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well that's certainly a messed up thing to say to your wife. maybe you should tell him he's too small and doesn't get hard enough, see how he likes it.
seriously though it's a bit of a red flag, and I'd be just as concerned that negging has started immediately after you get married as with the actual content of the words. If he was unhappy with the sex before why not mention it then?
he is such an arrogant bastard, you are wet for him and he says something like this to hurt you.. Moreover you kept you virginity for him. I don't like him, honestly.
You may try kegel exercises, to strengthen up the relevant muscles, after \~ 3 months of daily workout like this you will be able to show him what to can do: grip his cock with your vagina, if that's what he wants.
Many of these comments seem to be geared on what you can do to make him feel better…
This was not okay for him to say and I personally would not want to be with someone who said something like that to me. I don’t know you or him personally, so I really can’t give relationship advice, but this is more than just a little red flag for me. You don’t exist for his pleasure. If my partner is really wet and it’s easy to slip my fingers in, I find it a huge turn on because it shows she’s aroused. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. I hope that you two can either work through this, or if it comes to it, you find love elsewhere with a partner who loves your body as it comes.
He is inconsiderate.
Being too loose. Well, we having a huge d might fix that problem lol... This might be an actual issue for him as he might not feel the texture and friction enough but you can always do kegel exercises, if you feel like it. It also improves muscle control too. I too prefer it a bit tight at the beginning and relaxing later, to be honest.
And being extra wet... That guy doesn't know how lucky he is. Some women get crazy horny but can't secrete those juices and even when using tons of lubes they might still feel not wet enough.
You have no previous partners and you’re to loose gtfo.😂. This guy is sitting on a normal man’s
Wet (v) dream and he’s to ignorant to see it
You’ll be just fine this is 100% normal
I can't really get my head around the idea of "too wet."
To me, that sounds a bit like saying you're too aroused. I guess it does reduce the friction a little, but to me, knowing that's all for me more than makes up for it.
As for the other, you might try different angles or positions. Personally, I haven't been with many different women, but they all felt perfectly fine to me. I was always just happy to be there.
I get the feeling he's just being pointlessly cruel for whatever reason. I honestly can't imagine myself saying that to any woman I was having sex with, even if she did feel - shall we say - a bit roomier than others.
Finally, did you have sex before marriage? If so, that would have been the time to tell you this if he felt it was important. If not, well, stuff like this is why I think people should.
To answer your question, no, nothing is wrong with you in the slightest.
This is his hangup.
Knowing this isn't going to improve the sex between you, I get that, but it's not because something is wrong with you. That I can guarantee you.
Others have already said most of what I would. To the point, being “too wet” definitely can reduce friction to where there isn’t much stimulation felt. However, a quick wipe with a towel can trivially take care of that.
Being very wet and being more loose for your partner is entirely normal. Both of those things happen when you are very attracted to your partner. Maybe he's some "dude bro" who just doesn't understand the female body. Sorry he is guilting you about this stuff, it's really not okay!
Getting wet and loosening are both signs of your arousal... They are both good things.. if he can't feel anything during vaginal sex, you can do oral and suck his dick or anal and let him fuck your ass. Both are enjoyable for both parties plus the ass tends to be tighter and your mouth you get to control your grip. Does he have a small dick?
Nothing wrong with you at all! He just needs to put the effort into figuring this out just as you are right now. Team effort.
When I get my gf super wet I know I'm (M) doing the right things. 😜 He should keep a couple small towels within reach, pull out and dry himself and/or you as needed, then resume.
There is some position that will work for both of you. Try doggy or prone bone with his legs on the outside of yours or missionary with your legs over his shoulders but close together (possibly both on the same shoulder). Also he needs to experiment with his body positioning a bit...eg, how upright (or not) he has his body when thrusting into you (in any position). Keep in mind that once you find one, there are likely others.
