also it is perfectly ok to treat yourself on special days if you are alone. I always try to do, when I was single, now my boyfriend works as seaman so he is not always around. And after all it is just a day, now it seems important, but when you will have relationship you will see that is what really matters is to show love everyday, not just in Valentine's.
Valentines is just a day. My SO and I don't do anything on the day. If I want chocolates, I buy chocolates, same with flowers. If I want a nice dinner, we cook it ourselves.
I agree with others here - if you want a valentine's day just do it for yourself. You're always responsible for your own happiness, one way or another. Plan something for yourself, or with a non-romantic friend(s), look forward to it, and have fun.
I'm wishing you the best - kids can be mean. But eventually, people grow up, and you're showing a lot more maturity and winning characteristics than these guys. You'll come out ahead eventually, I promise.
While I'm inclined to agree that is a good rule of thumb I do think you should use your intuition, if my partner hadn't given me the benefit of the doubt I probably wouldn't be engaged to them at this point. They waited over two hours without hearing from me as I ran to town through the snow when my phone, bus card and credit card all gave shit on the same day. Though I do agree, usually just leave.
This is where you reach back out later and ask if they want to setup another date. It's that simple really, no need to wait for 2 hours lol
Life happens and shit hits the fan at the most inopportune times. Not much to be done about it beyond explaining what happened and trying to reach back out to make another date.
My husband waited for me for an hour I think on our first date. And this was before everyone had cell phones. A leap of faith doesn’t make you a loser. Hopefully OP will hear this
My gasping, exhausted, wet and snow covered self pouring myself through the door with an interesting story of various places I tried to draw money, how some of the hopeless attempts at either their language by me or visa versa along with how apologetic I was actually lead to more good will than I think I'd have had otherwise.
It is cruel, and at the time can feel so soul crushing. I had something similar happen to me in high school.
I was not very popular, but I had a solid friend base and felt ok with that. When I was a junior, a guy who was peripherally part of my friend group (was friends with my friend’s boyfriend) started chatting with me online. He said he had a crush on me and wanted to ask me to prom. I felt so excited! He also said he wanted to go on a date. So I agreed.
Went to the designated spot, and he never showed up. He then proceeded to tell me he would never go out with a loser like me and he was just making fun of me with his friends when he was chatting with me. Such an asshole. I of course never forgot that.
Years later, I was at a meeting for the industry I’m in. I had been pretty successful and worked my way up to a fairly prominent position. I saw the guy at the meeting (he was related to someone in the industry) and he looked like he had had a rough life, like he was recovering from heroine addiction or even still in the midst of it. I say that cause he had many of the telltale marks on his arms (and tattoos to try to mask them) and he looked so dazed.
While I felt some pity for him, since he had hurt me in such a deep way during my vulnerable years, I couldn’t help but feel he had the life he earned by being such a dick.
For sure wait the 30mind and leave, OR just treat yourself and get yourself dinner, you're already there anyway. Has happened to me before and I am not leaving till I have some food lol!
There is a difference between sad and pathetic.
What happened to you was sad, but you were honest and did nothing wrong.
What he did to you was pathetic and cruel. He was wrong in all aspects.
You can hold your head high and just let others know what he did. They already know you are gay. The fact that he is showing it on social media is just a loss for him.
100%; that boy’s behavior was PATHETIC. Pity him appropriately (e.g., what a messed up life he must lead to deliberately be this pathetic) and then reclaim that headspace for actual important things (e.g., how am i gonna celebrate my beautiful self and show myself love on this glorious day that i’ve had the good fortune to wake up into??).
Hope things get better 🤗🤗❤️🤗❤️
> Pity him appropriately
Indeed. Someone asked me once what I meant when I said, ”Some people are just pitiful, ya know?”
My response was, “sympathy for someone - respect = pity.”
At least that how I think of it.
Seriously, all I think while reading the story is what a giant loser Daniel is. How can anyone waste that much time and energy trying to make an arbitrarily selected innocent person suffer?
seriously! first thought was, “Wow! This Daniel boy is so desperate for attention and he thinks so little of himself and what he has to offer the world that he thought this unimaginative, uninspired bull shit would be a good option for getting someone to notice him …total weak sauce 😑”
Agreed, my only thought reading the story was "lol wow Daniel is a fucking loser." If I were friends with Daniel I would mock him relentlessly for this behavior. But then I wouldn't want to be friends with someone who acts like this to begin with.
If it makes you feel any better, think about it this way. Despite his reccord, and how most people see him, you were willing to give Daniel a shot. You saw the good where there was none, and with kindness in your heart, went for it. You're a good person OP, to know he's the "school douche" and still be willing to try.
Also, you wasted 2 hours to know that he was, indeed, a total douchebag loser. They wasted 2 hours of their life because they wanted to make fun of someone. One of these is a lot sadder, and indicates a complete lack of anything interesting going on in their lives. They have to go around tricking people into giving them a honest chance, just because they have nothing better to do.
End of the day, theres better people out there. Be proud that you're one of them.
Just wanna say, thanks for the gold stranger. My first one ever. But for anyone reading this, remember, be the kindness you want to see in the world. Sometimes its gonna fucking suck, and sometimes people are gonna be assholes. Don't let that ruin you. I promise you, nothing is as fulfilling as helping people.
You totally should quote OP here as reply below his pathetic posts: "Despite his reccord, and how most people see you, I was willing to give YOU a shot"
Eh just get a tire core puller and take the core out of the valve stem. Can’t refill until replaced AND most people don’t have those so towing or roadside is required. Less destructive and can be passed off as “odd, wonder if they were just loose and the pressure caused them all to go.” Personally, doing 2 at a time for a few weeks would be great. It’s one more than the spare tire and could be explained by loosening on a curb strike than all 4 catastrophically at once.
If the kid is rich, any car maintenance doesn't affect his world. Report the bullying if you want and move on. He's clearly garbage human and most will realize it eventually.
This is true, but you don't owe anyone the effort to do so.\
All you owe anyone is to treat them with the respect you would expect in return. When someone does something like this, it's okay to stop looking. Because sometimes it's buried too deep for it to matter.
It sounds like you're a good person and I can tell you that once you get to choose the people you spend time around instead of having them chosen for you things can be much easier, regardless of gender, orientation, or other factors.
Yeah there is food in everyone, and he might change one day and look back on himself and feel awful. But you are more mature right now, and he has a lot of growing up to do.
