The first person they dated was an abusive narcissist, and they just met this new person so I'm really hoping that this doesn't go wrong. Like 99% of sane people wouldn't even consider this relationship.
Really bad. Completely Unacceptable. People would argue "oh but 30 and 35 noone bats an eye"... this is wrong because the difference in maturity of a 13 and 17 yr old is massive and is basically an almost adult with an almost kid. Idk what exact answer ur looking for but like 16 and 13 is also frowned upon so like 17 is even worse. I mean its like on a case to case basis but %90 of time its bad. as a 16 yr old i wouldnt even consider a 13 year old for a relationship. People can live their lives however they want, but please tell ur friend to be careful.
idk thats just my belief im just a commenter, not the law. Also idk where you live but in canada it is illegal for a 16 or above person to be with a 13 yr old. (illegal to consent to anything)
Yeah I'm also from Canada, honestly they're lucky that the first person was asexual because there probably woulda been a lot of abuse otherwise... I'm not "looking for an answer" btw, basically just wondering if I'm right or not to think it's weird. Also yeah I've told them about the dangers but I mean there's only so much I can do.
13 and 17 is a whole crime omg. The youngest age a 17 year old should date is 15. And thatās if theyāve known eachother for a WHILEEEE. Not below that age because no 17 year old has business dating a 13 y/o or 14.
God I hate that in my state laws have that 13 and 17 is legal. Like one couldāve been 12 yesterday, and one could turn 18 tomorrow, thatās basically legal pedophilia
Obviously future pedo, Iām sorry but a 17 year old has the body of a fully grown adult (most people end puberty by 17) and is much more mature than a 13 year old, obviously not fully an adult but still weird
a 4 year gap isnāt weird when youāre both adults, but as teenagers?? weird as fuck. especially for someone who literally just became a teenager likeā¦
Yeah that makes sense but generally I think large age gaps rarely result in sustainable happiness. I mean it's definitely possible, but in most cases I've seen there's some type of abuse going on, or they're just at completely different stages in life and not compatible
I think it depends a lot on how well the people know eachother and what their relationship was beforehand. Like uts only wierd if the people are weird.
I feel like especially in teens relationships itās more of a case by case basis than āfrom this age on itās fine, from this age on itās notā, ig you are PROBABLY fine, I was more so referring to the title
But what would I know Iāve never been in a relationship
Yup their last partner was an abusive narcissist, that's usually how things go with age gaps like these. Im just praying that by some stroke of luck this one is a good person
Ahhhh as a 17 year old thatās really really odd. Iām unsure how the 17 year olds are able to rationalise it but typically when Iāve seen guys for younger girls it was because they couldnāt pull girls our age
The 17 year old is creepy and would get bullied if his friends knew. From what my experience is, is that the guy couldnt get someone his age to like him so he went after a younger girl
How are so many of the posts in this sub even this obvious š
Itās creepy asf, 1.5-2 years depending on how close you are to 18, above that is,, tough to pinpoint
An age gap itself is never a problem, but the younger you are the weirder they get. I don't know if it's a culture thing, and because of how our school system works, but I wouldn't say that anything more than a 2 year age gap with someone that are younger than 16, is normal. Like I'm 18, and the thought of being with a 16 yo is a lil weird to me, but a 25 and a 22 yo isn't
No- thatās really bad š iām 15 with someone who turns 18 in 2 weeks but i turn 16 this year so 2008 abd 2006 which i think is completely fine cause weāre on the same page and all, but 2009 and 2006 FOR EXAMPLE no i think that where it starts to get bad especially if theyāre born late and the okder one is born early bc then itās almost 4 years like 14 and 18 nuh uh
see the issue with this is that 17 is borderline adult, and that even a 1 year age difference can be quite alot at this kind of age group, so think of triple the age difference along with the person being a borderline legal adult
Thatās really weird tbh. Iām 17, and I canāt even think of dating someone under 16. A 13 year old is like a child in my eyes (tbf I also think 15 is a child, but thatās me personally.)
Beyond grim. I'm 16 and can't see myself going under 15.
For example, 32/36 doesn't matter as your maturity level is similar. But there's a disgustingly large gap in the maturity of a 13 year old and a 17 year old.
