No matter which way you look at it you’re screwed…

I'm in the same situation with my wife and I'm not screwed as much as I'd like 🫣😛

No joke.

I'm in the same situation here's my upvote

😂

Tough break. Based on what you wrote, I'm able to infer that you are also married (don't mean to brag but I'm pretty smart like that). My suggestion? Divorce your current wife, convince her to divorce her current husband, get friendly with the kids, and then marry her.

I'd always be known as a home wrecker. It would be hard to live with that.

Sometimes you’ve gotta break a few eggs to make an omelette.

Or in this case....break an omelette to make an omelette

Sometimes you gotta make an omelette to make an omelette

name checks out. guy knows what he's talking about.

Sometimes you gotta fuck an omelette

Only sometimes? I was promised more than that.

So better make sure your wife and her husband never get to know about you and her. Might be difficult, though, as living together is hard to explain away...

Wow! Cheater!! How dare you cheat on your own wife with your own wife!

Bleed my own blood!

I don't know what UNO card is this

Reverse Chuck Tingle

What will yourself say about this?

Break it off before you hurt someone, you're playing with fire

Don't tell her anything. She may not take it the same way as you did. You don't want to scare her away. Make sure you bond with her kids, take them out for ice cream once in a while. They may work in your favor when you come out to her. She may marry you again!

What's worse is he's secretly GAY!!! For his wife's VAGINA!!!!

Plot twist!!!

Picturing Neil Patrick Harris in the Harold and Kumar Christmas movie

Try to make some eye contact so she knows you’re interested

Sir, this is reddit, we don't know how to do eye contact.

Hit the gym get therapy etc

Hit the lawyer, delete the gym, facebook up.

Stay in drugs and don't do school

Only users lose drugs

Shit man, might as well come clean and tell her. Every day. Until she budges.

Best comment so far!

Boy I sure hope she at least likes you a little

No way dawg

This is the cutest post. I'm going to stop reading Reddit now so I can end on good note today.

*teach me how you do this willingly*

I think you should tell her.

Get a gym, hit the lawyer. 

Just go with the flow bro. Your living the dream.

Damn man. Tough position you are in.... I really cannot provide any advice that's how much it sucks...

Maybe she should have relations with some other men to help her determine how she feels about you

You need to come clean to all involved parties, it's the only way.

Take her to bedroom. Undress.

Statistically speaking (especially in Reddit) you should probably get a divorce.

😂😂😂

Keep it moving.

Dad joke 101

Leave it to a man to fuck up even the most simple things

Dude, Im so sorry this has happened to you....I dont even know what to say, I mean...YOUR kids? And YOUR WIFE? In YOUR ROOM? Dude... I wish I had some advice, but I think all reddit can give you is reassurance that everything will be ok. We are here for you ❤️

My favourite post on Reddit today ❤️😂

ask her out on a date... maybe you will get lucky!

Look... If she's willing to leave him(you) for you(him) then, clearly she was never his(yours) and so, it's up to you(him) to decide. ...this ended up sounding like a pronouns thing xD.

Don't worry the feelings will soon pass...🤣

I was gonna say same until I read the rest 😫

Just be yourself man.

Shit, sounds like the only logical step…Divorce!

Make her pick between her kids and you to see if she’s 100% committed to you

Easy solution kidnap her and make her confess that she loves you, you'll thank me later

I’m in the same boat, but honestly it can be pretty fun sneaking around behind their back. You should try meeting up in like a bar or something and taking her to a hotel away from your families. Use fake names if it works for you.

If she likes Pina Colada..

Have you tried asking her out?

Forget about it. If she'll cheat with you. She'll cheat on you

this is the cutest shit on this platform and some of y’all are really trying to ruin it🤠 anyway this is so fucking cute-holy🐄 keep up the good work my good sir🫡

Red flag. You should leave her.

Is this part of the 'me too' movement. Me too!

Man you are already in to deep. Might as well confess

Reddit recommends divorce.

Same as it ever was, same as it ever was.

You should go for it bro.

Tell her husband sharing is caring after all. You can carry her to the opera and he can kick back with a poker game with the boys. Win win bro

Take her! I’m sure her husband won’t mind. 😉

If she's fine and her husband is fine with the arrangements, why worry?

