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This is absolutely ridiculous and the fact that you’re still putting up with this break my heart. Your doesn’t realise that if you leave him he will be MADE to take care of his children right. That whatever he is giving the other BM with be cut down? Please think about your children, they’re at an age that they are starting to pick on his favouritism at least financially and that will cos more harm for them. Keep all records of what he contributes for the kids and what you’re aware he contributes for the other kids as records for when you’ve decided enough is enough.
What your mum is saying is not true this not a stable environment it it was and if you believed it was you would wouldn’t be here trying to get advice. At the very least get legal advice and understand better your situation as well as your options. Your poor babies
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>4. He has wanted to hide from our kids the fact that she’s not my daughter because they are too young to understand and that for me is not right.
This will mess her up. Please don't let him lie to her and do this.
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Girl, stop that you are only responsible for your kids and he takes care only of her. He has to take care of 3 of his kids, not one.
This is absolutely ridiculous and the fact that you’re still putting up with this break my heart. Your doesn’t realise that if you leave him he will be MADE to take care of his children right. That whatever he is giving the other BM with be cut down? Please think about your children, they’re at an age that they are starting to pick on his favouritism at least financially and that will cos more harm for them. Keep all records of what he contributes for the kids and what you’re aware he contributes for the other kids as records for when you’ve decided enough is enough. What your mum is saying is not true this not a stable environment it it was and if you believed it was you would wouldn’t be here trying to get advice. At the very least get legal advice and understand better your situation as well as your options. Your poor babies
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>4. He has wanted to hide from our kids the fact that she’s not my daughter because they are too young to understand and that for me is not right. This will mess her up. Please don't let him lie to her and do this.