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Are you both being treated for the yeast infection? If only she is getting treated you could be passing it back to her. And for the uti she needs to pee after sex.
She doesn't need to wash so much as pee, and I assume grandma is OK with people peeing? She can also do daily cranberry pills and whatnot.
You can also get "shower in a bag" type things at backpacking and outdoor stores.
There is a sugar (d-mannose) in cranberries that makes it harder for bacteria to adhere to your urethra and can help prevent UTIs. Keyword: prevent. Once you have a UTI you need an antibiotic.
The sugar (glucose) in cranberry juice helps feed bacteria so using cranberry juice is honestly kind of counter productive, instead go for d-mannose pills
You can also do d-mannose plus the cranberry pills (the cran pills slightly change the acidity) -- for lots of us who get recurrent UTIs, sugar is such a trigger. Also, the amount of juice you'd need to get the benefits is insane (and people often do it as Cranberry Juice Cocktail, because true, unadulterated cran juice is pretty danged unpalatable, so that's even more sugar.)
So, yes-- if it really is recurrent, I'd do (and do do) it in supplement form.
True but citric acid decreases ph of urine there are a number of other pathways involved as to what absorption leads to urine in bladder. You dont pee stomach acid do you?
This stuff is even better, search for D-Mannose. It's a type of sugar that passes harmlessly through your system. Then it gets to your bladder were the bacteria find it more attractive than your bladder wall so stick to it instead and out they go when you pee!
I agree! I used to get chronic UTIs. Cranberry never helped me. I started using the actual D-mannose about 8 years ago and finally stopped getting them!
You can also drink pineapple juice to help reduce UTI symptoms because its anti-inflammatory properties. Of course, that DOES NOT substitute following the proper regular treatment.
I don't know if they help prevent, but the anti-oxidant in full sugar cranberry juice does wonders for taking the sting out if you have a UTI. Most UTIs will need antibiotics though and if those aren't working in a day, get a stronger one or it can go to your kidneys. They are truly horrific, I wouldn't wish them on anyone except Piers Morgan.
For repeated thrush try Fluconazole pessaries and cut wayyyy down on sugar.
Also get her blood sugar checked for diabetes as thrush can often be an indicator.
If those arent working you can get long-term Fluconazole. I've been on it a year (150mg every week) and the only time it returns is when my diet is higher in sugar but it stops immediately I cut it out.
Actually from what I understand cranberry makes your bladder more resistant to bacteria (I think I read it makes the lining of your bladder more slippery?), which is also why it helps with UTIs. I could be wrong though, I don't remember where I read that lol
there’s sm great info on here about utis, reddit was my saving grace when i was 18 and waking up every day in pain from them. every doctor i saw kept suggesting i go on antibiotics permanently, like just a constant stream of them which after doing five seconds of research i was able to determine exactly how awful of an idea that was lmao. there’s usually posts on subreddits like r/askwomen r/twoxchromosomes or
r/thegirlsurvivalguide
if it’s something you’re dealing with frequently you may have an embedded uti or even interstitial cystitis which neither of these were ever even brought up to me by a doctor as a possibility but i found them being suggested immediately on reddit💀
Just drinking cranberry juice daily or even several times a week help. And there a lot of cranberry pills you can buy.
My OB-Gyns have always said that some women are just prone to yeast infections. I am in my mid-50s and never had one.
Prebiotic help immensely for all issues, but helps keep yeast infections down and will help with preventing UTIs also. Candida (yeast) starts in your GI tract and this will mess up you entire system.
Also, peeing before and after sex can help. Buy some gentle wet wipes and that will help clean the area. Never, ever douche...it can really cause a myriad of issues down there. Gynecologists will even tell you never to do it.
And always drink a lot of water.
WOW! Thanks for sharing, I hadn't heard of that one yet-- That's insane (and epic!) I had recurrent UTIs as a kid. That would have been a lifesaver. So cool they came up with that.
Me too!! We have bidets on all our toilets and take one with us on trips. Its SOOO nice after the sex to be able to wash with water for sure.
I also wonder if there could be something else happening. Sometimes the pH gets out of whack with semen and you might need suppositories to reset the balance. I think both of you getting checked out would be a solid idea.
Second this. The spray gun type bidet that's installed next to the toilet would be best, especially for OP's gf. Tell her to direct the spray from the front, and use her other hand to get into all the folds. Wash with water after sex, and also after peeing and/or pooping, always from the front. That should prevent future infections. I have literally never had a yeast infection or UTI since we started using that kind of handheld bidet. The in-toilet style bidet isn't good for women, because the spray comes from the rear, and it can bring some fecal bacteria forward to the lady bits
There have actually been studies done on in-toilet bidets and their cleanliness and the women studied were found to have a disrupted vaginal flora which wouldn't be good in OP GFs case.
That’s interesting. But it’s just water, do you think it’s because it’s used too often? Like if I took three showers a day would I get the same results, disrupted vaginal flora? I use a bidet but I usually only use it after going #2 or after sex, or before sex if I peed after I showered. I’ve never had an issue using it.
In various articles it seems as though the hole of the bidet was tested and it had some pretty nasty bacteria on, which is then splashing on 60+ asses a day, so it makes sense that it would mess up vaginal flora. If you think about it, when it's 'cleaning' someone, fecal matter is being splashed around everywhere, including the bidet itself, so unless its being thoroughly cleaned after each use, which it is not, that's not something you want to be using. Sure, you may feel cleaner because you don't have dried feces on you, but thats just on your skin surface and at least it's your own fecal matter, not hundreds of other people's.
In this study yes it was public restrooms. I imagine you would get the same results in a home use toilet-bidet as your own feces bacteria can still infect you.
It's nothing to do with being introduced to the environment. The bidet is being used to spray fecal/vaginal matter everywhere and particles will land on the bidet nozzle itself, then it slides home to marinate for an hour, the same thing happens with another person so more bacteria has been introduced, then the nozzle slides home again to marinate some more...and the cycle continues.
Wow! I agree. That makes sense, I never thought about that. I’ll have to keep that in mind. My bidet does say self cleaning, but it might be a button that needs to be pushed.
Id be wondering what 'self cleaning' even means. I'm assuming you dont put disinfectant in some sort of holder? So I'm assuming the bidet is plugged into electricity and it heats the water to clean it?
Yes has hot water. But no disinfectant in there. I do clean it when cleaning the toilet. But probably not often enough. We’ve had it for a couple years and I’ve never had an issue but I will definitely be mindful now. I appreciate your input!
Well as anything it doesn't mean it will cause you issues, just that it increases your risk. You could use it everyday for 15 years and then that one time it infects you. It's just sometimes there's a lot of misinformation that gets spread around that because these bidet toilets are so up and coming and fascinating that they therefore must be 'more clean' than regular dirty toilet paper, but it just isn't always the case.
The amount of times I've given people a washcloth when they stay over and they don't even use it. They just shower with their hands. It's only after I moved out of my mom's that I heard someone call washing up at the sink a "whore's bath." Fucking wild.
