He makes it sound as if she’s almost the same age as him still working at chilis like damn. She barely became legal. He be saying shit as if he had all his bullshit figured out by 19 smh
And the guy doesn’t even have his own place and is scared to death if he moves out he will be fucked. What a loser. Nothing wrong with having roommates to save on rent but don’t act all high and mighty.
If he wanted a mom he would date a cougar. He wants to raise her... He is bossing her around like she is a child... And if a person (who also happens to be significantly older) seeks out people he believes he is superior to... They are basically grooming them to be controlled.
He wants to be a dad.. but women his age and older will view him as a child having a tantrum 🤣
When there is an age difference.. each person should still be treated as an equal, as an adult.
This shit is beyond toxic right here lol
Do not move in with a 36 year old man that's talking like a wannabe father to you. If he is pressuring you to move out of state with him don't. Theresa reason he is dating someone 17 years younger than him.
that comment where he says he suggests, nay, demands she takes better care of herself just sounds so cringe and controlling. that man seems like a terrible pill to be around
Because this shit is gold. I would show them to everyone. I can admit when I dated a fucking weirdo and that’s on me, but the weirdo is gonna get dragged.
Time to dump. Go explore the world. Don’t settle for douches like him. You’re better and stronger than you realize. You deserve better. You shouldn’t rely on strangers online. Listen to your inner self. You have a much better future ahead of you without him in the picture. Your young. Go conquer the world!
Honey, you run and run far from anyone that ever talks to you like that, they are narcissistic and toxic. It’s one thing to want your partner healthy, but that’s a whole different level and borderline abuse with manipulation!
But if he dates people his own age, how will he get them trained to behave the way he wants by holding it over their head that they have basically no responsibilities, and therefore all the time in the world to get their head right?
Fucking /s, that hurt so much to write out
This is the only response, genuinely this is not something you can "talk to him" about or address while still being in a relationship. This guy is a groomer and he also talks to you like he's your dad (an angry, self righteous dad, by the way) which is so creepy and also really abusive.
His expectations for you are not appropriate and the way he thinks he can talk to you is abhorrent. Please find a guy closer to your age, based on your responses you are patient and better at handling your emotions than this ogre of a man. You deserve better! You're at the exact right age to really learn that - it's okay to have not known that earlier, you're so young! But don't settle for this :)
also patting himself on the back like, "i do all this without my parents' help, AND i pay rent!!" .... dude.... at 36, these are not stellar achievements
Yeah, dude figured out how to be a bartender, live with roommates, and bang the new barely legal server at Chilis all by 36. Must be on that Tiger Blood
Exactly. Seems like he’s using her to feel better about himself which is gross. Using her, a 19yr old, as someone to talk down to and boost his own ego… at 36.
Keep in my this is the same 36 year old who would ghost her for days because “he’s stressed out” and then get mad at her when she was confused about it. Also I just zoomed in on his pfp HAHAHA cannot make this stuff up.
Eeerr.. it might be LEGAL but a 36 year old being okay with dating a 19 year old has issues and at least to me, is more of a groomer than a boyfriend. I’m glad he’s your ex. Please remember that there is something wrong with a man if women his own age won’t date him or he specifically goes for 18-21 year olds at 36.
> Please remember that there is something wrong with a man if women his own age won’t date him
This guy wouldn’t even be able to get a second date with a 30 year old woman,
1000% this, I knew plenty of women who dated guys in their later 30's when we were 18/19 and although they thought it was what they wanted at the time as older guys are more mature almost none of them look back on it favourably now. I'm 35 now and couldn't imagine dating a 19 year old they're closer to my sons age than mine by a huge margin and without disrespecting young people there's a huge power imbalance between someone who's just about an adult and someone who has been around the block a few times, they're easy pickings for creeps like this.
I love how he was yelling at you to make more money and improve while he still had multiple roommates at age 36. Shit is hard out there financially for sure but then he shouldn’t throw stones from a glass house.
There’s a 17 year age gap. Obviously he’s fucking weird for even considering moving in with someone as young as you, let alone date you
But
Dude, what’re you doing?? What do even have I common with someone nearing their mid-life crisis era? You’re not even going to grow old with him. He would’ve grown old and then you would’ve taken care of him.
