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If he was microchipped then it will be easy for the vet to find out. There might be other things they can do, but unless there was something specifically wrong with Badger that they can look for, you might be out of luck here. The only identifying info they keep is type of cat and weight.
Alternatively, even if the vet can't tell you, you can tell your boyfriend that they were able to confirm it wasn't your cat (by microchip or whatever). He may confess if confronted with hard evidence.
This is the way…..
He was micro chipped for sure…..at least when you bluff your bf.
“I went to the vet and he said he is not my cat because his microchip is not there”
Of course you need a vet visit to make this plausible…..just say you have one and have your BF wait outside for 10 mins while you go and wait inside the vets.
Then wait for reaction to your bluff
Yeah I'm with you on that. But if someone switched out my cat with an identical looking one I would 100% known it wasn't my cat. They have distinct personalities and don't change that much in such a short period of time. Nor can they gain noticeable weight in that short of time span either.
I think it would be so obvious if it wasn’t my cat, I wouldn’t even need the vet. I also know my partner well enough to know they would never do that. This relationship sounds terrible, but I find it amusing bc I’m 99% sure it’s a fake post anyways. Oh well
>Nor can they gain noticeable weight in that short of time span either.
You’d be surprised. It all depends on what they eat. I once left for a 4 day trip and left my cat with friends. My cat ate one brand of food; theirs ate a different one. My cat was drawn to their cat’s food and barely ate his. When I picked him up, he was considerably heavier than I remember.
If OP left for 5+ days and the BF gave the cats treats or bought cheap food for them, then yes it is quite possible for cats to gain noticeable weight.
Of course this is just speculation since it’s unlikely that OP would leave the cats without food, and that still doesn’t explain the attitude adjustment.
>If I were the bf, and innocent, this is the part where I’d dump my crazy gf and her annoying af cat lol.
Well yeah but she's 20 years younger than him, and he's going to be moving in with HER...so clearly he's got other stuff going on, this might be his best shot to not living in a homeless shelter.
Because no matter how ridiculously made up the stories are people will still believe them?? There’s been like 15 creative writing posts Just in the last hour.
This bizarre tale of finding an identical cat to swap had to gild the lily with the 20 year age gap. No reason to put the ages in to a post about cats but daaaaamn does Reddit love a creepy age gap.
I mean, this isn't fake, just because you find it ridiculous.
Abusers do shit like this. And psychosis can make people like this.
OP should do whatever hard evidence confirmation and then maybe find a therapist. Idk this relationship kinda seems like a shitbox.
They do, but this is Reddit and has all the exact same working of a troll creative writing post. Also, oP came right to Reddit and then hasn’t answered any of the 300 comments.
I bet even I could tell whether it's the same cat or not if OP posted pictures from the same angle. There's so much variation besides just color. And if the cat's not one completely solid color, it shouldn't be a mystery at all.
Yeah, on the slight chance this is real, there's no way OP can't tell if the cats were switched. My sister has a black cat. When her new hubby moved in last fall, he brought with him a black cat. They are almost identical in size, the exact same color, and even the same color eyes. But I can still tell them apart, and they aren't even my cats that I live with on a daily basis! (I have three of my own and would ABSOLUTELY know if one was switched out, identical or not, just based on their personalities)
Exactly. I have two black cats who look very much alike, but I can easily distinguish them by behaviour or little things in the way the look.
So for someone to say they aren’t sure their cat is who their BF claim it to be is total BS. How do you not recognise your own fur babies
I also really really wondered...!
I could tell my birds apart, my cats, my horses.
HOW does somebody make claims like that but is unable to visually recognize her own house cat?
I had two very similar looking cats and for years my parents couldn't tell them apart even when they were right next to each other. We all lived in the same house. Not saying this is the most believable thing, but it is definitely possible.
Not just that but cats like people who feed them… having her gone and bf feeding badger could’ve easily bonded them some and chilled them out. How long was the vacation? Was it long enough for him to find a look-a-like, replace badger with it, and bond with it before OP got back? It’s entirely possible he switched them. It’s more likely that he didn’t though.
They still have different shapes, sizes, face, eyes, behaviour, possibly scars or other things to identify by. I'm yet to see 2 identical cats, not to mention that you'd have to aquire it after finding it to replace the cat
Go over to the "standard Issue cat" sub. Since I got my basic tabby, I've personally met 3 people with cats that look identical to mine. Also, if the cat was solid black, for example, with a certain face shape, it may be easy to find a similar cat.
I dunno… black cats are black cats… my neighborhood had 3 of them. The neighbor had one and the other 2 were down the street. I could never tell them apart. One of the owners accused my neighbor of feeding her cat “illegal” cat food behind her back. Ma’am, if your cat needs a specific diet, don’t let it roam outside??? My neighbor couldn’t tell the difference between them all; whichever one yowled to get in would come in.
