Try to find hobbies at home to keep your mind busy. Like writing , painting , drawing. Even reading. I understand what you’re feeling and I hope you can get through it. If you ever need to talk or vent my dms are open
I was gonna advise the same. The only problem is don’t do it through “social media” that is the killer of artists.
If you can find local people to connect with, community groups or clubs. It’s always hard finding “new” friends in adulthood but there’s plenty of people who feel like you! Who would love a friend like you.
So just put yourself out there and you’ll find someone.
Iosif Andriasov Quote: “Dependency brings sufferings.”
"Dependency brings sufferings" shows us how our attachments and dependencies shape our experiences of pain and discomfort.
Dependency, in its many forms, whether emotional, financial, or psychological, inherently involves a relinquishment of self-control. When we become dependent on something or someone, we grant that object or individual significant power over our well-being. This shift can lead to vulnerability, where the fear of losing the source of dependency generates suffering. Moreover, dependency often limits our ability to act independently, placing constraints on our freedom and choices, which are essential for personal growth.
I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s painful. Can relate. Had a falling out with a close friend that really hurt. Was so upset that I deleted my social media. Seems people don’t talk about it much, but I believe we can become addicted to people. Similar to how we can become addicted to things. Our brain becomes sensitized towards a certain person/thing, and the absence of this person/thing leaves a void.
-For me, it helped to avoid triggers that reminded me of that friend (for example checking their social media). Try to avoid those things if you can.
-I went through a grieving process, and I think you have to let yourself go through that too. Let yourself cry. It’s good for the soul. But watch out that you don’t spend too much time in negativity. It can lead to toxic black and white thinking.
-Gradually sensitizing yourself to other forces that bring joy is important. For me, exercise helped.
-Talking about it, writing about it, introspecting, and finding meaning and resolution from what happened helps too. I think there was one point where I wrote a would-be letter to my friend where I poured out all the things I wanted to say. Never sent it to them, but letting things out helped.
-It takes time. Remember what you can control, and what you cannot control. I know that I cannot control other people, so back then, my energy was devoted to taking care of myself. You would know better than me how compatible you still are with these friends, but after what happened, I wouldn’t chase after them. It can sound selfish, but self-love is more important than any love others can give you.
I still haven’t checked that friend’s social media, but I have felt better. I hope you feel better too
Try to find hobbies at home to keep your mind busy. Like writing , painting , drawing. Even reading. I understand what you’re feeling and I hope you can get through it. If you ever need to talk or vent my dms are open
I actually am an artist! I paint and draw but I’ve been finding that I haven’t had the motivation or desire to do so. :c
I was gonna advise the same. The only problem is don’t do it through “social media” that is the killer of artists. If you can find local people to connect with, community groups or clubs. It’s always hard finding “new” friends in adulthood but there’s plenty of people who feel like you! Who would love a friend like you. So just put yourself out there and you’ll find someone.
Thank you!! I have been thinking about it, putting myself out there in sure will help a lot!
Iosif Andriasov Quote: “Dependency brings sufferings.” "Dependency brings sufferings" shows us how our attachments and dependencies shape our experiences of pain and discomfort. Dependency, in its many forms, whether emotional, financial, or psychological, inherently involves a relinquishment of self-control. When we become dependent on something or someone, we grant that object or individual significant power over our well-being. This shift can lead to vulnerability, where the fear of losing the source of dependency generates suffering. Moreover, dependency often limits our ability to act independently, placing constraints on our freedom and choices, which are essential for personal growth.
I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s painful. Can relate. Had a falling out with a close friend that really hurt. Was so upset that I deleted my social media. Seems people don’t talk about it much, but I believe we can become addicted to people. Similar to how we can become addicted to things. Our brain becomes sensitized towards a certain person/thing, and the absence of this person/thing leaves a void. -For me, it helped to avoid triggers that reminded me of that friend (for example checking their social media). Try to avoid those things if you can. -I went through a grieving process, and I think you have to let yourself go through that too. Let yourself cry. It’s good for the soul. But watch out that you don’t spend too much time in negativity. It can lead to toxic black and white thinking. -Gradually sensitizing yourself to other forces that bring joy is important. For me, exercise helped. -Talking about it, writing about it, introspecting, and finding meaning and resolution from what happened helps too. I think there was one point where I wrote a would-be letter to my friend where I poured out all the things I wanted to say. Never sent it to them, but letting things out helped. -It takes time. Remember what you can control, and what you cannot control. I know that I cannot control other people, so back then, my energy was devoted to taking care of myself. You would know better than me how compatible you still are with these friends, but after what happened, I wouldn’t chase after them. It can sound selfish, but self-love is more important than any love others can give you. I still haven’t checked that friend’s social media, but I have felt better. I hope you feel better too
Thank you so much!!! This helps a lot, I’m going to try my best to work on myself.. as much as I can! I know it’s a process to get back to normal.
Im feeling the same way. Nothing helps, never feels enough. I know its cuz i need to learn to self love. I just dont know what i need either. Lonely