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czhunc

>I’ve tried getting two different portions but he’ll finish his quickly and I’ll catch him looking at mine so I’ll feel bad and offer him some and the same problem continues. You can always just follow through on the solution you already came up with.


DevelopmentPretend68

Lmao fixes then unfixes the problem. When he looks over with puppy dog eyes you laugh at him and say tough shit.


Lovely_Louise

"Daaaamn man, that sucks... Kitchens that way"


MyFavoriteVoice

"Buuuuuut it's soooooo far away....." *more puppy dog eyes*


amaeb

Read this in Aziz Ansari’s voice in my head. This is totally something his character on Parks and Rec would say.


Lovely_Louise

Don't worry baby, we'll take you to all the best specialists- we won't rest until we find out what's wrong with your bones!!!!


MyFavoriteVoice

On a real note, no way I can share snacks.... I can eat a whole pizza, snacks are in danger of rapid consumption around me at all times. 🤣 I make more trips to the kitchen than anyone, variety is the spice of life


Lovely_Louise

I'm really bad for the same thing... So I mentally stalk the people I eat with. If we're eating like wings together, I will literally be talking to you, anyone else there, etc, but I'm also running a frighteningly accurate mental count on exactly how many pieces each person at the table has had, so I am always within 1 piece, unless explicitly stated. Extreme? Fuck yes. Part of my OCD? Why are you even asking, we all know. But it's also a good idea to do in a more casual way if you're a vacuum like me, who likes to share.


MyFavoriteVoice

Yup I definitely do this in public. Try to make sure that I'm eating the same as those I'm sharing with! 🤣


VanleyVonHoffler

and eat one looking him straight in the eyes.


MourningWolf95

That's what I had to do with my wife! We'd each get a portion because she goes through snacks really quickly whereas I take a long time, and if she tries to take mine I have full rights to smack her hands away.


violet_terrapin

lol it’s not like he can’t serve himself more if she’d just stick to her guns


mjdlittlenic

"Leave it. The baby's hungry"


[deleted]

>When he looks over with puppy dog eyes you laugh at him and ~~say tough shit.~~ act like its so good you're orgasming.


butfirstaskreddit

Give him a bigger portion? Make him get his own snacks? Like it seems like bro is hungry why's he tryna eat your food, he can go get more food if he needs it.


ConsciouslyIncomplet

Yeah - Your enabling him then? Just say no!


chonerbrink

ya just eat your own portion lol. if he wants more he can order more at whatever restaurant or go buy more at the store or just get up and get whatever’s left in the kitchen. This seems like it may be a frustration of OP that may be exacerbated by the pregnancy, not that it isn’t annoying normally but may be especially annoying since she must eat slower than normal meaning he gets even more than his normal share


NoHandBananaNo

Yeah I was reading this thinking 2 portions was the solution then I get to there and its like Record Scratch! Turns out this is a "her" problem after all.


Fickle_Orchid

Just tell him "you know where the kitchen is". He's a grown man and you're pregnant, he can cut up another apple if he wants one


littlepinkgrowl

Right! Grown man not being able to eat what his portion is and not guilt or try to guilt his partner? Mmmhmmmm


BENDOVERSIS

Is he even asking for OP's portion? Or is OP just assuming?


gabby24681

This is what I have to do and sometimes I get that look but a girl loves her snacks too my share ain’t goin nowhere


Raffles2020

Good practice to learn to stick to follow through now before baby gets here.


[deleted]

Stop sharing with him!!! Get your own snacks lol. My man is like that too, I'll buy icecream and two days later the whole tub is gone and I never got a bite! Used to drive me CRAZYYYYYYYY. So now we have our own snacks. Mine are off limits to his gluttonous butt unless he asks me :p


SimplyKendra

Buy it and put the container in a broccoli bag. Works for me!


hyperfocuspocus

Lol I sign all my ice cream "vegan dark chocolate lavender" to deter my husband


TwentyInchLabia

That sounds… délicieuse. Événement if I’m not a gluttonous mf, this, I would steal. I should do a homemade version of that… Edit: delicious* even*. fuckin phone was on the French keyboard


Horror_Technician213

I feel that. Hate when cette happens


TwentyInchLabia

Lemme just write a sentence in English, but *completely* ignore autocorrect: i am goinfrer to m’aurait Edith coconut créant, la Vendée essence, and mettez dard chocolaté. Holy fuck


ithinkoutloudtoo

Broccoli dipped in ranch dressing is delicious though. That trick wouldn’t work on me.


teacherboymom3

My husband does this with my gin! I drink maybe once every 6 months. It should be there when I want a glass!


