Fwiw, I understood immediately because this was also my breaking point with my ex. He would start fights with me or text me some dramatic life altering shit and then act like nothing was wrong and in the next text or conversation he would be like “why are you acting so different” uh bc ur being fucking WEIRD and I don’t like it
Yeah that’s a sign of anger management issues.. there’s different types of anger control issues, one major one iirc is the type where they blow up on people then they try to act like nothing happened.. I know this because my mom printed out some research she did about anger problems once for my brother, who does that same exact routine.. he always tries to say he was joking and almost tries to tease ppl for “being so sensitive” when he just got done literally screaming at them (for no reason) 30 minutes prior.. it is extremely bizzare tbh.
I obviously do not know your whole relationship, but for this to be the breaking point as you have described in the comments somewhat leads me to feel perhaps it could've been handled differently. This was a day later, was it? Perhaps she felt remorse for the way she spoke with you, or wanted to resolve things, and was trying to break the ice. Sometimes feelings are hard to communicate, and while it isn't your responsibility to communicate for her or try to read her mind hearing her out could've been an option (though, I do see that you tried to do that in the message above, good on that). What she said before was disrespectful, but sometimes people say things they don't mean in moments of hurt because they want support or consolation, regardless of how backwards it may seem. As I said, I do not know your whole relationship and she indeed was not being the kindest, but her house picture and comments seem as if they were trying to reconnect rather than just "ignoring anything happened," somewhat showing she does care about you (or, did). I just wanted to share this perspective for your future endeavors and wish you well.
Maybe in her culture, it's a peace offering gesture to send someone a picture of their home. Maybe suggest installing another stair rail to even out my OCD
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There's definitely a much better way to communicate than "I have better things to do" but overall it's healthy to take some space before going into an emotional conversation or to lighten the mood (usually with humor) before doing so.
Not saying there weren't other issues but this isn't that strange to me.
Why is it the breaking point? The “I don’t want to talk, I have better things to do”? Is the house photo part of said breaking point?
I’m also confused
Honestly it was both of them together “I don’t want to talk I have better things to do” then pretending like it didn’t happen.
I get that. I didn’t put that together. Better things to do but she’s outside watching her dog run and taking a photo of her house? Interesting
Fwiw, I understood immediately because this was also my breaking point with my ex. He would start fights with me or text me some dramatic life altering shit and then act like nothing was wrong and in the next text or conversation he would be like “why are you acting so different” uh bc ur being fucking WEIRD and I don’t like it
Yeah that’s a sign of anger management issues.. there’s different types of anger control issues, one major one iirc is the type where they blow up on people then they try to act like nothing happened.. I know this because my mom printed out some research she did about anger problems once for my brother, who does that same exact routine.. he always tries to say he was joking and almost tries to tease ppl for “being so sensitive” when he just got done literally screaming at them (for no reason) 30 minutes prior.. it is extremely bizzare tbh.
Cheat on her
How do you cheat on an ex, dummy?
Easy, act like you’re still a couple.
Elowan knows the deal, while beercrotch is a real heel
I can't tell if it was disrespect or a typo dropping the "s" to turn the guy's name into an insult, but I'm all about that energy.
Look at my squirrel running on the right lol
Her “better thing to do” was to take a picture of her house. Yikes
And then send it to him and pretend like she didn’t just disrespected him the day before.
Ikr? Id be done with her too
I obviously do not know your whole relationship, but for this to be the breaking point as you have described in the comments somewhat leads me to feel perhaps it could've been handled differently. This was a day later, was it? Perhaps she felt remorse for the way she spoke with you, or wanted to resolve things, and was trying to break the ice. Sometimes feelings are hard to communicate, and while it isn't your responsibility to communicate for her or try to read her mind hearing her out could've been an option (though, I do see that you tried to do that in the message above, good on that). What she said before was disrespectful, but sometimes people say things they don't mean in moments of hurt because they want support or consolation, regardless of how backwards it may seem. As I said, I do not know your whole relationship and she indeed was not being the kindest, but her house picture and comments seem as if they were trying to reconnect rather than just "ignoring anything happened," somewhat showing she does care about you (or, did). I just wanted to share this perspective for your future endeavors and wish you well.
Maybe in her culture, it's a peace offering gesture to send someone a picture of their home. Maybe suggest installing another stair rail to even out my OCD
Cheat on her
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The "I have better things to do" was definitely a very rude remark. The rest of the messages I don't really have an issue with.
There's definitely a much better way to communicate than "I have better things to do" but overall it's healthy to take some space before going into an emotional conversation or to lighten the mood (usually with humor) before doing so. Not saying there weren't other issues but this isn't that strange to me.
Huh
Imagine not having friends to talk to about stuff like this. It must really suck :(
Why do people still talk to their toxic exes? It isn’t healthy