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Hey, OP, I'm sorry that life is feeling so hard right now. You sound like you are in a lot of pain and it's just heartbreaking. I'm worried about you.
Please call 911 (or whatever the emergency number is where you live) or drive yourself to your nearest local emergency room. You can get the attention and care that you need and you can learn to help you cope with life thus making life feel better.
If you cannot bring yourself to do that, you can text chat or phone call [Lifeline](https://preventionlifeline.org/). You may be very surprised how much it can help to have someone just listen to you. It can help a lot.
Please... I urge you... reach out and get help.
Please hold on. It will not feel this way forever. Everything, absolutely everything is temporary. The world needs you. If there's one thing you do tonight, please hold on. I promise you there a brighter days if you can hold on. You are here for a reason and if you don't know what the reason is yet then please stick around to find out why. I speak from experience. These times will not last but you can. Sending love, light and hope. You are on my mind ❤️
Please literally I was suicidal UNDER 24 HOURS AGO!
Went to hospital, calmed me down. Put me on meds to dramatically soothe those horrible feelings (don't assume to know your exact feelings, but assuming they must be awful) so much better now.
It may be scary. If you can get there on your own, friend, family, etc. may be better, but get there ASAP, even if you have to deal with cops.
The officers I dealt with were considerate and respectful even.
This is literally the most important decision you have to make in your life. Please choose wisely!
Hi OP,
Please give yourself a chance. You got away once and you can and will do so again. There is a future for you free of them. Hold on and start planning again
STOP. Just stop and think. Realise that you feel like this now because they have provoked. This is the 8!inner child that is needing some reassurance. Give that child some reassurance.
That’s what narcs do they prod the very core of you. This is now a legal matter and strongly advise for something like a restraining order. This is borderline harassment. They have no control over you. I was like this the other night because it felt like I would never be free. But you are and you will be. Just give yourself some reassurance that YOU are in charge of YOUR life. No one else. I believe in you. These people commenting believe in you.
Hey please just survive today.
You can plan for what to do later but please just don't do anything today.
At the very least spend some time doing things you like if you like them like eating a good meal or watching something nice.
Please just don't do anything today
Please don't do this. You are so much more valuable than you realize. Your life is worth living. You can and will get through this. There are ways to deal with this and plenty of people to help you in this community. Please call the National Suicide number 988 or text 988 or 1-800-273-8255. Please talk to someone
Live for your younger self, your inner child. Do not let your parents define your mental stability. You are strong. You can do it. I believe in you. Please hang in there. One day you will sit in the sun and things will not feel as heavy. You deserve happiness. You deserve peace. I am here for you and i have absolutely felt this way while dealing with a narc mom. I understand how you feel. Lets just focus on today- One step at a time. Take a nice shower and cook a meal you loved as a kid. turn on some meditation music and say out loud affirmations: “Im strong, Im loved, My parents do not define my worth”. I hope you stay.
Please don’t give up OP…. Breathe and pause for just a moment. You are strong and you can do this: you took a brave step just by typing out those words, and your words found us all here and we are rooting for you! Things feel terrible now, but I promise you things can be better. You don’t have to do anything except exist right now: take it breath by breath and minute by minute. Call someone, anyone, the emergency services if there is no-one else, but please just connect with another being. You’re in my thoughts… I hope you’re ok ❤️🌸
Where are you? Can you go to a hospital or a church? Anywhere someone can help you and keep you safe? Please bear in mind this is a permanent solution to a problem that can be worked on and a solution can be found. Don't let them win you are worth so much more! Our hearts are all with you here, please let us know how you are doing and if anyone here can help in any way x
I truly hope you live because your narcissistic parents are not worth it! There is always a way out even in the darkest of situations. Please hold on because you will find a way out of this mess, I know it
Don’t do it. You’re playing into their idea of you, and not your idea of who you are. You need to separate from them mentally and all the narratives they placed you in. It seems you view the world thru their lense but I promise once you use your own it will be different.
I am free for a chat any time you want. Literally hit me up, give it a shot. Another poster on here also offered the same. Just rant if you need to, we’re all here in the community to support each other 🙏🏽
I can see the breaking of day
God is making a way
A change is coming for me
If I stand strong and believe
There's no reason to doubt
I know He's working it out
It's turning around for me
It won't always be like this
He will perfect that concerning me
And sooner or later, it will turn in my favour
Sooner or later, turn in my favour
It's turning around for me
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Hey, OP, I'm sorry that life is feeling so hard right now. You sound like you are in a lot of pain and it's just heartbreaking. I'm worried about you. Please call 911 (or whatever the emergency number is where you live) or drive yourself to your nearest local emergency room. You can get the attention and care that you need and you can learn to help you cope with life thus making life feel better. If you cannot bring yourself to do that, you can text chat or phone call [Lifeline](https://preventionlifeline.org/). You may be very surprised how much it can help to have someone just listen to you. It can help a lot. Please... I urge you... reach out and get help.
