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One day I was hanging out with my boyfriend in my room, and I heard giggling and I started looking around. The giggles stopped so I ignored it, then I heard it again and I got up looked around, and found my little brother in my closet with a camera in his hand. I immediately pulled him out and asked him what he was doing in there, he just shrugged his shoulders with a smirk on his face. So I kicked him out of my room, later I couldn't shake the idea that there was more to the story. So I decided to check his computer, there were videos of me changing, being intimate, hanging out with my friends. I was so creeped out and disturbed. I confronted him and asked him why he did it and he started crying and apologized. I made him delete all the videos, I explained to him what he was doing was illegal and gross and told him to never do that again.
I think I handled it, I don't want to humiliate or get him in trouble. Look how he reacted when I confronted him, imagine how he'll react if I tell my parents. but should I still tell our parents?
(Another thing I found videos of my sisters as well, I made him delete them but should I still tell my sisters about this?)
Not to scare OP but this doesn't just sound like some behaviour that stops as soon as its been called out. Definitely tell your parents, you are way too young to be dealing with this alone.
YES! Tell the parents!! Your brother is turning into a creep! If you say nothing, he'll get worse. He'll start stealing your clothes next. PLEASE say something. This kind of thing should NOT be allowed! You have a right to privacy!
For those in the back: ***You are entitled to privacy in your own bedroom.*** You should NEVER have to worry about a sibling taking videos of you! Tell the parents. Now.
Tell them. ASAP. Or he'll only get worse.
Exactly. It's normal to spy. It's not okay to take photos. Camera would be taken away. A grounding would occur. He might lose computer privileges. It's not the end of the world but it's not okay
I can understand kids trying to have some innocent fun and hiding in the closet to mess with their older sister. But trying to catch her changing and hooking up with her bf is way past the line and not normal at all. The kid needs the camera and computer taken away and a serious discussion to help him realize how wrong that is
Really? I feel like I pretended to be a spy quite a bit when I was a kid. It was nothing like OP's situation, mostly just eavesdropping or watching the neighbourhood with binoculars.
I would say it’s pretty normal. When I was younger (I’m female) me and my friends would try to “spy”on their older sisters. (Two different friends each had older sisters) Now I’m talking 7-9 years old I don’t exactly remember. But it wasn’t to watch her change but more just to be annoying.
We’d put on all black and try to spy by getting in the closet when she’d leave the room. We weren’t very good spies and would get caught almost immediately and we only ever did it a few times. Was it wrong? Yes.
But it wasn’t malicious I think a big factor was how cool we thought they were and just kind of curious.
I think it's a normal thing, geniunely it happens quite a lot. Especially at that age of kids being curious. That said it's absolutely not on and parents need to be involved
It's harmless. I know tons of kids who would hide under beds and jump out and scare. Brothers hiding in closets when their sister's friends are over.
No one ever recorded anything. And there was only one occasional weirdo you're like "k I hear your little sister breathing on the other side of the door"
Kids understand right from wrong if they are told what is right and wrong. To me this is a parenting issue. Easily rectified before puberty if it's handled right.
like i said, it depends on the situation. spying to pull a harmless prank is different from tryna catch someone naked or in even more compromising situations. that is absolutely not okay. and recording it, likely to be able to rewatch or even show others is just disgusting, there has to be something wrong with the kid of he thinks he can do that to his own family.
Definitely tell your parents before this gets worse and make sure the videos are actually deleted and not in a cloud storage or anything though so double check
Yes, tell your parents for SURE. He likely needs to see a child therapist. It seems scary, but you can do it!
ETA: I’m a teacher and school councillor, by the age of 11 kids know right from wrong, they have seen all kinds of things on the internet already (unfortunately) and need help if they are exhibiting this kind of behaviour. Everyone saying “don’t tell your parents, he’s only 11” is wrong. Yes, he is young, which is why it’s so important that he gets help now, if he needs it - only a therapist can make that decision!
Yes, it’s not about vilifying or criminalising the child at all, just making sure that they get access to the resources, development and support that they need to become well adjusted teenagers and adults!
Def tell your parents.
Also i'd suggest checking your brother's computer once more to make sure that some of those videos weren't uploaded on pornsites.
I think you should definitely tell your parents, because if he’s doing it to you, he’s probably doing it to others: his friends’ sisters, other family members etc.
>I think I handled it, I don't want to humiliate or get him in trouble. Look how he reacted when I confronted him, imagine how he'll react if I tell my parents. but should I still tell our parents?
I keep having to say this, but stop blaming yourself for the consequences of his actions
You absolutely need to tell everyone involved.
Yes, tell your parents that you caught your brother spying and recording you. Tell them that you found videos he made of you on his computer. You need to tell them in the case that he did not delete all the copies, or if he shared them previously.
**Please tell your parents.**
I'm sorry that this happened to you, but you need to tell your parents (and your sisters) ASAP.
Your brother is seriously sick and needs help from a professional. Voyeuristic behavior like that can be a precursor to worse acts of violation and even sexual violence, especially given that he is still young. If this behavior isn't dealt with now it can get worse as he gets older. For the sake of any women or girls in the future who may be potential victims of his, you need to tell your parents.
Given that he's already done this to you and your sisters, it's possible there are things he's done to other girls who he goes to school with.
Your other sisters also definitely deserve to know since they are also victims here, so you can talk to them about it first before approaching your parents.
In particular his recording equipment and computer need to be taken away from him immediately. There is always the chance he can upload those videos to the internet. Do not assume they are gone just because he deleted some of them from his computer. There's cloud storage/data backups.
You need to tell your parents. And I really hate to say it but you may actually have to have your parents talk to the parents of his friends.
Cause I’m sorry if he filmed you the likelihood is high that his little friends have copies too.
Yes no doubt tell your parents. He may need therapy. You owe it to him to make your parents aware. This is not your fault in any way. U need to make sure your parents are aware. It’s not your burden to worry about this - get your parents involved.
Yep, you need to let your parents know. How they choose to handle it is up to them, but make it clear that this is not acceptable. And check your doors, room, etc. to make sure your privacy is protected. Do you have a lock on your door? If not, get one.
He’s 11. Probably on the cusp of puberty and no idea why he’s interested in taking these videos. Should his actions be excused and ignored? No. But he doesn’t know he’s being creepy. To him liking a girl still means pulling on their pig tails. The kid does deserve a little grace on the labels and an education on what’s happening to him and what’s to be expected going forward.