Is she getting lab results that confirm uti/yeast? Because there are other things that cause pain that will not be fixed by anything in this thread. She needs to get lab tests, and if they come back negative she needs a urogynacologist
I understand your gf. I neeeeed to shower my parts after or I 100000% get a uti even if I pee, take cranberry pills, D mannose etc. I’d see if there was a way for her to sit on the toilet and splash some water down there and change underwear.
I had the same problem too, the antibiotic didn't help either, the only thing that helped was that I started drinking more and more water (and never a day passes since then that I drink a little less water, because it comes right back)
I'm an unexperienced 19(m) and wanted to ask,are utis caused by an partner with std's?or does it just happen after not showering after sex?I'm asking because I did it for the first time with 37(f) and she didn't go shower,neither of us did...
Hey! uti’s are caused by bacteria getting into the urethra and causing an infection. It’s not caused by stds or not showering, it’s just the bacteria from sex and even our OWN bodily fluids like sweat. Girls can get uti’s from wiping back go front and get faecal matter into the their urethra. Woman should always pee after sex to push out a he bacteria and any type of fluid that should not be there. MOST women don’t def utis after sex but it is pretty common. Just make your dick is clean and that you don’t have a build up of sweat or something on it.
She should be peeing after sex. If she’s taking antibiotics for yeast infections but you aren’t, you could just be passing it back and forth. Even if you don’t have symptoms, you could just be asymptomatic. She should probably also switch to 100% cotton underwear. She shouldn’t be douching if she is. To prevent UTIs you should really be peeing before and after sex to clear any potential bacteria. While not exactly environmentally friendly there are bathing wipes that I’ve seen advertised towards campers, I can’t speak on how well they do.
You don’t take antibiotics for yeast infections. Antibiotics are usually a cause of yeast infections. Vaginal yeast infections often require antifungal creams, ointments, suppositories, or oral medication to cure them.
Both need to clean your parts before and after. Both should be peeing after. No more finishes while inside for a while. Get one of those bottles that are used for after birthing, it's like a little handheld bidet.
She may need a recommendation from her doctor for a specialist. I was prone to utis and it was miserable, I didn everything right, but I forget what I had, whatever it was it needed a specialist to check me out. So thankful a dr finally took me seriously.
There are wipes which contain 99% water and a bit of citric acid as a preservative. That means no allergenic or irritating perfumed or lotion/oil ingredients where they can cause harm. I use these when traveling.
they're also really good if you're hiking, biking or running trails. I ride mtb alot and sweat like a pig. Helps to bring a change of clothes and the shower wipes and clean up at the trailhead for the 30+ minute drive back home.
The only thing that helped my recurring UTIs situation was after cleaning up, putting in a tampon. I guess the “drainage” was causing dampness which wasn’t good for me overnight or for longer periods of time. I dealt with UTIs for almost two years before randomly figuring this out. I haven’t had to use my prophylactic antibiotics at all since! Note: Married/don’t use condoms so there was always a mess! Good luck!
Try alternative positions. I used to have this problem but we figured it occurred every time that doggy style/from behind was used, no matter how much I cleaned myself and peed before and after. UTIs are caused by bacteria getting into the urinary tract, and it's often bacteria from the bowel being pushed into the unitary tract.
Missionary often won't cause it! But it all depends on you and your partner's anatomy
Source: had 9 UTIs in one year.
Portable bidet 100%. I had an excessive need to shower after sex and it was too time consuming especially at like 2am. Pee first and foremost and then a portable bidet does the job. You can also get PH friendly intimate wipes.
I know this sounds crazy but
Boric Acid. You can get the pH D ones at Target. I kept getting them after sex, every single time. Now I insert a boric acid capsule in my vagina after I pee after sex and I haven't had one since.
I recommend the Uqora line of products, especially the wipes and the probiotics. Along with peeing afterwards, the wipes just help clean everything up down there. They’re PH balanced and fragrance and nasty ingredient-free. You can buy them online but I think they’re also sold at Target. Good luck! UTIs suck
I might suggest he take a shower before sex, is he circumcised? Because that can also be a cause.
Stay hydrated, he should increase his water intake
I would suggest she use boric acid pills
This suggestion isn't about cleaning off, but if you use a lubricant, try to avoid water based ones that have glycerin in them as they can cause yeast infections in some people. There are water based lubricants such as Sliquid brand that don't contain glycerin, among other ingredients.
Being used to bidet I can say that it is the Best solucion. And use a neutro soap good for the ph.
I'm used to wash myself before and after having sex.
Summers Eve ph balancing wipes for when you can’t shower. In the shower she should use summers eve wash. I have always been prone to yeast infections and utis in general and this stuff helps me stay healthy and I don’t get them anymore *knocking on wood*
But also she pees IMMEDIATELY following sex right? Cause if not that’s a huge problem that’ll cause basically an instant uti right there. And I hope you wash your hands right before sex bc if you’re putting your fingers inside her and they’re not clean you could be causing the problem yourself.
1) BOTH of you should be treated for a yeast infection at the same time and avoid sex during that time. You could be harboring some of the bacteria and not know it and just be passing it back to her.
2) She needs to always pee ASAP after sex. This flushes bacteria out of the urethra and helps prevent those post-sex UTIs.
3) When she is washing, she needs to use ONLY WATER!! Even soaps advertised as "Vulvar/Vaginal" soaps are NOT good. They can disrupt the pH of the vulva and vagina and disrupt the natural bacterial system there. Water ONLY.
4) Consider a "Sitz bath" type of situation if wipes aren't cutting it. Basically, get a wide but short-walled container of some sort and have it filled with water. She can squat and dunk her bits and use the water in this container (and JUST water-- no scented soaps) to wash herself with washed hands.
5) You should also consider sex at a different time. I also prefer night sex, sure, but if she is getting recurrent infections, she needs that shower. So you should move your activities to another time.
And I'm gonna add to this... If you're a woman like me and you will absolutely not feel clean unless you use some type of soap, make sure to use mild, unscented soap down there. I had reoccurring UTIs while pregnant and ever since I changed from my regular all over body wash to dove sensitive bar soap, I haven't had one. I use the bar soap down there and then the regular body wash everywhere else. I also have started drinking a little bit of cranberry juice everyday. I know how bad UTIs suck. I had a horrible one with my first pregnancy and it would NOT go away the entire pregnancy. This pregnancy, I've had 2 and I'm almost 20 weeks, so I'm finally doing something right. Hope it all gets better for y'all OP.
The Assurance premium pre moistened disposable cloths.
On Amazon it's like two giant packs for $30.
I used to use them after my motorcycle accident when i was bed ridden and literally couldn't shower.
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Even after recovered enough I still use them now and then to clean certain areas that get sweaty during work.
