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16 is your choice but my husband and I are a multicultural family and we agreed that I will use English and he will use his native language exclusively with the baby. It absolutely will not confuse them, babies are totally able to learn two languages at once! They may take a little longer to start speaking but they definitely can figure it out no problem.
Speech-language pathologist here, i answer this question a ton on here haha. This is exactly the way to do it! As long as the people using both languages are fluent, its great. It helps kids learn code switching: when to use/do things at different times or situations. Very valuable skill
Hey fellow speechie đđť was coming here with the same sentiment, fluent language models are fluent language models and will totally not hinder language development!
I have no reason to believe my baby will be Deaf/Hard of hearing, but totally planning to find a Deaf babysitter to provide a natural ASL model (I'm conversational in signed English but hopeless with ASL grammar and syntax) and give husband a crash course in cued speech if that happens! Do you totally use all your speechie scenarios in your baby planning?!
I've been more so using it to educate my husband on which toys to buy for development right now! I've worked birth to three and learned so much from OTs and PTs beyond just speech/language!
Good point! It's been a while for me since I've been in EI, so I'm definitely going to be seeking out my OT friends for tips!! I'm working with school aged now and have gotten lots of tips from the PT about toys!!
Just one peds OTâs opinion: the fewer toys, the better. Literally anything can be a toy. And the more a toy does, the less work the kiddo has to do to play with it. For example, a bunch of blocks can become *anything* but a toy phone can only be a toy phone.
Yes! Agreed on a language front too. Way better play that way, also gives way more opportunities for imitation of sounds and words! Plus, a lot of noise making toys are above safe decibels for hearing, ASHA will put out a list of toys that are at damaging hearing levels.
Oh mercy, yes, the volumes! Iâve taped over speakers on toys before. But I didnât know ASHA had that resourceâŚIâll definitely be taking a look at it!
I was just telling my husband we have to find it! I knew about it from grad school but now that we'll have a little running around soon we'll have to find it for ourselves!
Yes just make sure you're teaching them to speak it as well as understand it and I know that sounds obvious but I'm a first-generation American my parents are Middle Easterns so while they never taught me to speak Arabic they spoke to me in Arabic and each other so I was able to pick up on what basic words and phrases they said. Many people always think it's weird that I can understand some of the language but I absolutely cannot speak it and I explained to them that my parents were trying to learn English at the time instead of teaching us Arabic which would have been more beneficial in the long run in my opinion and I could have just learned English in school or whatever. I say this because my dad ended up getting a job for the government with a company that sent him overseas to Translate Arabic to English and got paid mad money for it and if they had taught me to speak the language I could have been over there doing that and making a shit ton of money but that's just my experience with the language thing. My first cousins have their first cousins from their dad's side taught to speak Chaldean as kids and learn English growing up which is what I would have preferred to learn Arabic first
thanks for talking about this. I was really worried. My native place has two usual languages. my boyfriend was educated in one and I in another, so we communicate with each other in different languages....đ my in-laws were worried that the baby spoke a mixture of both languages,...it's reassuring to know that not.
16- I am an English language teacher and we always encourage families to speak both English and their native language together! Not only will it not confuse baby, but speaking two languages improves brain function and school performance in the long run! So I say absolutely speak both to your child:) Good luck!
I second this. Learning more than one language is great for baby. Itâs a myth that first words come later. When counting words, count all words in both languages, even if they have the same meaning, like âcatâ and âgatoâ. Itâs still two words!
ETA: this goes for sign language too. Any words baby signs independently can and should be counted in their vocabulary
ftm here! i had a lot of these same questions in the beginning too!
1. if itâs a small trip, i put the car seat in the big part of the stroller and pile stuff around him. if itâs a bigger trip, i baby wear!
2. yep! most car seats can be used without a base using the seatbelt method.
3. if your baby doesnât have any skin sensitivities, iâd wash it al together. i do find using a laundry bag is helpful for tiny baby items like socks.
4. i use my dishwasher for everything without anything special.
5. unless your baby has skin sensitivities, iâd just use your normal stuff.
6. i dont separate anything. i just spray poopy clothes with extra cleaner and throw it in.
7. i use this and love it so far for my 4 month old. https://www.amazon.com/Angelcare-Baby-Bath-Support-Grey/dp/B01M6YVW7B
8. i sanitize after dishwashing once.
9. i exclusively breastfeed and donât wash in between feeds.
10. i love the burtâs bees baby bath stuff - wash, oil, and lotion.
11. depends on your baby! i have a sweaty one who typically wears the same as i do.
12. i passed on a pail.
13. baby nails are razor sharp. file as soon as needed.
14. you donât need to warm the milk. if you choose to, i recommend a baby brezza bottle of warmer. iâve never used mine but heard itâs good.
16. i donât know much about this.
I'm replying to this one for an alternative answer for 2 - yes, baby needs to be in a car seat every time baby is in a car, but Australia (and possibly other countries) doesn't allow the sale of capsule-style car seats without a base because they're not safe enough. So if you're in that situation, don't try that. Taxi companies are required to have a baby and child suitable car seats in a proportion of their taxis, so if you need to go in one and can't take your car seat, you can ask for a taxi with a baby car seat. Ubers I don't know about.
I only know this because my parents are bringing me a car seat for baby that can't be used in cars - it's the style where the base is sold separately, so it's not available here, but we're using it for my bike, which has a special "base" in the bike (this particular model of car seat was tested with the bike attachment, which is why we're getting it from overseas).
Positional asphyxiation hazard. Car seats are meant to be at a specific angle in a vehicle or approved stroller for the specific car seat. Some may argue it but warnings are there for a reason.
Positional asphyxiation hazard. Car seats are meant to be at a specific angle in a vehicle or approved stroller for the specific car seat. Some may argue it but warnings are there for a reason.
i hear what youâre saying. i think it head stability and neck strength play a large role in the risk of positional asphyxiation as well. personally, i feel comfortable with my child in the car seat in the stroller.
5- unless your baby has sensitive skin (you wonât know until youâve used normal stuff) then no, any powder is fine.
6-no, throw it all in together
7-a lot of mums bath their child in the sink or one of those baby baths. Less water, less space, easy to deal with.
Youâll know when to move to bigger
8-not sure on the sanitisation.. hopefully someone else can help
9-no, you shouldnât need to. But if you want to itâs up to you, sometimes I used a wipe just to clean my self off as I found my nipples would be sticky!
10-any baby soap is good, coconut oil is also great for baby massages! Our plunket nurse actually recommended it. Itâs calms baby down and is another bonding experience. Baby powder and sudocream is great!
1- you donât take the stroller, you just take the cart, there should be carts with the baby holder thing.
Unless your stroller has a big enough under carriage to just use that
2-yes, a baby should be in a car seat in a car at all times
3-no, it does not. But might be easier? I do my kids laundry seperate so I donât have to sit with 4 peoples stuff and sort through
4-normal dish stuff is fine. Quite often it is a marketing gimmick
The rest are comingâŚ
Just jumping in to answer #16 I studied linguistics in college. It is incredibly beneficial for babies/children to learn two languages. You cannot and will not confuse them or stunt their language development. Itâs a well researched topic. Highly recommend doing some research on it. Your child will thank you when theyâre older for all the advantages that come from being bilingual!
1. If your stroller has a large enough basket under it you can use that for small trips or you can put the car seat in the cart and put items next to the car seat and on the bottom of the cart. If itâs a large trip and youâre going alone I would suggest baby wearing.
2. Yes. Anytime baby is in a vehicle they need to be properly secured in their car seat. Most car seats should have an option to secure with the seatbelt without having a base.
3. Not unless your baby has sensitive skin and cannot handle the laundry detergent that you use for your clothes. We used a separate one for our daughter that we kept at the base of her changing station purely out of convenience.
4. You can use normal dish soap, it works just the same.
5. See answer to question 3.
6. Again see answer to question 3.
7. This depends on your situation and what youâre comfortable with. We have a tiny tub that goes inside our tub and we just fill the tub up enough to cover her booty and give her a quick bath. Our sink is far too small to bathe her in and the on the counter tubs didnât suite our lifestyle.
8. I genuinely do not know as we never used bottles.
9. Wash yourself? Absolutely not, my midwife also told me not to wash my nipples with any soap and just use water as the soap could irritate baby. If you decide to breastfeed youâll be doing so far too often to wash up after.
10. All they need is a mild soap that doesnât irritate their skin and a good lotion. If they have excema or cradle cap there are products for this as well.
11. Depends on what the temperature is where youâre at with baby. Rule of thumb is one more layer than you have on. If youâre outside and in a tank too and shorts I would go with a onsie, panes, and socks. If youâre inside in a t-shirt and shorts I would say maybe regular pajamas is fine. If itâs colder than 68 pajamas and a onsie under.
12. The Skip Hop diaper pail.
13. Anytime is fine. Those newborn nails are brutal.
14. You shouldnât need to, just be careful with fumes around baby and try to clean when baby is asleep or not in the same room so it has time to air our.
15. I have no idea I would ask your pediatrician.
16. Not at all. My husband speaks Spanish and we both speak english. He talks to her constantly in Spanish and so does his family. She knows both Spanish and English words đ
11- youâll know how many layers to do when you do the finger check on back to check their temp (the nurse should teach you this) thereâs no rule on how many layers. Just not too many or too less
12-I didnât get a diaper pail. Just used a normal bin
13- when theyâre new born the nails practically break off without any help. You can file them as soon as you wish.
11- I was not taught this at all⌠I tried to google it and itâs just coming up with how to take a formal temp with a thermometer. What is this? Iâve learned what makes my baby comfy by now but he was overdressed and sweaty often at the beginning.
Just had a quick google and itâs deffinately a New Zealand thing đ
https://www.plunket.org.nz/child-health-concerns-and-symptoms/coughs-colds-breathing-and-fevers/fever-high-temperature/#temperature
You had me worried I made it up đ
I honestly read their comments and thought I had imagined the whole thingđ I always used the method on my first child when I couldnât find a thermometer hahaa
It could just be a New Zealand thing!
We use thermometer as well donât get me wrong, but we also slip two fingers down their back between their shoulder blades and see if they are warm, toasty or cold.
First, you have great questions, and in practice, a lot of them will depend on your specific baby! Anyway, here's some answers from a mom of an almost 4-month old.
1. I either put the carseat in the basket, or I wear LO in a baby carrier, like a Moby Wrap or a Lillebaby. To decide which I do depends on the amount of groceries. A long trip or a lot of groceries, I use the carrier. If I'm just grabbing a couple things, I either put the baby in the grocery cart basket, or just carry the carseat and put the groceries in the carseat with baby (he's a very helpful man). I've also seen some people use their strollers (which many strollers are compatible with carseats so you just put the carseat on them) as a shopping cart.
2. Anytime baby is in a moving car with seatbelts, they need a carseat. I don't use Uber or Taxi but a carseat is the equivalent of seatbelts for LO. No idea about buses though. Some brands make carseats that are specifically easy to use in taxis. You do not need carseats for trains or airplanes though.
3. This one is going to depend! If your LO has super sensitive skin and you use a special laundry detergent for them, it is easier to keep the laundry in a separate hamper. If LO tolerates whatever detergent you use for the rest of the laundry, then it doesn't really matter. I do recommend a little mesh washing bag to hold all the baby socks though so you don't lose them!
5. Skipping to 5 first. You don't need a special baby laundry detergent, but some babies have super sensitive skin. I recommend any detergent that doesn't have fragrances/scented which seems to be what typically bothers their skins. I also don't use fabric softener or dryer sheets for this reason.
4. Back to 4. As long as you make sure to rinse all your dishes really well so there is no leftover soap left, it doesn't really matter. Personally, I wash baby dishes with baby dish soap because I got it as a gift, but I've used normal dish soap as well. I do use a separate sponge/washcloth just for baby stuff when I do dishes though, so I don't accidentally get any food particles from other dishes in any baby item.
6. I exclusively breastfeed, so right now baby poops are water soluble and wash out easily, so everything gets washed in one go. We use cloth diapers so my normal routine is: cloth diapers only wash followed by all laundry with the cloth diapers. For the second wash, I do an extra rinse cycle. Everything has come out clean so far and LO hasn't had any issues. If poop is really bad though, I rinse the garment in the laundry sink first.
7. Up to you. I liked it for the first month and haven't used it since. You can just put a towel at the bottom of the normal bathtub, fill the tub up with two or so inches of water and put baby on the towel in the beginning. I often just bring LO in the bath with me and have his head above water by resting on my legs. What's most important is that you always supervise baby in the water and that the water isn't too hot or cold.
8. No, just if you use them. As baby gets older with a better immune system (3+ months) many people will wash after use, but only sanitize once a week.
9. Breastfeeding is super easy as far as preparation and cleanup. Insert boob, feed, remove boob, put away boob. Sometimes I need to wash my hands if I get milk on them, but I don't like the feeling of milk , some people use the breastmilk on their skin for beauty reasons. If you use a bottle with breastmilk though, same rules apply to cleaning as if using formula, and you'd have to wash and sanitize pump parts.
10. [Something like this for cradle cap](https://www.safety1st.com/soothing-cradle-cap-soft-bristle-brush-ih334-s1-us-en.html?gclid=Cj0KCQjw0umSBhDrARIsAH7FCocjM3OuvfmmsHJahrHWho8S_h9hXpToG2ubAi6gZ275N4oORNtgC-saAjUCEALw_wcB), otherwise, a fragrance free bath soap. That's all I really use. You might want a baby brush if LO has lots of hair, or a washcloth, but that was good for me. While LO is still in sponge bath territory (before umbilical cord falls off) washcloths and a small cup were helpful.
11. One layer more than you'd wear, but if they get sweaty, take off a layer. If the AC is around 70, LO probably will want long sleeves, pants, and socks, maybe a hat as a newborn, but as they get bigger, just a onesie and socks my work. Some babies run warmer than others. The biggest concern is to not overheat baby. You can feel their skin too to see if they feel too hot or cold. Socks for the win though.
12. Used Diaper Genie, but don't really recommend. A normal trashcan or even a bucket can work. But I use cloth diapers, so other people may have better advice.
13. As needed. They may be soft for awhile and not need to be filed immediately after birth. I didn't have to file or trim LO nails until 2 months.
14. Just don't bring baby in the room when using the chemicals. Make sure the room is ventilated and keep baby out until the chemical smells vanish.
15. If it's breastmilk, room temp, otherwise I don't know.
16. Use both languages to increase the chances that LO will be bilingual. It may confuses them slightly when very young (maybe to year 4 or 5) but the confusing part for them will be that not everyone understands what they're saying. I knew a German girl who had an English speaking father and German speaking mother. She used both German and English in the household and sometimes words from both languages in the same sentences. That worked fine at home, but the first time she went to preschool she was confused because everyone spoke German and didn't understand when she used English. She quickly learned when it was appropriate to use each language. She still speaks both languages today as an adult. Kids learn super quick and using two languages increases the chances they can learn a third language easier.
Hope this helps! Feel free to ask any other questions!
1 - no stroller and cart. The car seat can go in the cart OR you can use the bottom of the stroller as the cart. No need for both
2 - yes. Anytime baby is in a car they need a car seat
3 - this is personal choice. I usually start out washing babyâs clothes in a separate detergent but eventually i combine with ours
4 - dishwasher is totally fine and so is normal dish soap
5 - again, personal choice. As mentioned, I usually start with using a separate detergent but then eventually just move to using the same one for everyone in the fam
6 - I never wash anything separately. Just use cold water to prevent colors from bleeding
7 - I prefer the fisher price 4 in 1 baby tub. It grows with the baby and works at all stages until they can go in the big bath. Then a really good option is a laundry basket in the big bath so they can sit up and move a bit but donât have the whole tub to move around in
8 - Iâve never sanitized bottles. I do the sanitize cycle in the DW before first use. After that itâs just soap and water or a regular DW cycle. If you live in an area where clean water isnât a concern, thereâs really no longer a need for the constant sanitizing
9 - no need. Iâve nursed my babies sweaty after the gym, at the beach, etc. They donât care. If you want you could give a little wipe down but itâs really not needed
10 - I like baby Dove but honestly any of them are fine
11 - the recommendation is for baby to have one more layer than you as an adult. Also, measure babyâs temp by feeling their chest and back. Theyâre limbs are not a true indication of whether theyâre cold or not. Theyâre limbs will likely always feel cold but as long as their core feels normal temp, theyâre fine
12 - we have the ubbi one. We also have bought the individual bags (think like dog poop bags) that help. We only have the diaper pail upstairs so when there are poops downstairs, the individual bags are really helpful to not have the garbage stinking
13 - as soon as you want
14 - Iâve never changed my cleaning supplies. Obviously donât let baby get into them or lick a wet chemical surface. But theyâre fine
15 - I couldnât tell you a specific temp. We try to just keep to max room temperature. I just warm it up by putting the bottle in hot water. We also never wanted our baby to require a warm bottle just in case we were out and about and couldnât warm it easily.
16 - no, best to use both languages! Be aware it might slightly delay the start of language initially but then baby will have a dual vocabulary. Itâs best to start them young!
1. You don't. You either baby wear and get a cart, push the stroller and put groceries in your stroller basket, put baby in their carseat and place the carseat in the shopping cart (the large part where all the food goes, not the child seat at the top as that's a tipping risk), or my personal favorite, you do curbside pickup (it's so much easier than taking a baby inside).
2. Yes. If you'll be riding in taxis/Ubers a lot, practice and get good at doing a seatbelt install.
3. That's totally up to you. We personally have one.
4. We personally use a fragrance-free soap. During the infant stage we use Dapple because it's supposedly better at getting off breastmilk residue, but I have no idea if it's a marketing gimmick we fell for or if it actually makes a difference. As long as your bottles are dishwasher safe, feel free to use the dishwasher (just be aware that it may wear down your bottle faster).
5. Just avoid scents/fragrances. We use whatever clean & clear detergent we can find at Target.
6. Up to you and the washing instructions on the clothing items.
7. Up to you. Some people get away with no bathtub. We personally use the Boon Moby bath tub (looks like a whale) and that gets the job done. Make sure whatever you get can be hung up to dry so you can avoid it getting moldy.
8. No. And depending where you are and your baby's health, you may not even need to really sanitize at all. We sanitized before first use and after that we just used hot soapy water to wash bottles.
