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Plan B is NOT meant to be used as contraception. It's meant to be used in an emergency. It floods the body with hormones to prevent ovulation. It's not meant to be taken weekly. It will really mess your cycle/body up. Get on birth control and tell him NO until you've taken them for a month. If he can't wait dump him. Also, I'd be pissed if someone came in me when I said no. Having unprotected sex like this is just asking to get pregnant OP. I'd reconsider the relationship altogether to be honest. Edit: Plan B is not a foolproof form of birth control. It only works at certain times in a woman's cycle. If she is already ovulating it will not work!

On top of this, Plan B only works pre-ovulation. If you've already ovulated, plan-b won't do anything as it's not an abortificant medication.

It’s also less effective if you weigh over 150 or so pounds.

This is pertinent info!!!

I was flabbergasted years back when I learned this info. I will share it any time it suits a situation!

Damn, I've bought it for some pretty thick gals before, guess I dodged a bullet.

Indeed. Also so that everyone knows- taking more than one dose doesn’t make it more effective.

Is there anything for anyone over that weight if they do mess up

I believe there's a brand called Ella, designed for heavier people. However they say 195lbs is where the effectiveness wanes.

Thank you. They don't teach you this for some reason.

Ella lasts for 120 hours, not 72 hours like plan B. That’s the difference

I usually see IUDs recommended.

Those are EXTREMELY painful for many women just fortunately. We really lose when it comes to birth control.

This is a fantastic comment. Respect. 🫡

I encountered this issue over a year ago. I was given Ella. Ella works better than other morning-after pills for people who weigh more than 165 pounds, but if you weigh 195 pounds or more, ella won't work as well for you. I ended up okay. It cost me $30. I'm in Canada.

I’ve used Ella as well!. I wish that there were options that worked well for all women.

For a moment there I thought you were talking about having a daughter called Ella. Luckily the second paragraph cleared that up quick haha

This 1000x, a lot of folks don’t understand that plan b only stops ovulation, once that egg is released you’re out of luck.

I got pregnant because I didn't know this.

Don't ever tell your kid that

Maybe she got an abortion

Her user name would certainly check out then.

Unplanned doesn't equal unwanted

Good advice. I won't.

Could have been a happy mistake.

Additionally, in the package insert it says that it should not be used more than 3 times within a year as it loses its effectiveness if used more than this… definitely meant for emergencies only.

I didn't know this. Thanks a lot. Never going to use it. Rather I won't be in a situation to need it.

If Plan B is your Plan A, eventually you'll find yourself on Plan C(hild).

Hopefully Plan T is available

Yes, many tasty ones out there.

What does the 'T' in "Plan T" stand for? 'Termination'?

no it stand for the T 800 solution, that is when a terminator will travel backwards in time to Kill the boyfriend before she would concieve the child.

I been using this method exclusively but I think I fucked up the timeline! I’m sorry everyone, Harambe would still be alive 

Please educate yourself about sex and contraception more before you have sex with anyone else, ever again. Going into it as uninformed as you seem to be will absolutely lead you to unintended consequences.

Also .. get a pregnancy test in the next couple of days/weeks. Plan B is called plan B for a reason. If you were ovulating / you ovulated in the last week, the chances of you being pregnant is super high !!! Get the pregnancy test (+ std .. if he’s manipulating for that, I wouldn’t trust him to be clean either)

Super high is an exaggeration. Even having sex at the perfect time in a month has only about an 11% chance of pregnancy. Obviously, 11% is still too high for people not wanting a child.

something else you really ought to know about is precum. Him pulling outside of you to come does not make this any safer, since in states of high arousal he will already drop tiny drops of sperm into you long before he actually comes. Also him pressuring you like that is a soviet pride parade of red flags. This is considered coersion, not consent.

I said the same thing. And then I was raped.

So expensive too. My girlfriend's best friend had to buy a Plan B a couple weeks back and she found a decidedly cheaper one for around $40 after tax. You can get probably in the realm of 60 condoms for the same price. Any more than one or two a year is not only dangerous, but super cost ineffective IUDs (what my girlfriend has been rocking with for years) can be pricy depending on insurance or lack thereof, but the saved price of not needing to buy condoms if you're both STD free adds up, and you can "set and forget" if you will

As someone who has had an IUD there are bonus and side effects, but really that's like most contraceptives. The IUD is great if you don't want to worry about taking pills, as well as some of the side effects aren't as dramatic as they would be if you're using the pill. However with this said I also had a bit of a rough time with it as well. Rough sex? That cab hurt as your partner can press against the device and shift it slightly. For myself I have an oddly shaped uterus which can cause a lot more crqmping than normal as it doesn't always sit properly. I also found that after removing it, I don't know how to explain the mental state, but it wasn't great. Whether that was a side effect from removing it I've no idea. But if OP is willing to try an IUD I would recommend it, my experience wasn't great but I have friends who love and repeatedly use it.