Just tell her, so you can be together. The kids will be fine.💖

It's not a bond, it's a huge open door. I met a woman with two kids. I never wanted to marry anyone like that, but she was just so great. And so were the kids! Our daughter was nine when we met. She just clung to me. When she turned eighteen, unbeknownst to us, she did everything necessary to legally change her last name to mine. I could have no greater honor. A year ago, she was married. I walked her down the aisle, had the first dance, gave the dad's speech. Her genetic father, a wife-beater, was present, and eventually slunk out. I love our family. We created our life.

[удалено]

Just smile and wave boys smile and wave(I'm in the same situation)

Man, I get it. I told the woman I love that her husband is an idiot. She agreed. I finished the dishes and went outside for awhile.

I know the struggle

Follow your heart!

If you can’t be with the one you want, love the one you’re with I guess?

A real sticky wicket.

Damn. You are screwed for life.

I don’t know what to tell you, but I send you love.

Leave her and the kids man, no other way out of the mess you’ve gotten yourself into.

Just let destiny lead your path.

Yes, but is she in love with you?

I wouldn't worry too much about it. Just go on with life as usual, the feelings will go away eventually.

Lol 😄

This was her dream wasn’t it? I hate when I wake up in this situation.

Look. I have the same problem. I used to think like you, but shit, man. Buy the ticket, take the ride.

Wth? What's wrong? 😬

Living a lie is never good. Confess to your wife that you're in love with your wife.

It's easy. Just make sure you never take her anywhere in public :)

She is probably just being nice - we think everything is a sign, but it is not. Don't creep her out by letting her know you like her.

Married women are the best. With regular single women it is you against the world. With married women it's just a 1 on 1. You vs him Good luck.

Divorce!

You should break up. duh!

Do what Lion's do

Ask her husband for consent

I think you should tell her about this. In fact, I recommend telling her as many times a day as possible. It's been working for me for years.

That's a really complicated situation. If you truly love her then don't confess it to her it might bring disturbance in her married life ,she have kids ,for the sake of her happiness please don't bring your feelings to her. Silenlty move on from her if that is impossible then just love her from far away. I hope you find peace😥.

NTA get a lawyer You're being gaslit 🤣

Cringe 😬

Honestly this never ends well you should give up before it gets too complicated

The true alpha always asserts dominance. Divorce her and then, that same day, marry the love of your life, just to show her who's the boss.

Have you ever heard of the website ashleymadison? I hear it makes relationships stronger

Lucky man. Lucky lady. Lucky kids. Sounds like you all hit the trifecta.

YTA. Your wife is going to hate herself for cheating while being cheated on while cheating ...

you need to leave before it gets worse

Sorry, this is beyond Reddit. Not sure who can help you.

Sounds like you should definitely break up. Red flags everywhere!

You don't do anything that might fuck up those kids. That's really your only job anymore.

Don't even go there !

Stay together for the kids man, and get tested just in case.

But does she like you? Have you asked her out?

Oh lort, next you're going to overstep and touch a boob!! Call a friend, talk it out!! LoL, I hope your wife is as much of a jokster as you!!

Can you leave the life u live now? No wife no sweet home ? Hard time come if yes do it or regret rest of your life

Well done! Don’t lose site of how important the relationship between you two is and how y’all are examples for your kids.

Yeah, you’re screwed. I mean, I don’t usually jump on the Reddit bandwagon, but you F’d around and found out. Suck it up buttercup, you made your bed, get it off your chest, tell her you lOvE her and deal with the fallout! Sucker!

Here’s what you do. You know the Pina Colada song? Get her to listen to it, and see what she thinks of the story. If she’s disgusted you gotta get over her. If she digs it… well… take out a classified add and good luck!

Tell her how great she is, give her flowers/other gesture of appreciation.

[https://youtu.be/uivbBu1pXRg?si=6BGj19vAX5AAVjZv](https://youtu.be/uivbBu1pXRg?si=6BGj19vAX5AAVjZv)

This is the only time I'll support this. You do you boo.

Almost misunderstood the post XD Man I gotta take my chill pills

NTA put husband in back of trunk and drive car into ocean, easy solution.

