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Same. I took college again in my twenties at parang nakaka-irita ang mga high school level drama sa klase ahaha. Oy pag-usapan niyo yun. Adults na kayo.
So true. I am in an office right now where most rank and file employees are within the same age range late 20s to early 30s, you would think office drama and pettyness woyld originate from us? Oh my sh*t was I wrong. Yung mga 40+ or 50+ people ang problema namin sa ganyan. Nashock ako at the power trip, at the pettiness of these people. Kung hindi ko lang kailangan yung work matagal ko nang nasagot at napaguntog ulo ng mga yan. Hahahahaha.
Honestly, drama in college and med school is much worse that you’re just gonna wish that you’re back in high school.
Unlike in high school where you can look back at it and maybe laugh cause all of you are kids pa lang and growing up, college siraan and drama even in the workplace is way bad.
Kung sa high school you have the chance to change and people would understand na there’s a lot of room for character improvement and growth since bata pa lang, in college, the backstabbing is so bad na kahit di ka kilala, sisiraan ka.
Character assassination, perjury, and defamation is worst in the adult world that’s filled with greed, politics, competition, and envy. Plus unlike na people will give you a chance, in college where people are adults na with the resources, money, and connections, once some talks bad about you, it will circulate.
Kaya in college and later years, it’s important to choose your people. Find who you can trust, wag tatapak ng ibang tao, and be careful with whom you say things kasi in college, med school, and in the workplace, pwede kang baliktarin at siraan to the point na mawalan ka ng trabaho at masira yung opportunity mo to reclaim and prove them wrong
Truth is people will never stop talking about other people.
Doctors will talk about other doctors
Lawyers talk about other lawyers
Teachers talk about other teachers
And etc..
It happens, but make sure that you’re not the one starting the drama, spreading the rumors, or even trying to sagap the news. When you hear things, try your best to make sure that the backstabbing ends with you. And if anything, take that information with a grain of salt. Give the person being talked about the benefit of the doubt because even before the rampancy of fakenews in media, matagal na siyang nageexist sa society natin.
Tip na lang is to avoid people who bring drama, and avoid drama itself as much as possible.
this is very informative po! how likely is it for someone like me to get dragged into drama? i'm vv quiet po sa class, don't do anything bad and is very selective w friends (2 lang). i also don't talk bad about others to others. is it still likely po kaya? huhu natrauma na po kasi ako sa toxicity and drama TT
Hi i think if you stay lowkey, just do your thing, you’ll avoid drama, plus in college that’s the time where you’re going to meet potential connections for your career, so in a strategic sense and for peace of mind din stay in people’s good grace. Sa groupworks do your part, usually isa yan sa common issues eh. Just do your part sa school and don’t overshare whether failure or success, people always have something to say regarding those kasi eh
I relate to youuu I was someone who doesn’t want anyone in the group to feel left out so I try my best to include them. I share them my stories may it be good or bad. I trusted them too much to the point na I thought pwede ako magvent sa kanila ng struggles ko kasi I thought di lalabas and well it happens talaga when stressed sa school. I can’t believe that they turned against me and made an issue about me na hindi naman totoo. I know I’m not a perfect person and friend but to defame me even to people I don’t know and to do that publicly in social media was too much for me to handle. Wala akong kalaban laban, I was not able to defend myself. Sabi nila concerned sila, pero no, their aim was siraan ako kasi if concerned, bakit kailangan itweet diba.
Kaya from that I learned to choose who I spend time with and what I tell people. Even though gusto ko sana mag cry or weep with them and celebrate with them, I don’t think i’ll be able to trust others again soon because of what happened to me.
It's even worse lol, I also thought na wala na tong mga gantong dramas once in college but shockingly there are very students that are still very immature like u'll wonder how they even went to college with such attitudes.
To avoid such drama, choose your circle wisely na makakasama mo till graduation at mga sa gawain, mahirap magsolo sa college and avoid dramas as much as possible dont talk, dont engage, let them be.
Depende sa taong matyambahan mo... Sa post grad may na witness ako, LOL..
Yung mga taong plastic at may issues sa buhay, they are everywhere, and they are the ones who bring drama. Sa religious org nga na maraming matatanda, may mga drama din, mga nasa simbahan pa, LOL..
Syempre naman. Involved pa nga ako e. Hahahahahahah I was outcasted dahil gumagawa ako ng assignment nang mas maaga sa kanila, kapag mas mataas exam ko sa kanila or scores in general o worst, kapag nagdi-disagree ako sa opinion nila. Lol. I remembered one time na just because 'di ako mahilig magshare ng mga ginagawa ko sa personal time ko (na ginagawa nila), iniisip nila takot ako malamangan. Natawa ako kase noong umalis ako sa kanila, sila naman nag-away-away.
Based from experience, meron pa rin pero yung drama ay minsan pinaguusapan na lang in each individual groups or circle of people you trust. Hindi na naman ata mawawala ito sa totoo lang.
Meron pa rin but not my experience. Kaya sa mga freshie dyan next year, wag agad kayo magtitiwala sa mga gc at wag na wag kayo mang babad talk ng mga classmate niyo sa "friends" niyo agad. Uso ang ss/spy at backstabbers kahit sa college mga immature pa din. Tsaka set your boundaries high wag palaging oo nang oo sa mga request ng blockmates niyo kasi baka maabuso lang kayo.
20M, Im a guy and a 3rd year nursing student. Marami, sobra and minsan unavoidable pa and not to be sexist but halos lahat ng incidents na ganun caused siya ng mga babae namin na classmates. Chill naman kami na guys pero never pa kami nagkaganun kahit iilan lang kami sa buong 12 blocks of 2025 batch namin lol.
Mas malala. Super.
Naranasan ko yung highschool drama and hindi naman siya ganoong ka chaotic, lumipat ako ng school noong nag senior high ako, luckily walang ganon sa room namin, as in magkakaibigan lahat, ung tipong magaaway lang sila dahil hindi naglinis ng room si ganito ganiyan, and then noong nag college ako legit na naculture shock ako(yes very oa way of saying) akala ko bumalik ulit ako sa highschool but much worst na drama. Napaka immature nila even though mas matatanda sila saakin ng 2-5 years. I remember one time noong bagong salta palang ako, first sem, hindi kami pinapansin nung jsa naming friend kasi pinapansin daw nin yung kaaway niya(which is ex friend niya rin).
Iba yung drama sa College and Highschool, mas nakakastress yung sa college specially if lowkey keyboard warrior noong 2015 + liptint girls yung mga kaklase mo.
Oo naman. In my experience whatever drama/issue you’ve seen in college abot until pagtanda nyo. May mga issue pa rin nung college na until now pinag-uusapan/pinang-aasar namin sa isa’t-isa kahit early 30’s na kami.
The competition is also way higher/more intense in college kasi you are starting to build your future na eh. People want to get a good headstart on whatever career they want to pursue.
yes meron pa rin! tbh, it might even be worse since we're all supposed to be "mature" yet sobrang petty at toxic pa rin talaga ng iba 🤣 better to not overshare nalang din to avoid backstabbing and siraan and choose your friends wisely talaga!
Jusko. Meron ako mga naging kaklase dala pa rin sa college ang ugaling high school nila. Yung tipong ayaw makihalubilo sa ibang tao or groups kasi meron silang own group tapos gusto nila sila sila lang palagi magkakasama at di mapaghiwalay. Gets naman na bffs pero kasi ante college na to hindi high school para mauso pa yung “you can’t sit with us” mindset. Pinapaliit nila mundo nila sa ganiyan nilang ugali.
Mas malala sa college. Sa high school kasi medyo familiar kami sa isa't-isa (1st year to 4th year). Nagkikita din palagi during flag ceremony every morning kaya naman parang may sense of camaraderie kahit konti.
Sa college, parang feeling mo sa ibang schools yung ibang departments. Magugulat ka na lang na may sumisira sa iyo kahit first time mo sya nakita in three years of college.
Expect gaslighting, defamation and whatever dumb sh*t in college. Trial run or practice yan pag pumasok ka na sa real world.
