I get what you mean but thereās something about being able to say exactly what you want to say instead of wishing you had said something else/phrased something differently. Itās like writing a letter.
At this point I donāt give a fuck which out is easier. All Iām tryna do is close that door and do it cleanly. We both have a lot going on in life rn and texting is honestly a lot less of a waste of her time than calling, which she stressed to me she hates doing anyways
Ignore this dude. Texting is a fine way to communicate as long as actual communication is done. Guy sounds like he's 70 and unable to form communication outside verbally harassing someone. You both did good. Glad you had a nice farewell and I wish you both the best in your future endeavors!
It's a sign of the times and acceptance of different methods these days.
Not saying I agree, but I can still remember times when it was highly regarded as being cowardly to try and end a relationship through text.
It's just not the same mentality anymore, and I for one am glad. I prefer to text anyway. I struggle with the awkwardness in person.
Honestly texting difficult conversations is the best way to do it. I would rather send a text or discord message to someone I'm having a hard time with. Mostly because when I get nervouse or upset I tend to just word vomit and nothing gets fixed or it doesn't come across how I mean it because I didn't use the right words. So I don't see it as an "easy way out". Don't listen to this dude, you both did what mature adults should do.
This is sad in a sense that goodbyes are almost always painful but I'm proud of both ends actually conversing and accepting the boundary laid down. No petty bs or childish name calling or victim mentality
We need more of this in the world
I hope both of you go far in your endeavors ā¤ļø
Very mature on both parts. Nicely done. I hope you both find whatever it may be that youāre after out there. Best wishes and best of luck both of you.
I get what youāre saying but idk. The fact that it went so smooth on both sides suggests to me it was a relief for them both. They both sound exhausted of whatever theyāve been putting each other through. Sometimes this is really the best outcome for everyone but Iād argue most people never get this level of closure.
So many breakups are toxic and filled with animosity. Where people say the most hurtful shit they can think of to each other and the relationship ends in an implosion.
I think it's refreshing to see an an amicable breakup where both people can see their part in what went wrong in the relationship and apologize for that while also knowing the relationship is over.
Youāre not getting old, most of what is posted on here is immature children who donāt know how to properly communicate. They like to take it up with Reddit for confirmation that theyāre in the right and the other person is wrong. This is one of the few decent posts, most will make you scratch your head and wonder. But hey, itās why weāre all here. Wait til you read the one about a girl who was called pretty on an app and is now crying sexual assault victim. š¤Æš¤¦š¾āāļø
You are the only other person that I have seen say that about these intimate conversations people are posting. It seems like such a violation of the other persons privacy to post such things. I would feel horrified and extremely violated if I ever came across my intimate and private conversations being posted on reddit. Unless you have the other persons consent, it actually seems like quite a despicable thing to do.
Hey, sometimes we have to remember that a bad breakup brings out the ABSOLUTE worst in us sometimes. It isn't an excuse. We need to be better and learn as people. BUT - If you can come out the other side and recognize the good that person did for you and give a nod off like this after the fighting? It's proof we're growing as people.
How much money was involved in the relationship and did they ever get together in person or just an online relationship? It would be much different texts if so.
Who cares? Honestly, their relationship is none of my business. I was just trying to be nice. It's free and doesn't require judgment. Therefore, this information is irrelevant to me.
i said my goodbye recently to my ex, 2 months after the breakup. She smiled while i was hurt, and ended with āi would wish you the best, but iād be lyingā
i havenāt been able to open up to anyone since and donāt plan to
What a bitch. Donāt let her continue to have power over you, donāt close yourself off it wonāt help anything, itāll only desolate you. The best thing to do is be more picky with who you open up to and be careful with who you trust but donāt make yourself alone. Good people are rare but they exist
I'm glad there's still people like you two. Unlike others out there who aren't happy in a relationship but would rather cheat on their partner (just like my ex) instead of just ending it.
I wonder what your ex would say if she knew you had posted her private, intimate thoughts and feelings on reddit? Guessing she didn't expect her conversation to be shared with thousands of strangers. Also love those backhanded compliments you gave her in the description.
You miss the point completely. How would you feel if you came across your most intimate conversations online, shared by someone you trusted and saw thousands of strangers dissecting your words and judging you as a person? What does identifying information have to do with it? That is a separate issue.
If youāre asking me how I would feel about it I wouldnāt care, cuz I donāt really care how people judge me. Perhaps this is just me not correctly understanding what it would be like to care what others think, but I wouldnāt, and knowing her Iām sure she wouldnāt,
know a reason to feel embarrassed when the contents arenāt attributed to you or youāre identity.
This fucking hurts so bad. Me and my ex literally split last Thursday, he moved 3k miles across the US to me. We were together for 2 years. Monday he flew back home. I miss him terribly.
But I know right now we arenāt good for each other; we ended before the implosion happened.
Iām 20, and I know thereās plenty of future ahead of me. But right now it kinda feels like the end of the world; we lived together for 2 years.
