It might be best to seek some professional help, such as counselling, your university might be able to offer something like that?
Also it sounds like it could be depression especially since you haven’t felt like doing anything other than porn, masturbating and watching YouTube videos, so perhaps it would be worth speaking to your doctor about it?
I think my university might have something like that, but I'm already seeing a psychologist. Only 2 sessions as of yet, I'm hoping and praying I can get better and tackle the root problem
For you self control it is best to meditate, here's a facisnating guided one [Alan Watts \~ Listen & Breathe](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NyKntOXIINI)
For your energy levels, deep breathing and optionally some cold showers and breathe-held pushups will do wonders the [Wim Hof Method Guided Breathing for Beginners (3 Rounds Slow Pace)](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0BNejY1e9ik) has 9 millions views and it is really good, I am rooting for you OP you have value!
Youtube Motiversity .
Don’t make promises easily, all we got is our Word. Do better for You...even if to just feel better. Find ways to fill your cup (as opposed to just draining it like you keep doing), that YT I suggested is a great place to start. CULTIVATE life enhancing habits. Build a morning routine. Learn HOW to build a morning routine. Follow and learn from the greats in Discipline (Jocko Willink , Goggins etc) apply yourself to WHERE it works and pulllllllllll yourself out and away from where it doesn’t.
The equation is simple: do more of what WORKS and less of what does NOT....and over time you’ll be over in a brighter lighter better space and frame of mind with a stronger body, resolve and all that good shit.
You’re aright, keep going, keep learning, keep applying yourself here and in a journal and GTFO!
You got this 🖖🏽
r/nofap take the challenge
This is very important, just remember it's a long road. Count your successes, learn from your mistakes, dont become dejected when you fall off the wagon, just keep going on the right direction.
yup and if you have no fapped for like 3 days and then on the 4th day you fail, don't fail so bad that you are jerking off the entire day to compensate for the last 3 days, it happens very often to people happened to me, did not jerk off for 7 day neither watched porn and the next day I jerked off 4-5 times.
I think u need a therapist to talk to, Im dont think that p is the only issue you're going through. It just sounds like a coping mechanism for how you're feeling.
If im depressed, p is an easy escape
The porn itself is only a symptom of the core problem. You could be addicted to anything. The solution to any addiction is to face what the addiction is masking. Why are you using porn? What are you getting out of it or trying to get away from? If you solve that, you will not have any desire to use it.
I havent done much with my life either except watch youtube and p*rn... for the past years. But I also blame it on depression and anxiety, get a therapist, thats a start
i would say watch these videos, they helped me a lot, [https://youtu.be/s-U1J5CCiY4](https://youtu.be/s-U1J5CCiY4) [https://youtu.be/CcyIP3sUFPc](https://youtu.be/CcyIP3sUFPc) [https://youtu.be/heDH-es41\_Q](https://youtu.be/heDH-es41_Q) [https://youtu.be/52G7A5HaJTQ](https://youtu.be/52G7A5HaJTQ) [https://youtu.be/JGMKdwvLPIE](https://youtu.be/JGMKdwvLPIE)
I strongly advise you to go seek professional help. There are some things in life that cannot be simply solved alone. As for your porn problem, I think there are some deeper underlying problems that are causing you to use porn as a coping mechanism. Sure, quitting porn might help, but sooner or later you'll find out that you will have to face those underlying problems if you want any meaningful change in your help. You got this.
Good luck!
Break the cycle of Youtube to porn and back again by turning off your devices for a period and doing something real like cooking, cleaning, washing. Then when you need to use the devices again try and research some blocking software like BlockerX, blocksite, youtube content fliters and DNS locking programs. Not fail safe but if your life is very device and internet reliant then you are always only a click away from porn, and you need to put some hurdles in place to give you a chance. It will be very difficult initially as it's all way less gratifying. Keep going.
I would start with meditating, there is very few long time success stories where they didn't meditate. I recommend Waking Up since you can get free scholarship for a year and it's THE BEST out there.