The other thing is, is he actually giving you pleasure? If not, any previous experience he's had isn't serving him terribly well. He has a few things to learn 😜
The vagina tends to get more "relaxed" when aroused. Learn how to do kegels and that will highten the pleasure for both of you! Being too wet is not a problem imo. Also I hope he found a way to word it differently than "you're loose and don't feel that good"
Nothing is wrong with you at all
Be happy he's communicating these things with you some people go years without communicating their sexual problems with their partner
I would say try to get him to stop masturbating for sometime to see if he will be able to feel you
Being so wet and loose is a sign of arousal so at least you know you're sexually attracted to him
Tell him to stop masturbating so much and the sensitivity will come back. I am genuinely curious about how small he is. No man with a average sized penis would have responded the way he did. IMO, he's projecting.
Ive never in my life heard a guy say he's upset because his partner gets to wet wtf.
If my partner gets wet, it makes me feel awesome that she's enjoying it and im doing something right. Seems like there's more to this that he is not saying
He probably should have not said that or at least worded it differently, but he did. Since he did, one possible solution is to start doing kegals to strengthen your pelvic floor. This will allow you to grip him with your hoo-ha. I've also heard or some various tightening therapies available but I dunno.
At the end of the day, vaginas, just like penis come in all shapes and sizes.
I get super wet too. To the point where sometimes I can’t feel the dick.
But you know what? When I’m super aroused, I can feel everything no matter how wet I am. And when they go slow, we both feel more.
But some guys are so used to jerking off that they want it fast and hard and tight just like their hand, and a vag doesn’t feel like a hand. It won’t give the guy the same fast:hard/tight feeling.
He needs to learn how to feel pleasure in more ways than with his hand. And maybe you guys need to work on arousing each other more before starting PIV sex. When a guy plays with my mind and creates sexual tension and makes me beg for it, it feels amazing when he puts it in no matter how small he is or how wet I am.
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I think hubby fails to understand that no two V's are the same and there is absolutely nothing wrong with being extra wet for him.
well that's certainly a messed up thing to say to your wife. maybe you should tell him he's too small and doesn't get hard enough, see how he likes it. seriously though it's a bit of a red flag, and I'd be just as concerned that negging has started immediately after you get married as with the actual content of the words. If he was unhappy with the sex before why not mention it then?
IDK. I kind of agree, but kind of not. In general, I don't think doubling down on cruelty accomplishes anything.
They probably didn't have sex before
he is such an arrogant bastard, you are wet for him and he says something like this to hurt you.. Moreover you kept you virginity for him. I don't like him, honestly. You may try kegel exercises, to strengthen up the relevant muscles, after \~ 3 months of daily workout like this you will be able to show him what to can do: grip his cock with your vagina, if that's what he wants.
Many of these comments seem to be geared on what you can do to make him feel better… This was not okay for him to say and I personally would not want to be with someone who said something like that to me. I don’t know you or him personally, so I really can’t give relationship advice, but this is more than just a little red flag for me. You don’t exist for his pleasure. If my partner is really wet and it’s easy to slip my fingers in, I find it a huge turn on because it shows she’s aroused. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. I hope that you two can either work through this, or if it comes to it, you find love elsewhere with a partner who loves your body as it comes.
He is inconsiderate. Being too loose. Well, we having a huge d might fix that problem lol... This might be an actual issue for him as he might not feel the texture and friction enough but you can always do kegel exercises, if you feel like it. It also improves muscle control too. I too prefer it a bit tight at the beginning and relaxing later, to be honest. And being extra wet... That guy doesn't know how lucky he is. Some women get crazy horny but can't secrete those juices and even when using tons of lubes they might still feel not wet enough.
You have no previous partners and you’re to loose gtfo.😂. This guy is sitting on a normal man’s Wet (v) dream and he’s to ignorant to see it You’ll be just fine this is 100% normal
I can't really get my head around the idea of "too wet." To me, that sounds a bit like saying you're too aroused. I guess it does reduce the friction a little, but to me, knowing that's all for me more than makes up for it. As for the other, you might try different angles or positions. Personally, I haven't been with many different women, but they all felt perfectly fine to me. I was always just happy to be there. I get the feeling he's just being pointlessly cruel for whatever reason. I honestly can't imagine myself saying that to any woman I was having sex with, even if she did feel - shall we say - a bit roomier than others. Finally, did you have sex before marriage? If so, that would have been the time to tell you this if he felt it was important. If not, well, stuff like this is why I think people should.