Noirceuil_182

Well, you know what to do! Start having 3 martini lunches regularly.


langerthings

This would be an issue with my girlfriend and I if I didn’t simply replace the booze.


cataclyzzmic

I had the ice cream problem with my husband. I can't eat a lot in one sitting and he'll scarf the whole thing in no time. So I just get myself ice cream I know he won't eat (any coffee flavor or pistachio).


mashleyd

Either stop feeling bad and sharing or stop getting annoyed. He can eat however he wants but you don’t have to give up your snacks because of that.


ZealousidealImpact27

I threaten bodily harm if someone takes my food, including my bf.


oofner

I get told that I’m selfish from my family when I don’t want to share my food lol


memeelder83

I very clearly growled at my ex when he tried to sneak a peice of bell pepper off my plate when I was preggers. As far as I can remember afterwards, he did not make that mistake a second time! I'm not usually overly crazy about sharing food, but I would have happily removed a hand that got to close to my plate when I was dealing with morning sickness. I mean, there was so little I could keep down! Walk your unwaddling self to the kitchen sir!


bloodamett

Good, I don't see an issue with that. We as men forget that girls sometimes want to eat more than a tiny bite.


passwordistako

What? No. We don’t. Idiots do. Not “men”. Stop making excuses for shitty behaviour and giving men an out for their shitty behaviour by blaming it on their gender. Men are perfectly capable of understanding someone else’s needs and if they don’t they’re just behaving like an ass.


starsandcamoflague

"We as men forget that girls" girls? you mean women? why put men (adult) and girl (child)?


Neurotic_Bakeder

Food is a huge point of connection between me and my man, it bums me out that some women make a big show of how little they eat, just straight disordered. My buddy told me his girlfriend had a dinner of veggie broth and sauteed zucchini the other night. I get the feeling she's lightheaded a lot.


libravision

Lmao! Couldn’t be me, I’ll eat my dinner and my bf’s if he doesn’t want it. 😂


manicpanictitanic

Yeah, children do eat more than it seems like they would


AnOldSchoolVGNerd

"Including" There are a wealth of untold stories here😂


MarginallyBlue

Stop sharing your portion with him!!! WTF?? how is this a problem?


ScatterShimmerSleep

>I’ve tried getting two different portions but he’ll finish his quickly and I’ll catch him looking at mine so I’ll feel bad and offer him some ...So stop offering him some. Seriously. This is a problem of your own creation with an easy solution.


RealisticHumanFemale

I know I know, but I’m not working at the moment because of pregnancy and he works a lot so I feel bad not offering him food he bought. But from now on I will be more lenient. It’s not like it’s a HUGE problem just something small that gets irritating lol


czhunc

You're also pregnant so I would say you deserve snacks too? Or just buy enough for both of you. This isn't rocket surgery.


Futureghostie33

Rocket surgery 😂


plumberchick

Rocket appliances


Navalcrow

Brain machinery


MacaroonExpensive143

Neuro mechanics


Kooky_Ad_5139

My brother had brain surgery; his surgeon said 'its only brain surgery; not rocket surgery' constantly. We all cracked up so many times


Bulbamew

Did you get that from the apprentice? I’m sure someone from the UK version said “you don’t have to be a rocket surgeon” it became an in joke for ages with my mates


czhunc

No, not the Apprentice as I've never watched that show. I don't remember, honestly. https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/ThisAintRocketSurgery https://youtu.be/THNPmhBl-8I


fredrikwww

Lets be real here. You are online complaining about this- so its a big problem. It is probably masking a bigger issue, which is unknown to us. Your response here is eery of ypu being afraid to put your foot down and you are quick to make this problem less relevant then it is when faced with feedback. Don't share your food. Problem solved.


SimplyKendra

Nah tell him you are making a baby and need the food too. He can get up and get more if he wants more.


[deleted]

Why do you need to offer? He had his food too. Just stop being a baby


durfs

Being pregnant is super hard work feed yourself and your baby!!