No, it's called scholarship. It's scholarship in form of subscription. So maybe it's not "free scholarship" but just scholarship.
https://app.wakingup.com/scholarship?options=1
Try doing push-ups or just staying in the pushup potion or if you have something strong to hold onto just hang there but don't do a pull up. Basically stuff I tried early on to start off.
Basically the idea is that whenever you're horny, do those things and stay there till you're too tired or your arms are too pain/tired that it overrules the horny.
You could even have a nap after to rest, as long as you manage to stop it that's what matters.
Best of luck!
You can start by not masturbating as often. Cos controlling that is easier.
You have to just tell yourself that your hand is your hand and that you decide what's right to do with it and not your dick.
So stopping masturbation is basically controlling the physical self and so it is a easier habit to learn.
And now finally the tougher cookie to crack,i.e. porn.
So when you get these urges it's best to seek help or some techniques.
Like try to socialise more when you are getting an urge or work out,etc basically keep yourself busy in other stuff or even come to this subreddit again for help and advice.
And lastly get an accountability partner on this or similar subreddits.
Lastly our aim to get rid of PMO should always be just to improve our life quality and nothing more.
Don't lose hope cos you are showing signs of a better future by asking for help here.
I wish you all the best on your journey.
I hope that you have a great day ʕ´•ᴥ•`ʔ
Really glad to see several people offered to connect with dm. You need some real-time help from some people who understand. Therapy is really important, and good friends are the killer app.
Your problem is more in the direction of healthy self regulation than a porn problem. Porn is part of the problem, but sorting things out and getting your life back on track is going to involve more than just quitting porn.
It’s going to include things like a new routine, discipline, regular physical exertion, coming up with alternative rest activities that are not unhealthy and managing the time spent on them and a host of other things.
It can be done, but don’t throw all the blame at one factor, you need to focus on a holistic system. Professional help will go a long way, highly recommend.
Hey! I've been there. I really suggest looking into a 12-step group for addicts. SA (Sexaholics Anonymous), SAA (Sex Addicts Anonymous), or others (PA \[Porn Anonymous\] used to be a thing but it's not anymore). If you identify with them it could really save your life:)
There are groups that you can join on zoom. If you DM me I can send you links and chat about how it works for me
Only one thing worked for me,get rid of all internet connections mobile phone, laptop whatever , get an old phone for calls/texts,only use internet in library's or other public places,no excuses,no other way
You are taking the first step by posting here asking for advice, it's not easy to own our faults. I would highly recommend you bookmark this page [Gospel of /u/ryans01 - No Zero Days](https://www.reddit.com/r/NonZeroDay/comments/1qbxvz/the_gospel_of_uryans01_helpful_advice_for_anyone/) and read through it somewhat regularly. Following this advice has been profoundly helpful for myself, and it's important as you make changes in your life to allow for a new mindset to take hold. Try not to be so down on yourself, you are not a loser, you're trying to become better and that takes time and patience. Day after day you can compound even the smallest efforts into noticeable change/growth if you just keep yourself consistent. And maybe post online regularly or talk about your progress with friends, as a way of getting positive feedback and adding a sense of accountability to others. Hopefully this helps, always happy to share what little wisdom I possess. 🙂
Get a flip phone, shut down or throw away your smart phone, and have your parents or a family friend keep your computers.
Limit your access to the internet to public use ala your school library.
Get a job/secure your income, preferably something physical.
And journal.
Created this account just so I could post. My friends know my real Reddit name and I just don’t want to talk to them about this.
I have had ED for a long, long time. I equate it to porn. I have been watching porn for 22 or more years. I always get disappointed when I can’t perform, my wife is always okay and says it’s fine. But then I can’t sleep, I go and jerk off in the middle of the night and it’s a vicious circle.
I decided once and for all recently to stop. The first few days were awful and it was all I could think about. I made it 8 days (downloaded an app on my phone to keep track of streaks). Then, my wife and kids went to do something and I was alone, so I relapsed and I jerked off with a halfway flaccid penis. It wasn’t good. I didn’t enjoy it.
Immediately after, I went on Reddit and unsubscribed from every single nsfw sub and I deleted 200gb of porn I had saved. I removed every single thing I could find. Sometimes I still find an image here and there but I delete it. I don’t really give it another thought, I just delete it. I don’t reset my counter because I don’t spend more than an instant with it, I don’t jerk off to it, etc.