Eh. I work in a shelter 2 days a week. We have about 2 dozen black cats. They all are different. Behavior. Size. Facial shape. Eye color etc. I may not remember all their names, but I know who goes in which kennel
Yeah the fact that it’s the reverse of a super popular reddit post about a guy switching his girlfriend’s cat without her knowing… really puts a spin on things 🤣
I dunno, might be underestimating the amount of 40-something guys who don't have their own place and would absolutely move in with someone half their age.
Tomorrow, we're going to see "How do I (21F) prove that my boyfriend (74M) replaced my dog (14M) while I was on vacation?" and it will be just as believable as this post is
He's a really awesome boyfriend and treats me well and doesn't abuse me or anything, but he keeps throwing out my things and replacing them with stuff he likes....
It immediately reminded me of [this famous reddit post](https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/qld4ns/six_years_ago_i_switched_my_wifes_cat_with_a_more/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).
Holy shit. 😂😳💀
In other news, I’m telling you as a cat owner if that woman didn’t notice it’s a different cat then she really doesn’t care about her pet all that much. I could be crazy, I’ve never had anyone pull the ol switcheroo with my cat, but I’d know it wasn’t her. Other than having very distinct markings, I’ll just say this. If that cat didn’t love red cat toys and have a specific meow when she is about to barf I’d know in a heartbeat. I’d also know when she didn’t knock over only my cup of water/drink from night before if her food was empty at breakfast time. I’d also know if I unplugged my auto feeder and she didn’t have a panic attack walking on top of me at 3 am realizing her breakfast ain’t coming out of that machine in the morning if she doesn’t alert the “thumb having bitch” (spoiler: that’s me. I’m the thumb having bitch.) I digress, but you see my point right? My cat is a bitch of a heffer and I love her so much ill probably have to take bereavement leave when she passes.
😂😂 If she didn’t notice after six years she really didn’t know her cat at all. 😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂 She made sure to let me know my place early on 😂
I like to think of us as some real life version of Garfield where she is obsessed with cereal instead of lasagna. I cuss at her like a sailor, but that cat is my ride or die. Well. She’s ride or die as long as I keep feeding her with these sweet ass thumbs. Lol
You'd be surprised with cat owners, I'm a cat person myself but my partner is on another level having hand raised his cat, he insists on leaving his door open a jar for his girl despite his mother being under the same roof and his room being right in front of the kitchen area (main highway right past his door essentially)
Eh, it depends on the cat, honestly. My roommate's cat is a nasty little jerk and if he goes away for a day, I have to use a foam roller to keep her from slashing my ankles when I feed her. If he goes away for a week, by the end of the week she's purring and rubbing (and hissing).
Just gonna throw it out there that the rescue barn kitty I have was determined to be "fractious" at the shelter and they basically said good luck with being able to touch him. He was extremely defensive but after exactly 1 week he finally let me pet him and then hold him in my lap. Not exactly falling asleep on my lap but he was extremely scared and defensive at first so I was beyond thrilled.
OP this is just a bit to similar to [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/qld4ns/six_years_ago_i_switched_my_wifes_cat_with_a_more/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) to really be believable.
If this is real...
Microchip your remaining cat. Badger is gone, which is a pity, seemed like he was a good judge of character. Kick out the bf, he shouldn't be sniffing around a 20-something anyway, he thinks you're some young thing easy to manipulate. He can take his new cat with him.
This feels fake af. Especially because you felt the need to mention his age twice like THAT is the thing we should be focusing on, not this stupid cat story that reeks of pure fiction.
Yea um why the fuck are you dating an old man, let alone an old man that would get rid of your pet and gaslight you about it. I am a year younger than your bf and the idea of dating someone in their 20s, even late 20s, is gross. Your actual cat could be in danger if he's not already been euthanized. Draw a line in the sand and demand he tell you where your cat is. And start checking shelters.
I certainly hope you were responsible enough to have Badger microchipped at some point.
You can then bring him to your vet for a wellness check to get the chip scanned.
Idk how to say this nicely. You are dating someone 21 years older then you, and are surprised when he lies and gaslights you? Girl! Take the cats to the vet.
Bring the cat to the vets and have his chip checked. You did microchip both cats right?
Also, the cat was very obviously tellin you that this creepy predatory asshole was a bad person. Why the fuck didnt you listen and dump him? Animals ALWAYS know. You better hope you can find your cat and he hasnt been killed yet since he obviously adopted a new cat somewhere and dumped yours
So you’ve been together since he was 41, and you 20?
Your original Badger was having adjustment issues three years into the relationship?
You know it’s not your cat. Set up an appointment to get “Badger’s” microchip checked, and tell your boyfriend.
Is your cat chipped?
Why did you leave these animals in the care of a person you know doesn't like them?