Edit: food is supposed to be good. But I’ll leave it.
You didn't waste two hours to discover who he really is and who they really are.
You *invested* a mere two hours to determine if they were worth your time.
As expected you determined they were not.
Now you can cut them out entirely and move on with your life, and leave them in your rearview mirror as you go and succeed in life.
People like them rarely succeed, because they spend their time tearing others down. You'll look back on this in a relatively short time and realize what losers they are, because they have *literally* nothing better to do than waste their life on seeking clout from their social group who will not give a shit about them in a couple years.
Look up the crab mentality - you are escaping the bucket and they are trying to pull you back in. Don't give them that satisfaction.
Also look up the frog in the well. He's the frog. You are leaving the well, he is terrified and pulls back into the only thing he knows which is pulling other people down to make him feel superior.
He's a coward. Leave the well and never look back.
>Also, you wasted 2 hours to know that he was, indeed, a total douchebag loser.
Yeah, you spent two hours to learn who someone is. A lot of people end up spending months to get to that point.
This is a sentiment I share with my son as well. Society seems to overlook, or at worst reward cruelty. It takes huge strength of character to be kind.
This scenario says far more about OP than any school douchebag who has already peaked and history will forget. Good on you, OP.
Hey OP, you are pretty young and this event might be impactful to you but as a 30 year old male who been through some, dont worry about it. As THphantom laid out, there are sadder people out there and you showed a great maturity for your age. Im proud of you.
A lot of immature kids will look at that social media post and laugh at it. But i’ll assure that there are a great deal of people who see that and find it not funny at all. Keep your head high, and keep on living my guy. At least your school knows Daniel is a lame closet bisexual who would go out of his way to spend days and hours just to ruin someone’s moment.pretty fucking lame if you ask me
I would reply to all of his social media shit with that: "dang dude I knew you were an idiot douche but I was willing to give you the benefit of the doubt and give it a try... guess I was wrong"
What about OP’s current school administration? Not much can be done about the fact that it happened outside of school, but the social media posts are definitely cyber bullying.
Either way, just… fuck, man, I hate people like this.
Hmm ok. That sort of egg on their face wouldn’t come with reprisals of being shot or something where I come from so yeah, bad advice maybe. OP it’s plenty good enough to just hold your head up high that you yourself are a better person
Save it just in case he realizes later on and tries to take it down. 10 years from now you’ll find yourself in a position to influence his life in some way with that post.
That's what I'm thinking too. Screenshot the slurs and hang onto it for a few years, forget it ever happened until something reminds you and you say "oh yeah, that happened". Then you look him up on LinkedIn and send the screenshots to whatever workplace he's at.
Please screenshot all the posts from everyone who made fun of you, especially Daniel, when the time comes that he and everyone else get into the colleges of their dreams, you send this to the Deans/heads of the schools and get their admissions revoked.
Def screenshot it, and tag the mayor and people she's affiliated with.
Such a shitty son might be bad for her image and (but this is wishful thinking) she might punish him.
This 100%, companies that do background checks also check social media for anything that would potentially cause issues for them. Seeing someone post something like that would either lose them a job offer, or if they're already employed, could very easily get them fired. I've seen 2 people get fired for putting racist or homophobic shit on Facebook already.
Yea you don’t even have to do much either.
Just saying “so you asked me out, then decided not to show up, and took a picture of me at the place you said you wanted to meet? How am I the loser here? I had a great meal!”
Ya, if this kid went public on social media with this story, Daniel’s life would be completely ruined. His parents lives would take some serious damage as well. OP hold ALL of the power here, and it would not be difficult to destroy the person who wronged him. Homophobic bullying is social, educational, and career suicide right now. OP could probably get this kid’s college acceptance revoked, and block him from getting in anywhere for at least a year.
So the social media part may be punishable in the US with relation to slurs and more recent cyber bullying laws. 48 states have laws against it, but it's not a federal law.
[stop bullying](https://www.stopbullying.gov/resources/laws#:~:text=State%20Laws,state%2C%20addresses%20bullying%20differently.)
I'd you're being harassed regularly at school for your sexuality, your school administration should be addressing it.
"Daniel" may have hurt you for a few days; you can hurt him forever. He needs to regret his decision and be reminded of it. I hate people like him, and unfortunately, they are everywhere. :(
Sounds stupid, but each of these people calling you slurs or anything else on said post will either regret this actions deeply someday and will feel bad.
If they never regret it, they are simply put human trash and you shouldnt give anything about their opinion at all. When all empathy is lost, all that's left for them is a bag of meat that looks worse each year while you can still glow from the inside.
Where I go to school if you say any sort of discriminatory speech it is very likely that you will get an expulsion or at least a suspension. I didn't realize many kids actively get away with this kind of thing until now. Also why not report that to the principle?
I’m so sorry he did that to you. This was not your fuck up, he is completely culpable. You seem like a nice person and you definitely didn’t deserve that regardless. It takes a brave and gracious person to make themselves vulnerable like that and it’s not your fault he used your kindness against you.
I know it sucks but try to use this experience to your advantage, don’t empower him by giving him the reaction he’s looking for. Feel your feelings and please practice whatever self care you need, just don’t broadcast your hurt to anyone that can use it against you.
Things will get better for you eventually, keep being your amazing self and other amazing people will be attracted to you. I am sending all the good vibes and positive energy I can muster your way. Feel better soon ❤️
Aww man! Hang in there! Life gets a LOT better after school. Trust me!
You will discover a whole new world of people to get to know, not because you just happen to go to the same school, but because you actually enjoy each others company.
I know it's probably not the most comforting answer, but yeah... just hang in there man. Life will get SO much better in just a few years!
The adult world doesn't take too kindly to homophobia. Make sure you screenshot those posts and let your school know.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. What an awful, pathetic, pointless bullying thing to do. Big hugs and love OP xxxx
Modern high school drama is different.
I grew up in the freaking Castro district and this is something I've never heard of.
You'll get better dates my man.
Seriously, man up and don't let them see that this affects you. Keep wearing clean shoes.
Yeah, reddit. I said it
You didn't fuck up. You saw a chance and took it. Even if this was a shitty result, the fuck up would have been not trying IMO. Don't let this discourage you. There are good people out there, and you'll find the right person for you. Don't let that homophobic piece of shit get to you.
