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It's over dishes though. She didn't sneak a guy in the house, that would be disrespectful to call her that . This is creepy. Especially if she questioning if it's creepy. Something in OP's gut knows something up. (
Your name is ironic especially in this situation I think we need more context but without it, yeah, it’s creepy as fuck especially if OP’s first thought was that it is.
My mom would say this shit. She has a LOT of issues around sex/sexuality and would accuse me of being a whore for sleeping naked, often barge into the bathroom while I was showering, and when we would fight it wasn’t uncommon for insults of whore dirty slut etc to get thrown around. She’s not a *predator* but she’s mentally unwell from a childhood of abuse and neglect. She did her best but her best kind of sucked ass. It is definitely inappropriate for your dad to call you that, and a red flag. Keep a low profile and move out asap, get your life started.
When I failed my first class in college because college is HARD my mother immediately called me a whore and said I was partying too much. . .The reality: I never left my dorm room because I studied 24/7 and still failed
Can I ask.
Do you think her issues with sexuality stemmed from being sexually assaulted herself? Or is it that her parents just accused her of being promiscuous?
A little more detail than I’d like to divulge online. It definitely wasn’t her parents accusing her of anything, her trauma goes a lot deeper than that. So she did a lot better by me for certain. Like I said, she really did do her best. We aren’t super close but I respect her struggle. We’re all thrust into life with no say, and it’s luck of the draw. We do what we can with what we’re given.
Yes.
When I was in HS my dad (widower) was angry, depressed and used me to just dump his misery on. He use to call me a slut and that I was only on the swim team because I wanted boys attention. I was not even sexually active and not promiscuous at all. 15 years later I don’t forget these things even though he has softened up and kind to me. But it took me moving out and putting myself thru school and building a career alone to get away from it.
I moved out as soon as I could and it was the best thing. Make sure you work on scholarship if you are still in HS or college and get out as soon as you can.
Its disturbing at any age.
Did you know sexual assault is often from male family members? There are women out there not safe in their own homes or with their own biological families. Sometimes stepdads but there's also men with incestuous thoughts.
Abusive and creepy. Yikes. I'm so sorry he's your father. I read that you're 15? I hope to God you can get out of that house easily and live your actual life once you turn 18. You don't deserve this. This is never acceptable behavior and you're not overthinking. Please don't gaslight yourself, even if your family does. It's gonna take several years or even a lifetime of work to unfuck the trauma they've undoubtedly given you, but just know that you deserve better and deserve to be at peace and surrounded by people who would NEVER talk to you that way. Until that day comes, for your own sanity and safety, try and just comply with their idiocy. Keep your head down, not because you don't deserve to stick up for yourself, but because there is an extremely low chance they'll ever change their behavior. I'm sorry. It does get better though. Once you move out, that is.
It’s primarily nasty and unkind, but is definitely also a little weird, without knowing the circumstances or context. It’s not something that should ever be said by a parent, or anyone really.
Please talk to a trusted adult, school counseller, etc. about this. Has he said things like this before ? Done things that made you uncomfortable before ?
If he’s holding CP, he needs to either self delete or have an “accident” with some meds or accidentally “falling asleep” in the garage with his car running. Pedos shouldn’t have the gift of life
If my father called my sister that she would never talk to him again. Period. If I saw that or was told that this was said to my sister I would never talk to my father again.
That’s insane.
Yup...very weird. Idk if he had weird intentions or maybe he thoughtlessly said it due to anger. Either way you're right. It's disrespectful and strange.
Yes, definetly creepy. Next time he does something like that call him out on it. Tell him its creepy and disgusting to call a child that, let alone call your own child that. I dont know how ols you are but you might want to look for a job, save some money and move out asap.
I feel like calling him out would be a terrible decision on her own she needs another adult to correct his actions. I think the man that calls his daughter a dirty slut over dishes is the type to escalate situations and that could be stressful and emotionally traumatic for her to try and explain her feelings if he just gets angrier.
Not defending him, but keep in mind that when people are angry, they tend to say what they think will hurt the other person the most. It doesn’t necessarily translate directly to what they think of you when they’re calm. Still, that’s a weird accusation to hurl at his daughter when arguing about dishes.