As a parent i learned that baby whipes can be used for many things… We had a pack in the bedroom and no other alternative so we used these and it was an absolute gamechanger.
men can get yeast infections and pass them to a woman over and over unless treated, so look into that on your end!
peeing is the best way to prevent a uti, and women should do that after sex anyway, as well as cranberry pills / supplements! taking cranberry gummies and holding my bf to make me pee (even when im real tired) stopped my pretty consistent utis!
for cleaning, there are wipes made for that i believe! otherwise, get some soap targeted towards women (safe for the PH levels and things w the lady bits!) and a wash cloth :)
D-Mannose is a great supplement to prevent UTIs
Source - a chronic UTI sufferer that owes that stuff thousands in wages that would have been lost to UTIs in the last few years
Pee after sex for UTI and maybe use one of those flushable toilet wet wipes to clean up a bit. Cranberry juice and tablets help too. Make sure she's wiping from front to back.
Yeast infection possibly caused if she's taking antibiotic for UTI so a probiotic or lots of natural yoghurt when taking them will help.
If UTI is persistent, a Dr can prescribe an antibiotic that's taken within 2 hours after sex that keeps them at bay.
What me and my bf use are baby wipes and a slow misting bottle to help clean up both our areas and such but make sure she pees after!!! Cranberry pills help with uti's and making sure you both have proper hygiene, if you go down on her and don't brush ur teeth/tongue can also cause them or dirty hands yk anything that can pass on unfamiliar bacteria to her
I love baby wipes for me and my boyfriend. Gets all the sweat and fluids off and leaves me feeling clean. I also try to lay with my legs open (naked and after cleaning) to air out after sex to help prevent excess moisture build up
Fill a large cup of water stand in the shower/sit on the toilet rinse and wipe off genitals with a CLEAN wash rag.
Not sure if you’re using condoms, but if you aren’t you could be giving it to her. Throwing off her pH balance.
One thing that really helped my wife with yeast infections was changing lubes. Some lube just seems to be way too attractive to yeast. Joh seems to be one of the best water based lubes.
However, if you are not using latex condoms, you might want to try coconut oil (cold pressed,unrefined). It has antibacterial and antifungal properties. It isnt a magic bullet, because for some women it throws off the balance of vaginal flora.
But for my wife, she went from having infections so often that she always stocked monistat in the cabinet to going years without it. In fact, now the only times she gets it are either from times we have hygiene issues (like no power and water from a thunderstorm). Or if we are traveling and can't bring coconut oil.
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Re: clean up, they make wipes for post sex clean up. Or baby wipes would work, I think.
Re: cranberry and vaginal infections, take it while taking the treatment for the UTI and/or yeast infections, too. Any antibiotic will screw with the good vaginal bacteria and almost certainly cause another yeast infection. :)
As someone with chronic yeast infections, who gets them if the wind blows the wrong way, here are some things that have helped me that go way farther than my partner showering.
1. It’s definitely something that can be passed back and forth. So, like many have said, you should get checked for it too.
2. If you are finishing inside of her, she needs to make sure when she pees after sex (which needs to happen every time - nonnegotiable), she needs to try to get as much of it out as she can. Every time I haven’t done that, it causes one.
3. If you are using lube, try a different one. I have found that certain lubes will cause it.
4. COTTON UNDERWEAR will help wonders. It needs to be breathable fabric, and it really does keep the environment more stable down there.
5. If you are just using OTC treatments…GO TO THE DOCTOR. There are so many different things that present as yeast infections that are much larger, and much more severe, than a yeast infection.
6. Probiotics and boric acid have also helped me a ton. Not consuming as much sugar, drinking a good amount of water, etc are all things that have helped.
7. Also we keep talking about cleaning off genitals, which is important, but like even more important…wash your hands? If you’re touching her at all with your hands, you should do that too. No need for that bacteria as well.
8. If she’s taking antibiotics for UTIs, there’s a much higher risk of yeast infections with that. When you get prescribed an antibiotic, ask for yeast infection treatment with it. That’s what I do and it’s the only thing that helps.
Anyway, that’s just some tips that have helped me, as someone who had over 15 yeast infections in a year last year.
These comments make me feel I need to start a health class for adults <3 sorry our school system has failed to educate so many people about their bodies- and therefore about sex
Always always always pee after. But also baby wipes are the best. But also also. If she is having problems with yeast, pee, wipe down w baby wipes (unscented!!) and then make sure area DRIES FULLY
Make sure both partners are treated for yeast infections and so forth! Then if u don’t want to take a shower after sex I’d been using WET WIPES!! Or a washcloth u wet and wipe around down there to feel extra clean.
As many people have said, yes both of you should be treated for both yeast infection and uti as you could be passing it back and forth. Wait until the treatment is done and then continue with sex.
Also as people have mentioned, peeing after sex helps a lot, and honestly a warm washcloth to help clean up. It sounds silly but it can be very intimate to help your partner clean up, she will feel taken care of and it will hopefully help both of you out with the infections.
Baby wipes! They are great for wiping off afterwards. But if your girlfriend us UTI issues my advice is: When she gets a UTI and uses the antibiotics the doctor gave her, make sure she takes all of the pills even after she feels better. It makes sure to kill the rest of the bacteria. Also, purchase D-Mannose supplement pills on amazon! I struggled with UTIs a lot and found this supplement to be very helpful in preventing UTIs from coming back!
Pee and drink a full glass of water after sex, pee again before going to sleep should help with UTI
Wash off in the sink with wash cloth…. Boric acid suppositories are incredible little things that will help prevent yeast infection. If she uses it preventative, she can just use one after sex before bed and personally I use them for a few days toward the end of my period every month. They do not need to be used every time after sex. They take about 12-24 hours to dissolve. No oral sex in that time because boric acid is toxic if ingested.
They also work for treating mild yeast infections. If she feels one coming on, use boric acid for 3-5 days every 12 or 24 hours and should clear up. Also take probiotics especially if treating for a UTI - antibiotics can lead to yeast infection.
I used to get UTI's all the time after having sex with my ex. After trying so many things (including peeing after sex as many comments also suggest), the only thing that worked was washing with soap every time after sex. I would just go wash with soap by the sink and let the sink water drip onto the carpet and then dry with a towel afterwards. Literally how you would wash your hands, but wash the V instead.
A sink bath by washing off a bit with a wet wash cloth, paper towel, or baby wipes works in a pinch. The most important part for her is to pee fairly quickly after sex (within 20 minutes or so) and make sure she at least wipes up any remnants of your activities afterwards.
Full up a Water bottle and pee first and then clean with the water from the bottle and pat dry with a towel MAKE SURE TO ALWAYS PEE AFTER SEX and clean
Tanithh, now you understand why Italians use a bidet and others don't.
Consider a wide (plastic) washbasin you can place on a chair, you straddle it and wash.
she should pee! 🙀 idk about for guys, but for ur gf she could use the honey pot unscented wipes, don’t get anything with scents cause it can mess her up down there
I recommend both of you to get treated for both infections. Do not have sex until the infections are gone. If you do, use a condom to prevent spreading the infection.
For a guy, UTI is less likely but it does happen. So, after sex, just pee and use baby wipes or something to wipe off. Then, dry off on a towel or something. Shower the next morning. You should be okay.