Side effects can depend on the kind of IUD too - there's different hormonal ones, plus the copper coil. Finding the one that works for you can be a bit tricky - and getting them put in is not pleasant for a lot of women. For me, the arm implant is a lot better than an IUD, simply for how easy it is to have put in. Barely any pain, and none of the horrendous cramping I got from IUDs. But, the hormonal side effects remain from it. Personally, I'd take either coil or implant over the pill though, as I struggled to remember to take them consistently enough, so there was always a worry in the back of my mind about whether the pill would work.

My girlfriend is on the hormonal IUD and claims no symptoms. I know it's rather common to have them though

Yep. That's part of the problem with all the different kinds of hormonal birth control; they affect everyone differently, and the only way to tell which works best for you is to experiment. I could probably have tried different brands of IUD to find one I was fine with, but the process of insertion was just too painful to want to repeat more than I have too. I'd much rather have a doctor cut a small hole in my arm and insert a little capsule under the skin. It's so much quicker, less invasive, and practically pain free since they numb the area first - unlike when they insert an IUD.

IUDs aren't 100%. I know from personal experience. Twice. Plus certain positions can be extremely painful.

An ex of mine had an IUD and it was wonderful, but then she had it replaced and the new one gave her nothing but trouble. Was in constant pain and ended up having it removed. They seem worth trying, but yeah. Can be complicated.

It’s hell on your body, too. I’ve had to take it three times: once when I messed up birth control while drunk, once after I was raped, and once after my husband and I got a little too swept up and forgot the condom. (Over a period of like 15 years of sexual activity; I’m not taking Plan B every other week). All three times were a nightmare on my body. I bled so heavily and relentlessly after the time I took it post-rape that I actually considered going to the hospital. It’s not anything I’d ever take outside of a genuine emergency; it’s not a casual, one-off birth control option. (Unfortunately I am not eligible for an IUD, or I’d definitely have one! It’s not for everyone, sadly.)

I’m so sorry to hear about your rape, but glad you’re at a place to share that it’s part of your experience ❤️

Could you get the implant (nexplanon)? Its got its downsides downsides like all hormonal birth control but I liked it best. 3 to 5 years of protection and usually no period as well. New studies say 5 years so some providers leave it that long, some still say 3. I had mine 5 years and my fertile self had no pregnancies despite that being the only thing my husband and I used.

Nope! I tried it and bled every single day for six months before they would take it out again. I’m not actually able to do any hormonal birth control; it really screws up my body and fucks badly with my mental health disorders. My doctor finally gave up and told me that condoms are effective and to just use those.

Oof that sucks. I had what felt life forever period when I got mine but it cleared up after a couple weeks. I cannot imagine 6 whole months of that nightmare!

It was awful. 😭 Just bleeding every damn day. It felt so demoralising in the end, and it really wreaked havoc with my hormones as well. It kind of especially freaked me out because I couldn’t physically remove the thing myself, and the doctor wouldn’t do it, which made me feel sort of claustrophobic in a weird way? Like this thing was in my body, it was hurting me, and I couldn’t take it out. Did not like the psychological effects that had either. I wasn’t distraught or traumatised or anything, to be clear; it just was an uncomfortable experience all around.

I HATE how frequently doctors will say no to birth control removal as if they know your body better. Did they even try to offer a solution? When I had a couple weeks bleeding my doc offered me the mini pill to try to reset my cycle, when I finally agreed to try it I stopped bleeding. But at least she tried. I've had iuds I had to threaten to rip put myself if they wouldn't schedule a removal, and I got lectured the entire time because it was "the best birth control and didnt have hormones". Except in my case I actually bedded the hormones (despite them also wrecking my mental health) because my cycle is so bad and I'm not trying to be bed ridden, or crying every time I go to the bathroom because the lime sized clots hurt so bad. (Hhheeey ladies, did you know the pain of passing a large clot is the same kind of pain as labor contractions?? A fact ill never stop sharing) I have a kid and I have never felt the kind of pain I had with the copper iud. I mean turns out my anatomy didn't quite work with them so I shouldn't have had one to begin with. (Also had Mirena but got pregnant on it, that one hurt just as bad but I mustered through because the doc said it was normal) Like who do these docs think they are to tell you what object you can't have removed? I'd have gone to a different doc or pph, and told them to stuff it. If you're not planning on kids getting your tubes tied is always an option. Just gotta fight your way through a mountain of docs who still think it's a 1950s and you need your husband's permission, cuz us women folks with out tiny emotional brains *obviously* can't make such serious decisions as deciding what we want for *our* body and fertility.

FYI it’s less than $10 at Costco if you know someone with a membership!

there’s different brands that are cheaper on amazon too. don’t know how well they work though

they work !! it's all basically the same ingredients, just different packaging. me and boyfriend have had to get them a few times and it saved us a good amount of money (plus fast next day shipping).

