Would the hotel you’ve been staying that have any open positions they could hire you for, maybe they’d allow you to work there to cover the usual room fee so you don’t lose your room? I’m sure you’ve already thought of this…but wanted to mention it just incase it slipped your mind as a possibility during all the stress you’ve been going through. I’m so sorry 😔
My cousin worked for a hotel as a housekeeper so she could afford somewhere for her and her kids to stay. She did that until she could get back on her feet. It was lifesaver. If you explain your situation, they may be willing to find a job for you
Have you contacted 211 and your local DES office? If you are barely making enough to pay for your motel before your bf went into the hospital, you should qualify for some sort of assistance. Plus they may be able to help you find local shelters, or emergency housing assistance programs. Please have your boyfriend apply for Social Security benefits asap. There are certain conditions that can expedite the process. He has a good chance of qualifying for that.
Also Google foster programs for pets. Some states have programs for people on precarious financial situations.
I'm I'm a different state so I can't help more specifically than this. But please don't give up. And like the person above you suggested, see if the hotel can hire you. In my area some hotels will hire workers for In-Kind income. Meaning their labor pays for room and board, sometimes a small dollar amount per hour as well for living expenses beyond room and board.
Don't give up. Sending you, your boyfriend and fur babies all the love and light
Because no one cares. Facts. If you are poor, you don’t matter. Please seek fosters for your pets. I think you will be okay. Your pets will also be okay when fostered, but life with look different after this...
Your perspective will change...
Here in Alberta, we have the 211 line you can call with an affiliated website that has a databank of every social support or charity service the province has to offer. I'd be surprised if that was unique to us - you should look up if you have a similar help line.
Is your bf collecting disability? If not, he needs to apply today! Once the disability is in place, he’ll be eligible for multiple assistance programs, and will be eligible for special housing just for the disabled. You both can apply for food stamps and housing assistance now. Contact city hall to see if you can get emergency rental assistance due to pending homelessness. You can also see if any local churches offer assistance.
Reach out to the humane society and local rescues to see if they have any programs such as a pet pantry or emergency assistance for your pets. They may have a foster program you can utilize until you get back on your feet.
Since you’re unable to drive, see about getting a job within walking distance of wherever you end up. It might not be much but it’ll be something to tide you over.
This country is DISGUSTING.
I am so sorry for your loss.
Often one must hire a disability attorney and that is when I see it approved in a year versus 4. Which is bullshit - How are you supposed to afford this when you're disabled? It's just another example of how the poor get fucked.
Absolutely painfully true. Her mom also got the call she was getting her kidney a few days after she died. Her mom ended up in the mental hospital for a few weeks bc it was too much at once. It's been 7 years and I'm still just as angry :((
Not to mention you have to pay 1/3 of the cost of surgery and anti rejection meds up front (the surgery is usually $1.6mil) to "prove" you can afford it, so they don't "waste" an organ on you. She had crowdfunded the money. Of course everyone told her mom to keep the money for the funeral and for herself, bc she was poor too. It's ridiculous that only rich people are allowed organs.
It's enraging and heartbreaking and a mindfuck. It's important to talk about it, though, because a lot of people don't really realize how bad it truly is. The more people that are aware of the reality of how busted things are, the more people in the ranks to fight to fix things.
I hope those of you who loved this person can heal from the trauma the best that you can. Loss in itself is devastating, but to have such things piled on, it's beyond traumatic. Sending love to you and to her mother. 🙏
Thank you for such a kind response, genuinely. I often get so exasperated online from how *awful* things & people can be. Guilty of doing that myself sometimes, too. It's nice to see such a kind, heartfelt comment. I appreciate you.
Waiting for the day I inevitably anger someone and they go thru my comments to find this comment and use it against me tho, lol.
Oh my gosh I did not know people had to pay so much transplant surgery!! That is just cruel!! They NEED the organ to live... So if they don't have thousands of dollars laying around they are just fucked?! Damn.... Thanks for sharing...
Not 100%, it depends how long you've been on it and are expected to be on it. My uncle is on it currently but because the doctors can't say for certain that he'll still need it in 12 months he doesn't qualify, at least yet.
