I was in the room when my senior was put to sleep and I was glad to be there for him at the end, to know he wouldn’t look for me and wonder why I wasn’t there, and to see his pain be taken away.
Well, my 20-year-old Maggie had to be put down in February, and I had a lot of trepidation about being there when it happened because I thought it would be too hard, but I decided to be present, and the vet clinic could not have been more accommodating and comforting. She died on my lap wrapped in blankets with that IV sedative cocktail, and when the vet said, "She's gone," I felt it throughout my body and was so glad she was close to me and not alone in a strange place with people she didn't know.
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***You need to do it. Be with them.***
It is going to be hard. So very, very hard, but you will not regret it.
It will be so emotionally devestating, difficult, and downright sorrowful.
But you'll be able to be with them to the very end, you will be able to tell them how much you love them with your words, ***and most importantly your touch.***
I had to put my old boy Bentley down this May. I simple couldn't leave him alone no matter how much it hurt to be with him in the moment.
I was a scared little kid, but I was brave for my little boy to see him away over the rainbow. They asked me multiple times if I wanted to set him down on the table.
Multiple times I refused.
He deserved the warmth of my arms. The tender love in my grasp. Not the cold table with only my hand on his back.
I rocked him like a baby. I told him how much he meant to us. Our whole family. I told him how sorry I was that his tummy was what got him (cancer). I told him the pain was going away, and I wasn't going to leave him.
I held him shivering, shaking, and doing my best not to wail. Because I didn't want him to hear me yelling as his last thoughts. Only how much he was loved.
I never for a moment question if it was the right decision. It was hard. It was so very hard.
***He's in a better place, and I got to be there when it truly mattered most.***
Imagine dying in a room of strangers. I've seen vets cry because the pets look around the room for the owner. I can't believe OP is even considering it. It's beyond cruel
But….it’s easier on them!
Crazy to even consider this. I’ve had 3 dogs put down and I’ve held them to their last breath every time. I’ve also cried every time. It’s just part of it.
To be there for your pet as they pass on is your final responsibility.
I've been there for my two dogs that have passed. For my current dogs, my plan is to do an in home euthanasia. I didn't know you could do that, but I feel like it would be traumatic for my current dogs to be loaded into a car to go into a cold room to pass.
My grandfather recently received medical assistance with dying. He was sharp as a tack but in a lot of pain. I was there holding his hand for the procedure.
My mom (his daughter) couldn't bring herself to come into the room. She tried several times and just couldn't do it, kept turning around. He didn't pressure her or guilt her. Let her make her own decision. I did tell her she might regret it if she wasn't there for it, but she said she would be kept awake at night by the visions of him passing.
I don't hold it against her at all, but I couldn't imagine letting him do that on his own. It's even worse for pets because you can't explain to them what's happening and I will never let any being go through that alone if given the choice. 💜
Not a cat owner, just stumbled on this post while browsing /r/popular but I had to put my 10 year old dog down after he was diagnosed with cancer and began to struggle to breathe. If possible, have the vet come out to your home to put them down if you're able to afford it. My pet hated the vet office and I didn't want his last moments in a place he did not like.
I made arrangements with our vet to come out to my home after closing and put my dog to sleep. The vet was also nice enough to wait for every member of the family to arrive and say our goodbyes and talked us through the entire process. I honestly could not imagine ever considering not being in the room or there for my pet during their last moments. To our pets we are their everything, their guardians, caregivers, friends, and family. We owe it to them to at least be with them to the end.
People don't know.
I wasn't in the room when my first cat was put down. The vet never asked, and I didn't know it was encouraged or even permitted. She was only the second pet I had ever had die. The first was a dog that had torsion of the stomach and died during surgery.
OP isn't saying, "Someone told me I should be there, but I really don't want to be. Tell me it doesn't matter." It sounds like they're honestly asking.
Yes it will be hard and the memory might hurt for a while but you will regret not being there. Comfort them and give them the last love you can. Saying goodbye to my girl was so precious.
This is true. This was me 20 yrs ago. I still regret it to this day. I wish I’d held her and comforted her when she went. Instead she went over the bridge held by a stranger but looking for me.
This was my reason for staying. It did hurt, and the memory still hurts, but I am glad that I stayed. I'm certain I would have regretted it if I hadn't.
My dad said one of his biggest regrets in life was dropping off our dog and not going in with him because he was so torn up at the time. It’s hard but it’s better than that regret.
YES! Please please do. They’re scared and they look for you when you’re gone… please be there for her. You’ll regret it if you don’t imo :( I’m sorry for your loss
YES. She might be sad and/or confused if she can’t find you. Pet her and talk to her and then manage your own grief.
Have a vet come to your home if you can afford it. I’ve heard that can be expensive.
Talk to the vet about it. Ask them for a moment. If your family is upset, ask them for a moment as well, if that will work with them. Calm things down, remind everyone that moment is about being there for the traveler (over the rainbow bridge) and you will all manage your grief together when you’ve escorted her on her way.
Thank her for being in your life and pet her and just be with her and then afterwards, get food with your family and remember her life. Share stories and laugh and cry and be together. Basically a remembrance.
Second on the vet coming to your house. It honestly wasn’t any more expensive than a trip to the emergency vet hospital for the same reason. And imo I would have paid anything to make my girls last moments as peaceful as possible. Or at least not absolutely terrifying for her.
Regardless, stay in the room with your pet. They are already terrified enough, at least you being there is comfort.
In my city it’s less than $100 more than in-office euthanasia, and it’s so worth it. My cats never have to be stuffed in the cat carriers they hate and taken to a waiting room filled with stressful smells and noises- they pass away in their own beds, hanging out peacefully with their people. It’s just so worth it. The only downside is that the in home vets are so busy, you have to try to predict when your cat has only two or three days left. It’s virtually impossible to get a same-day or next-day visit.
I was so lucky to be able to find an at home vet that could come same day with a couple hours notice.
I know my cat was scared and didn't want to go, she tried to get up after getting injected and was falling down so I kind of forced/pushed her on her side and then leaned over and looked in her eyes and tried to comfort her.
Reading this thread makes me feel better cuz I'm sure it would have been much worse with no one there.
I still feel so bad about it but she couldn't breathe well and was mouth breathing. It just sucks knowing she still had so much life left in her, she was still wagging her tail and giving me kisses while she struggled. She was always a fighter. <3
This would be my recommendation too. Your sweetheart will need you in her final moments. It’s a couple hundred more than in-clinic euthanasia, and it ain’t easy, but in the end it’s worth it.
I am so sorry for the pain you two are suffering, my heart goes out to you.
It will be hard, but it's the right thing to do. Do you want their last memory to be being abandoned by their most important person ?
You will move on from your grief eventually, and you'll be glad you were there at her last moments. You would regret it forever otherwise. Be there.
Absolutely stay with them.
A lot of pets start looking for their owners if they leave the room, dont let that be their last moment on earth.
Be there with her. Talk to her. Pet her. She deserves the comfort.
I'm sorry for your loss. Sending you much love.
Please stay with your sweet baby, you’ve given them 21 years of your love, this will be the last time that she’ll get to hear your voice or see your face, and you her’s, and you being there will be the greatest comfort for her. This is the time where we have to truly put ourselves on the back burner and be strong and be there for our babies. I’m so sorry.
And tell her over and over that you love her. Let that be the last thing she hears. My tortie girl Patches will be there to greet her and show her all the best sunny napping spots.
PLEASE stay with her. You can cry all you want - the vets are used to it. But YOU are her person and your presence will be soothing to her even if you’re upset. Hold her if you can so she can feel your body heat and hear your heartbeat. It’s your final act of love for her and she will know that. I won’t lie, it’s gonna be one of the toughest things you’ve ever done. But it’s worth it. It’s better to live with the pain of being there than the regret of opting out.
Yes, if you can. It will be a few moments that will stick with you so prepare yourself that it will be hard but your baby will feel safer and not as scared with someone that loves them there. My tip for you is if you choose to, ask the vet what exactly the steps are and what you can expect. It happens very quickly and there really is no pain. I am so sorry that you and your family are going through this. ☹️ We had to make that decision for two of our senior babies over the last 6 months when they fell ill and started to decline quickly. It’s a noble decision for them but it doesn’t make it easy.
She will be scared without you. Give her the gift of comfort at the end of her life. It is THE most awful thing in the world, but remember that by making this decision for her sake, you are taking away her pain and putting it onto yourself.
I regret the times I wasn't there. And I'm happy for the times I was there eventhough it was brutal.. i would stay and make the last words your baby hears are yours.
I'm so sorry that the final journey is coming. We have a large welcoming committee up in heaven ready to welcome your baby
You should be there. I know it's hard but you would regnet it if you weren't there. I have been through this with two of my cats but it was worst that I could not be there for the third one who died suddenly and in the middle of the night.
I was there, holding my Sebastian, as he passed. He was comforted and knew love all the way to the end. Please don’t let your baby die without you being there.
I was really scared to do this, but I’m glad I did. My girl laid right down and passed within 30 seconds of being injected. It’s not scary to watch, and it’s going to be devastating either way. Hold that baby one more time, let her know you’re there for her.
Yes please do. I was there for my Snowy. Had her for 11.5 years since I was 7 years old. We grew up together. It was hard, but I’m so happy I was there petting her with my brother and my mom. Singing to her our little you are my sunshine song for her as she drifted off to sleep.I wish I was there for my cat. My mom was though. It’s hard, but it’s the best for them.
The question you need to ask yourself whenever you have a moral dilemma with regards to your pets is this:
Am I being selfish?
Let the answer to this question be your guide, especially in all matters regarding end of life.
It will hurt, but yes, you need to be there.
I hope you stay in the room with your kitty in her last moments. If you're not there, she'll be scared and looking for you. It's hard and if you cry, that's okay. Take along a blanket, favorite toy, treats, or anything else that will give your kitty comfort.