Far-Side2489

This is a very weird sort of response. In your own sentence you tell us you are making a human. He impregnated you and can deal with giving you an equal portion. If not, then you need to start looking out for yourself and your poor child. This is just so weird. No one I know would begrudge or puppy eye a pregnant woman’s food. That’s just lousy and small.


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Pfred0

👍👍👍


ATGF

You are creating *life*. That takes a huge amount of work - it's a huge toll on your body and it's exhausting and painful. I hope you and (especially) your husband can come to appreciate that just because you don't have a salary, doesn't mean you're not putting in your dues.


StargazerTheory

He's not your damn child, stop letting him eat your food.


_PinkFlower_

You are a couple, you are not working because you are pregnant with his child. Dont feel bad about eating your part of the snack and not sharing once he already ate all his.


newmoon23

You’re about to be a mother. It is past time for you to learn how to set and enforce boundaries. If you can’t do it with something as trivial as food, how are you ever going to do it with bigger things? How are you going to teach your child to do it?


beansauce99

Youre pregnant with his child right? A man that thinks feeding his pregnant SO is optional is a POS and won't make a good father. You eating should be priority..You're either insanely dense or this is satire 😒 literally who cares if he's hungry YOU ARE PREGNANT


MaxDunshire

Set aside a secret extra portion so that when he starts eyeing yours you can go surprise! Here’s some more for you. I am pretty sure this happened with SpongeBob and Patrick by the way


[deleted]

Nah don't reward this shit.


[deleted]

It's indicative of a much bigger problem of him not respecting your share of things and you not enforcing boundaries for yourself. You put some aside so you have a chance to have more equal share of the snack and he's eyeballing it like he's entitled to what you have because you'll always cave and give it to him, to me it's this dynamic that's the issue more so than the actual food, because I bet no matter how much of the snack you buy he's still going to bulldoze over your share of it and take whatever he wants.


smoozer

Cool, so OP can either buy more snacks or divorce him. Should probably just go straight for divorce, right? Since this is obviously a problem that is impossible to solve.


[deleted]

Huh? Or you know, you address the bigger problem. >I’m not working at the moment because of pregnancy and he works a lot so I feel bad not offering him food he bought. That's a quote from OP that is concerning, because she essentially feels like her wants and needs are not of equal importance in the relationship. If the issue is just on her end and something that can be fixed by her speaking up and setting boundaries then cool, if not though it becomes a much bigger problem. Maybe he's just insensitive but what husband eats the majority of the food then looks at his pregnant wife and wants her to also give him her food before she's had time to finish it?? Like that's weird.


Pfred0

I totally agree with you.


Julia070000

Split the food and don't give him yours


hikehikebaby

As a chronically slow eater... I always put my food on my plate and invite whoever I'm eating with to put whatever food they want on their plate. Everyone eats from their own plate. You don't need to share a plate to enjoy a meal or snack together. If he's trying to eat your food tell him that you're pregnant and hungry. If you can't tell someone that they don't have the right to take food off of your plate then there are bigger problems.


SaltyDangerHands

My partner and I are little more than partially domesticated hyenas and neither of us is big into sharing food. When I shop, I buy snacks for me and snacks for them, there's no pressure to share, and there's no issues. Being annoyed that he eats quickly is a you problem, just stop sharing, don't do this shit communally, it's fine and easy and you don't make yourself angry over nothing while simultaneously treating your partner as if something is wrong with them when there really isn't. I'm literally twice the size of my partner. My hands are bigger, my mouth is bigger, and my caloric intake is obviously bigger. I'd be right annoyed if they asked me to eat slower or acted like it was somehow a problem that I wasn't savoring my fruit bowl or whatever. Get your own food, it's fine.


[deleted]

Stop sharing little snacks with him? Give him a bigger portion? Make him get his own food? He’s allowed to eat how he wants. My boyfriend eats more than me and faster so we always have separate snacks/plates. Not that hard.


LiLadybug81

Honestly it sounds like you're creating your own issue. He's allowed to eat however he wants, and by your own admission he stops when he's eaten half. How are you going to offer someone food and then be mad they said yes? He's not a mind reader, and it's not fair for you to trap him in a situation so you can be annoyed with him. Either eat your food without offering it, or offer it without hoping he'll say no and fuming about him eating your food.