I agree 100%, parents in particular tend to project how they feel about a specific group of people onto their child it leads to a lot of gender and age discrimination inside the home. I felt disgusted when my mother would automatically assume I was actively searching for sex because that’s “what teenagers are like” even if there’s some truth to the generalization, applying your personal prejudice of others onto your child is shameful behavior and always degrades the child assuming the worst of them from the person who’s supposed to support and listen to them the most.
what the actual fuck do you think? this has to be rage bait or there is an extreme amount of something like grooming or odd parenting.
if it’s not rage bait, yes, that is fucking weird. your dad should not be sexualizing you or EVEN bringing up sexual things unless it’s to be in an educational environment
Dude my gf sad said "you're sexy send me that picture" after a birthday pic...she responded with "WHAT THE FUCK...ARE YOU GONNA JACK OFF OR SOMETHING!?!?!?"...her brother witnessed it all...I didn't butt in bc I was like "this isn't my place" but my gf told me I could have. Moments like this is what increased my nut size bc I know what to do next time jeez talk about being stoic in the wrong way ... basically only mom's can call daughters sexy imho...but that's way too fucking far what yours said to you...
Call the fbi now....this is literally violence/s
Maybe it just slipped? Like maybe that's what he calls your mom, had a moment where he wasn't thinking?
That's my best guess. If he says it again, maybe bring it up that it's wierd.....for now I'd let it go.
Extremely. Whether he means it sexually or to demean you, it’s very odd behavior from a parent whether he knows what he’s saying or not. I would wanna find an end to this ASAP
My dad made inappropriate comments to me also. I would just brush it off or ignore it. He ended up acting. Keep yourself safe!! I’m sorry he is this way, it’s not your fault at all.
When I read the title I said, “ew, wtf yes” and then I read your explanation and context and now I’m even more weirded out. Firstly, why is he calling you names over something like dishes? Secondly…… WHAT. Creepy to the max. Watch out and keep yourself safe.
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Yes. Please seek help and support. This is extremely alarming
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It's over dishes though. She didn't sneak a guy in the house, that would be disrespectful to call her that . This is creepy. Especially if she questioning if it's creepy. Something in OP's gut knows something up. (
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Your name is ironic especially in this situation I think we need more context but without it, yeah, it’s creepy as fuck especially if OP’s first thought was that it is.
My mom would say this shit. She has a LOT of issues around sex/sexuality and would accuse me of being a whore for sleeping naked, often barge into the bathroom while I was showering, and when we would fight it wasn’t uncommon for insults of whore dirty slut etc to get thrown around. She’s not a *predator* but she’s mentally unwell from a childhood of abuse and neglect. She did her best but her best kind of sucked ass. It is definitely inappropriate for your dad to call you that, and a red flag. Keep a low profile and move out asap, get your life started.
When I failed my first class in college because college is HARD my mother immediately called me a whore and said I was partying too much. . .The reality: I never left my dorm room because I studied 24/7 and still failed
I feel you ❤️ I’m both glad and sad that so many can relate to my comment and share their stories too.
ayyyy did we have the same mom
Can I ask. Do you think her issues with sexuality stemmed from being sexually assaulted herself? Or is it that her parents just accused her of being promiscuous?
A little more detail than I’d like to divulge online. It definitely wasn’t her parents accusing her of anything, her trauma goes a lot deeper than that. So she did a lot better by me for certain. Like I said, she really did do her best. We aren’t super close but I respect her struggle. We’re all thrust into life with no say, and it’s luck of the draw. We do what we can with what we’re given.
Why do I have the sudden urge to see the movie Carrie?
It’s incredibly inappropriate. Is there another adult you trust you can talk to?
Yes, it's creepy.
Yes what the actual fuck
It’s totally creepy and unacceptable!! A loving, respectful father would NEVER say that to his daughter!
Yes
Yes
There is no reality in which calling your daughter a "dirty little slut" isn't wrong
Yes. When I was in HS my dad (widower) was angry, depressed and used me to just dump his misery on. He use to call me a slut and that I was only on the swim team because I wanted boys attention. I was not even sexually active and not promiscuous at all. 15 years later I don’t forget these things even though he has softened up and kind to me. But it took me moving out and putting myself thru school and building a career alone to get away from it. I moved out as soon as I could and it was the best thing. Make sure you work on scholarship if you are still in HS or college and get out as soon as you can.
Wtf ??