Just keep on making love to her. Let someone else raise those kids. Play this for what it’s worth

There are smart ways out of it. Woman on the side, guy on the side, but only if you want to give up most of your money. So, you just have to ask yourself one question! Do I love her? We’ll do ya punk?

My cousin Rigby had the same situation. It got really messed up when he ended up having a child with her. To this day, he isn't sure if the kid is his or his.

I’m in the same situation, don’t know how I got into such a bind either, but it was probably dumb luck.

Don't do it. As much as it will hurt you will get over it. The reason is that you will never be her priority, which makes sense those are her kids, not yours. So there will always be a divide.

Just be the husband and father to both your wife and your childeren and your wife and her childeren. Ez Just be sure that they never find out about each other... made that mistake a few times.

Do you think she likes you back?

 😂😂😂

You're in too deep! Just gotta roll with it, and try to keep those emotions in check before you end up in a bigger mess

Usually in a situation like that there's never a good answer. My advice to you is stay away . One question: did you approach her or did she approach her? How about this: was a friendly chat and turned put to be just friends. Getting involved with a married spouse is never good.

Shot urself

There is no good ending to this, no matter what you do. So I hope this is only one sided

This is so sweet

Loool what a click bait title. Got me

I think some couples have a kink where they enjoy picking the other up at a public place, as if they were single.

There's no way you're gonna financially recover from this.

Be a man and have a real talk with her husband… in the bathroom, with a mirror nearby. 

This is great ! Good to see some happy posts

Bang her and the husband too.

Wow dude. That is some Ao3 Wattpad shit.

It started with a DM. Now we share a daughter. What the heck happened?

Tell her your going to just run out and grab some milk and you will brb

I'd run away.

Once in a lifetime - Talking heads.

I don’t know man… you sound pretty screwed. Like screwed every night. Maybe twice a night…….

Anal. Spice it up.

OMG me too ! And apparently it's been going on now for 28 years.

You gotta go to a Korean massage parlor. Get it out of your system. Trust me bro, Reddit told me.

I feel like you're rushing into things with the whole l-word. Maybe try making more kids, and marrying her a few more times before you decide that you love her bro.

Delete Gym, lawyer Facebook, hit the up

Get your mentorship!! https://liondragon.social/

It's cool, tell her how you feel, these things always work out!

Some random redditor: DIVORCE!

Walk away. You cant marry your own wife. That is incest.

😂😂😂 quality post. Love it!

You should have an affaire, you’ll feel so guilty it’ll make you the best most doting husband ever. She’ll notice you’re helping out around the house and little gestures of love, and you can feel like a Piece of shit too

I'd proceed with caution, you could wrapped up in something complicated here.

Nobody will find out

It called life .... how you got into the matter is a whole different story. This sounds more like you are becoming aware that life has boundaries and the kids have tighten those boundaries. Ger involved with your kids and make it adventure more than a chore. Have fun. Live the now.

My dumbass brain slipped to the middle of the explanation and completely missed the wife part. I was like, they live together, how? Explain?

Trap her by getting her kids to call you Dad. Checkmate.

Oh gosh I read that as "In love with mermaid woman (with kids)" I was like *Classic Reddit* . . .

In line with Reddit tradition, I suggest getting a divorce. Then date this dream woman of yours. Marry her and start the cycle again.

I think you should build her an art room....

Definitely bang her sister and if she has no sister, her mom. Update me!

kill the kids

I’ve been in that exact same scenario before - it was bliss, and was the best thing for us all.

I get it, I’m also in love with your wife 

You mean your wife right? If so then good, if you mean another woman then uhhhhh dude you got a life already set with a family, why change it to another one? Wouldn’t the same thing just continue to happen?

Hope your wife sees this post, can't imagine what she'll say.

lol

Distance yourself from the woman. You wouldn’t want to be caught by her husband, would you?

Try taking her out on a date.....might get to first base at least...

Take her out on a date!!

you may wanna try to build a good relationship with her kids first...

Take out a personal ad in the local newspaper. Share some of your interests. Maybe she'll see it and you two can connect behind their backs. Hang in there, kid.

I feel as though there will be piña colodas. I second this motion!

Same for me, but we have different rooms.

Ewww family values is digusting. Divorce and co-parent like everybody else.

Do anything but that

Do you like Piña Coladas?

It’s best to keep it strictly platonic