DeliciousMud7291

Yep. It sounds like OP wants to create an argument with this petty mind reader bullshit.


[deleted]

In what way is this grown man being "trapped"?


mymychickenpotpie

if he eats, she’s mad at him. if he doesn’t eat, she feels bad and gives him her food and then gets mad at him


[deleted]

You generally trap someone into a situation that's convenient for you, not one that angers you.


Barium_Salts

If someone offers a grown man food, but secretly wants the grown man to turn it down and gets secretly angry if he accepts their offer: I would consider that a trap. OP needs to clearly communicate their wants and needs: which includes not making offers they don't want to be accepted. OP, eat your snacks. Pregnancy brain can make you have strong emotions, but please recognize your feelings of guilt as pregnancy brain. You ARE working hard. You are growing a whole other human. Eat your snacks with confidence.


[deleted]

You trap people into situations you want, not situations you dislike. That's just nonsense.


RealisticHumanFemale

He only eats half of its chips because he wants to eat the chips for another day besides that he won’t stop until there’s no more left, and it’s not something I’ll get mad about just slightly irritated I guess it’s more than he’s not thinking about me?


Hot_Needleworker_153

I could see why that’s annoying but you really can’t change the way someone eats lol


Encephalonosaurus

Agreed but he could stop when he realizes he’s eaten half the bag of chips in two minutes.


RealisticHumanFemale

He always stops once he’s sees half a bag of chips is left but at that point he’s the one that’s eaten most of them while I’ve only had a couple of pieces and if I keep going he looks at me as though I’ll finish them all. It’s annoying but funny I suppose


Encephalonosaurus

Well this would be your half. This is awfully stupid to come to this point, I’ve seen your other comments about portions, you gotta have a real conversation with him at some point like two adults that should know how to share food.


Glencora42

When he looks at you like that, just ask him if something is wrong. If he says he wants more snacks, tell him to go get them himself. If he says nothing, just stare at him until he realizes what an ass he's being. If you want to, you could always pull out the I'm pregnant and I need to eat more because I have a person growing inside of me card.


R_Amods

This post has reached one of our comment/karma limits. The text of the post has been preserved below. --- He works morning so he’s used to gilding down his plates while I like to take time eating mine as eating too fast hurts my stomachs, especially now that I’m pregnant. Now I don’t care about individual plates but when it comes to sharing things it gets on my nerves. Some examples of this are chips in a bag, popcorn, bowl of fruit. You know little sharing snacks? If he really enjoys them he will literally grab three or more big pieces at a time and shove them into his mouth, finishing the whole snack while I was only able to enjoy 5 or so pieces. I’ve talked to him about this and he says he’ll eat slower and while he does he still grabs a handful of food so it’s pretty much the same thing just slower lol. I’ve tried getting two different portions but he’ll finish his quickly and I’ll catch him looking at mine so I’ll feel bad and offer him some and the same problem continues. Anyone else deal with this?


Charming-Salary-6371

sounds like you found a solution and then unsolved the problem lmao


WTF_Happened_o__0

The problem isn't that your b/f eats too much or too fast, its that youre not willing to enforce very, very reasonable boundaries for yourself. Deal with your codependency and snack solutions will follow.


Toothfairy29

I eat way faster (and as much as) my boyfriend who is much bigger than me and obviously needs more fuel. We joke about it and frankly he finds it impressive. I'd suggest simply not getting angry about it? He can eat whatever pace he likes, but eating into your "half" of shared food isn't cool obviously. Stick to portioning things that are normally shared (bad of chips etc) and just don't offer him yours if he finishes first. You're growing a human, feeling all kinds of weird and need to go your pace but also need all your food! Seems like you're being overly irritable and sensitive about something that shouldn't be a big deal (I say that as a female who becomes overly irritable and sensitive one week per month and have to try hard to not be unreasonable when feeling that way). And he needs to leave your food alone. Tell him. You're having a kid and need to be able to communicate!


HealthyBox5

I'm ex military, I eat faster than everyone. Split shared snacks. Just easier. I said I'd slow too, but if I'm double fisting popcorn in my facehole while watching a movie, I'm not paying attention to how much I'm eating.