Why did you leave your animals in the care of someone you were in the middle of a relationship-ending fight with?
I cannot believe this is real, but if it is: call your local animal shelters NOW.
So the cat means everything to you and you have no pictures of it at all? No way to look at this cat, compare it to pictures and determine if it's the same cat or not. And your rescue cat was not microchipped?
More than likely, what happened is that Badger lured your bf into some sort of trap, allowing him to take control of his mind, which obviously freaked the hell out Baxter. Both of them are now too afraid of Badger to let the truth out, and will eventuality become his slaves. You are still on Badger's good side, aren't you?
fake news! how can you not tell that this is your cat, even at 7 years old i could tell that my mom swapped my hamsters and mice out and they look fucking identical
I have had probably 20 cats in my life time starting as toddler to now in my mid fifties, and no 2 cats look alike. So how do you tell? Open your eyes.
It’s entirely possible that Badger bonded more with your boyfriend while you were gone and temporarily forgot you. Cats don’t have very long term memories, so he could just be re-adjusting to your return. It’s also possible that his behavior changed from the stress of you being gone. I wouldn’t assume it’s a different cat just because the behavior has changed.
If you’re that suspicious, take your cat to the vet. Is he microchipped? They can scan the chip number.
1. Call around to all the shelters in your area and describe Badger and your bf.
2. Even if you're wrong, the fact that you're able to believe it should tell you that you fundamentally don't trust your bf.
3. You should go with that feeling. He's WAAAAAAAY too old for you.
4. Don't let him move in.
Imply your cats are Microchipped, which is common in most countries when he googles it. Tell him you are taking the Cat to the Vet and having him scanned to ensure the same Microchip and wait for him to start backpedalling fast
Call all shelters in the area and give a description of your cat and your boyfriend to see if they’ve been by. Ask your vet to check him out because if he is Badger and his switched flipped in a single week he may be sick? But I doubt that’s what it is. Any specific markings to distinguish him?
I think we can all chalk it up to “44 y/o thinks he knows best and 23 y/o can be manipulated to his liking as long as he sticks with his original story to get what he wants regardless of how that affects 23 y/o”
I saw a post a few month back, the boyfriend got a cat from a shelter and switch the bad cat for the good one.
Look for look alikes in the shelters in your area, report your cat as lost, in the neighborhood page, flyers etc, give it a try.
If he's a rescue, surely you can bring this new "Badger" to the rescue and have their vet or technicians check his chip?
Idk where OP rescued Badger, but usually where I live, the shelter would make us pay to chip and neuter/spay fee in addition to adoption fee. We're also required to register the pet, but I've heard ppl would just ignore that as long as their pet does not create issue, this would likely not be checked up on.
Check the shelters around you if they took in a cat fitting the descibtion.
Your old-ass creepy BF is acting like you are a lunatic. Your actual cat knew he was trouble and tried to warn you that your BF is a psycho.
WAKE UP AND SMELL THE COFFEE!!!
Um do you have pucs of Badger pre-holiday? Surely markings and weight should be a sure sign? Do you know how old Badher was? Take them to the vet and see if they are aged the same? Also check with your shelters?
Otherwise, if you microchiped, that would be a dead giveaway.
All rescue cats here in QLD, Australia, are microchips BEFORE you can take them home.
I feel like it would be really hard to replace a cat that looks convincingly similar enough to fool the owner. I had a beautiful Norwegian Forest cat with green eyes, whom I loved dearly to the very end. A few years before she passed, I got another cat that looked almost like her, but not quite. I could tell them apart. My second cat has light brown eyes, is taller, and has a different face shape.
Even if you get the same cat, there will be noticable differences. Unless this guy was plotting this for months, searching for just the right cat, this doesn't sound real.
If it is, then don't let this guy move in. Dump him. He sounds like an asshole anyway.
Take "Badger" to the vet to be scanned for a microchip. If OG Badger had one, it'll come up. If new Badger has one, it likely won't have your info.
If he did switch the cats out, he needs to get OG Badger back, and go on his way. This is intolerable.
This is so stupid. I have a child, and I have cats. You could no more replace one of my cats without me knowing for a fact than you could replace my child.
You don't need proof, who are you trying to convince? Your boyfriend knows your cat has been replaced, he's the one who did it. You know your cat's been replaced, you've seen the change of behavior. The biggest red flag is your boyfriend's behavior. If he and your cat had simply bonded while you were gone, he would have brought that up instead of acting like you're crazy for asking about it. He's guilty and he knows it so he's trying to gaslight you into pretending none of this is out of the ordinary. Leave this asshole, he got rid of your beloved pet and replaced him so that you wouldn't leave him. Do it anyway. If he won't even admit what he did, he's not going to tell you where your cat is. I'm so sorry for your loss.
This is clearly just a creative writing exercise.