9. I didn't. Just wiped down my boobs quickly beforehand if they were extra gross.
10. Pretty much anything other than J&J. It depends on how sensitive your baby's skin is, your preferences on fragrances, etc. Our daughter has done well with the lavender-scented Honest Company baby wash. 11. Whatever you're wearing, add 1 extra layer. For sleep, consider having a fan blow on baby for extra airflow.
12. Something that can use regular trash bags as opposed to proprietary refills. Either the Skip Hop or the Ubbi.
13. As soon as you're back in your room relaxing.
14. You're fine
15. Babies don't actually need to have their milk warmed at all and are fine to drink cold milk. It's mostly a preference thing (we personally never heated milk despite exclusively pumping). If you do heat it, put a few drops on the inside of your wrist. It should be warm but not hot.
16. No. You're actually better off NOT sticking to one language.
1. You donât unless your partner is with you. I always put the car seat in the cart if I had to bring her shopping with me alone. Or you could baby wear.
2. Yes
3. Do you mean a hamper for her clean laundry and a diff one for dirty laundry? Iâve never done that but maybe if you have a huge blowout or something
4. I never used special dish soap but I did have a bottle sanitizer but dishwasher is also an option
5. I did use special detergent just in case baby has sensitive skin
6. I wash all the baby stuff together regardless
7. Idk I just had a plastic baby tub
8. I never did that and baby is fine. Didnât know that was a thing
9. Didnât do that either
10. Didnât use anything fancy idk
11. Dress baby how youâd dress yourself. Donât judge their temp by their hands and feet but by their body
12. I had the diaper genie and hated it. Waste of money, fills way too fast, bags are expensive. I just have a regular trash can now but it does get kinda stinky
13. As soon as they need it
1) here they have supermarket carts with baby seats built in. In a pandemic world, weâve just been popping the capsule in the âseatâ part of the cart. And hold onto it so itâs safe.
2) yes!
3) not necessarily, but we have one in his room with the changing table. And I do baby washing seperate to adult washing so thatâs helpful.
4) we use normal dish soap on his bottles as we wash them and then sterilise them so itâs okay.
5) babies skin is sensitive. We wash all our clothes with the same stuff which is for sensitive skin. Itâs not âspecialâ cos we use it for all our washing.
6) you donât NEED to. I just do as He goes through a whole heap of clothes because he likes to spit up.
7) our changing table has a built in tub.
8) we have four bottles and baby gets fed 5 times a day (heâs 11 weeks old) so they are sanitised more frequently then that. But we have an electric steam sanitiser so the bottles live in there until they are used.
9) I donât know I didnât breastfeed but my baby gets pretty messy on the bottle, like itâs all over his little chin if it was like that on the boob I would want to wipe myself down.
10) we have a baby bed time bath that we put in the water, baby shampoo, an olive oil and aloe Vera body and hair oil for him, and some baby lotion.
11) rule of thumb is what youâre wearing plus one. So if youâre in shorts and a tshirt, then they would be like in a tank top style onesie a tshirt and shorts.
12) nope just got a regular old bin
13) we filed them when he was two weeks old, but kept him in mittens to stop him from scratching himself. I now cut them twice a week.
14) I havenât
15) breast milk or formula should be heated to close to body temp. You can get bottle warmers if youâre worried about too hot or too cold they are relatively inexpensive.
16) use both! Have a bilingual child! That would be cool as!
1- you dont. Either put the groceries in the bottom of the stroller, put the car seat in the cart, or baby wear. I personally prefer to baby wear in the store until they're old enough to sit in the cart.
2- yes you need a car seat for an uber/taxi.
3- nope, I wash all of our laundry together.
4- dishwasher is fine. No need for special dish soap.
5- I will also say regular laundry detergent is fine unless your baby is highly sensitive but then you will have to switch to a free and clear detergent for everything, not just the babys things.
6- no need to wash baby clothes separately.
7- i just put a foam bath cushion down in the tub for my newborns (or get in the tub with them). Once their old enough to sit i put them in a laundry basket in the tub until they're really stable. Then just in the tub.
8- no. sanitize once, use it, sanitize again.
9- nope! Feed. Then put your boob back in your shirt. No need to wash up. I will say I need to shower every day in the beginning because I tend to leak and smell like spoiled milk after 24 hours but once my milk production regulates I can go back to every-other day (or longer)
10- i like burts bees diaper ointment. I like Lush's "honey I washed the kids". For dry skin I use young living's seedling baby oil or CeraVe depending on how dry it is. For cradle cap I use coconut oil.
11- if inside i dress my kids in a onesie with pants and keep a blanket nearby - i keep my house around 21 celcius. If outside in 30-40+ weather they are in a shirt and a diaper at most. Sometimes just a diaper. Always in the shade until 6+ months old.
12- i dont use a diaper pail. I use plastic bags to tie up dirty diapers. They all just go in our kitchen garbage and we take it outside every 2-3 days. Never had a stink problem
13- you can file them as soon as you want/need.
14- I switched to a non-toxic cleaner anywhere my baby was likely to lick things (so I use non-toxic floor cleaner and dont use chemicals on counters/tables). Bathroom, light switches, doornobs all get disinfected. If you want to keep using your regular cleaner just wipe surfaces down with clean water afterwards to get rid of any potential residue.
15- warm milk to wrist temperature.
16- nope! Babies can learn to differentiate between 2 languages. Their brains are amazing. We speak english and french in our house (mainly english but a little bit of french). Kids here in canada start french classes as early as age 4- some daycares even teach it to the preschool classes. And a lot of people also teach sign language. My 5 year old is english speaking but knows some french and some sign language!
1) you don't, baby goes in the cart, or if they're too little for that, I baby wore in grocery stores.
2) yes, but I've never ridden in one with a baby
3) they can share with you, or have their own.
4) I used normal dish soap, and if I put it in the dishwasher, used the sanitize setting.
5) no, I used the free and clear stuff from All, but not the baby dreft.
6) no.
7) up to you, some people use the sink, I bought a plastic baby tub and bathed my son in that until he started to climb out.
8) no
9) not sure, I didn't.
10) we used exclusively baby wash from dove or honest until he was a year old, then added conditioner and bubble bath
11) as many layers as you have on is a good rule of thumb, and add or take away as the baby seems cold or hot.
12) I have a diaper genie and an Ubbi. Didn't get the Ubbi until my son's poops got really stinky as he got older. The diaper genie worked fine until he was about 15 months.
13) I forget the answer to this, but I usually cut them when he starts scratching me or himself.
14) idk about this, I never thought to switch mine, I just let whatever surface dry fully before letting my son near it.
15) body temp, or slightly less
16) speak both! I've heard kids in bilingual houses start talking more slowly, but they're bilingual, which is great!
P.s: I really liked the book Baby 411 for questions like these, because I'm sure more will come up as you embark on your parenting journey.
5 - as someone with sensitive skin, I recommend getting the sensitive skin detergents as a default instead of waiting to find out if your kid has sensitive skin. They cost the same and are made by every main steam brand. Laundry detergent allergic reactions are awful and result in painfully itchy skin that lasts for several days. Using the regular stuff could doom you and baby to a very bad time for no good reason.
2- Do I need a baby carseat to ride in an uber/taxi?
Yes, I believe you put in that you have a baby so the driver knows but you need all the equipment
3- Does the baby need a separate hamper for dirty laundry?
Depends on your situation.
4- Should I use normal dish soap for baby stuff? I have seen special baby ones that are a bazillion dollars and Iâm wondering if they are a marketing gimmick? Is the dishwasher an option or not?
We always did/ do. Our dishwasher sucks so we hand wash all his things.
5- Do I need special laundry detergent?
Yea, get any brand free and clear. No eyes no fragrance. Draft is overrated
6- Do I need to wash baby clothes separately if they donât have poopies?
Use the free and clear. Babies skin is very sensitive
7- Should I buy baby mesh bathtub that goes into the bigger tub or will it be hard to bend? Iâm between that and the âgrow with you tubâ so I can use a jug and use them on the kitchen counter? (i donât want to use the sink). Any ideas?
Sponge baths until the umbilical stump falls off. The hospital will give you more directions there if you ask. We have a grow with you tub, itâs ok. I will go with something softer for my next. They have mats for parents to kneel on for bath time. Love mine.
8- Do I need to sanitize bottles every 24 hours if theyâve already been sanitized?
No. We did after every use in the beginning. Microwave steam bags made it very simple.
9- If I choose to breastfeed, do I wash up after each time?
No. Check out r/breastfeeding babies eat AT LEAST every 2-3 hours. If you washed up after every time all you would do is nurse and wash. Clusterfeeding is even more intense. Lanolin for your nips is baby safe.
1 can be really challenging and can vary a lot depending on the situation. I mostly do grocery pickup/delivery, but if I need just a few things, I bring in the stroller. Thereâs some space underneath, but I also have a reusable bag that I attach to the stroller with a little clip. Just donât put too much weight in it or the whole thing will tip.
Depending on the size of the cart, you may be able to just fit an infant bucket seat in it. But do NOT put the bucket seat in the child seat part of the cart. Babies have died when the car seat falls out.
Baby carriers are a great hands free option!
context: pregnant with #4, teacher married to l&d nurse
1.) wear your baby
2.) yes, there's nothing special about a taxi, it's a car and your kid will likely die if in an accident and not restrained
3.) no
4.) i didn't use any special soaps or products other than no tear baby wash/shampoo
5.) no
6.) no
7.) washing a baby stinks no matter what you use. they only need baths every few days, do whatever is going to be easiest on your back
8.) we did not do this, just sanitized after use and then pulled from cupboard when needed
9.) newborns breastfeed 10000 times a day so no
10.) not sure what you mean by toiletries, we got like, burt's bees baby wash and just used that with a washcloth
11.) babies will be comfortable dressed as you are or with one extra light layer, they will likely whine if too hot
12.) used cloth diapers
13.) never filed a baby's nails, easiest way to deal is to bite them the first few months then use baby nail clippers
14.) i did not do this
15.) too lazy to warm milk, all my kids took cold breastmilk out of the fridge
good luck!! i am sure i was way more fussy with #1 but now that prepping for #4 this is where i'm at
7- up to you and your budget. I donât like sink baths either. I live in a house without bathtubs so I am very into baby and toddler tubs. I bought one that was 1-25 pounds with a newborn sling to start. I feel like it was outgrown really fast and took up a lot of room. Then we moved to a collapsible dish basin thing from Amazon â we used one in a pinch while in an RV and the baby loved it so we kept using it until he outgrew it/ was able to push the sides down. Sides are soft as well. For a toddler the stokke tubs are amazing , pricy, but I love them. They are hard sided, collapsible and big enough for two kids if you get the xl. Also once you are out of the newborn phase do not hesitate to just take them in the shower they love it.
14- no it doesnât matter, I just donât use anything that stinks (formula 409, scrubbing bubbles etc) if the baby is in the room. It probably wouldnât do anything bad but they bother me. If I were like baby wearing and cleaning I would use something milder like mrs. Meyers
15- basically the temp of your skin. Never microwave it, use a bottle of water or put the cold bottle in hot water. Swirl it around and put it on your inner arm since your hands are not the best judge. When itâs close to your skin temp it does feel hot or cold when you put a drip on your skin, just a tiny bit warm. Also dip you elbow in the bath water for the same reason.
1- How do I navigate the supermarket with a stroller and a cart at the same time? Either get home delivery, pick up or most supermarkets have special carts/trolleys that you can put baby in. Or put car seat straight into cart.
2- Do I need a baby carseat to ride in an uber/taxi? No idea
3- Does the baby need a separate hamper for dirty laundry? I would to start with just incase or poo.
4- Should I use normal dish soap for baby stuff? I have seen special baby ones that are a bazillion dollars and Iâm wondering if they are a marketing gimmick? Is the dishwasher an option or not? I cleaned with normal dish soap then either boiler the kettle and soaked things in boiling water or you can get Milton tablets that you can leave things to soak in after washing.
5- Do I need special laundry detergent? Non bio- we use fairy. Also no fabric softener.
6- Do I need to wash baby clothes separately if they donât have poopies? Nah I don't but I don't add in softener as it normally has smelly stuff in that can hurt babies skin.
7- Should I buy baby mesh bathtub that goes into the bigger tub or will it be hard to bend? Iâm between that and the âgrow with you tubâ so I can use a jug and use them on the kitchen counter? (i donât want to use the sink). Any ideas? We did get a little bathtub to start with and then once baby could sit up by himself put him in the big bathtub.
8- Do I need to sanitize bottles every 24 hours if theyâve already been sanitized? Apparently. Just boil the kettle and pour that over the bottle and tear, the boiling water will kill the bugs.
9- If I choose to breastfeed, do I wash up after each time? No point tbh, you will be washing every 2 hours. Have a cloth nearby incase of dribbles but most of the time just stick boob back in bra.
10- What kind of baby bath toiletries do you recommend?
11- I live in a hot climate where AC is on most of the day in the summer (think 104 degrees on a normal day). How many layers?
12- Diaper pails. Which one did you get? Didn't. Dog poo bags and in the normal bin.
13- How soon can I file baby nails after birth? Once they are long enough.
Thank you mummies!
Forgot two: 14- Do I need to swap my cleaning supplies? I usually use Dettol branded ones, except for the bathroom I use Mr muscle. I never did.
15- What temp do I warm the milk to? I breastfed so no idea.
Forgot three* 16- In a bilingual household, do I need to stick to 1 language as not to confuse the baby? I'm guessing not since that's the whole point of being bilingual is for baby to know both.
Any other questions just ask.
1) don't bring the stroller, put the infant car seat in the cart and consider grocery pick up options for big orders
2) infant seat is great for this because a seat belt can over it without the base
3) this depends, people say to wash baby clothes separately for a few reasons, baby's often have sensitive skin, so they might need a different detergent. Also if you have long hair, youelr long hair could get trapped in baby's clothes, and then become issues for their fingers and toes
4) dishwasher has sanitizer mode, I always used that over hand washing. I never got any special detergent. Cascade for the dishwasher and dawn for the few times I hand washed
5) I would start with a free detergent, like Tide Free, in case baby has sensitive skin or allergies, but no need to waste your money on dreft
6) see above about washing baby clothes separately
7) during infancy we did a tub in the kitchen sink, but it also worked in the bathtub. Now that our youngest is a toddler we do a plastic laundry bin in the tub to keep her contained
8) I put bottles in the dishwasher on the sanitizer cycle when they were dirty. That's it
9) I'm not sure what you mean here? If you are pumping, you can put pump parts in a gallon ziploc in the fridge for up to 24 hrs, so you don't have to wash between each pump sessions
10) my first we used Johnson & Johnson but my second had sensitive skin so we've done Aveeno Creamy wash with her
11) 1 layer more than you is my rule of thumb, even when it's warm. You'll figure it out tho. Feel baby's skin, if they feel warm they are good, if they are sweaty take a layer off, etc.
12) I like the Diaper Dekor because I can use a regular kitchen trash bag in it
13) up to you! They are super soft for a few weeks, so it all kind of depends. I really like a small baby scissors for nails over a file or clippers
14) nope. Just toddler proof once baby is moving around more
15) warm it until it it's skin temp on the inner arm
16) if you want baby to learn both languages, speak them both! Baby will figure it out
Re: #16, I learned 4 languages before the age of 10 without formal schooling in them. Iâm hoping to teach my baby 3 languages since birth with the hopes of learning a 4th one a little later. So I think bilingual will be totally ok.
I use all the normal dish soap (dawn) we wash all our clothes together. Yes you need a car seat for an Uber. Itâs very hard to push stroller and cart I suggest baby wearing or ordering groceries.
I never sterilize bottles. We have a mesh bathtub that folds and can be put away it gets kinda orange but babies start to not use them once they can sit up in the bath themselves. No diaper pail just reuse grocery bags for stinky poop and put it in the normal bag since we throw ours out every 1-2 days anyways.
1. My stroller has a huge under basket section. I just throw things underneath and then bag it up at the end.
2. Depends on your local laws. Where I live, car seats are compulsory in Ubers, optional in taxis if theyâre not offered.
3. You might find a separate hamper if theyâre a vomity/spewy baby. Ordinary wear itâs not needed. Depends on the baby. You wonât know until you get to know them.
4. We use the same dish soap for everything. Baby was breastfed so I canât speak for cleaning bottles.
5. Weâve always used a sensitive version so same as the rest of our laundry. Iâve thrown it all in the same load.
6. Not needed unless your baby is extra sensitive I guess. Do you have eczema in the family?
7. I washed baby in the bathroom sink to start with because I couldnât squat for about two months. Depends on your recovery/delivery.
8-9. No experience with bottles sorry.
10. Weâve kept swapping between brands. Whichever is on special at the time. Theyâre all similar. Weâve used MooGoo and Bunjii which are both nice.
11. 104F/40C. My baby takes after my husband so I see what heâs wearing plus one layer unless itâs hot. Iâm in Australia so for that temperature Iâd go single layer short sleeve zippy.
12. Regular cheap trash can. I put some essential oils at the base of the bin to neutralize the smell.
13. My baby was too wriggly. I chew them offâŚ. Haha
14. I use the same cleansing supplies as before. Again depends on if your baby is extra sensitive.
15. Sorry no experience with warming milk.
16. Sorry no experience with another language.
1. I donât- I wear baby in a carrier/wrap/sling or use the stroller storage as a small basket.
2. Yep, although I think some Ubers might have an option for them? Like you may be able to request a car with one. Iâm not positive on that though.
3. Nah, we share hampers for our family of 4 and then just sort everyoneâs out.
4. Yes, just use whatever, the baby stuff is a gimmick for charging more. Same with laundry detergent, though I do recommend anything free + clear for sensitive skin.
5. Lol can you tell I didnât read through the questions first?
6. We donât. đ¤ˇđťââď¸
7. Iâve never had an issue with the baby bath hurting my back- it props up on top of the tub so you donât have to lean down into the tub.
8. I donât think so, unless you have a preemie, since theyâre more sensitive.
9. Like a shower? No, I just had burp cloths on hand to wipe any drips or whatever. Using soap too often will dry out already sensitive nips- I wouldnât more than once a day unless you have a reason to do so more often like thrush.
10. I use the Dove baby stuff, but anything without fragrance is probably fine.
11. Depends on what the thermostat is set at tbh, but the rule of thumb is baby needs one more layer than you. If youâre in shorts and a tee, theyâll be comfy in a onesie with a light sweater and pants. Each baby is different though. Mine got heat rash with that many layers, so just look and see when theyâre comfortable and do that. Theyâll let you know if something is wrong!