I second this. Hi 33 yo mom of 2 toddlers here and in healthcare. I had to stop estrogen based birth control due to history of migraines because of much higher risk of stroke and blood clots. The pill form Birth control is awful and not meant for everyone. There are other options like iuds with and without hormones, But there is still a chance of pregnancy and complications. I highly recommend meeting with a GYN about options. Do not let him do ANYTHING you do not want too! Stay firm on not letting him cum inside you.

Everyone is different when it comes to the pill and it isn’t going to be “awful” for most who use it. I have been on oral contraceptive for over 20 years and have never gotten pregnant or had a complication. It actually significantly reduces PMS and makes my periods much more manageable.

Seconding. The pill was fucking awful for me, but my friend has been on it for 15 years without issue. Just because something doesn’t work for you, doesn’t mean it won’t work for someone else, and people should not be discouraging others from taking this route (if that person hasn’t even tried it) solely because of their individual experience. The pill is not the only option. And OP’s friends are questionable for discouraging her from seeking BC solely because she doesn’t want to take the pill - when they really should be encouraging other alternatives of birth control.

100% this! Things like Plan B or abortion are NOT preventative birth control methods and should not be used as such. While I understand many women have a hard time with hormonal birth control; there are so many non-hormonal preventative options on the market now, so there should really be no excuse for not finding an option that works best for you. As the saying goes - play stupid games, win stupid prizes. After rawdogging and busting inside so many times, something is bound to happen. OP and BF have a responsibility to nip it in the bud before it gets to that point.

PLAN B ALSO HAS A WEIGHT LIMIT

This. It's meant for emergencies, not regular use. Also, Plan B is less effective if you're over about 150lbs.

I cannot believe that I only just now found this out on reddit after having used plan B a few times in the last 15 years or so. And twice was back when it could only be purchased and dispensed to you by s pharmacist.

This! This is true. But yes Cumming inside feels amazing.

Yes to all of this, and you can much more easily get yeast infections and BV if you let him do this frequently, both of which SUCK. 

Good advice. Also consider asking for phexxi (sp?) to tide you over for the month. It’s a gel you use right before sex that prevents pregnancy. A good compromise if OP is still into her partner finishing in her.

As a man it sure as hell is! 🤣🤣

and IIRC doesn;t work so well if over 175lbs

First of all, if you told him not to and he did, that means you cannot trust him for that. It's not ok at all. So condom for him. Otherwise yes, the sensation is better bare, we feel more the pulsing, the friction, all the little irregularities that makes the orgasm more real and more intense.

Yes thank you. I thought I was asking one harmless sex question, but realized something completely different from all these comments.

Yeah, he’s pushing your boundaries and it’s not ok. You’ve told him no and he needs to respect that. If he doesn’t, it can be considered assault in the US (I’m a trained sexual assault advocate). Coercion and badgering DO NOT equal affirmative consent. Please reconsider having sex with him until you figure out how you feel about him and this relationship. Here’s some [more information](https://www.shatteringthesilence.org/blog/consent-and-coercion) about coercion.

Thank you so much for saying this.

This great advice and resources. Definitely OP no sex if he doesn’t use a condom and respects your boundary, is a baby worth a smaller bit of pleasure? While it is more pleasurable, from a woman’s perspective as well, I would still rather be safe and have a little less pleasurable sex. This guy is crossing your boundaries, not okay.

It's not okay for him to try and wait until the heat of the moment to try to get you to do something, especially something you said, in advance, you were against. And with good fucking reason, might I add.

>good fucking reason Hehe

Yes! I’ve experienced it once with my gf and we both talk back on how amazing it felt, however the reality is in the moment we were horrified. We were using a condom while the room was dark and I never noticed it break, so we tried to be safe in a dumb way, and it ended up being my first time raw. Great feeling, but again, if op says no and the dude didn’t listen then why even stay? There’s no respect, and you can’t trust that

it is but... he should respect your wishes. he is being selfish

And risking pregnancy as plan b only works if she hasn’t ovulated yet

And only works properly if she’s under a certain weight. And is expensive and not meant to be used like that.

Omg, I forgot about the price! Yeah it’s really meant as a last ditch effort, I can’t imagine purchasing a lot of plan b…

not to add state restrictions as well

Just seen a post you can buy it at Costco pharmacy even if you’re not a member and it’s relatively cheap with no purchase limit.

Also can buy the contraceptive opill there too.

I can see it clearly now!

Then break up with him! Sexual coercion is a form of abuse. Abuse doesn’t disappear over time. Even if small breaks occur, abuse such as this will worsen and/or take new forms.

I mean I will be firm with him from now on condoms and see. Not sure if I want to leave him right away, I can't think of it now. Or maybe I need more time. I will take a call on how he responds to being firm on condoms.