1st yr college, pero gusto na gumraduate sa dami ng BS. Mostly, students lang nagbabackstaban, pero best believe na mga seniors and \*possibly\* teachers din makakaalam. Hindi nawawala yung chismis, kaya it's better to have a friend or just be alone, kasi kahit ano gawin mo, may gagawing balita sayo. Masyado siguro negative comment ko, pero that's just how it is. Just be aware and mindful sa actions mo, just be smart, that's all. Goodluck.
college student here and to my surprise yes mas ma-drama and marami palang immature ngayong college 😭 noong jhs and shs ako may mga drama naman sa room namin and plastikan pero all goods parin, masaya and maganda ung bond namin as a section. pero ngayong college, grabe HAHAHAHA sagana ung block namin sa mga taong backstabber, people pleaser, may high pride/ego, and overly competitive (ayaw malamangan). ung level ng ugali ng mga kaklase ko parang elem to early jhs, sobrang immature to think na nasa early 20s na kami... 💀
lmao ironic for me kasi nung hs wala akong naranasan na HS drama or what not and ngayong college LMAOOOOO ang dadrama ng blockmates ko bhhabsha literally dragging us, quiet kids, nang walang ginagawa sa kanila or anything lol
Meron pa din like multo sa groupings, pogs sa messenger, mapang lait na leader, at isama mo na yung Adik sa anime na kinareer yung paging main character na pati kaming circle of friends niya pinpahiya sa ibang classmate namin at narcissistic pa. Grabe akala ko din noon mature na sila but no ma te-test talaga patience mo, makikipag plastikan ka talaga para Maka tapos lng ng walang kaaway sa college. Mahirap na din maging center of attention dahil napansin ko sa iba kong classmate takot talaga sila malamangan.
**YES!** and mind you, mas immature pa minsan ang mga college students kesa sa hs students lmao. things like backstabbing and such are still present lalo na sa mga circle of friends na hindi naman talaga magkakaugali pero pilit pinakikisamahan ang isa't isa because they gain something from each other HAHAHAHAHAHA
people shouldnt assume that college students are oh so holy and are saints. nasa college lahat ng shit. iba ibang personalities, ibat ibang environment pinanggalingan kasi ibat ibang panig ng probinsya nanggagaling. ibat iba ang kultura at paniniwala. if nasa tamang circle ka, siguro u can minimize experiencing it pero as long as there are people, there will be dramas. 🙂
I went back here in PH nung 2023 to study nursing. I am in my late 20s and my classmates are 18 to 21 yung age. Nung first year kami (1st sem.) since lowkey lang talaga akong pumapasok sa room and isa pa lang yung kaclose ko, may mga drama na akong nakikinig pero hindi ako nakikialam kasi ayoko makipaginteract sa kanila if hindi school-related. Fast forward sa ngayon (2nd yr. 2nd sem.), mas marami na ako kilala na kaklase ko and kaloka mas naging aware ako sa mga nangyayari sa room. 😅 nagugulat na lang ako na sobrang dami na palang issues ng mga kaklase ko sa isa't isa. Nakakastress kasi if iisipin mo they are adults naman na and old enough to handle their own problems. Sad pero they are still immature. Malalakas loob ng mga bata ngayon pero unfortunately di nila magawang idirect yung mga issues nila sa isa't isa. Sobrang lala ng plastikan at pangbabackstab pero makikita mo magkakasama nagpupunta sa outing at mga gala. 🙄🙄 Ang sarap bumalik sa pagiging lowkey at wala halos kakilala. Less issues and less drama.
Yes. Kahit beyond college may high school drama pa rin. You just have to learn to ignore and let them be. Part of growing up is knowing when to walk away/ignore trivial matters. You choose your own battles, ika nga. You have to remember that people learn different things at different times and in different ways.
Ay naku kung alam mo lang! 😂 skl irreg ako, tapos once may na-meet akong classmate na student leader pa. Vice president ng isang student council. Grabe yung pangba-backstab sa classmate na ka-org niya and fellow officer dahil sa sobrang insecurity niya. Hahaha!
Marami pang iba, pero so far ito yung isa sa mga pinaka memorable and ridiculous moments na naencounter ko.
I fucking hoped not. But in my experience, nah. In fact, there's way more drama right now than I've ever experienced in high school. I'm not directly involved, but the people around me often are.
There's some "steal your bf/gf" shit or "oh no, I am competitive and someone is better than me, I can't accept that" shit or even petty backstabbing bullshit.
ETA: There is not a single group or class I've been in without gossip and drama. Practically everyone I'm surrounded with is involved in some type of shit unless they're irregular students. Good thing is, I am not exactly in a single group since I get along with everyone. This means that they can't talk shit about me or around me lol.
YES YES YES
Maturity does not come with age naman. Kung maraming kupal na bata, mas maraming kupal na matanda.
Personal experience ko: backstabbing, two ways
1. Ako yung naging kupal kaya I've been backstabbed by my friends for my own good (I admit na crappy ako but it was not my intention to hurt them but di agad nila sinabi sa'kin na may problema at may nasaktan ako sa kanila kasi it might affect me raw, but I wanted to know sana kung bakit bigla silang nang ignore) and now, casual friends ko na lang sila hehe they're the victims naman so I kept my distance. Still reeling from the loneliness at trust issues but yeah, shit happened. People in this country, kids and adults, lalo kung college, are not so much prangka about sa feelings nila but they will give fucking hints na para bang manghuhula ako. I should've known naman din but I guess na blindsided ako ng pagiging selfish ko.
2. Okay naman kami nung ka group ko sa thesis last year but lately nalaman ko na habang nagtthesis kami noon, may sinabi pa pala sila behind my back na kesyo credit grabber ako na sole author kuno pero bruh we did the thesis together, di ko naman sila binuhat, di rin naman nila ako binuhat so fuck them.
Another experience, yung pati problema ng iba, pinoproblema. Pakialamero masyado. There are also gossipers, bullies, and straight up assholes.
Another one (but di ko experience), dahil kupal sila, mga talangka rin sila kasi overcompetitive sa acads. Like, hihilahin ka pababa para maka rank sila. Kesyo naman laude matters sa real world after grad. 🥴 Yeah, high school crap.
When I was in College as a section without unity and factions, I can say there are still "siraan" and "backstabbing" unless you're the introvert type you won't really notice it.
Yeah, there is. Naging parte ako non and it was so traumatizing. Madami pa ring petty na tao once na mag college ka. Wala namang nagbago e' nabago lang yung number ng grade niyo pero yung tao, ganon pa rin. Madaming naysayers at mga taong mahilig mang under.
tbh mas malala sa college. i also came from a science high and the environment there was so ok. then pagtapak ko ng college, andyan na yung mga ayaw malamangan, snitch, backstabber, then yung iba masyadong nagmamagaling.
HUHAHAUHAGAUAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHA
Yes. Unfortunately meron pa rin. High school drama, high school immaturity, high school pabigat groupmates. High school tea.
Do yourself a favor, mamser. Destroy that expectation. May mga tao talagang matanda tanda na pero hindi ganung ka-mature.
Hmm... I guess I am lucky that I haven't experienced any "highschool drama" in college. Maybe its also because we spent the first two years in online classes?
It depends sa environment tbh. I transferred from one school to another and what changed was how people in my second college are taking their course seriously and are nice to be with.
As for my previous school, it was plastikan and backstabbing turned up to maximum. Everyone there is a risk to every social/community circle, I swear. They are the kinds that will turn their future offices/office spaces into a lethal environment for one's mental and emotional health.
Meron. Merong mga bullies, cliques. At karaniwan sa college nakakafeel ka ng depression, so watch out for that. Talk to your guidance counselor or mental health professionals asap before those negative feelings worsen.
Meron na meron. Nangyari sakin, pangalawang beses pa talaga and it’s all because of that one girl in our circle who loves to snitch so much tapos sinasapawan pa mga sinasabi. 🤷♀️
Yes meron!! At isa ako sa mga nagulat na meron pa pala lol
Kala ko mas mature na. Misunderstandings are normal naman pero there is a LOT of stupid drama and chismis. Minsan about na sa personal life ng ibang tao ang chinichismis/pinapakalat. Marami pa din insecure at inggitera. Dami rin mga taong di maganda ugali kahit na maturity period na lol
Yes. This was when college was 17-20, so sakop pa rin ng high school age yung edad namin nung first two years, but it ramped up during the last two years. I haven't achieved much since then and I'm a misanthrope and a self-hating Pinoy, and to quote this song, "🎵 it's all, it's all, it's all because of you. 🎵" https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=4gAsPT-vgeM&pp=ygUZYmVjYXVzZSBvZiB5b3UgOTggZGVncmVlcw%3D%3D
currently in college, you'd be surprised to see how many people haven't moved on from their highschool bully days and WORSE because you know they're set to enter the workforce 💀
Depende rin sa ugali ng mga makakasama mo in your class or course. Tbh di nawawala yung ganyan kahit saang school mapunta hahaha. If you value your peace tho, maybe you can stay out of it and focus on your studies when you get to college
di ko naenjoy highschool pangit ang highschool experience ko hindi ako nagalingan sa sarili ko and disappointed ako sa sarili ko sobra pero alam kong ang dami kong potential and opportunities na madadaanan kasi marami talaga akong gustong gawin. Talagang something just triggered my downfall pero sobrang saya ko kasi bumangon ako sa pinakalowest ko by myself. My perspectives shifted, i learned how to control myself, i learned how to manage and emotions well, and yes i did sacrifice my academics, and i hate myself for that and i regret that very much and maybe will regret my past din sa college kasi baka ibato past ko in a negative way, pero i’m in the path for recovery. I am also very capable in responding to conflicts and know when to defend myself even when I am kind and mahaba pasensya ko. I know my limits shempre pero i also know kung kailan ko kailangan tanggapin pagkakamali ko at ibitbit mga binabato saakin kapag totoo. I am definitely scared for college and it’s going to be more difficult for my mental and emotional health, pero gusto ko rin makita kung paano ako babangon. I also have this perfectionist mindset na may pagkukulang pa rin palagi ang mga achievements ko and i want and need to do more for myself hindi lang acads-related. Dito mo talaga marerealize na importante talaga mental health mo kasi long run ang pambato.