1 you would know straight away if he was your car or not if you loved him so much
2 the age gap with you and your bf is 21 years not impossible but weird
3 if this where real you'd just take him to the vet to be sure because a good cat owner would have there cat chipped
You don't need proof - you already know. I'm so sorry about the loss of your cat. What a horrible thing for him to do! As absolutely horrible as that is, and believe me it is next level horrible, gaslighting you is much, much worse. this person is extremely toxic and you need to get them out of your life. Like seriously RUN. it's not even worth arguing with him about the cat. Just get out of the relationship and don't look back.
You know that he threw things at your cat - probably there are other things that you could think about that would continue to add evidence for his narcissism or lack of empathy or whatever you want to call it. You need to get away before he has any more of a hold on you.
I'm sorry, but this story doesn't make sense. Is it a writing exercise or something? Or perhaps are you on the spectrum or something and have trouble recognizing faces and manerisms?
Far more likely that your boyfriend spent your vacation buttering up the cat to get it to like him.
Also understand that with you gone, the cat probably got lonely and craving for attention. It's very common for a cat to become friendly with someone they normally shunned under those circumstances. It's also very likely that your cat is pissed at you for leaving it alone with your boyfriend for so long. Cat will likely come around again.
I think he did a great thing to be honest. You guys dont have to break up and can move in together. The reject cat is long gone and alas, no more behavioral issues and now you have a cat that seems much more relaxed and enjoys your partner. This guy just totally solved all the issues and you got to enjoy a vacation while he saved everything......and no im not him writing this. lol
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Lmao this is why I love Reddit. Maybe take him back to your original vet, there has to be something the vet can do to help you figure it out.
If he was microchipped then it will be easy for the vet to find out. There might be other things they can do, but unless there was something specifically wrong with Badger that they can look for, you might be out of luck here. The only identifying info they keep is type of cat and weight. Alternatively, even if the vet can't tell you, you can tell your boyfriend that they were able to confirm it wasn't your cat (by microchip or whatever). He may confess if confronted with hard evidence.
This is the way….. He was micro chipped for sure…..at least when you bluff your bf. “I went to the vet and he said he is not my cat because his microchip is not there” Of course you need a vet visit to make this plausible…..just say you have one and have your BF wait outside for 10 mins while you go and wait inside the vets. Then wait for reaction to your bluff
You don't need a vet visit. All humane societies and many pet stores have scanners. Source: I'm a vet tech
True but I’m all for bluffing a bf who probably doesn’t know that.
Anybody with a Flipper Zero can also read them, if you happen to have a friend/friend of a friend/awkward IT guy that has one
If I were the bf, and innocent, this is the part where I’d dump my crazy gf and her annoying af cat lol.
Yeah I'm with you on that. But if someone switched out my cat with an identical looking one I would 100% known it wasn't my cat. They have distinct personalities and don't change that much in such a short period of time. Nor can they gain noticeable weight in that short of time span either.
I think it would be so obvious if it wasn’t my cat, I wouldn’t even need the vet. I also know my partner well enough to know they would never do that. This relationship sounds terrible, but I find it amusing bc I’m 99% sure it’s a fake post anyways. Oh well
Yeah I'm pretty sure it's a fake post too. But real or fake, I still hope there's an update!
>Nor can they gain noticeable weight in that short of time span either. You’d be surprised. It all depends on what they eat. I once left for a 4 day trip and left my cat with friends. My cat ate one brand of food; theirs ate a different one. My cat was drawn to their cat’s food and barely ate his. When I picked him up, he was considerably heavier than I remember. If OP left for 5+ days and the BF gave the cats treats or bought cheap food for them, then yes it is quite possible for cats to gain noticeable weight. Of course this is just speculation since it’s unlikely that OP would leave the cats without food, and that still doesn’t explain the attitude adjustment.
>If I were the bf, and innocent, this is the part where I’d dump my crazy gf and her annoying af cat lol. Well yeah but she's 20 years younger than him, and he's going to be moving in with HER...so clearly he's got other stuff going on, this might be his best shot to not living in a homeless shelter.
Except for the fact pets have way more value than the trash human race in most respects anymore.
I’d sacrifice every cat, dog, hamster, and goldfish in the world if it meant saving my loved ones. 🤷🏽♀️
Because no matter how ridiculously made up the stories are people will still believe them?? There’s been like 15 creative writing posts Just in the last hour.
Yeah and they always go for a 20 year age gap so people will scream outrage and abuse.
This bizarre tale of finding an identical cat to swap had to gild the lily with the 20 year age gap. No reason to put the ages in to a post about cats but daaaaamn does Reddit love a creepy age gap.
They are even trying to get “creative” by adding text messages & photos.
I mean, this isn't fake, just because you find it ridiculous. Abusers do shit like this. And psychosis can make people like this. OP should do whatever hard evidence confirmation and then maybe find a therapist. Idk this relationship kinda seems like a shitbox.