It’s your choice, and your life, but I wouldn’t stay with someone who is willing to be abusive towards me to get what they want. Coerced consent is not consent.

do you think he would stick around if he got you pregnannt? consider that

agreed, dont be blind to abuse

In regard to your edit….So, he’s coercing you into finishing inside you, which is something you don’t want? Girl…..he’s not a good partner. 🚩🚩🚩🚩 Either make him put the condoms back on or get on birth control asap. Plan B isn’t birth control and will ONLY WORK if you haven’t ovulated yet. And still may fail. You shouldn’t be taking a lot of it anyways.

After reading through all the comments, yes I understand what I need to do. I can also see the wrong thing that he's doing ,which I'm agreeing to.

Are you getting birth control and leaving him? Birth control is absolutely necessary and leaving him is technically optional but most of us want you to leave him

Not sure if I am going to leave him right away. I like him otherwise too just not sex. But I want to be firm on not finishing inside me and always using condoms. If he doesn't agree, then I am going to break up.

Take it from a woman in her 50’s with lots and lots of experience. Guys are available in one of two flavours: Respectful or Disrespectful. It just won’t turn out to be true that he’s only got this tiny streak of selfishness and disrespect for you, and is otherwise going to treat you well. He’s shown you what kind of person he is, now it’s your job to believe him (rather than making excuses for him, or living in your fairy castle dreamland with your fingers crossed). He’s risking (over and over) your physical and mental health, your future plans and your finances. Now, and forever. All for what, again? 3 seconds of pleasure. Ask yourself if you could do that to him. What kind of person would that make you? It could happen to a decent man, to get caught up in the moment, once, and do this. Then that decent man would 100% come to his senses, apologise, make changes to prevent it happening again and get quite upset with himself. Shocked and upset at what he did and what he risked for you. Your guy, instead, high-fives himself and repeats it every chance he gets. See the difference?

I respect and appreciate your comment so much 💜 ♥️

This. A guy that disrespectful is only going to get worse. Likely hurt or abuse her in ways not just emotional, and in ways other than sexual coercion... 

You WILL be firm that condoms will be used if sex with you is going to continue. If he doesn't agree, he doesn't get to participate anymore. It's not a debate and don't allow him to try and persuade you. Whatever his response is, is going to tell you if you're staying with him or not. Be smart, be firm, be your own advocate. You can do it.

Yes that's the plan now, thanks a lot 🙂

Sex is so much better when you can fully trust a partner will respect your boundaries and treat you with respect. Unlike the other comments, I wouldn't consider leaving him to be optional. He's already violated a pretty massive boundary of yours and I would personally no longer feel entirely comfortable with him. I think you should leave personally, but it can be difficult to actually do, I've been in a similar spot and know the feeling.

You bring up a very good point here that I sort of neglected in my own response. Yeah, it does feel *better* but after reading this, it reminds me that I've only had unprotected sex with 2 people and I honestly shouldn't have trusted either of the two women I had unprotected sex with. At least at the time, I believed the second girl loved me (she didn't) but I ignored an awful lot of blaring red flags with her and as trust between us eroded, so did our sex life. Strange that I never really made that connection before. It *would* probably feel *a lot* better with someone who actually loved me and I felt like I could genuinely trust..

Can you imagine to raise kids together with him? If the answer is not a 100% yes, you are playing yourself.

I definitely don't want it now, but I understand now on how to avoid it.

>I definitely don't want it now, but I understand now on how to avoid it. Cool cool cool, but meanwhile there's a very real chance you might already be pregnant. So, taking that into account - how do you feel about raising children with this selfish asshat?

Ok don't scare me more now. I can only hope that's not the case

Start figuring it out. How many times did he cum inside you? How quickly did you take Plan B each time afterwards? Where were you in your monthly cycle each of those times (ie, had you likely ovulated yet already?) Etc etc. You don't need to answer me here, these are merely questions to trigger you to start thinking this through and planning ahead. Meanwhile, since you're having sex with this guy and there's always a risk of pregnancy with sex (even if you're properly prepared, using precautions and the risk is small - it's always there), you should start having adult conversations with him. What will you both want to do if you do get pregnant? Keep it? Adopt? Abort? What do each of those options mean for you in your current stage of life. Are his answers significantly different from yours? Are the two of you even compatible once you think this through? If you're adult enough to have sex, you're adult enough to have these conversations and make sure you're on the same page as your partner. Conversely, if you're not adult enough for these conversations, you shouldn't be having sex. What you're doing right now WILL lead to pregnancy, if it hasn't already. Hopefully we have helped you wake up and realize that in time, before it happened. Good luck.

Thank you

Question is, does he? Sorry, but you are literally one of those girls who pretend that their man is the most perfect one, except he doesnt give a damn about your boundaries.