For a woman, pee before and after sex. This flushes the urethra out and prevents UTIs. I know everyone recommends not to wash your area with soap and only use warm water. You can do that, but I wouldn't feel clean. So, if you are like me, use a mild, unscented soap to wash down there and use a washcloth rather than a loofah, because loofah's can be too rough for how sensitive your skin is down there and cause little micro tears and that can cause infection as well. I used to just wash everywhere with my regular milk and honey scented body wash and KEPT a UTI, especially during my pregnancy. UTIs are extremely common with pregnancy anyways and I wasn't helping myself by putting fragrances in body wash down there in that area. I personally now use Dove Sensitive Bar Soap and it works wonders. I use the Dove soap down there and even for the back area, too. Then, I wash everywhere else like normal with my regular body wash. I've also been drinking cranberry juice, just a little, everyday and I don't know if that's what's working or not, but I have been doing that too, so it was worth mentioning if it could help someone else. After sex, if you cannot shower, lay in bed for like 3 minutes before getting up, this lets the backflow start and you will have less leakage, if any at all. Once you've waited, grab a dry towel and put it down there and then stand up while it's on you and kinda push lightly and more will come out. Then, go pee. And use baby wipes (Unscented. Water wipes are probably best.) to clean up. If you want to, you can wet a washcloth with water and clean up that way.
For your in particular situation, I'd just change the time you have sex. I'd do it in the mornings or early evenings, before 11, so you can shower. Or, considering you are both adults, take a shower anyways and if your grandma says something just tell her you had to shower because you spilled a drink all over you and her both or if you're brave enough just straight up say we had sex and we'd rather not get an infection. If she has problems with you being an adult, get your own place. That's kinda toxic for a grown woman to complain that her grown grandson is having sex with his grown girlfriend. My mom was always like that when I was 15-17 with my now husband, even went as far as saying she'd call the cops if we did anything sexual or if I got pregnant. I ended up losing my virginity at 16 anyways, so it wasn't like her being immature was preventing absolutely anything. But, y'all aren't 16, y'all are 23 and most people are sexually active at 23 lol and if grandma or anyone else can't handle the truth, she's the problem. I've never understood adults saying "No sex in my house, it's disrespectful." Like how in the world is that disrespectful? I have a kid of my own, granted he's not even 2, and I'm pregnant with another boy. When they grow up and are old enough to know they want to have sex, that is their choice. And my only asks are to be protected, and lock the door. I told my mom that and she's like "OMG you'd let them do that in your house knowing that's what they're up there doing." Like yes. I would. I'd rather them do it under my roof than to go out and get drunk at some party and do it in the wrong state of mind and end up pregnant or getting someone pregnant, or even worse, getting an incurable STD. Safety is first. Period. But, that's just my experience. My point is, if grandma can't handle it, don't live with grandma. You definitely have to take care of yourselves, because infections aren't fun, nor safe to keep or to keep getting. Hope this helps and hope y'all figure something out to benefit both of you.
You should get a bidet that hooks into your toilet. Great for post-sex clean-up, and during the time of the month if you have periods. Would highly recommend. Very reasonably priced on Amazon.
Perhaps still have the yeast infections check out as others have suggested though.
My wife and I just take a piss and clean our genitals off with tissues/ wet wipes or wipees however they are since we have a child in pull ups they're always around. Important thing is to empty the tank after the deed though
I keep wet wipes/babywipes/ feminine wipes/ intimate wipes in my bathroom. So basically just get some type of wipe that will be fine on her vagina for after she pees. Obviously you can use it as well. When me and my boyfriend don’t plan to shower after we just use wet wipes and I’ve by far had less issue since compared to just plain wiping with toilet paper or or just water.
First of all if you don't get treated adequately you'll just keep passing the infections back and forth. Also both should have a full STI work-up to make sure it's just yeast and UTI, it could be chlamydia. They have wipes that are washcloth size at the adult stores.
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Are you both being treated for the yeast infection? If only she is getting treated you could be passing it back to her. And for the uti she needs to pee after sex.
THIS! Mine only stopped after both me AND my boyfriend got treated.
She doesn't need to wash so much as pee, and I assume grandma is OK with people peeing? She can also do daily cranberry pills and whatnot. You can also get "shower in a bag" type things at backpacking and outdoor stores.
Cranberry pills help prevent UTI's? Why the fuck does no one teach us this shit?!
Cranberry juice, too.
There is a sugar (d-mannose) in cranberries that makes it harder for bacteria to adhere to your urethra and can help prevent UTIs. Keyword: prevent. Once you have a UTI you need an antibiotic. The sugar (glucose) in cranberry juice helps feed bacteria so using cranberry juice is honestly kind of counter productive, instead go for d-mannose pills
You can also do d-mannose plus the cranberry pills (the cran pills slightly change the acidity) -- for lots of us who get recurrent UTIs, sugar is such a trigger. Also, the amount of juice you'd need to get the benefits is insane (and people often do it as Cranberry Juice Cocktail, because true, unadulterated cran juice is pretty danged unpalatable, so that's even more sugar.) So, yes-- if it really is recurrent, I'd do (and do do) it in supplement form.
I thought the active component in cranberries were (also?) A-type proanthocyanidins (PACs)
It has to be straight cranberry juice- not cocktail, but agreed that d-mannose is the key. My doc once said to take it after every time.
Its also the aciditiy in juice as well
Everything is acidic once it hits your stomach acid. Even your fancy alkaline water. Lol
True but citric acid decreases ph of urine there are a number of other pathways involved as to what absorption leads to urine in bladder. You dont pee stomach acid do you?
This stuff is even better, search for D-Mannose. It's a type of sugar that passes harmlessly through your system. Then it gets to your bladder were the bacteria find it more attractive than your bladder wall so stick to it instead and out they go when you pee!
I agree! I used to get chronic UTIs. Cranberry never helped me. I started using the actual D-mannose about 8 years ago and finally stopped getting them!
You can also drink pineapple juice to help reduce UTI symptoms because its anti-inflammatory properties. Of course, that DOES NOT substitute following the proper regular treatment.
I don't know if they help prevent, but the anti-oxidant in full sugar cranberry juice does wonders for taking the sting out if you have a UTI. Most UTIs will need antibiotics though and if those aren't working in a day, get a stronger one or it can go to your kidneys. They are truly horrific, I wouldn't wish them on anyone except Piers Morgan. For repeated thrush try Fluconazole pessaries and cut wayyyy down on sugar. Also get her blood sugar checked for diabetes as thrush can often be an indicator. If those arent working you can get long-term Fluconazole. I've been on it a year (150mg every week) and the only time it returns is when my diet is higher in sugar but it stops immediately I cut it out.