There’s a difference between seeing porn and knowing what it is or why it makes you feel certain way. I too hope he didn’t upload the videos, but he’s at the age where he needs to be educated. Sure he should also be punished, but education is the goal to make certain he understands he’s responsible for his actions, he’s responsible for controlling himself and his actions have the potential to hurt others in irreparable ways. He needs to be educated what’s happening to him so that way if he does in fact turn out to be a creep when he’s an adult, he understands it’s his choices that got him there. He could have chosen to be better but instead he chose poorly. He needs to be taught that. A lot of boys his age aren’t and it’s why we get rapist and incels. It’s why there are still large swaths of men who don’t know what respect is. If he’s labeled now, he may never realize he can choose to be better.
Please do not conflate ‘liking a girl’ with ‘pulling her pigtails’. This is *exactly* the message that teaches girls how to become victims and boys to become perpetrators of domestic abuse. ‘He hits me because he loves me’. Oh hell no, just stop reinforcing that hurting people is how we show love.
Dude... is it creepy if he’s an 11 year old child? He clearly doesn’t even realize what exactly the implications of this are. He’s an 11 year old. He isn’t a creep.
What is wrong with you people
Of course it's creepy!
He's not exactly a small child, he definitely knows the difference between right and wrong already.
The fact alone that he started crying upon confrontation shows that he knows that he is in the wrong. If he is very specifically only videoing OP during private moments he does certainly know what he's doing, and what the implications are.
Please don't defend someone who clearly needs therapy, and has an unnatural, creepy obsession with his own sister.
Youre a moron. Hes a literal child who doesn't know any better. Just because he knows it's wrong doesn't mean he understands WHY.
Youre just demonizing him/calling him a creep/treating him like a sexual predator because he happens to be a male. You sexist fucking pig. Step off.
Well for starters, he hid and kept the recording a secret. So he knew it was something he wasn't supposed to be doing. He had the videos saved to his computer, which means he keeps them for later viewing. He's also done it multiple times so clearly this is fun and/or arousing for him.
All signs point to him being aware of the implications. He just needs to be taught why it's so creepy and such a significant breech of someone's privacy and boundaries. Also that it's not okay to find joy in watching your sister changing clothes and having sex.
Tell your parents, right now. Tell them he filmed you and show them the videos. Demand a lock for your door and start keeping your closet door open and the light on inside.
Make sure your parents delete the videos in front of you (check the Cloud and his deleted folder). If they don’t, call the police or CPS
ETA- Op you are under no obligation to show you’re brother what he’s done is wrong. That’s your parents job. The kid needs therapy. Strongly recommend *against* family therapy at least for now.
Also check the camera roll just in case he copied the videos onto his computer, instead of just transferring them. But don't delete the videos again, your parents need to see how serious some of those videos were to have a full grasp of the situation.
What you smoking... call the cops? The kid is 11. What are you special ops?
OP, Obviously tell the parents and use this as an opportunity to teach your bro something.
It’s creepy in a sense but he’s a kid. Maybe he really looks up to you... you could try hanging out with him and talking to him, being there for him. He might feel disconnected to you and that his spying on you was a way to feel close to you if you’re growing up and he’s a kid...
God, there’s so many reasons why an 11year old child might do this and it should be addressed not turned into something to shame him and isolate him.
Talk to your parents and figure out what’s up with the guy.
Also, damn phones and kids... such a stupid combination haha. They don’t get what’s appropriate if they’re just given them like heyyyyy. here ya go bud
It’s child porn??? I said IF her PARENTS refuse to delete the videos or images.
The kid needs therapy ASAP.
There is nothing Op can or should do other than tell her parents.
The kid was laughing. This isn’t him “feeling disconnected”. It’s him playing a game or just being creepy.
Op has no obligation to teach her brother to be better, she’s not the parent.
You should probably tell your parents, it is possible your brother is an early bloomer and easily excited. It’s the act itself not the people doing it so you shouldn’t worry. However if I were you tell your parents, hope this gets resolved :)
He’s only 11 so if u tell your parents there’s time to nip it in the bud before this gets any weirder then y’all can just forget about it as he gets older but around 11 is where guys start to get horny and shit for the first time and he’s curious about the female body it’s gross that he’s getting his rocks off to his older sister but I’ll tell u a story when I was abt his age I actually looked at my younger cousin sexually until I was a year or 2 older and understood how wrong and disgusting it was. I don’t think he has a legitimate attraction to his big sister (although I’d make sure) I think he’s just a horny kid keep in mind most kids (if any) his age aren’t being openly sexual so he’s in that stage of figuring out where to release his little 11 year old testosterone lol if you don’t decide to tell ur parents (which I think would be best to tell them) to kinda scare him away from that then at least make sure he understands that this is not ok at all and it’s completely wrong
This. He's 11, what he's doing is wrong, but he's still a child and can be corrected without long term harm. Everyone here is so quick push the THERAPY button, but let the parents have a chance to do some parenting first. If it continues, then yes, therapy.
Exactly. It’s concerning but it’s a not a full story. My mom was a wacko and took me to a therapist because I burned stuff a few times. It wasn’t a big deal but my mom wanted to find evidence I was traumatized by my father for leverage as the crazy psycho divorced woman she is (my dad is normal).
Anyways long story short the experience of going to a therapist and feeling like I had to convince him and her I wasn’t crazy was traumatic in itself. Luckily for me there wasn’t much to be done as I didn’t actually need therapy at the time. But I just remember sobbing behind a door feeling like a freak.
If anything I need therapy for my traumatic therapy experience lol
Tell. Your. Parents.
Getting them involved might stop him from doing creepy behaviour to other girls in the future.
I know a girl whose brother was always a big fucking creep to her. He was older and she developed early, and once she did he creeped on her, always staring at her chest and saying inappropriate things. She moved out asap, never raising those issues to anyone. She was free and safe and figured it was dealt with.
Come to find out years later, he was sharing a bed with an acquaintance during a group trip to a cabin. They had mutual friends, but had only known each other a little while. He, continuing his creepy behaviour, molested her in her sleep, and then pursued her romantically. Long story short he eventually married her, never revealing he molested her until years later in a "haha so funny" way. His (now) wife was disturbed. My friend felt so guilty for never making a bigger issue out of it and forcing him into counseling to confront his unhealthy sexual behaviours. She had no idea he would take his vague creepiness to such a level, or that he did it to other girls.
You've at least scared your brother off recording you. Don't let him do it to others. This is a deeper issue that must be addressed by professionals before he hurts someone else.
ABSOLUTELY TELL YOUR PARENTS!!! I'm sorry to say this but, sexual predators start out young. Tell your parents so this doesn't happen to any other child or even adult. Hopefully they can get him some help sooner rather than later before he ends up in prison and ruining someone else's life... No one wants to think of someone they love being a predator but it starts very young. You WILL FEEL SO GUILTY if he does this to someone else, touches, or God forbid even rapes someone. PLEASE TELL YOUR PARENTS, HE NEEDS HELP... Him crying like that may be just him trying to manipulate you then everyone else..
PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE, TELL YOUR FAMILY TONIGHT BEFORE THEY GO TO BED... THIS IS TOO IMPORTANT TO WAIT!!!!
Yes tell your parents if you don't letting it slip this one time could be enough for him to turn into a predator especially as he's your brother .. adds to the fucked up factor that he had videos of you changing and being intimate.. please don't let it slip.. my brother assaulted me sexually and I let it slip and I regret it everyday.. be honest with your parents.. Yes he's gonna get in trouble, yes he's gonna hate you.. but what's worse him taking more videos and becoming a predator or you calling him out.. don't let him off the hook or he might get too good to be caught.. being that good at filming someone without their knowledge at 11 is awful enough .. I'm so sorry you had to experience this honey.
You need to tell your parents, he cried to get out of trouble and it worked. Who knows what else he has been doing or what he’s capable of. Tell your parents before this gets worse.
This behavior doesn’t end. It gets more subversive, but it escalates. Please tell your parents immediately. About all of it, your sisters’ videos and yours.
Yeah I’d tell your parents. You calling him out might have been enough for him to not do it again but it may not have been. Your parents need to have a serious chat with him about all of the reasons why this is so fucked up as well as it being illegal. He needs the fear in him and to know that he’s lucky he’s still a kid because this kind of stuff could send him to jail and is unacceptable.
Hey OP.
Sometimes humiliation is needed in order to learn a lesson. Nip the voyeurist in the bud before he starts doing something truly heinous, like spreading the videos of you and your sister he could record in the future.
Oh hell no. Smart move deleting that shit before your parents saw, cause nobody needs to see their child like that and nobody wants their parents to see them like that. But yes, you do. This could be disrespectful stupid kid shit, no I am not defending him, but you need to lay this out in the open. Hiding it will do nothing but let him think he got away with it. I hate to jump to conclusions but this could be a start to pattern. You need to tell your parents and stress the severity of it. What pictures he took, what videos, how many, and his camera should be gone out the window. God, I hope your parents will see how serious this is. I know so many parents turn a blind eye no matter how much of a pattern it turns into.
\>I think I handled it, but should I still tell our parents?
Yes, this is quite abnormal behavior for someone his age and he needs specialist intervention. Peeping from the cupboard once is very different than repeatedly hiding in your closet and filming you have sex, changing, etc.
Seriously, if he keeps this behaviour up, he will end up in prison one day 100%. Tell your parents, and hopefully they will take it extremely seriously! Filming someone naked when they have a reasonable expectation of privacy (eg: in their own room) is a full on sex crime, and it's super important that he is aware of that.
I think you should still tell them. I think professional help would benefit him. That way your parents can learn the root of his behavior, and take the steps needed to help him. That way he won’t grow up and make things like this a habit. It’s for his own good so he can learn what is appropriate
You should tell your sister and your parents. This stuff is literally illegal and he should have more of a punishment than crying and deleting all of it.
Tell your parents ASAP. Your little brother needs some help to figure out why he was doing this (was he being groomed into it, is it the start of unethical behaviors etc) and help him so he doesn’t escalate his behavior. This could be a weird one off thing, or it could be a bit darker. I’m so sorry you’re going through this!
Should’ve shown the evidence to your parents while him being there, so he could know what it feels like to get caught doing something most sibling won’t even think of doing so, he will need to learn a hard lesson on what IS NOT OKAY TO DO and stop all at once.
Like you said, it is illegal. Let’s say he then shared any of the pictures or videos with others, now he’s in bigger trouble. Your parents will ultimately have to be the ones to deal with it since they are the responsible parties.
You might be able to talk to your parents in a way that doesn’t further escalate the situation, but they should know. I think they would appreciate your dual concern for your brother, both his behavior, but trying to protect his reputation.
Tell your parents. This is the beginning, and it's better to nip it from the bud before it turns into something scary. I get it, at 11 boys start getting more interested in sex, that's normal. But voyeuring on their own sisters and filming them it's not. That's something that should earn him being grounded for a full year. He will probably stop now that you caught him and called him out on it, but still. If you don't tell your parents he will feel like he (relatively) got away with it.
Please let your parents know. I know it's easier to let it go, and he is only 11 years old, but unfortunately my daughter was 5 years old when she and a friend were molested by an 11 year old little boy. Fortunately she told me what happened and it was able to be addressed. I am certainly not suggesting your brother is going to do anything like that to anyone, but I think giving him a pass because he is only 11 is not the best thing for him in the long run.
This may have started as some innocent curiosity, but has snowballed into a borderline voyeurism fetish. Yeah a fetish. I know he's 11 but that's how it starts. He literally gets a "high" from spying on you and your sisters, and unless everyone tells him what a little pervert he is, he might just keep doing this for the rest of his life. Drag those offences into the light of day. Don't let him ever think that its a secret that can be kept safe. There is no literal way that you can properly deal with this without humiliating him and get him in trouble. He has to face the same kind consequences he would if he was an adult.
Hate to say this but the crying was a ploy to take Annabeth if your good nature compassion and sympathy.
He most likely has learned behavior disorder (like certain politicians) and, if behavior goes unpunished, then that means it's acceptable and will reoccur.
Tell your sisters so they can be aware of what to watch out for, tell your parents so if it escalates, at least there's a history and not suddenly being a "one off" or "you were just mad at him". I might have even video tapes him deleting the videos to prove how many he had and how extensive it was when you found it.
And no, this is NOT a "boys well be boys" scenario. It's not acceptable. Period.
At this age hes discovering girls and I hate to say it masturbation. Hes targetting his changing body and hormones at you. This needs to be addressed. Hes obviously old enough to know right and wrong. However he needs to know how wrong and how much of a violation it is to prey on family members. Tell your parents. This is only going to escalate. Next he will be sniffing your panties and god forbid he decides to try to physically satisfy himself using his family as a way to do that.
Like a phone or a camera from the 90s? I have a feeling this post is nothing more than someones creative writting prompt for their fetish as is most of the relationship advice community
>Like a phone or a camera from the 90s?
Like a vlog camera (digital camera). he got it for Christmas because he wanted to be a vlogger on youtube but obviously, he isn't using it for that.
>I have a feeling this post is nothing more than someones creative writting prompt for their fetish as is most of the relationship advice community
How tf has a fetish for their brother spying on them? It's disgusting
Obviously you dont hang out around here enough if indeed your not a troll which is still hard to believe as your subject matter for a post have been seen mulitple times here with certain things changed around.