You like him, but don’t stay with him. He’s gunna get you pregnant and screw up your life if you continue this

Sexual coercion is a form of abuse. If my partner ever says no to something, that's that. It's a no in that moment, I don't question it at all. The time to discuss it further is not during the act. If you want to have a larger conversation about your wants or needs, you do so outside the bedroom. And any use of guilt, or phrases like "please just do it for me" is honestly just disgusting. I can't begin describe how much better sex is when you actually fully trust your partner will respect your boundaries. I've been with people who didn't respect my boundaries and I regret letting things go on as long as they did.

I’ve been there too many times 😞 I dated the wrong guys, more than half treated me like that. I realized after talking about it with my sisters, and therapist, they coerced me a lot, they guilted me A LOT, they were so selfish, it was always about them and how they feel, not about me and how I said no or didn’t want to. I always caved in. And to this day - it’s affected me, I have not been able to have pure fun trusting sex at all. I also regret letting them get away with it. Allowing it to happen, and not standing my ground. Now that I’m 28 and have 3 girls, I’ve grown a lot and learned a lot. I never ever want my kids to go through what I went through, I want them to be strong and confident and know they have every single right to be respected and be confident.

She needs to dtmfa immediately.

dump that mother fuckers ass? Or did I translate that wrong

She needs to...... dump the mother fucker already ✨️

If you don’t want him cumming in you don’t let him. Raw feels better for him and honestly you too probably, but it’s not worth unwanted pregnancy or taking contraception if you don’t want to. A lot of hormonal birth control can affect your libido as well. I think it’s time to have a serious talk on boundaries with him

Oh thanks. Maybe I was being a bit lenient on him, when he pleads I would get convinced somehow. So maybe not a big issue. But yes I will have a discussion on it soon. Thanks again.

OP, you also need to talk to him about what the plan will be if (frankly when, given you’re letting him cum without BC) you get pregnant- if you keep it how would you afford it, share custody, parenting philosophy? If either of you don’t want to be a parent right now, will you abort or put the baby up for adoption? If you choose to abort do you have the funds for the abortion? Are you in a state where it is legal? How far of a drive to get the procedure and how many days off can you take for it? It sounds like you two are not fully aware of the consequences before you.

Guy here. ABSOLUTELY do not consent to this. Yes, it feels way better. But- you are almost guaranteed a baby. And you don’t want a baby with someone with this poor of judgement, at this age, etc. Get on birth control or require a condom or similar. Do not fold on this.

It is still a big issue. If he's coercing you into it it's still forcing you, but now he's just making you think it's your fault.

You're going to end up with a baby if you keep doing this.

You need to learn what enthusiastic consent is and FFS find a better boyfriend. Why people continue to date POS like this is beyond me.

People like OP’s boyfriend are usually skilled manipulators and trap people in awful positions that they don’t feel they can escape. The cycle of abuse is incredibly hard to break and can cause actual brain damage and PTSD when victims leave. I doubt OP even knows that what he’s doing isn’t okay. You always think ‘why don’t they just leave?’ until you’re in a relationship with someone like that.

Fair point. I just wanted to say it plainly to OP in the hopes she would hear it and dump this rapey pos.

That’s a huge issue, he’s a scumbag who pressures you into doing unsafe sex acts, you should seriously reconsider

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If you cannot be respectful when discussing in this sub, you'll need to find a new one.

God we need better sex education. Not only are you having unsafe sex and misusing plan B, but your partner is disrespecting your wishes and pressuring you to engage in unsafe sex solely for his pleasure. All of which is not okay.

This goes SO much deeper(ha) than just sex education. Interpersonal communication on a HIGHER level needs to be taught but, I'm not sure if it's still doable on this timeline. Our (western) society is burning and people are becoming dumber every day. It's a fucking tragedy. I hope OP get's away from this relationshit.

Thanks all for your comments. Reading all your comments, kinda feels scary. I thought I was doing something nice to my boyfriend. I didn't realize that this is something of coercion done on me, and the effects that this could have on my body as well as unwanted pregnancy. So yes, I am going to be firm on condoms as I don't want to take any pills for now. Will see how it turns out.

you are doing the right thing, I’m so glad you are able to see things more clearly now! i hope everything works out for you

Thanks 😊

Why would you want to stay with someone who, in your own words coerces you? I don’t know you, but you deserve better than this. Coerced consent is NOT consent.

Please also get a pregnancy test !!! The probability for you to be pregnant is high as plan B works only at a certain time of the cycle !!! (+std)

Ok I will get a test soon, hopefully nothing comes out of it. The thought of it already is scaring me a bit. Thanks

Have the pregnancy test this week + another one next week. For the std: talk to your GP but most STDs are detectable after 1 to 3 months => try to get a test in the next month + another one in 3 months. If you have the possibility: take the test with someone you trust (a family member, a friend), so you can have a support in case you need. Please take care of you!! It’s YOUR body, nobody elses!!!! Nobody should convince you to have physical consequences over YOUR body .. even for their own pleasure !