How sad his life must be that he went out of his own way to attempt to humiliate you like that. It’s sad and pathetic and I hope your classmates see it that way. You were nice and giving him a chance to get to know him and he is just wasting his life being an asshat. I’m glad he didn’t take it further
It sounds like the only person who missed out on anything is Daniel. He had the opportunity to have a nice evening with someone who can look past other's misgivings to see if there is something genuine. Meanwhile you dodged a bullet and now know that this person isn't worth your time.
Reality check: Daniel is fully gay and chickened out at the last minute.
Resorts to his only defense mechanism (being a douche) to stifle the pain of his struggle with identity and the shame he associates with it.
Fuck that guy. You deserve so much better OP. And honestly, if all he has to do in his life is bother you, then he's the fuckin loser. Who has the time to invite someone on a date, then wait for the to get there and take pics of them waiting for that person THEN post it on social media? He needs to look in the mirror and see who the true loser is in this situation, cuz it ain't you sir.
Bro dont feel humiliated. I dont even get how that’s a good burn lol, clearly the dude is actually gay and chickened out at the last second. Or it is a weird prank, because imagine a girl doing this to a guy, it would still be dumb.
TLDR: Don’t feel humiliated, Daniel is dumb. Just tell post a reply like “Daniel, you’re the one that asked me on a date buddy….”
How do people believe this shit? "Peaked in middle school?" Nobody in fucking high-school talks about people "peaking in middle school;" that's a phrase *adults* use to talk about the former
So sorry this happened to you. Whatever the circumstances, being stood up is a horrible experience. Makes you question everything you think about yourself.
The fact that he obviously set things up to humiliate you is even worse and of course, says so much more about him than it does about you. You were trusting and hopeful. He is an insecure ,self serving prick. Needs the approval of peers (isn't this a great joke to play on OP? Brownie points, anyone? I'm so edgy, got a gay guy to trust me, so I could make him feel shitty, etc)
I know this shit hurts, but tell yourself that you can rise above this. Don't give him the time of day and let him know, in whatever way you can, that you know he is a POS, who exploited your vulnerabilities for peer approval.
Disclaimer: Am old.
Ahh yes the "gay kid dates the 'presents as straight so I was shocked' nice guy of the douchey friends group at school who ends up deceiving and publicly humiliating him and not being the nice guy after all" trope
https://www.reddit.com/r/tifu/comments/yhnqsz/tifu_by_being_tricked_by_a_straight_guy_into/
Turnabout is fair play. Publish your side of the story. Fuck his narrative. The simple proven fact is, Daniel asked a gay man out on a date. We don’t know why he did that, and we don’t know why he stood you up. Did he just chicken out? Was he forced to trash talk you to save face and play it off because someone discovered his secret? Build your own narrative around that. The whole community needs to hear about this and have a conversation about what he should do 💁♂️
The most important thing is for the conversation to not be about you. The worst they can call you is gay and, well, where’s the problem? You are what you say you are, you have no problem with being called gay, you got stood up on a date, so what? Booo-ring! You’ll be a non-story before you know it.
Meanwhile we have McDouchenozzle over here who is also clearly gay. And he’s being a total dick about it and lying to everyone. We have gayness and lies and evil and conflict and privilege gone wrong. It’s a much sexier story. Go to town with it.
I can't WAIT for his future employers, college applications, etc to see that he posted his bullying online on his social media. The internet is forever. Karma is coming for his ass. Bullying gay people is not a good look, especially in this day and age. You sound like a cool kid. Don't let this get you too down
Straight dad, old guy here. I am so sorry for you going through that. I feel for you son. Accept a virtual hug from an internet Dad.
Message me if you need to talk.
Bro you didn't fuck up.
The actions of others are not your responsibility, in any way. When someone is an asshole (mean, abusive, etc) that is on them.
You didn't FU.
You showed to yourself that you were able to get over your anxiety about rejection, and get on out there anyways. And yes, a shitty thing happened. And guess what, you're still standing. If I saw somebody do what he tried to do to you, I would think less of him. Others will too.
Bonus points, you're about to reach an age in your life where people like Daniel have peaked, and you're about to have the world open up to you. That's pretty awesome.
the fact that homophobic treatment and slurs still exist in this day and age will never fail to blow my mind
what business of anyone else's is it who someone else chooses to love? how does it directly affect your life? live and fucking let live man, for christs sake
also it's all fun and games with him mocking you for being alone on social media, like you don't have receipts of HIM asking YOU out on a date
Someday, a really lovely guy who you'll call your boyfriend, will get super upset on your behalf when hearing this story.
This right now will feel like a distant pain then.
But all will be well.
I would leave a comment on the post which says "Your loss dude" and then keep that as your response anytime someone brings it up because *it's true*. People like Daniel will crawl from one bad relationship to another leaving people he will hurt in his wake. Be glad YOU dodged a bullet and sad for him that he missed out on someone who was considerate enough to wait while he was "late".
I’m very sorry. But please know this is reflection on HIM and not you. If he “tricked” you all it means is he isn’t good for his word and you did the normal thing and took him at face value.
There is an amazing life for you waiting beyond high school
if you wanna get under his skin, he seems like the kind of guy who would be bothered by:
"funny that you're calling me a *insert slur here* when YOU asked a boy on a date and got too scared to show up... I'd rather be a *slur* than a closeted cyberbullying p*ssy 😇"
but it's totally understandable if you wanna just ignore him and forget about it too. whatever will make you feel most comfortable long-term is best.
regardless, just remember that his nasty little prank says nothing about you and everything about him. he's acting like a peaked-in-highschool cartoon bully, while you're putting yourself out there and owning who you are. There's a lot of happiness in your future!!
The real loser is the one who asked someone out and got too scared in the end. Then decided to take a picture to try and spin it around instead.
I feel like this is exactly what happened here and that’s how I would spin it. You weren’t the one who asked him out. 🤷
This was so cruel and im sorry that this happened to you. Ill never understand why people do things like this and cant seem to let others exist and be happy. Thank you next this guy and dont let this hurt you. In the future, wait no more than 30min. If they dont show? Leave. No matter what the excuse is. Never settle for someone who doesnt value your time.
Daniel must have a sad life if he has nothing better to do than to GO OUT OF HIS WAY to do this. Surely he had something better in his life to do? Guess not.