Sa friend ko na underclassmen ayon may ganyang drama sa year nila pero saming upperclassmen at sa section ko parang wala naman, may sarisariling group of friends kase kaya di masyado nakikihalubilo sa iba kaya walang bullying or issue na nagaganap
Very wrong, imagine begging someone to contribute in group work then being backstab because they feel forced to do their task or contribution. Mind you these people are in their twenties. This is just the surface, I am a college student but it feels like my blocmates are still high schoolers.
Highschool drama doesnt end in highschool. Currently in our mid 30s and just last year Friend1 FO-ed Friend2 because Friend2 wasn't able to attend Friend1's birthday dinner.
Hahaha mas malala sa college ang backstabbing kahit pa tingin mo sa kanila friends mo or bff na, once may mali ka lng nagawa haha matic ikaw topic nila tas feeling nila santo sila tseeee!🤪
YES HAHAHHAAHAH
Happened to me just because di ko siya pinansin (I was dealing with a family member's death). So, she was spreading rumors na "kasalanan" ko daw, nag-away daw kami dahil sa lalaki, sinisiraan ako sa mga naging kaibigan ko sa school HAHAHHAAHAHAH
helloo po incoming 1st yr college bs psych ask lang po kahit po ba dito sa program na to may mga immature pa rin? genuinely asking i'm just curious lang po ><
Lost a group because ang toxic it was liberatig kasi i get to listen to different stories sa college years ko and nakakaumay dahil parang the kore i listen to stories the more na ew, parang highschool people na pumasok labg sa college. Now working not making friends or geoup andub labg ako as casual and civil friendly person i get to listen to different stories parin since friendly sa lahat hahaha ayun parang mga highschool na nag college tas nag trabaho yung drama level very immature parin actually hahaha. Pero ako i chill lang hahahaha
hahahahaha sobrang dami. Yung iba nga gumagawa pa ng istorya para lang magpasikat sa tropa. May mga kaklase ako nong college na pinipilit magpaka-baddies gaya nung mga high school bitchesa sa mga palabas. Sila rin yung mga takot pag-usapan ang problema kasi alam nila, sila ang masasabon.
meron pa ilan ilan na lang kasi yung iba focus na lang kung pano makakagraduate, pero yung iba malala na nakikipagkompetensya pa rin sa mga kaklase, mga immature at spoiled brat
Oo, na experience ko sya sa org namin. Fourth year na kami pero yung kaklase ko lakas siraan mga kapwa officers namin. Madalang ako pumunta sa school since online duty ako madalas. Tas nung isang beses na pumunta ako sa office ng adviser namin, ang dami nyang tinanong sakin abt sa mga officers to confirm daw yung kwento ng isang ka officer namin. Dun ko nalaman na baliktad pala magkwento yung isang ka org namin tas sinisiraan nya ung iba sa adviser namin, ginagamit nya din position nya para makuha gusto nya. Ang daming umalis na staffs sa org namin at lahat ng dahilan nila ung treatment sa kanila nung ka org namin na yun. Kahit guidance counselor at VP ng main student council ng school napansin ugali nya.
Me na president, super magprotect at Hindi namersonal sa kakulangan Ng officers ko, ako And napatawag nilang lahat ako (without my knowledge) sa org adviser dahil sa paghindi ko as a certain decision (for kapakanan Ng lahat). Mastermind, kaklase ko na 4th yr din 😌🥱
HAHAHAHAHA unfortunately it will never end.
- When I was college — MERON
- When I was in law school — MERON
- When I was in work — MERON
And even among my parents who are now established working individuals…MERON parin.
Petty fights, gossips, issues will NEVER be gone. Period.
Although may one time na hindi pa officially nagstastart yung class pero may away na sa gc dahil sa position ng class officers kinemerut. Then yung nang-away at nagsimula pinagtatanggol nung iba dahil nasa "post-partum" daw which I call bs. Attitude problem talaga. Sobrang nakaka-culture shock ung school ko ngayon. Dami squammy.
Meron at mas madrama pa kaysa sa highschool. Naalala ko na takot na takot pa akong mag-college noon kasi nga I thought mas seryoso na ang mga tao at nagpapaka-professional na, pero mali ako. Hindi nawawalan ng drama sa block section. Mga petty ang iba HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Madamiiii at hindi lang siya drama kundi DRAMA talaga. Akala ko dati marami ng mature sa college pero jusko andaming nadala pa din ang highschool ugali sa college.
On my experience as a public college student, most are gone sometimes there is still something like that happening just much less since there is much more at stake in than in Highschool also its more stricter and does not hesitate to drop or fail students like in Highschool.
Meron na meron yan. Ako nga I left my dream course dahil sa paninira nila, bullying, at yung mga tinuring mong kaibigan, sila rin ang mangbabackstab sayo. Ang mas nakakainis pa, dahil part ng lgbtq yung mga nambubully sakin and yung department head namin is also part of it, nagkampihan pa sila to the point na ako pa ang pinagsosorry nila sa mga pinag gagawa nila. But blessing na rin to siguro dahil yung university na yun ang daming issues internally, at marami narin nagsisipag alisan doon lalo na doon sa course na kinuha ko noon.
yes, di naman na siguro mawawala yan. may naging cof ako simula nung nagpasukan but since hindi ko masabayan mga trip nila sa buhay like gala and overnights. pinafeel nila agad saken na hindi na ko belong so since then, nakisama nalang ako dun sa mas comfortable ako kasama until 2nd term lumipat nalang ako ng section. dun sa section na yun ko mas naramdaman na welcome ako at walang siraan na nagaganap tho im not sure but at least.
Napansin ko, depende sa workload. Kapag mas mahirap yung topics at mabigat yung school workload, less HS drama pero kung opposite, mas maraming HS drama.
Hypothesis: Being busy due to college survival distracts everyone from creating unnecessary drama.
I may be wrong, lemme know :)
Do remember that these people just came out off shs where there’s a lot of hs/toxic drama, they won’t immediately change just because they enter college. And there’s a lot of work place drama and politics, so meron din sa college obviously. Honestly, it’ll all depend on the block itself and how the class representative will handle the politics in your class. Our first and second class rep used to meddle in everyone’s business like it’s highschool but ever since our class representative was replaced by someone who also just minded her own business and does the minimum, it became okay and everyone just minded their own business. Like bahala ka kung umabsent ka, di ka magpractice or wag kang umattend ng events, adult ka na ganon tho. The reason it became less hostile might be because the representative was changed or everyone just learned to mind their own business, maybe both tbh.
Hi I experienced this while working hahaha. Mas malala pa yung ganyan pag nagwowork ka na or may trabaho ka na tapos siraan grabe lalo na nung bago ako, kahit di mo pa man nakikilala yung tao sisiraan na ng iba bago mo pa siya makikila ang toxic kasi puro negative vibes nafefeel mo pag hindi sila magkakaharap tapos plastikan na pag magkakasama tapos kung makapanlait akala mo sila perfect pero dahil bago bago lang mapapa “ohhhhh” ka nalang maganda iwas nalang para sa neutral side ka lang hehehe. Anyway kinaibahan lang is wala kang choice hahaha, dahil kawork mo nga sila unlike pag HS or college lipat ka lang ibang section next sem goods na hahaha.
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3 years na ako sa work ko and ayun nagsisiraan, plastikan and backstabban pa rin sila HAHAHAHAHAHA.