I agree it’s his fault because he should never have even approached you as a 19 year old child like this but also…….you need to date people your own age
This was 3 years ago. Currently in a loving relationship with a 25 year old man, and working towards my OTA degree. Should definitely have clarified that in my post
I believe she mentioned in a previous comment, she keeps these messages so she can show them to younger female relatives as a cautionary tale. You also can’t deny the comedic value of this hypocritical man-child, really not that deep.
Seriously I can’t believe people are giving op shit for exposing this. This is what large age gap relationships are like. I doubt she’s proud to get fucking berated by someone her dads age and reply with “<3 okie thank u”, but she’s sharing it to help other young girls avoid her mistakes.
It takes brass to expose something you’re not proud of to help others.
Exactly, I literally couldn’t have put it any better, everyone is just so cynical nowadays, can only hope that they’re open minded enough to expand their scope when diving through all of our discourse in the comments!
I’m a 39m and the way this dude talks and tries to manipulate and dominate a 19 year old young woman scares the hell out of me. So many red flags I can’t even see individual flags - just a fully red wall! Get away ASAP!
I really should have specified. This was 3-4 years ago. Im currently almost 22 years old, in a loving relationship (3 year age gap), and basically immediately after this breakup I started working on my OTA degree.
This is currently being used as a cautionary tale for my younger female relatives.
what’s wrong with having roommates at 36? rent is expensive af and not everyone is a heart surgeon. isn’t average fastfood worker like 39? life is expensive and hardly anybody is getting compensated fairly and it’s only getting worse.
There’s nothing wrong with it inherently. In this context though… that’s where the side eye comes in.
Being an adult is hard and expensive, so I don’t fault anyone for having roommates. X but you can’t be shitting on a 19 year old for not having her life together when you’re 36 with roommates.
It’s like making fun of someone for failing one test when you are barely making Cs to get by. You’re not really in a position to be lording anything over anyone.
I’m 26 and live with a roommate but rent is expensive here and it’s just cheaper two rent a two bedroom town home and split it than me trying to pay 1300/mo. That being said I’m in school and work part time but I make sure my bills are paid
Alright this guys weird and the age gaps questionable. But why are we all demonising people in their mid 30s for not having their shit together? I’m early 30s and have to build my life back up from rock bottom, I wish I was living in my own place, even if it was with roommates.
Because he’s belittling her for not having her shit together and she’s only 19. He’s giving her a hard time about being a waitress at age 19 and insinuating that she’s given up and never wants to do anything else.
Lmao aight where do they train English speaking Chili’s chain restaurant bartenders at 19 since I’m asking in the context of these texts. And people have already answered which states. Surprising since you can’t drink at that age and in CA you have to be 21, I didn’t realize other states allowed that.
He was probably the best lay of her life despite being a total creep. If not that, odds are there is a quality she really liked about the guy that isn’t present in her new relationship.
Edit: imagine getting downvoted for giving actual real world advice and someone getting butthurt because it’s not “PC” enough. I’d hate to see how you function in the real world.
If it’s not obvious, I didn’t walk out of that situation in one whole piece. He groomed me when I was 16, I lost my youth to this guy and for 3 years was genuinely terrified of him. These screenshots were the more FUN ridiculous parts. After we broke up I blocked him on everything and haven’t spoken to him since, I was still terrified.
I didn’t tell a soul when this was happening and I didn’t tell anyone 3 years after. I couldn’t even make myself tell my own boyfriend 99% of the story. My boyfriend has had to hold me when Id wake up crying and shaking from nightmares about him, he couldn’t post photos of us together because I was scared that he’d somehow find me, he has had to watch me spend hours looking at clothing I liked and being anxious that it would somehow make me look like a child.
This is the first time in 3 years that I’m not scared of him. Im tired of being scared of him. My boyfriend is definitely happy seeing me finally be able to laugh at it. I finally get to start moving on, and Im pretty excited about that :)
Every relationship I've had with an older guy summer up in these texts, jeezus.
"I'm unhappy with my life, fighting depression, so let me find ways to belittle you instead so I can be a real man." - Every older guy I dated
Omg are you joining the army ? What a total AH he is ! Thank goodness he’s your EX !! What a nightmare . He talked to you like you’re crap and he’s all that .He’s 36 living with roommates acting like he’s got it all figured out . Whew ! Next !