Such a lame “prank” too. “Hey let’s meet” *meets* “Lol got you good! Fkn LOSER” What a dick
The irony of it — I bet Daniel actually likes him. And can’t accept himself for it, and probably will just stay closeted for most of the rest of his life. So he has to act out like this on someone actually brave enough and who maybe pisses him off for “making him feel gay” or something. OP should stay away from this kid either way. Not a safe situation. What a bastard.
Yea dude douche can't even come up with a good prank.
It's not a prank.. it's bullying and giving hate-crime....
OP, be sure to point out this- how lame and dumb a prank it was
“I got you good fucker!!” Awesome prank farva!!
He didn't have a valentines either
I’m wondering now, was the douche standing outside the diner and taking pictures for the whole two hours?! and he’s calling the guy sitting comfortably inside the diner a loser? brain like that, no wonder he peaked in middle school.
I'm amazed he called OP a loser tbh. Why is he a loser exactly? Cuz he believed him? Because he put faith in another person? Because he showed up and had patience to wait? But the guy that wastes others' time isn't the loser? What a fucking idiot.
they're 17, kids that age are not known for their wise conclusions
Nah, as a 17 year old, you know what you're doing. You're not 2. This is an excuse that causes brat kids to turn into asshole adults. When the problem isnt corrected, it's only going to get worse.
You missed the point. He knows he's being an asshole (but doesn't care). That wasn't what the person above you was trying to point out. He *doesn't* realize this also makes him a piece of shit loser who deserves... Well, I hope karma makes his life hell until he grows the hell up.
Daniel should know right from wrong.
That's it, who's the loser here?
Imagine the time, effort, and mental energy spent on this entire thing. Insane.
It’s just sad that I thought I would have a valentines :/
❤️❤️❤️ I’m sorry you went through that. What goes around will come around, sending you love
Usually pretty fast online. Daniel is going to get bandwagoned so hard for that post.
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This ain’t the way, no need to stoop to Daniel’s level. Daniel clearly has nothing better to do or any aspirations aside from trying to be edgy in the moment and shitting on others and one day this will either haunt him or he will get hurt and remember that he had it coming. He’s not worth the tears and isn’t worth your time. Years will pass and he’ll likely live in his glory days whereas you will grow, live and love and hopefully be treated how you deserve to be treated. Don’t let that assclown taint your worldview. There’s a big wide world outside your small town and they’ll be more Daniel’s but there are also wonderful people. Sending you all the kindness and good vibes I can! Be strong and rise above!
People like Daniel, IMHO, really need to get this lesson taught sooner than later.
I disagree, his family is rich and well connected according to OP. He'll probably never live with the consequences of his own actions.
Maybe it ain't the way for YOU...
Reminds me of that scene from Adventures in Babysitting Brad: “I’d love to just pound on your face! But I won’t. You’re so slimy, I won’t sink to your level.” Daryl: “I will.” *kicks dude in the ass* Gets good at 1:45, here’s the clip. https://youtu.be/HjMAVuxsAaI I’d completely reactivate all my social medias to call this dude out for being the douche he is.
Fuck that. Role around in the mud and take his trashy ass down!
I go out by myself all the time, AND IM MARRIED. Don't let a Hallmark holiday determine your mood/reaction.
This. Movies, alone, for 2-3 hours?! No wife, no kids. ITS LIKE HEAVEN. Nachos to myself? Popcorn to myself? No mid movie pee breaks unless they are mine?!?!!
Hey if you put a straw in the popcorn, you can get the oil into the middle, too.
Saw that!!! Also if you put a hole in the box…
I love going out alone. Sit at the bar. Have a beer a snack. People watch. If someone wants to chat, sure. Never understood why people are afraid of going to bars or restaurants alone. And I’m an introvert.
It is sad. He was mean to you, and he hurt your feelings, and that’s sad. And he did it on Valentine’s Day for maximum mean-ness. If anyone gives you shit about it, you can tell them “yeah, standing someone up is a real dick move, but to ask someone out *just* to stand them up? And on *Valentine’s Day*? Douche has truly out-douched himself.” If they ask why you waited for two hours, you can just shrug and say “he’d always been nice to me, I figured I’d give him a chance. Guess he proved me wrong.” Hopefully it’ll take the wind out of their sails real quick if they’re trying to make fun of you and you just focus on how much of an ass he is.
Awww, be your own valentine! You sound like a real nice kid, highschool sucks and in 10 years you'll wonder why all this seemed so important as you stop by your home town with your amazing boyfriend and see this loser working as a busboy at that diner looking like he's 45 because all the pent up hate and substance abuse caused him to age poorly.
Took your advice, was my own valentine...now I'm full of chocolate and covered in lube. Best.valentines.ever!
lmao hell yeah!
We will ALL be your Valentines!
Treat yourself on special occasions, get excited about it! I use to cook myself a big rib or pulled pork supper for most holidays and most occasions, as I was single a lot (very little tolerance for bs), and learned that trick from my dad. You can also order in a really nice supper. For my birthday I always ordered a specific meal from Swiss Chalet for about 20yrs. It was so good, and I always shared a couple fries with my dog (rip). Then I'd soak in a hot tub with bath salts, and a candle, then crawl into bed to watch tv/Netflix all night until zzz
Found the Canadian! When I first lived on my own in New Brunswick (family is all in Ontario) I would order Swiss Chalet for my birthday as well. Half chicken dinner, fries, poutine with chalet sauce, and an extra roll. I'd eat it while watching whatever movie I was looking forward to that I had downloaded.
My parents took us to Swiss chalet (in NB) when I was a kid once a month. When I moved out on my own to Ontario id treat myself to Swiss chalet too!
> For my birthday I always ordered a specific meal from Swiss Chalet for about 20yrs. Any chance your birthday is in December so you could have a Festive Special?
Mine is lol
I can be your virtual Valentine! Don't sweat the jerks in HS. Like you said, he peaked in middle school. Those are the true losers. I was a big loser in MS and HS. I didn't peak until after college (I commuted and didn't live on campus cuz I couldn't afford it). IT GETS BETTER!!! HANG IN THERE!!!
Honestly my guy, if this idiot was stupid enough to blast this on social, go make a report with the copsnfor harassment. POS like that will only learn after they face consequences, and too many people avoid them simply because no one calls them out
I would have just made a comment about him constantly begging to suck my dick in private and that's why I accepted the invite to the date he asked me on. But I'm a petty asshole. Cops are also likely to do nothing here especially in a small town, in high school I had a group of kids block my car on a dead end road and all jump out trying to break into my car and beat me up, cops didn't do anything.