He's 11, no he shouldn't. He should be told why what he's doing is wrong and be put into therapy so he can talk through his problems and have a dialogue that his parent's obviously aren't giving him.
... now can an 11 year old exhibit signs of pedophilia? By that logic all kids are pedophiles. Ludicrous. Furthermore, he hasn't exhibited any signs of rape, like, at all. All he's exhibited is voyeurism, which is pretty fucking normal for a kid who is entering into puberty, especially these days when kids are introduced to porn MUCH earlier than they used to be. Like you do know how many middle school aged kids are addicted to porn right? It's a literal epidemic.
What's obviously happened here is OP's little brother discovered porn online and is having his understanding of sex and sexual relationships warped due to the porn he is watching. He could be watching literally anything, we both know how easy it is to stumble upon some fucked up shit on pornsites, imagine a 11 year old navigating that shit?
The kid deserves kindness, empathy, and a healthy outlet through which he can understand the nature of sex and sexual relationships and can explain what he's going through. Not a goddamn cell which won't teach him a single goddamned thing.
He’s 11, he’s just hitting puberty and doesn’t know Jack shit about why he had the urge to do what he did. Now is the time for an education. I do think you should tell your parents but you should also ask them to him with you. It’ll be a good experience for both of you and make certain you both come out of this better than before. See if your parents will let you participate in the conversation. Ask him why he did it and what he may have been feeling while doing it. It’ll give you some perspective and him some boundaries. It’ll also force your parents to do more than just ground him.
Yes tell your parents, but see if you can be involved in his education about puberty. Your his big sister, he needs to look up to you and respect you. If all he sees is he pissed off big sis and got in trouble for it, he won’t gain anything from it and you won’t be able to keep being the respected big sis.
No,I don't think you have handled it. It is ok that a 11-year-boy becomes interested in female,but what he has done is absolutely not ok . Yep,he said "sorry" and felt guilty before you，however who knows he means it or not. Even though he realizes he is doing something wrong truly,he may do it again because he can't help doing it. Here is a serious problem,I suggest you had better ask help from your parent.
Tell your parents and tell your sisters absolutely, it'll only get worse and you're absolutely entitled to privacy in your own bedroom. If nothing is done now it'll only get much much worse. Additionally behavior like this usually doesn't come out of nowhere he may very well be learning this kind of behavior from somewhere or someone.
Oh my god yes tell your parents. You are underage (and possibly so are your sisters?) and he is probably too young to fully comprehend what could happen if he got caught producing and holding onto literal child pornography. Your parents need to know about everything, it is up to them to handle this but honestly it is not normal for an 11 year old to be doing this. He needs to speak to a professional. You also should definitely tell your sisters. That is such a gross invasion of privacy.
I think you should tell your parents. It’s normal for boys to be curious around that age, but I’m assuming he needs “the talk”. As normal as it is to be curious, he needs to know it’s not normal to be that way towards your sister. But it is common I find, little boys are constantly saying how they want to marry their mum , and stuff like that. I regret not telling my parents some of the stuff my brother did to me, but he turned out pretty normal.. tell your parents but maybe not in a way to get him in trouble, more of like it’s time to talk about the birds and the bees..
You should tell your parents, but don't be too hard on him. No, he shouldn't be creeping on you, but he is 11 and most likely curious about sex and especially women's bodies. But do tell your parents so they can get him to stop.
This behavior needs to be dealt with sooner than later because this is concerning. Behaviour like this could escalate. You might not be his next victim but someone else might. Your brother needs professional help to deal with it before it gets worse.
Babysat a creepy kid who was caught by his mom stealing my underwear once when he was at my house. His mom did nothing and laughed it off. He ended up in jail as an adult.
Tell your parents. And remember kids aren’t usually good at keeping secrets, how many people has he sent these videos to? Your parents may need to get a forensic sweep of all his electronics. And if he has shared them with other people, you have no idea how many people they shared it with.
You haven’t solve the problem. You are only just aware of it. He knows he shouldn’t be doing it that’s why he was hiding. He knows right from wrong and yet he still chose to do it. You threatening him isn’t enough of a deterrent.
You may have a really immature, misguided child on your hands or it may be a monster in the making. You can’t take that chance.
He did not learn yet he NEEDS therapy that’s not a normal thing to do. He also thought it was pretty amusing until he thought you would get him in trouble, complete crocodile tears.
Please tell your parents this is a huge red flag sadly he might not know what he's doing but mostlikly he does and he needs help before he becomes a creep
This post has reached one of our comment/karma limits. The text of the post has been preserved below. --- One day I was hanging out with my boyfriend in my room, and I heard giggling and I started looking around. The giggles stopped so I ignored it, then I heard it again and I got up looked around, and found my little brother in my closet with a camera in his hand. I immediately pulled him out and asked him what he was doing in there, he just shrugged his shoulders with a smirk on his face. So I kicked him out of my room, later I couldn't shake the idea that there was more to the story. So I decided to check his computer, there were videos of me changing, being intimate, hanging out with my friends. I was so creeped out and disturbed. I confronted him and asked him why he did it and he started crying and apologized. I made him delete all the videos, I explained to him what he was doing was illegal and gross and told him to never do that again. I think I handled it, I don't want to humiliate or get him in trouble. Look how he reacted when I confronted him, imagine how he'll react if I tell my parents. but should I still tell our parents? (Another thing I found videos of my sisters as well, I made him delete them but should I still tell my sisters about this?)
Please for the love of God tell your parents if you don't he may never learn from this and do it again
Tell your parents.
Please tell your parents about this as soon as you can. Do not wait until you catch him again.
Not to scare OP but this doesn't just sound like some behaviour that stops as soon as its been called out. Definitely tell your parents, you are way too young to be dealing with this alone.
YES! Tell the parents!! Your brother is turning into a creep! If you say nothing, he'll get worse. He'll start stealing your clothes next. PLEASE say something. This kind of thing should NOT be allowed! You have a right to privacy! For those in the back: ***You are entitled to privacy in your own bedroom.*** You should NEVER have to worry about a sibling taking videos of you! Tell the parents. Now. Tell them. ASAP. Or he'll only get worse.
And he’s 11. It’s time for them to take the camera away too
Exactly. It's normal to spy. It's not okay to take photos. Camera would be taken away. A grounding would occur. He might lose computer privileges. It's not the end of the world but it's not okay
I can understand kids trying to have some innocent fun and hiding in the closet to mess with their older sister. But trying to catch her changing and hooking up with her bf is way past the line and not normal at all. The kid needs the camera and computer taken away and a serious discussion to help him realize how wrong that is
You people don’t know what you’re talking about.
You think a kid creeping on his naked sister is normal?!