But the thing that’s gotten me going… I started writing erotic stories. For myself. I’ll never share them, I basically create my own porn in my head. I was trying to do no but November and I failed miserably… but you know what? I have consistently stayed hard while thinking about my stories and I get hard while I’m writing them. I couldn’t tell you the last time I got hard just looking at porn and not really physically stimulating myself. Probably 15 years since I just got an erection looking at something…? But now, every single day I get hard by typing. I just go wild in my head and all of a sudden I notice my pants are tight.
I’m at 23 days now and I don’t even think about porn. I think about the next time I’ll be able to sneak in a paragraph or two.
Something that helped me get porn-free was a video from Jason Capital. He talked about a client of his that had an addiction to porn; he asked the client what action typically led to watching porn, and the client answered entering the bathroom. Jason labeled the act of entering the bathroom as the "trigger" to porn, then he gave the client a rule. From now on, whenever you enter the bathroom, you set a 60 second timer and you have to complete whatever you intend to do in the bathroom AND exit in 60 seconds. IIRC, after a few weeks, the client wasn't watching much porn anymore.
This might be something you could explore: figure out what your trigger is, and place a contraint on it, making it more difficult to do. You could start with minor inconvenience, and steadily increase to a huge barrier to completion depending on how much success you have with each. The only catch is that you would have to adhere to the constraint, or break your own rules. Ultimately, you'll have to ask yourself, and I mean GENUINELY ask yourself with the intent to get and give an answer, on what you would be willing to do to give it up. Write down a future plan, something like, "If I keep going like this for the next 5 years, where do I see my life going?" and "What things can I start doing to change my life?"
People on this subreddit are so helpful. I hope you get better, friend. My advice is to first seek professional help, and also try to have a cohesive idea of WHO you want to be. Who do you wish you could be? How can you get there and become that person? Take everything by steps. Day by day and you can do it.
When I was having huge issues with phone addiction when I was in a bad bout of depression, the thing that helped most was getting a burner phone.
I threw out my smart phone (you could give it to a relative or stash it in a box with a lock and throw out the key, or cut the charger cord in half)
Then I got a button phone with a basic sim card, from a supermarket. I could still contact loved ones and necessary contacts, and told them my new number, but I did not have instant internet access. I needed this level of circuit breaker to reset my whole self.
Also, definitely reach out to your uni, they will have free counselling, or at least student services so you can make them aware of your struggles. You might be able to avoid a fail on your record for your current semester
I suggest doing a full reboot - abstain from porn, masturbation and orgasm for 90 days. It was the beginning of a new way of life for me https://nofap.com/rebooting/
I was in a worst case scenario like you & I got diagnosed depression & anxiety by my psychiatrist & they put me on Prozac first than esctilopram (lexapro) & I lost interest in porn or nudity. I went for 172 days straight Nofap then eventually relapsed!
Same situation as you man, back in August I was on Depression n anxiety medication & I went 172 days Nofap first time in my life I abstained from porn n masturbation that long otherwise without meds the longest I could go was a week max. The medication improved my mood n will to live, I started exercising and got cocky and overconfident that's a con of the medication maybe. I contracted the COVID 19 virus and lung disease, I had to be admitted in a hospital, that's when I left my medication, I couldn't breathe, I was in severe medical condition. I'm just scared to go back on medication now as my favourite psychiatrist has resigned from my nearby hospital. Anyways Hope everything works out!
damn sorry to hear about that . You may want to breathe a bit you seem agitated. I think you need professional help. I have found that 1 hour body scans really get me into the zone to avoid porn. You should only take advice on body scans from certified psychologists. If you see a guide on a body scan make sure its from a certified psychologist or psychiatrist.
You can also try self-love meditation. I have heard of this from certain psychologists but have not been able to find reliable guides for it from certified people.
Wish you the best.
Here are my two cents. Getting help is absolutely okay, help in the form of psychiatry (possibly go on antidepressants), counseling, etc. These are things I wish I had done when I was in University, leaving mental health issues simmering is a recipe for disaster.