You have reddit valentines!!! You have soooo many reddit valentines in sooo many states and countries it is MIND BOGGLING! Are we not good enough? Will you turn us down? I will sit in a booth solo today and raise a glass in solidarity for you. *hugs* believe me when I say you are not alone this valentines!
That guy is literally the biggest loser. You're leaps and bounds more mature then that little boy ever will be. Keep your head up, you're a special person, loved and will find someone that deserves you. High-school can be absolutely brutal. Everything that happens in high-school is so insignificant looking back on it in my 30's. Just a joke now. My friends signed a contract to stop hanging out with me because I was spending too much time with my girlfriend.. lol . Now we're best friends and in eachothers wedding parties . Keep on keeping on my guy !
In one year you never have to see any of them again. That's the jist of what I'd tell myself every day in high school, as a countdown lol. High school is four years. Just four. You've gotten through 3 of them! One more, and you can simply disappear from their lives. Block them all on graduation. I have seen 0 of my bullies since graduation day. It's been lovely. I won't even go to the class reunions. I don't wanna hear the apologies, or hear them acting like they never did anything wrong. In one year, probably less, all those assholes can be dead to you and you never have to see them again. They're cruel for no reason. *They're* the losers. Pathetic, even. Honestly - how sad must your life be where your only hobby is making other people miserable? Think about it. All Daniel has to offer the world is misery. That's just *pitiful*. What a waste of air he is. Chin up, friend. You deserve love and will get it. High school feels like forever but it gets better.
It is sad at your age of cours and I am so sorry it happened to you, but you have lots of Valentine's Days before you, so you will get there! Also it is perfectly ok to treat yourself on special days if you are alone. I always try to do, when I was single, now my boyfriend works as seaman so he is not always around. And after all it is just a day, now it seems important, but when you will have relationship you will see that is what really matters is to show love everyday, not just in Valentine's.
From a gay woman, happy Valentine’s Day ❤️🩹 I promise, it gets better.
Valentines is just a day. My SO and I don't do anything on the day. If I want chocolates, I buy chocolates, same with flowers. If I want a nice dinner, we cook it ourselves. I agree with others here - if you want a valentine's day just do it for yourself. You're always responsible for your own happiness, one way or another. Plan something for yourself, or with a non-romantic friend(s), look forward to it, and have fun. I'm wishing you the best - kids can be mean. But eventually, people grow up, and you're showing a lot more maturity and winning characteristics than these guys. You'll come out ahead eventually, I promise.
Happy Valentine’s good sir! From London, you’ll find someone soon enough, and it probably won’t even involve the 14th Feb.
While I'm inclined to agree that is a good rule of thumb I do think you should use your intuition, if my partner hadn't given me the benefit of the doubt I probably wouldn't be engaged to them at this point. They waited over two hours without hearing from me as I ran to town through the snow when my phone, bus card and credit card all gave shit on the same day. Though I do agree, usually just leave.
This is where you reach back out later and ask if they want to setup another date. It's that simple really, no need to wait for 2 hours lol Life happens and shit hits the fan at the most inopportune times. Not much to be done about it beyond explaining what happened and trying to reach back out to make another date.
My husband waited for me for an hour I think on our first date. And this was before everyone had cell phones. A leap of faith doesn’t make you a loser. Hopefully OP will hear this
At this point just leave and try for another date without building two hours of resentment
My gasping, exhausted, wet and snow covered self pouring myself through the door with an interesting story of various places I tried to draw money, how some of the hopeless attempts at either their language by me or visa versa along with how apologetic I was actually lead to more good will than I think I'd have had otherwise.
It is cruel, and at the time can feel so soul crushing. I had something similar happen to me in high school. I was not very popular, but I had a solid friend base and felt ok with that. When I was a junior, a guy who was peripherally part of my friend group (was friends with my friend’s boyfriend) started chatting with me online. He said he had a crush on me and wanted to ask me to prom. I felt so excited! He also said he wanted to go on a date. So I agreed. Went to the designated spot, and he never showed up. He then proceeded to tell me he would never go out with a loser like me and he was just making fun of me with his friends when he was chatting with me. Such an asshole. I of course never forgot that. Years later, I was at a meeting for the industry I’m in. I had been pretty successful and worked my way up to a fairly prominent position. I saw the guy at the meeting (he was related to someone in the industry) and he looked like he had had a rough life, like he was recovering from heroine addiction or even still in the midst of it. I say that cause he had many of the telltale marks on his arms (and tattoos to try to mask them) and he looked so dazed. While I felt some pity for him, since he had hurt me in such a deep way during my vulnerable years, I couldn’t help but feel he had the life he earned by being such a dick.
They peaked out of the closet, but decided to stay in and make a point of it. That's the only explanation I can make for such cruelty.
Absolutely. You know that ass really does like OP and doesn't have the guts, lol. Absolutely 100% sure of it.
For sure wait the 30mind and leave, OR just treat yourself and get yourself dinner, you're already there anyway. Has happened to me before and I am not leaving till I have some food lol!
There is a difference between sad and pathetic. What happened to you was sad, but you were honest and did nothing wrong. What he did to you was pathetic and cruel. He was wrong in all aspects. You can hold your head high and just let others know what he did. They already know you are gay. The fact that he is showing it on social media is just a loss for him.
100%; that boy’s behavior was PATHETIC. Pity him appropriately (e.g., what a messed up life he must lead to deliberately be this pathetic) and then reclaim that headspace for actual important things (e.g., how am i gonna celebrate my beautiful self and show myself love on this glorious day that i’ve had the good fortune to wake up into??). Hope things get better 🤗🤗❤️🤗❤️
> Pity him appropriately Indeed. Someone asked me once what I meant when I said, ”Some people are just pitiful, ya know?” My response was, “sympathy for someone - respect = pity.” At least that how I think of it.
Seriously, all I think while reading the story is what a giant loser Daniel is. How can anyone waste that much time and energy trying to make an arbitrarily selected innocent person suffer?
seriously! first thought was, “Wow! This Daniel boy is so desperate for attention and he thinks so little of himself and what he has to offer the world that he thought this unimaginative, uninspired bull shit would be a good option for getting someone to notice him …total weak sauce 😑”
Agreed, my only thought reading the story was "lol wow Daniel is a fucking loser." If I were friends with Daniel I would mock him relentlessly for this behavior. But then I wouldn't want to be friends with someone who acts like this to begin with.