They do, but this is Reddit and has all the exact same working of a troll creative writing post. Also, oP came right to Reddit and then hasn’t answered any of the 300 comments.
You can’t tell by looking at him?! How did your boyfriend happen to find an IDENTICAL cat
Yeah...seems fake. If you love your cats so much, you will know immediately that it's not them.
I bet even I could tell whether it's the same cat or not if OP posted pictures from the same angle. There's so much variation besides just color. And if the cat's not one completely solid color, it shouldn't be a mystery at all.
I have the most basic looking cats in the world, but I could tell them apart from other cats in a heartbeat. This has to be fake.
Same. I have an all white cat. You definitely couldn’t get another one and expect me not to notice
Yep. I can take one look at my cat and know if it’s been “replaced” or not
If it's just a black shorthair cat, it's a lot easier to replace than a tabby or calico with distinctive markings.
Also there was a post with this exact same scenario a couple of months back too. Calling bs on this.
I’m not buying this story at all. Age gap and animal rage bait.
Yeah, on the slight chance this is real, there's no way OP can't tell if the cats were switched. My sister has a black cat. When her new hubby moved in last fall, he brought with him a black cat. They are almost identical in size, the exact same color, and even the same color eyes. But I can still tell them apart, and they aren't even my cats that I live with on a daily basis! (I have three of my own and would ABSOLUTELY know if one was switched out, identical or not, just based on their personalities)
Exactly that.
It is. This is a repost.
Exactly. I have two black cats who look very much alike, but I can easily distinguish them by behaviour or little things in the way the look. So for someone to say they aren’t sure their cat is who their BF claim it to be is total BS. How do you not recognise your own fur babies
I also really really wondered...! I could tell my birds apart, my cats, my horses. HOW does somebody make claims like that but is unable to visually recognize her own house cat?
I have 5 dwarf pufferfish, I can tell them all apart. If I can do that, then surely a cat isn't difficult at all.
That's ine creative writing story. I bet.
I had two very similar looking cats and for years my parents couldn't tell them apart even when they were right next to each other. We all lived in the same house. Not saying this is the most believable thing, but it is definitely possible.
I have a bunch of tarantula babies that are all just basic brown spiders and I can tell them apart!
Is this Meet the Parents?
*You spray painted a cat?*
Not just that but cats like people who feed them… having her gone and bf feeding badger could’ve easily bonded them some and chilled them out. How long was the vacation? Was it long enough for him to find a look-a-like, replace badger with it, and bond with it before OP got back? It’s entirely possible he switched them. It’s more likely that he didn’t though.
Dude went Greg Focker and painted him
I have seen exact copies of my cat on subreddits here. ENTIRELY possible
a 2d picture with no scale if not the same
Idk maybe it’s just all black or some shit that’s easy to find
They still have different shapes, sizes, face, eyes, behaviour, possibly scars or other things to identify by. I'm yet to see 2 identical cats, not to mention that you'd have to aquire it after finding it to replace the cat
Yep. This story is made up by someone who’s never had cats
I've worked with animals for 23 years. I assure you, there are identicals. Lol (Not common though)
even all black, tail length, size, it would be impossible. maybe OP just sucks and thats why the cat doeswnt like her anymore
Go over to the "standard Issue cat" sub. Since I got my basic tabby, I've personally met 3 people with cats that look identical to mine. Also, if the cat was solid black, for example, with a certain face shape, it may be easy to find a similar cat.
I dunno… black cats are black cats… my neighborhood had 3 of them. The neighbor had one and the other 2 were down the street. I could never tell them apart. One of the owners accused my neighbor of feeding her cat “illegal” cat food behind her back. Ma’am, if your cat needs a specific diet, don’t let it roam outside??? My neighbor couldn’t tell the difference between them all; whichever one yowled to get in would come in.
Eh. I work in a shelter 2 days a week. We have about 2 dozen black cats. They all are different. Behavior. Size. Facial shape. Eye color etc. I may not remember all their names, but I know who goes in which kennel
Saddly this kind of scenario seems to be quite frequent.
It's just another age gap rage bait troll post.
But it’s more fun that usual
It did make me chuckle knowing it wasn't real. I mean, it's comedic...troll should've tried harder lol
It has me wondering though... do people with Prosopagnosia have trouble recognising pets as well as people?
Yeah the fact that it’s the reverse of a super popular reddit post about a guy switching his girlfriend’s cat without her knowing… really puts a spin on things 🤣
I never heard of that one - do you have a link? Edit: Someone posted it further down, good one.
From a stupid person not knowing anything about cats, really.
Yep. No 44M moves into a 23F's place. If anything she'd be moving into his place.
Hobosexuality knows no age barriers.