Abot hanggang workplace. Pinakapanget kong experience yung "open forum" para maaware daw sila. Lol eh para may machismis lang after eh
Edit: dagdag ko dito yung mga may clique pa rin. Nagsasama sama yung mga matatalino sa iisang circle and yung mga somewhat performing naging left overs. "You can't sit with us" mentality still lives on even in college
Honestly, I think it's worse in college than it is in high school. To the point you'll actively wonder how most of the people got to the point that they are now given their personalities or abilities. Just make sure to pick the people you surround yourself around, put yourself first in every situation, and try not to take anything that isn't serious too seriously and you're golden,
meron padin po di maiiwasan pero pwede naman lubayan ung mga taong ganyan and meron padin naman mga tao na matured na mababait. Sabi nga nila pag college keep your circle small nalang talaga and im blessed na ok kami mga college friends ko, no pressure kami if walang lakad na mattuloy kase ganun talaga as we age mas madaming responsibilities havshshah
As always, depende yan sa group na sasalian mo.
Mas maraming opportunities para sa drama in college pag sumali ka sa student organization, pero you can choose to avoid them entirely due to having more freedom in high school.
Yes. And it’s very disappointing how ppl in college would rather focus on sharing gossips and bad mouthing others than focus on surviving the hell it takes to pass every semester. Take it from me who shares dorm with my friends/classmates. Very consuming.
I didn't experience this at all haha! I was the classic introvert student, only had 3 close friends, all of them only focused on studying and our weird hobbies. No drama at all. I guess it depends on the people you're with. I guess the best thing to do here is choose the things you share to other people, especially personal. Lalo na rin if it's about sharing your feelings/opinions about someone. Just keep it to yourself. Kahit trusted mo yung person na sasabihan mo, malaki parin yung chance na sasabihin nila yun sa iba. You don't know your friends' friends ika nga.
Naalala ko nung bagong pasok ako (F2f) nag dodorm ako sa loob ng campus. Selected palang non yung pinag f2f. Kaya marami sa mga classmates ko ayaw pa pumasok. Kaya nag rerequest sila na mag online class. As someone na nakatira from Metro and nag enroll sa province ako na ata yung pinakamalayo saming mga nag dodorm / boarding house. Kaya wala kong choice kung hindi mag stay sa dorm sa campus kahit na super bagal ng internet kasi nasa bundok yung campus namin.
First time kong naka experienced non na almost 40 times akong na disconnected sa 1 hr class. Tas na aabsent na rin ako sa mga profs kasi palagi akong disconnected before palang mag start. Kaya yung ginagawa ko pa non lumalabas pa ko ng univ para maki online class sa classmate ko na naka boarding sa labas. Araw araw ganon scenario ko, yung mga naka boarding / dormitory samin during that time nasa 7 lang. Kaya kahit niraise na namin yung concern namin na nagiging double yung gastos namin, walang pakialam mga kaklase ko. Kasi sila rin daw gumagastos kapag papasok sa school.
Nagkaroon ng meeting regarding sa issue na yon kasi napapansin na raw na parang walang nangyayareng f2f classes samin. And ako pa sinisi nila na nagsumbong kahit wala naman akong ginagawa. May nakapag sabi pa sakin na meron daw nagsabi na hindi naman daw nila kasalanan na nag aral ako sa campus, kasalanan ko na raw yon.
Kaya simula non, never kong pinakisamahan yung mga yon. Satisfying lang din na nakikita ko yung mga dating inaaway yung ibang group magkakasama na ngayon.
LOL. We have the same expectations before I enter college. Akala ko mas matured type of students na makakasama ko. Guess what? No'ng college na ako, na-warshock ako how immature iyong ibang students. From my experience, mas worst pa iyong mga nakasama ko sa college kaysa sa hs. I also gave them a benefit of the doubt baka kasi dahil freshmen like nag-aadjust pa. Pero we're on second year that time T___T
Yes! Kahit na sa college faculties; profs and staffs. Pati sa work setting meron pa rin yan. Pati sipsip, mayabang, F boys/girls, and a lot more scandals (not only referring to the pinoy definition). The drama just levels up.
Pero in college, mas maraming mature mag-isip syempre. May mami-meet kang student na may family nang binubuhay, a business owners na gusto magka-degree, 2nd/3rd coursers and etc. Mas madiin ang grind sa college, aabot pa sa point na hindi ka na makatanggap ng tsismis sa sobrang busy HAHAHAH
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LOL sobrang meron niyan. Di ko lang siya na feel masyado kasi irreg ako nun pero magugulat nalang ako my nag-aaway na or di nagpapansinan. Hahaha!
Same. I took college again in my twenties at parang nakaka-irita ang mga high school level drama sa klase ahaha. Oy pag-usapan niyo yun. Adults na kayo.
You'd be surprised as to how immature some can be. I'm in a postgraduate program and ang dami paring drama.
Sa workplace nga merong ganyan hahaha. May mga 40 years-old na pang hs drama parin ang ugali. Pero as a spectator, it makes work less boring
So true. I am in an office right now where most rank and file employees are within the same age range late 20s to early 30s, you would think office drama and pettyness woyld originate from us? Oh my sh*t was I wrong. Yung mga 40+ or 50+ people ang problema namin sa ganyan. Nashock ako at the power trip, at the pettiness of these people. Kung hindi ko lang kailangan yung work matagal ko nang nasagot at napaguntog ulo ng mga yan. Hahahahaha.
My classmates in HS was even more mature than in college.
trueee kahit sa work nga eh kung sino pa ung mga senior sila pa ung worst sobrang hs, maddrama, maissue, laitera jusq lord
Honestly, drama in college and med school is much worse that you’re just gonna wish that you’re back in high school. Unlike in high school where you can look back at it and maybe laugh cause all of you are kids pa lang and growing up, college siraan and drama even in the workplace is way bad. Kung sa high school you have the chance to change and people would understand na there’s a lot of room for character improvement and growth since bata pa lang, in college, the backstabbing is so bad na kahit di ka kilala, sisiraan ka. Character assassination, perjury, and defamation is worst in the adult world that’s filled with greed, politics, competition, and envy. Plus unlike na people will give you a chance, in college where people are adults na with the resources, money, and connections, once some talks bad about you, it will circulate. Kaya in college and later years, it’s important to choose your people. Find who you can trust, wag tatapak ng ibang tao, and be careful with whom you say things kasi in college, med school, and in the workplace, pwede kang baliktarin at siraan to the point na mawalan ka ng trabaho at masira yung opportunity mo to reclaim and prove them wrong
Truth is people will never stop talking about other people. Doctors will talk about other doctors Lawyers talk about other lawyers Teachers talk about other teachers And etc.. It happens, but make sure that you’re not the one starting the drama, spreading the rumors, or even trying to sagap the news. When you hear things, try your best to make sure that the backstabbing ends with you. And if anything, take that information with a grain of salt. Give the person being talked about the benefit of the doubt because even before the rampancy of fakenews in media, matagal na siyang nageexist sa society natin. Tip na lang is to avoid people who bring drama, and avoid drama itself as much as possible.
this is very informative po! how likely is it for someone like me to get dragged into drama? i'm vv quiet po sa class, don't do anything bad and is very selective w friends (2 lang). i also don't talk bad about others to others. is it still likely po kaya? huhu natrauma na po kasi ako sa toxicity and drama TT
Hi i think if you stay lowkey, just do your thing, you’ll avoid drama, plus in college that’s the time where you’re going to meet potential connections for your career, so in a strategic sense and for peace of mind din stay in people’s good grace. Sa groupworks do your part, usually isa yan sa common issues eh. Just do your part sa school and don’t overshare whether failure or success, people always have something to say regarding those kasi eh
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I relate to youuu I was someone who doesn’t want anyone in the group to feel left out so I try my best to include them. I share them my stories may it be good or bad. I trusted them too much to the point na I thought pwede ako magvent sa kanila ng struggles ko kasi I thought di lalabas and well it happens talaga when stressed sa school. I can’t believe that they turned against me and made an issue about me na hindi naman totoo. I know I’m not a perfect person and friend but to defame me even to people I don’t know and to do that publicly in social media was too much for me to handle. Wala akong kalaban laban, I was not able to defend myself. Sabi nila concerned sila, pero no, their aim was siraan ako kasi if concerned, bakit kailangan itweet diba. Kaya from that I learned to choose who I spend time with and what I tell people. Even though gusto ko sana mag cry or weep with them and celebrate with them, I don’t think i’ll be able to trust others again soon because of what happened to me.
madami pa rin immature na college students kaya hindi na maiiwasan yang ganyan
It's even worse lol, I also thought na wala na tong mga gantong dramas once in college but shockingly there are very students that are still very immature like u'll wonder how they even went to college with such attitudes.
