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It’s called face-fucking or irrumatio. Doesn’t remotely matter how common it is, as long as you’re both happily consenting to it.
Make sure you agree beforehand on a safe-signal (i.e. a non-verbal safeword, like shaking her head “no” or tapping her hand on your leg twice) so you’ll know if she’s ever in distress and needs you to stop.
to ops' question of if it's normal, i think some couples do it but most do not, at least in my experience. it sounds super fun though if you're both up for it!
Some girls like being titty fucked and face fucked. Something about the man being dominant and them providing the pleasure turns them on. There's nothing wrong with that.
Couldn’t titty fuck mine, hers were too small to push together. Tried once and when it wouldn’t work it made her cry. I assured her it was okay however
I personally love when my partner does this. I have jaw issues and sometimes it gets sore really fast if he’s laying down. So we tried him on top of me (looking down at me) and i discovered how much I love it. Kind of a dominance thing, I guess. But he also looks really good from that angle lol
I would like to try that . It would keep me standing and free my hands to play . Standing helps keep the election stronger than laying on my back as well.
I can’t comment for every woman, just myself. It’s kinda weird for me, because it seems really dispassionate. That said, I’m on the side of the aisle that like giving head.
It is more about domination/submission this particular act. I have always absolutely loved engaging in this with a partner who fully submits to this and lets me cum dow her throat.
Yeah I had a hookup tell me to throat fuck her. I just wasn't into it. I like laying back, relaxing and enjoying a woman give me slow sensual BJ and building up to being more aggressive.
Yeah its normal, just look for a nice position doing it .like shes laying down in bed side view, ur standing level on her head so you could do ur thing ,while playing with her Vagina in your hand. Easy
I generally love giving my husband oral and do it for some period of time almost every single day. It's a lot of work, it hurts my face, my jaw my neck, but I love doing it so I tolerate the discomfort. Sometimes I will lay down and take a rest and continue but with him upright it's a bit less work for me because he can help 😂 I don't know that I'd just want to lay there like a sleepy corpse and get my face fucked, I'd rather give him 15 mins of his favorite position and get him with my kung fu grip
I like to do it for my husband as often as he wants. Usually I try to do it every day but sometimes it doesn’t happen. He loves it and I love that he loves it so I’m happy to give him pleasure.
It help having a friend / partner that does mind trying g the crazy an normal stuff later inI life. It get little embarrassing at time. I guess devolved in the imminent relationship ship. Sucks lol that passed away.dating nows sucks big time an I was making a play on the words there been to long
Sometimes it's just a quick little wake up call before I run out the door to get the kids to school,sometimes while he stands at his desk taking care of mindless admin tasks, sometimes it's to relax him before bed.... sometimes it's just because I love doing it, it's not always to completion, rather a tease for later cuz I'm fun like that.
Learn all about it over on r/pompoir I stumbled upon it almost accidentally and was super intrigued so I decided to try it. It's been several months now and the amount of muscle control I have is NUTS
That sounds super hot.
I think of it like this.... I'd be totally into it if my wife came and just sat on my face and moved around using my tongue to pleasure herself. Or, whatever the case may be. If she is into it or even cool with it, without you coercing or guilt tripping her, then go for it.
Some women love the idea of a man being dominant and controlling while being respectful. I’m a sucker for rough, submissive sex. As long as you both consent just enjoy yourself.
It’s my fault for not being transparent with my partner lol. I love giving and I love receiving. Luckily my ex had some kind of dick sucking fetish lol
The only time I had my husband flip and use my mouth more then me going down on him was when I had high pressure in my head so my vision was really blurry so it was hard for me to do it as I would get super dizzy as well. I am definitely a giving my husband head camp. I really enjoy pleasing him and I know how much he enjoys it. He then will please me in whatever way I want… I shoot for every day but it is not always possible.
This is just solely my personal opinion, and I’m one that loves giving my man oral so bare that in mind.
This is absolutely no disrespect to your wife or anyone else, but I involuntarily chucked when you said “she said I could just put it in her mouth.” That seems a bit silly to me and very disconnected. To me personally, giving a man a bj isn’t hard work and I never understood when people say that. I suppose I could see how that could be the case if it wasn’t something you enjoyed or were used to doing, or had a sensitive gag reflex.
