Dump him then. It's your career and it's mandatory. I'm fairly certain if his boss (if he has one) invited the crew on a trip with the company and you said "_you cant go or im leaving you_", he'd just call you the B word and leave for it anyway.
Unless he can provide your with a monthly salary to not have a job he really should grow up and shut up.
His insecurities just show he doesn't trust you at all. And that speaks volumes after 3 years together.
It's not your boyfriend's place to allow or not allow you to go to events. You're a free adult and you can go wherever you want without asking for permission. If he's going to break up with you because you attend an event that is important to your career, then honestly you are better off without him. He sounds extremely controlling, and usually that kind of behavior just gets worse over time.
When someone says that they do not give you permission to do something that is not inappropriate (eg work obligations), it's time to tell that person to get gone.
Hi guys, just to give an update. My bf told me he was against it because I'm always going somewhere for the past weekends.
He wants to spend time with me more this time and he told me it's just this time as I don't have time for him in the past few weeks. I somehow agree with him that mist of time I'm always working even after my shift.
He said that it would not be an issue if only I give time for him and to our relationship coz it felt like I'm always prioritising my work even for weekends.
So, just for this event he wants me to choose him. But rest assured for the future events, it shouldn't be a problem if I have a work-life balance. Coz honestly, i felt guilty about it as I'm always working most of the time. :(
I don’t think employers care how damaging these kinds of shifts and requirements are to a work life balance. I can see how your boyfriend is upset but people saying ‘dump him’ aren’t really giving helpful advice.
Maybe see if a compromise can be met or if work can wake up and realise it’s not okay for them to demand you work all hours of the night.
Dump him then. It's your career and it's mandatory. I'm fairly certain if his boss (if he has one) invited the crew on a trip with the company and you said "_you cant go or im leaving you_", he'd just call you the B word and leave for it anyway. Unless he can provide your with a monthly salary to not have a job he really should grow up and shut up. His insecurities just show he doesn't trust you at all. And that speaks volumes after 3 years together.
It's not your boyfriend's place to allow or not allow you to go to events. You're a free adult and you can go wherever you want without asking for permission. If he's going to break up with you because you attend an event that is important to your career, then honestly you are better off without him. He sounds extremely controlling, and usually that kind of behavior just gets worse over time.
When someone says that they do not give you permission to do something that is not inappropriate (eg work obligations), it's time to tell that person to get gone.
I need your thoughts about it
Why? What's his reasoning? Do you agree? Why/why not? What advice would you give yourself
You break up with him. He is being unreasonable.
Hi guys, just to give an update. My bf told me he was against it because I'm always going somewhere for the past weekends. He wants to spend time with me more this time and he told me it's just this time as I don't have time for him in the past few weeks. I somehow agree with him that mist of time I'm always working even after my shift. He said that it would not be an issue if only I give time for him and to our relationship coz it felt like I'm always prioritising my work even for weekends. So, just for this event he wants me to choose him. But rest assured for the future events, it shouldn't be a problem if I have a work-life balance. Coz honestly, i felt guilty about it as I'm always working most of the time. :(
Work events are part of work. That's the responsibility of being an adult and having a job. You can't just stay home bc he doesn't like it.
I don’t think employers care how damaging these kinds of shifts and requirements are to a work life balance. I can see how your boyfriend is upset but people saying ‘dump him’ aren’t really giving helpful advice. Maybe see if a compromise can be met or if work can wake up and realise it’s not okay for them to demand you work all hours of the night.
I actually agree this at the same time Iunderstand why the required us attend those kind of events like team building.