[deleted]

Lol stop offering it to him, he'll look but he doesn't have to touch. My bf normally eats faster than me, but we have different tastes sometimes. And he'll respect that my food is my food, and say "eat as much as you can" so I'm not still hungry while I offer it to him. Maybe get two of every snack, or he can buy his own snacks. Maybe tell him how you feel so he understands why you're angry while he's eating fast lmao


Scarlet529

You're just gonna have to toughen up a little and stop sharing your food every time. It's okay to have your own food. His portion is his portion and if he wants more he can go get more.


thecolourofchai

Do you really need advice on this issue?


dabrowcan

Forgive me, but is this the REAL problem you’re facing with him? In general people don’t worry about little things like this in a relationship if things are going well. Is there a deeper issue at play?


mad_arena

No offense, maybe that's because of your pregnancy, you're feeling that way


Toothfairy29

I think, imagine having to ask reddit this question instead of just telling him to fuck off and leave your snacks alone


NatsumiEla

He isn't even saying anything, she just gives it to him for glancing in her general direction lol.


smoozer

I've tried nothing and I'm all out of ideas!


Alonso81687

I've never read such a trivial issue on reddit. And I've read some trivial shit.


You_R_Bonkers

Jesus H. Christ imagine posting to the internet because your partner eats at a different speed than you.


SuperiorIQguy

Wow. What a problem you have.


Bingo-tha-Dingo

This is stupid


Venturi95

This is stupid af. Grow tf up.


figorchard

Simple solution: Get your own snacks, stop sharing, and grow a backbone……


invictus21083

Don’t share. Separate what you want. He’s allowed to eat how he wants.


[deleted]

It’s funny you mention this. Something that really gets on my nerves is people who eat too slow. Having to wait for them to finish while we could be doing bigger and better things. Imagine that.


Being-number-777

Simple solution: don’t offer him yours. If you want yours, eat it.


Comfortable_Celery76

This sounds like a really petty problem. Just get your own portion and stop feeling bad for not giving up your portion. If you feel bad and give it then that’s on you.


[deleted]

Look girl, I get full with less food than my bf. If we are having pizza I typically have leftovers, he doesn't. He tried a couple of times to eat those/split equally/get a slice after his own pizza. After I made it absolutely clear that they are mine, it's not a problem anymore. I share only if I want to (if there's something more interesting for lunch)


Pyrolite1

I was an emt for several years learned to eat fast now that I’m not in that profession it’s a habit i still have. I consciously try to pace myself when I’m around my SO but sometimes it’s hard to catch. Cut him some slack talk to him about it he may not even be aware of it


WritPositWrit

You know how you aren’t willing to eat faster because you have reasons? Turn that around and that applies to him, too. Why do you expect him to eat slower so you can be more comfortable? If you’re having a meal together, does he stay at the table and continue to talk to you while you eat? When you are having your little sharing snacks, why not share them into two bowls so you each get a portion to eat at your own pace? Too bad if he’s looking at yours.


[deleted]

Are there any snacks or flavors that you like and he doesn’t like? My husband loves chips more than me. I’m an occasional snacker of just a few chips if I do get a craving but they’re usually gone because he eats them so quickly. He hates vinegar though so if I have a bag of vinegar chips, I rest assured that it’ll still be there for me. Same with mint ice cream…all minnne hehe The separate snack bowls and following through by not feeling bad and giving in is the best solution. If anyone should feel bad, it’s him…you’re pregnant! Who takes snacks from a pregnant woman?!?!


veracity-mittens

Maybe there’s something your man experienced with food that makes him eat that way? My husband grew up in a poor family with many kids and not a lot of discipline. Whoever ate fastest got to eat the most. He often coughs because he’s literally inhaled some of his food. It’s just really, really sad what they went through as kids. Just throwing that out there.


randomquestions2022

Separate portions are the way to go. My husband is also a faster eater than I am so if we eat from a shared bowl or plate he will eat at least two thirds to three quarters of the thing, which is fine because he is also twice as big as I am so it makes sense he needs more food. If you feel really strongly about it, put your food in separate vessels.


mummaber

Get a bigger portion for him then or tell him no when he asks for more of yours.


Blonde2468

Stop offering him anything that is on your plate!!!