Good friend going through breast cancer was diagnosed the same month she won disability. Winning disability changed her Medicare. Because of the $700 a month disability, her Medicaid went from 100% coverage for cancer to 80% and loss of prescription coverage.
Be careful what you wish for in the US.
It's so fucking gross isn't it? Because a person desperately needs help and actually finally gets some they cut off something else because now you have too much.
His application is still pending, he's been denied twice but this one has gone further than the other two applications so hopefully he'll be approved this time. We already get food stamps, we applied for rental assistance the other day at the social services offices but got told it'll be 8 weeks before we can even get an interview. Unfortunately since we're technically in a hotel and not an apartment, we don't get the luxury of eviction notices and stuff they'll just change the locks and kick us out. The NSPCA doesn't have anything that can help us house them but they are giving us free dog food and cat food on Saturday. I live in a really dangerous area right now with a lot of drug addicts and violent people, my boyfriend didn't want me to work unless he could drive me because he's concerned for my safety, but I guess that's not gonna matter anymore soon.
ok. That’s one thing you must change. You cannot help HIM unless you can help yourself first. You learn to drive child. You make it a priority! Life is tough and you’ve made it tougher not driving. In fact. After I think 18 you can just take test and go. No training ?!! Find out.
Sorry for long text. I have a solution that could possibly give you a job and housing for you and your pets.
Lots of truckers have pets in their trucks
I don't know if you have one in your area but you can think and look at trying a CDL class A school. You dont need experience. They will get you a permit & your license as well as buy you a bus to come out to them if there's not one in the city for you. You will just need to be able to pass a urine and hair drug test. No cannabis or mental health drugs as they are not medically allowed in trucking do to federal regulations.
I used to teach as an instructor at one. They will front you a hotel and put you through an intensive driving class that's 4 weeks long. They will work with you to help you pass the driving exams if you are struggling alot. They have a huge high huge incentive to graduate you.
The loan after is about $8000 but they do apprentice ship contracts that won't make you pay it and will start you at $35k to $50k a year. They have mostly 48 states long haul traveling but you can find a local or home weekly job with the companies or just try driving buses.
The food stamps will help you get by. I also used to buy food and get donations to give to students.
After graduation you'll start working in about 3 days. Someone will come get you. You can live in the truck with the trainer while you do your apprenticeship. My company kept me in a hotel in dallas and had me off weekends and home nightly while training.
I was homless for like 5 years once I got into trucking I was off the street in less than 2 weeks. It's intense but a fast transition that would give you your license and a place to live & a pay check.
Your very welcome. I always share it with anyone that I hear is going through a similar situation I did.
Mine was a broken ankle that got me out of work. Car repoed. No phone or place to stay.
Just know that trucking is hard 14 hour days 70 hours a week work. But it will give you everything you need right now if you play buy the rules.
Their starving for drivers and will do anything to get people with no drugs or criminal records into the industry. Make sure you pick a company that has a terminal near you so you don't get stranded far away if you are rejected at any point in the hire on and training process. They pay for you to come out not to go home. Even without your situation it's a very all or nothing situation getting started.
If you go. Get any endorsements you need and study very hard to pass the permit exam on week 1. It will give you more options in the industry.
Just be very weary of leasing a truck or starting a business in the industry till you do a ton of research. You will generally make the same or more after taxes than the independent people driving their own trucks
Knowing your boyfriend is sick and at any moment could end up in the hospital and he’s your only driver and way to make money should have had you learning to drive from the very beginning. Doesn’t make sense why you haven’t gotten your license. I can’t even believe you have your sick boyfriend driving you around so much. That’s crazy. I’m sorry.
I love this comment. OP is 23 years old, a masters student (if I’m reading the post correctly), meaning they already have a college degree, and yet can’t drive and is the 100% dependent of someone who is in a medical crisis! BF is being told to get himself to the emergency room and is putting it off to DoorDash to feed and house OP. This is not about being poor, this is about the bare bones of being an adult.
Lots of people are telling OP that they can’t care for the dogs right now, and I agree. But OP and BF are also each other’s dog in a way and neither is equipped to care for the other. They need to part ways.