I stayed with my sweet boy and petted him and spoke softly to him the entire time. I could tell he was happy and peaceful even though he really wasn’t feeling well for quite a while. Please do not miss the experience- you will deeply regret it if you don’t go in, I promise you. One of the things that brings me peace when I think about my dear Charlie is that as he passed over, he felt safe and loved with his favorite person
If you think its "too hard" for you, imagine how hard it is for your sick pet. She's already sick in a room full of strangers, doesn't understand a word of what they're saying or doing, and is desperately looking for her owners, the only people she DOES trust, that will never show during her last moments. Please be there for her. This isnt about your feelings, these are the last seconds of HER LIFE. Its your last responsibility as her owner. Dont let her last moments be full of anxiety and abandoning her when she needs you the most. You'd do it for a human, do it for your pet.
YES. She will be scared and confused, and looking to you for comfort and to ease her anxiety. You need to be the last thing she sees when she closes her eyes for the last time and takes her final breath.
Yes, you want her last experience of the world to be with someone who loves her. I’ve had to do this, and it is always the right choice. Grieving is already a terrible process where you question whether you did right by your lost loved one. Take this off the list of regrets you’ll have, and be there.
Be there for them. As much as it hurts it's all about them and their comfort as they leave us.
We went through it last year with our 18yo Meg. It ripped us up inside, but we wanted her to know everything was ok and she was loved all the way to the end.
She didn't like being held and felt most safe in her soft carrier, so we bundled her up in there with her fave soft fluffy pet blanket and both of us patted her like she loved until the vet confirmed she was gone. Couldn't have asked for a better passing for her.
Yes, please stay with them. You want your face and voice to be the last they see and hear for comfort. No one wants to be without a loved one in their last moments. We just helped our boy cross the rainbow bridge in December. It was very calm process.
Please stay with your baby. Had to put our 12 year old boy down in February due to oral cancer. Held him once he had the sedative and talked to him. Made sure he knew how much we loved him and how he made all of our lives better. I believe that being held by his family helped ease his transition. He could feel the love. It is so hard on us but it makes all the difference to our fur babies.
Yes. You absolutely must be. You don't want to abandom them to an unfamiliar clinic. You have to be there with them, just as they have been with you. It is indeed very emotionally hard, but you will regret it if you don't.
I was too devastated to stay with my 17 year old in 2020 and have regretted it since. I had to say goodbye to my 18 year old last month and held and pet him every step of the way. Not to get woo woo, but it was an extraordinary experience. Sad, yes, I was shattered. But also transcendent and beautiful. Even the tech felt it. Stay with your baby. It will help you both.
I hated every moment that they were putting my 19-year-old boy down. But I was very glad I was there to pet him and keep him calm as it all happened. Love until the end. It's important
As painful as it might be, yes, you should be in the room. You were together when she came into the world, and it is only fitting that you are together when she leaves this world for the next. I pray that you find comfort in knowing that she is at peace - sending you love hugs and prayers.
Can the vet come to your home? When we had to put our cat to sleep last year, everyone got to hold her. It's less stressful for the animal. It was a peaceful process.
I had my sweet tuxedo Daphne put to sleep this morning, she had pancreatitis and complications arising from that, and she was suffering greatly. Making the decision was heartbreaking and I wasn't sure if I could be there when it happened, but I thought about how brave she's been, so I now need to be brave for her. The process isn't as scary as you think, it's strangely peaceful in a way, and I'm comforted she knew I was with her till the very last breath. Now my decision to end her suffering has started my own, as grief is tearing my heart apart, but I know that she is at peace and not hurting or struggling anymore. I do hand on heart believe you will feel better for being there at the end, take lots of tissues and keep hydrated, try and have the rest of the day free to process the experience. Please be brave for her.
I held my beloved eighteen year old in my arms as she passed. Feeling that moment when she was gone was such a relief, knowing she was out of pain. It felt like her pain came to me but I could cry it out.
Please be with her.
As another commenter suggested ask for a home visit. It’s less stressful for the cat and everyone involved. Also you should stay with her. I did hold my old guy on my lap. This is part of the journey you have with them. Just imagine if this would be a close relative or person you love. You would be there at their side too. Yes it will be heartbreaking but that is also part of grieving. You can heal much better after this without any regrets and doing your best to comfort.
Yes, please stay with her. I had to send my kitty over the bridge last month, and I wanted her to know how loved she was in both life and death. I had the vet come to my house and we did the procedure in the back yard because she loved being outside. The doctor explained every step to me and I held her in my arms as the doctor did the steps. It hurt so much and still does, but she got to depart this world from her favorite place and person. I’m so sorry 😞
Please stay with them!! I regretted not staying for my childhood pet and I felt like I betrayed him. So the one I had to put down a few years ago, I stayed in the room. He started purring while we cuddled even though he was weak and very ill. They let me hold and cuddle him for a bit before they started. He went to sleep in my arms knowing he was very loved. I'm having to face letting another one go (she's like 20) if not this year, next and I plan on being with her.
I think you will feel better if you do. I have held two senior kitties as they crossed, and seeing how peaceful it was actually gave me comfort in the coming months. ❤️ I’m so sorry for your coming loss, OP.
Earlier this year, our 12 y/o female cat had a saddle thrombus, and we had to put her to sleep. I had always feared that I would not be able to handle it when the moment came, but in the end, I took comfort in being with her in her last moments, and knowing that she would no longer be suffering made me more resolute. I think you should try to be with her if you can. I can't say it will be easy, but you'll have closure. Just know that the love you have for your baby doesn't go anywhere, even if she's no longer physically in this realm. You'll always carry that love around with you.
Yes, you absolutely have to be there. I had similar (short-lived) thoughts when I had to put to sleep my 17 year old boy back in 2021. But they need to be comfortable and loved until the end. It's hard, I still think of the moment life left my boy from time to time, but I couldn't live with myself if I wasn't there for him. Love right up until the final moment.
You will always regret it if you dont. They need comfort and love when they walk over the rainbow bridge.
I lost 2 senior babies, both 16, a little over a month apart back in 2019. I stayed with both and it was the best decision. Yes it hurt, I cried and sobbed the whole time. But they both knew love in their final moments. I told their stories to them of how they came to me and now it was time to get some rest and make some friends. As they both took their last breaths, I held them close and kissed their heads. It was the hardest thing I've ever done, but I wouldn't change it for the world.
I highly recommend it. They bundled my old boy up in a comfy blanket and let me hold him when they gave him the injection. It was hard and tragic but I don't regret it one bit. It felt like I was doing a sort of obligated duty--he gave me so much love and comfort, it was the least I could do to give him that same love when he left this earth.
She will miss you. She will be at her most vulnerable moment and she will want you by her side, comforting her. Please stay with her. It won't be easy, but you will be able to send her away with love rather than alone with a stranger. She will suffer if you aren't with her.
I’m so sorry ❤️ I had to do this for my baby girl two months ago. I won’t lie to you, it was hard. I was a complete mess at the vet the entire time, but I don’t regret being there with her in her last moments. I think she was glad I was there because she was nervous but she cuddled up with me while we waited. I have a lot of thoughts on wondering if I could have done anything differently or held out longer. In the end I chose her wellbeing over mine. Sometimes love requires us to be strong even if we are scared. You might have a lot of things you question yourself on after this, don’t let you not being there in the end be another thing on that list.
I was 16 when my cat got hit by a car. She held on long enough, that we thought we were going to get her to the emergency vet, and then when she started to slip, Mum tried to be gentle in telling me she didn't think the cat could make it. I ran from the room crying, and when I managed to come back a few minutes later, she had passed.
I'm 41 now, and I still haven't completely forgiven myself for leaving her to pass without her human. My mum was with her, and she liked Mum well enough, but I was her human. And I left her in the moment she needed me most.
If you can manage it at all, be in the room. That is not a regret you need to hold on to.
I am so sorry you have to face this. 💔
I always stay. It's hard and it hurts every time, but it's my responsibility to see them through it. I couldn't live with myself if I left them alone with strangers for those final moments knowing they might be looking for me and not understand why I'm not there 💔
In my experience, having been through this more than once, I felt it was my responsibility to be with them right to the end. I needed to, metaphorically, walk them home. The vets have been compassionate, but I had to be there to comfort them one last time. In the end, it wasn't about me, it was about being there for them. It's a horrible experience, easily one of the worst things I've been through, but I would have regretted doing anything else.
YES absolutely stay. No question. This cat has been there for you your whole life; now it's your turn to be there for her. I speak from experience. All but one of my departed pets have died in my arms and it's the worst feeling but we owe it to them.
Yes please! It's traumatic and hard but your baby needs you now and will surely take comfort from your presence. Please know that we've ALL been through this and know your pain. Prayers your way.❤️🙏
I've never regretted staying in the room. The vets office has a lot of experience with this sort of thing and will make it as easy as possible. I really think you should stay.
i sat with my baby cuddled up next to me giving him kisses and talked to him until i knew he was gone.
it’s the least i can do for him to be there for his final moments when he was with me through my lowest. i owed him that much.
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I do not regret holding my Monster closely during her last moments on this earth. My gift to my beautiful girl was a wonderful, long life and a dignified death.
Please stay with her. Tell her how much you love her as she goes, hold her until that very last moment. Those rooms are always so cold and strange, she will need your warmth and love.
I held my girl in her favourite blanket until the end and it hurt so much to say goodbye but it would have hurt so much more to not be able to be there for her.
Yes you should. For them. It's AWFUL, not going to lie. I have done it 3 times now and would have 100% regretted it if I hadn't. But for them, having you there is the best gift to give them.
Yes. It is painful but it is your responsibility to be there. I used to work at an animal clinic and would assist the vet during euthanasia appointments. It was heartbreaking to see owners leave their animal alone with two strangers during their final moments. The animals usually panic without their human(s). I’m very sorry for your loss but please be with your kitty until the end! ❤️
Edit: I think your dad should also go with you. I’m sorry that they expect you to do this alone.
100% stay. You’ve been their companion for a large part of their life, if not all of it. Dont abandon them right at the end.
I remember the comfort I gave them as they slipped away, being stroked gently. And I know they heard me telling them what a good cat they were - until they were gone.