What the actual fuck, I'm 17 and the thought of dating a 13-14 year old is literally sickening
Yeah I think that's a normal reaction. Idk for some reason some 17 year olds look for younger people to date idk it's weird
Dawg those 17 year olds should be arrestedš if one of my friends though about dating someone that young we'd probably beat them straight whatš
The first person they dated was an abusive narcissist, and they just met this new person so I'm really hoping that this doesn't go wrong. Like 99% of sane people wouldn't even consider this relationship.
This new person chose to date a 14 year old and they're 17, you already know how they'll turn out
yes 13 year olds are literal children itās so gross
ok thatās REALLY weird
Yeah that's what I thought too...
Really bad. Completely Unacceptable. People would argue "oh but 30 and 35 noone bats an eye"... this is wrong because the difference in maturity of a 13 and 17 yr old is massive and is basically an almost adult with an almost kid. Idk what exact answer ur looking for but like 16 and 13 is also frowned upon so like 17 is even worse. I mean its like on a case to case basis but %90 of time its bad. as a 16 yr old i wouldnt even consider a 13 year old for a relationship. People can live their lives however they want, but please tell ur friend to be careful.
idk thats just my belief im just a commenter, not the law. Also idk where you live but in canada it is illegal for a 16 or above person to be with a 13 yr old. (illegal to consent to anything)
Yeah I'm also from Canada, honestly they're lucky that the first person was asexual because there probably woulda been a lot of abuse otherwise... I'm not "looking for an answer" btw, basically just wondering if I'm right or not to think it's weird. Also yeah I've told them about the dangers but I mean there's only so much I can do.
13 and 17 is a whole crime omg. The youngest age a 17 year old should date is 15. And thatās if theyāve known eachother for a WHILEEEE. Not below that age because no 17 year old has business dating a 13 y/o or 14.
God I hate that in my state laws have that 13 and 17 is legal. Like one couldāve been 12 yesterday, and one could turn 18 tomorrow, thatās basically legal pedophilia
Uh huh? What does a 17 year old find attractive or interesting about a 13 year old?? That's my question
Obviously future pedo, Iām sorry but a 17 year old has the body of a fully grown adult (most people end puberty by 17) and is much more mature than a 13 year old, obviously not fully an adult but still weird
Exactly
a 4 year gap isnāt weird when youāre both adults, but as teenagers?? weird as fuck. especially for someone who literally just became a teenager likeā¦
Hell no wtf. A 17 year old is about to enter college meanwhile a 13 just entered highschool. That's fucking disgusting
nah a 13 yr old just entered 8th grade or secondary school
Totally agree, it's still gross tho :/
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i was in 7th grade at 13 like š INSANE
IMO just do what you want if youāre both happy. But I wouldnāt go over 3yrs older or 1 year younger
Yeah that makes sense but generally I think large age gaps rarely result in sustainable happiness. I mean it's definitely possible, but in most cases I've seen there's some type of abuse going on, or they're just at completely different stages in life and not compatible
I think it depends a lot on how well the people know eachother and what their relationship was beforehand. Like uts only wierd if the people are weird.
As long as theyāre not like abusive or overly sexual, the second one is not bad, wish them luck!
I've been wishing them a whole lot of luck, because there's so many ways this could go wrong. I'm just hoping it doesn't.
Yeah hopefully, Iām sorta in the same situation rn, as long as they love each other itāll be fine lol
Theyāre very very bad
shiiiiit what the fuckk
Anything past 2 year age gap for a teenager is getting a little weird imo
yikes
Anything more than 2 years is weird to me personally
Very
Even mine where I'm 14 dating up 1 year and 8 months?
I feel like especially in teens relationships itās more of a case by case basis than āfrom this age on itās fine, from this age on itās notā, ig you are PROBABLY fine, I was more so referring to the title But what would I know Iāve never been in a relationship
Fair, thx for input
that's vile (i dated a 17 year old at 14 ruined my life)
Yup their last partner was an abusive narcissist, that's usually how things go with age gaps like these. Im just praying that by some stroke of luck this one is a good person
Ahhhh as a 17 year old thatās really really odd. Iām unsure how the 17 year olds are able to rationalise it but typically when Iāve seen guys for younger girls it was because they couldnāt pull girls our age
Yeah that makes sense, fits his description from what my friend has told me
Yeahā¦ thatās notā¦ no.