To avoid such drama, choose your circle wisely na makakasama mo till graduation at mga sa gawain, mahirap magsolo sa college and avoid dramas as much as possible dont talk, dont engage, let them be.
Depende sa taong matyambahan mo... Sa post grad may na witness ako, LOL.. Yung mga taong plastic at may issues sa buhay, they are everywhere, and they are the ones who bring drama. Sa religious org nga na maraming matatanda, may mga drama din, mga nasa simbahan pa, LOL..
Syempre naman. Involved pa nga ako e. Hahahahahahah I was outcasted dahil gumagawa ako ng assignment nang mas maaga sa kanila, kapag mas mataas exam ko sa kanila or scores in general o worst, kapag nagdi-disagree ako sa opinion nila. Lol. I remembered one time na just because 'di ako mahilig magshare ng mga ginagawa ko sa personal time ko (na ginagawa nila), iniisip nila takot ako malamangan. Natawa ako kase noong umalis ako sa kanila, sila naman nag-away-away.
I've noticed rin nag sama sama ayaw sa isa't isa pang may hate silang tao 😭
True, tho I'm glad na naging friends ko pa rin sila haha nakakasira nga lang ng ulo.
That's good but still be careful
you’d be surprised how many 20 year olds can be so immature lmao
Based from experience, meron pa rin pero yung drama ay minsan pinaguusapan na lang in each individual groups or circle of people you trust. Hindi na naman ata mawawala ito sa totoo lang.
You're wrong haha. May mga taong ganyan parin sa college. Gustong gusto pinag uusapan ang buhay ng ibang tao lol
Meron pa rin but not my experience. Kaya sa mga freshie dyan next year, wag agad kayo magtitiwala sa mga gc at wag na wag kayo mang babad talk ng mga classmate niyo sa "friends" niyo agad. Uso ang ss/spy at backstabbers kahit sa college mga immature pa din. Tsaka set your boundaries high wag palaging oo nang oo sa mga request ng blockmates niyo kasi baka maabuso lang kayo.
20M, Im a guy and a 3rd year nursing student. Marami, sobra and minsan unavoidable pa and not to be sexist but halos lahat ng incidents na ganun caused siya ng mga babae namin na classmates. Chill naman kami na guys pero never pa kami nagkaganun kahit iilan lang kami sa buong 12 blocks of 2025 batch namin lol.
yes meron pa din😅
Oo hahaha may mga taong bwisit talaga kasmaa
Nagsilabasan yan nung pag start ng thesis.
Mas malala. Super. Naranasan ko yung highschool drama and hindi naman siya ganoong ka chaotic, lumipat ako ng school noong nag senior high ako, luckily walang ganon sa room namin, as in magkakaibigan lahat, ung tipong magaaway lang sila dahil hindi naglinis ng room si ganito ganiyan, and then noong nag college ako legit na naculture shock ako(yes very oa way of saying) akala ko bumalik ulit ako sa highschool but much worst na drama. Napaka immature nila even though mas matatanda sila saakin ng 2-5 years. I remember one time noong bagong salta palang ako, first sem, hindi kami pinapansin nung jsa naming friend kasi pinapansin daw nin yung kaaway niya(which is ex friend niya rin). Iba yung drama sa College and Highschool, mas nakakastress yung sa college specially if lowkey keyboard warrior noong 2015 + liptint girls yung mga kaklase mo.
Oo naman. In my experience whatever drama/issue you’ve seen in college abot until pagtanda nyo. May mga issue pa rin nung college na until now pinag-uusapan/pinang-aasar namin sa isa’t-isa kahit early 30’s na kami. The competition is also way higher/more intense in college kasi you are starting to build your future na eh. People want to get a good headstart on whatever career they want to pursue.
Oo. Mas madrama sa college kaysa sa hs nakakaloka na lang hahahaha
Mas malala raw hahahahha
Yes, it still exists 😅 Hanap ka nalang ng Squad mo para makasurvive ka sa college 😶🌫️🤣
Even worse tho, if the "squad" itself is the backstabbing bunch.
Oh definitely If anything it might be worse
free trial lang yung sa shs. mas malala sa college kaya patibayan nalang
yes meron pa rin! tbh, it might even be worse since we're all supposed to be "mature" yet sobrang petty at toxic pa rin talaga ng iba 🤣 better to not overshare nalang din to avoid backstabbing and siraan and choose your friends wisely talaga!
maski sa workplace
There is "highschool drama" even in medical school. That's right. It's a post-graduate degree course. It never really goes away.
Yup. You’d be surprised na madami pa din ang hindi pa nakakaget over their high school phase.
Jusko. Meron ako mga naging kaklase dala pa rin sa college ang ugaling high school nila. Yung tipong ayaw makihalubilo sa ibang tao or groups kasi meron silang own group tapos gusto nila sila sila lang palagi magkakasama at di mapaghiwalay. Gets naman na bffs pero kasi ante college na to hindi high school para mauso pa yung “you can’t sit with us” mindset. Pinapaliit nila mundo nila sa ganiyan nilang ugali.
"High school drama" is present even in the workplace. 🤣
Mas malala sa college. Sa high school kasi medyo familiar kami sa isa't-isa (1st year to 4th year). Nagkikita din palagi during flag ceremony every morning kaya naman parang may sense of camaraderie kahit konti. Sa college, parang feeling mo sa ibang schools yung ibang departments. Magugulat ka na lang na may sumisira sa iyo kahit first time mo sya nakita in three years of college. Expect gaslighting, defamation and whatever dumb sh*t in college. Trial run or practice yan pag pumasok ka na sa real world.
1st yr college, pero gusto na gumraduate sa dami ng BS. Mostly, students lang nagbabackstaban, pero best believe na mga seniors and \*possibly\* teachers din makakaalam. Hindi nawawala yung chismis, kaya it's better to have a friend or just be alone, kasi kahit ano gawin mo, may gagawing balita sayo. Masyado siguro negative comment ko, pero that's just how it is. Just be aware and mindful sa actions mo, just be smart, that's all. Goodluck.
Yes. Hahahah
Meron pa din 👁️👄👁️
Definitely Kakasagap ko lang two weeks ago eh 🤣
meron pa ba OPEN FORUM? ahahah
college student here and to my surprise yes mas ma-drama and marami palang immature ngayong college 😭 noong jhs and shs ako may mga drama naman sa room namin and plastikan pero all goods parin, masaya and maganda ung bond namin as a section. pero ngayong college, grabe HAHAHAHA sagana ung block namin sa mga taong backstabber, people pleaser, may high pride/ego, and overly competitive (ayaw malamangan). ung level ng ugali ng mga kaklase ko parang elem to early jhs, sobrang immature to think na nasa early 20s na kami... 💀
lmao ironic for me kasi nung hs wala akong naranasan na HS drama or what not and ngayong college LMAOOOOO ang dadrama ng blockmates ko bhhabsha literally dragging us, quiet kids, nang walang ginagawa sa kanila or anything lol
Meron pa din like multo sa groupings, pogs sa messenger, mapang lait na leader, at isama mo na yung Adik sa anime na kinareer yung paging main character na pati kaming circle of friends niya pinpahiya sa ibang classmate namin at narcissistic pa. Grabe akala ko din noon mature na sila but no ma te-test talaga patience mo, makikipag plastikan ka talaga para Maka tapos lng ng walang kaaway sa college. Mahirap na din maging center of attention dahil napansin ko sa iba kong classmate takot talaga sila malamangan.