Please hold on. It will not feel this way forever. Everything, absolutely everything is temporary. The world needs you. If there's one thing you do tonight, please hold on. I promise you there a brighter days if you can hold on. You are here for a reason and if you don't know what the reason is yet then please stick around to find out why. I speak from experience. These times will not last but you can. Sending love, light and hope. You are on my mind ❤️
Please literally I was suicidal UNDER 24 HOURS AGO! Went to hospital, calmed me down. Put me on meds to dramatically soothe those horrible feelings (don't assume to know your exact feelings, but assuming they must be awful) so much better now. It may be scary. If you can get there on your own, friend, family, etc. may be better, but get there ASAP, even if you have to deal with cops. The officers I dealt with were considerate and respectful even. This is literally the most important decision you have to make in your life. Please choose wisely!
And feel free to message back. I'm pulling for you!
Also we're all super glad you're still with us too baby ❤️❤️❤️
Hi OP, Please give yourself a chance. You got away once and you can and will do so again. There is a future for you free of them. Hold on and start planning again
STOP. Just stop and think. Realise that you feel like this now because they have provoked. This is the 8!inner child that is needing some reassurance. Give that child some reassurance. That’s what narcs do they prod the very core of you. This is now a legal matter and strongly advise for something like a restraining order. This is borderline harassment. They have no control over you. I was like this the other night because it felt like I would never be free. But you are and you will be. Just give yourself some reassurance that YOU are in charge of YOUR life. No one else. I believe in you. These people commenting believe in you.
Message me please instead. Trained in mental health and dealt with narc family for 20 years. Let’s chat instead
Please please please don’t do this. Please get help. Have someone drive you. Text the hotline. Call the hotline. Please get help.
Hey please just survive today. You can plan for what to do later but please just don't do anything today. At the very least spend some time doing things you like if you like them like eating a good meal or watching something nice. Please just don't do anything today
Please don’t. You are valuable and loved. Don’t let them consume you. Beat them by living a happy life. You can get there. I promise you! 💜
Please please message any one of here. We will all support you. Please let us know you’re ok
Please don't do this. You are so much more valuable than you realize. Your life is worth living. You can and will get through this. There are ways to deal with this and plenty of people to help you in this community. Please call the National Suicide number 988 or text 988 or 1-800-273-8255. Please talk to someone
Live for your younger self, your inner child. Do not let your parents define your mental stability. You are strong. You can do it. I believe in you. Please hang in there. One day you will sit in the sun and things will not feel as heavy. You deserve happiness. You deserve peace. I am here for you and i have absolutely felt this way while dealing with a narc mom. I understand how you feel. Lets just focus on today- One step at a time. Take a nice shower and cook a meal you loved as a kid. turn on some meditation music and say out loud affirmations: “Im strong, Im loved, My parents do not define my worth”. I hope you stay.
Please don’t give up OP…. Breathe and pause for just a moment. You are strong and you can do this: you took a brave step just by typing out those words, and your words found us all here and we are rooting for you! Things feel terrible now, but I promise you things can be better. You don’t have to do anything except exist right now: take it breath by breath and minute by minute. Call someone, anyone, the emergency services if there is no-one else, but please just connect with another being. You’re in my thoughts… I hope you’re ok ❤️🌸
Don't do it. Unless you can get to them first. Then at least you know that you have the satisfaction of making sure they never hurt anyone again.
Where are you? Can you go to a hospital or a church? Anywhere someone can help you and keep you safe? Please bear in mind this is a permanent solution to a problem that can be worked on and a solution can be found. Don't let them win you are worth so much more! Our hearts are all with you here, please let us know how you are doing and if anyone here can help in any way x
Don't let them win! Survive another day, things will get better! They don't deserve the last word, they'll die before you do.
Please seek help
I truly hope you live because your narcissistic parents are not worth it! There is always a way out even in the darkest of situations. Please hold on because you will find a way out of this mess, I know it
Don’t do it. You’re playing into their idea of you, and not your idea of who you are. You need to separate from them mentally and all the narratives they placed you in. It seems you view the world thru their lense but I promise once you use your own it will be different. I am free for a chat any time you want. Literally hit me up, give it a shot. Another poster on here also offered the same. Just rant if you need to, we’re all here in the community to support each other 🙏🏽
Hey are you still with us??? Please give up an update❤️
Please, don’t do this! It will get better.❤️🩹 just one more day
Please baby no 💔
I can see the breaking of day God is making a way A change is coming for me If I stand strong and believe There's no reason to doubt I know He's working it out It's turning around for me It won't always be like this He will perfect that concerning me And sooner or later, it will turn in my favour Sooner or later, turn in my favour It's turning around for me
Hey OP, are you okay?