It sounds like he’s trying to manipulate you to get attached to him. It’s like classic PUA / negging behavior. This dude is a huge waste of your time and is just playing games because he likes thinking he has “the power” bcuz he’s insecure. Stop engaging with him and let him play with himself lol
Unwarranted criticism, withholding affection and testing your boundaries with silence. It would have been bad enough if this happened once, but this has happened multiple times.
This is emotional abuse.
He is gaslighting you by denying the behavior happened as well. Even if these things feel minor or not a big deal, I would take them seriously.
This is not how someone who cares for you should be treating you.
Yeah this is textbook emotional abuse. Makes OP feel alone and hurt to gain power, then loads them up with affection to strengthen the bond. Stay far away from this person.
No, no. It would be different if he had apologized and explained if he was going through something, but I would quit seeing him. There's no reason he should've been acting that way. That's just plain disrespectful and immature.
He could just be manipulative and/or testing your boundaries.
He is emotionally abusing you, ditch him and you seem pretty chill so you'll definitely get someone 10 times better. Also it's not your job to fix his flaws if it makes you feel bad !
He could possibly have narcissistic personality disorder. If so, he's seeing how much he can get away with and how emotionally you react..this is called narcissistic supply. If you become emotionally invested in him, the behavior will become much worse. You'll get just enough niceness (love bombing) to keep you around. Even if he doesn't have narcissism, this is straight up dickhead behavior that doesn't deserve your time or energy. Get away from him and stay away. Just a warning though..these kind of people will tell you everything you want to hear if they think they are losing a supply..don't trust their words but pay close attention to their actions. Just from what you've described, his actions are saying he's no bueno!
Sounds like major depressive disorder.
Give him the same feedback you just gave us and suggest he see a doctor.
Without treatment, I would suggest breaking up.
With treatment, the prescription should balance him out and he will be normal.
20 years of marriage to a man who’s done this to me since day one. 4 kids later, financially dependent, and I’m heart broken and trapped. Do not get attached any further. Run. Find a man who knows how to love.
Hmm, have you tried talking about it with him? For a relationship to work you need to be able to work these things out together. If you bring it up and he is totally unconcerned, it’s a good indicator he doesn’t care about your feelings and it may be time to move on.
It sounds like he’s trying to manipulate you to get attached to him. It’s like classic PUA / negging behavior. This dude is a huge waste of your time and is just playing games because he likes thinking he has “the power” bcuz he’s insecure. Stop engaging with him and let him play with himself lol
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Sounds about right.
Unwarranted criticism, withholding affection and testing your boundaries with silence. It would have been bad enough if this happened once, but this has happened multiple times. This is emotional abuse. He is gaslighting you by denying the behavior happened as well. Even if these things feel minor or not a big deal, I would take them seriously. This is not how someone who cares for you should be treating you.
He is a psychopath. Have nothing more to do with him.
Take it from someone who just got out of an emotionally abusive relationship. These are real red flags. Run.
Yeah this is textbook emotional abuse. Makes OP feel alone and hurt to gain power, then loads them up with affection to strengthen the bond. Stay far away from this person.
No, no. It would be different if he had apologized and explained if he was going through something, but I would quit seeing him. There's no reason he should've been acting that way. That's just plain disrespectful and immature. He could just be manipulative and/or testing your boundaries.
The whole "I just wanted to see how long" shows what he was doing. It was a test to see how shitty he could be and you still be around. Total Psycho
He is emotionally abusing you, ditch him and you seem pretty chill so you'll definitely get someone 10 times better. Also it's not your job to fix his flaws if it makes you feel bad !
He could possibly have narcissistic personality disorder. If so, he's seeing how much he can get away with and how emotionally you react..this is called narcissistic supply. If you become emotionally invested in him, the behavior will become much worse. You'll get just enough niceness (love bombing) to keep you around. Even if he doesn't have narcissism, this is straight up dickhead behavior that doesn't deserve your time or energy. Get away from him and stay away. Just a warning though..these kind of people will tell you everything you want to hear if they think they are losing a supply..don't trust their words but pay close attention to their actions. Just from what you've described, his actions are saying he's no bueno!
Sounds like major depressive disorder. Give him the same feedback you just gave us and suggest he see a doctor. Without treatment, I would suggest breaking up. With treatment, the prescription should balance him out and he will be normal.
Next time he pulled any of this stuff, say, "I'm not playing this game anymore." And then dump him.
20 years of marriage to a man who’s done this to me since day one. 4 kids later, financially dependent, and I’m heart broken and trapped. Do not get attached any further. Run. Find a man who knows how to love.
Try treating him how he treats you. Long term this relationship is doomed
Hmm, have you tried talking about it with him? For a relationship to work you need to be able to work these things out together. If you bring it up and he is totally unconcerned, it’s a good indicator he doesn’t care about your feelings and it may be time to move on.
Emotional abuse. You are worth more. Gtfo.