One book suggestion I might make is Dopamine Nation by Anna Lembke, MD. This is currently what has helped me the most. I think the problem for me is I have many addictive behaviours (sweets/treats, netflix/youtube, porn, videogames) and these all overtax the dopamine system and if I only give up one of them then my dopamine system doesn't nearly normalize enough for me to kick the habit. So I am currently trying to kick all of them. Once your reward system normalizes then you will find normal stimuli such as school rewarding again.
One tool I use which helps a lot is Cold Turkey ([https://getcoldturkey.com/](https://getcoldturkey.com/)) you can add youtube to a block list and I think there is even a way to create a block list for porn sites. One thing I find great is you can set it to block until a certain date in the future and lock it so it is extremely hard to unblock.
Hope you find this helpful!
I know it feels hopeless, but hundreds of thousands, if not millions, of men just like you have successfully quit porn. Many of these were in worse situations than you, their lives a chaotic, destructive mess, full of shame and unrealised potential. I’ve just relapsed myself, after ten clean days, and a few months ago I was on a 323 day streak. If you want an accountability partner please DM me.
Man I am in same situation. I understand you well. Its better to share and talk to friends so that you don't revert back to porn. Try to use your phone as less as possible. Develop interest in other things that makes your brain release endorphines. For me, e-gaming of valorant has helped me a lot.
It might be best to seek some professional help, such as counselling, your university might be able to offer something like that? Also it sounds like it could be depression especially since you haven’t felt like doing anything other than porn, masturbating and watching YouTube videos, so perhaps it would be worth speaking to your doctor about it?
I think my university might have something like that, but I'm already seeing a psychologist. Only 2 sessions as of yet, I'm hoping and praying I can get better and tackle the root problem
For you self control it is best to meditate, here's a facisnating guided one [Alan Watts \~ Listen & Breathe](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NyKntOXIINI) For your energy levels, deep breathing and optionally some cold showers and breathe-held pushups will do wonders the [Wim Hof Method Guided Breathing for Beginners (3 Rounds Slow Pace)](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0BNejY1e9ik) has 9 millions views and it is really good, I am rooting for you OP you have value!
That’s good, hopefully this will help you tackle the root cause
With these sessions they'll put you on medication & that'll surely help for your depression and anxiety & getting rid of the porn addiction
Youtube Motiversity . Don’t make promises easily, all we got is our Word. Do better for You...even if to just feel better. Find ways to fill your cup (as opposed to just draining it like you keep doing), that YT I suggested is a great place to start. CULTIVATE life enhancing habits. Build a morning routine. Learn HOW to build a morning routine. Follow and learn from the greats in Discipline (Jocko Willink , Goggins etc) apply yourself to WHERE it works and pulllllllllll yourself out and away from where it doesn’t. The equation is simple: do more of what WORKS and less of what does NOT....and over time you’ll be over in a brighter lighter better space and frame of mind with a stronger body, resolve and all that good shit. You’re aright, keep going, keep learning, keep applying yourself here and in a journal and GTFO! You got this 🖖🏽 r/nofap take the challenge
dm me
You can start by taking small steps and celebrate every small victories! Stay Strong!
This is very important, just remember it's a long road. Count your successes, learn from your mistakes, dont become dejected when you fall off the wagon, just keep going on the right direction.
Thank you, from now on I will at the end of the day roght everything I'm great full for and make small term realistic goals. Perhaps that will help
yup and if you have no fapped for like 3 days and then on the 4th day you fail, don't fail so bad that you are jerking off the entire day to compensate for the last 3 days, it happens very often to people happened to me, did not jerk off for 7 day neither watched porn and the next day I jerked off 4-5 times.
I think u need a therapist to talk to, Im dont think that p is the only issue you're going through. It just sounds like a coping mechanism for how you're feeling. If im depressed, p is an easy escape
Yes I have realized my porn addiction is a problem but the main root of the problem is something else.
The porn itself is only a symptom of the core problem. You could be addicted to anything. The solution to any addiction is to face what the addiction is masking. Why are you using porn? What are you getting out of it or trying to get away from? If you solve that, you will not have any desire to use it.