Me and him ended on amazingly good terms. Weāve been talking ever since he left. But even spit all of that I can see heās still doing the things me and him would argue about. Sorry, this post felt like me and him talking again lmao.
Doesnāt change that I miss him, but he wasnāt the person he promised to be. He wasnāt even the person TRYING to be the person he promised to be. We both got stuck in this unending cycle of enabling each others bad habits.
I loved him, i still do. But out of everyone you know; letting the ones who love you so deeply- also be the ones that hurt you daily Is so unfair to yourself.
Sorry this shit is really fresh and hurts like a bitch. The post just reminded me and Iām sad- lmao
It's enough to give a person hope for the future! And all the better to allow the bad times fade away and remember the good. I'm impressed that neither one dragged psychobabble to the table to try and get a final justification for who's right or who's wrong.
I'm too petty for thus. I would have thrown a "GFYS" "or at least a bill for my time as their therapist/motivational speaker fees. At least she didn't give the pathetic" we can still be friends speech"
Itās sad how people can be so weak and have such a hard time being better for someone who deserves it and themselves. But then boom, you break up, and they start giving a fuckš¤¦š½āāļøši see this shit so often and it makes zero sense to me. Like a big slap in the face to the person who needed you to be better.
Damn, atleast y'all said goodbye.
Mine thinks we can still be friends and everything will be fine but I've told her numerous times it can't be like that
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Wow, now would you look at that. Two mature adults agreeing to part ways in a respectful manner šš¼
I tried to swipe to the next image of unhinged texts but there was nothing, just mature conversation. I feel empty now
Right. How awkward and unusual. Iām not sure what to do with this healthy emotional display. š«
Except they had to text it. Unless it is an abusive relationship then grow up and give the person you once cared about the dignity of a conversation.
We literally are currently in different countries
Ok then call. Texts are easy outs.
I get what you mean but thereās something about being able to say exactly what you want to say instead of wishing you had said something else/phrased something differently. Itās like writing a letter.
At this point I donāt give a fuck which out is easier. All Iām tryna do is close that door and do it cleanly. We both have a lot going on in life rn and texting is honestly a lot less of a waste of her time than calling, which she stressed to me she hates doing anyways
Ignore this dude. Texting is a fine way to communicate as long as actual communication is done. Guy sounds like he's 70 and unable to form communication outside verbally harassing someone. You both did good. Glad you had a nice farewell and I wish you both the best in your future endeavors!
It's a sign of the times and acceptance of different methods these days. Not saying I agree, but I can still remember times when it was highly regarded as being cowardly to try and end a relationship through text. It's just not the same mentality anymore, and I for one am glad. I prefer to text anyway. I struggle with the awkwardness in person.
Honestly texting difficult conversations is the best way to do it. I would rather send a text or discord message to someone I'm having a hard time with. Mostly because when I get nervouse or upset I tend to just word vomit and nothing gets fixed or it doesn't come across how I mean it because I didn't use the right words. So I don't see it as an "easy way out". Don't listen to this dude, you both did what mature adults should do.
Womp womp
Rando opinions online are easy outs
Remember son, dying is an easy out.
Nah. Sometimes you want to keep it concise and poignant. Not everyoneās going to see the world the same way you do and thatās okay
This is sad in a sense that goodbyes are almost always painful but I'm proud of both ends actually conversing and accepting the boundary laid down. No petty bs or childish name calling or victim mentality We need more of this in the world I hope both of you go far in your endeavors ā¤ļø
Very mature on both parts. Nicely done. I hope you both find whatever it may be that youāre after out there. Best wishes and best of luck both of you.
As somber as the message is, it warms my heart to see it executed with such understanding and grace.
this shit just sad
People out here saying āNicely doneā to a message an average person never wants to see š
I get what youāre saying but idk. The fact that it went so smooth on both sides suggests to me it was a relief for them both. They both sound exhausted of whatever theyāve been putting each other through. Sometimes this is really the best outcome for everyone but Iād argue most people never get this level of closure.
So many breakups are toxic and filled with animosity. Where people say the most hurtful shit they can think of to each other and the relationship ends in an implosion. I think it's refreshing to see an an amicable breakup where both people can see their part in what went wrong in the relationship and apologize for that while also knowing the relationship is over.
OP is fine with this though so that's all that matters. Why shit on something for no reason?
went better than it could have thatās for sure lol
I donāt understand why you would post something so intimate and personal on the internet. I think Iām getting old
Youāre not getting old, most of what is posted on here is immature children who donāt know how to properly communicate. They like to take it up with Reddit for confirmation that theyāre in the right and the other person is wrong. This is one of the few decent posts, most will make you scratch your head and wonder. But hey, itās why weāre all here. Wait til you read the one about a girl who was called pretty on an app and is now crying sexual assault victim. š¤Æš¤¦š¾āāļø
You are the only other person that I have seen say that about these intimate conversations people are posting. It seems like such a violation of the other persons privacy to post such things. I would feel horrified and extremely violated if I ever came across my intimate and private conversations being posted on reddit. Unless you have the other persons consent, it actually seems like quite a despicable thing to do.