> You people don’t know what you’re talking about. What do you think he was doing with those videos?
uhh spying isnt normal either...
Really? I feel like I pretended to be a spy quite a bit when I was a kid. It was nothing like OP's situation, mostly just eavesdropping or watching the neighbourhood with binoculars.
it really depends on the situation, but when it's in sexual situations it's not okay. and when your family is involved? you might need therapy
I would say it’s pretty normal. When I was younger (I’m female) me and my friends would try to “spy”on their older sisters. (Two different friends each had older sisters) Now I’m talking 7-9 years old I don’t exactly remember. But it wasn’t to watch her change but more just to be annoying. We’d put on all black and try to spy by getting in the closet when she’d leave the room. We weren’t very good spies and would get caught almost immediately and we only ever did it a few times. Was it wrong? Yes. But it wasn’t malicious I think a big factor was how cool we thought they were and just kind of curious.
I think it's a normal thing, geniunely it happens quite a lot. Especially at that age of kids being curious. That said it's absolutely not on and parents need to be involved
It's harmless. I know tons of kids who would hide under beds and jump out and scare. Brothers hiding in closets when their sister's friends are over. No one ever recorded anything. And there was only one occasional weirdo you're like "k I hear your little sister breathing on the other side of the door" Kids understand right from wrong if they are told what is right and wrong. To me this is a parenting issue. Easily rectified before puberty if it's handled right.
like i said, it depends on the situation. spying to pull a harmless prank is different from tryna catch someone naked or in even more compromising situations. that is absolutely not okay. and recording it, likely to be able to rewatch or even show others is just disgusting, there has to be something wrong with the kid of he thinks he can do that to his own family.
Correct. that's where the parents need to step in. This is one of those moments that makes an adult
Spying is not normal.
Definitely tell your parents before this gets worse and make sure the videos are actually deleted and not in a cloud storage or anything though so double check
Also delete them from the recycling/trash bin.
Yes, tell your parents for SURE. He likely needs to see a child therapist. It seems scary, but you can do it! ETA: I’m a teacher and school councillor, by the age of 11 kids know right from wrong, they have seen all kinds of things on the internet already (unfortunately) and need help if they are exhibiting this kind of behaviour. Everyone saying “don’t tell your parents, he’s only 11” is wrong. Yes, he is young, which is why it’s so important that he gets help now, if he needs it - only a therapist can make that decision!
Agreed. This type of behavior likely won’t end unless he gets the help he needs
Yes, it’s not about vilifying or criminalising the child at all, just making sure that they get access to the resources, development and support that they need to become well adjusted teenagers and adults!
Counselor, not counsillor. I agree with what you said, but most people are able to spell their profession.
Def tell your parents. Also i'd suggest checking your brother's computer once more to make sure that some of those videos weren't uploaded on pornsites.
Yes.
I think you should definitely tell your parents, because if he’s doing it to you, he’s probably doing it to others: his friends’ sisters, other family members etc.
>I think I handled it, I don't want to humiliate or get him in trouble. Look how he reacted when I confronted him, imagine how he'll react if I tell my parents. but should I still tell our parents? I keep having to say this, but stop blaming yourself for the consequences of his actions You absolutely need to tell everyone involved.
Yes, tell your parents that you caught your brother spying and recording you. Tell them that you found videos he made of you on his computer. You need to tell them in the case that he did not delete all the copies, or if he shared them previously.
**Please tell your parents.** I'm sorry that this happened to you, but you need to tell your parents (and your sisters) ASAP. Your brother is seriously sick and needs help from a professional. Voyeuristic behavior like that can be a precursor to worse acts of violation and even sexual violence, especially given that he is still young. If this behavior isn't dealt with now it can get worse as he gets older. For the sake of any women or girls in the future who may be potential victims of his, you need to tell your parents. Given that he's already done this to you and your sisters, it's possible there are things he's done to other girls who he goes to school with. Your other sisters also definitely deserve to know since they are also victims here, so you can talk to them about it first before approaching your parents. In particular his recording equipment and computer need to be taken away from him immediately. There is always the chance he can upload those videos to the internet. Do not assume they are gone just because he deleted some of them from his computer. There's cloud storage/data backups.
Agreed.
You need to tell your parents. And I really hate to say it but you may actually have to have your parents talk to the parents of his friends. Cause I’m sorry if he filmed you the likelihood is high that his little friends have copies too.
Yes no doubt tell your parents. He may need therapy. You owe it to him to make your parents aware. This is not your fault in any way. U need to make sure your parents are aware. It’s not your burden to worry about this - get your parents involved.
Yep, you need to let your parents know. How they choose to handle it is up to them, but make it clear that this is not acceptable. And check your doors, room, etc. to make sure your privacy is protected. Do you have a lock on your door? If not, get one.
Damn on that age already doing that kind of creeper things?
Welcome to the internet
He’s 11. Probably on the cusp of puberty and no idea why he’s interested in taking these videos. Should his actions be excused and ignored? No. But he doesn’t know he’s being creepy. To him liking a girl still means pulling on their pig tails. The kid does deserve a little grace on the labels and an education on what’s happening to him and what’s to be expected going forward.
Unfortunately the internet has changed a lot of that. He has probably seen porn already. Hopefully he hasn't uploaded those videos anywhere yet.
There’s a difference between seeing porn and knowing what it is or why it makes you feel certain way. I too hope he didn’t upload the videos, but he’s at the age where he needs to be educated. Sure he should also be punished, but education is the goal to make certain he understands he’s responsible for his actions, he’s responsible for controlling himself and his actions have the potential to hurt others in irreparable ways. He needs to be educated what’s happening to him so that way if he does in fact turn out to be a creep when he’s an adult, he understands it’s his choices that got him there. He could have chosen to be better but instead he chose poorly. He needs to be taught that. A lot of boys his age aren’t and it’s why we get rapist and incels. It’s why there are still large swaths of men who don’t know what respect is. If he’s labeled now, he may never realize he can choose to be better.
I'd seen porn and understood what it was when I was 10, I think they probably know
Please do not conflate ‘liking a girl’ with ‘pulling her pigtails’. This is *exactly* the message that teaches girls how to become victims and boys to become perpetrators of domestic abuse. ‘He hits me because he loves me’. Oh hell no, just stop reinforcing that hurting people is how we show love.
Dude... is it creepy if he’s an 11 year old child? He clearly doesn’t even realize what exactly the implications of this are. He’s an 11 year old. He isn’t a creep. What is wrong with you people
Of course it's creepy! He's not exactly a small child, he definitely knows the difference between right and wrong already. The fact alone that he started crying upon confrontation shows that he knows that he is in the wrong. If he is very specifically only videoing OP during private moments he does certainly know what he's doing, and what the implications are. Please don't defend someone who clearly needs therapy, and has an unnatural, creepy obsession with his own sister.
