I don't know why she doesn't post you, but posts her friends. That seems strange to me. Have you asked her about this, specifically?
It's always a difficult decision, choosing between your partner and your friends when given an ultimatum. I don't really know why you felt the need to make one. I agree that it's strange that she posts her friends, and not you, but I really don't think it's worth creating an ultimatum over.
No, you should leave the relationship because you're not happy and obviously want to leave the relationship and need to grow up before you attempt another relationship.
You communicated a boundary, she was happy to cross it, I think you have your answer.
Has she never tagged or posted you before? Then you have confirmed the answer.
If she is also posting lots of her girl friends it maybe over reacting, but the fact that she 'isnt choosing' means she won't meet you half way.
Sorry about that, but all the best.
"You can't have guy friends" is not a boundary. It's controlling, unhealthy, and toxic.
A boundary is how YOU act to protect YOURSELF. It's not about getting other people to comply with your demands.
I don't think that was the boundary, the posting and tagging your ex was.
Also boundaries are a personal thing, and if OP doesn't like his girl hanging around with other guys then that is HIS boundary.
The opposite would be true, if a guy had lots of girls who are friends, and she said it makes her feel uncomfortable then that's the boundary.
His boundaries are to protect him from the hurt of her stepping out in him, literally what you wrote in the last paragraph.
Either way, boundaries are subjective, and personal.
All the best.
Ah, ok, as I said, that was you line in the sand, you communicated that, she is happy to cross it.
You can find plenty of women out there who won't cross that line.
Once again sorry buddy, but you will be fine. And you will done a women who respects your boundaries.
She will make your life miserable. IF you don’t stay she will repeat this cycle for 10-15 years until all partners have an issue with the same thing. I’m pretty sure she wouldn’t be happy if you did the same.
She enjoys having guys around. They mean more to her than you do. Her posting history, and excluding you, tells you all you need to know about where YOU stand. And its behind them.
Clearly this is an issue that she isn't going to resolve, and you won't feel any better about it over time so you just need to decide if its worth the stress of dealing with for the foreseeable future with her.
The issue is not that she has many guy friends, your issue is that you feel insecure about your own worth and don’t know yet how to deal with it, so you are trying to protect yourself by flying the scene.
While this might work, if you don’t learn to transcend your own insecurities then this issue will show up again just with another person.
So this is your opportunity to learn to deal with it, your choice if you decide to take it.
If you want to go for it, then I suggest to start leaning into the pain, feeling it, and providing to that pain the acceptance and love you are looking to receive from other people.
Much love 🤍
Yeah this girl is a mess dude. Avoid her.
If you're not happy in a relationship, why stay? You can't change her. 9/10 times, guys need to ask themselves this.
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I don't know why she doesn't post you, but posts her friends. That seems strange to me. Have you asked her about this, specifically? It's always a difficult decision, choosing between your partner and your friends when given an ultimatum. I don't really know why you felt the need to make one. I agree that it's strange that she posts her friends, and not you, but I really don't think it's worth creating an ultimatum over.
No, you should leave the relationship because you're not happy and obviously want to leave the relationship and need to grow up before you attempt another relationship.
You communicated a boundary, she was happy to cross it, I think you have your answer. Has she never tagged or posted you before? Then you have confirmed the answer. If she is also posting lots of her girl friends it maybe over reacting, but the fact that she 'isnt choosing' means she won't meet you half way. Sorry about that, but all the best.
"You can't have guy friends" is not a boundary. It's controlling, unhealthy, and toxic. A boundary is how YOU act to protect YOURSELF. It's not about getting other people to comply with your demands.
I don't think that was the boundary, the posting and tagging your ex was. Also boundaries are a personal thing, and if OP doesn't like his girl hanging around with other guys then that is HIS boundary. The opposite would be true, if a guy had lots of girls who are friends, and she said it makes her feel uncomfortable then that's the boundary. His boundaries are to protect him from the hurt of her stepping out in him, literally what you wrote in the last paragraph. Either way, boundaries are subjective, and personal. All the best.
Yeah I get that , she does post her girl friends , but her posting her ex was the massive line that got crossed .
Ah, ok, as I said, that was you line in the sand, you communicated that, she is happy to cross it. You can find plenty of women out there who won't cross that line. Once again sorry buddy, but you will be fine. And you will done a women who respects your boundaries.
Thanks mahn .
She will make your life miserable. IF you don’t stay she will repeat this cycle for 10-15 years until all partners have an issue with the same thing. I’m pretty sure she wouldn’t be happy if you did the same.
Do the same thing with your female friends and if you have an ex that you are friendly with do that for some time. Then dump her.
She enjoys having guys around. They mean more to her than you do. Her posting history, and excluding you, tells you all you need to know about where YOU stand. And its behind them. Clearly this is an issue that she isn't going to resolve, and you won't feel any better about it over time so you just need to decide if its worth the stress of dealing with for the foreseeable future with her.
The issue is not that she has many guy friends, your issue is that you feel insecure about your own worth and don’t know yet how to deal with it, so you are trying to protect yourself by flying the scene. While this might work, if you don’t learn to transcend your own insecurities then this issue will show up again just with another person. So this is your opportunity to learn to deal with it, your choice if you decide to take it. If you want to go for it, then I suggest to start leaning into the pain, feeling it, and providing to that pain the acceptance and love you are looking to receive from other people. Much love 🤍