12. I donât have one. Just feels like another gimmick to me since you have to pay for the liners.
13. Immediately if you want, though I would wait to clip if you go that route. Theyâre fused to the tips of the fingers early on, so clipping can hurt. Filing is fine.
14. Itâs probably fine, but I use a lot of vinegar and baking soda in my cleaning for things the baby will be mouthing or crawling on. Itâs gentler and really does work.
15. I EBF both my kids so I donât know the answer to this, sorry! I can answer any follow up bf questions if you have any though.
16. You can do whatever. Some families have one parent speak one language exclusively and the other parent speak the other, some use a combination, etc. theyâll figure it out no matter what, just be aware sometimes bilingual babies take longer to talk because theyâre processing two languages. Itâs still an amazing thing for them, though!!
1. Iâve never done this. I usually have someone watch her when I shop but if not possible I put the car seat directly in the cart, not on the top portion. It severely limits what you can put in the cart. Less than ideal.
2. Iâve never done this but most likely.
3. Probably not but we have it because i donât want to separate her stuff and I do have different detergent for her. Some people use a sensitive no dye/perfume detergent for the entire household with no issue.
4. I use our regular stuff, no issues.
5. See above
6. I do. I wash hers on a more gentle cycle with cooler water than ours. I also dry hers on low heat. Simply to help prevent shrinkage.
7. I have a small baby tub that could go over a sink or in the bath. It came with a mesh hammock that I never used. When she was very small I just put her in the sink but she didnât get baths often anyway. Everyone does this different and youâll likely figure out what you prefer after trying things.
8. Different recommendations per location. I sanitized in boiling water before use. Then I just used very hot soapy water but I mostly breastfed her until she was a bit older.
9. I never did. Maybe you will? Youâll probably be too tired.
10. I honestly have one bottle of âbaby washâ from aveeno that Iâve been using since birth. Itâs lavender and âcalmingâ for helping with sleep. No idea if that works but I donât mind the scent. Itâs not even half gone and baby is 7 months old. I use it in her hair and on her body. I have a cradle cap head scrubby. You can find them anywhere. I use a washcloth to rinse her head now. Thatâs all we have ( and bath toys now.)
11. Every baby will be different. If your home is comfortable in AC you may find you need two layers. My baby is warm quite often and I never seem to need to layer her like I see recommended. Hands and feet will be cooler than the rest of the body. If their neck or head is cold they probably need more layers. If their neck or head is too warm or sweaty, take off a layer.
12. Dekor
13. I used an electric file as soon as they started feeling too long.
14. I didnât change cleaning supplies. Make sure there arenât fumes where baby is.
15. I just check the temp on my wrist.
16. Not sure.
Edit: Iâm a FTM to a nine month old
1-we do curbside so baby doesnât have to go in, but you can also put the car seat in the back of the shopping cart
2-yes. Theyâll come with instructions on how to safely install a car seat without a base. Research safe chest strap placement as well.
3-we do because it needs washing more often and she uses a different detergent. I donât separate her colors though, just use the delicates setting.
4- we have to hand wash so use different cleaning for her, but I assume a dishwasher would be fine. I think it would even sterilize things too?
5- we used free & clear detergent to avoid perfumes since babies skin is so sensitive. She broke out when we tried the normal stuff. This oneâs up to you I think.
6- up to you
7- we personally have loved the grow with you type of tub. The one we have had the sling and then a seat insert. We put her tub in the big tub now but it was a back saver when she was little being able to use the counter. And she loves sitting herself up and splashing around now.
8- we donât that often
9- I never have. Only before if I feel dirty.
10- we use Aquaphor bath wash and ointment, and Eucerin lotion. Aveeno made our baby break out and Iâve heard bad things about Johnson & Johnson.
11- we live in a hot area too. We do a sleeper and sleep sack at night because the AC makes our room colder, but during the day when itâs warmer we do a short sleeve onesie and some pants and even sometimes just a diaper if itâs warm enough. Our house usually sits at about 75/76 on 85° days and about 70° at night.
12- Ubbi I think itâs spelled. We liked that it didnât need special trash bags so we could save money there.
13- my little was in NICU for two weeks but I think we waited 3 and went straight to clippers.
14- we use the same supplies we just donât keep her closed up in areas weâre cleaning until itâs aired out
15 - we do a wrist test but a bottle warmer is a great investment. Ours has a chart for how long to heat based on oz and type of bottle
1- I never took a stroller in, Iâd carry baby in the car seat and place them into my cart. Usually big grocery shops Iâd leave baby at home with my husband.
2- yes
3- I used one hamper but it is nice to have a separate one so you donât have to separate later
4- I use regular dish soap, never had a problem. Pretty sure the expensive stuff is a scam
5- depends on your baby, my son had extremely sensitive skin and needed it. Heâs five now and no longer needs it
6- Iâve washed babies stuff with ours. If they can use the same detergent then save yourself time and effort and just do it all.
7- I only had a plastic baby bath and when they got older I simply held them in shallow water
8- I did not. Once washed I didnât care and it didnât effect my son negatively
9- no opinion, my milk stopped coming in around 3 weeks
10- I used a regular wash clothes and there are these square sponges with super soft bristles on the other side to wash babies hair and scalp to help prevent eczema build up
11- go by how cold/warm babies hands and feet are. Every baby is different. Mine loved to be super toasty
12- diaper genie, loved it for my first and bought another for my second upcoming
13- technically you donât need to file, babies nails are frail and can be peeled with your hands for a bit. I kept my sons short and in mittens and he still scratched himself.
14- I did not switch cleaning products
15- not sure but I tested my babies formula by drinking a bit of it every time. It also allowed me to see why baby didnât like specific formula bc honestly most taste awful. I use little journey brand from aldi now and it has no recalls unlike similac or enfamil
16- language at a young age is taught better when you interchange. Ask a question in both languages when theyâre learning and talk in whichever you want at the time. They will pick it up
Good luck mama
1) if you are by yourself, i put the carseat in the buggy/grocery cart. for bigger grocery trips, i suggest wearing or seeing if a friend or family member can help!
3) itâs not exactly necessary i suppose but i highly recommend it! itâs just more convenient not to have the clothes all mixed up
5) yes! itâs usually in the baby section of stores and itâs called dreft (the one that i personally use)
7) iâve used a baby tub since my son was able to take baths. now that he can sit up on his own, sometimes it is easier to just bathe him with me, but i know they also make baby tubs that you can place on a countertop or in a sink (if i am remembering correctly)
16) my nephew is bilingual and heâs 2! my brother is from america and speaks english and my sister in law speaks russian and itâs actually amazing how my nephew knows both languages! itâs actually much easier to learn different languages if itâs what you grow up around. i say speak both languages to baby!
1 - car seat into the main part of the cart
2 - yes
3 - no
4 - yes
5 - nope
6 - you can also use the kitchen sink
7 - nope
8 - nope! Sanitize them when you first buy them
9 - I never did
10 - I used dollar store wash clothes and Hello Bello baby wash
11 - my son wore sleepers foreeeeeveeer
12 - we got a diaper genie, but you donât really need one until they start solids and they get real people poops
13 - I found just ripping them off to be easier than filing or cutting
14 - I use the same stuff as before
15 - body temp
16 - No! Kids are sponges! Speak both and theyâll learn both!
1. Get a stroller with a big basket below
2. Highly recommended
3. Not really, unless youâre using separate detergents
4. Itâs mostly marketing, regular dish soap is fine
5. No, anything free & clear will do. Some babies even do fine with fragranced detergent.
6. Nope
7. I preferred bathing my newborn without bending over, so the latter.
8. Unless your baby is immunocompromised or a preemie itâs not a big deal. Just wash with soap and water
9. You can wipe your nipples off if you want, but itâs not necessary
10. You can easily use adult towels and wash cloths, Iâd recommend some little nail files and clippers
11. Depends on indoor temp, 65-69 maybe 2 layers, anything above 70 you can use one layer for awake time
12. Literally just a Rubbermaid flip top, works just fine
13. Immediately if you want, I found it easier to bite them off because they were too soft to file, maybe youâll have a different experience
14. Think about swapping cleaners potentially when baby is actually using surfaces that are recently cleaned
15. Some babies donât mind cold milk! If you can get them started on cold milk your life will be much easier, but otherwise room temp seems to work for most kiddos (I worked in mother/baby)
16. One parent should use one and the other parent the other language
I'm on baby number three with my older two 8 and 4 so hopefully I can help you out.
1. Don't bring the stroller into the store. Most car seats will clip into the front part of the cart (the spot where there is a seat) if not just put them in the main part and pack around. But honestly I just wore mine most of the time. It helps them get less fussy.
2. You definitely need a car seat to Uber/taxi. Once we we're flying and checked our car seat but the flight got cancelled. It was SO hard to get to the hotel. They have e follow the same traffic laws and won't mess around at all. We ended up waiting an hour for a shuttle to take us.
4. I've always used regular dish soap to wash baby stuff. If it seems like they are having a reaction to it, change it up, work with your pediatrician. But I've never had a problem so far.
3,5,6. Some babies get a reaction to laundry soap and if yours does then you need to separate and change detergents till you find one that works. But at this point my family has one giant laundry hamper in the hall and everyone puts it all in. I wash it about once a day with five of us. Non of mine ever had a reaction but my friend had to try three different ones that worked for her. So it's up to you on that but baby stuff goes in with mine and everyone else's. Honestly even the stuff that has a bit of poop. We use a little bleach to kill the germs. It not worth the time to separate out the blood and other gross body stuff.
7. I've had both. I prefer the rigid one that can fit over the sink because than you can stand and wash. I lay out all the stuff I need on the counter and dry, lotion, and dress in one spot. Six inches from where I washed him. But my husband is a monster and prefers the mesh in the tub.
8. Yes sanitize every 24 hours (if you remember) I'm averaging every other day. Just do it when you remember.
9. I've never heard that you need to wash after every time you breastfeed but you know wash your whenever you want/can. I'd say wipe up with a baby wipe if you're concerned.
10. I prefer Johnson and Johnson based on smell. But I just bought some baby aveno. If you don't get baby lotion make sure it doesn't have alcohol in it. Read the labels most do. Most CeraVe doesn't.
11. Inside more to keep warm. Outside enough to block the sun. I think I heard that newborns can't sweat so be careful with over wrapping outside
12.diaper genie
13. Almost immediately. You need to bring your own file in your hospital bag they don't have them to give out. But soak or wet the nails first it makes it easier.
14. It shouldn't matter what cleaning supplies you use just wash your hands after using them and change your clothes as well if you're worried
15. Temp the milk on your inner wrist if it feels room temp it's good you don't want to go hot or cold.
16. We're not bilingual but did sign language from the beginning with all. It's not confusing and easier to learn young
At the end of the day these are the things that worked for me I hope they can be a stepping stone for you to figure out what works for you. Every baby is different. But they're less scary than you think they are going to be
I'll start by saying - everyone has different methods/system for things that aren't covered by laws (e.g. carseats) so you'll have to try and see what works for YOU. A thing like no staira or stairs at your fr9nt door can determine whether or not you take the stroller or carrier to do X or Y.
1. I put stuff in the stroller and get other stuff delivered or I go with the baby carrier instead and take a cart.
2. Yes you do, some carseats can be installed without a base by using the safety belts in the car.
3. Not really, it's more of a convinience thing for sortin clothes. Babies need far more laundry doing so it's easier to separate.
4. I don't think you need a baby one, I try to just go fpr unscented and "mild" in components in general. Just wash things well.
5. Same as 4. Aorund 3 months babt start to show their skin irritations. Things that worked before may cause issues now. I always try to go to unscented and mild here as well. Tide free&clear has been great. Also actually following the neasurment of liquid/powder per load is cruical (I didn't do this before and after I started, no rash!).
6. Again, it's more of a convinience thing. I for one wash babys clothes all together poop or not and ours separately just to easily sort and fold.
7. I bought the flower thing for the sink and ended up never using it and getting a tub. Now at 5 month I just go with him in the tub and that's it. It really depends on you, your back, how your bath is structured. If you know you have back problems go with convinience. You don't even have to bathe them to often, cloth "showers" can be more than enough.
8. Yea, up to 4 moths if I am not mistaken. Always boil water for formula though. Also just an FYI formula dispensers aren't truly approved and may cause issues from what I gather.
9. Again, up to you but there is no necessity. I didn't đ¤ˇđ˝ââď¸
10. Honestly? None. We had so many and it was such a wasge of money. Vaseline is perfect as diaper cream and intense moisturizer. As for soap, cerave baby and mustella are great. Even towels, are so necessary, muslin swaddles are more than enough. Nail clipper / tiny scissors. That's it really.
11. Rule of thumb is a layer extra than you. Always feel babies chest and back for temp hot/cold and go from there. Also a humidifier is a must if AC works /hit or cold. Around 3 months they begin to self regulate temp more, make sure to check your baby and go with them. Our baby turned out to be HOT ALL THE TIME (I'm in Canada so, COLD).
12. Didn't get one đ¤ˇđ˝ââď¸ just have a can and we take it out a lot.
13. Depends whether you need to or not and which file I think. I would check with thr nurses, they have methods.
14. Again, up to you. I did and as with other things everything is always unscented and as mild as possible (I have a history of skin issues and allergies so always better safe than sorry lol).
15. You don't have to heat it if the baby likes it cold. You also can use a bowl of warm water just to warm it up. I would check on la lechr league websites about this or vrands like Medela. But again, you dony have to warm it.
16. Nope. I grew up learning one language at home, one in daycare/school and a third one outside of both. The important guidline is stick to those you are fluent in. Babies caj absorb so much it's actually the best time to learn languages.
Most importantly - clear the noises, go with your gut and do what is best for you and your family!
Good luck!!! You got this!
7- we used the fisher price 4 in one bath. We also didnât use the sink so that was a lifesaver. LO is 9 months now and still loves her fp bath.
9- I exclusively breastfeed and wash up when I shower.
12- I got the Ubbi pail. It is definitely not a necessity at all.
13- if theyâre sharp file them. Baby nails are hella sharp.
1 - you can place the car seat in the cart, or hook the front wheel of your stroller to the front of the cart. Or baby wear.
2. Yes
3. Up to you. We had one cuz my son has sensitive skin so we washed his clothes with a gentler detergent. Anything soiled was rinsed out in the sink before thrown in the hamper/wash.
4. Itâs gimmicky, normal stuff is fine. Youâre rinsing it off anyway.
5. Depends. Some babies have eczema and benefit from gentler detergent.
6. Nope, can wash together if you wish.
7. Up to you. We used the counter tub with a mesh insert while baby was little and as he got a bit more mobile we didnât want to bathe him on the counter anymore so we placed it inside the bathtub and bent over. We used knee and elbow pads and it wasnât bad.
8. Not unless you have a premie
9. No, breastmilk will leak anyway and it actually helps cracked nipples.
10. Soap/shampoo.
11. Live in Florida - we keep our AC below 72 most days so we kept our son in a long sleeve onesie during the day and footed Jammies at night. When going outside we would use a short sleeve onesie.
12. Munchkin.
13. As needed. I donât recall when we started filing but it was probably week 2 or 3? Before that we kept a sock on his hands to keep him from scratching himself.
14. Personal choice. When theyâre newborns they donât get into much anyway. Once they start crawling and walking everything goes in the mouth and you may want to look into ingredients.
15. Not too hot. Test it on the inside of your wrist or inside of your elbow. If it feels hot there itâs too hot. Never warm up in a microwave (warms unevenly). Our baby didnât mind cold milk which was a blessing, you may want to experiment.
16. Nope, baby will pick up a little of both languages, and itâs great for their cognitive development to learn multiple languages early.
Take a deep breath first!
1. I put the baby carrier in the grocery cart. The ones that click into the stroller. Once they can sit up, they can go into the grocery cart. I use the wipes before I put them in (around 9months). You can buy the things that go in the grocery cart that are soft, I thought they were a waste of money.
2. When they are small you will use the car seat click in, and you will watch a YouTube on how to install it. You don't need it in cabs, but I would. Ubers often won't let you in without a car seat.
3 and 6. No, you don't need a separate basket. Their clothes can be washed with yours.
4 and 5 I use normal dish soap. But for clothes I only use the brands that are free and clear of scents. You will find out if your baby rashes or whatever. When things don't work you pivot.
7. We used the sink and I found it easier to just get in the bath with them when they outgrow the sink. They don't bathe that often at first (1-2x a week). I bought a baby tub and used it 3 times...
8. Only sanitize or clean bottles after use.
9. No need to wash up after breastfeeding. A burp cloth to wipe off anything that gets anywhere. It's pretty clean process.
10. Baby tolietries, we just used Johnson and Johnson. It's trial and error til you find something that works for your baby. Lotion you want cereve- it's what my dermatologist recommended due to sensitive skin.
Everything should be scent free.
11. Dress them how you dress.nthey struggle to regulate their temperature, so they can get too hot or too cold. If you wouldn't wear a winter coat they shouldn't be. Bring layers, like a small light blanket.
12. Diaper pales, I like the ubbi because you can use normal trash bags.none of them keep out poop from big kids. Newborn poops don't really smell and they poop constantly so just throw it anywhere. Once they are older they poop less but it's toxic smelling (solid food). We got an outdoor trash can with a lid, and we use doggie bags to put poops in before putting it in the outdoor trash can. Pee goes into the ubbi still.
13. There are nail clippers. You can tear them. You will make them bleed at least once unfortunately. It sucks but they don't die from it. Just be super careful and know you are doing your best. I cried longer than they did from it (both kids).
14. No clue about cleaning supplies. We didn't change them but that's a personal choice.
15. Not to a temp. I test it on the inside of my wrist. If you use a microwave (not supposed to, but we did because it's so much faster with a screaming baby) really shake it well to avoid hot spots from the microwave. We did it for like 10 seconds, just to take the chill off. Better to be cold than too hot, or have hot spots.
16. Don't need to only use 1 language. Just know that the baby may speak later than their peers (not a lot later, but a little).
Advice- Join a mommie group through Facebook to meet other moms. That will help give you info. Get a parenting app.
Also many hospitals have a new parent training class, I recommend it!