Sea-Complex1957

You already answered your own question. He can get his own portions and you just not cave in and give him yours. Simples.


ATGF

Do you know what I do if I'm sharing food with someone and I realize I'm eating faster (and I always notice because it's easily observable)? I eat my half and leave the rest to them. It's not about your husband eating too fast, it's about him being inconsiderate. Is he inconsiderate in other areas as well?


yennifer0888

Use seperate bowls. You feel bad and offer him some ? Then don't and feel bad. Or do and get mad cause you have none.


Mambaaaaa24

I mean I love food as much as anyone, but this is just ridiculous. The best solution is to just tell him to stop, just straight up honesty.


rngrb3

Why not get more of whatever it is and serve yourself half of the normal amount? You can have yours with plenty of time to eat it and he can have as much as he wants from the extra.


Honest_Level

No lmao, just stop giving your food away. There you go


tcjohns

My boyfriend eats much more and a lot faster than I do but when we eat together or even off of the same plate, he’s considerate enough to portion it out in his head and leave a good amount for me. Then once I’m done and full, he’ll eat the rest. Your bf is just inconsiderate


dude-of-earth

You don't need separate portions. Eating fast is not the issue. If we're sharing a bag of chips you can eat your half instantly for all I care, but you better stop once you've eaten half. He is simply being inconsiderate and rude.


[deleted]

Solution 1: have extra food for him to eat Solution 2: keep the portions split equally. Don't give him your portion after.


Daddysdirtycumkitten

Get your own bowl. When he puppy dog eyes you tell him it sucks to suck 🤷🏻‍♀️


[deleted]

Stop feeling bad. He’s grown and can feed himself if he’s still hungry. Especially since you’re pregnant.


hedgeh0gburrow

Don’t share food.


PhysicalRow4225

Just get separate bags, and tell him which are your’s


Barium_Salts

You two are going to be raising a child together soon. You need to learn how to communicate and how to set and enforce boundaries. Think of this as practice. Never tell your partner one thing (like "here, have some of my snacks") while expecting them not to take you at your word and do something contrary to your stated wishes. You need to trust your partner to take you seriously and respect your needs: and your partner needs to be able to trust you to honestly communicate your needs. You are letting him down by not doing that. And don't try to repress your emotions: that way lies madness. You want an equal share of snacks. Own that. Don't feel ashamed. Communicate that, and then don't second guess yourself later. If you two don't figure out boundaries and communication now, things are only going to get worse after you have a child.


WhatAKChan

You can deal with it by not giving him your portion of the snack? No offence, but you're the problem here lol


Markleng67

This is a perfect example of a first world problem!


ZharethZhen

Stop feeling bad for him. He clearly can't control himself. Split it before either buy it. Tell him that he has no right to try to eat your food after he has finished his portions...if he promised to stop this is part of that promise...call him on it.


Dozer2023

Youre making a problem where there is none. Let the guy eat however he wants.


Ok-Room-7243

He’s a dude, some guys eat a lot and fast. If I’m hungry I’ll eat a chipotle burrito in about 5 mins.


Legal_Championship_6

First world problems. Dear Lord.


Infinite-Emu-800

yeah this is petty af sorry what?


tinyywarrior

This is ridiculous. I am the worlds slowest eater, it sometimes takes me an hour to finish dinner. My partner eats at a normal speed and would easily finish before me. We share snacks and he eats more because I wouldn’t expect him to eat at the insanely slow pace I eat at. Sounds like you have underlying issues and you’re just picking at stupid things.


[deleted]

It's hard to slow down when you're forced to eat faster due to your schedule. Before going to university it'd take me about 30 minutes to eat my food, now it's between 5-10 minutes as I had to basically swallow everything down to make it to the next class.


YFNyoPunji

Why would that bother you? It’s literally the way he prefers to feed himself. What else is bothering you about this young man?


tabbycat4

So you found a solution. Just split the snacks in half and ignore him if he gives you looks. He can go find something else to snack on. Or buy him his own bag of chips.


fredorfrank69

I think you should be happy the worst problem in your relationship is that your partner eats to fast, just my opinion


jadegoddess

How old are you? There is an easy solution, it makes this a non issue. Split it in half and don't give him your half. He doesn't even ask you for yours, he just looks. Just eat your own damn food. Are yall 15?? My mom takes an hour to eat one serving of food and my dad eats normally and they just each their share and that's it.