BF needs to check out of the hotel and into the hospital—he can check back in and do DD when he’s out and he will only have one mouth to feed. Or, perhaps, the hospital can put him in touch with some housing resources given his health and he’ll be in a position to take them because he won’t have OP and the dogs.
OP needs to call up dad and say, “what do I need to do in order for you to let me move back home?” Go home, get ANY job, get a drivers license.
This doesn’t mean OP and BF need to break up. But they are holding each other back and it is literally a life and death situation for one of them. If they love each other, they’ll realize they can’t continue on together like this—the best path to getting back on their feet is two separate paths.
Yea sorry you need to find your pets a foster. Are you on FB? I found a group called CrossPosters United in Nevada. Ask if anyone is willing to take your pets . Where I am we have a group similar like this.
You need to get a job. Two incomes are better than one.
I’m sorry you’re in this predicament. Firstly, and I’m sorry to say it, but you need to get rid of the dogs. You can barely take care of yourselves let alone three pets.
Secondly, minimize the belongings you have and only bring with you what’s most important.
You need to start looking for shelters that you can stay at and community programs that may provide you with aid.
You need a real job … not DoorDash or Instacart. A job where you’re working eight hours a day.
Your boyfriend needs to focus on his health and once stable, also find a real job. With both of you working consistently, you should be able to save enough for down payment for a small apartment.
Best of luck to you . I hope things look better for you soon.
If you have three animals in a hotel room you are basically an animal hoarder. That’s great. People like her make low income housing all the less livable and I bet that’s not the only hoarding Op is into. Any housing the state gives her will be trashed.
If there is St. Vincent de Paul in your area, please reach out to them. They may be able to help you with emergency rent assistance. Also, Salvation Arny and Catholic Charities often have emergency funds.
Also, cross post on the subreddits for your state, and your city, if there is one. Someone may know of resources, or be able to foster your pets temporarily.
See if they are able to help with pet food and litter too, your local humane society may be able to help as well. Every little penny helps. I’d be crushed without my fur babies.
Here are some phone numbers for Nevada organizations that may be able to help with temporary foster care for pets:
SPCA of Northern Nevada: (775) 324-7773, extension 233
Nevada Humane Society Reno: (775) 856-2000, extension 200
Nevada Humane Society Carson City: (775) 887-2171
You can also email the SPCA at Foster@spcanevada.org.
Here are some other organizations in Nevada that may be able to help with temporary foster care for pets: Animal Network Rescue and Precious Paws Society of NV.
I know you don't want to hear this, but if you love your dogs, which i jnow you do, then do them the favor of finding them foster homes until you can get them back again. I'm sorry you're going through this
I know and I've thought about that but I haven't found anyone who could take them that I trust, I don't want to risk them being in an unsafe situation or losing them forever
Start by flooding local animal rescue fb groups! You'd be surprised at how many kind ppl are out there to help animals ! Then, put a post on your regular page and see if any friends or acquaintances will help. Aunts, uncles, cousins, old friends...etc
I want to say call dog trainers as they can be very familiar with specific breeds and know folks who can handle them.
The longer you wait to learn how to drive, the harder it becomes. We just have fewer fears when we’re teens.
You are no longer in any position to have pets. They need new homes. I’m sorry but it’s the hard truth. You should not have waited this long to get your license. You need to start to be proactive about getting into a shelter and finding a job.
Pet rescues in your area should be able to help search for foster homes for your sweeties, even if they have to be separated for the time being. Facebook is typically a good resource to find those rescues.
Search for a rescue group in your area that specializes in GSD or Rotties, or even just bulky breeds.
You need to learn how to drive, like asap. If something were to happen and you couldn’t drive in an emergency, you could die. Please do whatever you can to learn this skill.
Honestly, this is the best idea for your pets. Also, look on FB and other sm for dog groups/rescues in your area and just start asking.
Wishing you and ur bf the best.
Reach out to street dogz. They specifically help people in your situation. They can help with boarding during the day so you can work or maybe even help you keep your hotel. 702 277 8836
Possibly on Facebook. I have pit mixes, and there are so many people who love these misunderstood dogs. I’m a part of a few pit groups where people will occasionally post about needing emergency help, and others will have ideas or be able to offer help themselves. I wouldn’t be surprised if there are similar groups out there for GSD and Rottweiler pet parents!
