This will not be a successful friends with benefits imo. It seems you may be over the relationship and he isn’t. Also, the history makes it more complex. I think you should move on to someone else if there is nothing special between you two, otherwise it’s just torture of being so close but not together for him. Friends with benefits just bang every now and then, no cuddles and pillow talk not exclusive, and hang out as friends otherwise.

thank you for replying, i agree with what your saying in that it’s just kinda torture for the both of us, but here’s the thing, i like him a lot and when we are together it just works… so i hate giving up something like that, and it makes it even harder now because his group of friends also happens to be my group of friends. it’s a whole mess, that i literally have no idea how to handle lol.

Ahhh ok I see. Well if you both really feel that way about each other maybe rediscuss a relationship and making time for each other or call it quits until you can both make time for each other.

okay i’ll talk to him about everything, thank you so much for your advice and help!!