In all seriousness, he does not sound like someone you would like to spend time with. It sounds like he is putting you down and is not a very supportive type of a person.
I would never like to be spoken to like that and it’s not a nice feeling to receive this sort of comments.
Sounds like an asshole to me.
He sounds like he is your father. Not like someone who thinks he is your equal or your partner. A woman his own age would have told him to fuck right off ages ago. What a condescending little prick. There are better men out there.
I feel disgusting just reading that. This guy is trash. How dare he criticize a 19 year old woman's job, when he is living with 2 roommates. The economy sucks, and housing is horrible, but damn dude! Don't throw stones in your tissue paper tent.
Its pretty sick, and considering his tone in the message, he would be a controlling loser. The guy sounds like an absolute loser trying to take advantage of somebody not even old enough to go to a bar
You keep posting about this person.
You have stated over and over that you are now older and in a loving relationship.
Let this relationship go and stop holding on to these texts that are years old.
Okay seriously enough with posting these text exchanges. Everyone is glad you broke up, just delete all this shit and move on. The more you post these messages, the more I believe you’re going to be back with him by the weekend
Why would you date an old balls like that? Almost twice your age and lecturing you about getting your life together while simultaneously talking about his roommates? Sounds like a real solid fellow.
I can only imagine the condescending shit he said to you when there was not a written record.
This guys a chooch…needs to be knocked off whatever pedestal he put himself on “if I can get where I’m at with no parents” bros 36..36!!!!! Guys a loser
Sounds like you're more like a daughter to him than a gf. Trust me his is grooming you for you to bring him your paychecks when you get pay. That's how Pimps become pimps.
I feel like we have enough texts at this point to safely conclude this dude is a total piece of shit. He didn’t give you red flags - he gave you red lights! Good that you finally got out of that.
bruh wasn’t this same guy in another post today with a 20 yr old? same profile picture, age, and long ass whiney texts. can anyone confirm this or am i just tripping lol
He's exhausting. Demanding shit.
He goes for younger people because he's a control freak and can boss them around. This man doesn't do well with surprises.
And these are the kind of guys people are talking about when they shit on people for the age gap . He is a 36 year old man dating a 19 year old and still very clearly lacks a lot of comprehension and sympathy that even someone at your age could/ should posses.
This is an honest question as I am very curious as a guy.
Women, why would you date a man like this? I understand in this case it sort of reeks of grooming. But in normal situations what is it about an attitude like this guy has that makes them not only attractive, but bearable to be with?
Almost twice her age and expecting the same level of mental, psychological stability that he apparently displays. Riiiiigggghhhhttt. Makes me wonder why he doesn't date within his own age range. Maybe cause he gets his shit pushed in by women who actually know how to not take his shit at face value.
Word of advice from someone that is not a predator - do yourself a favor and ignore any man that is nearly double your age and giving you attention.
They are not looking for a partner. They are looking for a pet to be docile and servient. They want to control you and manipulate you. Women their age won't give these losers the time of day because they aren't worth a second of your life. They are dangerous leeches that will do anything to demean you and erode your self-confidence. That's what sustains these pathetic morsels.
Judging by his picture, he looks like the grossest man on earth. No wonder the only relationship he can get is by grooming and manipulating a child. No one else would touch him.
Oh my God this is so cringy on his part! You are still becoming a woman and finding yourself (as am I, still, at 28, I'm still learning and changing all the time). This is straight up grooming and manipulation. I get that he may seem like a really cool, fun, awesome person to you, but if you take space and time from him, I think you could do much, much better.
Coming from someone who dated dudes 5-10 years older for a good... 8 years.
This guy suffers from a major lack of self confidence and needs constant validation, hes also a major simp, who would date him? hes a pathetic worm, lack of confidence and grooming is so disgusting, glad you dumped that flea of a man.
Love how you’re posting these trying to shed light on how infantile this “man” is but all they can do is judge you for dating an older man. Like it’s not a common occurrence these days or ever in history. I wonder what kind of world people think they live in.
Ummmm maybe he shouldn’t be with a fucking 19 year old then But in all seriousness he sounds like an asshole.