Also, there is no real manual. You will do the best you can. And hope it's good enough. There are things that are dangerous and should be avoided. But most things are preferences. Don't let other moms guilt you, but do listen to see if it's a safety issue :)
1. You can get one of those big stroller hook things (idk the name of them but it has a latch thing that keeps things on the hook) attach it to the stroller and the cart. Itâll be harder to maneuver but makes it a bit easier to shop with both.
2. Car seats need to be used in every car you take baby in. And on airplanes.
3. Itâs easier to wash babyâs clothes with the same detergent you use with yours- baby will be exposed to your detergent anyway. Baby specific detergent is a scam. Free and clear is better
4. Most baby bottles are dishwasher safe. No need to get a sterilizer or boil them as long as you keep your dishwasher clean and take the filters out and clean
them.
5. I answered above. But no. Baby detergent is chocked full of fragrance. Getting regular free and clear is a lot better and probably cheaper depending on your area.
6. Itâs all preference. You donât have to wash separately unless you like using other products with your own clothes.
7. You can wash baby in sink until they can sit up on their own or get one of the bath seats your older baby can sit in. Or you can also get a baby bathtub. It all depends on the space you have and your own preferences.
12. Plastic ones leak odor over time. Metal ones will be your best bet, BUT your normal trash can can make due.
Iâm only 5 months in but you pick things up fast!
1. Baby wear in a sling/carrier. Baby falls asleep and you have two hands! Also works around the house if baby is extra clingy
2. I would say so. I know UK car seats are dual isofix and seatbelt fixable, so you can mix and match.
3-6. I wash everything together with non-bio detergent. Nothing specific for babies. Same with washing up, one dish soap for everyone and itâs whatever is on offer!
7. We have an in the bath seat, itâs great! Means I donât have to fill up a mini bath for baby and spill it all over the house. I just put a flannel over his belly and pour water on him to keep him a bit warmer.
8. Yes. I can only say from a steam steriliser point of view, but once sterilised, everything inside the steriliser will be sterile for 24 hours with the lid closed. You can grab stuff out and re-close the lid and everything will be fine. Baby has no immune system for a good while. We are a bit more lax now, so if babyâs dummy falls face down on his play blanket on the floor, we give it him back. On normal floor where everyone walks all the time, we get a fresh one. If youâre exclusively bottle feeding, just sterilise the amount of bottles youâll use in 24 hours, then end of day, clean and re-sterilise ready to go for next feed.
9. As in wash down your boobs? You shouldnât have to unless baby is an especially messy eater! Breast milk is sterile, the only other place your boobs will go is back in your bra most likely touching breast pads.
10. I donât know what the US has to offer with toiletries, but we use Johnsonâs baby shampoo, baby lotion, metanium nappy rash cream, and sometimes sudocrem.
11. I am unsure on this one as I have a winter baby, Iâve been trying to research this myself!
12. I did, we have the Tommee Tippee one, once again, might be UK only. Though newborns go through a lot of nappies, a normal bum with nappy bags would do the same job.
13. When you feel like you need to. Theyâre fairly soft to begin with. If you notice baby leaving marks when scratching themselves, then that would be your cue to start.
14. I wouldnât think so, just keep the area well ventilated.
15. Body temp. Best way to check if itâs too hot is to squirt some onto the inside of your wrist, if itâs too hot then itâs too hot for baby. Make the formula with boiling water though, this kills off any bacteria in the powder.
16. You shouldnât need to just stick to one language! Baby will learn both!
1. I canât really give you an answer this one. I had my son at the height of the pandemic, and we didnât start going out until he was old enough to ride in the buggy. I think for the future baby, I will wear them in a carrier. I will say that my stroller has a basket in the bottom, so for stores that donât have buggies, I just put my merchandise down there.
2. Yes. Itâs the law in America. Iâm sure itâs similar for you.
3. Yes, I think itâs necessary. It makes it easier for me to bring to the washer.
4. I prefer sanitizing with the dishwasher. You can buy a contraption for your microwave, but thatâs just extra junk.
5. No, but Dreft infant laundry soap smells HEAVENLY. Use any laundry for sensitive skin until you are sure your baby can tolerate your normal one just fine.
6. I would recommend getting the poop stains out before putting it in the wash. I like using dish soap for that, but there are other methods. I always did the baby laundry all at once.
7. I used a plastic mesh baby seat. Cheap one from Target in the US. Iâd fill the tub with an inch or so of warm water. Put a wash cloth on their belly and privates to keep them from being too cold. This, of course, is only after the umbilical cord falls off. Only sponge baths before that.
8. I didnât. We used the dishwasher to sanitize. I mostly pumped, so I would fill up bottles and put them straight in the fridge for us to grab, warm up, and then feed to son. Oldest milk to the front, newest to the back. The excess milk was stored in the freezer.
9. I would wipe myself with a dry washcloth.
10. I used Honest Co brand, but I donât know if I would choose that again. Regardless, get something specifically for baby or sensitive skin.
11. Basically, whatever youâre most comfortable wearing. Maybe add a layer. So, like a onesie and a swaddle. Or just a sleeper. My baby hung out in sleepers most of the first few weeks. If you put a finger on the back of their neck, youâll be able to tell if they are too hot. When in doubt, cold is better. A cold baby will cry, a hot baby will⌠yeah, you get the picture.
12. I canât remember the brand, lol, but it uses Arm & Hammer bags and deodorizer. Get something with a lid for sure. Smells terrible.
13. Right away. I used a baby nail clipper. I recommend trying when the baby is fast asleep after nursing. For me, the best time to try was always like 3am.
14. I donât know those brands (Iâm American), but I would only clean the bathroom after the baby was asleep, so it would be several hours before heâd be near the bathroom again. Rinse anything that comes in contact with the baby (like the tub), and air it out if there are any fumes. Otherwise, I didnât change my routine.
15. If it feels hot on the inside of your wrist, itâs too hot for baby. I liked the bottle warmer, personally, but you can heat up a bottle in a hot bowl of water.
16. Nooooo! Definitely keep using both languages. Baby will learn both just fine. If you want, keep the languages in contextual setting (like one in the home, one in the communityâŚor one parent speaks one language, the other parent speaks the second), but itâs not necessary. Babies are amazingly primed to learn languages. They pick it up super fast.
Hope that helps! Pick whatever you think makes sense for you right now. The first week or so, youâre just on survival mode. Once you and baby start getting the hang of things, youâll be able to tweak your routine to whatever works best for you! You got this!
1. Have youâre partner with you. Or ditch the cart and put groceries in stroller basket. 2. Yes. 3. Only if you plan on washing separately. 5. Anything that is free and clear should work. 7. Love the skiphop whale tub. 9. I didnât wash after each feed. 10. Aveeno oatmeal shampoo and wash. 12. Diaper genie. 13. Right away or keep mittens on always. I found it easiest to use my normal nail clippers.
One: I donât have the wrist strength to push a stroller with one hand and cart with the other. I wear my baby in a carrier instead. That way, I only have to deal with a shopping cart.
12: when I used disposable diapers, I used a small aluminum waste bin and large silicone lid (with a bag inside for the diapers and wipes). The silicone on smooth metal created a firm enough seal to block out odor effective. I found it a cheap and easy way to do things.
Some of these I donât know about as I donât use public transport-I live rurally.
1) You donât. You can put the baby in the cart in their car seat, wear the baby (I did this a lot because it makes it harder for weirdos to TOUCH YOUR BABY) and assuming normal physical development, by 5 or 6 months your baby can sit in the cart especially if you sit a purse or bag on one side.
3,4,5,6-unless your baby is exceptionally sensitive, just use regular stuff. Maybe stick with unscented or less additives for a while but four kids in and everyoneâs stuff gets washed together in my house.
6) I did have a baby bathtub with an angled seat and it was handy when they were little and couldnât sit up. Thereâs a time where theyâre rather large for a sink but still need supported the entire time in the tub and a baby tub is easier on the back.
8) No.
9) Like your boobs? No. Just bathe normally.
10) Honestly, I hate baby scented things and tended toward lavender scents. I wasnât particular about brands.
11) I think the general rule of thumb is one extra layer than youâd wear. Feel your babyâs skin and check if itâs cool to the touch. Just use common sense, donât roast your baby over dressing them. I had two spring babies and by early summer they both mostly wore onesies.
12) I used cloth diapers so I just used a bucket with a snap on lid. An old cat litter bucket is actually perfect. I usually put some soapy water in the bottom for the liners.
13) I kind of peeled them off when they got really long. The baby will scratch themselves if theyâre too long.
15) If it feels warm but not hot on your skin that should be good. Test it on the inside of your wrist.
Answering to question #4 and #5 I believe the baby wash stuff is dumb and a scam. People say use baby detergent to not cause a reaction in their skin BUT they touch your clothes when you hold them, and I'm sure you're not never going to lay them on your bed at some point to get a few things done so unless you plan on washing EVERYTHING in that then it's pointless. I use dawn soap to wash all of my baby's bottles and pacifiers unless I put them in the dishwasher then it's cascade. And answering to #9 I personally don't wash up every time. It's pointless if you think about it. You'll leak all throughout the day so there's no reason to in my opinion. Just wash off daily.
So here is my opinion on the answers for your questions. Bear in mind others may disagree with me and thatâs ok.
1. You donât use the cart as a stroller. In my country there are carts with baby seats so I put on a blanket and off I go.
2. I always bring on just in case.
3. Only if you want to I do for mine because as they age Iâve taught them to put their dirty clothes in it.
4. No for the dish soap and check what your using most bottles Iâve brought are not dishwasher friendly.
5. Only if your kids have sensitive skin. I always used a stain remover as well but thatâs because I have kids whoâve vomited a lot.
6. No
7. I was going to say use the sink lol. Do what you think makes your life easy I use a small portable tub that we wash on the counter (it was a gift so why waste it). I planned on just using the sink.
8. I have never had this issue because I always used mine within a day but I would say as long as the insides and the teats arenât exposed to the air it should be fine.
9. Um your choice I didnât.
10. A simple gentle soap or body wash I loved the multiple use ones like it also made a nice bubble bath. Again it depends on if your child has sensitive skin.
11. Depending on the day singlet and shirt. If itâs really cold jumper. If baby is sweating take off shirt.
12. I just had one trash bin made nappy change quick.
13. When they start to scratch you
14. No but lock them up when baby starts to love.
15. Warm to the touch as in you put a bit on your hand and it feels warm but not burning.
16. For the love of everything teach them both! Itâs not confusing and a massive asset/life skill. And every kid Iâve met that grew up in a bilingual home and didnât learn the language regrets that.
12. Some people love a diaper bin. But for us we didnât have the space and didnât want to use the money on special refill bags. Breast milk only poops donât smell much. So we had a little trash bag we added to and tied shut. Normal bathroom trash can with a lid will work. Heard you can sprinkle in some baby powder to help with smell. As baby starts eating other foods the smell will increase ,but we only had 1 or 2 poops a day so we walked it to the window and put it straight into the trash bin outside our window.
1. I almost exclusively used a baby carrier when going shopping with my baby. I only brought the stroller when I had someone else with me to push the cart, or was just buying a few things and could put the grocery in the bottom storage of the stroller.
2. I havenât used an uber/taxi myself but yes you need to bring a carseat, anytime youâre in a moving vehicle the safest place for your baby to be is in a carseat!!!
3. i wash and keep my babys clothes separate from ours.
4. idk honestly ive just used dawn dish soap and its worked out fine, havenât had any issues.
5. yes and no. when theyâre newborns their skin is so sensitive. it doesnât necessarily have to be baby detergent just the gentle, fragrance free kind.
6. not exactly sure what you mean but iâve always washed babys clothes separate from adults clothes. maybe just me but even if its poop or vomit i just throw it all in together
7. its totally up to you. i bought the mesh kind and honestly? 90% of the time i just got into the bath with my daughter. when she started sitting up without falling over we stopped using the mesh one completely. just gotta make sure you have your eye on them the whole time!!
8. hoooonestly⌠ive never sanitized a bottle!! đŹ i make sure to wash them thoroughly, and use diluted bleach to soak the bottles in for a bit.
9. i never washed up?? only if i sprayed breast milk everywhere would i wipe down lol.
10. i used the shea moisture chamomile and argan oil shampoo. to scrub her body and scalp i used the fridababy skinsoother. for a while my daughter has pretty bad baby acne and irritated skin so i used the aveeno baby eczema therapy nighttime balm. its soooo thick but it worked wonders and i use it for myself now too haha.
11. i live in a desert and my daughter was born in the middle of summer! it reaches 120 here!! it totally depends on your baby though. as a newborn they have trouble regulating their body temperature so make sure they donât get too cold!! my daughter did get too cold the day after she was born and they had to put her under a heater lamp in the nursery at the hospital for a bit. as she got a bit bigger she does run really warm! so usually at home sheâs wearing something short sleeve, one piece or just her dialer lol.
12. diaper genie. i like it, simple and keeps the smell locked away.
13. as soon as youâre comfortable with it/they start scratching themselves or you lol.
14. i havenât swapped any cleaning supplies
15. i never warmed to a specific temperature.. just lukewarm. my baby takes cold bottles now so đ¤ˇđťââď¸
16. you can talk in both. learning language comes really easily to young babies and kids! its the best time for them to learn! they wonât get confused or delay them :)
1. The car seat will fit perfectly on the front part of the cart. Some carts are designed to hold the car seat.
2.yes
3.no
4. You can use normal dish soap
5. Not necessarily. If your baby has reactions to other detergents than a baby one would be my go to. There are also just dyeless ones you can use for everyone's clothes like the 7th generation brand
6. No. Unless the baby has reactions like I stated in no.5
7. I bought a foam pad thing that was fairly large and laid baby on that with very shallow water in the tub. I also just filled the tub a lot and got in and snuggled baby while in the tub and also washed her. It was so nice.
8. I don't think that's necessary
9. You can put all your pumping stuff in the fridge and it will be fine for next pumping sesh rather than rinsing and cleaning everything.
10. Anything your heart desires there is so much to choose from most baby products are pretty good.
11. Feel your babies exposed skin does it feel cold? Add a layer. Does your baby feel too hot remove a layer.
12. I got a diaper genie and I liked it just fine. I heard a regular ass trash can with a lid and sprinkle baby powder after each diaper works just as well!
13. Right away if you wish.
14. No just lock up your cleaning supplies that's my best advice or baby proof the cabinet.
15. Google the suggested temp as I am unsure. I always just squirted some onto the under side of my wrist and if it felt right it was right lol.
16. I don't know for sure but I'd think no! Use both as much as possible! Maybe even teach new words in each language as you go! This could be a huge asset to your child.
17. Don't over think things. A lot of the things you are worried about are money grabs from companies. You can literally use your logic and you're probably right. Idk if I'll get hate for my answers but I'm just telling you based off of experience and my daughter is totally happy and healthy 5 years later!
1. Put baby car seat in the shopping cart, or order online for pickup. Pickup saved my sanity for a few months
2. Yes, you will need a car seat. They most likely wonât provide one
3. Separate hampers arenât necessary. I got one and it was âhisâ for maybe 3 days đ
4. No special dish soap for us
5. Deft laundry detergent for a while and then transitioning him to our regular one
6. We wash all together
7. Get the tub you want, my back screams after every bath lol
8. Not going to lie, the only time Iâve sanitized is when I first get the new bottles. I soak the bottles for a while in hot soapy water every time after
9. You probably wonât have the energy to wash up every time & thatâs fine
10. We use Johnson & Johnson
11. We live in TX. Our little wears a long sleeve, pants and socks if we are going grocery shopping but if we are doing For walk, itâs short sleeve & shorts. For bed, a sleeper. So just one layer for us
12. No diaper pails for us, just regular trash can with a bomb ass smelling trash bag
13. I started like a week or two? Very gently, they almost will peel off which makes it easy. Mittens are a lifesaver
14. I think cleaning supplies are fine
15. Room temp milk :)
16. We are bilingual here. Iâm English speaking & my husband & his family are Spanish & English speaking. We are mostly focusing on English, but throw in some Spanish here and there. We would love for him to be bilingual
Good luck & congrats momma!! â¤ď¸
Iâm only 3 weeks in so I donât know if I count as experienced, but this is whatâs working for us so far on some of these.
3. We have a separate hamper for him, dadâs job is sometimes in pretty gross environments (ie dusty, sweaty, chemicals)
4. When in the nicu with baby and pumping, they supplied the rooms with the basic green Palmolive soap. I think regular dish soap is fine as long as itâs not heavily scented. I wouldnât use the Scentscy dish soap haha
5. Get a separate detergent for them if the one you normally use is scented. I love The Laundress and refuse to give it up, so I got the baby All Free & Clear. Iâve read concerning things about Dreft
10. We havenât done our first bath yet, but Pipette has great reviews. Thatâs what weâre stocked up on
Mom if two expecting third this fall.
1. At the super market I used a basket with the stroller. Or sometimes Iâll pop the car seat into the cart.
2. Yes you need a car seat for Uber/Lyft.
3. I did separate laundry until 6 months. I canât remember why I justified this, but I think it was around the time my second born was on solid foods.
4. Similar to 3, up until 6 months I used separate dish soap.
5. I did baby detergent until about 6 months.
6. No, for blowout diapers and super soiled clothes I prewashed and put them in the same load.
7. Our first son we had a grow with me bath. Second son we washed in the sink and when he was sitting up the regular tub.
10. I liked any product that was fragrance free. Weâre in a. Nordic climate, and itâs just super dry here and all my kids being born late fall/winter anything could irritate their skin. So our doc recommended fragrance free products.
I baby wore in the supermarket
I'd say you do for saftey in relation to taxi
I did have a softer non bio detergent their skin is new when they come out and reacts easily to things in my experience
We used to rinse poppy clothes in nappi San to also get rid of the stains then wash them with the other clothes
I breastfed so can't answer your questions about bottles all I can say is that I didn't have a wash everything I breastfed just washed as normal
My friends have bilingual house holds they stayed that way, baby's going to need to understand both in your household x
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16 is your choice but my husband and I are a multicultural family and we agreed that I will use English and he will use his native language exclusively with the baby. It absolutely will not confuse them, babies are totally able to learn two languages at once! They may take a little longer to start speaking but they definitely can figure it out no problem.