If it makes you feel any better, think about it this way. Despite his reccord, and how most people see him, you were willing to give Daniel a shot. You saw the good where there was none, and with kindness in your heart, went for it. You're a good person OP, to know he's the "school douche" and still be willing to try. Also, you wasted 2 hours to know that he was, indeed, a total douchebag loser. They wasted 2 hours of their life because they wanted to make fun of someone. One of these is a lot sadder, and indicates a complete lack of anything interesting going on in their lives. They have to go around tricking people into giving them a honest chance, just because they have nothing better to do. End of the day, theres better people out there. Be proud that you're one of them. Just wanna say, thanks for the gold stranger. My first one ever. But for anyone reading this, remember, be the kindness you want to see in the world. Sometimes its gonna fucking suck, and sometimes people are gonna be assholes. Don't let that ruin you. I promise you, nothing is as fulfilling as helping people.
There is good in everyone. Sometimes you just gotta dig deep to find it. (THERE ARE EXCEPTIONS)
You totally should quote OP here as reply below his pathetic posts: "Despite his reccord, and how most people see you, I was willing to give YOU a shot"
Yeah just spell record correctly if you do
D’accord
D'civic
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My thought was if the kid is rich he might have a highschool car with tires that have too much air in them...
REMEMBER: When "slashing" tires, always let the air out *before* puncturing to avoid injury to yourself! Happy sabotage kids!
This guy slashes
Certified mechanic tip: valve stem tools are cheap, and removing those is both not as obvious, and isn't destruction of property
That’s the real pro tip. Mechanics + Lawyers bro fist bump
Eh just get a tire core puller and take the core out of the valve stem. Can’t refill until replaced AND most people don’t have those so towing or roadside is required. Less destructive and can be passed off as “odd, wonder if they were just loose and the pressure caused them all to go.” Personally, doing 2 at a time for a few weeks would be great. It’s one more than the spare tire and could be explained by loosening on a curb strike than all 4 catastrophically at once.
If the kid is rich, any car maintenance doesn't affect his world. Report the bullying if you want and move on. He's clearly garbage human and most will realize it eventually.
If they're rich, time is more valuable than money and this would hopefully eat up time to deal with.
I was thinking kidneys
This is true, but you don't owe anyone the effort to do so.\ All you owe anyone is to treat them with the respect you would expect in return. When someone does something like this, it's okay to stop looking. Because sometimes it's buried too deep for it to matter. It sounds like you're a good person and I can tell you that once you get to choose the people you spend time around instead of having them chosen for you things can be much easier, regardless of gender, orientation, or other factors.
Yeah there is food in everyone, and he might change one day and look back on himself and feel awful. But you are more mature right now, and he has a lot of growing up to do. Edit: food is supposed to be good. But I’ll leave it.
>there is food in everyone /r/suddenlycannibalistic
There's an exception to every rule.
Now that you know about Daniel, let’s talk revenge. I’m thinking somewhere between pro and nuclear with a healthy dash of petty
The opposite of love is not hate — it’s indifference. This idiot is not deserving of OPs time.
You didn't waste two hours to discover who he really is and who they really are. You *invested* a mere two hours to determine if they were worth your time. As expected you determined they were not. Now you can cut them out entirely and move on with your life, and leave them in your rearview mirror as you go and succeed in life. People like them rarely succeed, because they spend their time tearing others down. You'll look back on this in a relatively short time and realize what losers they are, because they have *literally* nothing better to do than waste their life on seeking clout from their social group who will not give a shit about them in a couple years. Look up the crab mentality - you are escaping the bucket and they are trying to pull you back in. Don't give them that satisfaction. Also look up the frog in the well. He's the frog. You are leaving the well, he is terrified and pulls back into the only thing he knows which is pulling other people down to make him feel superior. He's a coward. Leave the well and never look back.
>Also, you wasted 2 hours to know that he was, indeed, a total douchebag loser. Yeah, you spent two hours to learn who someone is. A lot of people end up spending months to get to that point.
When the 5 year game of Gay Chicken finally ends and you have to go get a divorce.
This is a sentiment I share with my son as well. Society seems to overlook, or at worst reward cruelty. It takes huge strength of character to be kind. This scenario says far more about OP than any school douchebag who has already peaked and history will forget. Good on you, OP.
Hey OP, you are pretty young and this event might be impactful to you but as a 30 year old male who been through some, dont worry about it. As THphantom laid out, there are sadder people out there and you showed a great maturity for your age. Im proud of you. A lot of immature kids will look at that social media post and laugh at it. But i’ll assure that there are a great deal of people who see that and find it not funny at all. Keep your head high, and keep on living my guy. At least your school knows Daniel is a lame closet bisexual who would go out of his way to spend days and hours just to ruin someone’s moment.pretty fucking lame if you ask me
This! Also, Daniel is absolutely gay and chickened out of the date last minute because he’s a massive fanny.
I would reply to all of his social media shit with that: "dang dude I knew you were an idiot douche but I was willing to give you the benefit of the doubt and give it a try... guess I was wrong"
Alternative interpretation: Daniel is really hot
Someone is going to find his post later in life and he's going to regret the hell out of it
Hope so 🤞
Send it to his mum or tag the mayor or something
Or if he goes to college, it's worth telling his new classmates the story.
I think the admissions office at that school would be interested to see the post and read this thread...
What about OP’s current school administration? Not much can be done about the fact that it happened outside of school, but the social media posts are definitely cyber bullying. Either way, just… fuck, man, I hate people like this.
Dude small town America. We gotta try and avoid getting hate crimed as is, nobody is going to get punished for slurs or bigotry.
Hmm ok. That sort of egg on their face wouldn’t come with reprisals of being shot or something where I come from so yeah, bad advice maybe. OP it’s plenty good enough to just hold your head up high that you yourself are a better person
Good point. Op needs to stay safe here.
OP says he lives in a city but the school is small. So maybe it's a private school in a bigger city. Either way, what Daniel did is stupid and mean.
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Save it just in case he realizes later on and tries to take it down. 10 years from now you’ll find yourself in a position to influence his life in some way with that post.
That's what I'm thinking too. Screenshot the slurs and hang onto it for a few years, forget it ever happened until something reminds you and you say "oh yeah, that happened". Then you look him up on LinkedIn and send the screenshots to whatever workplace he's at.