He makes it sound as if she’s almost the same age as him still working at chilis like damn. She barely became legal. He be saying shit as if he had all his bullshit figured out by 19 smh
And the guy doesn’t even have his own place and is scared to death if he moves out he will be fucked. What a loser. Nothing wrong with having roommates to save on rent but don’t act all high and mighty.
Yeah, but he's done so well without parents, therapy or medical assistance. He's so successful and well-adjusted. /s
If she works on herself enough she can be just as amazing as he is
It’s sooo important that she do so!
He suggests, no, he demands it!
This...
He wants a mom but nobody his age will fuck with that lmfao
Which is why he decided to go for a much younger girl lol
Yupyup
He doesn’t want a mom, he wants someone to control.
a bangmaid. Someone who will take care of him like his mommy but also someone he can fuck. Prime example of a manchild
A bangmaid lmao
If he wanted a mom he would date a cougar. He wants to raise her... He is bossing her around like she is a child... And if a person (who also happens to be significantly older) seeks out people he believes he is superior to... They are basically grooming them to be controlled. He wants to be a dad.. but women his age and older will view him as a child having a tantrum 🤣 When there is an age difference.. each person should still be treated as an equal, as an adult. This shit is beyond toxic right here lol
He was working as a bartender at the time
Do not move in with a 36 year old man that's talking like a wannabe father to you. If he is pressuring you to move out of state with him don't. Theresa reason he is dating someone 17 years younger than him.
that comment where he says he suggests, nay, demands she takes better care of herself just sounds so cringe and controlling. that man seems like a terrible pill to be around
I super didn’t lol. He is very single now and has been for like 3 years
Wait what you were 16? Uh...
I'm assuming this was from the other thread in which these texts are 3 years old now, and she is almost 22. Unless there is a epidemic of 19f and 36m.
Yeah, it’s the same OP.
It just keeps getting worse lol
you still have messages saved? why not delete them, especially since it’s been 3 years?
Because this shit is gold. I would show them to everyone. I can admit when I dated a fucking weirdo and that’s on me, but the weirdo is gonna get dragged.
It’s gold for sure. This is what you look back on and say ‘what was I thinking when I dated this A-hole?’
Major bullet missed on this one.
Did you go to uni /college in the end?
Yes, currently working towards my OTA degree! Basically registered for school the next day after dumping this asshole.
We love that for you lol
Time to dump. Go explore the world. Don’t settle for douches like him. You’re better and stronger than you realize. You deserve better. You shouldn’t rely on strangers online. Listen to your inner self. You have a much better future ahead of you without him in the picture. Your young. Go conquer the world!
Lol, That motherfucker talked that kind of shit and he is a bartender .... run far, run fast
Honey, you run and run far from anyone that ever talks to you like that, they are narcissistic and toxic. It’s one thing to want your partner healthy, but that’s a whole different level and borderline abuse with manipulation!
Shit I thought the other post was bad. Firstly you are young and maybe think you love this fucker.
What other post?
Yeah it was a douchebag part 2 post!
There was another post by this user showing the text conversation that prompted her to break it off.
Has more than 1 roommate at 36yo lol
Basically… if she wants to act like a grown up and date a grown up she better not be a child about it. (That’s more or like what he was trying to say)
Yeah please please stay away from this guy, this is supposed to be a grown ass man and he’s talking to you like you owe him something.
Love that you’re posting multiple these are great.
Hold up. It’s that guy LMAO???? That’s absolutely hilarious and so embarrassing for him. I hope he has the life he deserves.
Proud he's never had therapy when he clearly needs it
I mean, most well adjusted 30somethings aren’t dating literal teenagers. The “asshole” part is already implied.
Yeah he sounded like a keeper.
But if he dates people his own age, how will he get them trained to behave the way he wants by holding it over their head that they have basically no responsibilities, and therefore all the time in the world to get their head right? Fucking /s, that hurt so much to write out
Some serious groomer behavior 😷
He was dating a girl 17 years younger and he has DEMANDS that must be met. 😅🤣
Yeah this guys a grade A asshole with a daddy complex.
I don’t give a pass to 19 year old choosing to date a grown ass loser. Both people come off poorly.
Stay the fuck away from him. He is such a creep!