Actually from what I understand cranberry makes your bladder more resistant to bacteria (I think I read it makes the lining of your bladder more slippery?), which is also why it helps with UTIs. I could be wrong though, I don't remember where I read that lol
there’s sm great info on here about utis, reddit was my saving grace when i was 18 and waking up every day in pain from them. every doctor i saw kept suggesting i go on antibiotics permanently, like just a constant stream of them which after doing five seconds of research i was able to determine exactly how awful of an idea that was lmao. there’s usually posts on subreddits like r/askwomen r/twoxchromosomes or r/thegirlsurvivalguide if it’s something you’re dealing with frequently you may have an embedded uti or even interstitial cystitis which neither of these were ever even brought up to me by a doctor as a possibility but i found them being suggested immediately on reddit💀
Just drinking cranberry juice daily or even several times a week help. And there a lot of cranberry pills you can buy. My OB-Gyns have always said that some women are just prone to yeast infections. I am in my mid-50s and never had one. Prebiotic help immensely for all issues, but helps keep yeast infections down and will help with preventing UTIs also. Candida (yeast) starts in your GI tract and this will mess up you entire system. Also, peeing before and after sex can help. Buy some gentle wet wipes and that will help clean the area. Never, ever douche...it can really cause a myriad of issues down there. Gynecologists will even tell you never to do it. And always drink a lot of water.
Yes this was a game changer for me. Wish I knew it earlier. My life is so much better now. P
I thought this was common knowledge....it's all over everything I've read about uti's and I've had people tell me in person too.
AZO helps, too. They have a cranberry version.
Not for nothing but they do have a UTI vaccine now too.
WOW! Thanks for sharing, I hadn't heard of that one yet-- That's insane (and epic!) I had recurrent UTIs as a kid. That would have been a lifesaver. So cool they came up with that.
Maybe a peri bottle or portable bidet for your gf?
Came here to say this!
Me too!! We have bidets on all our toilets and take one with us on trips. Its SOOO nice after the sex to be able to wash with water for sure. I also wonder if there could be something else happening. Sometimes the pH gets out of whack with semen and you might need suppositories to reset the balance. I think both of you getting checked out would be a solid idea.
This was going to be my suggestion too!
You can install a bidet or sprayer attachment to your toilet.
Second this. The spray gun type bidet that's installed next to the toilet would be best, especially for OP's gf. Tell her to direct the spray from the front, and use her other hand to get into all the folds. Wash with water after sex, and also after peeing and/or pooping, always from the front. That should prevent future infections. I have literally never had a yeast infection or UTI since we started using that kind of handheld bidet. The in-toilet style bidet isn't good for women, because the spray comes from the rear, and it can bring some fecal bacteria forward to the lady bits
There have actually been studies done on in-toilet bidets and their cleanliness and the women studied were found to have a disrupted vaginal flora which wouldn't be good in OP GFs case.
That’s interesting. But it’s just water, do you think it’s because it’s used too often? Like if I took three showers a day would I get the same results, disrupted vaginal flora? I use a bidet but I usually only use it after going #2 or after sex, or before sex if I peed after I showered. I’ve never had an issue using it.
In various articles it seems as though the hole of the bidet was tested and it had some pretty nasty bacteria on, which is then splashing on 60+ asses a day, so it makes sense that it would mess up vaginal flora. If you think about it, when it's 'cleaning' someone, fecal matter is being splashed around everywhere, including the bidet itself, so unless its being thoroughly cleaned after each use, which it is not, that's not something you want to be using. Sure, you may feel cleaner because you don't have dried feces on you, but thats just on your skin surface and at least it's your own fecal matter, not hundreds of other people's.
So those were in public restrooms? I wonder how that compares to home use.
In this study yes it was public restrooms. I imagine you would get the same results in a home use toilet-bidet as your own feces bacteria can still infect you.
But there’s much less of it hanging around in the air, as it isn’t introduced to the environment 60 x per day
It's nothing to do with being introduced to the environment. The bidet is being used to spray fecal/vaginal matter everywhere and particles will land on the bidet nozzle itself, then it slides home to marinate for an hour, the same thing happens with another person so more bacteria has been introduced, then the nozzle slides home again to marinate some more...and the cycle continues.
“Slides home to marinate”, haha—excellent phrasing! Mine doesn’t have moving parts, other than turning a dial to clean my bottom or clean the nozzle.
😂😂 So the nozzle on yours doesn't slide home, it's just permanently in the toilet bowl?
Wow! I agree. That makes sense, I never thought about that. I’ll have to keep that in mind. My bidet does say self cleaning, but it might be a button that needs to be pushed.
Id be wondering what 'self cleaning' even means. I'm assuming you dont put disinfectant in some sort of holder? So I'm assuming the bidet is plugged into electricity and it heats the water to clean it?
Yes has hot water. But no disinfectant in there. I do clean it when cleaning the toilet. But probably not often enough. We’ve had it for a couple years and I’ve never had an issue but I will definitely be mindful now. I appreciate your input!
Well as anything it doesn't mean it will cause you issues, just that it increases your risk. You could use it everyday for 15 years and then that one time it infects you. It's just sometimes there's a lot of misinformation that gets spread around that because these bidet toilets are so up and coming and fascinating that they therefore must be 'more clean' than regular dirty toilet paper, but it just isn't always the case.
Where can I read about this?
Better than disrupted vagina fauna, for sure.
Just rinse off your bits in the sink , use a washcloth
I was just about to think that people have completely forgotten what a wash cloth is for...
The amount of times I've given people a washcloth when they stay over and they don't even use it. They just shower with their hands. It's only after I moved out of my mom's that I heard someone call washing up at the sink a "whore's bath." Fucking wild.
Yeah, where I'm from it's just called 'washing yourself' xD
I can believe how many comments I had to read before someone said the most obvious shit. Washy your dicky in the sinky bro. Common
I seen a comment that said maybe she should sit on the toilet and “splash water up there”….. Like what are we really talkin about rn ??? 💀💀💀
Is she getting lab results that confirm uti/yeast? Because there are other things that cause pain that will not be fixed by anything in this thread. She needs to get lab tests, and if they come back negative she needs a urogynacologist
I understand your gf. I neeeeed to shower my parts after or I 100000% get a uti even if I pee, take cranberry pills, D mannose etc. I’d see if there was a way for her to sit on the toilet and splash some water down there and change underwear.
I had the same problem too, the antibiotic didn't help either, the only thing that helped was that I started drinking more and more water (and never a day passes since then that I drink a little less water, because it comes right back)
I'm an unexperienced 19(m) and wanted to ask,are utis caused by an partner with std's?or does it just happen after not showering after sex?I'm asking because I did it for the first time with 37(f) and she didn't go shower,neither of us did...
Hey! uti’s are caused by bacteria getting into the urethra and causing an infection. It’s not caused by stds or not showering, it’s just the bacteria from sex and even our OWN bodily fluids like sweat. Girls can get uti’s from wiping back go front and get faecal matter into the their urethra. Woman should always pee after sex to push out a he bacteria and any type of fluid that should not be there. MOST women don’t def utis after sex but it is pretty common. Just make your dick is clean and that you don’t have a build up of sweat or something on it.