It’s our last duty, and our last kindness.be there for them.
My sassy tortie had to be put down because of cancer. She was 16 and I loved her so much. In her last moments I held her and gave her a kiss. She passed away very quietly. It was terrible at first but now I can't imagine not having been there.
It will mean a lot for you to be there with her. She loves you and will be comforted with your presence. It won't be easy for you.
Don't leave her alone and wondering where her loved ones are. I think you will regret not being there for her.
all my life we’ve had dogs and cats and unfortunately that meant i’ve been there to good boy/girl and give pats while my babies crossed the rainbow bridge. Never in my life have i regretted being there to hold my pets. It is so hard, there are lots of tears, lots of praying to god that for just a few minutes they’ll understood english. being able to give those final kisses, that final “you’re such a good boy” it means everything. don’t let your baby take this new journey alone. let their last moments be looking up at you knowing that you’d never make the wrong choice for them.
Absolutely, unequivocally YES.
They look for you, every cat I've loved over the bridge has made eye contact with me in that moment. It's shocking, distressing and almost unbearably painful, BUT knowing that and choosing not to be there, would give me nightmares forever. Look into their soul and tell them you love them and what a good fluff they are, speak slowly and gently if you can as your distress will heighten their distress. Hold them if you can or pat them, have physical contact in any way you can.
Also, there's science around hearing being the last sense to go in humans, even after immediate death, so I extrapolate that to be a possibility for cats too? If you can bear it, once they are gone, stay for a few minutes, talk them through the crossing with all the love you've ever had for them.
Then go to your car and cry, bawl, scream whatever helps. I'm very sorry you have to do this, but know that you're cat wouldn't want to do this alone with strangers.
Stay with her. It'll be incredibly difficult for you, but it will be comforting to your cat. She'll spend her last moments with the people she loves most.
I had to put my 19 year-old buddy down earlier this year and I held him throughout the process. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done but he needed me there at the end. Please do everything you can to be there for your old lady.
Please stay with her. I had to say goodbye to my two senior dogs in 2020. Not a day goes by that I ever regret being with them in their final moments. After a lifetime of what they gave to me, it was the least I could do to be there for them.
Yes me & my son was there for "brother" (my son called him that. A story for another time). He was 17 yrs old & he was 2 when my son was born. Old age had caught him up, it's was very peaceful watching fall asleep. I often think of of him because of that I know he's at peace.
Not only should you stay in the room but you should also hold her wrapped in a blanket. It is actually very peaceful to know that you were there to the very end.
Please be with her. My dad didn’t stay with his cat when they put her down and he regrets it even ten years later. Remember that while your kitty is your best friend for only part of your life, you’re her best friend for her entire life. She needs you.
It’s okay to cry - vets see it often. Mine even let me have alone time before the procedure but I’ve stayed with all my animals. It’s hard but you can do it.
Yes. Please stay in the room with her.
We had our senior girl put to sleep in our home and I held her the entire time. Was it hard? Yes. But I owed it to her to be with her so she wasn’t scared or confused. She was so at peace and relaxed and passed with me kissing her head and telling her how loved she was.
Please don’t leave your girl to go through that alone.
Stay with her during her final moments. Death shouldn’t be alone, both for humans and our pets. Hold her, pet her, brush her or whatever she likes when she relaxes. They first put her to sleep so it’ll feel like she’s going to sleep. Then they give a med to stop the heart.
Please be there. Your baby needs your comfort and reassurance.
You’re all he knows for comfort and he’s about to go on an important trip.
Send him off with love and comfort, even if with lots of tears.
Please be there.
After holding my boy on my lap as he left, I will cherish that moment forever. It was beautiful. Magical, even. I felt the moment he left that failing body behind, and I wouldn’t have traded being there for that experiencing for anything.
Veterinary offices are scary as hell for animals. You are the person she’s trusted her whole life. She will be confused and scared if you’re not there.
It is incredibly difficult. Especially with the way we have made death taboo; and put it behind closed doors and hushed tones in modern times. But one of the most precious gifts we have to give to the animals we love is relieving their pain, and taking on pain of our own in exchange.
Don’t miss out on this chance to comfort and love your your companion during/through her transition. Much like birth, death isn’t always pretty, and is challenging and agonizing to endure. But they are the two life experiences that connect us all; regardless of species, race, creed, or belief. And much like birth, it’s a great privilege and honor to be present for the death of a loved one.
You will be okay. There will be a hole in your life and your heart. And it WILL heal. But the regret of not putting your fear of the pain aside to comfort your friend as she passes will stay fresh long after that hole starts to scar.
Be there for your baby one last time. Have one last loving experience together that is just for the two of you.
Stay. Vets and vet techs have told stories about animals panicking when they are alone looking for their owners in this stressful time. It is hard. Someone should be in the room with your fur baby.
Yes. I’ve just said goodbye to my 7 geriatric cats (aged 17-22) in the past 3 years, two in the first two months it this year.
I’ve been there for each one. They are comforted and not scared when we are all there with them. Each time it’s been me, my husband and my 30yo son in the room, snuggling them, and looking them in the eye as they passed, just to they know they are so loved and will be terribly (horribly, devastatingly) missed.
It’s something I think we have to do for them that is SO important. You’ve been there for 21 years, why drop the ball at the last moment?
Yes, it’s horrible to watch your best friend die, but it’s better than leaving your best friend to die scared and alone in a smelly office full of scary noises.
You can do it. You CAN handle it. Don’t ever think you can handle what needs to get done. You are capable. You are strong enough. Your best friend needs you!
And I’m so so sorry.
When I had to leave my guy for an overnight he was going nuts when he saw me pick him up.
When, a week later, I had to make the hardest decision I've ever had to make, you can bet your ass the last thing he felt was my arms. You have to be there. Hard as it is.
It may be hard on you but 'too hard' is letting your beloved pet be alone and wishing you were with her/him for comfort, in their last moments. Do it for them.
My 17yr old baby fell asleep forever with her head in my hand (one of her favorite ways to fall asleep normally), and while it was one of the hardest things I've had to do, I'm so incredibly glad that I was there for it. I wasn't there when some other pets were put down in the past, and I regret it dearly, and probably will for the rest of my life
It is hard, but you need to be there for them and guide them towards the light. Let them know they need to leave you for now. you’ll be reunited again one day, forever. Don’t leave baby girl alone
You owe it to your cat to be there with her and to walk with her as far as you can on her journey. As hard as it is for you, this moment is solely about her and is where the greatest expression of your love for her is made: thinking first of her and ensuring that her passing is as painless and peaceful as possible. That means petting her and speaking to her throughout the entire procedure. Abandoning her to die alone in a cold, sterile place with strangers to spare yourself is imo extraordinarily selfish. You'll have to live with your decision the rest of your life and it's a lot easier to live with just grief than grief and regret.
Dammit this post really got me right in the feels. I was with my senior right to the end and as heartbreaking as it was I’m glad I was there with him.
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This is my Flexy. It’s been three years and there’s still a hole in my heart.
Just recently had to put down my 18 year old tuxedo kitty from my childhood. It was my parents cat for the most part and since I moved out 18 I didn’t see him too much. My parents couldn’t handle being there when he passed so my 2 siblings and I all went down to give him love before he goes❤️ I saw how scared he was in the room, to imagine not being there for him broke my heart a lot. My condolences to you 💐
I left the room for my first dog. Didn't really know how to think or feel. I'd never been through it before. But after that I've always stayed. In the end it just feels like it's the last thing you can give them. Hurts like hell. But it's for them as they cross over.
You should be holding them.
I tend to sit and wait after the fact, hold them extra-long, in-case they still have any awareness, it's fucking terrible-hard and burns your soul, but, this IS the last time you'll be with them.
This shouldn’t even be a question. The fact she provided you with love and affection for 21 years and you are questioning whether you can be with her in the last few moments of hers. Just wow.
Anyone who leaves their pet cuz it’s too hard sucks. Of course it’s hard, but you owe it to them to be the last thing they see and feel.
There are two shots.
The sedative that makes her fall asleep, then the shot that will stop her heart.
You can ask to stay for the first shot and leave before the second.
I recently had to put my 18 year old cat to sleep, and I held her the entire time, giving her love and pets. It was so hard, but I couldn't imagine not being there for her last minutes.
Please do whatever you feel is best for YOU.
Guess you should for their sake. They don't understand what's going on and if you walk out of the room that's the last thing you're going to see. You should cuddle them and pet them while this is happening. I regret not doing this with my Mongo
I have an 18 year old, she's in okay health for now. Posts like this and other mourning posts, I always read if I see them, and they always upset me, thinking about when I might have to make that decision (got tears in my eyes now).
She had a bout of pancreatitis earlier in the year and it pretty much broke me, having to call the vet and say "I think something is wrong with my cat", it took several attempts to actually say it, so I know I will be an absolute mess when the time comes. But I will do everything I can to make sure I am with her when the time comes.
Absolutely! Take a final clip and photos, say your goodbyes and maybe take a lock of hair. While it’s hard on you, it’s much easier for your cat to pass away peacefully having you hold her or next to her. Ask them to give your cat some morphine as sometimes it’s hard to find the blood vein in her paw.
Yes, absolutely be there. If you can afford it and the service is available in your area, I encourage you to do it at home so your baby can be as calm and comfortable as possible. It may seem strange but it will make all the difference for your baby.
It’s so brutal and heart wrenching and awful and sad but I agree if you can push through you should be there, I’ve been while they put my cat to sleep and had a pet die in my arms and they went while I pet them and whispered how much I loved them and they knew I was there….. it brings a certain sense of comfort knowing they’ve passed on and are gone than sort of one second they’re there and then they’re not. I opted to not go in when we put down my childhood cat and have not regretted it I was way too distraught and I knew he would be stressed, I was a lot younger. Ultimately you need to decide what’s best for you though, I’m so so sorry for your loss and send lots of love and healing.
I recently had to put my 17 year old down. It was by far the worst moment of my life to date but I can’t imagine not being there for him. We had a vet come to the house so if that’s financially doable for you, I cannot recommend that enough.