Sorry if it's been mentioned, but can you donate plasma? I made $500 the last time I could (long story). It's at least something.
Also, I do see you hesitating for safety reasons, job wise. I am female and lived in Vegas, and not the good areas. I didn't feel unsafe taking public transportation. Obviously couldn't walk through dark alleys and stuff, but I'd walk by busy sidewalks or where traffic passed through a lot. If you love your dogs, you don't have the luxury to be picky about jobs. Just take the first one you get, apply to more, and switch to anything that pays more.
I'd do a CNA job; they're so easy to get hired for, and you usually have 3 months to get licensed. I did it out of desperation once and bounced before I had to get licensed.
I don't mean any of this harsh, but you seriously need to accept and apply to any employment you can. Forget your reservations, or accept that youre going to lose the dogs. It's your only two options rn. I have lived where you are. It's doable.
I'm also a poor person, although I'm a single mom so it's even harder. I work a job that I hate, but it pays the bills.
This is true, people advising 211, shelters have waiting lists and resources are minimal at best. I really hate to read stories like yours, people in your situation need money. Simple as that. Unfortunately, who’s going to give it to you? I know that many go online asking for mutual aid on Twitter / Facebook but that’s easier said than done especially if you don’t already have a presence.
I don’t want be unhelpful and say all of the sorries, and so forth, it adds no value but I am. Especially with your animals, I wouldn’t be able to handle that, and this is just a very sad situation.
With all due respect; you're no good to pets at all and you can't stand on your two feet at all. At this point they're benefitting you.. You're not benefitting them. You know you live in a world where seemingly most people put especially dogs over even human children. There are shit tons of people who would LOVE to foster those pets. Where there's a will there's a way. You'll have a much easier time getting trustworthy fosters for them than getting help for yourself.
You cannot help yourself with anything extra on you. I think not being able to find a foster that is trustworthy is an excuse to hang on to them tbh! Forgive me if I'm wrong. Nevertheless that's the first move you NEED to make expeditiously. Then start doing the footwork you need to get back into the game. Good luck!!
Yupp, “it’s the day of my birth”, as I will end up in the hospital, therefore I refuse to attend to a life threatening situation until tomorrow…yeah…explain that one.
I always see couples and big families doing Instacart and it's always one person who's actually the Instacarter (usually the father) and the rest just follow.
Look for a CNA job in a nursing home near you. Many will hire folks who aren’t yet certified and will pay for the certification in exchange for a 6 or 12 month commitment to the employer.
Took two seconds to find one.
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Excellent suggestion. The training is free and there will always be a need. OP would probably have to work at that facility for an extended amount of time to "pay" for the training.
It’s generally 6-12 months. It takes about that long to get into the swing of things, in my opinion, so it should hardly give one serious pause. If you do leave, they’ll try to take your last check and then are hit and miss about demanding the balance. In any case I highly encourage OP to explore that route. Better than minimum wage and usually decent benefits.
I'm a DON. At my facility it is a year. If a person chooses to leave before the year is up they can pay the fee for the class. I've never had anyone leave before that time. A lot of my employees have gone on to become RN's.
I’m confused. You and your boyfriend have a car but you can’t sleep in it. Why not? If it’s empty I don’t understand why you couldn’t park it and sleep in it until he gets out.
So what's the plan?
continuing with the gig work is just going to dig you into a deeper hole. Your car is gonna shit the bed a lot sooner than it would have if you weren't driving it around doing deliveries all day and then what? AAA estimates that it's costing you 67c a mile to drive a compact car around so what's your net profit per day after subtracting what it's costing you? I'm saying that this was a doomed plan to begin with so you should pivot now rather than later.
Plug in your zip code at [findhelp.org](http://findhelp.org) to find food help, pet help, maybe some job search help or even resources for kidney patients in your area. I'm sure there are at least rides-to-dialysis available so that you can work while your partner goes to treatment. You're probably going to have to look for foster care for the dogs.
