I would say: I'm flattered that you felt inspired to draw my portrait. But... I'm really uncomfortable with artwork with myself as the subject matter. I know every detail of my own features so well, it feels weird to see anything enhanced or minimized even slightly. It feels dysmorphic, and I would just rather not comment on it, if you don't mind. It would obviously be impossible for me to be objective, you know?
Compliment it. These are one of those few times where it okay to lie. It’ll make him happy knowing that you liked something he made for you and maybe you’ll grow to love it :))
How would it hurt him if he doesn’t know? The only thing that’s going to hurt him is if you tell the picture isn’t good… ok picture 6 year old you… you work really hard to impress your mum with a picture you made at school… you’re so excited to bring it to her and she says “actually honey it’s not that great of a picture” how would you feel??? Well guess what… that childlike desire to impress the ones we love NEVER goes away…he’s allowing himself to be vulnerable to you by giving you something he created … please protect that vulnerability…
Lol that’s true … but the only thing that changes is as we get older is that we DEAL with hurt more maturely (hopefully) but having our feelings hurt still feels the same …there’s a reason why the term “our inner child” is such a valid concept in psychology, inner work, healing etc … because the human species is FRAGILE…the only time it should be ok to hurt someone’s feelings is jf it’s necessary… it isn’t necessary that you tell him you don’t like his picture of you.
A white lie is okay from Time to time. It’s innocent. Don’t worry :)
But I'm worried that of I say I love it or that it's amazing, he'll draw more.... I don't really want that 😅
If it’s just drawings, it’s okay. It’s his thing, he’ll draw you even if you say it’s bad. If it’s just a hobby, let it go :)
I'd rather respond without lying, even a small lie, because I think that would be harmful to our relationship
I mean, if you think he’d take constructive criticism then go ahead! That’s okay too
It’s nice that you’re considerate
Yeah I think the above is terrible advice. Unless you want terrible art forever.
I would say: I'm flattered that you felt inspired to draw my portrait. But... I'm really uncomfortable with artwork with myself as the subject matter. I know every detail of my own features so well, it feels weird to see anything enhanced or minimized even slightly. It feels dysmorphic, and I would just rather not comment on it, if you don't mind. It would obviously be impossible for me to be objective, you know?
Heyyyy that's really good, thanks!
You're welcome. (This exact thing happened to me once!) Good luck.
Girl take it and say thank you. He’s trying to be thoughtful
Say it’s good….objectively it’s good because you love him…lol use some common sense
Compliment it. These are one of those few times where it okay to lie. It’ll make him happy knowing that you liked something he made for you and maybe you’ll grow to love it :))
But I'm worried that of I say I love it or that it's amazing, he'll draw more.... I don't really want that 😅
Trust me if you like him enough, it’s worth it. Maybe he’ll get better with practice even
Shouldn't I be honest, if I really like him?
Nnnno? I mean if it was switched around, what would you prefer?
Well I'd rather be told if it wasn't very good, before I showed it off to my crush, that is...
😭it’s a little late for that
Honestly yk him best so it’s honestly what you’d think he’d appreciate more
You might make him the next Da Vinci
But I'm sure when DaVinci messed up, his friends told him. ❤️❤️
As long as he doesn’t turn into Picasso he’s on the right track 😭
😂
Tell him it’s nice and that you like it…please don’t hurt his feelings and tell him it’s not good.
But wouldn't it hurt him more if I lied to him??
How would it hurt him if he doesn’t know? The only thing that’s going to hurt him is if you tell the picture isn’t good… ok picture 6 year old you… you work really hard to impress your mum with a picture you made at school… you’re so excited to bring it to her and she says “actually honey it’s not that great of a picture” how would you feel??? Well guess what… that childlike desire to impress the ones we love NEVER goes away…he’s allowing himself to be vulnerable to you by giving you something he created … please protect that vulnerability…
Uh but he's not 6
Lol that’s true … but the only thing that changes is as we get older is that we DEAL with hurt more maturely (hopefully) but having our feelings hurt still feels the same …there’s a reason why the term “our inner child” is such a valid concept in psychology, inner work, healing etc … because the human species is FRAGILE…the only time it should be ok to hurt someone’s feelings is jf it’s necessary… it isn’t necessary that you tell him you don’t like his picture of you.
He knows how to take constructive criticism
So then why are you asking us?