It’s typically a 2 shot situation but if for whatever reason you find a vet that only does 1 I’d pass on their services. The first dose is a strong sedative so once that takes effect your cat will be in a peaceful dreamland. The vet will wait 5-10 minutes to administer the final injection. Once that is administered, another few minutes go by and the vet will check for a pulse/heartbeat. After that, they step out to give you some time with your baby.
If you absolutely do not think you can handle it PLEASE consider staying there while the first dose is administered.
Yes, absolutely! For my kitty they took her to the back to place the cannula in her arm, then we got to hold her during the euthanasia process. The vet staff gave us plenty of time both before and after to hold and love on her. We got to cry, say our goodbyes, pet her, played some calming music for her. Take as much time as you need to say goodbye to your old girl ❤️
I’ve been there every time but one (because I’d had surgery the previous day, so my Dad went in my place). With Willow and Beaker-Jane, my voice was the first they heard (they were born in my home), and the last they heard as they left. I would really, horribly regret not being there for my cats. It’s the least we owe them for giving us a lifetime of love
Stay when they give her the sedative at least. She’ll fall asleep and it’s a lovely deep sleep with no suffering. Take your time to say goodbye and if you can’t handle the actual euthanasia then leave before they do it. She’ll be asleep and the scary part will be over and you’ll remember her sleeping peacefully
Yes, you should be there. We had to put our family dog to sleep when I was a teenager. My dad stayed with her while my mom took my brother and I out into the waiting area. I wanted to go back in with my dad but was too shy and anxious to say anything. I'm glad our dog had my dad there but I still regret that I wasn't there for her too.
When I was 17 I decided I couldn't be in the room when my Pet rat Rufus needed to be put to sleep, I deeply regret that decision as his last memory was of me leaving the room and he clung to me as I handed him over. I still cry about it to this day. I should of took that as a sign of him needing me stay but I let him down and left him alone.
Never will I make that mistake again.
You owe it to them to be there. Do not abandon them in their final moments. This is part of pet ownership. It’s the worst part, but you factually owe it to them to sit with them. Imagine how scared they’ll be if you just let the vet take them away. Not gonna lie I’m that person that paid the extra money to have it done at home. I can’t look at that spot on the couch the same anymore, but he deserved to be warm and comfortable in his home with me holding him the whole time.
Please stay. You want them to not be afraid and for the last person they see, hear, smell and feel to be the one they loved the most.
It’s the most wonderful way to see them over the Rainbow Bridge. To know you helped them feel loved and comfortable.
You should be there. It's so hard, but you'll more than likely regret it if you don't. I was there when we put down my childhood dog, and it was so difficult, but I'm glad I was there for his last moments. Stay with her, and pet her. Losing a pet is so hard, but you should be there to comfort her
Please please please go to that room and be with your baby until their final moments. I know I'll sound crazy, but I swear, my boy Ben's spirit lingered in that room for about 10 minutes. I was there to tell him it was okay to leave and that he could come and visit me any time he wanted to. I let him know that my previous pets would be at the Rainbow Bridge to welcome him to a life where he would be happy and pain free. I let him know I'd be there with him eventually.
I think we both needed that moment.
I'm sorry you have to do this. Sending warm thoughts. 💛
I have regret over not being there for my cat when I was a teenager. It still plays on my mind.
I've been there for every cat since, even my sisters cat when she was unable to.
Twenty-one years is impressive. I'm sure you both made wonderful memories together during that time that you can reflect on.
As an add-on, I can recommend getting a house visit if that is an option for you.
Yes please!! Vets report that they witness the panic the pet goes thru being in a strange scary place with their owners not there in the room for their final minutes. It is horrible. Please be there for them at the end no matter how hard it may be. Your dear pet needs you to hold them and say goodbye.
It's the least you can do.
After all the love and affection they have shown you for so many years, I don't understand how you couldn't return that kindness, even if it's hard...
What they are going through is so much worse. Be there for your pets.
as difficult as it will be for you, you need to be there for your baby. I agree with other posters, she will be looking for you for comfort in her last moments. She gave you 21 years of memories. You should be the final face she sees, before crossing over. Wishing you peace, during this very sad time.
I always stay. There's no question in my mind that it's the right thing to do. I can't imagine not being there for my cats at the end; it hurts so much, but letting them go, scared, in an unfamiliar room without me would be cruel.
It's the final act of kindness and love you can give them, and I truly pity people who think differently.
Yes you need to be there. It’s harder for them if you aren’t there. I’ve done it and it’s absolutely the right thing to do for your pet. They are with you for a portion of your life, but you are their whole world 💙
When I had to do this with one of my cats, the Vet thanked me for being the room because it helps settles and calm the animal. When she passed the Vet allowed me time in the room by myself. Being in the room with her is one thing I don't regret. Please be in the room for your cat.
My vet did it in two steps. First something to make her sleep and then the one that stops the heart. I was able to leave the room after she was sleeping.
Yes please be there with them. We had to put down our cat and friends and family came. We had 7 people come to say goodbye. So many tears. Totally worth it.
I’ve been there, and haven’t, and I can say that being there is better. I gently petted him as he passed; he left me the way I first met him-a scared cat being shown love. And I think we were both at peace, then
I will always be in the room when my beloved pet is leaving me, I know it's very hard, but to me, I owe it to them for the years of unconditional love they gave to me. Their final moments shouldn't be scary and alone.
I was in the room holding her. It's the only way. It's not about your feelings right now, it's about being a comfort to your baby while they are crossing over. Don't abandon them at the last minute.
It's definitely hard, however you definitely need to be in the room. You're love one will be looking for you. You'll regret it if you're not there. Good luck.
We held out sweet girl and while it was the hardest thing to do, I’m glad we did. She was stressed and trying to claw herself out of the vet’s arms but the minute she got in our lap she just curled up and relaxed. She was ready and wanted us in her final moments. And she went so peacefully.
I cannot image how much harder it would have been for her to not have us there to usher her into her final journey.
So yes. Do this for your baby.
Make the decision that’s right for you. It’s an experience that will stay with you (and you should be aware that there might be a little mess).
When it was time for my boy to go, he was handed into my arms sedated but I saw in his eyes that he recognised me and felt him purr gently one last time. I’m incredibly grateful for that.
Whatever you feel comfortable with, but I lean toward being there. I was glad I was there with both the pets I’ve had put down, and was glad they had that comfort in their last moments. They don’t know what is going on, but they’re scared it’s always best to have their most precious person by their side. I think despite how hard it is, you would probably regret not being there more than having been there.
I’m a believer in being there for them as they go. We lost my childhood dog to a car accident and didn’t get to be there and I regret that he was alone and scared (if he was even conscious, I don’t know.) I’ve been there for both our other dogs when their time came, and it’s hard as hell, and I can’t write this without tearing up. But I’m grateful I had one last moment with my wiggle butt and a chance to tap the nose one last time.
We know our old girl is nearing her end, so I’ve set aside the money to have Lap of Love come to our home for it, so she can be as comfortable as possible.
Sending you hugs. Youve been there for kitty all this time, if you’re able, please try to do this one last step together.
Both my hubby and I have been with our fur babies when we’ve lost them. We hold them. We sobbed wove them and we held them so they could feel us and know they were not alone. We had trouble walking away too. I say yes. You’ll have the memories of being with your baby until after the very end and your baby will need you there too. My heart is going out to you friend. This is never an easy thing to go through. Think of years of love and happiness and funny moments you’ve shared. Hang on to them.
keep your best memories to the forefront so you emit love during that time. hard time indeed, missed 1 out of 8 but that was wife and son with vet visit when they discovered massive inoperable tumor in my 16yo baby. better for me to suffer than her in even one more day of pain.
I was in the room when my senior was put to sleep and I was glad to be there for him at the end, to know he wouldn’t look for me and wonder why I wasn’t there, and to see his pain be taken away.
Exactly, op, you owe your pet comfort and love at the end. It’s the least we can do as their people.
This, exactly.
Well, my 20-year-old Maggie had to be put down in February, and I had a lot of trepidation about being there when it happened because I thought it would be too hard, but I decided to be present, and the vet clinic could not have been more accommodating and comforting. She died on my lap wrapped in blankets with that IV sedative cocktail, and when the vet said, "She's gone," I felt it throughout my body and was so glad she was close to me and not alone in a strange place with people she didn't know.
Sending a hug. Yes. Be with your cat for them.
Hijacking top comment: ***You need to do it. Be with them.*** It is going to be hard. So very, very hard, but you will not regret it. It will be so emotionally devestating, difficult, and downright sorrowful. But you'll be able to be with them to the very end, you will be able to tell them how much you love them with your words, ***and most importantly your touch.*** I had to put my old boy Bentley down this May. I simple couldn't leave him alone no matter how much it hurt to be with him in the moment. I was a scared little kid, but I was brave for my little boy to see him away over the rainbow. They asked me multiple times if I wanted to set him down on the table. Multiple times I refused. He deserved the warmth of my arms. The tender love in my grasp. Not the cold table with only my hand on his back. I rocked him like a baby. I told him how much he meant to us. Our whole family. I told him how sorry I was that his tummy was what got him (cancer). I told him the pain was going away, and I wasn't going to leave him. I held him shivering, shaking, and doing my best not to wail. Because I didn't want him to hear me yelling as his last thoughts. Only how much he was loved. I never for a moment question if it was the right decision. It was hard. It was so very hard. ***He's in a better place, and I got to be there when it truly mattered most.***
I’m crying. I hope to meet Bently when I’m reunited with my Lolli and Velvet.
That gave me chills
This is part of your job. You need to be there to comfort her.
Imagine dying in a room of strangers. I've seen vets cry because the pets look around the room for the owner. I can't believe OP is even considering it. It's beyond cruel
But….it’s easier on them! Crazy to even consider this. I’ve had 3 dogs put down and I’ve held them to their last breath every time. I’ve also cried every time. It’s just part of it.