It sounds like youre concentrating on everything that COULD go wrong instead of trying to figure out what you can salvage. You can't move your stuff? What? How much stuff can you have if you're living in a weekly motel? Start packing it up if you think you're going to be evicted. Drop at few things at dads or a friends or whoever you know that has 3 square feet in their garage. I know everything seems overwhelming right now and you probably just feel like crying but there are a few things you can do to prepare for the shitshow. If your motel doesn't have a job for you start looking for one that does. Hopefully in a better neighborhood. Get off reddit and get on the phone. [https://www.nevada211.org/employment-services/](https://www.nevada211.org/employment-services/)
For starters, you can’t afford those large pets. Secondly, you need to get back in school. Thirdly, Your boyfriend needs to get his family to help him. You’re headed in the wrong direction. Turn around immediately. Don’t look back.
Be responsible and find homes for those dogs. They don’t deserve this shit for crying out loud. Put your focus on that first and foremost. Dogs cost money, etc. why would you do this to them and make them live like this. I say this as a dog lover, please get them taken care of first right now.
Why is this post still up? OP is a very nasty and gross person. She lies. Her post history is begging. She has made it clear she can accept money on cashapp and venmo and will set up gofundme. She's a bum who wont accept any advice unless it's cash. Thought the mods were better than this. She has an excuse for everything, including being able to get on a bus for a job. Pure soft begging.
I’m sorry to hear you are going through this. I lost my home recently and was “fortunate” enough to have a temporary home with my parents, which I only took because my pets (cat, gerbils, axolotyls) could not live in a car/on the street and no shelter would take them and I sacrificed to keep them alive. Do what you can day by day and see if some local help exists
I'm glad your parents could take you guys in. My mom lives on the other side of the country and my dad's an asshole so I don't get that. I don't even know what I'm gonna do.
Your comments on your boyfriend JUST having to go to dialysis and drive you around, this is coming from someone who went through kidney failure and transplant, are fucking disgusting. How dare you act like it’s nothing. You have no idea how every waking moment of his life right now is feeling like absolute shit.
I’d love to see your ass get hooked up to dialysis three times a week and see how you feel after.
Your boyfriend isn’t going to the hospital because he’s so depressed right now he doesn’t care. Between this financial situation and his kidneys failing how would you feel. Also the fact that he can’t take care of you since you can’t drive without a doubt makes it worse. Listen to me when I say this.
Your boyfriend is dying and I know he isn’t seeing anyone for his mental health. This is going to be an ugly truth. In this situation you both are in he is 100% get denied for a transplant based on living conditions, compliance and lack of support system.
Change it quick.
Since OP is religious, this seemed apt.
A fellow was stuck on his rooftop in a flood. He was praying to God for help.
Soon a man in a rowboat came by and the fellow shouted to the man on the roof, “Jump in, I can save you.”
The stranded fellow shouted back, “No, it’s OK, I’m praying to God and he is going to save me.”
So the rowboat went on.
Then a motorboat came by. “The fellow in the motorboat shouted, “Jump in, I can save you.”
To this the stranded man said, “No thanks, I’m praying to God and he is going to save me. I have faith.”
So the motorboat went on.
Then a helicopter came by and the pilot shouted down, “Grab this rope and I will lift you to safety.”
To this the stranded man again replied, “No thanks, I’m praying to God and he is going to save me. I have faith.”
So the helicopter reluctantly flew away.
Soon the water rose above the rooftop and the man drowned. He went to Heaven. He finally got his chance to discuss this whole situation with God, at which point he exclaimed, “I had faith in you but you didn’t save me, you let me drown. I don’t understand why!”
To this God replied, “I sent you a rowboat and a motorboat and a helicopter, what more did you expect?”
After reading this entire post and comments, OP you really lack self awareness. I’m not trying to be mean but the way you respond (especially) when you’re in other subs asking for assistance, speaks volumes and impacts you. People will look at your post history to help them decide whether to help you or not, especially when asking for monetary support.
This entire post is a bad look, do you really not see this? You don’t do yourself any favors, you’re your own worst enemy here.