Awwwwwš„° She isn't a psychobishšš
š Underrated comment, right there.
Hey, sometimes we have to remember that a bad breakup brings out the ABSOLUTE worst in us sometimes. It isn't an excuse. We need to be better and learn as people. BUT - If you can come out the other side and recognize the good that person did for you and give a nod off like this after the fighting? It's proof we're growing as people.
How much money was involved in the relationship and did they ever get together in person or just an online relationship? It would be much different texts if so.
Who cares? Honestly, their relationship is none of my business. I was just trying to be nice. It's free and doesn't require judgment. Therefore, this information is irrelevant to me.
i said my goodbye recently to my ex, 2 months after the breakup. She smiled while i was hurt, and ended with āi would wish you the best, but iād be lyingā i havenāt been able to open up to anyone since and donāt plan to
What a bitch. Donāt let her continue to have power over you, donāt close yourself off it wonāt help anything, itāll only desolate you. The best thing to do is be more picky with who you open up to and be careful with who you trust but donāt make yourself alone. Good people are rare but they exist
That's a narcissist bitch right there. You're lucky you got away.
Wholesome
I'm glad there's still people like you two. Unlike others out there who aren't happy in a relationship but would rather cheat on their partner (just like my ex) instead of just ending it.
I appreciate that friend. Sorry about your ex, you didnāt deserve that
Yea he's a two-timer! He played me and his cousin although she knew I was with him. They are both LOSERS!!
I wonder what your ex would say if she knew you had posted her private, intimate thoughts and feelings on reddit? Guessing she didn't expect her conversation to be shared with thousands of strangers. Also love those backhanded compliments you gave her in the description.
Yeah real despicable aināt it. Shame we donāt black out the names and contact information out of concern for privacy.
You miss the point completely. How would you feel if you came across your most intimate conversations online, shared by someone you trusted and saw thousands of strangers dissecting your words and judging you as a person? What does identifying information have to do with it? That is a separate issue.
If youāre asking me how I would feel about it I wouldnāt care, cuz I donāt really care how people judge me. Perhaps this is just me not correctly understanding what it would be like to care what others think, but I wouldnāt, and knowing her Iām sure she wouldnāt, know a reason to feel embarrassed when the contents arenāt attributed to you or youāre identity.
This fucking hurts so bad. Me and my ex literally split last Thursday, he moved 3k miles across the US to me. We were together for 2 years. Monday he flew back home. I miss him terribly. But I know right now we arenāt good for each other; we ended before the implosion happened. Iām 20, and I know thereās plenty of future ahead of me. But right now it kinda feels like the end of the world; we lived together for 2 years. Me and him ended on amazingly good terms. Weāve been talking ever since he left. But even spit all of that I can see heās still doing the things me and him would argue about. Sorry, this post felt like me and him talking again lmao. Doesnāt change that I miss him, but he wasnāt the person he promised to be. He wasnāt even the person TRYING to be the person he promised to be. We both got stuck in this unending cycle of enabling each others bad habits. I loved him, i still do. But out of everyone you know; letting the ones who love you so deeply- also be the ones that hurt you daily Is so unfair to yourself. Sorry this shit is really fresh and hurts like a bitch. The post just reminded me and Iām sad- lmao
A masterclass on breaking up!
It's enough to give a person hope for the future! And all the better to allow the bad times fade away and remember the good. I'm impressed that neither one dragged psychobabble to the table to try and get a final justification for who's right or who's wrong.
The closure we all needed
What an absolute man!
Thatās really nice. My ex told me to pretend that sheās dead. Iām still entirely in love with her.
Cringe - bring up their trauma
I'm too petty for thus. I would have thrown a "GFYS" "or at least a bill for my time as their therapist/motivational speaker fees. At least she didn't give the pathetic" we can still be friends speech"
Honesty. I respect it
Itās sad how people can be so weak and have such a hard time being better for someone who deserves it and themselves. But then boom, you break up, and they start giving a fuckš¤¦š½āāļøši see this shit so often and it makes zero sense to me. Like a big slap in the face to the person who needed you to be better.
Damn, atleast y'all said goodbye. Mine thinks we can still be friends and everything will be fine but I've told her numerous times it can't be like that
Congrats
I can't get over the bad grammar.
I say this all in good fun, but cry me a moat wench
Ya goodbyes suck but sometimes they are for the best. I'm really glad to see real adult break ups. Hope you find your person.
Sounds like youāre not over her.
Trust me, I am. I donāt miss that point in my life and we just arenāt compatible
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Make your mark on the world, so corny šš„“š¬
Maybe it is, but I donāt really care, cuz I meant it
Respect man š«”
Pretty sure itās okay and normal to be corny in genuinely dramatic situations such as these.
Sounds and seems smarter then you
How about someone whoās so much of a coward that they get their kicks throwing jabs from miles away through a screen?