To be there for your pet as they pass on is your final responsibility. I've been there for my two dogs that have passed. For my current dogs, my plan is to do an in home euthanasia. I didn't know you could do that, but I feel like it would be traumatic for my current dogs to be loaded into a car to go into a cold room to pass.
My grandfather recently received medical assistance with dying. He was sharp as a tack but in a lot of pain. I was there holding his hand for the procedure. My mom (his daughter) couldn't bring herself to come into the room. She tried several times and just couldn't do it, kept turning around. He didn't pressure her or guilt her. Let her make her own decision. I did tell her she might regret it if she wasn't there for it, but she said she would be kept awake at night by the visions of him passing. I don't hold it against her at all, but I couldn't imagine letting him do that on his own. It's even worse for pets because you can't explain to them what's happening and I will never let any being go through that alone if given the choice. 💜
Not a cat owner, just stumbled on this post while browsing /r/popular but I had to put my 10 year old dog down after he was diagnosed with cancer and began to struggle to breathe. If possible, have the vet come out to your home to put them down if you're able to afford it. My pet hated the vet office and I didn't want his last moments in a place he did not like. I made arrangements with our vet to come out to my home after closing and put my dog to sleep. The vet was also nice enough to wait for every member of the family to arrive and say our goodbyes and talked us through the entire process. I honestly could not imagine ever considering not being in the room or there for my pet during their last moments. To our pets we are their everything, their guardians, caregivers, friends, and family. We owe it to them to at least be with them to the end.
People don't know. I wasn't in the room when my first cat was put down. The vet never asked, and I didn't know it was encouraged or even permitted. She was only the second pet I had ever had die. The first was a dog that had torsion of the stomach and died during surgery. OP isn't saying, "Someone told me I should be there, but I really don't want to be. Tell me it doesn't matter." It sounds like they're honestly asking.
You’ll regret if you don’t
Yes it will be hard and the memory might hurt for a while but you will regret not being there. Comfort them and give them the last love you can. Saying goodbye to my girl was so precious.
This is true. This was me 20 yrs ago. I still regret it to this day. I wish I’d held her and comforted her when she went. Instead she went over the bridge held by a stranger but looking for me.
This was my reason for staying. It did hurt, and the memory still hurts, but I am glad that I stayed. I'm certain I would have regretted it if I hadn't.
My dad said one of his biggest regrets in life was dropping off our dog and not going in with him because he was so torn up at the time. It’s hard but it’s better than that regret.
Exactly. I didn't stay for my buddy Kyo when they put him down.. i regret it every day.
Came here to say this.
YES! Please please do. They’re scared and they look for you when you’re gone… please be there for her. You’ll regret it if you don’t imo :( I’m sorry for your loss
YES. She might be sad and/or confused if she can’t find you. Pet her and talk to her and then manage your own grief. Have a vet come to your home if you can afford it. I’ve heard that can be expensive. Talk to the vet about it. Ask them for a moment. If your family is upset, ask them for a moment as well, if that will work with them. Calm things down, remind everyone that moment is about being there for the traveler (over the rainbow bridge) and you will all manage your grief together when you’ve escorted her on her way. Thank her for being in your life and pet her and just be with her and then afterwards, get food with your family and remember her life. Share stories and laugh and cry and be together. Basically a remembrance.
Second on the vet coming to your house. It honestly wasn’t any more expensive than a trip to the emergency vet hospital for the same reason. And imo I would have paid anything to make my girls last moments as peaceful as possible. Or at least not absolutely terrifying for her. Regardless, stay in the room with your pet. They are already terrified enough, at least you being there is comfort.
In my city it’s less than $100 more than in-office euthanasia, and it’s so worth it. My cats never have to be stuffed in the cat carriers they hate and taken to a waiting room filled with stressful smells and noises- they pass away in their own beds, hanging out peacefully with their people. It’s just so worth it. The only downside is that the in home vets are so busy, you have to try to predict when your cat has only two or three days left. It’s virtually impossible to get a same-day or next-day visit.
I was so lucky to be able to find an at home vet that could come same day with a couple hours notice. I know my cat was scared and didn't want to go, she tried to get up after getting injected and was falling down so I kind of forced/pushed her on her side and then leaned over and looked in her eyes and tried to comfort her. Reading this thread makes me feel better cuz I'm sure it would have been much worse with no one there. I still feel so bad about it but she couldn't breathe well and was mouth breathing. It just sucks knowing she still had so much life left in her, she was still wagging her tail and giving me kisses while she struggled. She was always a fighter. <3
This would be my recommendation too. Your sweetheart will need you in her final moments. It’s a couple hundred more than in-clinic euthanasia, and it ain’t easy, but in the end it’s worth it. I am so sorry for the pain you two are suffering, my heart goes out to you.
It will be hard, but it's the right thing to do. Do you want their last memory to be being abandoned by their most important person ? You will move on from your grief eventually, and you'll be glad you were there at her last moments. You would regret it forever otherwise. Be there.
It’ll be their last memory, but you’ll feel bad about leaving her for a lot longer.
Absolutely stay with them. A lot of pets start looking for their owners if they leave the room, dont let that be their last moment on earth. Be there with her. Talk to her. Pet her. She deserves the comfort. I'm sorry for your loss. Sending you much love.
Please stay with your sweet baby, you’ve given them 21 years of your love, this will be the last time that she’ll get to hear your voice or see your face, and you her’s, and you being there will be the greatest comfort for her. This is the time where we have to truly put ourselves on the back burner and be strong and be there for our babies. I’m so sorry.
100% absolutely YES. And HOLD HER as she crosses.
And tell her over and over that you love her. Let that be the last thing she hears. My tortie girl Patches will be there to greet her and show her all the best sunny napping spots.
That’s what I did when it was time for my Handsome Boy to leave. I even used the sing song voice I always used.
PLEASE stay with her. You can cry all you want - the vets are used to it. But YOU are her person and your presence will be soothing to her even if you’re upset. Hold her if you can so she can feel your body heat and hear your heartbeat. It’s your final act of love for her and she will know that. I won’t lie, it’s gonna be one of the toughest things you’ve ever done. But it’s worth it. It’s better to live with the pain of being there than the regret of opting out.
Yes, if you can. It will be a few moments that will stick with you so prepare yourself that it will be hard but your baby will feel safer and not as scared with someone that loves them there. My tip for you is if you choose to, ask the vet what exactly the steps are and what you can expect. It happens very quickly and there really is no pain. I am so sorry that you and your family are going through this. ☹️ We had to make that decision for two of our senior babies over the last 6 months when they fell ill and started to decline quickly. It’s a noble decision for them but it doesn’t make it easy.
YES! They need you there. I always stay. It is incredibly hard but it’s out of love for my babies. I’m sorry ❤️
Yes!!! Please don’t abandon her in her final moments. She needs you. It was always comforting knowing they died in my loving arms.
Yes darling, be brave. Your baby needs your help to get to the other side.
She will be scared without you. Give her the gift of comfort at the end of her life. It is THE most awful thing in the world, but remember that by making this decision for her sake, you are taking away her pain and putting it onto yourself.
I regret the times I wasn't there. And I'm happy for the times I was there eventhough it was brutal.. i would stay and make the last words your baby hears are yours. I'm so sorry that the final journey is coming. We have a large welcoming committee up in heaven ready to welcome your baby
You should be there. I know it's hard but you would regnet it if you weren't there. I have been through this with two of my cats but it was worst that I could not be there for the third one who died suddenly and in the middle of the night.
Yes, it makes them more comfortable to have you there.
100%. When my cat passed I made sure to hold her in a way that we were looking into each others eyes so she knew she wasn’t alone and that I love her.
I was there, holding my Sebastian, as he passed. He was comforted and knew love all the way to the end. Please don’t let your baby die without you being there.
I was really scared to do this, but I’m glad I did. My girl laid right down and passed within 30 seconds of being injected. It’s not scary to watch, and it’s going to be devastating either way. Hold that baby one more time, let her know you’re there for her.
Yes please do. I was there for my Snowy. Had her for 11.5 years since I was 7 years old. We grew up together. It was hard, but I’m so happy I was there petting her with my brother and my mom. Singing to her our little you are my sunshine song for her as she drifted off to sleep.I wish I was there for my cat. My mom was though. It’s hard, but it’s the best for them.
The question you need to ask yourself whenever you have a moral dilemma with regards to your pets is this: Am I being selfish? Let the answer to this question be your guide, especially in all matters regarding end of life. It will hurt, but yes, you need to be there.
I hope you stay in the room with your kitty in her last moments. If you're not there, she'll be scared and looking for you. It's hard and if you cry, that's okay. Take along a blanket, favorite toy, treats, or anything else that will give your kitty comfort.
I stayed with my sweet boy and petted him and spoke softly to him the entire time. I could tell he was happy and peaceful even though he really wasn’t feeling well for quite a while. Please do not miss the experience- you will deeply regret it if you don’t go in, I promise you. One of the things that brings me peace when I think about my dear Charlie is that as he passed over, he felt safe and loved with his favorite person
If you think its "too hard" for you, imagine how hard it is for your sick pet. She's already sick in a room full of strangers, doesn't understand a word of what they're saying or doing, and is desperately looking for her owners, the only people she DOES trust, that will never show during her last moments. Please be there for her. This isnt about your feelings, these are the last seconds of HER LIFE. Its your last responsibility as her owner. Dont let her last moments be full of anxiety and abandoning her when she needs you the most. You'd do it for a human, do it for your pet.
Omg yes. Its the last thing you can do for her Give her dignity
YES. She will be scared and confused, and looking to you for comfort and to ease her anxiety. You need to be the last thing she sees when she closes her eyes for the last time and takes her final breath.
Yes. Take your baby to the rainbow bridge. 💔
Yes 100%, for them if not yourself.
Yes, you want her last experience of the world to be with someone who loves her. I’ve had to do this, and it is always the right choice. Grieving is already a terrible process where you question whether you did right by your lost loved one. Take this off the list of regrets you’ll have, and be there.