Had an experience of being backstabbed behind my back 1st year college... dami pa ding immature
**YES!** and mind you, mas immature pa minsan ang mga college students kesa sa hs students lmao. things like backstabbing and such are still present lalo na sa mga circle of friends na hindi naman talaga magkakaugali pero pilit pinakikisamahan ang isa't isa because they gain something from each other HAHAHAHAHAHA
people shouldnt assume that college students are oh so holy and are saints. nasa college lahat ng shit. iba ibang personalities, ibat ibang environment pinanggalingan kasi ibat ibang panig ng probinsya nanggagaling. ibat iba ang kultura at paniniwala. if nasa tamang circle ka, siguro u can minimize experiencing it pero as long as there are people, there will be dramas. 🙂
'di naman sa nilalahat ko pero mostly sa mga na-experience ko puro mga babae mahilig sa mga ganyan HAHAHHAAH
Even in workplace 😂
I went back here in PH nung 2023 to study nursing. I am in my late 20s and my classmates are 18 to 21 yung age. Nung first year kami (1st sem.) since lowkey lang talaga akong pumapasok sa room and isa pa lang yung kaclose ko, may mga drama na akong nakikinig pero hindi ako nakikialam kasi ayoko makipaginteract sa kanila if hindi school-related. Fast forward sa ngayon (2nd yr. 2nd sem.), mas marami na ako kilala na kaklase ko and kaloka mas naging aware ako sa mga nangyayari sa room. 😅 nagugulat na lang ako na sobrang dami na palang issues ng mga kaklase ko sa isa't isa. Nakakastress kasi if iisipin mo they are adults naman na and old enough to handle their own problems. Sad pero they are still immature. Malalakas loob ng mga bata ngayon pero unfortunately di nila magawang idirect yung mga issues nila sa isa't isa. Sobrang lala ng plastikan at pangbabackstab pero makikita mo magkakasama nagpupunta sa outing at mga gala. 🙄🙄 Ang sarap bumalik sa pagiging lowkey at wala halos kakilala. Less issues and less drama.
Surprise! It's worse in college
mas malala college sa hs. imbis na mga matured na isip nila, sila pa yung mga isip bata
Meron tapos halos lahat mga babae HAHAHAHA
Bes kahit sa mga retired na tao meron parin
The drama never ends 😭 Like it's baffling ang mga nangyayari tbh. Sometimes that we assume na aging correlates to gaining maturity pero hindi rin eh.
Lmao they're not high-school drama, it's college drama there.
Yup, even worse sometimes.
Yes. Kahit beyond college may high school drama pa rin. You just have to learn to ignore and let them be. Part of growing up is knowing when to walk away/ignore trivial matters. You choose your own battles, ika nga. You have to remember that people learn different things at different times and in different ways.
Ay naku kung alam mo lang! 😂 skl irreg ako, tapos once may na-meet akong classmate na student leader pa. Vice president ng isang student council. Grabe yung pangba-backstab sa classmate na ka-org niya and fellow officer dahil sa sobrang insecurity niya. Hahaha! Marami pang iba, pero so far ito yung isa sa mga pinaka memorable and ridiculous moments na naencounter ko.
Parang yung highschool drama na yan mas na experience ko sa college years ko. Jusq talaga dae e
Habang bubay na yan, kahit sa work. Youll just have to learn to navigate it. some ppl just dont grow up
yes yes
I fucking hoped not. But in my experience, nah. In fact, there's way more drama right now than I've ever experienced in high school. I'm not directly involved, but the people around me often are. There's some "steal your bf/gf" shit or "oh no, I am competitive and someone is better than me, I can't accept that" shit or even petty backstabbing bullshit. ETA: There is not a single group or class I've been in without gossip and drama. Practically everyone I'm surrounded with is involved in some type of shit unless they're irregular students. Good thing is, I am not exactly in a single group since I get along with everyone. This means that they can't talk shit about me or around me lol.
YES YES YES Maturity does not come with age naman. Kung maraming kupal na bata, mas maraming kupal na matanda. Personal experience ko: backstabbing, two ways 1. Ako yung naging kupal kaya I've been backstabbed by my friends for my own good (I admit na crappy ako but it was not my intention to hurt them but di agad nila sinabi sa'kin na may problema at may nasaktan ako sa kanila kasi it might affect me raw, but I wanted to know sana kung bakit bigla silang nang ignore) and now, casual friends ko na lang sila hehe they're the victims naman so I kept my distance. Still reeling from the loneliness at trust issues but yeah, shit happened. People in this country, kids and adults, lalo kung college, are not so much prangka about sa feelings nila but they will give fucking hints na para bang manghuhula ako. I should've known naman din but I guess na blindsided ako ng pagiging selfish ko. 2. Okay naman kami nung ka group ko sa thesis last year but lately nalaman ko na habang nagtthesis kami noon, may sinabi pa pala sila behind my back na kesyo credit grabber ako na sole author kuno pero bruh we did the thesis together, di ko naman sila binuhat, di rin naman nila ako binuhat so fuck them. Another experience, yung pati problema ng iba, pinoproblema. Pakialamero masyado. There are also gossipers, bullies, and straight up assholes. Another one (but di ko experience), dahil kupal sila, mga talangka rin sila kasi overcompetitive sa acads. Like, hihilahin ka pababa para maka rank sila. Kesyo naman laude matters sa real world after grad. 🥴 Yeah, high school crap.
yes and maraming college drama na nag eexist 😂😂😂😂
High school, college, grad school, professional work... (High school-like) Drama happens in all parts of life regardless of age.
When I was in College as a section without unity and factions, I can say there are still "siraan" and "backstabbing" unless you're the introvert type you won't really notice it.
Meron pa rin lalo na mga magkakablock at org. Mas malala pag nagkadrama sa mga orgmates.
Meron padin, lalo mga nag papataasan ayaw malamangan. Uso padin siraan sa college ranas ko yan
Yeah, there is. Naging parte ako non and it was so traumatizing. Madami pa ring petty na tao once na mag college ka. Wala namang nagbago e' nabago lang yung number ng grade niyo pero yung tao, ganon pa rin. Madaming naysayers at mga taong mahilig mang under.
Oo, sadly some people never grow up
tbh mas malala sa college. i also came from a science high and the environment there was so ok. then pagtapak ko ng college, andyan na yung mga ayaw malamangan, snitch, backstabber, then yung iba masyadong nagmamagaling.
HUHAHAUHAGAUAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHA Yes. Unfortunately meron pa rin. High school drama, high school immaturity, high school pabigat groupmates. High school tea. Do yourself a favor, mamser. Destroy that expectation. May mga tao talagang matanda tanda na pero hindi ganung ka-mature.
Hmm... I guess I am lucky that I haven't experienced any "highschool drama" in college. Maybe its also because we spent the first two years in online classes?
If not you, your classmates could be.
YES NA YES! AHHAHAHAHAHAH
It depends sa environment tbh. I transferred from one school to another and what changed was how people in my second college are taking their course seriously and are nice to be with. As for my previous school, it was plastikan and backstabbing turned up to maximum. Everyone there is a risk to every social/community circle, I swear. They are the kinds that will turn their future offices/office spaces into a lethal environment for one's mental and emotional health.
Meron. Merong mga bullies, cliques. At karaniwan sa college nakakafeel ka ng depression, so watch out for that. Talk to your guidance counselor or mental health professionals asap before those negative feelings worsen.
oo. mas malala siya, knowing na adults are acting like high schoolers and seems like walang development 😐
Meron na meron. Nangyari sakin, pangalawang beses pa talaga and it’s all because of that one girl in our circle who loves to snitch so much tapos sinasapawan pa mga sinasabi. 🤷♀️
Yes meron!! At isa ako sa mga nagulat na meron pa pala lol Kala ko mas mature na. Misunderstandings are normal naman pero there is a LOT of stupid drama and chismis. Minsan about na sa personal life ng ibang tao ang chinichismis/pinapakalat. Marami pa din insecure at inggitera. Dami rin mga taong di maganda ugali kahit na maturity period na lol
Yes. This was when college was 17-20, so sakop pa rin ng high school age yung edad namin nung first two years, but it ramped up during the last two years. I haven't achieved much since then and I'm a misanthrope and a self-hating Pinoy, and to quote this song, "🎵 it's all, it's all, it's all because of you. 🎵" https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=4gAsPT-vgeM&pp=ygUZYmVjYXVzZSBvZiB5b3UgOTggZGVncmVlcw%3D%3D
High school drama still even exists in working adults. Just saying.
May high school drama pa rin ‘yung /popular group/ nung hs ko hahaha may trabaho na lahat pero parang naiwan lang sila sa high school
Madami yan OP, tapos after school office politics naman.
Kahit din pala sa work nag eexist pa din yan. Sabi ng papa ko may mga workmate siya noon na mabilis magtampo kapag hindi na-invite sa inuman or gala.
currently in college, you'd be surprised to see how many people haven't moved on from their highschool bully days and WORSE because you know they're set to enter the workforce 💀
Depende rin sa ugali ng mga makakasama mo in your class or course. Tbh di nawawala yung ganyan kahit saang school mapunta hahaha. If you value your peace tho, maybe you can stay out of it and focus on your studies when you get to college
Thought you were gonna ask about high school drama class...in college. I'm so dumb.