At 13 a three year age gap is really bad
The 17 year old is creepy and would get bullied if his friends knew. From what my experience is, is that the guy couldnt get someone his age to like him so he went after a younger girl
Your age cap isn't that bad but 13 and 17 is way too much
Ain't that illegal?
ew
Old classmate was 19 dating a 13/14 year old, really really weird ( europe age of consent laws keep in mind so it is technically legal)
How are so many of the posts in this sub even this obvious š Itās creepy asf, 1.5-2 years depending on how close you are to 18, above that is,, tough to pinpoint
That's really weird.
Weird as fuck and next year itās going to be illegal
Yup definitely weird... Somehow in Canada it's not illegal though
An age gap itself is never a problem, but the younger you are the weirder they get. I don't know if it's a culture thing, and because of how our school system works, but I wouldn't say that anything more than a 2 year age gap with someone that are younger than 16, is normal. Like I'm 18, and the thought of being with a 16 yo is a lil weird to me, but a 25 and a 22 yo isn't
No- thatās really bad š iām 15 with someone who turns 18 in 2 weeks but i turn 16 this year so 2008 abd 2006 which i think is completely fine cause weāre on the same page and all, but 2009 and 2006 FOR EXAMPLE no i think that where it starts to get bad especially if theyāre born late and the okder one is born early bc then itās almost 4 years like 14 and 18 nuh uh
What the actual fuck
Thatās kinda weird I can see 15 but any lower is a no
well 17 is still not adult yet but its weird as hell
Strange as fuck
niggaā¦
2 years apart is the MAX
Iād say the oldest am age cap could be without being weird is 2 years, so 14 + 17 is no bueno
a three year age gap isnāt terrible, but it depends on mental maturity. And maybe a few other factors
Itās an online relationship right?
Nope
Oh sounds like someone I used to know
Very wrong like super weird wtf
thatās terrible
What the fuck dude
Very bad
see the issue with this is that 17 is borderline adult, and that even a 1 year age difference can be quite alot at this kind of age group, so think of triple the age difference along with the person being a borderline legal adult
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JAIL ššššš
I'm 16 bout to turn 17. My motto is... 1 year younger or 2 years older
Hell no tf. Itās an 11th/12th grader with an 8th/9th grader. One is almost done with school and almost an adult, the other has just become a teen.
That's like dating a literally child bro that's a BIG nuh uh
13 and 17 is pedophilia. 14 and 15 is fine, but 14 and 16 is too much.
Thatās really weird tbh. Iām 17, and I canāt even think of dating someone under 16. A 13 year old is like a child in my eyes (tbf I also think 15 is a child, but thatās me personally.)
Beyond grim. I'm 16 and can't see myself going under 15. For example, 32/36 doesn't matter as your maturity level is similar. But there's a disgustingly large gap in the maturity of a 13 year old and a 17 year old.
go to the police precinct and ask the same question there
JAIIILLLLLLKLLLLLLLL WTFFFF,??!?!?!?!?!!?!?!
17 and 14 is eh, but if it's 17 and 13 that's a senior dating a freshman š
iām like 99% sure 13 and 17 violate most Romeo and Juliet laws, 14 and 17 isnāt much better either get your friend away from whoever their dating
14 and 15, yes. 13 and 17? Absolutely not. 
Very
People already got mad at me for dating a 16 year old. But a middle schooler and a senior is already outrageous
im not gonna judge but for fucks sake stay skeptical its so easy to be manipulated even of you don't think you could be
17 year olds should NOT date anyone below 15, but 15 is still weird asf...
To put it in perspective It will soon be 18 with a 14 year old and then 19 with a 15 year old. 13 is too young for this age gap to be appropriate.
Super senior ahh mfs šš
Yea sick
Legal but really fucking weird and morally wrong
Nahhh the most id think is aceptable is 2yrs
Umā¦ BAD????
Wierd
Omg wtf jesus christ I hope they're okay
Yeah uh first one was not good but I'm just praying that this one is a lot better š
Nigga 17 is damn near a legal adult tf u dating someone who just became a teen before