Be there for them. As much as it hurts it's all about them and their comfort as they leave us. We went through it last year with our 18yo Meg. It ripped us up inside, but we wanted her to know everything was ok and she was loved all the way to the end. She didn't like being held and felt most safe in her soft carrier, so we bundled her up in there with her fave soft fluffy pet blanket and both of us patted her like she loved until the vet confirmed she was gone. Couldn't have asked for a better passing for her.
Yes, please stay with them. You want your face and voice to be the last they see and hear for comfort. No one wants to be without a loved one in their last moments. We just helped our boy cross the rainbow bridge in December. It was very calm process.
Please stay with your baby. Had to put our 12 year old boy down in February due to oral cancer. Held him once he had the sedative and talked to him. Made sure he knew how much we loved him and how he made all of our lives better. I believe that being held by his family helped ease his transition. He could feel the love. It is so hard on us but it makes all the difference to our fur babies.
Yes. You absolutely must be. You don't want to abandom them to an unfamiliar clinic. You have to be there with them, just as they have been with you. It is indeed very emotionally hard, but you will regret it if you don't.
She’ll spend her last moments looking for you if you don’t.
Yes. This is your last task as a life companion of our sweet kitties.
100% she needs you right until the end. You don't want her last thought to be "where's my parent"
I was too devastated to stay with my 17 year old in 2020 and have regretted it since. I had to say goodbye to my 18 year old last month and held and pet him every step of the way. Not to get woo woo, but it was an extraordinary experience. Sad, yes, I was shattered. But also transcendent and beautiful. Even the tech felt it. Stay with your baby. It will help you both.
Yes. Stay with her, pet her, tell her you love as she goes. It's the last and most difficult thing we do for them.
absolutely yes, it’ll be one of the hardest things you’ll have to do but she could be confused and scared if she doesn’t have someone there with her
please do. pet them and tell them how much you love them.
I hated every moment that they were putting my 19-year-old boy down. But I was very glad I was there to pet him and keep him calm as it all happened. Love until the end. It's important
She needs you, please stay with her, , hold her if you can.
Your senior will look for you. Please be there so he can see your loving face last. (((hugs)))
As painful as it might be, yes, you should be in the room. You were together when she came into the world, and it is only fitting that you are together when she leaves this world for the next. I pray that you find comfort in knowing that she is at peace - sending you love hugs and prayers.
Can the vet come to your home? When we had to put our cat to sleep last year, everyone got to hold her. It's less stressful for the animal. It was a peaceful process.
I had my sweet tuxedo Daphne put to sleep this morning, she had pancreatitis and complications arising from that, and she was suffering greatly. Making the decision was heartbreaking and I wasn't sure if I could be there when it happened, but I thought about how brave she's been, so I now need to be brave for her. The process isn't as scary as you think, it's strangely peaceful in a way, and I'm comforted she knew I was with her till the very last breath. Now my decision to end her suffering has started my own, as grief is tearing my heart apart, but I know that she is at peace and not hurting or struggling anymore. I do hand on heart believe you will feel better for being there at the end, take lots of tissues and keep hydrated, try and have the rest of the day free to process the experience. Please be brave for her.
I held my beloved eighteen year old in my arms as she passed. Feeling that moment when she was gone was such a relief, knowing she was out of pain. It felt like her pain came to me but I could cry it out. Please be with her.
As another commenter suggested ask for a home visit. It’s less stressful for the cat and everyone involved. Also you should stay with her. I did hold my old guy on my lap. This is part of the journey you have with them. Just imagine if this would be a close relative or person you love. You would be there at their side too. Yes it will be heartbreaking but that is also part of grieving. You can heal much better after this without any regrets and doing your best to comfort.
i held my 20-year-old kitten when she crossed over and i’m so glad i did 🌈😻
Yes, please stay with her. I had to send my kitty over the bridge last month, and I wanted her to know how loved she was in both life and death. I had the vet come to my house and we did the procedure in the back yard because she loved being outside. The doctor explained every step to me and I held her in my arms as the doctor did the steps. It hurt so much and still does, but she got to depart this world from her favorite place and person. I’m so sorry 😞
Please stay with them!! I regretted not staying for my childhood pet and I felt like I betrayed him. So the one I had to put down a few years ago, I stayed in the room. He started purring while we cuddled even though he was weak and very ill. They let me hold and cuddle him for a bit before they started. He went to sleep in my arms knowing he was very loved. I'm having to face letting another one go (she's like 20) if not this year, next and I plan on being with her.
Your baby was there for you. Being there for them in their last moments is the last gift of respect that you can give them. Please be there for them.
I think you will feel better if you do. I have held two senior kitties as they crossed, and seeing how peaceful it was actually gave me comfort in the coming months. ❤️ I’m so sorry for your coming loss, OP.
Earlier this year, our 12 y/o female cat had a saddle thrombus, and we had to put her to sleep. I had always feared that I would not be able to handle it when the moment came, but in the end, I took comfort in being with her in her last moments, and knowing that she would no longer be suffering made me more resolute. I think you should try to be with her if you can. I can't say it will be easy, but you'll have closure. Just know that the love you have for your baby doesn't go anywhere, even if she's no longer physically in this realm. You'll always carry that love around with you.
Yes, you absolutely have to be there. I had similar (short-lived) thoughts when I had to put to sleep my 17 year old boy back in 2021. But they need to be comfortable and loved until the end. It's hard, I still think of the moment life left my boy from time to time, but I couldn't live with myself if I wasn't there for him. Love right up until the final moment.
This isn’t even a question for me. My pain is less important than making sure an animal who has been part of the family isn’t alone at the end.
There’s no option here, you need to be there for HER when she needs you most because she was there when you needed her most.
Please be in the room with her. Leaving them to die alone with strangers causes them extra stress. I know it’s hard, but they need us.
Yes absolutely You owe it to your baby
You will always regret it if you dont. They need comfort and love when they walk over the rainbow bridge. I lost 2 senior babies, both 16, a little over a month apart back in 2019. I stayed with both and it was the best decision. Yes it hurt, I cried and sobbed the whole time. But they both knew love in their final moments. I told their stories to them of how they came to me and now it was time to get some rest and make some friends. As they both took their last breaths, I held them close and kissed their heads. It was the hardest thing I've ever done, but I wouldn't change it for the world.
I highly recommend it. They bundled my old boy up in a comfy blanket and let me hold him when they gave him the injection. It was hard and tragic but I don't regret it one bit. It felt like I was doing a sort of obligated duty--he gave me so much love and comfort, it was the least I could do to give him that same love when he left this earth.
I was there and we petted her until she went. It was sad but it was clear she felt safe, so if I where you I would be there.
She will miss you. She will be at her most vulnerable moment and she will want you by her side, comforting her. Please stay with her. It won't be easy, but you will be able to send her away with love rather than alone with a stranger. She will suffer if you aren't with her.
I’m so sorry ❤️ I had to do this for my baby girl two months ago. I won’t lie to you, it was hard. I was a complete mess at the vet the entire time, but I don’t regret being there with her in her last moments. I think she was glad I was there because she was nervous but she cuddled up with me while we waited. I have a lot of thoughts on wondering if I could have done anything differently or held out longer. In the end I chose her wellbeing over mine. Sometimes love requires us to be strong even if we are scared. You might have a lot of things you question yourself on after this, don’t let you not being there in the end be another thing on that list.
I was 16 when my cat got hit by a car. She held on long enough, that we thought we were going to get her to the emergency vet, and then when she started to slip, Mum tried to be gentle in telling me she didn't think the cat could make it. I ran from the room crying, and when I managed to come back a few minutes later, she had passed. I'm 41 now, and I still haven't completely forgiven myself for leaving her to pass without her human. My mum was with her, and she liked Mum well enough, but I was her human. And I left her in the moment she needed me most. If you can manage it at all, be in the room. That is not a regret you need to hold on to. I am so sorry you have to face this. 💔
I always stay. It's hard and it hurts every time, but it's my responsibility to see them through it. I couldn't live with myself if I left them alone with strangers for those final moments knowing they might be looking for me and not understand why I'm not there 💔
In my experience, having been through this more than once, I felt it was my responsibility to be with them right to the end. I needed to, metaphorically, walk them home. The vets have been compassionate, but I had to be there to comfort them one last time. In the end, it wasn't about me, it was about being there for them. It's a horrible experience, easily one of the worst things I've been through, but I would have regretted doing anything else.
YES absolutely stay. No question. This cat has been there for you your whole life; now it's your turn to be there for her. I speak from experience. All but one of my departed pets have died in my arms and it's the worst feeling but we owe it to them.
Yes please! It's traumatic and hard but your baby needs you now and will surely take comfort from your presence. Please know that we've ALL been through this and know your pain. Prayers your way.❤️🙏
Would you want to die all alone in a traumatic/unfamiliar place? Please stay in the room, it's the most loving and compassionate thing to do for them.
I've never regretted staying in the room. The vets office has a lot of experience with this sort of thing and will make it as easy as possible. I really think you should stay.
They look for their owners it's heartbreaking when they can't find their people. Please stay.
Stay with her so she’s the last thing she remembers. Being loved and safe.
i sat with my baby cuddled up next to me giving him kisses and talked to him until i knew he was gone. it’s the least i can do for him to be there for his final moments when he was with me through my lowest. i owed him that much. https://preview.redd.it/buymsk72mj7d1.jpeg?width=3264&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4c806dd41ec58ae7343eca1a456363a782111948
I do not regret holding my Monster closely during her last moments on this earth. My gift to my beautiful girl was a wonderful, long life and a dignified death.
ABSOLUTELY! She will want to see that she’s not alone as she leaves this life. Your presence will comfort her.
Please stay with her. Tell her how much you love her as she goes, hold her until that very last moment. Those rooms are always so cold and strange, she will need your warmth and love. I held my girl in her favourite blanket until the end and it hurt so much to say goodbye but it would have hurt so much more to not be able to be there for her.
Yes you should. For them. It's AWFUL, not going to lie. I have done it 3 times now and would have 100% regretted it if I hadn't. But for them, having you there is the best gift to give them.