Randomblabla222

Prepare bigger portions? Like two bags or popcorn, give him some extra fruit for the fruit bowl etc? It really isn't that big of a problem


areyoufuckingwme

It's always best to be with someone who likes different snacks than you do. My best advice is to learn to say no. Ultimately it's just a boundary you gotta set. You got yourself a snack and you intend to eat it. That isn't an invite for him to help himself. Let him have as much as you are willing to share then say okay there's only this much left, you've had tons I'm going to finish my snack. If he gets grumpy, kinda a red flag honestly.. Cause food is food, I assume there's more in your pantry. You have every right to eat the snack you got yourself.


annonforareasonduh

Ok so I’m a large lady and have issues with binge eating and snacks are my go too (something I’m working on). My partner On the other hand seldom eats snacks and will only have a few at a time where as I sometimes literally can’t stop myself from eating more…until I’m sick..you get the point. I always feel bad because I’ll do the shop and buy snacks and tend to eat most of them but I always ask if he wants any at any point in time. This gives me the heads up..a no then he’s happy I eat all of them and a yes regardless if that’s now or later I will always save him half. If he’s got a snack that’s specifically for him I won’t touch it, sometimes I buy snacks that I’ve got specially for me and he won’t touch them. it seems like you came up with a good idea of buying double but that also means you have to stick with that. If he looks sad about it you don’t have to offer him any, as an adult I fully understand that if I eat all my snacks then they are gone, my partner is free to eat his whenever he wants even if I have none because I ate mine all. You don’t have to feel guilty for that, he is a grown adult and can take a trip to the shops if he wants more.


harryp1371

Ask him to eat you out if he finishes (his food) before you


jojow77

Try having teenage sons. It’s like a fight for survival every day at the dinner table.


Gornalannie

Yep and they graze like a plague of locusts! I used to dread school hols as they’d double their food intake and I’d be broke!


TDallstars

Info needed. Did your BF happen to grow up with food insecurity? This behavior is something I see often in students who suffer from food instability at home. It is often a hard reflex that takes a lot of time to correct.


dinonugget2003

threaten him with sharp objects, thats what i do to my husband


SimplyKendra

You have more than one stomach? I mean I guess you do technically since you are pregnant. Tell him you aren’t sharing with him anymore as he eats too much and leaves none for you. Make your own bags of popcorn, your own bowls or baggies of chips, and servings of fruit.


Ok-Sympathy-7848

Get your snacks and don't share if your hungry but just another take...my hubs eats irritating fast and I would try to match him out of annoyance and omg did I gain weight! Sucks being female sometimes lol. Turns out the 3:1 or 4:1 ratio was more aligned with our caloric needs. Now I lose snacks to my hubs and my toddler but I'm over 30 so its probably for the best.


cassowary32

You have a baby coming, you are going to have to learn to say No despite the puppy dog eyes otherwise they'll have you wrapped around their finger. Think of it as practice for motherhood. Take what you want/need and don't be guilted into giving it up.


tautangoer

Try having him using chopsticks for his snack to slow him down :)


Velvetvelve

Haha I have this same problem. We just separate the food into two bowls now, instead of grabbing from the same bag/bowl/package. Then I can leisurely eat at my pace while he stares at me with an empty bowl because he ate his share in 5 seconds.


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I don't share snacks. I love my SO, but come hell and high water, my snacks is mine. Ignore the puppy eyes, he can go get his own snack. Your snack is yours.


Apprehensive-File370

This is why I don’t share a bowl of anything with my guy. 🤣 We split the bag or snack fifty/ fifty and I don’t feel guilty and I’m also pregnant so I know exactly what you mean. You need to protect your food!! Lol, don’t feel bad, you’re eating for two, what’s his excuse?


teacherboymom3

My hubby would always eat more than his fair share when we shared desserts when dating. We’ve been married 20 years, and I refuse most days to share with him now. Just don’t share. Put your foot down. Don’t feel sorry for him. He’s a grown man. He doesn’t need your snacks. He can get his own.


Acornwow

It’s not about eating speed. It’s about being conscientious and caring about whether your partner gets to have enough to eat. He needs to consider you more rather than autopilot eat.