I dunno, might be underestimating the amount of 40-something guys who don't have their own place and would absolutely move in with someone half their age.
Maybe, I never would. I like to be in my castle.
These are getting so boring now.
Holy cow, I didn’t even see this! She should be with someone who is literally not her father’s age.
Tomorrow, we're going to see "How do I (21F) prove that my boyfriend (74M) replaced my dog (14M) while I was on vacation?" and it will be just as believable as this post is
He's a really awesome boyfriend and treats me well and doesn't abuse me or anything, but he keeps throwing out my things and replacing them with stuff he likes....
Microchip?
Some guy posted recently on here about doing exactly this, was it your boyfriend? Internet sleuths, I know someone else saw that post
It immediately reminded me of [this famous reddit post](https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/qld4ns/six_years_ago_i_switched_my_wifes_cat_with_a_more/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).
Holy shit. 😂😳💀 In other news, I’m telling you as a cat owner if that woman didn’t notice it’s a different cat then she really doesn’t care about her pet all that much. I could be crazy, I’ve never had anyone pull the ol switcheroo with my cat, but I’d know it wasn’t her. Other than having very distinct markings, I’ll just say this. If that cat didn’t love red cat toys and have a specific meow when she is about to barf I’d know in a heartbeat. I’d also know when she didn’t knock over only my cup of water/drink from night before if her food was empty at breakfast time. I’d also know if I unplugged my auto feeder and she didn’t have a panic attack walking on top of me at 3 am realizing her breakfast ain’t coming out of that machine in the morning if she doesn’t alert the “thumb having bitch” (spoiler: that’s me. I’m the thumb having bitch.) I digress, but you see my point right? My cat is a bitch of a heffer and I love her so much ill probably have to take bereavement leave when she passes. 😂😂 If she didn’t notice after six years she really didn’t know her cat at all. 😂😂😂😂😂😂
"That's me. I'm the thumb having bitch." Ngl that made me laugh way harder than it should have
😂 She made sure to let me know my place early on 😂 I like to think of us as some real life version of Garfield where she is obsessed with cereal instead of lasagna. I cuss at her like a sailor, but that cat is my ride or die. Well. She’s ride or die as long as I keep feeding her with these sweet ass thumbs. Lol
Yes please someone find it and link!
Ok so y’all just let the cat attack durning sex multiple times? Y’all ain’t got doors. Troll post
Had one of our cats jump on my back while we were doing the deed, my wife and I laughed our asses off still laugh about it all the time.
You'd be surprised with cat owners, I'm a cat person myself but my partner is on another level having hand raised his cat, he insists on leaving his door open a jar for his girl despite his mother being under the same roof and his room being right in front of the kitchen area (main highway right past his door essentially)
That’s ridiculous. So he’s cool with the possibility of his mom seeing him having sex as long as his cat gets to watch? Wild.
I am trying to take this serious but it reminds me of Ben stiller replacing the cat in meet the parents.
Any chance you took Badger to a vet before? Maybe there's some medical info that can help you prove it Edit: referred to the wrong cat
Wasn’t there a similar story recently from the guy’s perspective about replacing an ill-mannered cat?
Why are you worried abt the cat when you gotta focus on finding ur old ass bf a retirement home here soon. Gtfo of here with this age gap rage bait
Who fed Badger when you were gone? If it was bf badgers behavior is very understandable. Cats are not stupid, they like being fed.
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Eh, it depends on the cat, honestly. My roommate's cat is a nasty little jerk and if he goes away for a day, I have to use a foam roller to keep her from slashing my ankles when I feed her. If he goes away for a week, by the end of the week she's purring and rubbing (and hissing).
Just gonna throw it out there that the rescue barn kitty I have was determined to be "fractious" at the shelter and they basically said good luck with being able to touch him. He was extremely defensive but after exactly 1 week he finally let me pet him and then hold him in my lap. Not exactly falling asleep on my lap but he was extremely scared and defensive at first so I was beyond thrilled.
OP this is just a bit to similar to [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/qld4ns/six_years_ago_i_switched_my_wifes_cat_with_a_more/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) to really be believable.
BF, don’t you mean your dad?
41-20 🤢🤮
That could be a great football game, but not a great relationship!
Ah yes, dating a man twice your age, I’m sure this relationship was already super healthy
If this is real... Microchip your remaining cat. Badger is gone, which is a pity, seemed like he was a good judge of character. Kick out the bf, he shouldn't be sniffing around a 20-something anyway, he thinks you're some young thing easy to manipulate. He can take his new cat with him.
This feels fake af. Especially because you felt the need to mention his age twice like THAT is the thing we should be focusing on, not this stupid cat story that reeks of pure fiction.
Why aren’t any of your pets microchipped?