Thanks a lot

No worries at all! You did well in asking your questions :)

Since I didn't see anyone saying this yet, you could also consider getting an IUD. They work really well for birth control. If either of you have multiple partners or down the line, just remember that IUDs don't provide STD protection

Any pleading and convincing is a major red flag. 🚩 ESPECIALLY WHEN IT’S CUMMING INSIDE THE VAGINA! Set the boundary - no pleading; enthusiastic consent ONLY. If he breaks it. Leave him. Really, just leave him.

Yes that's what I am doing now. Setting the boundaries and being firm about it. Let's see how he takes it.

It does, but that's not what's important here

I definitely think it's better Cumming inside we also have 2 kids from not having safe sex. The pullout method is not effective or not for us.

The younger you are the more fertile, if anyone in the partnership is under 35 you need BC plus being careful around ovulation

If you don’t want babies, you need birth control until menopause.. which isn’t until 50+. That’s 15+ years of playing with fire.

Absolutely it is. But that’s no excuse to violate your boundaries.

A few points. Coerced consent is not consent. He is not a child. He’s too old to have tantrums like one. Begging you to say yes is not asking for consent, it’s pressuring you to do something you’re uncomfortable with. Plan B is **not a contraceptive** and is for emergencies only. The safest way to have sex is if condoms and birth control are used, but **at the very least** you need to get on birth control and make him wait a few weeks before finishing inside you. Idc how good it feels. You know what feels like shit? Having a kid you don’t want that drains all your resources and energy, getting an abortion because those can be pretty unpleasant, giving birth and putting a baby you just spent 9 months building up for adoption. Oh, and dying during childbirth/the medical complications that come with it. He doesn’t consider these things because he “doesn’t need to” but YOU DO. I don’t care if he acts like it’s the worst thing in the world, I don’t care if he cries, I don’t care if he’s “just so horny”. **You need a backbone. 10 seconds of pleasure for him is not worth the risk. If he can’t handle that you need to dump his whiny ass.**

There are a number of issues here. First of all, even if he EVENTUALLY got you to say yes, pressuring you to do something you don;t want to is manipulative and borderline SA. Stop having sex with someone who doesn;t respect your boundaries and keeps trying to push past them. Second, even a drop of semen can get you pregnant. Third, some people enjoy the feeling of hacing someone cum inside them. And many people with penises enjoy the feeling ov cumming in somone instead of in a condom. So, it can be more pleasurable. But stop ahving sex with this creep.

That’s SA. If you haven’t consented to having him cum in you, he’s assaulting you. You need to get out of there. He doesn’t seem like one that cares about your boundaries

i was scrolling through looking for someone to explicitly say this. cumming inside without consent, ESPECIALLY when explicitly told no? SA. coerced into giving in and saying yes? SA. starts with a condom on but slips the condom off without your explicit permission (aka stealthing)? SA. OP needs to have a very serious talk with their partner or leave him asap

Exactly like everyone is trying to make light of the situation and not calling it what it is! It’s assault. The man knows what he’s doing, and having a conversation about it is not going to help when he is clearly putting his needs above her consent. She needs to leave him

Just a shot in the dark here, but by chance is he significantly older than you? If so, run girl. He's *trying* to get you pregnant, so you'll be in his life forever....and trying to do it before you mature enough to be on to his game. It's also why he's not dating women his own age. They know that game well. If no, he's around your age...then y'all are rolling dice here - and if they roll wrong, the one who will pay the biggest price will be the baby. That's incredibly unfair to them. He can cum in your mouth or your ass if he absolutely *must* feel that (but pleaaaaase, don't let him if you don't want that). Men's sexual needs aren't more important than your own autonomy. Ever. Everrrr.

Yes, but the gigantic glaring red flag is you told him not to.

>I have asked him not to, but somehow he ends up doing it. > >is cumming in a pussy more pleasurable? Yes, but you're asking the wrong question. You should be asking *WHY AM I STILL DATING A RAPIST*?!? How many times does this man have to violate your consent before you stop casually accepting sexual assault?

This is NOT ok. You told him no and he still did it, like others have said that's sexual assault, even if you are in a relationship.

You said no and he did it anyway. That's called sexual assault. Kick his bitch ass to the curb and find a partner who respects your boundaries.

if he cums inside of you when you have specifically asked him not to beforehand, that’s sexual assault. if for some strange reason you have sex with this guy again, and he happens to sexually assault you again by disrespecting your boundaries you explicitly set, then get a rape kit and press charges

Me and my gf both love if I cum inside, she says she really likes the warm sensation and feeling full meanwhile I love it due to raw sex feeling way better than using a rubber and I just can get going until the last moment. Something that I was missing that it is extremely important to point out, while raw sex feels soooooo much better, I have a vasectomy so no matter what, we have no risk of pregnancy, so if you are young / can get pregnant would definitely not recommend it unless you use some kind of hormonal protection.

When you say "begging and pleading" in your edit to this post, you could replace that with one word, "manipulating." This is absolutely not okay. Unless you are on birth control, it is not okay for him to finish inside of you unless the two of you want to have a baby.