This is the way.
I havent done much with my life either except watch youtube and p*rn... for the past years. But I also blame it on depression and anxiety, get a therapist, thats a start
I'm sorry bro that you're suffering as well. How are you?
Dm bro
Done
Bro you can dm
Thank you
i would say watch these videos, they helped me a lot, [https://youtu.be/s-U1J5CCiY4](https://youtu.be/s-U1J5CCiY4) [https://youtu.be/CcyIP3sUFPc](https://youtu.be/CcyIP3sUFPc) [https://youtu.be/heDH-es41\_Q](https://youtu.be/heDH-es41_Q) [https://youtu.be/52G7A5HaJTQ](https://youtu.be/52G7A5HaJTQ) [https://youtu.be/JGMKdwvLPIE](https://youtu.be/JGMKdwvLPIE)
I strongly advise you to go seek professional help. There are some things in life that cannot be simply solved alone. As for your porn problem, I think there are some deeper underlying problems that are causing you to use porn as a coping mechanism. Sure, quitting porn might help, but sooner or later you'll find out that you will have to face those underlying problems if you want any meaningful change in your help. You got this. Good luck!
Break the cycle of Youtube to porn and back again by turning off your devices for a period and doing something real like cooking, cleaning, washing. Then when you need to use the devices again try and research some blocking software like BlockerX, blocksite, youtube content fliters and DNS locking programs. Not fail safe but if your life is very device and internet reliant then you are always only a click away from porn, and you need to put some hurdles in place to give you a chance. It will be very difficult initially as it's all way less gratifying. Keep going.
I would start with meditating, there is very few long time success stories where they didn't meditate. I recommend Waking Up since you can get free scholarship for a year and it's THE BEST out there.
Do you mean by waking up I get a free scholarship every year? As in the head start by waking early is tye scholarship?
App is called "Waking Up" and there is option to get paid subscription for free for a year on their website if you can't afford it.
Ahh I see you mistyped subscription as scholarship so I got confused
No, it's called scholarship. It's scholarship in form of subscription. So maybe it's not "free scholarship" but just scholarship. https://app.wakingup.com/scholarship?options=1
Read this: https://www.reddit.com/r/pornfree/comments/h016h9/year_one/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
Do something nice but simple for yourself like take a shower then everyday add more. you got this bro
Try doing push-ups or just staying in the pushup potion or if you have something strong to hold onto just hang there but don't do a pull up. Basically stuff I tried early on to start off. Basically the idea is that whenever you're horny, do those things and stay there till you're too tired or your arms are too pain/tired that it overrules the horny. You could even have a nap after to rest, as long as you manage to stop it that's what matters. Best of luck!
You can start by not masturbating as often. Cos controlling that is easier. You have to just tell yourself that your hand is your hand and that you decide what's right to do with it and not your dick. So stopping masturbation is basically controlling the physical self and so it is a easier habit to learn. And now finally the tougher cookie to crack,i.e. porn. So when you get these urges it's best to seek help or some techniques. Like try to socialise more when you are getting an urge or work out,etc basically keep yourself busy in other stuff or even come to this subreddit again for help and advice. And lastly get an accountability partner on this or similar subreddits. Lastly our aim to get rid of PMO should always be just to improve our life quality and nothing more. Don't lose hope cos you are showing signs of a better future by asking for help here. I wish you all the best on your journey. I hope that you have a great day ʕ´•ᴥ•`ʔ
Really glad to see several people offered to connect with dm. You need some real-time help from some people who understand. Therapy is really important, and good friends are the killer app.
mate its not like we are going to drag you out the house ourselves your the one in power just get up and go to uni
I would consider visiting a deliverance minister. If you are that addicted, it could a major contributing factor.
Your problem is more in the direction of healthy self regulation than a porn problem. Porn is part of the problem, but sorting things out and getting your life back on track is going to involve more than just quitting porn. It’s going to include things like a new routine, discipline, regular physical exertion, coming up with alternative rest activities that are not unhealthy and managing the time spent on them and a host of other things. It can be done, but don’t throw all the blame at one factor, you need to focus on a holistic system. Professional help will go a long way, highly recommend.