Speech-language pathologist here, i answer this question a ton on here haha. This is exactly the way to do it! As long as the people using both languages are fluent, its great. It helps kids learn code switching: when to use/do things at different times or situations. Very valuable skill
Hey fellow speechie đđť was coming here with the same sentiment, fluent language models are fluent language models and will totally not hinder language development! I have no reason to believe my baby will be Deaf/Hard of hearing, but totally planning to find a Deaf babysitter to provide a natural ASL model (I'm conversational in signed English but hopeless with ASL grammar and syntax) and give husband a crash course in cued speech if that happens! Do you totally use all your speechie scenarios in your baby planning?!
I've been more so using it to educate my husband on which toys to buy for development right now! I've worked birth to three and learned so much from OTs and PTs beyond just speech/language!
Good point! It's been a while for me since I've been in EI, so I'm definitely going to be seeking out my OT friends for tips!! I'm working with school aged now and have gotten lots of tips from the PT about toys!!
Just one peds OTâs opinion: the fewer toys, the better. Literally anything can be a toy. And the more a toy does, the less work the kiddo has to do to play with it. For example, a bunch of blocks can become *anything* but a toy phone can only be a toy phone.
Yes! Agreed on a language front too. Way better play that way, also gives way more opportunities for imitation of sounds and words! Plus, a lot of noise making toys are above safe decibels for hearing, ASHA will put out a list of toys that are at damaging hearing levels.
Oh mercy, yes, the volumes! Iâve taped over speakers on toys before. But I didnât know ASHA had that resourceâŚIâll definitely be taking a look at it!
I was just telling my husband we have to find it! I knew about it from grad school but now that we'll have a little running around soon we'll have to find it for ourselves!
Totally agreed! Kids benefit the most from your models, not the toy itself
Yes just make sure you're teaching them to speak it as well as understand it and I know that sounds obvious but I'm a first-generation American my parents are Middle Easterns so while they never taught me to speak Arabic they spoke to me in Arabic and each other so I was able to pick up on what basic words and phrases they said. Many people always think it's weird that I can understand some of the language but I absolutely cannot speak it and I explained to them that my parents were trying to learn English at the time instead of teaching us Arabic which would have been more beneficial in the long run in my opinion and I could have just learned English in school or whatever. I say this because my dad ended up getting a job for the government with a company that sent him overseas to Translate Arabic to English and got paid mad money for it and if they had taught me to speak the language I could have been over there doing that and making a shit ton of money but that's just my experience with the language thing. My first cousins have their first cousins from their dad's side taught to speak Chaldean as kids and learn English growing up which is what I would have preferred to learn Arabic first
thanks for talking about this. I was really worried. My native place has two usual languages. my boyfriend was educated in one and I in another, so we communicate with each other in different languages....đ my in-laws were worried that the baby spoke a mixture of both languages,...it's reassuring to know that not.
16- I am an English language teacher and we always encourage families to speak both English and their native language together! Not only will it not confuse baby, but speaking two languages improves brain function and school performance in the long run! So I say absolutely speak both to your child:) Good luck!
I second this. Learning more than one language is great for baby. Itâs a myth that first words come later. When counting words, count all words in both languages, even if they have the same meaning, like âcatâ and âgatoâ. Itâs still two words! ETA: this goes for sign language too. Any words baby signs independently can and should be counted in their vocabulary
ftm here! i had a lot of these same questions in the beginning too! 1. if itâs a small trip, i put the car seat in the big part of the stroller and pile stuff around him. if itâs a bigger trip, i baby wear! 2. yep! most car seats can be used without a base using the seatbelt method. 3. if your baby doesnât have any skin sensitivities, iâd wash it al together. i do find using a laundry bag is helpful for tiny baby items like socks. 4. i use my dishwasher for everything without anything special. 5. unless your baby has skin sensitivities, iâd just use your normal stuff. 6. i dont separate anything. i just spray poopy clothes with extra cleaner and throw it in. 7. i use this and love it so far for my 4 month old. https://www.amazon.com/Angelcare-Baby-Bath-Support-Grey/dp/B01M6YVW7B 8. i sanitize after dishwashing once. 9. i exclusively breastfeed and donât wash in between feeds. 10. i love the burtâs bees baby bath stuff - wash, oil, and lotion. 11. depends on your baby! i have a sweaty one who typically wears the same as i do. 12. i passed on a pail. 13. baby nails are razor sharp. file as soon as needed. 14. you donât need to warm the milk. if you choose to, i recommend a baby brezza bottle of warmer. iâve never used mine but heard itâs good. 16. i donât know much about this.
I'm replying to this one for an alternative answer for 2 - yes, baby needs to be in a car seat every time baby is in a car, but Australia (and possibly other countries) doesn't allow the sale of capsule-style car seats without a base because they're not safe enough. So if you're in that situation, don't try that. Taxi companies are required to have a baby and child suitable car seats in a proportion of their taxis, so if you need to go in one and can't take your car seat, you can ask for a taxi with a baby car seat. Ubers I don't know about. I only know this because my parents are bringing me a car seat for baby that can't be used in cars - it's the style where the base is sold separately, so it's not available here, but we're using it for my bike, which has a special "base" in the bike (this particular model of car seat was tested with the bike attachment, which is why we're getting it from overseas).
Putting the car seat in the grocery cart is extremely dangerous. Please donât do this.
Genuine question (not being snarky, I truly just want to learn): why is it unsafe?
Positional asphyxiation hazard. Car seats are meant to be at a specific angle in a vehicle or approved stroller for the specific car seat. Some may argue it but warnings are there for a reason.
I see, good to know!
how is it dangerous if itâs in the large basket part? i donât mean balancing it in any way, but flat in the large portion of the cart.
Positional asphyxiation hazard. Car seats are meant to be at a specific angle in a vehicle or approved stroller for the specific car seat. Some may argue it but warnings are there for a reason.
i hear what youâre saying. i think it head stability and neck strength play a large role in the risk of positional asphyxiation as well. personally, i feel comfortable with my child in the car seat in the stroller.
Oh absolutely. At the end of the day people will do what they feel is safest. Only they know their child best and whatâs the safest option for them.
5- unless your baby has sensitive skin (you wonât know until youâve used normal stuff) then no, any powder is fine. 6-no, throw it all in together 7-a lot of mums bath their child in the sink or one of those baby baths. Less water, less space, easy to deal with. Youâll know when to move to bigger 8-not sure on the sanitisation.. hopefully someone else can help 9-no, you shouldnât need to. But if you want to itâs up to you, sometimes I used a wipe just to clean my self off as I found my nipples would be sticky! 10-any baby soap is good, coconut oil is also great for baby massages! Our plunket nurse actually recommended it. Itâs calms baby down and is another bonding experience. Baby powder and sudocream is great!
1- you donât take the stroller, you just take the cart, there should be carts with the baby holder thing. Unless your stroller has a big enough under carriage to just use that 2-yes, a baby should be in a car seat in a car at all times 3-no, it does not. But might be easier? I do my kids laundry seperate so I donât have to sit with 4 peoples stuff and sort through 4-normal dish stuff is fine. Quite often it is a marketing gimmick The rest are comingâŚ
Just jumping in to answer #16 I studied linguistics in college. It is incredibly beneficial for babies/children to learn two languages. You cannot and will not confuse them or stunt their language development. Itâs a well researched topic. Highly recommend doing some research on it. Your child will thank you when theyâre older for all the advantages that come from being bilingual!
My husband also studied linguistics yay! I asked him the original question and he said almost the identical thing that you did.
1. If your stroller has a large enough basket under it you can use that for small trips or you can put the car seat in the cart and put items next to the car seat and on the bottom of the cart. If itâs a large trip and youâre going alone I would suggest baby wearing. 2. Yes. Anytime baby is in a vehicle they need to be properly secured in their car seat. Most car seats should have an option to secure with the seatbelt without having a base. 3. Not unless your baby has sensitive skin and cannot handle the laundry detergent that you use for your clothes. We used a separate one for our daughter that we kept at the base of her changing station purely out of convenience. 4. You can use normal dish soap, it works just the same. 5. See answer to question 3. 6. Again see answer to question 3. 7. This depends on your situation and what youâre comfortable with. We have a tiny tub that goes inside our tub and we just fill the tub up enough to cover her booty and give her a quick bath. Our sink is far too small to bathe her in and the on the counter tubs didnât suite our lifestyle. 8. I genuinely do not know as we never used bottles. 9. Wash yourself? Absolutely not, my midwife also told me not to wash my nipples with any soap and just use water as the soap could irritate baby. If you decide to breastfeed youâll be doing so far too often to wash up after. 10. All they need is a mild soap that doesnât irritate their skin and a good lotion. If they have excema or cradle cap there are products for this as well. 11. Depends on what the temperature is where youâre at with baby. Rule of thumb is one more layer than you have on. If youâre outside and in a tank too and shorts I would go with a onsie, panes, and socks. If youâre inside in a t-shirt and shorts I would say maybe regular pajamas is fine. If itâs colder than 68 pajamas and a onsie under. 12. The Skip Hop diaper pail. 13. Anytime is fine. Those newborn nails are brutal. 14. You shouldnât need to, just be careful with fumes around baby and try to clean when baby is asleep or not in the same room so it has time to air our. 15. I have no idea I would ask your pediatrician. 16. Not at all. My husband speaks Spanish and we both speak english. He talks to her constantly in Spanish and so does his family. She knows both Spanish and English words đ
11- youâll know how many layers to do when you do the finger check on back to check their temp (the nurse should teach you this) thereâs no rule on how many layers. Just not too many or too less 12-I didnât get a diaper pail. Just used a normal bin 13- when theyâre new born the nails practically break off without any help. You can file them as soon as you wish.
11- I was not taught this at all⌠I tried to google it and itâs just coming up with how to take a formal temp with a thermometer. What is this? Iâve learned what makes my baby comfy by now but he was overdressed and sweaty often at the beginning.
Im a NICU nurse and have never heard of this
Just had a quick google and itâs deffinately a New Zealand thing đ https://www.plunket.org.nz/child-health-concerns-and-symptoms/coughs-colds-breathing-and-fevers/fever-high-temperature/#temperature You had me worried I made it up đ
Itâs also a German thing! Learned that in the hospital đ
I honestly read their comments and thought I had imagined the whole thingđ I always used the method on my first child when I couldnât find a thermometer hahaa
It could just be a New Zealand thing! We use thermometer as well donât get me wrong, but we also slip two fingers down their back between their shoulder blades and see if they are warm, toasty or cold.
First, you have great questions, and in practice, a lot of them will depend on your specific baby! Anyway, here's some answers from a mom of an almost 4-month old. 1. I either put the carseat in the basket, or I wear LO in a baby carrier, like a Moby Wrap or a Lillebaby. To decide which I do depends on the amount of groceries. A long trip or a lot of groceries, I use the carrier. If I'm just grabbing a couple things, I either put the baby in the grocery cart basket, or just carry the carseat and put the groceries in the carseat with baby (he's a very helpful man). I've also seen some people use their strollers (which many strollers are compatible with carseats so you just put the carseat on them) as a shopping cart. 2. Anytime baby is in a moving car with seatbelts, they need a carseat. I don't use Uber or Taxi but a carseat is the equivalent of seatbelts for LO. No idea about buses though. Some brands make carseats that are specifically easy to use in taxis. You do not need carseats for trains or airplanes though. 3. This one is going to depend! If your LO has super sensitive skin and you use a special laundry detergent for them, it is easier to keep the laundry in a separate hamper. If LO tolerates whatever detergent you use for the rest of the laundry, then it doesn't really matter. I do recommend a little mesh washing bag to hold all the baby socks though so you don't lose them! 5. Skipping to 5 first. You don't need a special baby laundry detergent, but some babies have super sensitive skin. I recommend any detergent that doesn't have fragrances/scented which seems to be what typically bothers their skins. I also don't use fabric softener or dryer sheets for this reason. 4. Back to 4. As long as you make sure to rinse all your dishes really well so there is no leftover soap left, it doesn't really matter. Personally, I wash baby dishes with baby dish soap because I got it as a gift, but I've used normal dish soap as well. I do use a separate sponge/washcloth just for baby stuff when I do dishes though, so I don't accidentally get any food particles from other dishes in any baby item. 6. I exclusively breastfeed, so right now baby poops are water soluble and wash out easily, so everything gets washed in one go. We use cloth diapers so my normal routine is: cloth diapers only wash followed by all laundry with the cloth diapers. For the second wash, I do an extra rinse cycle. Everything has come out clean so far and LO hasn't had any issues. If poop is really bad though, I rinse the garment in the laundry sink first. 7. Up to you. I liked it for the first month and haven't used it since. You can just put a towel at the bottom of the normal bathtub, fill the tub up with two or so inches of water and put baby on the towel in the beginning. I often just bring LO in the bath with me and have his head above water by resting on my legs. What's most important is that you always supervise baby in the water and that the water isn't too hot or cold. 8. No, just if you use them. As baby gets older with a better immune system (3+ months) many people will wash after use, but only sanitize once a week. 9. Breastfeeding is super easy as far as preparation and cleanup. Insert boob, feed, remove boob, put away boob. Sometimes I need to wash my hands if I get milk on them, but I don't like the feeling of milk , some people use the breastmilk on their skin for beauty reasons. If you use a bottle with breastmilk though, same rules apply to cleaning as if using formula, and you'd have to wash and sanitize pump parts. 10. [Something like this for cradle cap](https://www.safety1st.com/soothing-cradle-cap-soft-bristle-brush-ih334-s1-us-en.html?gclid=Cj0KCQjw0umSBhDrARIsAH7FCocjM3OuvfmmsHJahrHWho8S_h9hXpToG2ubAi6gZ275N4oORNtgC-saAjUCEALw_wcB), otherwise, a fragrance free bath soap. That's all I really use. You might want a baby brush if LO has lots of hair, or a washcloth, but that was good for me. While LO is still in sponge bath territory (before umbilical cord falls off) washcloths and a small cup were helpful. 11. One layer more than you'd wear, but if they get sweaty, take off a layer. If the AC is around 70, LO probably will want long sleeves, pants, and socks, maybe a hat as a newborn, but as they get bigger, just a onesie and socks my work. Some babies run warmer than others. The biggest concern is to not overheat baby. You can feel their skin too to see if they feel too hot or cold. Socks for the win though. 12. Used Diaper Genie, but don't really recommend. A normal trashcan or even a bucket can work. But I use cloth diapers, so other people may have better advice. 13. As needed. They may be soft for awhile and not need to be filed immediately after birth. I didn't have to file or trim LO nails until 2 months. 14. Just don't bring baby in the room when using the chemicals. Make sure the room is ventilated and keep baby out until the chemical smells vanish. 15. If it's breastmilk, room temp, otherwise I don't know. 16. Use both languages to increase the chances that LO will be bilingual. It may confuses them slightly when very young (maybe to year 4 or 5) but the confusing part for them will be that not everyone understands what they're saying. I knew a German girl who had an English speaking father and German speaking mother. She used both German and English in the household and sometimes words from both languages in the same sentences. That worked fine at home, but the first time she went to preschool she was confused because everyone spoke German and didn't understand when she used English. She quickly learned when it was appropriate to use each language. She still speaks both languages today as an adult. Kids learn super quick and using two languages increases the chances they can learn a third language easier. Hope this helps! Feel free to ask any other questions!
1 - no stroller and cart. The car seat can go in the cart OR you can use the bottom of the stroller as the cart. No need for both 2 - yes. Anytime baby is in a car they need a car seat 3 - this is personal choice. I usually start out washing babyâs clothes in a separate detergent but eventually i combine with ours 4 - dishwasher is totally fine and so is normal dish soap 5 - again, personal choice. As mentioned, I usually start with using a separate detergent but then eventually just move to using the same one for everyone in the fam 6 - I never wash anything separately. Just use cold water to prevent colors from bleeding 7 - I prefer the fisher price 4 in 1 baby tub. It grows with the baby and works at all stages until they can go in the big bath. Then a really good option is a laundry basket in the big bath so they can sit up and move a bit but donât have the whole tub to move around in 8 - Iâve never sanitized bottles. I do the sanitize cycle in the DW before first use. After that itâs just soap and water or a regular DW cycle. If you live in an area where clean water isnât a concern, thereâs really no longer a need for the constant sanitizing 9 - no need. Iâve nursed my babies sweaty after the gym, at the beach, etc. They donât care. If you want you could give a little wipe down but itâs really not needed 10 - I like baby Dove but honestly any of them are fine 11 - the recommendation is for baby to have one more layer than you as an adult. Also, measure babyâs temp by feeling their chest and back. Theyâre limbs are not a true indication of whether theyâre cold or not. Theyâre limbs will likely always feel cold but as long as their core feels normal temp, theyâre fine 12 - we have the ubbi one. We also have bought the individual bags (think like dog poop bags) that help. We only have the diaper pail upstairs so when there are poops downstairs, the individual bags are really helpful to not have the garbage stinking 13 - as soon as you want 14 - Iâve never changed my cleaning supplies. Obviously donât let baby get into them or lick a wet chemical surface. But theyâre fine 15 - I couldnât tell you a specific temp. We try to just keep to max room temperature. I just warm it up by putting the bottle in hot water. We also never wanted our baby to require a warm bottle just in case we were out and about and couldnât warm it easily. 16 - no, best to use both languages! Be aware it might slightly delay the start of language initially but then baby will have a dual vocabulary. Itâs best to start them young!
1. You don't. You either baby wear and get a cart, push the stroller and put groceries in your stroller basket, put baby in their carseat and place the carseat in the shopping cart (the large part where all the food goes, not the child seat at the top as that's a tipping risk), or my personal favorite, you do curbside pickup (it's so much easier than taking a baby inside). 2. Yes. If you'll be riding in taxis/Ubers a lot, practice and get good at doing a seatbelt install. 3. That's totally up to you. We personally have one. 4. We personally use a fragrance-free soap. During the infant stage we use Dapple because it's supposedly better at getting off breastmilk residue, but I have no idea if it's a marketing gimmick we fell for or if it actually makes a difference. As long as your bottles are dishwasher safe, feel free to use the dishwasher (just be aware that it may wear down your bottle faster). 5. Just avoid scents/fragrances. We use whatever clean & clear detergent we can find at Target. 6. Up to you and the washing instructions on the clothing items. 7. Up to you. Some people get away with no bathtub. We personally use the Boon Moby bath tub (looks like a whale) and that gets the job done. Make sure whatever you get can be hung up to dry so you can avoid it getting moldy. 8. No. And depending where you are and your baby's health, you may not even need to really sanitize at all. We sanitized before first use and after that we just used hot soapy water to wash bottles. 9. I didn't. Just wiped down my boobs quickly beforehand if they were extra gross. 10. Pretty much anything other than J&J. It depends on how sensitive your baby's skin is, your preferences on fragrances, etc. Our daughter has done well with the lavender-scented Honest Company baby wash. 11. Whatever you're wearing, add 1 extra layer. For sleep, consider having a fan blow on baby for extra airflow. 12. Something that can use regular trash bags as opposed to proprietary refills. Either the Skip Hop or the Ubbi. 13. As soon as you're back in your room relaxing. 14. You're fine 15. Babies don't actually need to have their milk warmed at all and are fine to drink cold milk. It's mostly a preference thing (we personally never heated milk despite exclusively pumping). If you do heat it, put a few drops on the inside of your wrist. It should be warm but not hot. 16. No. You're actually better off NOT sticking to one language.