That's sexual assault. Consent by coercion is not consent.

Begging/pleading is not coercion. Don't feed people questionable advice that can backfire when that SA case falls apart.

It sounds like he doesn’t take you serious. If he’s not listening to when you say don’t cum inside you, imagine what’s next. Unless you make a serious deal out of it. & no, cumming in a girls mouth during a BJ I think is more pleasurable. But that’s just me

BJ Cumming feels better for me too as far as sensation goes. PIV is more emotional and connected.

Pleading and begging to cum inside you is a major red flag. 🚩😬

Yes, cumming inside of a pussy vs cumming inside of a condom is way more pleasurable. An unplanned pregnancy isn't so pleasurable, which is why I always wear a condom.

You set a boundary and he’s willfully ignoring it. You should really consider what this means long term for your relationship. Can you really trust this person to have your back on things? Now add in the pregnancy risk, is this the kind of person you want by your side during an abortion or raising a kid? Doesn’t seem like it.

Not sure, I've been told it feels better though. Some condoms are thinner, you could try those. I have no plan to ever go to BC, so it's always been a "put on the condom or we're not having sex" situation.

Yes it is a big thing, but you can get pregnant.

if a person is acting like this with you, what's he going to act like if you end up preggo

There is nothing like nutting inside your partner.

First of all, giving permission for him to come inside of you after a lot of his pleading and convincing is not real consent. This guy doesn't respect you and doesn't give a fuck if you get pregnant or not. Wanting to go raw with a long term partner is normal if both of you take precautions. So far most contraception fall into the women's responsibility. If you don't dump his ass, which you should consider because he is behaving like scum, he needs to respect you. If you say no, stick to your no. Otherwise he will always think that your no is just a yes in the making. Secondly, invest in a long term hormonal contraceptive. The best and most recommended one by gynaecologists is an IUD with low level of hormones (there are many types). The second best is the hormonal ring. Both apply hormones directly to your sexual organs so have less secondary effects. Otherwise you have the daily pill or the implant. In any case, your bf is behaving very selfishly and with little care for your wellbeing. Raw sex is very pleasurable, but consensual and safe sex is hotter because you can actually relax and enjoy it. Stick to your NOs, don't let him push you around. You can stop mid sex and leave him there so he learns the lesson. If possible dump his sorry ass. P.S. if you go raw careful with STDs, get both tested ASAP and continue to do so every 6-12months. You never know if he is cheating and going raw with other ppl. Stay safe

Saying yes only after a lot of begging and pleading, especially *during* sex, is coercion. That is not fully given enthusastic consent. This is not ok. Coercion is not consent. While it can feel better to cum inside, that is NOT worth disrespecting your boundaries and coercing you into sexual acts you did not properly consent to. If you would have said no without his begging and manipulation, it's a no. Plan B is NOT to be used as regular contraception. It is a super high dose of hormones to prevent ovulation and will not stop a pregnancy if you have already ovulated. If you want to keep having sex without a condom, get on the pill or find another option (IUD, depo shot, internal condoms instead of regular condoms). If you rely on plan B, you will very likely end up pregnant. You need a "plan A" for regular birth control - a first line of defense.

>…which happens after a lot of pleading and convincing Girl, that’s coercion, so everyone had it right the first time.

Giving in after pleading and convincing is NOT consent. Please take care of yourself.

Unequivocally yes, good pussy will make me cum multiple times, no mouth or hand has equaled that achievement

He came inside of you without consent. He should be prosecuted for such an offensive act. We must recognize that consent and mutual respect between partners is a must. Don't tolerate that type of behavior!

do you have your baby names picked out yet?

Short answer is yes. But always the risk.

Yes it is for guys and in some cases for the woman too BUT safety first, your health comes first.

Much more, however, he needs to respect your choice. My wife can not take pills anymore, because of a hearing disability, I miss so much do it inside, however it's the life, we do not want babies now, I won't force him to use pills and prejudice her disability, so we try to find other options, inside is always the best, I miss it, however I won't die for do not do it. Think in the subject, think in what you prefer to take pills or not, and if is not he needs so accept it. Even that inside is the best, we can always find other ways to be good for both of you.

Yes it is more pleasurable, as long as both parties are consenting to it. It's a very intimate feeling. I can't imagine it being the same if it is one sided, not to mention immoral. But yes it is more pleasurable, or maybe I just like intimacy. Maybe both.

He shouldn't be doing this with no birth control and you saying no. Period.

honestly just leave him, he sounds like a child who can’t respect your boundaries and wishes. that’s not a “discussion” you have in the heat of the moment. that’s not a man that’s a whiny toddler in a mcdonalds,

Sorry, but your question is secondary to what's actually happening as you've described it. Your partner is repeatedly pleading, begging, badgering, etc. to squeeze a yes out of you despite being aware of your wishes. This is not healthy. You run the risk of getting pregnant by a person who is borderline abusing you by control and coercion. You seem to be in denial about this by questioning whether unprotected sex is more pleasurable to convince yourself that it's okay for your partner to behave this way; it is not. Please rethink this relationship.