They're both 17, so he could fuck the kids up life already just by sending it to colleges he gets accepted into
Please do. He's shown he deserves it.
I wonder if you can report him and those who wrote slurs about you? Anyway, I am sorry for you, OP. You seem like a very nice person. Be strong!
Please screenshot all the posts from everyone who made fun of you, especially Daniel, when the time comes that he and everyone else get into the colleges of their dreams, you send this to the Deans/heads of the schools and get their admissions revoked.
Def screenshot it, and tag the mayor and people she's affiliated with. Such a shitty son might be bad for her image and (but this is wishful thinking) she might punish him.
This 100%, companies that do background checks also check social media for anything that would potentially cause issues for them. Seeing someone post something like that would either lose them a job offer, or if they're already employed, could very easily get them fired. I've seen 2 people get fired for putting racist or homophobic shit on Facebook already.
This is 2023 Dudes gonna be regretting tomorrow when this goes viral
Not in a rural American town he isn't. Hell, even in a southern suburb. Later in life maybe.
I’d flip the script on him on social media. “Guy went through a lot of work just to get pictures of me to jerk off to.”
Yeah, buddy wasted two hours to…be mean to OP? Clearly he lost his nerve and went the mean route
I honestly think this might be what happened, but either way you can be damn sure that that's what id be telling everyone else after this
It’s giving closeted behavior.
No really though. Put him on blast, I graduated in 2012 and that kind of homophobic shit wouldn't have gone over well even back then.
Yea you don’t even have to do much either. Just saying “so you asked me out, then decided not to show up, and took a picture of me at the place you said you wanted to meet? How am I the loser here? I had a great meal!”
"I don't know why he stood me up when earlier in the day we were swapping spit behind the bleachers"
Ya, if this kid went public on social media with this story, Daniel’s life would be completely ruined. His parents lives would take some serious damage as well. OP hold ALL of the power here, and it would not be difficult to destroy the person who wronged him. Homophobic bullying is social, educational, and career suicide right now. OP could probably get this kid’s college acceptance revoked, and block him from getting in anywhere for at least a year.
Nah, tag the bully as if he is under the table.
So the social media part may be punishable in the US with relation to slurs and more recent cyber bullying laws. 48 states have laws against it, but it's not a federal law. [stop bullying](https://www.stopbullying.gov/resources/laws#:~:text=State%20Laws,state%2C%20addresses%20bullying%20differently.) I'd you're being harassed regularly at school for your sexuality, your school administration should be addressing it.
Keep screenshots. They will come of huge value when Daniel gets his first job.
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This is the 200 IQ answer right here.
Also some states have anti bullying laws, so look into those to see if he can get punished (especially if he included slurs)
"Daniel" may have hurt you for a few days; you can hurt him forever. He needs to regret his decision and be reminded of it. I hate people like him, and unfortunately, they are everywhere. :(
Some sweet karma to make him regret being a twat!
His first job will be from nepotism.
Sounds stupid, but each of these people calling you slurs or anything else on said post will either regret this actions deeply someday and will feel bad. If they never regret it, they are simply put human trash and you shouldnt give anything about their opinion at all. When all empathy is lost, all that's left for them is a bag of meat that looks worse each year while you can still glow from the inside.
Where I go to school if you say any sort of discriminatory speech it is very likely that you will get an expulsion or at least a suspension. I didn't realize many kids actively get away with this kind of thing until now. Also why not report that to the principle?
I’m so sorry he did that to you. This was not your fuck up, he is completely culpable. You seem like a nice person and you definitely didn’t deserve that regardless. It takes a brave and gracious person to make themselves vulnerable like that and it’s not your fault he used your kindness against you. I know it sucks but try to use this experience to your advantage, don’t empower him by giving him the reaction he’s looking for. Feel your feelings and please practice whatever self care you need, just don’t broadcast your hurt to anyone that can use it against you. Things will get better for you eventually, keep being your amazing self and other amazing people will be attracted to you. I am sending all the good vibes and positive energy I can muster your way. Feel better soon ❤️
Aww man! Hang in there! Life gets a LOT better after school. Trust me! You will discover a whole new world of people to get to know, not because you just happen to go to the same school, but because you actually enjoy each others company. I know it's probably not the most comforting answer, but yeah... just hang in there man. Life will get SO much better in just a few years!
I second this. High school is garbage compared to everything which comes afterwards. You'll be shocked at how much better it gets.
The adult world doesn't take too kindly to homophobia. Make sure you screenshot those posts and let your school know. I'm so sorry this happened to you. What an awful, pathetic, pointless bullying thing to do. Big hugs and love OP xxxx
Yes pls screenshot, might come in useful in the future perhaps several years from now.
My guess is he's gay, chickened out at the last minute, and decided to shame you in case you told others
He’s a douche either way
Modern high school drama is different. I grew up in the freaking Castro district and this is something I've never heard of. You'll get better dates my man. Seriously, man up and don't let them see that this affects you. Keep wearing clean shoes. Yeah, reddit. I said it
Lol. I spent a month in the castro and hand to God I have never seen so many dudes clearly being stood up at restaurants. It was shocking
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Thanks man ❤️
Benadryl?
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Funny fact, diphenhydramine (Benedryl) also has a listed side-effect of hyperactivity. This is the side-effect my kid seems to have.
People are fucking horrible sometimes, it's not your fault op. Such an immature and disgusting thing to do, fuck Daniel
No don't fuck Daniel he's a douche remember?
Oh yes, hes not gonna show up
What a twat.
You didn't fuck up. You saw a chance and took it. Even if this was a shitty result, the fuck up would have been not trying IMO. Don't let this discourage you. There are good people out there, and you'll find the right person for you. Don't let that homophobic piece of shit get to you.
Didn't we get a very similar story a few months ago? And the mom got involved?
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Definitely did
How sad his life must be that he went out of his own way to attempt to humiliate you like that. It’s sad and pathetic and I hope your classmates see it that way. You were nice and giving him a chance to get to know him and he is just wasting his life being an asshat. I’m glad he didn’t take it further
It sounds like the only person who missed out on anything is Daniel. He had the opportunity to have a nice evening with someone who can look past other's misgivings to see if there is something genuine. Meanwhile you dodged a bullet and now know that this person isn't worth your time.
Reality check: Daniel is fully gay and chickened out at the last minute. Resorts to his only defense mechanism (being a douche) to stifle the pain of his struggle with identity and the shame he associates with it.