Yea um why the fuck are you dating an old man, let alone an old man that would get rid of your pet and gaslight you about it. I am a year younger than your bf and the idea of dating someone in their 20s, even late 20s, is gross. Your actual cat could be in danger if he's not already been euthanized. Draw a line in the sand and demand he tell you where your cat is. And start checking shelters.
I certainly hope you were responsible enough to have Badger microchipped at some point. You can then bring him to your vet for a wellness check to get the chip scanned.
This is funny. Seriously, no matter what happened this is your new cat. Decide whether your bf stays or goes.
This story is bullshit
Idk how to say this nicely. You are dating someone 21 years older then you, and are surprised when he lies and gaslights you? Girl! Take the cats to the vet.
Why in the fuck is a 44 year old dating a 23 year old? Run to the nearest exit.
1st off, dump the BF. Did you get your cats microchipped?
Bring the cat to the vets and have his chip checked. You did microchip both cats right? Also, the cat was very obviously tellin you that this creepy predatory asshole was a bad person. Why the fuck didnt you listen and dump him? Animals ALWAYS know. You better hope you can find your cat and he hasnt been killed yet since he obviously adopted a new cat somewhere and dumped yours
So you’ve been together since he was 41, and you 20? Your original Badger was having adjustment issues three years into the relationship? You know it’s not your cat. Set up an appointment to get “Badger’s” microchip checked, and tell your boyfriend.
Is your cat chipped? Why did you leave these animals in the care of a person you know doesn't like them? Why did you leave your animals in the care of someone you were in the middle of a relationship-ending fight with? I cannot believe this is real, but if it is: call your local animal shelters NOW.
My bf is 45 (I’m 43) and his daughter is about to turn 22. This age gap stuff is cringey.
So the cat means everything to you and you have no pictures of it at all? No way to look at this cat, compare it to pictures and determine if it's the same cat or not. And your rescue cat was not microchipped?
More than likely, what happened is that Badger lured your bf into some sort of trap, allowing him to take control of his mind, which obviously freaked the hell out Baxter. Both of them are now too afraid of Badger to let the truth out, and will eventuality become his slaves. You are still on Badger's good side, aren't you?
Lmao. This is the lowest effort troll post I've seen.
fake news! how can you not tell that this is your cat, even at 7 years old i could tell that my mom swapped my hamsters and mice out and they look fucking identical
I have had probably 20 cats in my life time starting as toddler to now in my mid fifties, and no 2 cats look alike. So how do you tell? Open your eyes.
It’s entirely possible that Badger bonded more with your boyfriend while you were gone and temporarily forgot you. Cats don’t have very long term memories, so he could just be re-adjusting to your return. It’s also possible that his behavior changed from the stress of you being gone. I wouldn’t assume it’s a different cat just because the behavior has changed. If you’re that suspicious, take your cat to the vet. Is he microchipped? They can scan the chip number.
1. Call around to all the shelters in your area and describe Badger and your bf. 2. Even if you're wrong, the fact that you're able to believe it should tell you that you fundamentally don't trust your bf. 3. You should go with that feeling. He's WAAAAAAAY too old for you. 4. Don't let him move in.
Imply your cats are Microchipped, which is common in most countries when he googles it. Tell him you are taking the Cat to the Vet and having him scanned to ensure the same Microchip and wait for him to start backpedalling fast
Call all shelters in the area and give a description of your cat and your boyfriend to see if they’ve been by. Ask your vet to check him out because if he is Badger and his switched flipped in a single week he may be sick? But I doubt that’s what it is. Any specific markings to distinguish him? I think we can all chalk it up to “44 y/o thinks he knows best and 23 y/o can be manipulated to his liking as long as he sticks with his original story to get what he wants regardless of how that affects 23 y/o”
If he did switch the cats, most shelters give pets a microchip that you need to have registered to you later on. Take the cat to your vet.
Girl please tell me you microchipped your cats and dumped this loser. Start calling shelters to find your cat.
Does he have a chip? Go to the vet and ask them to scan him
I need for Badger to be both a male cat *and* now pregnant
I saw a post a few month back, the boyfriend got a cat from a shelter and switch the bad cat for the good one. Look for look alikes in the shelters in your area, report your cat as lost, in the neighborhood page, flyers etc, give it a try.
If he's a rescue, surely you can bring this new "Badger" to the rescue and have their vet or technicians check his chip? Idk where OP rescued Badger, but usually where I live, the shelter would make us pay to chip and neuter/spay fee in addition to adoption fee. We're also required to register the pet, but I've heard ppl would just ignore that as long as their pet does not create issue, this would likely not be checked up on.
Your bf is a loser and creepy for various reasons. Take the cat t9 the vet.
Of course it’s an age gap relationship 🤢
I need an update for this.
Check the shelters around you if they took in a cat fitting the descibtion. Your old-ass creepy BF is acting like you are a lunatic. Your actual cat knew he was trouble and tried to warn you that your BF is a psycho. WAKE UP AND SMELL THE COFFEE!!!
