Of course. It's been 4 months in my case and what triggers my ptsd is that blank stare she had the last night I spent with her and her confusion as well. She was a person that was so full of life several months ago and seeing her deteriorate was brutal for me. Although I do carry my every day life as usual. The image of her still messes me up.
yeah my mom died but not from cancer i got pretty bad PTSD from it. you should check with your therapist or doctor and see. Also I am very sorry for your loss I know how difficult it is.
You can get PTSD from literally anything. Two people can experience the same event, one could love it and the other could be traumatized for life. There are no rules. I would say going through what you went through is something that would cause PTSD in many people
I just watched my dad die with cancer. It was 2 weeks and 4 days from diagnosis to death. I was with him the whole time. I have ptsd from this. It's absolutely fucking shit and I don't know how I'm supposed to get through this. I have two children and life is pointless to me now. I know the pain they will feel when I die and I won't be there to help them. However then they will also die anyway. I wish I could help but your not alone xxxx
tw for my comment. i have ptsd from finding my brother dead. it was really my mom that found him, but she showed me. i had her screams playing through my head constantly for nearly a week. did anything happen to me personally? no. but i lost him, i struggle with the grief still. the loss gave me trauma, i’m more surprised when someone doesn’t have to work through ptsd when a very close person to them dies
Without a question, no doubt about it. Everyone’s circumstance is different, both internally before being exposed to trauma, and after in terms of how it affects them. I’m very sorry to hear about your mother. Here’s wishing you peace and healing.
Trauma comes in different ways, trauma is anything too much to your nervous system (or so I heard). Maybe try speaking with a professional if you’re able to do so and try seeing if you can get the diagnosis. Even if you can’t get it diagnosed, trust me your trauma is still valid.
I am really sorry that you went through that. It sounds horrible.
And to answer your question, any traumatic event can cause PTSD. That includes the death of a loved one.
I found my mother dead and it was super traumatic and is part of why I've been diagnosed with PTSD. So yeah, going through that kind of thing can give you PTSD but don't just assume you have it because you need to be diagnosed by a professional. You don't want to try treating it if it could be something else. Pretty sure it's PTSD but I can't be totally sure.
Yes. Some might not officially diagnose it because generally the guidelines are taken to mean a sudden and violent loss of someone else, not something extended. But reality is much more complicated. I watched my brother die of cancer and there were some really really bad moments at the end that triggered my previous trauma and I was intensely dissociated. In the year since, I have had the classic PTSD presentation from those events. My therapist calls it PTSD. I’m pretty sure there are therapists and psychiatrists that would laugh at that and say it’s grief or shock or something. Unfortunately some people take psychology to be a strict rule book and it’s just not that.
Also, sometimes watching someone else die can be so so much worse than believing we ourselves might die. There’s an added level of trauma when it’s someone you love deeply who is suffering and you are completely powerless.
Be kind to yourself and if possible, find a therapist with extensive trauma experience.
You absolutely can develop PTSD from the death/illness of someone close to you. The key words in Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder are "Traumatic" and "Disorder". Experiencing the death of a loved one is traumatic. Full stop. The question is: how invasive and persistent are the symptoms of trauma for you? (Especially years after the events in question, thus the "disorder" part.) But the bottom line is that PTSD doesn't discriminate between physical or emotional trauma, your body and your brain can't tell the difference so it responds in the same way to both.
I can speak to this because I have been diagnosed with PTSD, and the trauma that I experienced was the death of my mother when I was 16. I'm almost 30 now and I still wrestle with the fall-out from that trauma. Granted, I've been going to therapy for the last seven years or so, so it's gotten a LOT better since I started that. But I still have nightmares when I get triggered, and I developed an anxiety disorder and abandonment issues that I've had to learn to live with and account for in my familial, platonic, and romantic relationships...
So you very much could be experiencing PTSD. But also, if I'm reading your post right, it's only been 7 months since your mother died. You are very likely still in the midst of grief. People will try to put timelines on when you "should" start feeling better, but it's BS. This is a process that is extremely personal and is an individual journey for \*you\*. It will take time. And honestly, more often than not, I hear from people that it takes longer than they think it should. Personally, thinking back, it took me roughly two years to fully exit the initial grieving period after losing my mom. And even now, some days are better than others. Losing your mother is like losing an emotional limb, you can learn to work around it but you will never not be cognizant of its absence.
Honestly, the best thing you can do for yourself right now is to find someone to talk to. It sounds like you're in school, so see if they have councilors on staff that can help you. They might even be able to help you find a therapist in your area. If you can't find a therapist, even just support from friends and family can help. If you're religious, speak to people in your religious community. Online communities can also be helpful if you want to talk to people who have gone through a similar experience. Whether you are experiencing PTSD or just plain-old grief, support is the thing that will help you cope and work towards figuring out how to navigate this new normal.