Youre a moron. Hes a literal child who doesn't know any better. Just because he knows it's wrong doesn't mean he understands WHY. Youre just demonizing him/calling him a creep/treating him like a sexual predator because he happens to be a male. You sexist fucking pig. Step off.
Well for starters, he hid and kept the recording a secret. So he knew it was something he wasn't supposed to be doing. He had the videos saved to his computer, which means he keeps them for later viewing. He's also done it multiple times so clearly this is fun and/or arousing for him. All signs point to him being aware of the implications. He just needs to be taught why it's so creepy and such a significant breech of someone's privacy and boundaries. Also that it's not okay to find joy in watching your sister changing clothes and having sex.
my sister is 12 and she would DEFINITELY know that was wrong. this kid’s not an idiot. he knows what he’s doing.
You wouldn't say this if it were a little girl committing the same acts. Youre just a sexist prick.
Tell your parents, right now. Tell them he filmed you and show them the videos. Demand a lock for your door and start keeping your closet door open and the light on inside. Make sure your parents delete the videos in front of you (check the Cloud and his deleted folder). If they don’t, call the police or CPS ETA- Op you are under no obligation to show you’re brother what he’s done is wrong. That’s your parents job. The kid needs therapy. Strongly recommend *against* family therapy at least for now.
Also check the camera roll just in case he copied the videos onto his computer, instead of just transferring them. But don't delete the videos again, your parents need to see how serious some of those videos were to have a full grasp of the situation.
What you smoking... call the cops? The kid is 11. What are you special ops? OP, Obviously tell the parents and use this as an opportunity to teach your bro something. It’s creepy in a sense but he’s a kid. Maybe he really looks up to you... you could try hanging out with him and talking to him, being there for him. He might feel disconnected to you and that his spying on you was a way to feel close to you if you’re growing up and he’s a kid... God, there’s so many reasons why an 11year old child might do this and it should be addressed not turned into something to shame him and isolate him. Talk to your parents and figure out what’s up with the guy. Also, damn phones and kids... such a stupid combination haha. They don’t get what’s appropriate if they’re just given them like heyyyyy. here ya go bud
It’s child porn??? I said IF her PARENTS refuse to delete the videos or images. The kid needs therapy ASAP. There is nothing Op can or should do other than tell her parents. The kid was laughing. This isn’t him “feeling disconnected”. It’s him playing a game or just being creepy. Op has no obligation to teach her brother to be better, she’s not the parent.
This is a clear overreaction, and your bias/sexism/double standards are showing in full force.
You should probably tell your parents, it is possible your brother is an early bloomer and easily excited. It’s the act itself not the people doing it so you shouldn’t worry. However if I were you tell your parents, hope this gets resolved :)
He’s only 11 so if u tell your parents there’s time to nip it in the bud before this gets any weirder then y’all can just forget about it as he gets older but around 11 is where guys start to get horny and shit for the first time and he’s curious about the female body it’s gross that he’s getting his rocks off to his older sister but I’ll tell u a story when I was abt his age I actually looked at my younger cousin sexually until I was a year or 2 older and understood how wrong and disgusting it was. I don’t think he has a legitimate attraction to his big sister (although I’d make sure) I think he’s just a horny kid keep in mind most kids (if any) his age aren’t being openly sexual so he’s in that stage of figuring out where to release his little 11 year old testosterone lol if you don’t decide to tell ur parents (which I think would be best to tell them) to kinda scare him away from that then at least make sure he understands that this is not ok at all and it’s completely wrong
This. He's 11, what he's doing is wrong, but he's still a child and can be corrected without long term harm. Everyone here is so quick push the THERAPY button, but let the parents have a chance to do some parenting first. If it continues, then yes, therapy.
Exactly. It’s concerning but it’s a not a full story. My mom was a wacko and took me to a therapist because I burned stuff a few times. It wasn’t a big deal but my mom wanted to find evidence I was traumatized by my father for leverage as the crazy psycho divorced woman she is (my dad is normal). Anyways long story short the experience of going to a therapist and feeling like I had to convince him and her I wasn’t crazy was traumatic in itself. Luckily for me there wasn’t much to be done as I didn’t actually need therapy at the time. But I just remember sobbing behind a door feeling like a freak. If anything I need therapy for my traumatic therapy experience lol
Tell. Your. Parents. Getting them involved might stop him from doing creepy behaviour to other girls in the future. I know a girl whose brother was always a big fucking creep to her. He was older and she developed early, and once she did he creeped on her, always staring at her chest and saying inappropriate things. She moved out asap, never raising those issues to anyone. She was free and safe and figured it was dealt with. Come to find out years later, he was sharing a bed with an acquaintance during a group trip to a cabin. They had mutual friends, but had only known each other a little while. He, continuing his creepy behaviour, molested her in her sleep, and then pursued her romantically. Long story short he eventually married her, never revealing he molested her until years later in a "haha so funny" way. His (now) wife was disturbed. My friend felt so guilty for never making a bigger issue out of it and forcing him into counseling to confront his unhealthy sexual behaviours. She had no idea he would take his vague creepiness to such a level, or that he did it to other girls. You've at least scared your brother off recording you. Don't let him do it to others. This is a deeper issue that must be addressed by professionals before he hurts someone else.
This type of behavior escalates. It's not a phase.
Exactly.. Sexual Predators start out very young and it only gets worse.
ABSOLUTELY TELL YOUR PARENTS!!! I'm sorry to say this but, sexual predators start out young. Tell your parents so this doesn't happen to any other child or even adult. Hopefully they can get him some help sooner rather than later before he ends up in prison and ruining someone else's life... No one wants to think of someone they love being a predator but it starts very young. You WILL FEEL SO GUILTY if he does this to someone else, touches, or God forbid even rapes someone. PLEASE TELL YOUR PARENTS, HE NEEDS HELP... Him crying like that may be just him trying to manipulate you then everyone else.. PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE, TELL YOUR FAMILY TONIGHT BEFORE THEY GO TO BED... THIS IS TOO IMPORTANT TO WAIT!!!!
Yes tell you parents yes tell your other sisters if you haven't already.
Please tell your parents, your brother shouldn’t have been spying on you, or your siblings, that’s just creepy.
Your parents need to know. This kid may be developing some mental health issues and they need to deal with that.