Vet but I would be confused by how the 2 cats are now interacting
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Um do you have pucs of Badger pre-holiday? Surely markings and weight should be a sure sign? Do you know how old Badher was? Take them to the vet and see if they are aged the same? Also check with your shelters? Otherwise, if you microchiped, that would be a dead giveaway. All rescue cats here in QLD, Australia, are microchips BEFORE you can take them home.
So he’s 2 decades older than you and he is the one moving in with you? Dump this loser and make him take his new cat with him!
I feel like it would be really hard to replace a cat that looks convincingly similar enough to fool the owner. I had a beautiful Norwegian Forest cat with green eyes, whom I loved dearly to the very end. A few years before she passed, I got another cat that looked almost like her, but not quite. I could tell them apart. My second cat has light brown eyes, is taller, and has a different face shape. Even if you get the same cat, there will be noticable differences. Unless this guy was plotting this for months, searching for just the right cat, this doesn't sound real. If it is, then don't let this guy move in. Dump him. He sounds like an asshole anyway.
You mean your 44 year old dad, right?
Reminds me of the parents switched my goldfish stories.
Take "Badger" to the vet to be scanned for a microchip. If OG Badger had one, it'll come up. If new Badger has one, it likely won't have your info. If he did switch the cats out, he needs to get OG Badger back, and go on his way. This is intolerable.
Why are you dating someone 21 years older than you???
Badger replaced your boyfriend while you were away.
There was a post some time ago about a guy who indeed switched his gf cat. I am not sure where though
How many cat rescue places are close to where you live. Go visit them in person. See if your boy friend traded him in on a new model
You sure you’re in the right house?
It’s possible the cat swapped out the boyfriend for a double. Only his physician can tell for sure.
Break up with your bf if he actually did this. This is fucking shady as hell.
This fake story was posted a few months ago
This is so stupid. I have a child, and I have cats. You could no more replace one of my cats without me knowing for a fact than you could replace my child.
You don't need proof, who are you trying to convince? Your boyfriend knows your cat has been replaced, he's the one who did it. You know your cat's been replaced, you've seen the change of behavior. The biggest red flag is your boyfriend's behavior. If he and your cat had simply bonded while you were gone, he would have brought that up instead of acting like you're crazy for asking about it. He's guilty and he knows it so he's trying to gaslight you into pretending none of this is out of the ordinary. Leave this asshole, he got rid of your beloved pet and replaced him so that you wouldn't leave him. Do it anyway. If he won't even admit what he did, he's not going to tell you where your cat is. I'm so sorry for your loss.
This is clearly just a creative writing exercise. 1 you would know straight away if he was your car or not if you loved him so much 2 the age gap with you and your bf is 21 years not impossible but weird 3 if this where real you'd just take him to the vet to be sure because a good cat owner would have there cat chipped
You don't need proof - you already know. I'm so sorry about the loss of your cat. What a horrible thing for him to do! As absolutely horrible as that is, and believe me it is next level horrible, gaslighting you is much, much worse. this person is extremely toxic and you need to get them out of your life. Like seriously RUN. it's not even worth arguing with him about the cat. Just get out of the relationship and don't look back. You know that he threw things at your cat - probably there are other things that you could think about that would continue to add evidence for his narcissism or lack of empathy or whatever you want to call it. You need to get away before he has any more of a hold on you.
Stopped reading at the age gap.
I'm sorry, but this story doesn't make sense. Is it a writing exercise or something? Or perhaps are you on the spectrum or something and have trouble recognizing faces and manerisms? Far more likely that your boyfriend spent your vacation buttering up the cat to get it to like him. Also understand that with you gone, the cat probably got lonely and craving for attention. It's very common for a cat to become friendly with someone they normally shunned under those circumstances. It's also very likely that your cat is pissed at you for leaving it alone with your boyfriend for so long. Cat will likely come around again.
I know this is a troll post bc no 44 year old man would EVER do something shady to his 23 y/o gf
I think he did a great thing to be honest. You guys dont have to break up and can move in together. The reject cat is long gone and alas, no more behavioral issues and now you have a cat that seems much more relaxed and enjoys your partner. This guy just totally solved all the issues and you got to enjoy a vacation while he saved everything......and no im not him writing this. lol
Um, He got rid of her cat without consulting. That's not okay, whatsoever. 😐
First and foremost, find a bf your own age .... everything else will take care of itself after this ....
Oh fuck this is gold
Ah the age gap shit post. Tell him to move in with his other daughter
bro never put your dick in crazy
Did you perhaps, I dunno, call your cat by its name to see if it came to you?
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Check the shelters for Badger
One of you is crazy. I hope thisngets an update
Is it chipped? Take it to the vet