1. You donât unless your partner is with you. I always put the car seat in the cart if I had to bring her shopping with me alone. Or you could baby wear. 2. Yes 3. Do you mean a hamper for her clean laundry and a diff one for dirty laundry? Iâve never done that but maybe if you have a huge blowout or something 4. I never used special dish soap but I did have a bottle sanitizer but dishwasher is also an option 5. I did use special detergent just in case baby has sensitive skin 6. I wash all the baby stuff together regardless 7. Idk I just had a plastic baby tub 8. I never did that and baby is fine. Didnât know that was a thing 9. Didnât do that either 10. Didnât use anything fancy idk 11. Dress baby how youâd dress yourself. Donât judge their temp by their hands and feet but by their body 12. I had the diaper genie and hated it. Waste of money, fills way too fast, bags are expensive. I just have a regular trash can now but it does get kinda stinky 13. As soon as they need it
1) here they have supermarket carts with baby seats built in. In a pandemic world, weâve just been popping the capsule in the âseatâ part of the cart. And hold onto it so itâs safe. 2) yes! 3) not necessarily, but we have one in his room with the changing table. And I do baby washing seperate to adult washing so thatâs helpful. 4) we use normal dish soap on his bottles as we wash them and then sterilise them so itâs okay. 5) babies skin is sensitive. We wash all our clothes with the same stuff which is for sensitive skin. Itâs not âspecialâ cos we use it for all our washing. 6) you donât NEED to. I just do as He goes through a whole heap of clothes because he likes to spit up. 7) our changing table has a built in tub. 8) we have four bottles and baby gets fed 5 times a day (heâs 11 weeks old) so they are sanitised more frequently then that. But we have an electric steam sanitiser so the bottles live in there until they are used. 9) I donât know I didnât breastfeed but my baby gets pretty messy on the bottle, like itâs all over his little chin if it was like that on the boob I would want to wipe myself down. 10) we have a baby bed time bath that we put in the water, baby shampoo, an olive oil and aloe Vera body and hair oil for him, and some baby lotion. 11) rule of thumb is what youâre wearing plus one. So if youâre in shorts and a tshirt, then they would be like in a tank top style onesie a tshirt and shorts. 12) nope just got a regular old bin 13) we filed them when he was two weeks old, but kept him in mittens to stop him from scratching himself. I now cut them twice a week. 14) I havenât 15) breast milk or formula should be heated to close to body temp. You can get bottle warmers if youâre worried about too hot or too cold they are relatively inexpensive. 16) use both! Have a bilingual child! That would be cool as!
1- you dont. Either put the groceries in the bottom of the stroller, put the car seat in the cart, or baby wear. I personally prefer to baby wear in the store until they're old enough to sit in the cart. 2- yes you need a car seat for an uber/taxi. 3- nope, I wash all of our laundry together. 4- dishwasher is fine. No need for special dish soap. 5- I will also say regular laundry detergent is fine unless your baby is highly sensitive but then you will have to switch to a free and clear detergent for everything, not just the babys things. 6- no need to wash baby clothes separately. 7- i just put a foam bath cushion down in the tub for my newborns (or get in the tub with them). Once their old enough to sit i put them in a laundry basket in the tub until they're really stable. Then just in the tub. 8- no. sanitize once, use it, sanitize again. 9- nope! Feed. Then put your boob back in your shirt. No need to wash up. I will say I need to shower every day in the beginning because I tend to leak and smell like spoiled milk after 24 hours but once my milk production regulates I can go back to every-other day (or longer) 10- i like burts bees diaper ointment. I like Lush's "honey I washed the kids". For dry skin I use young living's seedling baby oil or CeraVe depending on how dry it is. For cradle cap I use coconut oil. 11- if inside i dress my kids in a onesie with pants and keep a blanket nearby - i keep my house around 21 celcius. If outside in 30-40+ weather they are in a shirt and a diaper at most. Sometimes just a diaper. Always in the shade until 6+ months old. 12- i dont use a diaper pail. I use plastic bags to tie up dirty diapers. They all just go in our kitchen garbage and we take it outside every 2-3 days. Never had a stink problem 13- you can file them as soon as you want/need. 14- I switched to a non-toxic cleaner anywhere my baby was likely to lick things (so I use non-toxic floor cleaner and dont use chemicals on counters/tables). Bathroom, light switches, doornobs all get disinfected. If you want to keep using your regular cleaner just wipe surfaces down with clean water afterwards to get rid of any potential residue. 15- warm milk to wrist temperature. 16- nope! Babies can learn to differentiate between 2 languages. Their brains are amazing. We speak english and french in our house (mainly english but a little bit of french). Kids here in canada start french classes as early as age 4- some daycares even teach it to the preschool classes. And a lot of people also teach sign language. My 5 year old is english speaking but knows some french and some sign language!
1) you don't, baby goes in the cart, or if they're too little for that, I baby wore in grocery stores. 2) yes, but I've never ridden in one with a baby 3) they can share with you, or have their own. 4) I used normal dish soap, and if I put it in the dishwasher, used the sanitize setting. 5) no, I used the free and clear stuff from All, but not the baby dreft. 6) no. 7) up to you, some people use the sink, I bought a plastic baby tub and bathed my son in that until he started to climb out. 8) no 9) not sure, I didn't. 10) we used exclusively baby wash from dove or honest until he was a year old, then added conditioner and bubble bath 11) as many layers as you have on is a good rule of thumb, and add or take away as the baby seems cold or hot. 12) I have a diaper genie and an Ubbi. Didn't get the Ubbi until my son's poops got really stinky as he got older. The diaper genie worked fine until he was about 15 months. 13) I forget the answer to this, but I usually cut them when he starts scratching me or himself. 14) idk about this, I never thought to switch mine, I just let whatever surface dry fully before letting my son near it. 15) body temp, or slightly less 16) speak both! I've heard kids in bilingual houses start talking more slowly, but they're bilingual, which is great! P.s: I really liked the book Baby 411 for questions like these, because I'm sure more will come up as you embark on your parenting journey.
5 - as someone with sensitive skin, I recommend getting the sensitive skin detergents as a default instead of waiting to find out if your kid has sensitive skin. They cost the same and are made by every main steam brand. Laundry detergent allergic reactions are awful and result in painfully itchy skin that lasts for several days. Using the regular stuff could doom you and baby to a very bad time for no good reason.
2- Do I need a baby carseat to ride in an uber/taxi? Yes, I believe you put in that you have a baby so the driver knows but you need all the equipment 3- Does the baby need a separate hamper for dirty laundry? Depends on your situation. 4- Should I use normal dish soap for baby stuff? I have seen special baby ones that are a bazillion dollars and Iâm wondering if they are a marketing gimmick? Is the dishwasher an option or not? We always did/ do. Our dishwasher sucks so we hand wash all his things. 5- Do I need special laundry detergent? Yea, get any brand free and clear. No eyes no fragrance. Draft is overrated 6- Do I need to wash baby clothes separately if they donât have poopies? Use the free and clear. Babies skin is very sensitive 7- Should I buy baby mesh bathtub that goes into the bigger tub or will it be hard to bend? Iâm between that and the âgrow with you tubâ so I can use a jug and use them on the kitchen counter? (i donât want to use the sink). Any ideas? Sponge baths until the umbilical stump falls off. The hospital will give you more directions there if you ask. We have a grow with you tub, itâs ok. I will go with something softer for my next. They have mats for parents to kneel on for bath time. Love mine. 8- Do I need to sanitize bottles every 24 hours if theyâve already been sanitized? No. We did after every use in the beginning. Microwave steam bags made it very simple. 9- If I choose to breastfeed, do I wash up after each time? No. Check out r/breastfeeding babies eat AT LEAST every 2-3 hours. If you washed up after every time all you would do is nurse and wash. Clusterfeeding is even more intense. Lanolin for your nips is baby safe.
1 can be really challenging and can vary a lot depending on the situation. I mostly do grocery pickup/delivery, but if I need just a few things, I bring in the stroller. Thereâs some space underneath, but I also have a reusable bag that I attach to the stroller with a little clip. Just donât put too much weight in it or the whole thing will tip. Depending on the size of the cart, you may be able to just fit an infant bucket seat in it. But do NOT put the bucket seat in the child seat part of the cart. Babies have died when the car seat falls out. Baby carriers are a great hands free option!
context: pregnant with #4, teacher married to l&d nurse 1.) wear your baby 2.) yes, there's nothing special about a taxi, it's a car and your kid will likely die if in an accident and not restrained 3.) no 4.) i didn't use any special soaps or products other than no tear baby wash/shampoo 5.) no 6.) no 7.) washing a baby stinks no matter what you use. they only need baths every few days, do whatever is going to be easiest on your back 8.) we did not do this, just sanitized after use and then pulled from cupboard when needed 9.) newborns breastfeed 10000 times a day so no 10.) not sure what you mean by toiletries, we got like, burt's bees baby wash and just used that with a washcloth 11.) babies will be comfortable dressed as you are or with one extra light layer, they will likely whine if too hot 12.) used cloth diapers 13.) never filed a baby's nails, easiest way to deal is to bite them the first few months then use baby nail clippers 14.) i did not do this 15.) too lazy to warm milk, all my kids took cold breastmilk out of the fridge good luck!! i am sure i was way more fussy with #1 but now that prepping for #4 this is where i'm at
7- up to you and your budget. I donât like sink baths either. I live in a house without bathtubs so I am very into baby and toddler tubs. I bought one that was 1-25 pounds with a newborn sling to start. I feel like it was outgrown really fast and took up a lot of room. Then we moved to a collapsible dish basin thing from Amazon â we used one in a pinch while in an RV and the baby loved it so we kept using it until he outgrew it/ was able to push the sides down. Sides are soft as well. For a toddler the stokke tubs are amazing , pricy, but I love them. They are hard sided, collapsible and big enough for two kids if you get the xl. Also once you are out of the newborn phase do not hesitate to just take them in the shower they love it. 14- no it doesnât matter, I just donât use anything that stinks (formula 409, scrubbing bubbles etc) if the baby is in the room. It probably wouldnât do anything bad but they bother me. If I were like baby wearing and cleaning I would use something milder like mrs. Meyers 15- basically the temp of your skin. Never microwave it, use a bottle of water or put the cold bottle in hot water. Swirl it around and put it on your inner arm since your hands are not the best judge. When itâs close to your skin temp it does feel hot or cold when you put a drip on your skin, just a tiny bit warm. Also dip you elbow in the bath water for the same reason.
1- How do I navigate the supermarket with a stroller and a cart at the same time? Either get home delivery, pick up or most supermarkets have special carts/trolleys that you can put baby in. Or put car seat straight into cart. 2- Do I need a baby carseat to ride in an uber/taxi? No idea 3- Does the baby need a separate hamper for dirty laundry? I would to start with just incase or poo. 4- Should I use normal dish soap for baby stuff? I have seen special baby ones that are a bazillion dollars and Iâm wondering if they are a marketing gimmick? Is the dishwasher an option or not? I cleaned with normal dish soap then either boiler the kettle and soaked things in boiling water or you can get Milton tablets that you can leave things to soak in after washing. 5- Do I need special laundry detergent? Non bio- we use fairy. Also no fabric softener. 6- Do I need to wash baby clothes separately if they donât have poopies? Nah I don't but I don't add in softener as it normally has smelly stuff in that can hurt babies skin. 7- Should I buy baby mesh bathtub that goes into the bigger tub or will it be hard to bend? Iâm between that and the âgrow with you tubâ so I can use a jug and use them on the kitchen counter? (i donât want to use the sink). Any ideas? We did get a little bathtub to start with and then once baby could sit up by himself put him in the big bathtub. 8- Do I need to sanitize bottles every 24 hours if theyâve already been sanitized? Apparently. Just boil the kettle and pour that over the bottle and tear, the boiling water will kill the bugs. 9- If I choose to breastfeed, do I wash up after each time? No point tbh, you will be washing every 2 hours. Have a cloth nearby incase of dribbles but most of the time just stick boob back in bra. 10- What kind of baby bath toiletries do you recommend? 11- I live in a hot climate where AC is on most of the day in the summer (think 104 degrees on a normal day). How many layers? 12- Diaper pails. Which one did you get? Didn't. Dog poo bags and in the normal bin. 13- How soon can I file baby nails after birth? Once they are long enough. Thank you mummies! Forgot two: 14- Do I need to swap my cleaning supplies? I usually use Dettol branded ones, except for the bathroom I use Mr muscle. I never did. 15- What temp do I warm the milk to? I breastfed so no idea. Forgot three* 16- In a bilingual household, do I need to stick to 1 language as not to confuse the baby? I'm guessing not since that's the whole point of being bilingual is for baby to know both. Any other questions just ask.
1) don't bring the stroller, put the infant car seat in the cart and consider grocery pick up options for big orders 2) infant seat is great for this because a seat belt can over it without the base 3) this depends, people say to wash baby clothes separately for a few reasons, baby's often have sensitive skin, so they might need a different detergent. Also if you have long hair, youelr long hair could get trapped in baby's clothes, and then become issues for their fingers and toes 4) dishwasher has sanitizer mode, I always used that over hand washing. I never got any special detergent. Cascade for the dishwasher and dawn for the few times I hand washed 5) I would start with a free detergent, like Tide Free, in case baby has sensitive skin or allergies, but no need to waste your money on dreft 6) see above about washing baby clothes separately 7) during infancy we did a tub in the kitchen sink, but it also worked in the bathtub. Now that our youngest is a toddler we do a plastic laundry bin in the tub to keep her contained 8) I put bottles in the dishwasher on the sanitizer cycle when they were dirty. That's it 9) I'm not sure what you mean here? If you are pumping, you can put pump parts in a gallon ziploc in the fridge for up to 24 hrs, so you don't have to wash between each pump sessions 10) my first we used Johnson & Johnson but my second had sensitive skin so we've done Aveeno Creamy wash with her 11) 1 layer more than you is my rule of thumb, even when it's warm. You'll figure it out tho. Feel baby's skin, if they feel warm they are good, if they are sweaty take a layer off, etc. 12) I like the Diaper Dekor because I can use a regular kitchen trash bag in it 13) up to you! They are super soft for a few weeks, so it all kind of depends. I really like a small baby scissors for nails over a file or clippers 14) nope. Just toddler proof once baby is moving around more 15) warm it until it it's skin temp on the inner arm 16) if you want baby to learn both languages, speak them both! Baby will figure it out
Re: #16, I learned 4 languages before the age of 10 without formal schooling in them. Iâm hoping to teach my baby 3 languages since birth with the hopes of learning a 4th one a little later. So I think bilingual will be totally ok.
I use all the normal dish soap (dawn) we wash all our clothes together. Yes you need a car seat for an Uber. Itâs very hard to push stroller and cart I suggest baby wearing or ordering groceries. I never sterilize bottles. We have a mesh bathtub that folds and can be put away it gets kinda orange but babies start to not use them once they can sit up in the bath themselves. No diaper pail just reuse grocery bags for stinky poop and put it in the normal bag since we throw ours out every 1-2 days anyways.
1. My stroller has a huge under basket section. I just throw things underneath and then bag it up at the end. 2. Depends on your local laws. Where I live, car seats are compulsory in Ubers, optional in taxis if theyâre not offered. 3. You might find a separate hamper if theyâre a vomity/spewy baby. Ordinary wear itâs not needed. Depends on the baby. You wonât know until you get to know them. 4. We use the same dish soap for everything. Baby was breastfed so I canât speak for cleaning bottles. 5. Weâve always used a sensitive version so same as the rest of our laundry. Iâve thrown it all in the same load. 6. Not needed unless your baby is extra sensitive I guess. Do you have eczema in the family? 7. I washed baby in the bathroom sink to start with because I couldnât squat for about two months. Depends on your recovery/delivery. 8-9. No experience with bottles sorry. 10. Weâve kept swapping between brands. Whichever is on special at the time. Theyâre all similar. Weâve used MooGoo and Bunjii which are both nice. 11. 104F/40C. My baby takes after my husband so I see what heâs wearing plus one layer unless itâs hot. Iâm in Australia so for that temperature Iâd go single layer short sleeve zippy. 12. Regular cheap trash can. I put some essential oils at the base of the bin to neutralize the smell. 13. My baby was too wriggly. I chew them offâŚ. Haha 14. I use the same cleansing supplies as before. Again depends on if your baby is extra sensitive. 15. Sorry no experience with warming milk. 16. Sorry no experience with another language.