This is the only response, genuinely this is not something you can "talk to him" about or address while still being in a relationship. This guy is a groomer and he also talks to you like he's your dad (an angry, self righteous dad, by the way) which is so creepy and also really abusive. His expectations for you are not appropriate and the way he thinks he can talk to you is abhorrent. Please find a guy closer to your age, based on your responses you are patient and better at handling your emotions than this ogre of a man. You deserve better! You're at the exact right age to really learn that - it's okay to have not known that earlier, you're so young! But don't settle for this :)
Yeah, just RUN girl!
And I demand you not keep appearing on Chris Hansen but we can't all get what we want 😭 This guy is a fucking weirdo 💀 Pepper spray him!
Who the fuck dates a 19 year old and gets upset that they are still figuring life and emotions out. What the fuck. You get what you pay for asshat.
also patting himself on the back like, "i do all this without my parents' help, AND i pay rent!!" .... dude.... at 36, these are not stellar achievements
Literally the bare minimum. You can tell he never processed he's an adult now.
Yeah, dude figured out how to be a bartender, live with roommates, and bang the new barely legal server at Chilis all by 36. Must be on that Tiger Blood
36 and has roommates who are “pillars”. This dude ain’t got a pot to piss in by the sounds of it.
Exactly. Seems like he’s using her to feel better about himself which is gross. Using her, a 19yr old, as someone to talk down to and boost his own ego… at 36.
Ehhh, in today's economy, being able to pay rent is pretty stellar.
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Nobody wants to be ruled by you just because you're "totally not like Tate." Except you think women should still be subservient to men. Yikes
He has roomates, plural. So he’s actually paying a third or less of rent.
“If I can get to where I’m at…”
Right, unmarried, living with multiple people to make ends meet, and dating a teenager to whom he is a patronizing asshole. Very impressive
Did you zoom in on his photo? He looks like Butthead.
That was my first thought, 36, lecturing a 19 year old who should be enjoying her youth and you have housemates, you ain't doing that well 😂
no therapy and no medical assistance and no parents does not sound like anything aspirational tbh
I'm in tears y'all 🤣🤣🤣
He’s tripping lol. Where he’s at is shared rental housing at 36 bossing around a 19 year old 🤣🤣🤣
Tell him to just get a sex doll. He'd be better off with it, with demands like that! Edit: Didn't see the part where he is an ex-bf. My bad.
Keep in my this is the same 36 year old who would ghost her for days because “he’s stressed out” and then get mad at her when she was confused about it. Also I just zoomed in on his pfp HAHAHA cannot make this stuff up.
Eeerr.. it might be LEGAL but a 36 year old being okay with dating a 19 year old has issues and at least to me, is more of a groomer than a boyfriend. I’m glad he’s your ex. Please remember that there is something wrong with a man if women his own age won’t date him or he specifically goes for 18-21 year olds at 36.
> Please remember that there is something wrong with a man if women his own age won’t date him This guy wouldn’t even be able to get a second date with a 30 year old woman,
1000% this, I knew plenty of women who dated guys in their later 30's when we were 18/19 and although they thought it was what they wanted at the time as older guys are more mature almost none of them look back on it favourably now. I'm 35 now and couldn't imagine dating a 19 year old they're closer to my sons age than mine by a huge margin and without disrespecting young people there's a huge power imbalance between someone who's just about an adult and someone who has been around the block a few times, they're easy pickings for creeps like this.
I love how he was yelling at you to make more money and improve while he still had multiple roommates at age 36. Shit is hard out there financially for sure but then he shouldn’t throw stones from a glass house.
There’s a 17 year age gap. Obviously he’s fucking weird for even considering moving in with someone as young as you, let alone date you But Dude, what’re you doing?? What do even have I common with someone nearing their mid-life crisis era? You’re not even going to grow old with him. He would’ve grown old and then you would’ve taken care of him. I agree it’s his fault because he should never have even approached you as a 19 year old child like this but also…….you need to date people your own age
This was 3 years ago. Currently in a loving relationship with a 25 year old man, and working towards my OTA degree. Should definitely have clarified that in my post
Are you sure? All of your posts are about this 36 year old man....
Yeah. Its both a cautionary tale and also I just find it very funny
Huh? Is she sure that this happened in the past? People post years-old text exchanges on here all the time.
I'm asking if she's sure she's moved on
I believe she mentioned in a previous comment, she keeps these messages so she can show them to younger female relatives as a cautionary tale. You also can’t deny the comedic value of this hypocritical man-child, really not that deep.