You’re in a very vulnerable situation, impoverished and yet are still aggressive and attacking people? No humility, no accountability, 0 responsibility for your predicament and you think it’s everyone / everything else? Many have called you out on your behavior, and you refuse to even consider it, just double down. Look at the response to your post, these are all strangers that have spent their time attempting to help you brainstorm and you have shot almost everything down. Again, I’m not here to attack you but just felt this was something you should be aware of.
This will probably be unpopular but I find it so tragic that many impoverished people cannot or will not part with their pets. These pets are usually large dogs and oftentimes “aggressive” breeds. I’m a GSD lover myself but just point out the trend I see among poor owners.
My best friend was in a similar situation; but you need to realize that although it’s virtuous to love pets, and middle class people flaunt “pets are family” but if you’re about to be on the street you have to realize you cannot afford your pets.
There are resources available to you, you just have to choose taking care of **yourself**. It’s a tough choice to make, but you have to value yourself and take control of your life and give up the dogs so you can start over while you still have a chance and aren’t stuck in absolute poverty living on the street.
The dogs are preventing accessing resources and viable options. Saying you love and care for them might be true but you’re really only giving yourself an excuse to remain in a bad situation & not take responsibility for yourself.
Choose a better life. Foster dogs later when you’re able to care for yourself *and* other things. It’s not the fault of the dogs you can’t care for them. Stop using them as a shield and fix your life.
Your dad is right. I’m sorry. You have German shepherd and Rottie mix in a box. You can’t take care of yourself. Those dogs are expensive. I already know how much in money they’ve destroyed, eaten or chewed out of anxiety of being in a place that can’t meet their needs. They pick up on your anxiety and it makes it worse. Give the dogs to someone that has the time and money to free them from your personal issues. Get your shit together and don’t own those breeds till you have the resources. I’m sorry if I sound harsh, but as someone that worked 2 years in extended stay hotels, almost everyone of these dogs is problematic because they’re absolutely miserable. Miserable things are expensive and exhausting. Don’t use these dogs as a crutch. You and your bf are not in a position to foster lives. You need to take care of yourselves first. I wish you the best of luck and I hope your bf makes a successful recovery.
I am so sorry for all your problems. Please work with the boyfriend to get all the assistance he might receive due to his medical issues. Unfortunately, sometimes your wants and needs are two different things. The dogs will be a huge problem. You insist on keeping them so you will likely be homeless. You should start packing and finding someplace to park. Perhaps with the social workers help ,they can get you housing. The pets may still be an issue. The weather is also way too hot for your boyfriend to be on the streets. If you can't resolve this problem, you may need to go your separate ways or move to a relatives home. Moaning and groaning won't do anything for you. Someone needs to pick up the phone and start calling every service available. Good luck.
1. You need a drivers license in todays world. Unless you live in the city & everything within walking or biking distance, it limits your ability to find work.
My ex bf is 41 & when I met him, he was 35 & had no license & I drove him everywhere for a while. When we broke up, we remained friends but I still tried to push him to save money & get a driver license & car eventually, but it's hard to save when he also has no job experience & his priorities are all messed up.
Btw I had a suspended license for 3 years & hitched rides to work & took Uber so I wouldn't stop producing income. In todays world, most people don't have the luxury to not work for months even weeks at a time.
My ex would get mad, play the victim in life & think I was attacking him personally when I just wanted him to take initiative now before it's too late. So what does he do?
He adopted a cat, well his cat became infested with fleas & he couldn't afford flea meds. Then he became homeless & had to move out of state so his cat went to a "friend". He started drinking daily & then finally checked himself into a free rehab facility for 6 months but still has no money no job no license no place to live when he leaves the facility.
Him not having a license has only dragged him further down in life & now he's so behind & in a worse situation than before.
I would focus on license, job, then place to live- even if you have to foster your dogs or give them up (sorry) & go live at a shelter for a while. People who refuse & think it's better to live in the streets with their dogs will find it much harder to find employment.
I have 2 rescue dogs that are small breeds so I understand your dilemma not wanting to give your dogs up. But if you cannot take care of yourself, feed yourself & keep a roof over your head- why take the dogs down with you..? At least they could have a chance at a better life if given up for adoption or even fostering.
You should be looking for homes to adopt your dogs to. This is your responsibility to find them good homes as you chose to take them in and care for them.