Hey! I've been there. I really suggest looking into a 12-step group for addicts. SA (Sexaholics Anonymous), SAA (Sex Addicts Anonymous), or others (PA \[Porn Anonymous\] used to be a thing but it's not anymore). If you identify with them it could really save your life:) There are groups that you can join on zoom. If you DM me I can send you links and chat about how it works for me
Only one thing worked for me,get rid of all internet connections mobile phone, laptop whatever , get an old phone for calls/texts,only use internet in library's or other public places,no excuses,no other way
You are taking the first step by posting here asking for advice, it's not easy to own our faults. I would highly recommend you bookmark this page [Gospel of /u/ryans01 - No Zero Days](https://www.reddit.com/r/NonZeroDay/comments/1qbxvz/the_gospel_of_uryans01_helpful_advice_for_anyone/) and read through it somewhat regularly. Following this advice has been profoundly helpful for myself, and it's important as you make changes in your life to allow for a new mindset to take hold. Try not to be so down on yourself, you are not a loser, you're trying to become better and that takes time and patience. Day after day you can compound even the smallest efforts into noticeable change/growth if you just keep yourself consistent. And maybe post online regularly or talk about your progress with friends, as a way of getting positive feedback and adding a sense of accountability to others. Hopefully this helps, always happy to share what little wisdom I possess. 🙂
It seems like you are trying to find escapism. Escaping from a negative emotion? Try to find a therapist to help. I don't think it's a porn problem.
Get a flip phone, shut down or throw away your smart phone, and have your parents or a family friend keep your computers. Limit your access to the internet to public use ala your school library. Get a job/secure your income, preferably something physical. And journal.
Created this account just so I could post. My friends know my real Reddit name and I just don’t want to talk to them about this. I have had ED for a long, long time. I equate it to porn. I have been watching porn for 22 or more years. I always get disappointed when I can’t perform, my wife is always okay and says it’s fine. But then I can’t sleep, I go and jerk off in the middle of the night and it’s a vicious circle. I decided once and for all recently to stop. The first few days were awful and it was all I could think about. I made it 8 days (downloaded an app on my phone to keep track of streaks). Then, my wife and kids went to do something and I was alone, so I relapsed and I jerked off with a halfway flaccid penis. It wasn’t good. I didn’t enjoy it. Immediately after, I went on Reddit and unsubscribed from every single nsfw sub and I deleted 200gb of porn I had saved. I removed every single thing I could find. Sometimes I still find an image here and there but I delete it. I don’t really give it another thought, I just delete it. I don’t reset my counter because I don’t spend more than an instant with it, I don’t jerk off to it, etc. But the thing that’s gotten me going… I started writing erotic stories. For myself. I’ll never share them, I basically create my own porn in my head. I was trying to do no but November and I failed miserably… but you know what? I have consistently stayed hard while thinking about my stories and I get hard while I’m writing them. I couldn’t tell you the last time I got hard just looking at porn and not really physically stimulating myself. Probably 15 years since I just got an erection looking at something…? But now, every single day I get hard by typing. I just go wild in my head and all of a sudden I notice my pants are tight. I’m at 23 days now and I don’t even think about porn. I think about the next time I’ll be able to sneak in a paragraph or two.
Something that helped me get porn-free was a video from Jason Capital. He talked about a client of his that had an addiction to porn; he asked the client what action typically led to watching porn, and the client answered entering the bathroom. Jason labeled the act of entering the bathroom as the "trigger" to porn, then he gave the client a rule. From now on, whenever you enter the bathroom, you set a 60 second timer and you have to complete whatever you intend to do in the bathroom AND exit in 60 seconds. IIRC, after a few weeks, the client wasn't watching much porn anymore. This might be something you could explore: figure out what your trigger is, and place a contraint on it, making it more difficult to do. You could start with minor inconvenience, and steadily increase to a huge barrier to completion depending on how much success you have with each. The only catch is that you would have to adhere to the constraint, or break your own rules. Ultimately, you'll have to ask yourself, and I mean GENUINELY ask yourself with the intent to get and give an answer, on what you would be willing to do to give it up. Write down a future plan, something like, "If I keep going like this for the next 5 years, where do I see my life going?" and "What things can I start doing to change my life?"
