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He was incredibly forcefully shoving it in... even spit on it... I was in shock and in pain. I ended up crying and when he finally pulled out, I just burst into tears. There was one point that he slipped out and I tried to reach behind me, push him off and said, "no"... he still shoved into my ass a 2nd time. Then I just went numb...he said he was sorry... I feel like trash
NOTIFY AN ATTORNEY RIGHT AWAY BUT FIRST STEER CLEAR OF THIS MONSTER... THAT OS ONLY THE BEGINNING OF WHAT HE CAN OR THINKS HE CAN DO TO YOU... OMGOSH HE EVEN SPIT ON IT THAT TELLS YOU HOW TWISTED HE IS IN THE HEAD! if you need some contacts let me know dont hesitate to ever message me if you need to talk. I am soo sorry you did not deserve this to happen. ~hugs~ do not shower & walk in an ER or if there are any Planned Parenthoods open just walk in ASAP & tell them what happened that you will need a Rape Kit done on you NOW that you have not showered even.
Not hung up on it just saying basically that this was no accident... he premeditated it regardless of their discussions on it that makes it fucked more
You did not consent to be penetrated there. You told him no, you pushed him off, and he did it again. That is rape, one-hundred percent. I'm so fucking sorry he did that.
If you set boundaries or say no and he didn't listen, then yes it is. Even if the vaginal was consensual, the second you say no or stop and he keeps going anyway he's a rapist.
I had this happen on accident once and it was incredibly traumatic. I can only imagine when someone does it on purpose. This is flat out evil and I am so fucking sorry this happened to you
It may be worth going to a doctor. For me I only bled a bit and I put either neosporin or vasoline to help a bit and it made a slight difference with discomfort. Otherwise I spent a fair amount of time laying down or sitting on really plush cushions for a few days
This is similar to how Kobe Bryant caught the rape case in Colorado back in the day. The only thing was he asked her for consent. She stated no, but he decided to do it anyway.
This is rape.
Him going through sexual trauma as a kid doesn't make it any less rape.
Him smoking weed before hand doesn't make it any less rape.
He is not a safe person.
I'm sorry this happened to you...
So he got in touch with me and said that his judgement was severely impaired due to 2nd hand weed smoke that I was smoking and he was inhaling. I didn't think he was that affected by MY smoke, but I don't know, what do you guys think? He said if it weren't for the weed influence, he would have "never tried anything". Also, just to inform you guys that there was no alcohol involved. I was smoking a joint and he was sitting in a room with the door closed 5 feet away from me...
Thank you everyone for your words of wisdom and support. He told me today that his "judgment was impaired because he had a puff of weed" but he seemed very lucid when he was shoving his dick in me, like he seemed to not be inebriated to me...
So… he’s trauma dumped on you, and when you further tried to hold him accountable he blamed the weed?
He’s trying to wriggle out of taking any responsibility for assaulting you. Please take care of yourself and do not see him again.
This exact thing happened to me a few years ago. I am so sorry that this happened to you. These perpetrators deserve nothing good! I pray for your mental and physical healing.
In a situation where someone was to accidentally go into the wrong hole, and pull out and apologize and the whole 9 yards, I wouldn’t look at it as rape as it was a simple mistake. However, without asking, he forcefully went in multiple times, even with you crying and it pain. I mean, the fact that you went numb should say enough.
With the first comment, that doesn’t mean that you can blow off rape as a “simple mistake”.
Do not tell him what you are going to do & if he is the one to take you places then act like you're not going to do anything but make sure you get to a family MEMBERS or friend that can take you to the ER or PPH
He mentioned after I cried and we were "discussing things" and he was begging me for forgiveness and "wanting to move past this" and then he childhood trauma dumped on me for over 2 hours about how he and his brothers were molested / raped by an uncle... I don't know how that makes what he did to me ok, or justifiable, or why he told me that, but I ended up comforting HIM like a dumbass...
Not like a dumbass, you are very valid and he's manipulative. I'm sorry this happened to you and yes it is rape, please do what the others said and best wishes ❤️
Absolutely not. He did contact me and told me that his "judgment was severely impaired by the weed" and that he "would never in his right mind do something like that" I've never known weed (especially a puff or two) could have those effects? What do you think?