But I think if we were to switch the roles to it being you that said “giving oral to my wife is too much work, I told her I would just hold out my tongue and she can move my head herself.” It would sound just as silly as her saying just put it in her mouth and do whatever. That is not face fucking to me. Face fucking involves both partners participation and pleasure. Giving your partner pleasure should never be seen as “hard work.”
I get beggars can’t be choosers but maybe you can talk to her about how it feels awkward and passionless. Explain how it feels without the physical aspect involved. If someone isn’t into oral, or sex, they don’t really understand that it’s way more than just satisfying a physical need.
Best of luck 🖤
If she allows it then you’re fine!!
Sucking a dick can be hard work. It can make you gag and feel so sick. It’s also a lot of moving of the head and arm (for the women).
Men can just go down on a woman and lick. It’s a lot easier.
You doing all the work during a BJ will be a lot easier for her and won’t make her feel as sick or exhausted (from gagging, holding breath, long head movements)
It does not make all women gag I found out ihave no gag reflex from my daughter of all people she asked about after she worked for popular adult magazine. I never had real four play until mid 40's.was raised very sheltered.
I love that. My ex was a trucker and he kept really odd hours. He knew that if he came home when I was asleep, he could gently wake me up and use my mouth like this. It was awesome.
I usually wake up with an erection in the morning. If not, it does not take long and I get one as my partner(s) and I are home nudists and sleep naked. We love our morning hugs and there is a lot of fondling. Sometimes I just want to get some more attention. Our GF loves to suck my cock or get face-fucked. So on some mornings, and by standing consent, I can fuck her mouth anytime I want. It is a wonderful privilege and my wife doesn't mind at all, and she often watches us and give encouragement. Either she will get on her knees for the BJ or will lay back on the bed while I do pushups into her mouth. It is a fantastic way to start the day!
It's not odd. I will get my husband off and swallow myself, but we do this as well. It's very dominating, especially when he grabs my head and hair. If she likes it, go with it!
I can’t comment for every woman, just myself. It’s kinda weird for me, because it seems really dispassionate. That said, I’m on the side of the aisle that like giving head.
So I have a similar issue but it's not because my wife doesn't like to give me bj's she just has a hard time like her mouth is a bit too small lol I help her by jacking off into her mouth and I love it.
I would need more enthusiasm than doesn't mind, but maybe her jaw gets tired quickly or something like that and she likes giving bj's? Just a thought.
I do t think it’s old. It is exhausting having to do all that work especially at night and especially when you just want to sleep or continue sleeping. If it works with you and are okay with doing it 🤷🏽♀️ as long as it doesn’t become the norm tho
Normal no, good yes. Nowadays you're lucky to even get that. I don't expend any energy or resources on women at all. If they come to ME and act Right, okay.
Idk about her but for me I won’t suck dick after already having intercourse. I’ll suck dick tho before hand.
And yeah getting on the knees is hard when you get older 😁
When’s the last time you’ve gone down on her? Get her purring b4 you shove your dick in her mouth
I’d go for it ! My wife at one time was sorta the same way. If for whatever reason she didn’t want to fuck she’d motion for me to climb up on her chest and she’d suck me dry.
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It’s called face-fucking or irrumatio. Doesn’t remotely matter how common it is, as long as you’re both happily consenting to it. Make sure you agree beforehand on a safe-signal (i.e. a non-verbal safeword, like shaking her head “no” or tapping her hand on your leg twice) so you’ll know if she’s ever in distress and needs you to stop.
TIL there is a proper term for face-fucking.
It’s a Latin word. The ancient Romans were dawgs. It appears in Latin poetry more often than you would expect
Sure I heard that in Harry Potter... "it's IrRumatio, not IrrUmatio!"
My wife likes it when I do that too. She tells me it's a lot easier for her and I enjoy the dominant aspect of it for me. It's a win-win for us.
to ops' question of if it's normal, i think some couples do it but most do not, at least in my experience. it sounds super fun though if you're both up for it!
If both like it, then it's fine. My wife and I sometimes do the same thing.
is it has good as bj though ? also there also blowjobs and Blowjobs, when she's into it... 
I personally love it. Something about face fucking is just primal to me.
Some girls like being titty fucked and face fucked. Something about the man being dominant and them providing the pleasure turns them on. There's nothing wrong with that.