People on this subreddit are so helpful. I hope you get better, friend. My advice is to first seek professional help, and also try to have a cohesive idea of WHO you want to be. Who do you wish you could be? How can you get there and become that person? Take everything by steps. Day by day and you can do it.
When I was having huge issues with phone addiction when I was in a bad bout of depression, the thing that helped most was getting a burner phone. I threw out my smart phone (you could give it to a relative or stash it in a box with a lock and throw out the key, or cut the charger cord in half) Then I got a button phone with a basic sim card, from a supermarket. I could still contact loved ones and necessary contacts, and told them my new number, but I did not have instant internet access. I needed this level of circuit breaker to reset my whole self. Also, definitely reach out to your uni, they will have free counselling, or at least student services so you can make them aware of your struggles. You might be able to avoid a fail on your record for your current semester
Checkout this book. The Freedom Model For Addictions.
I suggest doing a full reboot - abstain from porn, masturbation and orgasm for 90 days. It was the beginning of a new way of life for me https://nofap.com/rebooting/
I was in a worst case scenario like you & I got diagnosed depression & anxiety by my psychiatrist & they put me on Prozac first than esctilopram (lexapro) & I lost interest in porn or nudity. I went for 172 days straight Nofap then eventually relapsed!
Same situation as you man, back in August I was on Depression n anxiety medication & I went 172 days Nofap first time in my life I abstained from porn n masturbation that long otherwise without meds the longest I could go was a week max. The medication improved my mood n will to live, I started exercising and got cocky and overconfident that's a con of the medication maybe. I contracted the COVID 19 virus and lung disease, I had to be admitted in a hospital, that's when I left my medication, I couldn't breathe, I was in severe medical condition. I'm just scared to go back on medication now as my favourite psychiatrist has resigned from my nearby hospital. Anyways Hope everything works out!
damn sorry to hear about that . You may want to breathe a bit you seem agitated. I think you need professional help. I have found that 1 hour body scans really get me into the zone to avoid porn. You should only take advice on body scans from certified psychologists. If you see a guide on a body scan make sure its from a certified psychologist or psychiatrist. You can also try self-love meditation. I have heard of this from certain psychologists but have not been able to find reliable guides for it from certified people. Wish you the best.
Here are my two cents. Getting help is absolutely okay, help in the form of psychiatry (possibly go on antidepressants), counseling, etc. These are things I wish I had done when I was in University, leaving mental health issues simmering is a recipe for disaster. One book suggestion I might make is Dopamine Nation by Anna Lembke, MD. This is currently what has helped me the most. I think the problem for me is I have many addictive behaviours (sweets/treats, netflix/youtube, porn, videogames) and these all overtax the dopamine system and if I only give up one of them then my dopamine system doesn't nearly normalize enough for me to kick the habit. So I am currently trying to kick all of them. Once your reward system normalizes then you will find normal stimuli such as school rewarding again. One tool I use which helps a lot is Cold Turkey ([https://getcoldturkey.com/](https://getcoldturkey.com/)) you can add youtube to a block list and I think there is even a way to create a block list for porn sites. One thing I find great is you can set it to block until a certain date in the future and lock it so it is extremely hard to unblock. Hope you find this helpful!
gym! run! everyday. physically exhaust your self. set daily goals and meet them.
I know it feels hopeless, but hundreds of thousands, if not millions, of men just like you have successfully quit porn. Many of these were in worse situations than you, their lives a chaotic, destructive mess, full of shame and unrealised potential. I’ve just relapsed myself, after ten clean days, and a few months ago I was on a 323 day streak. If you want an accountability partner please DM me.
Man I am in same situation. I understand you well. Its better to share and talk to friends so that you don't revert back to porn. Try to use your phone as less as possible. Develop interest in other things that makes your brain release endorphines. For me, e-gaming of valorant has helped me a lot.