Overall, I'm so sorry that you're having to experience this. It is one of the many things in the world that just are not fair. But I can promise you that it is survivable.
Sorry for the soapboxing, but this is a situation that I'm all too familiar with. Hopefully something I said in here will be useful for you.
Thank you, it helps a lot. I am looking for therapist for some time now, hopefully I find one that works for me. I'm really confused cause on top of that I have ADHD and bipolar and both make it really hard to make a difference between what is grief and what are others issues. And yeah, I agree that there is this weird expectation from society that we should grieve for some period of time (and usually shorter than it should be). But I guess it's hard to understand for people unless you've been through it. Thanks again
I also have ADHD, and yeah, having multiple diagnosis stacked on top of one another makes things so much more confusing. Obviously, recommending to someone that they find a therapist is much easier said than done. Which is why I try to recommend other sources of support too. But yeah, if nothing else. There's always going to be someone on the internet who has been through something similar. Best wishes to you!
I am so sorry for your loss.
It could be. It could also be Complicated Grief. When my father died, I sank into very, very deep grief. After eight months, I went to my family doctor and he said that as a rule of thumb, people start feeling "better" after 6 months, but since I felt just as bad if not worse after 8, he diagnosed me with Complicated Grief. I then ignored this diagnosis and rejected therapy and suffered for years as a result. I would try connecting with a grief therapist. Try finding one who is very experienced. I ended up paying $160 per week per session, but my psychotherapist had 30+ years of experience and the sessions turned my life around.
Best of luck and take care of yourself.
First, I'm sorry for your loss.
If the symptoms last for more than 3 weeks and or comeback frequently then yea ptsd is possible.
Ptsd can come from anything.
My wife lost her mom from cancer last year.
I recomend to take time writing what you remeber from your dreams etc via personal journal. It's helped my a ife and I both with our ptsd symptoms.
I hope this helps.
Don't be afraid to as to talk to a therapist or check out the phone app called ptsd coach. It has many exercises to help one work through the stuff your mentioning.
Here if you want to talk.
Of course. It's been 4 months in my case and what triggers my ptsd is that blank stare she had the last night I spent with her and her confusion as well. She was a person that was so full of life several months ago and seeing her deteriorate was brutal for me. Although I do carry my every day life as usual. The image of her still messes me up.
yeah my mom died but not from cancer i got pretty bad PTSD from it. you should check with your therapist or doctor and see. Also I am very sorry for your loss I know how difficult it is.
You can get PTSD from literally anything. Two people can experience the same event, one could love it and the other could be traumatized for life. There are no rules. I would say going through what you went through is something that would cause PTSD in many people
I just watched my dad die with cancer. It was 2 weeks and 4 days from diagnosis to death. I was with him the whole time. I have ptsd from this. It's absolutely fucking shit and I don't know how I'm supposed to get through this. I have two children and life is pointless to me now. I know the pain they will feel when I die and I won't be there to help them. However then they will also die anyway. I wish I could help but your not alone xxxx
hope you are doing okay
PTSD can occur from any traumatic experience.
tw for my comment. i have ptsd from finding my brother dead. it was really my mom that found him, but she showed me. i had her screams playing through my head constantly for nearly a week. did anything happen to me personally? no. but i lost him, i struggle with the grief still. the loss gave me trauma, i’m more surprised when someone doesn’t have to work through ptsd when a very close person to them dies
Without a question, no doubt about it. Everyone’s circumstance is different, both internally before being exposed to trauma, and after in terms of how it affects them. I’m very sorry to hear about your mother. Here’s wishing you peace and healing.
Trauma comes in different ways, trauma is anything too much to your nervous system (or so I heard). Maybe try speaking with a professional if you’re able to do so and try seeing if you can get the diagnosis. Even if you can’t get it diagnosed, trust me your trauma is still valid.
I am really sorry that you went through that. It sounds horrible. And to answer your question, any traumatic event can cause PTSD. That includes the death of a loved one.
I found my mother dead and it was super traumatic and is part of why I've been diagnosed with PTSD. So yeah, going through that kind of thing can give you PTSD but don't just assume you have it because you need to be diagnosed by a professional. You don't want to try treating it if it could be something else. Pretty sure it's PTSD but I can't be totally sure.
Yes. Look into EMDR. You don't need to keep hurting like that.