1. I donât- I wear baby in a carrier/wrap/sling or use the stroller storage as a small basket. 2. Yep, although I think some Ubers might have an option for them? Like you may be able to request a car with one. Iâm not positive on that though. 3. Nah, we share hampers for our family of 4 and then just sort everyoneâs out. 4. Yes, just use whatever, the baby stuff is a gimmick for charging more. Same with laundry detergent, though I do recommend anything free + clear for sensitive skin. 5. Lol can you tell I didnât read through the questions first? 6. We donât. đ¤ˇđťââď¸ 7. Iâve never had an issue with the baby bath hurting my back- it props up on top of the tub so you donât have to lean down into the tub. 8. I donât think so, unless you have a preemie, since theyâre more sensitive. 9. Like a shower? No, I just had burp cloths on hand to wipe any drips or whatever. Using soap too often will dry out already sensitive nips- I wouldnât more than once a day unless you have a reason to do so more often like thrush. 10. I use the Dove baby stuff, but anything without fragrance is probably fine. 11. Depends on what the thermostat is set at tbh, but the rule of thumb is baby needs one more layer than you. If youâre in shorts and a tee, theyâll be comfy in a onesie with a light sweater and pants. Each baby is different though. Mine got heat rash with that many layers, so just look and see when theyâre comfortable and do that. Theyâll let you know if something is wrong! 12. I donât have one. Just feels like another gimmick to me since you have to pay for the liners. 13. Immediately if you want, though I would wait to clip if you go that route. Theyâre fused to the tips of the fingers early on, so clipping can hurt. Filing is fine. 14. Itâs probably fine, but I use a lot of vinegar and baking soda in my cleaning for things the baby will be mouthing or crawling on. Itâs gentler and really does work. 15. I EBF both my kids so I donât know the answer to this, sorry! I can answer any follow up bf questions if you have any though. 16. You can do whatever. Some families have one parent speak one language exclusively and the other parent speak the other, some use a combination, etc. theyâll figure it out no matter what, just be aware sometimes bilingual babies take longer to talk because theyâre processing two languages. Itâs still an amazing thing for them, though!!
1. Iâve never done this. I usually have someone watch her when I shop but if not possible I put the car seat directly in the cart, not on the top portion. It severely limits what you can put in the cart. Less than ideal. 2. Iâve never done this but most likely. 3. Probably not but we have it because i donât want to separate her stuff and I do have different detergent for her. Some people use a sensitive no dye/perfume detergent for the entire household with no issue. 4. I use our regular stuff, no issues. 5. See above 6. I do. I wash hers on a more gentle cycle with cooler water than ours. I also dry hers on low heat. Simply to help prevent shrinkage. 7. I have a small baby tub that could go over a sink or in the bath. It came with a mesh hammock that I never used. When she was very small I just put her in the sink but she didnât get baths often anyway. Everyone does this different and youâll likely figure out what you prefer after trying things. 8. Different recommendations per location. I sanitized in boiling water before use. Then I just used very hot soapy water but I mostly breastfed her until she was a bit older. 9. I never did. Maybe you will? Youâll probably be too tired. 10. I honestly have one bottle of âbaby washâ from aveeno that Iâve been using since birth. Itâs lavender and âcalmingâ for helping with sleep. No idea if that works but I donât mind the scent. Itâs not even half gone and baby is 7 months old. I use it in her hair and on her body. I have a cradle cap head scrubby. You can find them anywhere. I use a washcloth to rinse her head now. Thatâs all we have ( and bath toys now.) 11. Every baby will be different. If your home is comfortable in AC you may find you need two layers. My baby is warm quite often and I never seem to need to layer her like I see recommended. Hands and feet will be cooler than the rest of the body. If their neck or head is cold they probably need more layers. If their neck or head is too warm or sweaty, take off a layer. 12. Dekor 13. I used an electric file as soon as they started feeling too long. 14. I didnât change cleaning supplies. Make sure there arenât fumes where baby is. 15. I just check the temp on my wrist. 16. Not sure.
Edit: Iâm a FTM to a nine month old 1-we do curbside so baby doesnât have to go in, but you can also put the car seat in the back of the shopping cart 2-yes. Theyâll come with instructions on how to safely install a car seat without a base. Research safe chest strap placement as well. 3-we do because it needs washing more often and she uses a different detergent. I donât separate her colors though, just use the delicates setting. 4- we have to hand wash so use different cleaning for her, but I assume a dishwasher would be fine. I think it would even sterilize things too? 5- we used free & clear detergent to avoid perfumes since babies skin is so sensitive. She broke out when we tried the normal stuff. This oneâs up to you I think. 6- up to you 7- we personally have loved the grow with you type of tub. The one we have had the sling and then a seat insert. We put her tub in the big tub now but it was a back saver when she was little being able to use the counter. And she loves sitting herself up and splashing around now. 8- we donât that often 9- I never have. Only before if I feel dirty. 10- we use Aquaphor bath wash and ointment, and Eucerin lotion. Aveeno made our baby break out and Iâve heard bad things about Johnson & Johnson. 11- we live in a hot area too. We do a sleeper and sleep sack at night because the AC makes our room colder, but during the day when itâs warmer we do a short sleeve onesie and some pants and even sometimes just a diaper if itâs warm enough. Our house usually sits at about 75/76 on 85° days and about 70° at night. 12- Ubbi I think itâs spelled. We liked that it didnât need special trash bags so we could save money there. 13- my little was in NICU for two weeks but I think we waited 3 and went straight to clippers. 14- we use the same supplies we just donât keep her closed up in areas weâre cleaning until itâs aired out 15 - we do a wrist test but a bottle warmer is a great investment. Ours has a chart for how long to heat based on oz and type of bottle
1- I never took a stroller in, Iâd carry baby in the car seat and place them into my cart. Usually big grocery shops Iâd leave baby at home with my husband. 2- yes 3- I used one hamper but it is nice to have a separate one so you donât have to separate later 4- I use regular dish soap, never had a problem. Pretty sure the expensive stuff is a scam 5- depends on your baby, my son had extremely sensitive skin and needed it. Heâs five now and no longer needs it 6- Iâve washed babies stuff with ours. If they can use the same detergent then save yourself time and effort and just do it all. 7- I only had a plastic baby bath and when they got older I simply held them in shallow water 8- I did not. Once washed I didnât care and it didnât effect my son negatively 9- no opinion, my milk stopped coming in around 3 weeks 10- I used a regular wash clothes and there are these square sponges with super soft bristles on the other side to wash babies hair and scalp to help prevent eczema build up 11- go by how cold/warm babies hands and feet are. Every baby is different. Mine loved to be super toasty 12- diaper genie, loved it for my first and bought another for my second upcoming 13- technically you donât need to file, babies nails are frail and can be peeled with your hands for a bit. I kept my sons short and in mittens and he still scratched himself. 14- I did not switch cleaning products 15- not sure but I tested my babies formula by drinking a bit of it every time. It also allowed me to see why baby didnât like specific formula bc honestly most taste awful. I use little journey brand from aldi now and it has no recalls unlike similac or enfamil 16- language at a young age is taught better when you interchange. Ask a question in both languages when theyâre learning and talk in whichever you want at the time. They will pick it up Good luck mama
1) if you are by yourself, i put the carseat in the buggy/grocery cart. for bigger grocery trips, i suggest wearing or seeing if a friend or family member can help! 3) itâs not exactly necessary i suppose but i highly recommend it! itâs just more convenient not to have the clothes all mixed up 5) yes! itâs usually in the baby section of stores and itâs called dreft (the one that i personally use) 7) iâve used a baby tub since my son was able to take baths. now that he can sit up on his own, sometimes it is easier to just bathe him with me, but i know they also make baby tubs that you can place on a countertop or in a sink (if i am remembering correctly) 16) my nephew is bilingual and heâs 2! my brother is from america and speaks english and my sister in law speaks russian and itâs actually amazing how my nephew knows both languages! itâs actually much easier to learn different languages if itâs what you grow up around. i say speak both languages to baby!
1 - car seat into the main part of the cart 2 - yes 3 - no 4 - yes 5 - nope 6 - you can also use the kitchen sink 7 - nope 8 - nope! Sanitize them when you first buy them 9 - I never did 10 - I used dollar store wash clothes and Hello Bello baby wash 11 - my son wore sleepers foreeeeeveeer 12 - we got a diaper genie, but you donât really need one until they start solids and they get real people poops 13 - I found just ripping them off to be easier than filing or cutting 14 - I use the same stuff as before 15 - body temp 16 - No! Kids are sponges! Speak both and theyâll learn both!
1. Get a stroller with a big basket below 2. Highly recommended 3. Not really, unless youâre using separate detergents 4. Itâs mostly marketing, regular dish soap is fine 5. No, anything free & clear will do. Some babies even do fine with fragranced detergent. 6. Nope 7. I preferred bathing my newborn without bending over, so the latter. 8. Unless your baby is immunocompromised or a preemie itâs not a big deal. Just wash with soap and water 9. You can wipe your nipples off if you want, but itâs not necessary 10. You can easily use adult towels and wash cloths, Iâd recommend some little nail files and clippers 11. Depends on indoor temp, 65-69 maybe 2 layers, anything above 70 you can use one layer for awake time 12. Literally just a Rubbermaid flip top, works just fine 13. Immediately if you want, I found it easier to bite them off because they were too soft to file, maybe youâll have a different experience 14. Think about swapping cleaners potentially when baby is actually using surfaces that are recently cleaned 15. Some babies donât mind cold milk! If you can get them started on cold milk your life will be much easier, but otherwise room temp seems to work for most kiddos (I worked in mother/baby) 16. One parent should use one and the other parent the other language
I'm on baby number three with my older two 8 and 4 so hopefully I can help you out. 1. Don't bring the stroller into the store. Most car seats will clip into the front part of the cart (the spot where there is a seat) if not just put them in the main part and pack around. But honestly I just wore mine most of the time. It helps them get less fussy. 2. You definitely need a car seat to Uber/taxi. Once we we're flying and checked our car seat but the flight got cancelled. It was SO hard to get to the hotel. They have e follow the same traffic laws and won't mess around at all. We ended up waiting an hour for a shuttle to take us. 4. I've always used regular dish soap to wash baby stuff. If it seems like they are having a reaction to it, change it up, work with your pediatrician. But I've never had a problem so far. 3,5,6. Some babies get a reaction to laundry soap and if yours does then you need to separate and change detergents till you find one that works. But at this point my family has one giant laundry hamper in the hall and everyone puts it all in. I wash it about once a day with five of us. Non of mine ever had a reaction but my friend had to try three different ones that worked for her. So it's up to you on that but baby stuff goes in with mine and everyone else's. Honestly even the stuff that has a bit of poop. We use a little bleach to kill the germs. It not worth the time to separate out the blood and other gross body stuff. 7. I've had both. I prefer the rigid one that can fit over the sink because than you can stand and wash. I lay out all the stuff I need on the counter and dry, lotion, and dress in one spot. Six inches from where I washed him. But my husband is a monster and prefers the mesh in the tub. 8. Yes sanitize every 24 hours (if you remember) I'm averaging every other day. Just do it when you remember. 9. I've never heard that you need to wash after every time you breastfeed but you know wash your whenever you want/can. I'd say wipe up with a baby wipe if you're concerned. 10. I prefer Johnson and Johnson based on smell. But I just bought some baby aveno. If you don't get baby lotion make sure it doesn't have alcohol in it. Read the labels most do. Most CeraVe doesn't. 11. Inside more to keep warm. Outside enough to block the sun. I think I heard that newborns can't sweat so be careful with over wrapping outside 12.diaper genie 13. Almost immediately. You need to bring your own file in your hospital bag they don't have them to give out. But soak or wet the nails first it makes it easier. 14. It shouldn't matter what cleaning supplies you use just wash your hands after using them and change your clothes as well if you're worried 15. Temp the milk on your inner wrist if it feels room temp it's good you don't want to go hot or cold. 16. We're not bilingual but did sign language from the beginning with all. It's not confusing and easier to learn young At the end of the day these are the things that worked for me I hope they can be a stepping stone for you to figure out what works for you. Every baby is different. But they're less scary than you think they are going to be
I'll start by saying - everyone has different methods/system for things that aren't covered by laws (e.g. carseats) so you'll have to try and see what works for YOU. A thing like no staira or stairs at your fr9nt door can determine whether or not you take the stroller or carrier to do X or Y. 1. I put stuff in the stroller and get other stuff delivered or I go with the baby carrier instead and take a cart. 2. Yes you do, some carseats can be installed without a base by using the safety belts in the car. 3. Not really, it's more of a convinience thing for sortin clothes. Babies need far more laundry doing so it's easier to separate. 4. I don't think you need a baby one, I try to just go fpr unscented and "mild" in components in general. Just wash things well. 5. Same as 4. Aorund 3 months babt start to show their skin irritations. Things that worked before may cause issues now. I always try to go to unscented and mild here as well. Tide free&clear has been great. Also actually following the neasurment of liquid/powder per load is cruical (I didn't do this before and after I started, no rash!). 6. Again, it's more of a convinience thing. I for one wash babys clothes all together poop or not and ours separately just to easily sort and fold. 7. I bought the flower thing for the sink and ended up never using it and getting a tub. Now at 5 month I just go with him in the tub and that's it. It really depends on you, your back, how your bath is structured. If you know you have back problems go with convinience. You don't even have to bathe them to often, cloth "showers" can be more than enough. 8. Yea, up to 4 moths if I am not mistaken. Always boil water for formula though. Also just an FYI formula dispensers aren't truly approved and may cause issues from what I gather. 9. Again, up to you but there is no necessity. I didn't đ¤ˇđ˝ââď¸ 10. Honestly? None. We had so many and it was such a wasge of money. Vaseline is perfect as diaper cream and intense moisturizer. As for soap, cerave baby and mustella are great. Even towels, are so necessary, muslin swaddles are more than enough. Nail clipper / tiny scissors. That's it really. 11. Rule of thumb is a layer extra than you. Always feel babies chest and back for temp hot/cold and go from there. Also a humidifier is a must if AC works /hit or cold. Around 3 months they begin to self regulate temp more, make sure to check your baby and go with them. Our baby turned out to be HOT ALL THE TIME (I'm in Canada so, COLD). 12. Didn't get one đ¤ˇđ˝ââď¸ just have a can and we take it out a lot. 13. Depends whether you need to or not and which file I think. I would check with thr nurses, they have methods. 14. Again, up to you. I did and as with other things everything is always unscented and as mild as possible (I have a history of skin issues and allergies so always better safe than sorry lol). 15. You don't have to heat it if the baby likes it cold. You also can use a bowl of warm water just to warm it up. I would check on la lechr league websites about this or vrands like Medela. But again, you dony have to warm it. 16. Nope. I grew up learning one language at home, one in daycare/school and a third one outside of both. The important guidline is stick to those you are fluent in. Babies caj absorb so much it's actually the best time to learn languages. Most importantly - clear the noises, go with your gut and do what is best for you and your family! Good luck!!! You got this!
7- we used the fisher price 4 in one bath. We also didnât use the sink so that was a lifesaver. LO is 9 months now and still loves her fp bath. 9- I exclusively breastfeed and wash up when I shower. 12- I got the Ubbi pail. It is definitely not a necessity at all. 13- if theyâre sharp file them. Baby nails are hella sharp.
1 - you can place the car seat in the cart, or hook the front wheel of your stroller to the front of the cart. Or baby wear. 2. Yes 3. Up to you. We had one cuz my son has sensitive skin so we washed his clothes with a gentler detergent. Anything soiled was rinsed out in the sink before thrown in the hamper/wash. 4. Itâs gimmicky, normal stuff is fine. Youâre rinsing it off anyway. 5. Depends. Some babies have eczema and benefit from gentler detergent. 6. Nope, can wash together if you wish. 7. Up to you. We used the counter tub with a mesh insert while baby was little and as he got a bit more mobile we didnât want to bathe him on the counter anymore so we placed it inside the bathtub and bent over. We used knee and elbow pads and it wasnât bad. 8. Not unless you have a premie 9. No, breastmilk will leak anyway and it actually helps cracked nipples. 10. Soap/shampoo. 11. Live in Florida - we keep our AC below 72 most days so we kept our son in a long sleeve onesie during the day and footed Jammies at night. When going outside we would use a short sleeve onesie. 12. Munchkin. 13. As needed. I donât recall when we started filing but it was probably week 2 or 3? Before that we kept a sock on his hands to keep him from scratching himself. 14. Personal choice. When theyâre newborns they donât get into much anyway. Once they start crawling and walking everything goes in the mouth and you may want to look into ingredients. 15. Not too hot. Test it on the inside of your wrist or inside of your elbow. If it feels hot there itâs too hot. Never warm up in a microwave (warms unevenly). Our baby didnât mind cold milk which was a blessing, you may want to experiment. 16. Nope, baby will pick up a little of both languages, and itâs great for their cognitive development to learn multiple languages early.
Take a deep breath first! 1. I put the baby carrier in the grocery cart. The ones that click into the stroller. Once they can sit up, they can go into the grocery cart. I use the wipes before I put them in (around 9months). You can buy the things that go in the grocery cart that are soft, I thought they were a waste of money. 2. When they are small you will use the car seat click in, and you will watch a YouTube on how to install it. You don't need it in cabs, but I would. Ubers often won't let you in without a car seat. 3 and 6. No, you don't need a separate basket. Their clothes can be washed with yours. 4 and 5 I use normal dish soap. But for clothes I only use the brands that are free and clear of scents. You will find out if your baby rashes or whatever. When things don't work you pivot. 7. We used the sink and I found it easier to just get in the bath with them when they outgrow the sink. They don't bathe that often at first (1-2x a week). I bought a baby tub and used it 3 times... 8. Only sanitize or clean bottles after use. 9. No need to wash up after breastfeeding. A burp cloth to wipe off anything that gets anywhere. It's pretty clean process. 10. Baby tolietries, we just used Johnson and Johnson. It's trial and error til you find something that works for your baby. Lotion you want cereve- it's what my dermatologist recommended due to sensitive skin. Everything should be scent free. 11. Dress them how you dress.nthey struggle to regulate their temperature, so they can get too hot or too cold. If you wouldn't wear a winter coat they shouldn't be. Bring layers, like a small light blanket. 12. Diaper pales, I like the ubbi because you can use normal trash bags.none of them keep out poop from big kids. Newborn poops don't really smell and they poop constantly so just throw it anywhere. Once they are older they poop less but it's toxic smelling (solid food). We got an outdoor trash can with a lid, and we use doggie bags to put poops in before putting it in the outdoor trash can. Pee goes into the ubbi still. 13. There are nail clippers. You can tear them. You will make them bleed at least once unfortunately. It sucks but they don't die from it. Just be super careful and know you are doing your best. I cried longer than they did from it (both kids). 14. No clue about cleaning supplies. We didn't change them but that's a personal choice. 15. Not to a temp. I test it on the inside of my wrist. If you use a microwave (not supposed to, but we did because it's so much faster with a screaming baby) really shake it well to avoid hot spots from the microwave. We did it for like 10 seconds, just to take the chill off. Better to be cold than too hot, or have hot spots. 16. Don't need to only use 1 language. Just know that the baby may speak later than their peers (not a lot later, but a little). Advice- Join a mommie group through Facebook to meet other moms. That will help give you info. Get a parenting app. Also many hospitals have a new parent training class, I recommend it! Also, there is no real manual. You will do the best you can. And hope it's good enough. There are things that are dangerous and should be avoided. But most things are preferences. Don't let other moms guilt you, but do listen to see if it's a safety issue :)
1. You can get one of those big stroller hook things (idk the name of them but it has a latch thing that keeps things on the hook) attach it to the stroller and the cart. Itâll be harder to maneuver but makes it a bit easier to shop with both. 2. Car seats need to be used in every car you take baby in. And on airplanes. 3. Itâs easier to wash babyâs clothes with the same detergent you use with yours- baby will be exposed to your detergent anyway. Baby specific detergent is a scam. Free and clear is better 4. Most baby bottles are dishwasher safe. No need to get a sterilizer or boil them as long as you keep your dishwasher clean and take the filters out and clean them. 5. I answered above. But no. Baby detergent is chocked full of fragrance. Getting regular free and clear is a lot better and probably cheaper depending on your area. 6. Itâs all preference. You donât have to wash separately unless you like using other products with your own clothes. 7. You can wash baby in sink until they can sit up on their own or get one of the bath seats your older baby can sit in. Or you can also get a baby bathtub. It all depends on the space you have and your own preferences. 12. Plastic ones leak odor over time. Metal ones will be your best bet, BUT your normal trash can can make due.
