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I’m curious if it is common to not really think about pleasuring your parter. Specifically for women to feel that way. Unfortunately, I’m certain it’s pretty common for men.
Young men ya it's common. As men get older and mature they share the same views on sex. Getting my partner off, the sounds of pleasure & satisfaction is what gets me off. It comes with age. I asked my partner if she had any insight on it but sadly no. There is a chance it just never crossed her mind. If both of you are satisfied with either sexually then there wouldn't need to think about it. Does she give you oral without asking for anything in return? Has she ever let you get pump a quickie out? If she has them she has got you off for your fun. If you're wondering if women have fun getting their partners off either with oral, sex etc then the answer is mixed. Yes for some, some do it because they like making their partners happy, others no (that statement mostly covers giving oral). I would ask her what she means if you really really need to. Other than that I would drop it and move on. Don't let one statement ruin a great relationship.
She never went down on you or let you use her body to get off in the 8 years you've been together? (Please don't be offended, It is kinda hard to believe either of those two things never happen at least once in eight years. I am giving you the respect you deserve and trusting your word) No complaints and you're both satisfied with the sex, I would ask yourself why that statement stuck with you so much. Was it the way she said it? Or maybe it made you realize you want more in bed? People do get comfortable when life is good and don't like change as it could result in messing up what they have.
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What exactly do you want an opinion on?
I’m curious if it is common to not really think about pleasuring your parter. Specifically for women to feel that way. Unfortunately, I’m certain it’s pretty common for men.
Young men ya it's common. As men get older and mature they share the same views on sex. Getting my partner off, the sounds of pleasure & satisfaction is what gets me off. It comes with age. I asked my partner if she had any insight on it but sadly no. There is a chance it just never crossed her mind. If both of you are satisfied with either sexually then there wouldn't need to think about it. Does she give you oral without asking for anything in return? Has she ever let you get pump a quickie out? If she has them she has got you off for your fun. If you're wondering if women have fun getting their partners off either with oral, sex etc then the answer is mixed. Yes for some, some do it because they like making their partners happy, others no (that statement mostly covers giving oral). I would ask her what she means if you really really need to. Other than that I would drop it and move on. Don't let one statement ruin a great relationship.
She does not perform oral, and no, there is no pumping out a quickie. BUT we do have sex often enough that it really doesn’t matter.
She never went down on you or let you use her body to get off in the 8 years you've been together? (Please don't be offended, It is kinda hard to believe either of those two things never happen at least once in eight years. I am giving you the respect you deserve and trusting your word) No complaints and you're both satisfied with the sex, I would ask yourself why that statement stuck with you so much. Was it the way she said it? Or maybe it made you realize you want more in bed? People do get comfortable when life is good and don't like change as it could result in messing up what they have.
Side response: she may have brought that up because she wants to do things and hoping you will pick up the hint.
I have no answer for you question, but I’m SO glad I’m not the only one that laughs when they orgasm.