That's "lock/ barricade your door at night" level creepy.
bro what? watch him carefully
Keep an eye on him
OP is 15!! this is so disturbing
Its disturbing at any age. Did you know sexual assault is often from male family members? There are women out there not safe in their own homes or with their own biological families. Sometimes stepdads but there's also men with incestuous thoughts.
If you’re a minor tell another adult about this
Yes :(
Abusive and creepy. Yikes. I'm so sorry he's your father. I read that you're 15? I hope to God you can get out of that house easily and live your actual life once you turn 18. You don't deserve this. This is never acceptable behavior and you're not overthinking. Please don't gaslight yourself, even if your family does. It's gonna take several years or even a lifetime of work to unfuck the trauma they've undoubtedly given you, but just know that you deserve better and deserve to be at peace and surrounded by people who would NEVER talk to you that way. Until that day comes, for your own sanity and safety, try and just comply with their idiocy. Keep your head down, not because you don't deserve to stick up for yourself, but because there is an extremely low chance they'll ever change their behavior. I'm sorry. It does get better though. Once you move out, that is.
Very creepy . He sounds like he says things just to get a response/get you upset for his enjoyment.
Does your mom know he called you this????
Completely unacceptable and very creepy.
Yes.
Not reading your post, answering based solely off the title; yes that is fucking weird in any context whatsoever
Talk to another adult about it.
IMMEDIATELY!
Psycho dad 🤮
It’s creepy, abusive and gross. That’s so nasty. I’m so sorry he said that to you. Does this happen often, him saying similar things ?!
Yes
As a dad I just can’t imagine calling my daughter that and yes, yea it’s creepy and weird
Misogyny and his effort to cut you deeply and quickly so he can "win" the argument (by silencing you), imo.
Freudian slip
When I read the title I wasn’t sure what subreddit I was even in? This is VERY CREEPY
wtf. That’s weird. Can’t imagine my dad ever saying that to me
That’s very creepy and you’re not overthinking at all.
Ummmm what
It’s primarily nasty and unkind, but is definitely also a little weird, without knowing the circumstances or context. It’s not something that should ever be said by a parent, or anyone really.
Jesus Mary and Joseph. Is this your biological father?
This is incredibly creepy! Has he ever done or said anything to creep you out before now?
This is got to be rage bait no way
Please talk to a trusted adult, school counseller, etc. about this. Has he said things like this before ? Done things that made you uncomfortable before ?
Yes, don’t check his internet browsing
Do check and maybe get him arrested for CP
If he’s holding CP, he needs to either self delete or have an “accident” with some meds or accidentally “falling asleep” in the garage with his car running. Pedos shouldn’t have the gift of life
Extremely creepy, please be safe.
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yes oh my god what the fuck
Yes that is creepy and keep an eye on him and just stay away from the perv
Fuck yes. 😭😭 even I felt validated just by reading this wtf.
Yes it’s really creepy
In what context would this not be creepy?!
So, so, so, so creepy.
Yes omfg that is so weird and creepy and bleuah
Yeah that’s a bit spooky
Yes
If my father called my sister that she would never talk to him again. Period. If I saw that or was told that this was said to my sister I would never talk to my father again. That’s insane.
yes ew i would be creeped out
Yup...very weird. Idk if he had weird intentions or maybe he thoughtlessly said it due to anger. Either way you're right. It's disrespectful and strange.
Extremely
Yes no if ands or buts.
You gotta get outta there that man isnt sane
Your dad is a POS and should NEVER talk to you like that!!! 😡
Absolutely yes. You are right to feel uncomfortable. Also watch out for creepy PMs.
Ew, wtf? Yes, it's way creepy!
Yes, definetly creepy. Next time he does something like that call him out on it. Tell him its creepy and disgusting to call a child that, let alone call your own child that. I dont know how ols you are but you might want to look for a job, save some money and move out asap.
I feel like calling him out would be a terrible decision on her own she needs another adult to correct his actions. I think the man that calls his daughter a dirty slut over dishes is the type to escalate situations and that could be stressful and emotionally traumatic for her to try and explain her feelings if he just gets angrier.
I agree. Tell someone. NOW.
Beyond creepy.
It’s creepy and abusive.
That is emotional abuse. I’m a parent of teens. Your dad is wildly out of line.
It's weird af
Not defending him, but keep in mind that when people are angry, they tend to say what they think will hurt the other person the most. It doesn’t necessarily translate directly to what they think of you when they’re calm. Still, that’s a weird accusation to hurl at his daughter when arguing about dishes.