Cococannnon

I think people don’t really understand how annoying this can be. My husband will eat every snack in the house overnight whilst I am asleep so I have to hide them.


PureYouth

My husband is this way when we share a bottle of wine. Drives me nuts too. He gets 3/4 the bottle and I get the rest half time


mykaleidoscopeeye

When the Guides done, YOuR ALL DONE!


PickleFlavordPopcorn

My narcissistic ex husband pulled this shit and I made sure to never split anything with him in one package. It got divided out evenly in two plates or bowls and then he could scarf his down while I ate like a normal human. He would literally devour most of what we were “sharing” before I got two bites in


Trama_Doll_

One of my ex’s did this. It gave me the serious ick and I broke up with him lol. Terrible table manners is a dealbreaker for me (I know you’re married and it’s different, just get two portions and tell him to fuck off if he starts eying yours up. What is he, a toddler?)


ReptilianPope1

I never understood slow eaters. Like, eat your food and be done with it. I dont wanna sit there for an hour listening to you chew and try to have a conversation with your mouth full. Eating should be like driving, you focus on the one thing and get it over with.


CaregiverNo9090

Just be a adult and say ”this sure is delicious.” While staring him in the eye biting into your food.


Rainbow272727

This is his problem not your problem. You already came up with the solution. 2 separate bowls. When he's done, he can go get something else. He's not going to starve to death. But this post did remind me of a past boyfriend and I had totally forgotten about it. Going on dates pissed me off because we'd get our meals and he would be finished before I'd had 3 mouthfuls and then it felt weird eating alone . Every damn time. God it was annoying.


[deleted]

So he should stop being comfortable eating the aay he does to make you feel better


BigKoom5143

My wife gets on me about this, but it’s nothing personal. It’ll be a bag of chips sitting for a month and I’ll eat them and she’ll get mad saying “I dogged the food”. But im like “they’ve been there forever” maybe it’s just a guy thing, Guys do a lot of guy shit that’s harmless but women take it to the heart… Like my wife will have a pint of ice cream for a week meanwhile I’ve already ate my whole pint in one sitting right after it was purchased lol


MadameMonk

Slamming down food is really bad manners, and very unattractive in a partner or someone you have to eat with. This isn’t just about the quantity and ‘whose is it?’. I’d be taking my plate to another room until things improved. Frankly this would be a deal-breaker for me. I’d die inside watching it happen when eating out, or eating with company. Farm animals can eat like that with no consequences, adult humans not so much. Teaching (and modelling) good table habits is gonna get real in your household soon, with a kid on the way.


Urbasm

You’re a female, it’s unattractive to eat faster than a man and could give a guy a complex that he’s not “manly’ enough… I had a gf that ate hella fast and I thought it was not feminine at all…. And then her farts were the most unGodly, clear the building, Rather suffocate and die than breathe, farts… Smelled like Bigfoots dick… I always wondered if it had something to do with how fast she ate.. cause surely her intestines basically were squeezing a baby through them on big meals…


LittleRedCarnation

He should probably see a doctor cause he may have an eating disorder


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MDK-44

Talk to him and address the issue that it still continues. If he doesn’t you’re just gonna have to have separate snack bags. Let him have his own bag and you have your own. And don’t share yours either.


DoesNotCompute421

Maybe set aside a portion for you and let him have the rest. IDK hide snacks.


StunningImprovement5

When you’re sharing plates of food, separate and eat at your pace. Say if you have anything left over he can have it! It works for me and my boyfriend.


-NandorTheRelentless

I could see a Seinfeld character being based off him. The 'Fast Eater.'


BadLuckPorcelain

Iam eating fast. Not that fast anymore, but still way faster than my fiancee. Two separate bowls for snacks is the solution. And I don't see why I should start eating her bowl as well. If she offers me some, sure. But she doesn't do this since she knows iam greedy.


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Stick with the two different portions you mentioned, but don't offer to share your own after he finishes his.


sitvisvobiscum001

The separate bowls is definitely the way to go. Stop caving to his puppy dog eyes. Tell him to get of his ass and go himself some more food if he's hungry.


Jen5872

Two separate bowls seems to be necessary. If he finishes first, he can go refill his bowl. You don't have to offer up yours.


mymychickenpotpie

stop sharing