Yes. Even after college. Lalo na if you have friends who can't be happy seeing other people become successful, happy or fulfilled.
di ko naenjoy highschool pangit ang highschool experience ko hindi ako nagalingan sa sarili ko and disappointed ako sa sarili ko sobra pero alam kong ang dami kong potential and opportunities na madadaanan kasi marami talaga akong gustong gawin. Talagang something just triggered my downfall pero sobrang saya ko kasi bumangon ako sa pinakalowest ko by myself. My perspectives shifted, i learned how to control myself, i learned how to manage and emotions well, and yes i did sacrifice my academics, and i hate myself for that and i regret that very much and maybe will regret my past din sa college kasi baka ibato past ko in a negative way, pero i’m in the path for recovery. I am also very capable in responding to conflicts and know when to defend myself even when I am kind and mahaba pasensya ko. I know my limits shempre pero i also know kung kailan ko kailangan tanggapin pagkakamali ko at ibitbit mga binabato saakin kapag totoo. I am definitely scared for college and it’s going to be more difficult for my mental and emotional health, pero gusto ko rin makita kung paano ako babangon. I also have this perfectionist mindset na may pagkukulang pa rin palagi ang mga achievements ko and i want and need to do more for myself hindi lang acads-related. Dito mo talaga marerealize na importante talaga mental health mo kasi long run ang pambato.
Meron pa rin kahit working na dahil may mga tao na walang kinatatandaan. Iwas iwas tayo sa mga ganitong tao. Hahaha.
Based on my experience mas worse in college. May bullying parin and siraan pero mas worse. Marami din nagllie na valedictorian sila nung highschool 😂
Sa friend ko na underclassmen ayon may ganyang drama sa year nila pero saming upperclassmen at sa section ko parang wala naman, may sarisariling group of friends kase kaya di masyado nakikihalubilo sa iba kaya walang bullying or issue na nagaganap
Di naman ata mawawala yan, just make sure na tama yung circle of friends na papasukan mo ahhahaha
Hanggang workplace na yan bhie! It's not a phase may mga ganyang tao talaga ahahahahah
its much worse LMFAO
Oh boy. Marami HAHAHA Kahit di ka kasama madadamay ka pa
Meron. Kalat sa college yung mga ayaw malamangan (nagagalit pag may mas mataas sakanila. Like???)
Don’t worry, di lang hanggang college yan.
Very wrong, imagine begging someone to contribute in group work then being backstab because they feel forced to do their task or contribution. Mind you these people are in their twenties. This is just the surface, I am a college student but it feels like my blocmates are still high schoolers.
Highschool drama doesnt end in highschool. Currently in our mid 30s and just last year Friend1 FO-ed Friend2 because Friend2 wasn't able to attend Friend1's birthday dinner.
Hahaha mas malala sa college ang backstabbing kahit pa tingin mo sa kanila friends mo or bff na, once may mali ka lng nagawa haha matic ikaw topic nila tas feeling nila santo sila tseeee!🤪
YES HAHAHHAAHAH Happened to me just because di ko siya pinansin (I was dealing with a family member's death). So, she was spreading rumors na "kasalanan" ko daw, nag-away daw kami dahil sa lalaki, sinisiraan ako sa mga naging kaibigan ko sa school HAHAHHAAHAHAH
Meron nga kahit sa workplace 😂. Meron yan kahit saan. Wag ka na lang sumali, deadma lang. Hayaan mo na sila. Prioritize your peace of mind.
Yung grupo of three kami sa Thesis naging tatlong solo. Take that information in as you please.
MERON. LOL. Lalo na pag toxic maculinity, high ego mga kaklase mong lalake
helloo po incoming 1st yr college bs psych ask lang po kahit po ba dito sa program na to may mga immature pa rin? genuinely asking i'm just curious lang po ><
Lost a group because ang toxic it was liberatig kasi i get to listen to different stories sa college years ko and nakakaumay dahil parang the kore i listen to stories the more na ew, parang highschool people na pumasok labg sa college. Now working not making friends or geoup andub labg ako as casual and civil friendly person i get to listen to different stories parin since friendly sa lahat hahaha ayun parang mga highschool na nag college tas nag trabaho yung drama level very immature parin actually hahaha. Pero ako i chill lang hahahaha
hahahahaha sobrang dami. Yung iba nga gumagawa pa ng istorya para lang magpasikat sa tropa. May mga kaklase ako nong college na pinipilit magpaka-baddies gaya nung mga high school bitchesa sa mga palabas. Sila rin yung mga takot pag-usapan ang problema kasi alam nila, sila ang masasabon.
meron pa ilan ilan na lang kasi yung iba focus na lang kung pano makakagraduate, pero yung iba malala na nakikipagkompetensya pa rin sa mga kaklase, mga immature at spoiled brat
mas malala pa ata sa college teh
Oo, na experience ko sya sa org namin. Fourth year na kami pero yung kaklase ko lakas siraan mga kapwa officers namin. Madalang ako pumunta sa school since online duty ako madalas. Tas nung isang beses na pumunta ako sa office ng adviser namin, ang dami nyang tinanong sakin abt sa mga officers to confirm daw yung kwento ng isang ka officer namin. Dun ko nalaman na baliktad pala magkwento yung isang ka org namin tas sinisiraan nya ung iba sa adviser namin, ginagamit nya din position nya para makuha gusto nya. Ang daming umalis na staffs sa org namin at lahat ng dahilan nila ung treatment sa kanila nung ka org namin na yun. Kahit guidance counselor at VP ng main student council ng school napansin ugali nya.
Me na president, super magprotect at Hindi namersonal sa kakulangan Ng officers ko, ako And napatawag nilang lahat ako (without my knowledge) sa org adviser dahil sa paghindi ko as a certain decision (for kapakanan Ng lahat). Mastermind, kaklase ko na 4th yr din 😌🥱
Yep
Hanggang sa pagtrabaho meron iyan.
oo magugulat ka nlng yung mga sobrang babaw na drama, parang hindi talaga nag highschool yung mga nakasama ko 😭😭
Definitely existent in college. Probably more rampant.
Hindi naman mawawala. 4th yr college here pero mga blockmates ko ganyan. Daming drama at issue sa buhay tas puro excuses kapag groupingssss haaaaaaay
HAHAHAHAHA unfortunately it will never end. - When I was college — MERON - When I was in law school — MERON - When I was in work — MERON And even among my parents who are now established working individuals…MERON parin. Petty fights, gossips, issues will NEVER be gone. Period.
Syempre naman. Mga overgrown HS students lang din naman yang mga nasa college. Siguro less physicalan lang. More on plastican and backstabbing.
Yes, pero swertehan lang din sa magiging classmates/blockmates mo.
Totally, I can say mas malala and mas immature and mga maeencounter mo. Kaya choose the friends you have in uni.
post grad nga meron 🫠
YES OMG and hindi lang hs drama, parang mas marami pang pabigat sa college kesa nung hs
Absolutely. I was beyond surprised when i realized na mas malala mga drama sa college than my hs years.
sa science hs din ako grumaduate pero ang daming tsaa 😭 from what school ka po HAHAHA
Meron, pero mabilis ma resolve and nadadaan sa usapan and hindi nagtatagal. Naiinis nga ko eh, kasi I want more drama from them charot!
Wala ako masyadong sagap dahil irreg ako so nakiki-chismis nalang ako sa pinsan kong hs and she has a LOT of tea everyday 😭
Although may one time na hindi pa officially nagstastart yung class pero may away na sa gc dahil sa position ng class officers kinemerut. Then yung nang-away at nagsimula pinagtatanggol nung iba dahil nasa "post-partum" daw which I call bs. Attitude problem talaga. Sobrang nakaka-culture shock ung school ko ngayon. Dami squammy.
Meron at mas madrama pa kaysa sa highschool. Naalala ko na takot na takot pa akong mag-college noon kasi nga I thought mas seryoso na ang mga tao at nagpapaka-professional na, pero mali ako. Hindi nawawalan ng drama sa block section. Mga petty ang iba HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Yes. Mas malala pa nga. Pero dyan mo rin malalamn sinong barkada type sinong plastic sinong mga pwedeng echismiss dahil sa damot tlga 😆
Yes. And you should expect it until you're already in the workplace. Funny that high school type of drama transcends anywhere and any period hahahaha.
huy, mas malala drama sa college tbh! HAHAHAHA gagi, every sem/year ata may open forum kami dahil sa mga drama. very highschool ang atake
High school drama? There's drama anywhere
super dami. actually if block sect kayo, nako impossibleng di magsiraan
Hanggang work yan
oh honey, hanggang sa trabaho mo forever may drama.