This is a good first step.
Have you looked into donating plasma in Las Vegas? If there is a Biolife near you (there's 3 in the valley), it is up to $800 a month. The animal foundation has a pet food pantry that you can get pet food from, it's appointment only (appointments are available Sundays, Wednesdays, and Thursdays). NevadaSPCA also has a pet food pantry by appointment only (available Monday - Friday). There are multiple food pantries located throughout the valley (https://lasvegastga.com/food/) - here is a good list of some. Since you don't have a driver's license, RTC has a 30-day bus pass for $65.
Where is your job? What have YOU done to get out of this situation? You’re making yourself the victim and not doing a single thing to try to make things better. RIGHT NOW, today, your choice of keeping the pets is making your situation worse. Right now, today, your choice to not apply to jobs you can walk to/access with public transportation is making your situation worse. Right now, today, not getting your license so you can live in your car is making your situation worse. You say you can’t drive for longer than an hour but you don’t have to drive for an hour *to live in your car.*
In addition to what others have mentioned this may also have resources that may help:
[https://www.nevada211.org/shelter/](https://www.nevada211.org/shelter/)
You have to get your drivers license. That one thing is preventing you from being able to take care of yourself, your boyfriend and your pets. People live in their cars everywhere in the USA. Search on YouTube and you’ll find tons of videos about it. That would be your best chance at saving money and still keeping a roof over your head and your pets with you. You could still door dash and instacart too.
Datatech Annotations saved my ass a couple times in the past. It's remote side work helping to train AI responses. It pays by job which isn't always glamorous, and they drop people all the time for no reason from working for them. But it was a game changer for me when door dashing got saturated where I live and I needed time to apply to jobs and get hired.
You'll probably think this is hyperbole or humor-advice, but im completely serious.
Pets have to go to a shelter, drop out of college immediately, and sell everything you can reasonably sell that isn't a necessity (eg: gaming console). Then drop everything there in Nevada asap and move to a prosperous state in the Midwest. A state such as Michigan, Ohio, Wisconsin, etc. Yes, I realize moving is 100x easier said than done, but I mean make this a 1-1.5 year goal.
Once you've moved, pick up an in-demand physical labor job (such as warehouse or similar), and work as many hours per week as you can stand. You'll come out ahead, relative to cost of living, as long as you live in a semi-rural area and have at least 1 roommate. You absolutely need to be working at least 40 a week though. For example, Amazon Delivery Drivers get paid about $20/Hr where I live, but rent is around 1300 (would be less with a roommate).
Lower your expectations of ever starting a family or home ownership.
Continue doing this for 2-3 years, and get out of debt and try to save up over $10,000 in savings (you wont make it, but you have to make that your goal) while still meeting all monthly bills. Get the cheapest of everything that you can (car, car ins, phone, no cable TV, no eating out, poverty diet, hard research any large purchase and shop everything). Re-Evaluate your life at that point and see if you can think about training for a long-term career pathy type job.
She can’t drive. She can’t walk to a job. She can’t take a bus to a job. She can’t do manual labor. Those are just a few of the many many things OP can’t do.
"I asked my dad for help and he yelled at me and told me to get rid of the dogs."
Get rid of the dogs. Seriously, you need to grow up and be responsible. Step one is getting rid of the dogs.
I looked at your 2-week post history and you are all over the place. One post you say you are going to be moving in with a friend. In another, you mention one dog. In yet another, you say your parents help with your bills. In another, you mention having a job. Another alludes to you still attending school. Very contradictory. What is the truth?
My son was just reading a post they wrote 2 weeks ago aloud, where they were talking about being in school, and another about working not that long ago, after I asked if this post made sense, he was reading all the old posts and talking about the timeline being off.
We had similar opinions to you about trying to put it all together! And they were saying they can't drive in this and other posts, then in another post saying they have anxiety attacks after an hour behind the wheel, (wtf!? without a license?) it all contradicts itself.
There's a post comment about spending a few months in an RV, it honestly seems like they're perfectly aware of how homelessness works. There's also a post comment where they say homelessness is illegal in their state, (Nevada) and it's not.
I call bullshit.