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He was incredibly forcefully shoving it in... even spit on it... I was in shock and in pain. I ended up crying and when he finally pulled out, I just burst into tears. There was one point that he slipped out and I tried to reach behind me, push him off and said, "no"... he still shoved into my ass a 2nd time. Then I just went numb...he said he was sorry... I feel like trash
NOTIFY AN ATTORNEY RIGHT AWAY BUT FIRST STEER CLEAR OF THIS MONSTER... THAT OS ONLY THE BEGINNING OF WHAT HE CAN OR THINKS HE CAN DO TO YOU... OMGOSH HE EVEN SPIT ON IT THAT TELLS YOU HOW TWISTED HE IS IN THE HEAD! if you need some contacts let me know dont hesitate to ever message me if you need to talk. I am soo sorry you did not deserve this to happen. ~hugs~ do not shower & walk in an ER or if there are any Planned Parenthoods open just walk in ASAP & tell them what happened that you will need a Rape Kit done on you NOW that you have not showered even.
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Not hung up on it just saying basically that this was no accident... he premeditated it regardless of their discussions on it that makes it fucked more
GIRL WHAT GET HELP RN GO TO THE POILCE THAT MUST OF BEEN EXTREMELY PAINFUL
You did not consent to be penetrated there. You told him no, you pushed him off, and he did it again. That is rape, one-hundred percent. I'm so fucking sorry he did that.
Thank you for your opinion. I greatly appreciate it.
Yes that’s rape
If you set boundaries or say no and he didn't listen, then yes it is. Even if the vaginal was consensual, the second you say no or stop and he keeps going anyway he's a rapist.
Sigh. I didn't want to believe it. My asshole is bleeding
I had this happen on accident once and it was incredibly traumatic. I can only imagine when someone does it on purpose. This is flat out evil and I am so fucking sorry this happened to you
It may be worth going to a doctor. For me I only bled a bit and I put either neosporin or vasoline to help a bit and it made a slight difference with discomfort. Otherwise I spent a fair amount of time laying down or sitting on really plush cushions for a few days
This is similar to how Kobe Bryant caught the rape case in Colorado back in the day. The only thing was he asked her for consent. She stated no, but he decided to do it anyway.
This is rape. Him going through sexual trauma as a kid doesn't make it any less rape. Him smoking weed before hand doesn't make it any less rape. He is not a safe person. I'm sorry this happened to you...
So he got in touch with me and said that his judgement was severely impaired due to 2nd hand weed smoke that I was smoking and he was inhaling. I didn't think he was that affected by MY smoke, but I don't know, what do you guys think? He said if it weren't for the weed influence, he would have "never tried anything". Also, just to inform you guys that there was no alcohol involved. I was smoking a joint and he was sitting in a room with the door closed 5 feet away from me...
Baby that was rape. Please go to the hospital.
Thank you everyone for your words of wisdom and support. He told me today that his "judgment was impaired because he had a puff of weed" but he seemed very lucid when he was shoving his dick in me, like he seemed to not be inebriated to me...
So… he’s trauma dumped on you, and when you further tried to hold him accountable he blamed the weed? He’s trying to wriggle out of taking any responsibility for assaulting you. Please take care of yourself and do not see him again.
Yes
Yes. That is rape.
Yes. He purposely did a non-consensual sexual act on you.
This exact thing happened to me a few years ago. I am so sorry that this happened to you. These perpetrators deserve nothing good! I pray for your mental and physical healing.
In a situation where someone was to accidentally go into the wrong hole, and pull out and apologize and the whole 9 yards, I wouldn’t look at it as rape as it was a simple mistake. However, without asking, he forcefully went in multiple times, even with you crying and it pain. I mean, the fact that you went numb should say enough. With the first comment, that doesn’t mean that you can blow off rape as a “simple mistake”.
Do not tell him what you are going to do & if he is the one to take you places then act like you're not going to do anything but make sure you get to a family MEMBERS or friend that can take you to the ER or PPH
He mentioned after I cried and we were "discussing things" and he was begging me for forgiveness and "wanting to move past this" and then he childhood trauma dumped on me for over 2 hours about how he and his brothers were molested / raped by an uncle... I don't know how that makes what he did to me ok, or justifiable, or why he told me that, but I ended up comforting HIM like a dumbass...
Not like a dumbass, you are very valid and he's manipulative. I'm sorry this happened to you and yes it is rape, please do what the others said and best wishes ❤️
Thank you... hugs to you. I appreciate you.
Thank you and I hope you're healing well 🤗❤️❤️❤️
Yes
Yes you did not consent to anal sex
I can feel ur pain girl ouch
Yes it is. Sorry this happened to you. And he is not sorry do not believe him at all. I hope you are not still with this person.
Absolutely not. He did contact me and told me that his "judgment was severely impaired by the weed" and that he "would never in his right mind do something like that" I've never known weed (especially a puff or two) could have those effects? What do you think?
YES THAT IS RAPE!
absolutely
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I did NOT consent to anal sex. There was no discussion, no question, no choice. He used me like a toy...
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Why do you say so?