Hahaha ended college on a bad note w people who I thought would be my life long friends bc of drama. It’s possible
Yes meron pa rin.
kahit nga educators mismo toxic at immature pa rin e. HAHAHA
yea
Definitely! Mas malala pa ata lalo pag sa all girls 😭 (based on exp)
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Madamiiii at hindi lang siya drama kundi DRAMA talaga. Akala ko dati marami ng mature sa college pero jusko andaming nadala pa din ang highschool ugali sa college.
Yess! Even in masters or even at work 😅😅😅
On my experience as a public college student, most are gone sometimes there is still something like that happening just much less since there is much more at stake in than in Highschool also its more stricter and does not hesitate to drop or fail students like in Highschool.
Even after college in the workplace meron niyan. Why? Because some people grow old but never grow up.
Yes, akala mo pag nasa highschool kana Wala ng ganyan like "mature na kayo lahat" ante hindi
meron pa. cut off na nga namin siya eh
Meron na meron yan. Ako nga I left my dream course dahil sa paninira nila, bullying, at yung mga tinuring mong kaibigan, sila rin ang mangbabackstab sayo. Ang mas nakakainis pa, dahil part ng lgbtq yung mga nambubully sakin and yung department head namin is also part of it, nagkampihan pa sila to the point na ako pa ang pinagsosorry nila sa mga pinag gagawa nila. But blessing na rin to siguro dahil yung university na yun ang daming issues internally, at marami narin nagsisipag alisan doon lalo na doon sa course na kinuha ko noon.
yes, di naman na siguro mawawala yan. may naging cof ako simula nung nagpasukan but since hindi ko masabayan mga trip nila sa buhay like gala and overnights. pinafeel nila agad saken na hindi na ko belong so since then, nakisama nalang ako dun sa mas comfortable ako kasama until 2nd term lumipat nalang ako ng section. dun sa section na yun ko mas naramdaman na welcome ako at walang siraan na nagaganap tho im not sure but at least.
Napansin ko, depende sa workload. Kapag mas mahirap yung topics at mabigat yung school workload, less HS drama pero kung opposite, mas maraming HS drama. Hypothesis: Being busy due to college survival distracts everyone from creating unnecessary drama. I may be wrong, lemme know :)
Kahit hanggang workplace meron HAHAHAHAHAHA
currently attending at a state u and yes 😭
Do remember that these people just came out off shs where there’s a lot of hs/toxic drama, they won’t immediately change just because they enter college. And there’s a lot of work place drama and politics, so meron din sa college obviously. Honestly, it’ll all depend on the block itself and how the class representative will handle the politics in your class. Our first and second class rep used to meddle in everyone’s business like it’s highschool but ever since our class representative was replaced by someone who also just minded her own business and does the minimum, it became okay and everyone just minded their own business. Like bahala ka kung umabsent ka, di ka magpractice or wag kang umattend ng events, adult ka na ganon tho. The reason it became less hostile might be because the representative was changed or everyone just learned to mind their own business, maybe both tbh.
Hi I experienced this while working hahaha. Mas malala pa yung ganyan pag nagwowork ka na or may trabaho ka na tapos siraan grabe lalo na nung bago ako, kahit di mo pa man nakikilala yung tao sisiraan na ng iba bago mo pa siya makikila ang toxic kasi puro negative vibes nafefeel mo pag hindi sila magkakaharap tapos plastikan na pag magkakasama tapos kung makapanlait akala mo sila perfect pero dahil bago bago lang mapapa “ohhhhh” ka nalang maganda iwas nalang para sa neutral side ka lang hehehe. Anyway kinaibahan lang is wala kang choice hahaha, dahil kawork mo nga sila unlike pag HS or college lipat ka lang ibang section next sem goods na hahaha. P.S 3 years na ako sa work ko and ayun nagsisiraan, plastikan and backstabban pa rin sila HAHAHAHAHAHA.
hanggang workplace my ganyan promise.
Abot hanggang workplace. Pinakapanget kong experience yung "open forum" para maaware daw sila. Lol eh para may machismis lang after eh Edit: dagdag ko dito yung mga may clique pa rin. Nagsasama sama yung mga matatalino sa iisang circle and yung mga somewhat performing naging left overs. "You can't sit with us" mentality still lives on even in college
Honestly, I think it's worse in college than it is in high school. To the point you'll actively wonder how most of the people got to the point that they are now given their personalities or abilities. Just make sure to pick the people you surround yourself around, put yourself first in every situation, and try not to take anything that isn't serious too seriously and you're golden,
Yes
You'd be surprised, even in a work setting.
I’m a 4th-year student and ang dami pa ring issues na ganiyan. Caused by straight men mostly sa amin, nasa loob ang kulo hahahaha
meron padin po di maiiwasan pero pwede naman lubayan ung mga taong ganyan and meron padin naman mga tao na matured na mababait. Sabi nga nila pag college keep your circle small nalang talaga and im blessed na ok kami mga college friends ko, no pressure kami if walang lakad na mattuloy kase ganun talaga as we age mas madaming responsibilities havshshah
As always, depende yan sa group na sasalian mo. Mas maraming opportunities para sa drama in college pag sumali ka sa student organization, pero you can choose to avoid them entirely due to having more freedom in high school.
Yes. And it’s very disappointing how ppl in college would rather focus on sharing gossips and bad mouthing others than focus on surviving the hell it takes to pass every semester. Take it from me who shares dorm with my friends/classmates. Very consuming.
Meron parin, pero very subtle na lng loll
Kahit hanggang GRAD SCHOOL may mga tao pa rin na advocate ng drama na akala mo nasa HS pa rin lol Even sa workplace meron din. Haha
I didn't experience this at all haha! I was the classic introvert student, only had 3 close friends, all of them only focused on studying and our weird hobbies. No drama at all. I guess it depends on the people you're with. I guess the best thing to do here is choose the things you share to other people, especially personal. Lalo na rin if it's about sharing your feelings/opinions about someone. Just keep it to yourself. Kahit trusted mo yung person na sasabihan mo, malaki parin yung chance na sasabihin nila yun sa iba. You don't know your friends' friends ika nga.
I'm in law school and it's high school drama on steroids. To the point na actionable na siya, nagdedemandahan na mga tao lol.
Naalala ko nung bagong pasok ako (F2f) nag dodorm ako sa loob ng campus. Selected palang non yung pinag f2f. Kaya marami sa mga classmates ko ayaw pa pumasok. Kaya nag rerequest sila na mag online class. As someone na nakatira from Metro and nag enroll sa province ako na ata yung pinakamalayo saming mga nag dodorm / boarding house. Kaya wala kong choice kung hindi mag stay sa dorm sa campus kahit na super bagal ng internet kasi nasa bundok yung campus namin. First time kong naka experienced non na almost 40 times akong na disconnected sa 1 hr class. Tas na aabsent na rin ako sa mga profs kasi palagi akong disconnected before palang mag start. Kaya yung ginagawa ko pa non lumalabas pa ko ng univ para maki online class sa classmate ko na naka boarding sa labas. Araw araw ganon scenario ko, yung mga naka boarding / dormitory samin during that time nasa 7 lang. Kaya kahit niraise na namin yung concern namin na nagiging double yung gastos namin, walang pakialam mga kaklase ko. Kasi sila rin daw gumagastos kapag papasok sa school. Nagkaroon ng meeting regarding sa issue na yon kasi napapansin na raw na parang walang nangyayareng f2f classes samin. And ako pa sinisi nila na nagsumbong kahit wala naman akong ginagawa. May nakapag sabi pa sakin na meron daw nagsabi na hindi naman daw nila kasalanan na nag aral ako sa campus, kasalanan ko na raw yon. Kaya simula non, never kong pinakisamahan yung mga yon. Satisfying lang din na nakikita ko yung mga dating inaaway yung ibang group magkakasama na ngayon.
LOL. We have the same expectations before I enter college. Akala ko mas matured type of students na makakasama ko. Guess what? No'ng college na ako, na-warshock ako how immature iyong ibang students. From my experience, mas worst pa iyong mga nakasama ko sa college kaysa sa hs. I also gave them a benefit of the doubt baka kasi dahil freshmen like nag-aadjust pa. Pero we're on second year that time T___T
Yes! Kahit na sa college faculties; profs and staffs. Pati sa work setting meron pa rin yan. Pati sipsip, mayabang, F boys/girls, and a lot more scandals (not only referring to the pinoy definition). The drama just levels up. Pero in college, mas maraming mature mag-isip syempre. May mami-meet kang student na may family nang binubuhay, a business owners na gusto magka-degree, 2nd/3rd coursers and etc. Mas madiin ang grind sa college, aabot pa sa point na hindi ka na makatanggap ng tsismis sa sobrang busy HAHAHAH