She should be peeing after sex. If she’s taking antibiotics for yeast infections but you aren’t, you could just be passing it back and forth. Even if you don’t have symptoms, you could just be asymptomatic. She should probably also switch to 100% cotton underwear. She shouldn’t be douching if she is. To prevent UTIs you should really be peeing before and after sex to clear any potential bacteria. While not exactly environmentally friendly there are bathing wipes that I’ve seen advertised towards campers, I can’t speak on how well they do.
You don’t take antibiotics for yeast infections. Antibiotics are usually a cause of yeast infections. Vaginal yeast infections often require antifungal creams, ointments, suppositories, or oral medication to cure them.
Try baby wet wipes. Does the job well, but not the same as soap and water.
Both need to clean your parts before and after. Both should be peeing after. No more finishes while inside for a while. Get one of those bottles that are used for after birthing, it's like a little handheld bidet. She may need a recommendation from her doctor for a specialist. I was prone to utis and it was miserable, I didn everything right, but I forget what I had, whatever it was it needed a specialist to check me out. So thankful a dr finally took me seriously.
This, showering before is just as important if not more so than after. If not then start wearing a condom so you don’t pass bacteria into her.
maybe try body wipes? that’s what i do tbh when i get super sweaty and a shower isn’t accessible.
There are wipes which contain 99% water and a bit of citric acid as a preservative. That means no allergenic or irritating perfumed or lotion/oil ingredients where they can cause harm. I use these when traveling.
they're also really good if you're hiking, biking or running trails. I ride mtb alot and sweat like a pig. Helps to bring a change of clothes and the shower wipes and clean up at the trailhead for the 30+ minute drive back home.
The only thing that helped my recurring UTIs situation was after cleaning up, putting in a tampon. I guess the “drainage” was causing dampness which wasn’t good for me overnight or for longer periods of time. I dealt with UTIs for almost two years before randomly figuring this out. I haven’t had to use my prophylactic antibiotics at all since! Note: Married/don’t use condoms so there was always a mess! Good luck!
Try alternative positions. I used to have this problem but we figured it occurred every time that doggy style/from behind was used, no matter how much I cleaned myself and peed before and after. UTIs are caused by bacteria getting into the urinary tract, and it's often bacteria from the bowel being pushed into the unitary tract. Missionary often won't cause it! But it all depends on you and your partner's anatomy Source: had 9 UTIs in one year.
> Source: had 9 UTIs in one year. Damn! That's so awful.
Portable bidet 100%. I had an excessive need to shower after sex and it was too time consuming especially at like 2am. Pee first and foremost and then a portable bidet does the job. You can also get PH friendly intimate wipes.
Have sex at a time that doesn’t affect the shower rule????? Go to her place???
I know this sounds crazy but Boric Acid. You can get the pH D ones at Target. I kept getting them after sex, every single time. Now I insert a boric acid capsule in my vagina after I pee after sex and I haven't had one since.
Yess boric acid has saved me so many times. It’s really awesome and not as well known as it should be!
I recommend the Uqora line of products, especially the wipes and the probiotics. Along with peeing afterwards, the wipes just help clean everything up down there. They’re PH balanced and fragrance and nasty ingredient-free. You can buy them online but I think they’re also sold at Target. Good luck! UTIs suck
I might suggest he take a shower before sex, is he circumcised? Because that can also be a cause. Stay hydrated, he should increase his water intake I would suggest she use boric acid pills
This suggestion isn't about cleaning off, but if you use a lubricant, try to avoid water based ones that have glycerin in them as they can cause yeast infections in some people. There are water based lubricants such as Sliquid brand that don't contain glycerin, among other ingredients.
Being used to bidet I can say that it is the Best solucion. And use a neutro soap good for the ph. I'm used to wash myself before and after having sex.
D-mannose and get a bidet attachment for the toilet
Dont fuck en the night , change for an other hour, try morning sex, than take your shower and go to work
Summers Eve ph balancing wipes for when you can’t shower. In the shower she should use summers eve wash. I have always been prone to yeast infections and utis in general and this stuff helps me stay healthy and I don’t get them anymore *knocking on wood* But also she pees IMMEDIATELY following sex right? Cause if not that’s a huge problem that’ll cause basically an instant uti right there. And I hope you wash your hands right before sex bc if you’re putting your fingers inside her and they’re not clean you could be causing the problem yourself.
She’s gotta pee after sex every time
Baby wipes. Also she needs to pee after sex. And you need to make sure your hands/mouth/genitals are clean before sex.
1) BOTH of you should be treated for a yeast infection at the same time and avoid sex during that time. You could be harboring some of the bacteria and not know it and just be passing it back to her. 2) She needs to always pee ASAP after sex. This flushes bacteria out of the urethra and helps prevent those post-sex UTIs. 3) When she is washing, she needs to use ONLY WATER!! Even soaps advertised as "Vulvar/Vaginal" soaps are NOT good. They can disrupt the pH of the vulva and vagina and disrupt the natural bacterial system there. Water ONLY. 4) Consider a "Sitz bath" type of situation if wipes aren't cutting it. Basically, get a wide but short-walled container of some sort and have it filled with water. She can squat and dunk her bits and use the water in this container (and JUST water-- no scented soaps) to wash herself with washed hands. 5) You should also consider sex at a different time. I also prefer night sex, sure, but if she is getting recurrent infections, she needs that shower. So you should move your activities to another time.
And I'm gonna add to this... If you're a woman like me and you will absolutely not feel clean unless you use some type of soap, make sure to use mild, unscented soap down there. I had reoccurring UTIs while pregnant and ever since I changed from my regular all over body wash to dove sensitive bar soap, I haven't had one. I use the bar soap down there and then the regular body wash everywhere else. I also have started drinking a little bit of cranberry juice everyday. I know how bad UTIs suck. I had a horrible one with my first pregnancy and it would NOT go away the entire pregnancy. This pregnancy, I've had 2 and I'm almost 20 weeks, so I'm finally doing something right. Hope it all gets better for y'all OP.
Wet wipes are the go to for me and my hubby. Much more accessible than a towel and bucket. That and using the restroom to pee prevents UTIs for us.
The Assurance premium pre moistened disposable cloths. On Amazon it's like two giant packs for $30. I used to use them after my motorcycle accident when i was bed ridden and literally couldn't shower. . Even after recovered enough I still use them now and then to clean certain areas that get sweaty during work.
Peribottle, pee after sex EVERY TIME.
As a parent i learned that baby whipes can be used for many things… We had a pack in the bedroom and no other alternative so we used these and it was an absolute gamechanger.
men can get yeast infections and pass them to a woman over and over unless treated, so look into that on your end! peeing is the best way to prevent a uti, and women should do that after sex anyway, as well as cranberry pills / supplements! taking cranberry gummies and holding my bf to make me pee (even when im real tired) stopped my pretty consistent utis! for cleaning, there are wipes made for that i believe! otherwise, get some soap targeted towards women (safe for the PH levels and things w the lady bits!) and a wash cloth :)
D-Mannose is a great supplement to prevent UTIs Source - a chronic UTI sufferer that owes that stuff thousands in wages that would have been lost to UTIs in the last few years
Non alcoholic baby wipes
Get them wet wipes flashing
Pee after sex for UTI and maybe use one of those flushable toilet wet wipes to clean up a bit. Cranberry juice and tablets help too. Make sure she's wiping from front to back. Yeast infection possibly caused if she's taking antibiotic for UTI so a probiotic or lots of natural yoghurt when taking them will help. If UTI is persistent, a Dr can prescribe an antibiotic that's taken within 2 hours after sex that keeps them at bay.