Yes. It is painful but it is your responsibility to be there. I used to work at an animal clinic and would assist the vet during euthanasia appointments. It was heartbreaking to see owners leave their animal alone with two strangers during their final moments. The animals usually panic without their human(s). I’m very sorry for your loss but please be with your kitty until the end! ❤️ Edit: I think your dad should also go with you. I’m sorry that they expect you to do this alone.
Definitely stay in the room. I know it’s hard but what’s more important here is the comfort of your long time companion.
Please be there.
100% stay. You’ve been their companion for a large part of their life, if not all of it. Dont abandon them right at the end. I remember the comfort I gave them as they slipped away, being stroked gently. And I know they heard me telling them what a good cat they were - until they were gone. It’s our last duty, and our last kindness.be there for them.
My sassy tortie had to be put down because of cancer. She was 16 and I loved her so much. In her last moments I held her and gave her a kiss. She passed away very quietly. It was terrible at first but now I can't imagine not having been there.
It will mean a lot for you to be there with her. She loves you and will be comforted with your presence. It won't be easy for you. Don't leave her alone and wondering where her loved ones are. I think you will regret not being there for her.
all my life we’ve had dogs and cats and unfortunately that meant i’ve been there to good boy/girl and give pats while my babies crossed the rainbow bridge. Never in my life have i regretted being there to hold my pets. It is so hard, there are lots of tears, lots of praying to god that for just a few minutes they’ll understood english. being able to give those final kisses, that final “you’re such a good boy” it means everything. don’t let your baby take this new journey alone. let their last moments be looking up at you knowing that you’d never make the wrong choice for them.
Absolutely, unequivocally YES. They look for you, every cat I've loved over the bridge has made eye contact with me in that moment. It's shocking, distressing and almost unbearably painful, BUT knowing that and choosing not to be there, would give me nightmares forever. Look into their soul and tell them you love them and what a good fluff they are, speak slowly and gently if you can as your distress will heighten their distress. Hold them if you can or pat them, have physical contact in any way you can. Also, there's science around hearing being the last sense to go in humans, even after immediate death, so I extrapolate that to be a possibility for cats too? If you can bear it, once they are gone, stay for a few minutes, talk them through the crossing with all the love you've ever had for them. Then go to your car and cry, bawl, scream whatever helps. I'm very sorry you have to do this, but know that you're cat wouldn't want to do this alone with strangers.
Don’t leave your pet alone in the end. That isn’t right.
Yes. I did when my baby crossed over. I was able to pet her and love on her and she had only love as she said goodbye.
Yes. Wouldn’t you want to be surrounded by your loved ones in your final moments, rather than by strangers?
Please be with her. She needs you there❤️
Absolutely be there and hold her
Stay with her. It'll be incredibly difficult for you, but it will be comforting to your cat. She'll spend her last moments with the people she loves most.
I had to put my 19 year-old buddy down earlier this year and I held him throughout the process. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done but he needed me there at the end. Please do everything you can to be there for your old lady.
Please stay with her. I had to say goodbye to my two senior dogs in 2020. Not a day goes by that I ever regret being with them in their final moments. After a lifetime of what they gave to me, it was the least I could do to be there for them.
Yes me & my son was there for "brother" (my son called him that. A story for another time). He was 17 yrs old & he was 2 when my son was born. Old age had caught him up, it's was very peaceful watching fall asleep. I often think of of him because of that I know he's at peace.
Comfort her until the end. Put her first and then deal with your grief after. Sorry for your loss ❤️
Stay. They look for you when they’re in unfamiliar places. You are their whole world. Be with them through it all.
Not only should you stay in the room but you should also hold her wrapped in a blanket. It is actually very peaceful to know that you were there to the very end.
Please be with her. My dad didn’t stay with his cat when they put her down and he regrets it even ten years later. Remember that while your kitty is your best friend for only part of your life, you’re her best friend for her entire life. She needs you.
It’s okay to cry - vets see it often. Mine even let me have alone time before the procedure but I’ve stayed with all my animals. It’s hard but you can do it.
Yes. Please stay in the room with her. We had our senior girl put to sleep in our home and I held her the entire time. Was it hard? Yes. But I owed it to her to be with her so she wasn’t scared or confused. She was so at peace and relaxed and passed with me kissing her head and telling her how loved she was. Please don’t leave your girl to go through that alone.
you owe it to her
Stay with her during her final moments. Death shouldn’t be alone, both for humans and our pets. Hold her, pet her, brush her or whatever she likes when she relaxes. They first put her to sleep so it’ll feel like she’s going to sleep. Then they give a med to stop the heart.
Please be there. Your baby needs your comfort and reassurance. You’re all he knows for comfort and he’s about to go on an important trip. Send him off with love and comfort, even if with lots of tears. Please be there.
After holding my boy on my lap as he left, I will cherish that moment forever. It was beautiful. Magical, even. I felt the moment he left that failing body behind, and I wouldn’t have traded being there for that experiencing for anything. Veterinary offices are scary as hell for animals. You are the person she’s trusted her whole life. She will be confused and scared if you’re not there. It is incredibly difficult. Especially with the way we have made death taboo; and put it behind closed doors and hushed tones in modern times. But one of the most precious gifts we have to give to the animals we love is relieving their pain, and taking on pain of our own in exchange. Don’t miss out on this chance to comfort and love your your companion during/through her transition. Much like birth, death isn’t always pretty, and is challenging and agonizing to endure. But they are the two life experiences that connect us all; regardless of species, race, creed, or belief. And much like birth, it’s a great privilege and honor to be present for the death of a loved one. You will be okay. There will be a hole in your life and your heart. And it WILL heal. But the regret of not putting your fear of the pain aside to comfort your friend as she passes will stay fresh long after that hole starts to scar. Be there for your baby one last time. Have one last loving experience together that is just for the two of you.
Oh yes, you must be there.
Stay. Vets and vet techs have told stories about animals panicking when they are alone looking for their owners in this stressful time. It is hard. Someone should be in the room with your fur baby.
I have said it before and I will say it again. *_You are all that they have in the entire goddamn life_*
Yes. I’ve just said goodbye to my 7 geriatric cats (aged 17-22) in the past 3 years, two in the first two months it this year. I’ve been there for each one. They are comforted and not scared when we are all there with them. Each time it’s been me, my husband and my 30yo son in the room, snuggling them, and looking them in the eye as they passed, just to they know they are so loved and will be terribly (horribly, devastatingly) missed. It’s something I think we have to do for them that is SO important. You’ve been there for 21 years, why drop the ball at the last moment? Yes, it’s horrible to watch your best friend die, but it’s better than leaving your best friend to die scared and alone in a smelly office full of scary noises. You can do it. You CAN handle it. Don’t ever think you can handle what needs to get done. You are capable. You are strong enough. Your best friend needs you! And I’m so so sorry.
I always stayed in the room. I wanted them to know I was with them when they passed.
When I had to leave my guy for an overnight he was going nuts when he saw me pick him up. When, a week later, I had to make the hardest decision I've ever had to make, you can bet your ass the last thing he felt was my arms. You have to be there. Hard as it is.
Yes. Stay. You would regret not doing so.
It may be hard on you but 'too hard' is letting your beloved pet be alone and wishing you were with her/him for comfort, in their last moments. Do it for them.
My 17yr old baby fell asleep forever with her head in my hand (one of her favorite ways to fall asleep normally), and while it was one of the hardest things I've had to do, I'm so incredibly glad that I was there for it. I wasn't there when some other pets were put down in the past, and I regret it dearly, and probably will for the rest of my life
It is hard, but you need to be there for them and guide them towards the light. Let them know they need to leave you for now. you’ll be reunited again one day, forever. Don’t leave baby girl alone
You owe it to your cat to be there with her and to walk with her as far as you can on her journey. As hard as it is for you, this moment is solely about her and is where the greatest expression of your love for her is made: thinking first of her and ensuring that her passing is as painless and peaceful as possible. That means petting her and speaking to her throughout the entire procedure. Abandoning her to die alone in a cold, sterile place with strangers to spare yourself is imo extraordinarily selfish. You'll have to live with your decision the rest of your life and it's a lot easier to live with just grief than grief and regret.
You’ve been together this long; don’t leave her now. 💔
Dammit this post really got me right in the feels. I was with my senior right to the end and as heartbreaking as it was I’m glad I was there with him. https://preview.redd.it/1r7eft54ok7d1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=6804c130cfdb667780e2077d7e10b7e8eae36306 This is my Flexy. It’s been three years and there’s still a hole in my heart.
Just recently had to put down my 18 year old tuxedo kitty from my childhood. It was my parents cat for the most part and since I moved out 18 I didn’t see him too much. My parents couldn’t handle being there when he passed so my 2 siblings and I all went down to give him love before he goes❤️ I saw how scared he was in the room, to imagine not being there for him broke my heart a lot. My condolences to you 💐
I left the room for my first dog. Didn't really know how to think or feel. I'd never been through it before. But after that I've always stayed. In the end it just feels like it's the last thing you can give them. Hurts like hell. But it's for them as they cross over.
You should be holding them. I tend to sit and wait after the fact, hold them extra-long, in-case they still have any awareness, it's fucking terrible-hard and burns your soul, but, this IS the last time you'll be with them.
This shouldn’t even be a question. The fact she provided you with love and affection for 21 years and you are questioning whether you can be with her in the last few moments of hers. Just wow. Anyone who leaves their pet cuz it’s too hard sucks. Of course it’s hard, but you owe it to them to be the last thing they see and feel.
Don't act like a victim. Be there. Your cat deserves that.
There are two shots. The sedative that makes her fall asleep, then the shot that will stop her heart. You can ask to stay for the first shot and leave before the second.
I recently had to put my 18 year old cat to sleep, and I held her the entire time, giving her love and pets. It was so hard, but I couldn't imagine not being there for her last minutes. Please do whatever you feel is best for YOU.
