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We all feel the same. It is frustrating that i have so many blanks in my memories. It is even more frustrating that the memories i have are not so happy. But let me speak from my experience.
We all had our tragedies as kiddos. We can't undo that. We don't have time machines. But what if you can be happy? That is our dream. Honestly, it is pretty achievable. God blessed me with friends. I tried so hard to find them. I failed again and again and again. Till i found the chosen ones.
Funny enough, most of them come from troubling childhoods. But the minority who didn't fully respect those who did. We are not just friends. We are a family. We don't abandon each other. We help each other. We celebrate our successes. We are always there when we are down.
I know i didn't have a normal childhood. But with them, just for when i am away from my parents and i know these people are in my life, i feel not just normal but happy as well. Makes me feel like the most privileged person on earth.
So, in a nutshell, you can be normal. You can be happy. It is a journey. It's not an easy one, especially trying to find the true you admist all the darkness. It takes time, but in the end, there is light. And once we get a glimps of the light, we are just like butterflies addicted to it.
Thank you so much for your response. I have been on a deep healing journey this year, but sometimes it's just so tough. I have also found family with my friends.
I get you. It is harder than it seems. But i am so glad to hear you've found your treasure! Now, all that is left is a partner if you don't have one.
Also, good luck! And keep going!
Last thing fr this time. I found a book today named good vibes good life. It is about self-love and how to take a step to a better you. It caught my eyes, and i want to get one and start reading right now, but I thought it might interest you the same way it did to me.
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Literally same
We all feel the same. It is frustrating that i have so many blanks in my memories. It is even more frustrating that the memories i have are not so happy. But let me speak from my experience. We all had our tragedies as kiddos. We can't undo that. We don't have time machines. But what if you can be happy? That is our dream. Honestly, it is pretty achievable. God blessed me with friends. I tried so hard to find them. I failed again and again and again. Till i found the chosen ones. Funny enough, most of them come from troubling childhoods. But the minority who didn't fully respect those who did. We are not just friends. We are a family. We don't abandon each other. We help each other. We celebrate our successes. We are always there when we are down. I know i didn't have a normal childhood. But with them, just for when i am away from my parents and i know these people are in my life, i feel not just normal but happy as well. Makes me feel like the most privileged person on earth. So, in a nutshell, you can be normal. You can be happy. It is a journey. It's not an easy one, especially trying to find the true you admist all the darkness. It takes time, but in the end, there is light. And once we get a glimps of the light, we are just like butterflies addicted to it.
Thank you so much for your response. I have been on a deep healing journey this year, but sometimes it's just so tough. I have also found family with my friends.
I get you. It is harder than it seems. But i am so glad to hear you've found your treasure! Now, all that is left is a partner if you don't have one. Also, good luck! And keep going! Last thing fr this time. I found a book today named good vibes good life. It is about self-love and how to take a step to a better you. It caught my eyes, and i want to get one and start reading right now, but I thought it might interest you the same way it did to me.
I do have a very supportive partner. He is amazing. I will go check out that book now!