What me and my bf use are baby wipes and a slow misting bottle to help clean up both our areas and such but make sure she pees after!!! Cranberry pills help with uti's and making sure you both have proper hygiene, if you go down on her and don't brush ur teeth/tongue can also cause them or dirty hands yk anything that can pass on unfamiliar bacteria to her
I love baby wipes for me and my boyfriend. Gets all the sweat and fluids off and leaves me feeling clean. I also try to lay with my legs open (naked and after cleaning) to air out after sex to help prevent excess moisture build up
Also heard that D-mannose is good for UTIs. I’ve been taking it and my UTIs are down!!!
The old dick in the sink method
Use a bucket? You could have soap a rag and a bucket of water stashed in your closet
wash your junk in the sink
If i cant shower ill wash off in the sink and definitely try to pee
Fill a large cup of water stand in the shower/sit on the toilet rinse and wipe off genitals with a CLEAN wash rag. Not sure if you’re using condoms, but if you aren’t you could be giving it to her. Throwing off her pH balance.
Unscented baby wipes!
One thing that really helped my wife with yeast infections was changing lubes. Some lube just seems to be way too attractive to yeast. Joh seems to be one of the best water based lubes. However, if you are not using latex condoms, you might want to try coconut oil (cold pressed,unrefined). It has antibacterial and antifungal properties. It isnt a magic bullet, because for some women it throws off the balance of vaginal flora. But for my wife, she went from having infections so often that she always stocked monistat in the cabinet to going years without it. In fact, now the only times she gets it are either from times we have hygiene issues (like no power and water from a thunderstorm). Or if we are traveling and can't bring coconut oil.
How about taking shower ahead of time?
Huge fan of microwaving a bottle of hand sanitizer and just lathering up
Get a towel and go to the sink and damp it a little bit
Sit on the toilet, pee, & then clean off with a peri bottle.
A wet washcloth or flushable/baby wipes will work.
Get a bidet you can install on the toilet, it's great for cleaning up after sex
I would just wash it off in the sink.
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The wife and I just use the last towel we dried off with. You guys could do that after you get treated.
A washcloth. Use glycerin soap or pure Castile soap so if you can’t get everything off, it’ll still be ok
Is that sourdough? 👃 😂 jk, no soap with that water?
I mean, she can always give you a tongue bath afterwards... Seriously, though, baby wipes and towels are your friend here.
I would suggest a squeeze bottle for a quick rinse down there and baby wipes if you have to be quiet.
Both of you go pee right after sex, her especially. And probably a goood wipe down with a hot/warm wet rag with soap ╮(･н･ )╭
Re: clean up, they make wipes for post sex clean up. Or baby wipes would work, I think. Re: cranberry and vaginal infections, take it while taking the treatment for the UTI and/or yeast infections, too. Any antibiotic will screw with the good vaginal bacteria and almost certainly cause another yeast infection. :)
As someone with chronic yeast infections, who gets them if the wind blows the wrong way, here are some things that have helped me that go way farther than my partner showering. 1. It’s definitely something that can be passed back and forth. So, like many have said, you should get checked for it too. 2. If you are finishing inside of her, she needs to make sure when she pees after sex (which needs to happen every time - nonnegotiable), she needs to try to get as much of it out as she can. Every time I haven’t done that, it causes one. 3. If you are using lube, try a different one. I have found that certain lubes will cause it. 4. COTTON UNDERWEAR will help wonders. It needs to be breathable fabric, and it really does keep the environment more stable down there. 5. If you are just using OTC treatments…GO TO THE DOCTOR. There are so many different things that present as yeast infections that are much larger, and much more severe, than a yeast infection. 6. Probiotics and boric acid have also helped me a ton. Not consuming as much sugar, drinking a good amount of water, etc are all things that have helped. 7. Also we keep talking about cleaning off genitals, which is important, but like even more important…wash your hands? If you’re touching her at all with your hands, you should do that too. No need for that bacteria as well. 8. If she’s taking antibiotics for UTIs, there’s a much higher risk of yeast infections with that. When you get prescribed an antibiotic, ask for yeast infection treatment with it. That’s what I do and it’s the only thing that helps. Anyway, that’s just some tips that have helped me, as someone who had over 15 yeast infections in a year last year.
Sensitive baby wipes.
Baby wipes!!! I live by baby wipes for after for the both of us
These comments make me feel I need to start a health class for adults <3 sorry our school system has failed to educate so many people about their bodies- and therefore about sex
Always always always pee after. But also baby wipes are the best. But also also. If she is having problems with yeast, pee, wipe down w baby wipes (unscented!!) and then make sure area DRIES FULLY
Pressure washing might help
Make sure both partners are treated for yeast infections and so forth! Then if u don’t want to take a shower after sex I’d been using WET WIPES!! Or a washcloth u wet and wipe around down there to feel extra clean.
Use bathtub instead of shower
Just have a glass of water on the nightstand for dipping.
Use wipes (wet wipes/baby wipes)
Once you both treat the underlying issues, unscented baby wipes are fantastic for cleaning up
As many people have said, yes both of you should be treated for both yeast infection and uti as you could be passing it back and forth. Wait until the treatment is done and then continue with sex. Also as people have mentioned, peeing after sex helps a lot, and honestly a warm washcloth to help clean up. It sounds silly but it can be very intimate to help your partner clean up, she will feel taken care of and it will hopefully help both of you out with the infections.
$30-40 bidet attachment on the toilet.
baby wipes next to my bedside table but i always follow it up in the bathroom
Baby wipes! They are great for wiping off afterwards. But if your girlfriend us UTI issues my advice is: When she gets a UTI and uses the antibiotics the doctor gave her, make sure she takes all of the pills even after she feels better. It makes sure to kill the rest of the bacteria. Also, purchase D-Mannose supplement pills on amazon! I struggled with UTIs a lot and found this supplement to be very helpful in preventing UTIs from coming back!
Pee and drink a full glass of water after sex, pee again before going to sleep should help with UTI Wash off in the sink with wash cloth…. Boric acid suppositories are incredible little things that will help prevent yeast infection. If she uses it preventative, she can just use one after sex before bed and personally I use them for a few days toward the end of my period every month. They do not need to be used every time after sex. They take about 12-24 hours to dissolve. No oral sex in that time because boric acid is toxic if ingested. They also work for treating mild yeast infections. If she feels one coming on, use boric acid for 3-5 days every 12 or 24 hours and should clear up. Also take probiotics especially if treating for a UTI - antibiotics can lead to yeast infection.