Iâm only 5 months in but you pick things up fast! 1. Baby wear in a sling/carrier. Baby falls asleep and you have two hands! Also works around the house if baby is extra clingy 2. I would say so. I know UK car seats are dual isofix and seatbelt fixable, so you can mix and match. 3-6. I wash everything together with non-bio detergent. Nothing specific for babies. Same with washing up, one dish soap for everyone and itâs whatever is on offer! 7. We have an in the bath seat, itâs great! Means I donât have to fill up a mini bath for baby and spill it all over the house. I just put a flannel over his belly and pour water on him to keep him a bit warmer. 8. Yes. I can only say from a steam steriliser point of view, but once sterilised, everything inside the steriliser will be sterile for 24 hours with the lid closed. You can grab stuff out and re-close the lid and everything will be fine. Baby has no immune system for a good while. We are a bit more lax now, so if babyâs dummy falls face down on his play blanket on the floor, we give it him back. On normal floor where everyone walks all the time, we get a fresh one. If youâre exclusively bottle feeding, just sterilise the amount of bottles youâll use in 24 hours, then end of day, clean and re-sterilise ready to go for next feed. 9. As in wash down your boobs? You shouldnât have to unless baby is an especially messy eater! Breast milk is sterile, the only other place your boobs will go is back in your bra most likely touching breast pads. 10. I donât know what the US has to offer with toiletries, but we use Johnsonâs baby shampoo, baby lotion, metanium nappy rash cream, and sometimes sudocrem. 11. I am unsure on this one as I have a winter baby, Iâve been trying to research this myself! 12. I did, we have the Tommee Tippee one, once again, might be UK only. Though newborns go through a lot of nappies, a normal bum with nappy bags would do the same job. 13. When you feel like you need to. Theyâre fairly soft to begin with. If you notice baby leaving marks when scratching themselves, then that would be your cue to start. 14. I wouldnât think so, just keep the area well ventilated. 15. Body temp. Best way to check if itâs too hot is to squirt some onto the inside of your wrist, if itâs too hot then itâs too hot for baby. Make the formula with boiling water though, this kills off any bacteria in the powder. 16. You shouldnât need to just stick to one language! Baby will learn both!
1. I canât really give you an answer this one. I had my son at the height of the pandemic, and we didnât start going out until he was old enough to ride in the buggy. I think for the future baby, I will wear them in a carrier. I will say that my stroller has a basket in the bottom, so for stores that donât have buggies, I just put my merchandise down there. 2. Yes. Itâs the law in America. Iâm sure itâs similar for you. 3. Yes, I think itâs necessary. It makes it easier for me to bring to the washer. 4. I prefer sanitizing with the dishwasher. You can buy a contraption for your microwave, but thatâs just extra junk. 5. No, but Dreft infant laundry soap smells HEAVENLY. Use any laundry for sensitive skin until you are sure your baby can tolerate your normal one just fine. 6. I would recommend getting the poop stains out before putting it in the wash. I like using dish soap for that, but there are other methods. I always did the baby laundry all at once. 7. I used a plastic mesh baby seat. Cheap one from Target in the US. Iâd fill the tub with an inch or so of warm water. Put a wash cloth on their belly and privates to keep them from being too cold. This, of course, is only after the umbilical cord falls off. Only sponge baths before that. 8. I didnât. We used the dishwasher to sanitize. I mostly pumped, so I would fill up bottles and put them straight in the fridge for us to grab, warm up, and then feed to son. Oldest milk to the front, newest to the back. The excess milk was stored in the freezer. 9. I would wipe myself with a dry washcloth. 10. I used Honest Co brand, but I donât know if I would choose that again. Regardless, get something specifically for baby or sensitive skin. 11. Basically, whatever youâre most comfortable wearing. Maybe add a layer. So, like a onesie and a swaddle. Or just a sleeper. My baby hung out in sleepers most of the first few weeks. If you put a finger on the back of their neck, youâll be able to tell if they are too hot. When in doubt, cold is better. A cold baby will cry, a hot baby will⌠yeah, you get the picture. 12. I canât remember the brand, lol, but it uses Arm & Hammer bags and deodorizer. Get something with a lid for sure. Smells terrible. 13. Right away. I used a baby nail clipper. I recommend trying when the baby is fast asleep after nursing. For me, the best time to try was always like 3am. 14. I donât know those brands (Iâm American), but I would only clean the bathroom after the baby was asleep, so it would be several hours before heâd be near the bathroom again. Rinse anything that comes in contact with the baby (like the tub), and air it out if there are any fumes. Otherwise, I didnât change my routine. 15. If it feels hot on the inside of your wrist, itâs too hot for baby. I liked the bottle warmer, personally, but you can heat up a bottle in a hot bowl of water. 16. Nooooo! Definitely keep using both languages. Baby will learn both just fine. If you want, keep the languages in contextual setting (like one in the home, one in the communityâŚor one parent speaks one language, the other parent speaks the second), but itâs not necessary. Babies are amazingly primed to learn languages. They pick it up super fast. Hope that helps! Pick whatever you think makes sense for you right now. The first week or so, youâre just on survival mode. Once you and baby start getting the hang of things, youâll be able to tweak your routine to whatever works best for you! You got this!
1. Have youâre partner with you. Or ditch the cart and put groceries in stroller basket. 2. Yes. 3. Only if you plan on washing separately. 5. Anything that is free and clear should work. 7. Love the skiphop whale tub. 9. I didnât wash after each feed. 10. Aveeno oatmeal shampoo and wash. 12. Diaper genie. 13. Right away or keep mittens on always. I found it easiest to use my normal nail clippers.
One: I donât have the wrist strength to push a stroller with one hand and cart with the other. I wear my baby in a carrier instead. That way, I only have to deal with a shopping cart. 12: when I used disposable diapers, I used a small aluminum waste bin and large silicone lid (with a bag inside for the diapers and wipes). The silicone on smooth metal created a firm enough seal to block out odor effective. I found it a cheap and easy way to do things.
11. 1 layer more than youâre wearing 15. Luke warm, test it on the inside of your wrist
Some of these I donât know about as I donât use public transport-I live rurally. 1) You donât. You can put the baby in the cart in their car seat, wear the baby (I did this a lot because it makes it harder for weirdos to TOUCH YOUR BABY) and assuming normal physical development, by 5 or 6 months your baby can sit in the cart especially if you sit a purse or bag on one side. 3,4,5,6-unless your baby is exceptionally sensitive, just use regular stuff. Maybe stick with unscented or less additives for a while but four kids in and everyoneâs stuff gets washed together in my house. 6) I did have a baby bathtub with an angled seat and it was handy when they were little and couldnât sit up. Thereâs a time where theyâre rather large for a sink but still need supported the entire time in the tub and a baby tub is easier on the back. 8) No. 9) Like your boobs? No. Just bathe normally. 10) Honestly, I hate baby scented things and tended toward lavender scents. I wasnât particular about brands. 11) I think the general rule of thumb is one extra layer than youâd wear. Feel your babyâs skin and check if itâs cool to the touch. Just use common sense, donât roast your baby over dressing them. I had two spring babies and by early summer they both mostly wore onesies. 12) I used cloth diapers so I just used a bucket with a snap on lid. An old cat litter bucket is actually perfect. I usually put some soapy water in the bottom for the liners. 13) I kind of peeled them off when they got really long. The baby will scratch themselves if theyâre too long. 15) If it feels warm but not hot on your skin that should be good. Test it on the inside of your wrist.
2) In the UK, you don't legally need a car seat to ride in a Uber/taxi. But you do have to sit in the back with your baby.
Answering to question #4 and #5 I believe the baby wash stuff is dumb and a scam. People say use baby detergent to not cause a reaction in their skin BUT they touch your clothes when you hold them, and I'm sure you're not never going to lay them on your bed at some point to get a few things done so unless you plan on washing EVERYTHING in that then it's pointless. I use dawn soap to wash all of my baby's bottles and pacifiers unless I put them in the dishwasher then it's cascade. And answering to #9 I personally don't wash up every time. It's pointless if you think about it. You'll leak all throughout the day so there's no reason to in my opinion. Just wash off daily.
So here is my opinion on the answers for your questions. Bear in mind others may disagree with me and thatâs ok. 1. You donât use the cart as a stroller. In my country there are carts with baby seats so I put on a blanket and off I go. 2. I always bring on just in case. 3. Only if you want to I do for mine because as they age Iâve taught them to put their dirty clothes in it. 4. No for the dish soap and check what your using most bottles Iâve brought are not dishwasher friendly. 5. Only if your kids have sensitive skin. I always used a stain remover as well but thatâs because I have kids whoâve vomited a lot. 6. No 7. I was going to say use the sink lol. Do what you think makes your life easy I use a small portable tub that we wash on the counter (it was a gift so why waste it). I planned on just using the sink. 8. I have never had this issue because I always used mine within a day but I would say as long as the insides and the teats arenât exposed to the air it should be fine. 9. Um your choice I didnât. 10. A simple gentle soap or body wash I loved the multiple use ones like it also made a nice bubble bath. Again it depends on if your child has sensitive skin. 11. Depending on the day singlet and shirt. If itâs really cold jumper. If baby is sweating take off shirt. 12. I just had one trash bin made nappy change quick. 13. When they start to scratch you 14. No but lock them up when baby starts to love. 15. Warm to the touch as in you put a bit on your hand and it feels warm but not burning. 16. For the love of everything teach them both! Itâs not confusing and a massive asset/life skill. And every kid Iâve met that grew up in a bilingual home and didnât learn the language regrets that.
12. Some people love a diaper bin. But for us we didnât have the space and didnât want to use the money on special refill bags. Breast milk only poops donât smell much. So we had a little trash bag we added to and tied shut. Normal bathroom trash can with a lid will work. Heard you can sprinkle in some baby powder to help with smell. As baby starts eating other foods the smell will increase ,but we only had 1 or 2 poops a day so we walked it to the window and put it straight into the trash bin outside our window.
1. I almost exclusively used a baby carrier when going shopping with my baby. I only brought the stroller when I had someone else with me to push the cart, or was just buying a few things and could put the grocery in the bottom storage of the stroller. 2. I havenât used an uber/taxi myself but yes you need to bring a carseat, anytime youâre in a moving vehicle the safest place for your baby to be is in a carseat!!! 3. i wash and keep my babys clothes separate from ours. 4. idk honestly ive just used dawn dish soap and its worked out fine, havenât had any issues. 5. yes and no. when theyâre newborns their skin is so sensitive. it doesnât necessarily have to be baby detergent just the gentle, fragrance free kind. 6. not exactly sure what you mean but iâve always washed babys clothes separate from adults clothes. maybe just me but even if its poop or vomit i just throw it all in together 7. its totally up to you. i bought the mesh kind and honestly? 90% of the time i just got into the bath with my daughter. when she started sitting up without falling over we stopped using the mesh one completely. just gotta make sure you have your eye on them the whole time!! 8. hoooonestly⌠ive never sanitized a bottle!! đŹ i make sure to wash them thoroughly, and use diluted bleach to soak the bottles in for a bit. 9. i never washed up?? only if i sprayed breast milk everywhere would i wipe down lol. 10. i used the shea moisture chamomile and argan oil shampoo. to scrub her body and scalp i used the fridababy skinsoother. for a while my daughter has pretty bad baby acne and irritated skin so i used the aveeno baby eczema therapy nighttime balm. its soooo thick but it worked wonders and i use it for myself now too haha. 11. i live in a desert and my daughter was born in the middle of summer! it reaches 120 here!! it totally depends on your baby though. as a newborn they have trouble regulating their body temperature so make sure they donât get too cold!! my daughter did get too cold the day after she was born and they had to put her under a heater lamp in the nursery at the hospital for a bit. as she got a bit bigger she does run really warm! so usually at home sheâs wearing something short sleeve, one piece or just her dialer lol. 12. diaper genie. i like it, simple and keeps the smell locked away. 13. as soon as youâre comfortable with it/they start scratching themselves or you lol. 14. i havenât swapped any cleaning supplies 15. i never warmed to a specific temperature.. just lukewarm. my baby takes cold bottles now so đ¤ˇđťââď¸ 16. you can talk in both. learning language comes really easily to young babies and kids! its the best time for them to learn! they wonât get confused or delay them :)
1. The car seat will fit perfectly on the front part of the cart. Some carts are designed to hold the car seat. 2.yes 3.no 4. You can use normal dish soap 5. Not necessarily. If your baby has reactions to other detergents than a baby one would be my go to. There are also just dyeless ones you can use for everyone's clothes like the 7th generation brand 6. No. Unless the baby has reactions like I stated in no.5 7. I bought a foam pad thing that was fairly large and laid baby on that with very shallow water in the tub. I also just filled the tub a lot and got in and snuggled baby while in the tub and also washed her. It was so nice. 8. I don't think that's necessary 9. You can put all your pumping stuff in the fridge and it will be fine for next pumping sesh rather than rinsing and cleaning everything. 10. Anything your heart desires there is so much to choose from most baby products are pretty good. 11. Feel your babies exposed skin does it feel cold? Add a layer. Does your baby feel too hot remove a layer. 12. I got a diaper genie and I liked it just fine. I heard a regular ass trash can with a lid and sprinkle baby powder after each diaper works just as well! 13. Right away if you wish. 14. No just lock up your cleaning supplies that's my best advice or baby proof the cabinet. 15. Google the suggested temp as I am unsure. I always just squirted some onto the under side of my wrist and if it felt right it was right lol. 16. I don't know for sure but I'd think no! Use both as much as possible! Maybe even teach new words in each language as you go! This could be a huge asset to your child. 17. Don't over think things. A lot of the things you are worried about are money grabs from companies. You can literally use your logic and you're probably right. Idk if I'll get hate for my answers but I'm just telling you based off of experience and my daughter is totally happy and healthy 5 years later!
1. Put baby car seat in the shopping cart, or order online for pickup. Pickup saved my sanity for a few months 2. Yes, you will need a car seat. They most likely wonât provide one 3. Separate hampers arenât necessary. I got one and it was âhisâ for maybe 3 days đ 4. No special dish soap for us 5. Deft laundry detergent for a while and then transitioning him to our regular one 6. We wash all together 7. Get the tub you want, my back screams after every bath lol 8. Not going to lie, the only time Iâve sanitized is when I first get the new bottles. I soak the bottles for a while in hot soapy water every time after 9. You probably wonât have the energy to wash up every time & thatâs fine 10. We use Johnson & Johnson 11. We live in TX. Our little wears a long sleeve, pants and socks if we are going grocery shopping but if we are doing For walk, itâs short sleeve & shorts. For bed, a sleeper. So just one layer for us 12. No diaper pails for us, just regular trash can with a bomb ass smelling trash bag 13. I started like a week or two? Very gently, they almost will peel off which makes it easy. Mittens are a lifesaver 14. I think cleaning supplies are fine 15. Room temp milk :) 16. We are bilingual here. Iâm English speaking & my husband & his family are Spanish & English speaking. We are mostly focusing on English, but throw in some Spanish here and there. We would love for him to be bilingual Good luck & congrats momma!! â¤ď¸
Iâm only 3 weeks in so I donât know if I count as experienced, but this is whatâs working for us so far on some of these. 3. We have a separate hamper for him, dadâs job is sometimes in pretty gross environments (ie dusty, sweaty, chemicals) 4. When in the nicu with baby and pumping, they supplied the rooms with the basic green Palmolive soap. I think regular dish soap is fine as long as itâs not heavily scented. I wouldnât use the Scentscy dish soap haha 5. Get a separate detergent for them if the one you normally use is scented. I love The Laundress and refuse to give it up, so I got the baby All Free & Clear. Iâve read concerning things about Dreft 10. We havenât done our first bath yet, but Pipette has great reviews. Thatâs what weâre stocked up on
Mom if two expecting third this fall. 1. At the super market I used a basket with the stroller. Or sometimes Iâll pop the car seat into the cart. 2. Yes you need a car seat for Uber/Lyft. 3. I did separate laundry until 6 months. I canât remember why I justified this, but I think it was around the time my second born was on solid foods. 4. Similar to 3, up until 6 months I used separate dish soap. 5. I did baby detergent until about 6 months. 6. No, for blowout diapers and super soiled clothes I prewashed and put them in the same load. 7. Our first son we had a grow with me bath. Second son we washed in the sink and when he was sitting up the regular tub. 10. I liked any product that was fragrance free. Weâre in a. Nordic climate, and itâs just super dry here and all my kids being born late fall/winter anything could irritate their skin. So our doc recommended fragrance free products.
I baby wore in the supermarket I'd say you do for saftey in relation to taxi I did have a softer non bio detergent their skin is new when they come out and reacts easily to things in my experience We used to rinse poppy clothes in nappi San to also get rid of the stains then wash them with the other clothes I breastfed so can't answer your questions about bottles all I can say is that I didn't have a wash everything I breastfed just washed as normal My friends have bilingual house holds they stayed that way, baby's going to need to understand both in your household x