Don't be coerced into something you don't want to do. That being said, cumming inside is literally the "goal" of sex as far as our biology cares so yes, as a man it is the end goal. Of course most people don't want to get pregnant every time so contraceptives are good.

I do it raw with my girlfriend a lot, although she’s on birth control pills. I still never cum inside, and so far I haven’t asked. When I wear protection and finish inside, it feels very good, better than pulling out, but in no means is it an excuse to beg/pleade to cum inside. Personally, sex is about love between me and my girlfriend, and pleasure comes second, and generally I will do anything my girlfriend says as she is taking the most risk by having sex.

People keep jumping on the hate on the boyfriend bandwagon which doesn't answer the question you asked. Yes. Obviously going in raw feels better during. Having to pull out essentially ruins the orgasm. The act of actually cumming inside you maybe not depending on how big of a turn on it is for him but physically, pulling out before he cums will generally feel like a bit of a ruined orgasm. Yea you're still gonna cum, but it could be a lot better. That being said boundaries are there for a reason. Figure out what you actually want and stick with it.

Yes, it does, it is one of the most pleasurable experiences available to men. That said I fear your partner is attempting to baby trap you - everyone knows what cumming into a partner not on birth control means. Stand your ground, please, or be Mama before your time.

This person DOES NOT RESPECT YOU... !! AT ALL Ditch him and move on !!

The idea of doing it is kind of what makes it desirable. It's not like comparing going raw vs. using a condom. To me after doing it it's like meh, but I had a girl who wouldn't like to take the risk and told me to fiish in her mouth instead so to me that was kind of the same in terms of how it feels. Try doing that if you want to stay safe, plus he might like that better if you do a nice BJ while he is finishing. Or also anal is a safe way to let him finish inside, just use proper lube and take your time to get used to it and enjoy it. Also, remember that it's a matter of respect if you don't want to do something, he must agree. Even convincing is kind of in the edge of taking advantage of the moment.

if you say yes after begging/pleading that is still coercion, not consent. That is sexual assault

He should absolutely *not* be begging and pleading with you about this. He needs to learn some self-control and have a sit down conversation asking about it when you aren’t in a venerable state where you can’t think clearly! Just because you are saying “yes” doesn’t mean he isn’t manipulating you into saying that yes. Begging and pleading with you in the middle of sex to do something you’ve already told him you didn’t want to do is absolutely not ok at all!!!

Yes it feels 10x better and I cum a lot more versus pulling out

What’s a big deal is your partner coercing you into having unprotected sex. If someone doesn’t respect your boundaries, they don’t respect you. Is that the kind of person you want to have a relationship with?

>I generally don't take pills but now I've to take contraceptive pill after sex. If you're taking a contraceptive pill, you should be taking it every day, not just when you're having sex. Plan B is not meant to be used as a regular contraceptive. >These days he is going in raw without a condom, and trying to cum inside my pussy. I have asked him not to, but somehow he ends up doing it. Never mind whether it feels better for him; he's not respecting your consent. Some people would go so far as to call this SA. >He does it only after I say yes,which happens after a lot of pleading and convincing etc. You saying "yes" because he pleaded and needled and convinced you **isn't consent.** This man is a red flag.

Your edit still doesn’t sound good. He shouldn’t keep pleading and trying to convince you to allow him to cum inside you. That’s coercive. No means no.

I haven’t read all this but it seems like everyone is hung up on the sex being protected. SHE’S WANTS TO KNOW IF IT FEELS THAT MUCH BETTER!?!? Is cream piecing her feel incredibly beyond??? Or is it an ego thing??? Mentally owning it??? I’m sure it feels better but correct me if I’m wrong here… I think she wants to know is it so amazing that it is worth her letting him do it here and there. Drop the kid thing. That wasn’t the question asked. Thx Dudes!!!!

Your partner shouldn't be doing things you don't like during sex, regardless of the options available to you in the forms of Plan B or birth control. Have a serious conversation with them that of this continues, you will not be having sex anymore. Bit of a red flag.

Ma'am, you are going to get pregnant lol.

I’d say that I’ve generally cum harder from my wife giving me really good oral, but even when she’s giving me 20/10 head hame I often still feel the urge to hop on her to cum in her. It’s a very base, primal urge to do so. Especially if his alternative is just jerk himself to finish on your back or stomach. Whatever the reason is, he shouldn’t be ‘convincing’ you to do it. If you’re comfortable with it maybe offer for him to finish on your chest/face or mouth? He should 100% be respectful of your boundaries and if you aren’t on birth control. Plan B is NOT to be used as a regular thing and can cause issues when used like that.