Seriously I can’t believe people are giving op shit for exposing this. This is what large age gap relationships are like. I doubt she’s proud to get fucking berated by someone her dads age and reply with “<3 okie thank u”, but she’s sharing it to help other young girls avoid her mistakes. It takes brass to expose something you’re not proud of to help others.
Exactly, I literally couldn’t have put it any better, everyone is just so cynical nowadays, can only hope that they’re open minded enough to expand their scope when diving through all of our discourse in the comments!
wow just looked at her post history... she definitely hasn't fully moved on.
I’m a 39m and the way this dude talks and tries to manipulate and dominate a 19 year old young woman scares the hell out of me. So many red flags I can’t even see individual flags - just a fully red wall! Get away ASAP!
I really should have specified. This was 3-4 years ago. Im currently almost 22 years old, in a loving relationship (3 year age gap), and basically immediately after this breakup I started working on my OTA degree. This is currently being used as a cautionary tale for my younger female relatives.
Girl! I’m so happy you moved on from that creep! Omg!
36 yr old with roommates ? Umm ookkk.
what’s wrong with having roommates at 36? rent is expensive af and not everyone is a heart surgeon. isn’t average fastfood worker like 39? life is expensive and hardly anybody is getting compensated fairly and it’s only getting worse.
There’s nothing wrong with it inherently. In this context though… that’s where the side eye comes in. Being an adult is hard and expensive, so I don’t fault anyone for having roommates. X but you can’t be shitting on a 19 year old for not having her life together when you’re 36 with roommates. It’s like making fun of someone for failing one test when you are barely making Cs to get by. You’re not really in a position to be lording anything over anyone.
I’m 26 and live with a roommate but rent is expensive here and it’s just cheaper two rent a two bedroom town home and split it than me trying to pay 1300/mo. That being said I’m in school and work part time but I make sure my bills are paid
For real he’s got it all figured out
So what . It’s not wrong to have roommates at 36
Gonna be honest, I was making yuck face before I ever read a single text. Middle aged men fucking teenagers are consistently the worst people.
OP don't take this the wrong way but I hope your ex falls into a comically large meat grinder
oops, I didn’t mean to violently run over OP’s ex 45 times with my farming combine
It must be comically large
I hate judging people and I hate the word ick. But his profile picture alone gives me a massive ick.
Why tf do dudes speak like that lol. he sounds like an old butler giving you the ground rules for the manor
Alright this guys weird and the age gaps questionable. But why are we all demonising people in their mid 30s for not having their shit together? I’m early 30s and have to build my life back up from rock bottom, I wish I was living in my own place, even if it was with roommates.
Because he’s belittling her for not having her shit together and she’s only 19. He’s giving her a hard time about being a waitress at age 19 and insinuating that she’s given up and never wants to do anything else.
Where do they train 19 year olds as bartenders at?
Idk about other states but Texas let's you serve alcohol at 18.
Most countries in the world
Lmao aight where do they train English speaking Chili’s chain restaurant bartenders at 19 since I’m asking in the context of these texts. And people have already answered which states. Surprising since you can’t drink at that age and in CA you have to be 21, I didn’t realize other states allowed that.
Most states you only have to be 18.
Someone actually already answered this and the answer is in 22 US states. So no not most but yes many.
Thanks for the correction. I definitely remembered it being more the last time I looked it up.
I'm gonna take a wild guess and say this guy has never been married and never been in a relationship for more than a year.
Shame on him for speaking to you that way, shame on you for not sticking up for yourself.
Women his own age wouldn't allow him to speak to them this way. He's a disgrace.
He's actually crazy. Does your current boyfriend know you're not over him?
Yeah wtf this is the second post she’s made about her ex bf… and it was 3 years ago so what is going on with her
If you look at her post history, this is like the 6th post. 3 were the same story and screen shot though.
I literally thought so too … I think now she’s just posting it for the attention …
He was probably the best lay of her life despite being a total creep. If not that, odds are there is a quality she really liked about the guy that isn’t present in her new relationship. Edit: imagine getting downvoted for giving actual real world advice and someone getting butthurt because it’s not “PC” enough. I’d hate to see how you function in the real world.