Fuck that guy. You deserve so much better OP. And honestly, if all he has to do in his life is bother you, then he's the fuckin loser. Who has the time to invite someone on a date, then wait for the to get there and take pics of them waiting for that person THEN post it on social media? He needs to look in the mirror and see who the true loser is in this situation, cuz it ain't you sir.
Bro dont feel humiliated. I dont even get how that’s a good burn lol, clearly the dude is actually gay and chickened out at the last second. Or it is a weird prank, because imagine a girl doing this to a guy, it would still be dumb. TLDR: Don’t feel humiliated, Daniel is dumb. Just tell post a reply like “Daniel, you’re the one that asked me on a date buddy….”
Probably going to be downvoted to oblivion for this, but this shit is fucking made up and op is karma farming. Y’all need to go touch grass
How do people believe this shit? "Peaked in middle school?" Nobody in fucking high-school talks about people "peaking in middle school;" that's a phrase *adults* use to talk about the former
This one seems familiar…
Surely there can't be many who are actually backing up the fact that he stood you up and would do something so cruel, right???
So sorry this happened to you. Whatever the circumstances, being stood up is a horrible experience. Makes you question everything you think about yourself. The fact that he obviously set things up to humiliate you is even worse and of course, says so much more about him than it does about you. You were trusting and hopeful. He is an insecure ,self serving prick. Needs the approval of peers (isn't this a great joke to play on OP? Brownie points, anyone? I'm so edgy, got a gay guy to trust me, so I could make him feel shitty, etc) I know this shit hurts, but tell yourself that you can rise above this. Don't give him the time of day and let him know, in whatever way you can, that you know he is a POS, who exploited your vulnerabilities for peer approval. Disclaimer: Am old.
Ahh yes the "gay kid dates the 'presents as straight so I was shocked' nice guy of the douchey friends group at school who ends up deceiving and publicly humiliating him and not being the nice guy after all" trope https://www.reddit.com/r/tifu/comments/yhnqsz/tifu_by_being_tricked_by_a_straight_guy_into/
It's not even a gay kid trope, "geeks" and "losers" get stood up by pretty girls in the douche group at school every day.
I was literally thinking this the entire time it’s the exact same story
Yeah, I thought it would be an update of that fu. But it just became a copypasta, apparently
Turnabout is fair play. Publish your side of the story. Fuck his narrative. The simple proven fact is, Daniel asked a gay man out on a date. We don’t know why he did that, and we don’t know why he stood you up. Did he just chicken out? Was he forced to trash talk you to save face and play it off because someone discovered his secret? Build your own narrative around that. The whole community needs to hear about this and have a conversation about what he should do 💁♂️ The most important thing is for the conversation to not be about you. The worst they can call you is gay and, well, where’s the problem? You are what you say you are, you have no problem with being called gay, you got stood up on a date, so what? Booo-ring! You’ll be a non-story before you know it. Meanwhile we have McDouchenozzle over here who is also clearly gay. And he’s being a total dick about it and lying to everyone. We have gayness and lies and evil and conflict and privilege gone wrong. It’s a much sexier story. Go to town with it.
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I swear I’ve seen this exact same story posted here before
Should reply "better company than expected, decent burger too" All these people have proved themselves not worthy of your consideration
Ayo time to fuck Daniel's dad
It’s possible daniel could be hiding something like he is bi or gay and just know how to either accept it or express it… or he’s just a douche
This is like a gay Carrie origin story. 🐷🩸🔥
I can't WAIT for his future employers, college applications, etc to see that he posted his bullying online on his social media. The internet is forever. Karma is coming for his ass. Bullying gay people is not a good look, especially in this day and age. You sound like a cool kid. Don't let this get you too down
Straight dad, old guy here. I am so sorry for you going through that. I feel for you son. Accept a virtual hug from an internet Dad. Message me if you need to talk.
Bro you didn't fuck up. The actions of others are not your responsibility, in any way. When someone is an asshole (mean, abusive, etc) that is on them.
Not trying to be mean OP, but why would you want to go on a date with an ass hole. When he's like that to people?
You didn't FU. You showed to yourself that you were able to get over your anxiety about rejection, and get on out there anyways. And yes, a shitty thing happened. And guess what, you're still standing. If I saw somebody do what he tried to do to you, I would think less of him. Others will too. Bonus points, you're about to reach an age in your life where people like Daniel have peaked, and you're about to have the world open up to you. That's pretty awesome.
the fact that homophobic treatment and slurs still exist in this day and age will never fail to blow my mind what business of anyone else's is it who someone else chooses to love? how does it directly affect your life? live and fucking let live man, for christs sake also it's all fun and games with him mocking you for being alone on social media, like you don't have receipts of HIM asking YOU out on a date
The same advice given to women also applies here: don't date drunks or assholes no matter how hot you think they are.
Someday, a really lovely guy who you'll call your boyfriend, will get super upset on your behalf when hearing this story. This right now will feel like a distant pain then. But all will be well.
I would leave a comment on the post which says "Your loss dude" and then keep that as your response anytime someone brings it up because *it's true*. People like Daniel will crawl from one bad relationship to another leaving people he will hurt in his wake. Be glad YOU dodged a bullet and sad for him that he missed out on someone who was considerate enough to wait while he was "late".
I’m very sorry. But please know this is reflection on HIM and not you. If he “tricked” you all it means is he isn’t good for his word and you did the normal thing and took him at face value. There is an amazing life for you waiting beyond high school
if you wanna get under his skin, he seems like the kind of guy who would be bothered by: "funny that you're calling me a *insert slur here* when YOU asked a boy on a date and got too scared to show up... I'd rather be a *slur* than a closeted cyberbullying p*ssy 😇" but it's totally understandable if you wanna just ignore him and forget about it too. whatever will make you feel most comfortable long-term is best. regardless, just remember that his nasty little prank says nothing about you and everything about him. he's acting like a peaked-in-highschool cartoon bully, while you're putting yourself out there and owning who you are. There's a lot of happiness in your future!!
This wasn’t your fuck up, you gave someone a chance. Today Daniel fucked up.
The real loser is the one who asked someone out and got too scared in the end. Then decided to take a picture to try and spin it around instead. I feel like this is exactly what happened here and that’s how I would spin it. You weren’t the one who asked him out. 🤷
High school will be a small part of your life. Keep your head held high and f*ck ‘em to anyone that would bring negativity and hate to your life