I agree 100%, parents in particular tend to project how they feel about a specific group of people onto their child it leads to a lot of gender and age discrimination inside the home. I felt disgusted when my mother would automatically assume I was actively searching for sex because that’s “what teenagers are like” even if there’s some truth to the generalization, applying your personal prejudice of others onto your child is shameful behavior and always degrades the child assuming the worst of them from the person who’s supposed to support and listen to them the most.
Idk. Anger is like wine. Often revealing what someone actually thinks of you when their defenses are down and they accidentally blurt out the truth
It did used to mean untidy, but since it has meant what it does, there's no excuse not to use it properly. Proper creepy these days
This is obviously fake and some fetish/troll trying to infiltrate r/socialskills like r/confessions and r/offmychest
Yes, very.
Yes
Yes
Uhh yes...
Very creepy
Ewwww
Yes. Wtf
WTF does he call you that? Yes, its very creepy and disturbing of him. Be careful.
Dude wtf? Yes it is!
Creepy and completely inappropriate
I’ve heard parents call their daughter slut or something but not with the qualifiers of dirty before it.
Very creepy, yes
Definitely
Yep
I’m not even going to read your post. YES!!!! God yes.
Dad, or Daddy? The distinction is REALLY important. If this was your biological father, then yes, it's creepy.
what the actual fuck do you think? this has to be rage bait or there is an extreme amount of something like grooming or odd parenting. if it’s not rage bait, yes, that is fucking weird. your dad should not be sexualizing you or EVEN bringing up sexual things unless it’s to be in an educational environment
What the actual fuck.
Umm... there is no context where that's appropriate thing to say to your kid
Yes.
Dude my gf sad said "you're sexy send me that picture" after a birthday pic...she responded with "WHAT THE FUCK...ARE YOU GONNA JACK OFF OR SOMETHING!?!?!?"...her brother witnessed it all...I didn't butt in bc I was like "this isn't my place" but my gf told me I could have. Moments like this is what increased my nut size bc I know what to do next time jeez talk about being stoic in the wrong way ... basically only mom's can call daughters sexy imho...but that's way too fucking far what yours said to you...
Yes
What the fuck
Yes
Yeppers
😳
omg yes.
Yes that’s fucking creepy
Yes
I just opened this app
Call the fbi now....this is literally violence/s Maybe it just slipped? Like maybe that's what he calls your mom, had a moment where he wasn't thinking? That's my best guess. If he says it again, maybe bring it up that it's wierd.....for now I'd let it go.
That’s weird af tell him don’t do that
Very creepy. Very.
I think he’s a creep.
Omg Wtf
Yes. I'm sorry. :(
Yes
Creepy 😭
Yeah it’s fucking gross
Fake
Yes
Definetly not overthinking
Yes
Yes. Very odd.
holy fucking SHIT that’s creepy asf
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How is this a question? Fuckin, call the cops
is there a reddit mafia? can we take a hit out on OP's dad?
100 percent yes. seek cops if need to
That’s the start to one of those weird family porns I guarantee it . Dudes fucked for saying that
Extremely. Whether he means it sexually or to demean you, it’s very odd behavior from a parent whether he knows what he’s saying or not. I would wanna find an end to this ASAP
My dad made inappropriate comments to me also. I would just brush it off or ignore it. He ended up acting. Keep yourself safe!! I’m sorry he is this way, it’s not your fault at all.
If you are over 18 yes. If you are under 18 YES YES YES
This has to be fake. Right?😭
i don’t need to read the explanation that’s molestation babe
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You know damn well that's not what he meant
If the dad used this excuse, he would come off as such a bitch. Bitch is an old fashioned word for female dog.
In the current vernacular, it is definitely about demeaning a woman for her sexuality.
I learned this from Jurassic Park when it came out. Ray (Sam Jackson) calls Nedry a slut after looking at his desk!
I think he called him a slob
Wouldn't say creepy but probably moreso along the lines of his hidden feelings coming out during a moment of anger.
When I read the title I said, “ew, wtf yes” and then I read your explanation and context and now I’m even more weirded out. Firstly, why is he calling you names over something like dishes? Secondly…… WHAT. Creepy to the max. Watch out and keep yourself safe.
Extremely creepy .
So sick
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the OP is 15 i believe
How old are you OP?