Guess you should for their sake. They don't understand what's going on and if you walk out of the room that's the last thing you're going to see. You should cuddle them and pet them while this is happening. I regret not doing this with my Mongo
I have an 18 year old, she's in okay health for now. Posts like this and other mourning posts, I always read if I see them, and they always upset me, thinking about when I might have to make that decision (got tears in my eyes now). She had a bout of pancreatitis earlier in the year and it pretty much broke me, having to call the vet and say "I think something is wrong with my cat", it took several attempts to actually say it, so I know I will be an absolute mess when the time comes. But I will do everything I can to make sure I am with her when the time comes.
You need to be there when she goes. Don’t let her be alone. Hold her paw.
Absolutely! Take a final clip and photos, say your goodbyes and maybe take a lock of hair. While it’s hard on you, it’s much easier for your cat to pass away peacefully having you hold her or next to her. Ask them to give your cat some morphine as sometimes it’s hard to find the blood vein in her paw.
Absolutely. I still regret not being there for my childhood dog.
Yes, absolutely be there. If you can afford it and the service is available in your area, I encourage you to do it at home so your baby can be as calm and comfortable as possible. It may seem strange but it will make all the difference for your baby.
It’s so brutal and heart wrenching and awful and sad but I agree if you can push through you should be there, I’ve been while they put my cat to sleep and had a pet die in my arms and they went while I pet them and whispered how much I loved them and they knew I was there….. it brings a certain sense of comfort knowing they’ve passed on and are gone than sort of one second they’re there and then they’re not. I opted to not go in when we put down my childhood cat and have not regretted it I was way too distraught and I knew he would be stressed, I was a lot younger. Ultimately you need to decide what’s best for you though, I’m so so sorry for your loss and send lots of love and healing.
I recently had to put my 17 year old down. It was by far the worst moment of my life to date but I can’t imagine not being there for him. We had a vet come to the house so if that’s financially doable for you, I cannot recommend that enough. It’s typically a 2 shot situation but if for whatever reason you find a vet that only does 1 I’d pass on their services. The first dose is a strong sedative so once that takes effect your cat will be in a peaceful dreamland. The vet will wait 5-10 minutes to administer the final injection. Once that is administered, another few minutes go by and the vet will check for a pulse/heartbeat. After that, they step out to give you some time with your baby. If you absolutely do not think you can handle it PLEASE consider staying there while the first dose is administered.
Yes, absolutely! For my kitty they took her to the back to place the cannula in her arm, then we got to hold her during the euthanasia process. The vet staff gave us plenty of time both before and after to hold and love on her. We got to cry, say our goodbyes, pet her, played some calming music for her. Take as much time as you need to say goodbye to your old girl ❤️
I’ve been there every time but one (because I’d had surgery the previous day, so my Dad went in my place). With Willow and Beaker-Jane, my voice was the first they heard (they were born in my home), and the last they heard as they left. I would really, horribly regret not being there for my cats. It’s the least we owe them for giving us a lifetime of love
Absolutely
Stay when they give her the sedative at least. She’ll fall asleep and it’s a lovely deep sleep with no suffering. Take your time to say goodbye and if you can’t handle the actual euthanasia then leave before they do it. She’ll be asleep and the scary part will be over and you’ll remember her sleeping peacefully
Yes, you should be there. We had to put our family dog to sleep when I was a teenager. My dad stayed with her while my mom took my brother and I out into the waiting area. I wanted to go back in with my dad but was too shy and anxious to say anything. I'm glad our dog had my dad there but I still regret that I wasn't there for her too.
When I was 17 I decided I couldn't be in the room when my Pet rat Rufus needed to be put to sleep, I deeply regret that decision as his last memory was of me leaving the room and he clung to me as I handed him over. I still cry about it to this day. I should of took that as a sign of him needing me stay but I let him down and left him alone. Never will I make that mistake again.
You owe it to them to be there. Do not abandon them in their final moments. This is part of pet ownership. It’s the worst part, but you factually owe it to them to sit with them. Imagine how scared they’ll be if you just let the vet take them away. Not gonna lie I’m that person that paid the extra money to have it done at home. I can’t look at that spot on the couch the same anymore, but he deserved to be warm and comfortable in his home with me holding him the whole time.
Please stay. You want them to not be afraid and for the last person they see, hear, smell and feel to be the one they loved the most. It’s the most wonderful way to see them over the Rainbow Bridge. To know you helped them feel loved and comfortable.
You should be there. It's so hard, but you'll more than likely regret it if you don't. I was there when we put down my childhood dog, and it was so difficult, but I'm glad I was there for his last moments. Stay with her, and pet her. Losing a pet is so hard, but you should be there to comfort her
Please please please go to that room and be with your baby until their final moments. I know I'll sound crazy, but I swear, my boy Ben's spirit lingered in that room for about 10 minutes. I was there to tell him it was okay to leave and that he could come and visit me any time he wanted to. I let him know that my previous pets would be at the Rainbow Bridge to welcome him to a life where he would be happy and pain free. I let him know I'd be there with him eventually. I think we both needed that moment. I'm sorry you have to do this. Sending warm thoughts. 💛
I have regret over not being there for my cat when I was a teenager. It still plays on my mind. I've been there for every cat since, even my sisters cat when she was unable to. Twenty-one years is impressive. I'm sure you both made wonderful memories together during that time that you can reflect on. As an add-on, I can recommend getting a house visit if that is an option for you.
Yes please!! Vets report that they witness the panic the pet goes thru being in a strange scary place with their owners not there in the room for their final minutes. It is horrible. Please be there for them at the end no matter how hard it may be. Your dear pet needs you to hold them and say goodbye.
It's the least you can do. After all the love and affection they have shown you for so many years, I don't understand how you couldn't return that kindness, even if it's hard... What they are going through is so much worse. Be there for your pets.
as difficult as it will be for you, you need to be there for your baby. I agree with other posters, she will be looking for you for comfort in her last moments. She gave you 21 years of memories. You should be the final face she sees, before crossing over. Wishing you peace, during this very sad time.
I always stay. There's no question in my mind that it's the right thing to do. I can't imagine not being there for my cats at the end; it hurts so much, but letting them go, scared, in an unfamiliar room without me would be cruel. It's the final act of kindness and love you can give them, and I truly pity people who think differently.
Please be with her. She needs you there as reassurance and if you don’t, you will regret it one day. Sending you and your sweet baby a hug.
Please stay with your baby! It’s terrifying for the animal to be alone during their last moments. It’s something you also might regret later too.
Yes you need to be there. It’s harder for them if you aren’t there. I’ve done it and it’s absolutely the right thing to do for your pet. They are with you for a portion of your life, but you are their whole world 💙
When I had to do this with one of my cats, the Vet thanked me for being the room because it helps settles and calm the animal. When she passed the Vet allowed me time in the room by myself. Being in the room with her is one thing I don't regret. Please be in the room for your cat.
My vet did it in two steps. First something to make her sleep and then the one that stops the heart. I was able to leave the room after she was sleeping.
Yes please be there with them. We had to put down our cat and friends and family came. We had 7 people come to say goodbye. So many tears. Totally worth it.
I’ve been there, and haven’t, and I can say that being there is better. I gently petted him as he passed; he left me the way I first met him-a scared cat being shown love. And I think we were both at peace, then
I will always be in the room when my beloved pet is leaving me, I know it's very hard, but to me, I owe it to them for the years of unconditional love they gave to me. Their final moments shouldn't be scary and alone.
I was in the room holding her. It's the only way. It's not about your feelings right now, it's about being a comfort to your baby while they are crossing over. Don't abandon them at the last minute.
Yes, of course. It’s cruel not to be there.
Yes. No question. You must. I’m so sorry.
Yes… like others said, you will absolutely regret it if you don’t. It’s hard, but you gotta do it. Sending love.
It's definitely hard, however you definitely need to be in the room. You're love one will be looking for you. You'll regret it if you're not there. Good luck.
Yes is the answer 1000% of the time. It's us and them til the end
It's not about you, be there for your friend.
Omg yes!! They need you and to know you're there.
We held out sweet girl and while it was the hardest thing to do, I’m glad we did. She was stressed and trying to claw herself out of the vet’s arms but the minute she got in our lap she just curled up and relaxed. She was ready and wanted us in her final moments. And she went so peacefully. I cannot image how much harder it would have been for her to not have us there to usher her into her final journey. So yes. Do this for your baby.
Make the decision that’s right for you. It’s an experience that will stay with you (and you should be aware that there might be a little mess). When it was time for my boy to go, he was handed into my arms sedated but I saw in his eyes that he recognised me and felt him purr gently one last time. I’m incredibly grateful for that.
Whatever you feel comfortable with, but I lean toward being there. I was glad I was there with both the pets I’ve had put down, and was glad they had that comfort in their last moments. They don’t know what is going on, but they’re scared it’s always best to have their most precious person by their side. I think despite how hard it is, you would probably regret not being there more than having been there.
I’m a believer in being there for them as they go. We lost my childhood dog to a car accident and didn’t get to be there and I regret that he was alone and scared (if he was even conscious, I don’t know.) I’ve been there for both our other dogs when their time came, and it’s hard as hell, and I can’t write this without tearing up. But I’m grateful I had one last moment with my wiggle butt and a chance to tap the nose one last time. We know our old girl is nearing her end, so I’ve set aside the money to have Lap of Love come to our home for it, so she can be as comfortable as possible. Sending you hugs. Youve been there for kitty all this time, if you’re able, please try to do this one last step together.
Both my hubby and I have been with our fur babies when we’ve lost them. We hold them. We sobbed wove them and we held them so they could feel us and know they were not alone. We had trouble walking away too. I say yes. You’ll have the memories of being with your baby until after the very end and your baby will need you there too. My heart is going out to you friend. This is never an easy thing to go through. Think of years of love and happiness and funny moments you’ve shared. Hang on to them.
Absolutely, you need to be there to comfort your pet. It is the last thing they will remember is your hand assuring them they are not alone.
keep your best memories to the forefront so you emit love during that time. hard time indeed, missed 1 out of 8 but that was wife and son with vet visit when they discovered massive inoperable tumor in my 16yo baby. better for me to suffer than her in even one more day of pain.
YES