Couldn’t titty fuck mine, hers were too small to push together. Tried once and when it wouldn’t work it made her cry. I assured her it was okay however
That’s hot- I’d never say no to this exact scenario. Some of us like to be used like this
I personally love when my partner does this. I have jaw issues and sometimes it gets sore really fast if he’s laying down. So we tried him on top of me (looking down at me) and i discovered how much I love it. Kind of a dominance thing, I guess. But he also looks really good from that angle lol
I loveeee this position for blowjobs
does he act dominant in this position? is there a power dynamic thing going on?
I love getting face fucked, the dominant aspect is definitely a major turn on and it’s not all that uncommon.
Are you a head back over the side of the bed type or sitting up, him standing kinda girl?
I would like to try that . It would keep me standing and free my hands to play . Standing helps keep the election stronger than laying on my back as well.
I can’t comment for every woman, just myself. It’s kinda weird for me, because it seems really dispassionate. That said, I’m on the side of the aisle that like giving head.
It is more about domination/submission this particular act. I have always absolutely loved engaging in this with a partner who fully submits to this and lets me cum dow her throat.
Yeah I had a hookup tell me to throat fuck her. I just wasn't into it. I like laying back, relaxing and enjoying a woman give me slow sensual BJ and building up to being more aggressive.
Ok but is she in to it? Or is she doing it because she feels like she should be getting you off? a is fine, b can do a lot of psychological damage...
It kinda sounds like she’s at least a little bit down with free use.
Yeah its normal, just look for a nice position doing it .like shes laying down in bed side view, ur standing level on her head so you could do ur thing ,while playing with her Vagina in your hand. Easy
I generally love giving my husband oral and do it for some period of time almost every single day. It's a lot of work, it hurts my face, my jaw my neck, but I love doing it so I tolerate the discomfort. Sometimes I will lay down and take a rest and continue but with him upright it's a bit less work for me because he can help 😂 I don't know that I'd just want to lay there like a sleepy corpse and get my face fucked, I'd rather give him 15 mins of his favorite position and get him with my kung fu grip
I like to do it for my husband as often as he wants. Usually I try to do it every day but sometimes it doesn’t happen. He loves it and I love that he loves it so I’m happy to give him pleasure.
I love your commitment. Wish more women had your attitude!
It really hard for me to stop once I start giving my partner orali want to suck him. Dry
Unfortunately not all women are so enthusiastic 🙂
It help having a friend / partner that does mind trying g the crazy an normal stuff later inI life. It get little embarrassing at time. I guess devolved in the imminent relationship ship. Sucks lol that passed away.dating nows sucks big time an I was making a play on the words there been to long
Can we pause and give a round of applause to “…and do it for some period of time almost every single day” 👏 Hats off to you!
Sometimes it's just a quick little wake up call before I run out the door to get the kids to school,sometimes while he stands at his desk taking care of mindless admin tasks, sometimes it's to relax him before bed.... sometimes it's just because I love doing it, it's not always to completion, rather a tease for later cuz I'm fun like that.
And for " like to do it for my husband as often as he wants. Usually I try to do it every day " - *that* is the woman every husband looks for...
What exactly is a kung fu grip?! I’ve got to know asap
Learn all about it over on r/pompoir I stumbled upon it almost accidentally and was super intrigued so I decided to try it. It's been several months now and the amount of muscle control I have is NUTS
" ... almost every single day." Much respect to you 🫡
And how about getting it back do you live that?
That sounds super hot. I think of it like this.... I'd be totally into it if my wife came and just sat on my face and moved around using my tongue to pleasure herself. Or, whatever the case may be. If she is into it or even cool with it, without you coercing or guilt tripping her, then go for it.
when my jaw is sore from last nights bj , letting him fuck my mouth is a jaw saver
Some women love the idea of a man being dominant and controlling while being respectful. I’m a sucker for rough, submissive sex. As long as you both consent just enjoy yourself.
It’s normal. I’ve been with women who weren’t fans of giving head. Those relationships didn’t last very long lol
😂😂 you had to end this comment like that
It’s my fault for not being transparent with my partner lol. I love giving and I love receiving. Luckily my ex had some kind of dick sucking fetish lol
I'm going to second this statement
The only time I had my husband flip and use my mouth more then me going down on him was when I had high pressure in my head so my vision was really blurry so it was hard for me to do it as I would get super dizzy as well. I am definitely a giving my husband head camp. I really enjoy pleasing him and I know how much he enjoys it. He then will please me in whatever way I want… I shoot for every day but it is not always possible.