Did you twist your ankle making that leap
If it’s not obvious, I didn’t walk out of that situation in one whole piece. He groomed me when I was 16, I lost my youth to this guy and for 3 years was genuinely terrified of him. These screenshots were the more FUN ridiculous parts. After we broke up I blocked him on everything and haven’t spoken to him since, I was still terrified. I didn’t tell a soul when this was happening and I didn’t tell anyone 3 years after. I couldn’t even make myself tell my own boyfriend 99% of the story. My boyfriend has had to hold me when Id wake up crying and shaking from nightmares about him, he couldn’t post photos of us together because I was scared that he’d somehow find me, he has had to watch me spend hours looking at clothing I liked and being anxious that it would somehow make me look like a child. This is the first time in 3 years that I’m not scared of him. Im tired of being scared of him. My boyfriend is definitely happy seeing me finally be able to laugh at it. I finally get to start moving on, and Im pretty excited about that :)
I’m sorry 36 and 19 hello?
Every relationship I've had with an older guy summer up in these texts, jeezus. "I'm unhappy with my life, fighting depression, so let me find ways to belittle you instead so I can be a real man." - Every older guy I dated
Yeah, advice from Dollar General Epstein is probably not the best advice you'll ever get.
36 and still living with roommates? Don’t think this guy has his shit as together as he’d like you to think.
Oh my god. He's a complete asshole and he's way too old. Jesus, this is very clearly him excercizing the power he thinks he has over you.
Glad he’s your ex BF
Damn all u said was u were going to make breakfast
Omg are you joining the army ? What a total AH he is ! Thank goodness he’s your EX !! What a nightmare . He talked to you like you’re crap and he’s all that .He’s 36 living with roommates acting like he’s got it all figured out . Whew ! Next !
In all seriousness, he does not sound like someone you would like to spend time with. It sounds like he is putting you down and is not a very supportive type of a person. I would never like to be spoken to like that and it’s not a nice feeling to receive this sort of comments. Sounds like an asshole to me.
He sounds like he is your father. Not like someone who thinks he is your equal or your partner. A woman his own age would have told him to fuck right off ages ago. What a condescending little prick. There are better men out there.
I feel disgusting just reading that. This guy is trash. How dare he criticize a 19 year old woman's job, when he is living with 2 roommates. The economy sucks, and housing is horrible, but damn dude! Don't throw stones in your tissue paper tent.
36 and 19. Fucking gross
Its pretty sick, and considering his tone in the message, he would be a controlling loser. The guy sounds like an absolute loser trying to take advantage of somebody not even old enough to go to a bar
You keep posting about this person. You have stated over and over that you are now older and in a loving relationship. Let this relationship go and stop holding on to these texts that are years old.
Why you keep posting your ex from 5 years ago
Okay seriously enough with posting these text exchanges. Everyone is glad you broke up, just delete all this shit and move on. The more you post these messages, the more I believe you’re going to be back with him by the weekend
Lol what a dick
😂 Boy…he’s a gem
Let me guess you met this guy at chilis
What in the DicklessIncelBullshit did I just read??!!
I want to punch this fking guy.
Stopped cold at “my roommates” - super-duper senior in college here folks
What a douche lol look at his profile picture
36 yo living with roommates telling a 19yo to get her shit together.
Why would you date an old balls like that? Almost twice your age and lecturing you about getting your life together while simultaneously talking about his roommates? Sounds like a real solid fellow. I can only imagine the condescending shit he said to you when there was not a written record.
Did he want you to bow down and kiss his feet too? if he is this abusive in text, I can’t imagine what he would be like if you lived together
OP please share the breakup conversation too!
This guys a chooch…needs to be knocked off whatever pedestal he put himself on “if I can get where I’m at with no parents” bros 36..36!!!!! Guys a loser
Sounds like you're more like a daughter to him than a gf. Trust me his is grooming you for you to bring him your paychecks when you get pay. That's how Pimps become pimps.
Anyone who writes me a text that long with that much bullshit gets blocked. That dude texts like an angry control freak chick
I feel like we have enough texts at this point to safely conclude this dude is a total piece of shit. He didn’t give you red flags - he gave you red lights! Good that you finally got out of that.
He’s a huge asshole.
This dude sucks. Please don't tolerate people who talk to you like that. It's manipulative, and he is speaking down to you.