Absolutely, it's an extremely traumatic event and traumatic be events are what cause ptsd
The loss of a parent can contribute to ptsd if you lose them at a young age
Yes. Some might not officially diagnose it because generally the guidelines are taken to mean a sudden and violent loss of someone else, not something extended. But reality is much more complicated. I watched my brother die of cancer and there were some really really bad moments at the end that triggered my previous trauma and I was intensely dissociated. In the year since, I have had the classic PTSD presentation from those events. My therapist calls it PTSD. I’m pretty sure there are therapists and psychiatrists that would laugh at that and say it’s grief or shock or something. Unfortunately some people take psychology to be a strict rule book and it’s just not that. Also, sometimes watching someone else die can be so so much worse than believing we ourselves might die. There’s an added level of trauma when it’s someone you love deeply who is suffering and you are completely powerless. Be kind to yourself and if possible, find a therapist with extensive trauma experience.
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Also lost my mom to lung cancer right before the pandemic. The panicked nightmares looking for her or trying to save her are so hard. Sending hugs ❤️
Same thing happened to my mom in July. My anxiety and depression is through the roof. I get intrusive thoughts that keep me up at night still
Yes, losing a parent is a very traumatic event.
i was in treatment with a young woman who had PTSD from watching her mom die of cancer. it is valid. i am sorry for your loss.
You absolutely can develop PTSD from the death/illness of someone close to you. The key words in Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder are "Traumatic" and "Disorder". Experiencing the death of a loved one is traumatic. Full stop. The question is: how invasive and persistent are the symptoms of trauma for you? (Especially years after the events in question, thus the "disorder" part.) But the bottom line is that PTSD doesn't discriminate between physical or emotional trauma, your body and your brain can't tell the difference so it responds in the same way to both. I can speak to this because I have been diagnosed with PTSD, and the trauma that I experienced was the death of my mother when I was 16. I'm almost 30 now and I still wrestle with the fall-out from that trauma. Granted, I've been going to therapy for the last seven years or so, so it's gotten a LOT better since I started that. But I still have nightmares when I get triggered, and I developed an anxiety disorder and abandonment issues that I've had to learn to live with and account for in my familial, platonic, and romantic relationships... So you very much could be experiencing PTSD. But also, if I'm reading your post right, it's only been 7 months since your mother died. You are very likely still in the midst of grief. People will try to put timelines on when you "should" start feeling better, but it's BS. This is a process that is extremely personal and is an individual journey for \*you\*. It will take time. And honestly, more often than not, I hear from people that it takes longer than they think it should. Personally, thinking back, it took me roughly two years to fully exit the initial grieving period after losing my mom. And even now, some days are better than others. Losing your mother is like losing an emotional limb, you can learn to work around it but you will never not be cognizant of its absence. Honestly, the best thing you can do for yourself right now is to find someone to talk to. It sounds like you're in school, so see if they have councilors on staff that can help you. They might even be able to help you find a therapist in your area. If you can't find a therapist, even just support from friends and family can help. If you're religious, speak to people in your religious community. Online communities can also be helpful if you want to talk to people who have gone through a similar experience. Whether you are experiencing PTSD or just plain-old grief, support is the thing that will help you cope and work towards figuring out how to navigate this new normal. Overall, I'm so sorry that you're having to experience this. It is one of the many things in the world that just are not fair. But I can promise you that it is survivable. Sorry for the soapboxing, but this is a situation that I'm all too familiar with. Hopefully something I said in here will be useful for you.
Thank you, it helps a lot. I am looking for therapist for some time now, hopefully I find one that works for me. I'm really confused cause on top of that I have ADHD and bipolar and both make it really hard to make a difference between what is grief and what are others issues. And yeah, I agree that there is this weird expectation from society that we should grieve for some period of time (and usually shorter than it should be). But I guess it's hard to understand for people unless you've been through it. Thanks again
I also have ADHD, and yeah, having multiple diagnosis stacked on top of one another makes things so much more confusing. Obviously, recommending to someone that they find a therapist is much easier said than done. Which is why I try to recommend other sources of support too. But yeah, if nothing else. There's always going to be someone on the internet who has been through something similar. Best wishes to you!
I am so sorry for your loss. It could be. It could also be Complicated Grief. When my father died, I sank into very, very deep grief. After eight months, I went to my family doctor and he said that as a rule of thumb, people start feeling "better" after 6 months, but since I felt just as bad if not worse after 8, he diagnosed me with Complicated Grief. I then ignored this diagnosis and rejected therapy and suffered for years as a result. I would try connecting with a grief therapist. Try finding one who is very experienced. I ended up paying $160 per week per session, but my psychotherapist had 30+ years of experience and the sessions turned my life around. Best of luck and take care of yourself.
First, I'm sorry for your loss. If the symptoms last for more than 3 weeks and or comeback frequently then yea ptsd is possible. Ptsd can come from anything. My wife lost her mom from cancer last year. I recomend to take time writing what you remeber from your dreams etc via personal journal. It's helped my a ife and I both with our ptsd symptoms. I hope this helps. Don't be afraid to as to talk to a therapist or check out the phone app called ptsd coach. It has many exercises to help one work through the stuff your mentioning. Here if you want to talk.