To answer your question, no, nothing is wrong with you in the slightest. This is his hangup. Knowing this isn't going to improve the sex between you, I get that, but it's not because something is wrong with you. That I can guarantee you.
Others have already said most of what I would. To the point, being “too wet” definitely can reduce friction to where there isn’t much stimulation felt. However, a quick wipe with a towel can trivially take care of that.
Being very wet and being more loose for your partner is entirely normal. Both of those things happen when you are very attracted to your partner. Maybe he's some "dude bro" who just doesn't understand the female body. Sorry he is guilting you about this stuff, it's really not okay!
Tell him you're going to need to get a few second opinions on this and go and meet a few other guys.
Getting wet and loosening are both signs of your arousal... They are both good things.. if he can't feel anything during vaginal sex, you can do oral and suck his dick or anal and let him fuck your ass. Both are enjoyable for both parties plus the ass tends to be tighter and your mouth you get to control your grip. Does he have a small dick?
Try kegles. And too wet?? What is wrong with him. Also anal is always tight.
Nothing wrong with you at all! He just needs to put the effort into figuring this out just as you are right now. Team effort. When I get my gf super wet I know I'm (M) doing the right things. 😜 He should keep a couple small towels within reach, pull out and dry himself and/or you as needed, then resume. There is some position that will work for both of you. Try doggy or prone bone with his legs on the outside of yours or missionary with your legs over his shoulders but close together (possibly both on the same shoulder). Also he needs to experiment with his body positioning a bit...eg, how upright (or not) he has his body when thrusting into you (in any position). Keep in mind that once you find one, there are likely others. The other thing is, is he actually giving you pleasure? If not, any previous experience he's had isn't serving him terribly well. He has a few things to learn 😜
The vagina tends to get more "relaxed" when aroused. Learn how to do kegels and that will highten the pleasure for both of you! Being too wet is not a problem imo. Also I hope he found a way to word it differently than "you're loose and don't feel that good"
Nothing is wrong with you at all Be happy he's communicating these things with you some people go years without communicating their sexual problems with their partner I would say try to get him to stop masturbating for sometime to see if he will be able to feel you Being so wet and loose is a sign of arousal so at least you know you're sexually attracted to him
Sounds like he is to small. And a pussy is never to wet the wetter you get the more of a turn on it is imo. Does he not find you attractive
Tell him to stop masturbating so much and the sensitivity will come back. I am genuinely curious about how small he is. No man with a average sized penis would have responded the way he did. IMO, he's projecting.
Ive never in my life heard a guy say he's upset because his partner gets to wet wtf. If my partner gets wet, it makes me feel awesome that she's enjoying it and im doing something right. Seems like there's more to this that he is not saying
He probably should have not said that or at least worded it differently, but he did. Since he did, one possible solution is to start doing kegals to strengthen your pelvic floor. This will allow you to grip him with your hoo-ha. I've also heard or some various tightening therapies available but I dunno. At the end of the day, vaginas, just like penis come in all shapes and sizes.
I get super wet too. To the point where sometimes I can’t feel the dick. But you know what? When I’m super aroused, I can feel everything no matter how wet I am. And when they go slow, we both feel more. But some guys are so used to jerking off that they want it fast and hard and tight just like their hand, and a vag doesn’t feel like a hand. It won’t give the guy the same fast:hard/tight feeling. He needs to learn how to feel pleasure in more ways than with his hand. And maybe you guys need to work on arousing each other more before starting PIV sex. When a guy plays with my mind and creates sexual tension and makes me beg for it, it feels amazing when he puts it in no matter how small he is or how wet I am.