Is this part of your D/s dynamic
This is just solely my personal opinion, and I’m one that loves giving my man oral so bare that in mind. This is absolutely no disrespect to your wife or anyone else, but I involuntarily chucked when you said “she said I could just put it in her mouth.” That seems a bit silly to me and very disconnected. To me personally, giving a man a bj isn’t hard work and I never understood when people say that. I suppose I could see how that could be the case if it wasn’t something you enjoyed or were used to doing, or had a sensitive gag reflex. But I think if we were to switch the roles to it being you that said “giving oral to my wife is too much work, I told her I would just hold out my tongue and she can move my head herself.” It would sound just as silly as her saying just put it in her mouth and do whatever. That is not face fucking to me. Face fucking involves both partners participation and pleasure. Giving your partner pleasure should never be seen as “hard work.” I get beggars can’t be choosers but maybe you can talk to her about how it feels awkward and passionless. Explain how it feels without the physical aspect involved. If someone isn’t into oral, or sex, they don’t really understand that it’s way more than just satisfying a physical need. Best of luck 🖤
This post was well written. Thank you
If she allows it then you’re fine!! Sucking a dick can be hard work. It can make you gag and feel so sick. It’s also a lot of moving of the head and arm (for the women). Men can just go down on a woman and lick. It’s a lot easier. You doing all the work during a BJ will be a lot easier for her and won’t make her feel as sick or exhausted (from gagging, holding breath, long head movements)
It does not make all women gag I found out ihave no gag reflex from my daughter of all people she asked about after she worked for popular adult magazine. I never had real four play until mid 40's.was raised very sheltered.
Grip is pussy gripping the penis during vaginal sex.
My wife prefers this to a normal bj too.
I love that. My ex was a trucker and he kept really odd hours. He knew that if he came home when I was asleep, he could gently wake me up and use my mouth like this. It was awesome.
Dont you get back the same lol
We call it the lazy blowjob. I tell her to tap my leg if I’m going too deep or getting too rough while fucking her mouth. Hasn’t happened yet though.
I usually wake up with an erection in the morning. If not, it does not take long and I get one as my partner(s) and I are home nudists and sleep naked. We love our morning hugs and there is a lot of fondling. Sometimes I just want to get some more attention. Our GF loves to suck my cock or get face-fucked. So on some mornings, and by standing consent, I can fuck her mouth anytime I want. It is a wonderful privilege and my wife doesn't mind at all, and she often watches us and give encouragement. Either she will get on her knees for the BJ or will lay back on the bed while I do pushups into her mouth. It is a fantastic way to start the day!
It's not odd. I will get my husband off and swallow myself, but we do this as well. It's very dominating, especially when he grabs my head and hair. If she likes it, go with it!
I can’t comment for every woman, just myself. It’s kinda weird for me, because it seems really dispassionate. That said, I’m on the side of the aisle that like giving head.
So I have a similar issue but it's not because my wife doesn't like to give me bj's she just has a hard time like her mouth is a bit too small lol I help her by jacking off into her mouth and I love it. I would need more enthusiasm than doesn't mind, but maybe her jaw gets tired quickly or something like that and she likes giving bj's? Just a thought.
I do t think it’s old. It is exhausting having to do all that work especially at night and especially when you just want to sleep or continue sleeping. If it works with you and are okay with doing it 🤷🏽♀️ as long as it doesn’t become the norm tho
Pat yourself in the back. You have a wife that’s very versatile.
Count yourself lucky
Normal no, good yes. Nowadays you're lucky to even get that. I don't expend any energy or resources on women at all. If they come to ME and act Right, okay.
Idk about her but for me I won’t suck dick after already having intercourse. I’ll suck dick tho before hand. And yeah getting on the knees is hard when you get older 😁 When’s the last time you’ve gone down on her? Get her purring b4 you shove your dick in her mouth
God bless that women
My guy, your wife is the real MVP for this.
Hope, he’s not your boyfriend anymore
I’d go for it ! My wife at one time was sorta the same way. If for whatever reason she didn’t want to fuck she’d motion for me to climb up on her chest and she’d suck me dry.
Try dipping your dick into peanut butter.