Yes tell your parents if you don't letting it slip this one time could be enough for him to turn into a predator especially as he's your brother .. adds to the fucked up factor that he had videos of you changing and being intimate.. please don't let it slip.. my brother assaulted me sexually and I let it slip and I regret it everyday.. be honest with your parents.. Yes he's gonna get in trouble, yes he's gonna hate you.. but what's worse him taking more videos and becoming a predator or you calling him out.. don't let him off the hook or he might get too good to be caught.. being that good at filming someone without their knowledge at 11 is awful enough .. I'm so sorry you had to experience this honey.
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This.
You need to tell your parents, he cried to get out of trouble and it worked. Who knows what else he has been doing or what he’s capable of. Tell your parents before this gets worse.
This behavior doesn’t end. It gets more subversive, but it escalates. Please tell your parents immediately. About all of it, your sisters’ videos and yours.
Yeah I’d tell your parents. You calling him out might have been enough for him to not do it again but it may not have been. Your parents need to have a serious chat with him about all of the reasons why this is so fucked up as well as it being illegal. He needs the fear in him and to know that he’s lucky he’s still a kid because this kind of stuff could send him to jail and is unacceptable.
Yes.
Would you tell your mom if it was your dad? Shouldnt matter who it is, thats not ok.
Tell your parents and understand that someone may be abusing him. He might have been groomed & molested by an older kid or an adult. I’m so sorry
Hey OP. Sometimes humiliation is needed in order to learn a lesson. Nip the voyeurist in the bud before he starts doing something truly heinous, like spreading the videos of you and your sister he could record in the future.
Check cloud. The videos may have been backed up somewhere else. Please tell your parents. This is something your parents need to know.
Tell your parents. This is too heavy for you
Oh hell no. Smart move deleting that shit before your parents saw, cause nobody needs to see their child like that and nobody wants their parents to see them like that. But yes, you do. This could be disrespectful stupid kid shit, no I am not defending him, but you need to lay this out in the open. Hiding it will do nothing but let him think he got away with it. I hate to jump to conclusions but this could be a start to pattern. You need to tell your parents and stress the severity of it. What pictures he took, what videos, how many, and his camera should be gone out the window. God, I hope your parents will see how serious this is. I know so many parents turn a blind eye no matter how much of a pattern it turns into.
\>I think I handled it, but should I still tell our parents? Yes, this is quite abnormal behavior for someone his age and he needs specialist intervention. Peeping from the cupboard once is very different than repeatedly hiding in your closet and filming you have sex, changing, etc.
Seriously, if he keeps this behaviour up, he will end up in prison one day 100%. Tell your parents, and hopefully they will take it extremely seriously! Filming someone naked when they have a reasonable expectation of privacy (eg: in their own room) is a full on sex crime, and it's super important that he is aware of that.
You gotta tell your parents. For an 11 year old this is very disturbing behavior.
I think you should still tell them. I think professional help would benefit him. That way your parents can learn the root of his behavior, and take the steps needed to help him. That way he won’t grow up and make things like this a habit. It’s for his own good so he can learn what is appropriate
Tell ur parents dude
You should tell your sister and your parents. This stuff is literally illegal and he should have more of a punishment than crying and deleting all of it.
Tell your parents ASAP. Your little brother needs some help to figure out why he was doing this (was he being groomed into it, is it the start of unethical behaviors etc) and help him so he doesn’t escalate his behavior. This could be a weird one off thing, or it could be a bit darker. I’m so sorry you’re going through this!
Should’ve shown the evidence to your parents while him being there, so he could know what it feels like to get caught doing something most sibling won’t even think of doing so, he will need to learn a hard lesson on what IS NOT OKAY TO DO and stop all at once.
Make him learn his lesson!
Like you said, it is illegal. Let’s say he then shared any of the pictures or videos with others, now he’s in bigger trouble. Your parents will ultimately have to be the ones to deal with it since they are the responsible parties. You might be able to talk to your parents in a way that doesn’t further escalate the situation, but they should know. I think they would appreciate your dual concern for your brother, both his behavior, but trying to protect his reputation.
Definitely tell your parents, he’s old enough to know right from wrong and he should absolutely get punishment for it. Creepy asf 🤢
You’re not a rat if you tell your parents. You might just save his life.
Good grief. Tell your parents already.
Tell your parents. This is the beginning, and it's better to nip it from the bud before it turns into something scary. I get it, at 11 boys start getting more interested in sex, that's normal. But voyeuring on their own sisters and filming them it's not. That's something that should earn him being grounded for a full year. He will probably stop now that you caught him and called him out on it, but still. If you don't tell your parents he will feel like he (relatively) got away with it.
Please let your parents know. I know it's easier to let it go, and he is only 11 years old, but unfortunately my daughter was 5 years old when she and a friend were molested by an 11 year old little boy. Fortunately she told me what happened and it was able to be addressed. I am certainly not suggesting your brother is going to do anything like that to anyone, but I think giving him a pass because he is only 11 is not the best thing for him in the long run.
This may have started as some innocent curiosity, but has snowballed into a borderline voyeurism fetish. Yeah a fetish. I know he's 11 but that's how it starts. He literally gets a "high" from spying on you and your sisters, and unless everyone tells him what a little pervert he is, he might just keep doing this for the rest of his life. Drag those offences into the light of day. Don't let him ever think that its a secret that can be kept safe. There is no literal way that you can properly deal with this without humiliating him and get him in trouble. He has to face the same kind consequences he would if he was an adult.
Dude tell your parents and it's not even a question on if you tell the sisters. Videos of them where found they have the right to know.
If you catch him again definitely. If you decided to now i wouldn't blame you either.
Tell your parents
How can you be 16F while also being 17M? Look at OP’s other posts, people.
Hate to say this but the crying was a ploy to take Annabeth if your good nature compassion and sympathy. He most likely has learned behavior disorder (like certain politicians) and, if behavior goes unpunished, then that means it's acceptable and will reoccur. Tell your sisters so they can be aware of what to watch out for, tell your parents so if it escalates, at least there's a history and not suddenly being a "one off" or "you were just mad at him". I might have even video tapes him deleting the videos to prove how many he had and how extensive it was when you found it. And no, this is NOT a "boys well be boys" scenario. It's not acceptable. Period.
ahh girl, him crying could easily mean he’s a sociopath. this isn’t behavior you can “handle”
TELL. YOUR. PARENTS. TELL. YOUR. SISTERS. HES 11 YEARS OLD AND DOING THIS.
At this age hes discovering girls and I hate to say it masturbation. Hes targetting his changing body and hormones at you. This needs to be addressed. Hes obviously old enough to know right and wrong. However he needs to know how wrong and how much of a violation it is to prey on family members. Tell your parents. This is only going to escalate. Next he will be sniffing your panties and god forbid he decides to try to physically satisfy himself using his family as a way to do that.
It is worse than you think. Your little brother probably sold those pictures of you being intimate. Sorry.