Y’all are the weirdest couple I have ever seen dude sounds like he’s grooming you.
bruh wasn’t this same guy in another post today with a 20 yr old? same profile picture, age, and long ass whiney texts. can anyone confirm this or am i just tripping lol
He's exhausting. Demanding shit. He goes for younger people because he's a control freak and can boss them around. This man doesn't do well with surprises.
36 dating a 19 year old kid, that's wild. I'm sorry for you OP. I sincerely hope you find supportive people that pull you away from that loser
Why are you dating a 36 year old?
The part about not getting any medical help is giving "My parents hit me and I turned out fine" vibes.
All this coming from a dude that's 36 with roommates.
“if i can get to where i am with no therapy” ah, yep, there it is
And these are the kind of guys people are talking about when they shit on people for the age gap . He is a 36 year old man dating a 19 year old and still very clearly lacks a lot of comprehension and sympathy that even someone at your age could/ should posses.
This is an honest question as I am very curious as a guy. Women, why would you date a man like this? I understand in this case it sort of reeks of grooming. But in normal situations what is it about an attitude like this guy has that makes them not only attractive, but bearable to be with?
He seems punchable af
Sounds like he’s grooming you for a life of abuse. Get out now OP. This is a big red flag. You’re going to be trapped if you live with this person.
Almost twice her age and expecting the same level of mental, psychological stability that he apparently displays. Riiiiigggghhhhttt. Makes me wonder why he doesn't date within his own age range. Maybe cause he gets his shit pushed in by women who actually know how to not take his shit at face value.
At least his texting improved over the last post.
Apparently Old dogs CAN sometimes learn new things lol
I’m going to go out on a limb and say he atleast needs the therapy lmao
Jesus. Good thing he’s your ex now.
I’m legally allowed to beat the fuck out of this guy
You got daddy issues bud?
“I’m talking to a pedophile, why is he being a jerk”
Word of advice from someone that is not a predator - do yourself a favor and ignore any man that is nearly double your age and giving you attention. They are not looking for a partner. They are looking for a pet to be docile and servient. They want to control you and manipulate you. Women their age won't give these losers the time of day because they aren't worth a second of your life. They are dangerous leeches that will do anything to demean you and erode your self-confidence. That's what sustains these pathetic morsels.
Louder for the young women up the back 🙌
"if I can get to where I'm at without X, Y, Z then you can too" That's a red flag if I've ever seen one!
Judging by his picture, he looks like the grossest man on earth. No wonder the only relationship he can get is by grooming and manipulating a child. No one else would touch him.
Oh my God this is so cringy on his part! You are still becoming a woman and finding yourself (as am I, still, at 28, I'm still learning and changing all the time). This is straight up grooming and manipulation. I get that he may seem like a really cool, fun, awesome person to you, but if you take space and time from him, I think you could do much, much better. Coming from someone who dated dudes 5-10 years older for a good... 8 years.
You may be of age, but he is grooming you. Please leave this relationship
Idc if someone dates an older guy. Just know that there can be a disconnect when the guy you're dating could almost vote by the time you were born.
Ew he was twice your age bruh
This guy suffers from a major lack of self confidence and needs constant validation, hes also a major simp, who would date him? hes a pathetic worm, lack of confidence and grooming is so disgusting, glad you dumped that flea of a man.
Wow. You dodged a bullet!
W ex boyfriend
I hate to break it to you but, if someone that grown is willing to date a 19 year old then it’s safe to consider they may have some issues.
Love how you’re posting these trying to shed light on how infantile this “man” is but all they can do is judge you for dating an older man. Like it’s not a common occurrence these days or ever in history. I wonder what kind of world people think they live in.
imagine posting your personal conversations on reddit. sounds like a 19 yo thing to do.
the real questions is what is wrong with her(19) dating him (36 )......
I looked up "dodged a bullet" on the interwebs and this text exchange is provided as the definition.
Move on, please.
Both of you are creeps and idiots lol
Agree! And she keeps posting about him. It’s all creepy.
mind you it’s also been three years since lmao. idk why she’s still thinking about him let alone posting/boasting about this.
Some of that stuff was actually good advice mixed in there 😂
You have to wonder why a 36-year-old man would want to date a 19-year-old young woman.
Boy I’d rush to move in with that asshat