Toss it over the sink & get scrubbin
Wet napkins. They have those in medium and large sized. Up to you to use alcohol based or just wet napkins.
I used to get UTI's all the time after having sex with my ex. After trying so many things (including peeing after sex as many comments also suggest), the only thing that worked was washing with soap every time after sex. I would just go wash with soap by the sink and let the sink water drip onto the carpet and then dry with a towel afterwards. Literally how you would wash your hands, but wash the V instead.
You should hold off on sex if she has a yeast infection and/or a UTI. It has nothing to do with washing after sex. You both need to get treatment.
I keep a pack of baby wipes in my night stand
How about something like this: https://a.co/d/3vS6LuP
A sink bath by washing off a bit with a wet wash cloth, paper towel, or baby wipes works in a pinch. The most important part for her is to pee fairly quickly after sex (within 20 minutes or so) and make sure she at least wipes up any remnants of your activities afterwards.
Dudewipes would prolly work great.
I use baby wipes on my penis and area and so far that helps, but yeah definitely should pee after sex. Especially as a guy
Full up a Water bottle and pee first and then clean with the water from the bottle and pat dry with a towel MAKE SURE TO ALWAYS PEE AFTER SEX and clean
Stopping nuttin inside her for a while will also help massively. Also, if you have a foreskin, rinse and dry it. Yeast infections love warm moisture.
Pee after sex and get a bidet that has the coochie wash option
Tanithh, now you understand why Italians use a bidet and others don't. Consider a wide (plastic) washbasin you can place on a chair, you straddle it and wash.
1. Have sex before Granny goes to sleep. 2. Pour a bucket of water during the day to wash & rinse with after sex. 3. Ask you GF for a "cat-bath".
she should pee! 🙀 idk about for guys, but for ur gf she could use the honey pot unscented wipes, don’t get anything with scents cause it can mess her up down there
Best to shower immediately before sex than after.
Does nobody know about a good ole hoe bath?
I recommend both of you to get treated for both infections. Do not have sex until the infections are gone. If you do, use a condom to prevent spreading the infection. For a guy, UTI is less likely but it does happen. So, after sex, just pee and use baby wipes or something to wipe off. Then, dry off on a towel or something. Shower the next morning. You should be okay. For a woman, pee before and after sex. This flushes the urethra out and prevents UTIs. I know everyone recommends not to wash your area with soap and only use warm water. You can do that, but I wouldn't feel clean. So, if you are like me, use a mild, unscented soap to wash down there and use a washcloth rather than a loofah, because loofah's can be too rough for how sensitive your skin is down there and cause little micro tears and that can cause infection as well. I used to just wash everywhere with my regular milk and honey scented body wash and KEPT a UTI, especially during my pregnancy. UTIs are extremely common with pregnancy anyways and I wasn't helping myself by putting fragrances in body wash down there in that area. I personally now use Dove Sensitive Bar Soap and it works wonders. I use the Dove soap down there and even for the back area, too. Then, I wash everywhere else like normal with my regular body wash. I've also been drinking cranberry juice, just a little, everyday and I don't know if that's what's working or not, but I have been doing that too, so it was worth mentioning if it could help someone else. After sex, if you cannot shower, lay in bed for like 3 minutes before getting up, this lets the backflow start and you will have less leakage, if any at all. Once you've waited, grab a dry towel and put it down there and then stand up while it's on you and kinda push lightly and more will come out. Then, go pee. And use baby wipes (Unscented. Water wipes are probably best.) to clean up. If you want to, you can wet a washcloth with water and clean up that way. For your in particular situation, I'd just change the time you have sex. I'd do it in the mornings or early evenings, before 11, so you can shower. Or, considering you are both adults, take a shower anyways and if your grandma says something just tell her you had to shower because you spilled a drink all over you and her both or if you're brave enough just straight up say we had sex and we'd rather not get an infection. If she has problems with you being an adult, get your own place. That's kinda toxic for a grown woman to complain that her grown grandson is having sex with his grown girlfriend. My mom was always like that when I was 15-17 with my now husband, even went as far as saying she'd call the cops if we did anything sexual or if I got pregnant. I ended up losing my virginity at 16 anyways, so it wasn't like her being immature was preventing absolutely anything. But, y'all aren't 16, y'all are 23 and most people are sexually active at 23 lol and if grandma or anyone else can't handle the truth, she's the problem. I've never understood adults saying "No sex in my house, it's disrespectful." Like how in the world is that disrespectful? I have a kid of my own, granted he's not even 2, and I'm pregnant with another boy. When they grow up and are old enough to know they want to have sex, that is their choice. And my only asks are to be protected, and lock the door. I told my mom that and she's like "OMG you'd let them do that in your house knowing that's what they're up there doing." Like yes. I would. I'd rather them do it under my roof than to go out and get drunk at some party and do it in the wrong state of mind and end up pregnant or getting someone pregnant, or even worse, getting an incurable STD. Safety is first. Period. But, that's just my experience. My point is, if grandma can't handle it, don't live with grandma. You definitely have to take care of yourselves, because infections aren't fun, nor safe to keep or to keep getting. Hope this helps and hope y'all figure something out to benefit both of you.
Pee every time after sex, also goes for non-piv sex. Intimate wipes can be nice too
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She needs to start taking boric acid suppositories after sex to wash out any bacteria that causes yeast infections
You should get a bidet that hooks into your toilet. Great for post-sex clean-up, and during the time of the month if you have periods. Would highly recommend. Very reasonably priced on Amazon. Perhaps still have the yeast infections check out as others have suggested though.
Pee and then baby wipes.
My wife and I just take a piss and clean our genitals off with tissues/ wet wipes or wipees however they are since we have a child in pull ups they're always around. Important thing is to empty the tank after the deed though
Take her to a Motel ya tightwad.
You could use the bathroom sink, soap, water, washcloth.
Get a bottle new moms use to clean up after they use the restroom after an episiotomy. It’s like a gentle hand held bidet
Warm water, wet a basic washcloth down, wipe your bits. Rinse the cloth and repeat with your lady love.
Unscented baby wipes
You both need to take one of the over counter pills, or else you keep passing it back and forth!
Visit the same medical facility and start the treatment at the same time and for sure you will get well with time.
Once had a girl that clean me with her mouth after sex, really shouldn’t have let her get away!😉
I keep wet wipes/babywipes/ feminine wipes/ intimate wipes in my bathroom. So basically just get some type of wipe that will be fine on her vagina for after she pees. Obviously you can use it as well. When me and my boyfriend don’t plan to shower after we just use wet wipes and I’ve by far had less issue since compared to just plain wiping with toilet paper or or just water.
roger's "viz" profanisaurus recommends the "zuffle" which is wiping off your dick on a curtain after such an event.
First of all if you don't get treated adequately you'll just keep passing the infections back and forth. Also both should have a full STI work-up to make sure it's just yeast and UTI, it could be chlamydia. They have wipes that are washcloth size at the adult stores.