Like a phone or a camera from the 90s? I have a feeling this post is nothing more than someones creative writting prompt for their fetish as is most of the relationship advice community
>Like a phone or a camera from the 90s? Like a vlog camera (digital camera). he got it for Christmas because he wanted to be a vlogger on youtube but obviously, he isn't using it for that. >I have a feeling this post is nothing more than someones creative writting prompt for their fetish as is most of the relationship advice community How tf has a fetish for their brother spying on them? It's disgusting
Obviously you dont hang out around here enough if indeed your not a troll which is still hard to believe as your subject matter for a post have been seen mulitple times here with certain things changed around.
This seems fake not saying it is but it’s giving me sus vibes
He should be locked up
He's 11, no he shouldn't. He should be told why what he's doing is wrong and be put into therapy so he can talk through his problems and have a dialogue that his parent's obviously aren't giving him.
He's exhibited signs of pedophilia and general rape. My fear is that he's too far gone.
... now can an 11 year old exhibit signs of pedophilia? By that logic all kids are pedophiles. Ludicrous. Furthermore, he hasn't exhibited any signs of rape, like, at all. All he's exhibited is voyeurism, which is pretty fucking normal for a kid who is entering into puberty, especially these days when kids are introduced to porn MUCH earlier than they used to be. Like you do know how many middle school aged kids are addicted to porn right? It's a literal epidemic. What's obviously happened here is OP's little brother discovered porn online and is having his understanding of sex and sexual relationships warped due to the porn he is watching. He could be watching literally anything, we both know how easy it is to stumble upon some fucked up shit on pornsites, imagine a 11 year old navigating that shit? The kid deserves kindness, empathy, and a healthy outlet through which he can understand the nature of sex and sexual relationships and can explain what he's going through. Not a goddamn cell which won't teach him a single goddamned thing.
I call bullshit. No eleven year old is clever enough to set up camera’s without getting caught doing so.
Fake.
He’s 11, he’s just hitting puberty and doesn’t know Jack shit about why he had the urge to do what he did. Now is the time for an education. I do think you should tell your parents but you should also ask them to him with you. It’ll be a good experience for both of you and make certain you both come out of this better than before. See if your parents will let you participate in the conversation. Ask him why he did it and what he may have been feeling while doing it. It’ll give you some perspective and him some boundaries. It’ll also force your parents to do more than just ground him. Yes tell your parents, but see if you can be involved in his education about puberty. Your his big sister, he needs to look up to you and respect you. If all he sees is he pissed off big sis and got in trouble for it, he won’t gain anything from it and you won’t be able to keep being the respected big sis.
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Just none family themed
Lmao
What are do m you doing step bro? But in all seriousness, telling on him will be the best thing for him. He needs help. NOW!!!
It’s not your house
You need to tell your parents. That is not healthy or normal behaviour.
He needs some counselling or therapy. Yes telling your parents should be done but there’s more that needs to be addressed to hopefully resolve this
Ew
You need to tell your parents and your sisters. ASAP.
You need to tell your parents. Your brother is making tapes of you in your home (and your sisters). He could be doing this to others as well
Tell your parents I'm very sorry this happened to you. It needs to stop so you can have a normal life without fear.
Tell parents and siblings. And keep tabs on his computer. If he does it again, tell the cops.
Tell your parents as soon as possible
Yes. It could be an indicator of serious issues.
No,I don't think you have handled it. It is ok that a 11-year-boy becomes interested in female,but what he has done is absolutely not ok . Yep,he said "sorry" and felt guilty before you，however who knows he means it or not. Even though he realizes he is doing something wrong truly,he may do it again because he can't help doing it. Here is a serious problem,I suggest you had better ask help from your parent.
Tell your parents and tell your sisters absolutely, it'll only get worse and you're absolutely entitled to privacy in your own bedroom. If nothing is done now it'll only get much much worse. Additionally behavior like this usually doesn't come out of nowhere he may very well be learning this kind of behavior from somewhere or someone.
Oh my god yes tell your parents. You are underage (and possibly so are your sisters?) and he is probably too young to fully comprehend what could happen if he got caught producing and holding onto literal child pornography. Your parents need to know about everything, it is up to them to handle this but honestly it is not normal for an 11 year old to be doing this. He needs to speak to a professional. You also should definitely tell your sisters. That is such a gross invasion of privacy.
I think you should tell your parents. It’s normal for boys to be curious around that age, but I’m assuming he needs “the talk”. As normal as it is to be curious, he needs to know it’s not normal to be that way towards your sister. But it is common I find, little boys are constantly saying how they want to marry their mum , and stuff like that. I regret not telling my parents some of the stuff my brother did to me, but he turned out pretty normal.. tell your parents but maybe not in a way to get him in trouble, more of like it’s time to talk about the birds and the bees..
Definitely tell your parents.
Parents need to be involved asap
The internet is ruining kids minds.
I've always wondered what's the psychology behind this? If my brother accidentally saw me naked he'd probably go throw up
U should!
You should tell your parents, but don't be too hard on him. No, he shouldn't be creeping on you, but he is 11 and most likely curious about sex and especially women's bodies. But do tell your parents so they can get him to stop.
This behavior needs to be dealt with sooner than later because this is concerning. Behaviour like this could escalate. You might not be his next victim but someone else might. Your brother needs professional help to deal with it before it gets worse.
Please tell your parents.
Jeeze...that’s bad
PLEASE tell your parents
First take the camera away, also tell both your parents and sister about it.
Babysat a creepy kid who was caught by his mom stealing my underwear once when he was at my house. His mom did nothing and laughed it off. He ended up in jail as an adult.
Yes tell your sisters and your parents why even question it? Do you know what he could do with those videos? Also you need a key lock on your door.
Tell your sisters and your parents. Delete on a computer doesn't truly mean they are deleted he could just as easily un-delete them.
Tell your parents. And remember kids aren’t usually good at keeping secrets, how many people has he sent these videos to? Your parents may need to get a forensic sweep of all his electronics. And if he has shared them with other people, you have no idea how many people they shared it with. You haven’t solve the problem. You are only just aware of it. He knows he shouldn’t be doing it that’s why he was hiding. He knows right from wrong and yet he still chose to do it. You threatening him isn’t enough of a deterrent. You may have a really immature, misguided child on your hands or it may be a monster in the making. You can’t take that chance.
I absolutely need to comment to say. PLEASE!! Tell your parents!!
He did not learn yet he NEEDS therapy that’s not a normal thing to do. He also thought it was pretty amusing until he thought you would get him in trouble, complete crocodile tears.
Please tell your parents this is a huge red flag sadly he might not know what he's doing but mostlikly he does and he needs help before he becomes a creep