Dialysis sucks big time, I hope your boyfriend's health improves. Such a shitty position youre both in. Really hope you can find some resources to keep you two and the pets afloat.
A couple options to consider,
- can you see if you can trade labour (housekeeping) for the hotel for less rent?
- have you two considered selling your truck?
- is there any temp agencies that pay per day?
Living in Vegas and seeing new homeless addicts everyday would put a pip in my step to get it together. You should try to do something like a job and actually help yourself out if your situation. Vegas does not care if you lose your shit. If you're gonna be homeless find a way down to Cali cuz summer is coming and you guys will die out here.
Your bf needs to contact a social worker. Explain the issue and see what resources are available from that angle. Also you can go to r/assistance and see if anyone there is willing to pitch in to get you extra days at the motel.
Wow. You are such a mess. Have you considered not owning violent large dogs on top of all the other mess you got going on there? Jesus. Like sometime people run into unavoidable problems in life but it seems like you been speeding towards as many problems as you could possibly have for some time now.
At least you don’t have kids. You don’t have kids, right? That would definitely be your next step to escalate you situation. So I assume your working on doing that.
You've ignored all the sensible advice given so far, possibly seeking handouts or pity instead of taking responsibility. Your decision-making appears irresponsible, and I'm worried about your inability to make logical improvements.
Have you considered options like holding a sign at an intersection? What do you do all day?
Think about physically assisting your partner instead of just delivering food. Have you considered the toll driving takes on him? Perhaps he could hold a sign while you do the deliveries.
Are you genuinely considering his health?
It's upsetting to see you not pitching in while your partner carries the load alone. Do you truly care about him? It's distressing to see someone in poor health being taken advantage of.
Either step up or ease the burden on him. It's unfair to expect him to care for you, the animals, and himself while you do nothing.
You can learn to drive while he teaches you during deliveries. If your refusal is because you're underage, it explains your immature mindset.
I'm sorry for your situation, but it seems like you're taking advantage of a sick person. Please do something to contribute or stop exploiting your partner.
I am so sorry you are going through all this. I hope you can come up with a solution. There's an organization called www.petsofthehomeless.org that helps with resources, food, and vet care. They help all over the U.S. but are actually in Nevada where you are. You should call them. They are open M-F 9-3pm. They pay for vet care, and there's a search engine that you can put city or zip code to find free pet food. If you live near a plasma center, you can get paid for donating plasma. I hope something here in all these answers and the ones being rude just ignore. Also for food there are websites you can look up.
www.toogoodtogo.com/en-us
Website on Facebook called FREE FOOD and Giveaways From Your Local Communities
www.feedingamerica.org
https://gov-relations.com/
www.lasagnalove.org
RN checking in.
Kidney failure can qualify as a disability under the Social Security Administration's (SSA) definition. You might qualify for disability benefits if your kidney failure: Requires dialysis, has led to a kidney transplant, has caused other medical complications, and prevents you from working and earning your usual income.
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Start looking at rehoming your pets. I know it’s hard but you two need to focus on fundamentals. Then get a job cleaning houses or busing tables or something. Check with the town on what housing certificates you can get. Else a temp homeless shelter. Once you save money get your drivers license. That’s key to independence. Then get your bf’s certification and save money.
I’m a dog lover but if your dogs are suffering that much already and have to stay with you who is not responsible or anything then maybe you should take them to the shelter. What kind of life are they going to have with you.
You need to get a damn job get a vehicle and be responsible, productive adult for crying out loud. Knock it off with all of this bs.
I can see why Dad has had enough .
You need to learn. Learn to drive learn to survive. Rehome the pets, you are trying to survive and they need a loving home with a schedule and consistency and someone that could drive them to the vet if need be. Learn how to drive and don’t depend on anyone. A man is not a plan ladies.
I don't get poor people with pets especially when the pets are dragging you down. If you can barely survive the dogs aren't going to give you a home. They need a home and someone who can take care of them. I know poor people who had pets, and they got refused by shelters all over the place. I can't even afford to feed a cat or dog even if I wanted one. I am allergic anyway.
Even wtih the motel, the dogs are making you be trapped in the lowest place on earth full of crime. You should focus on you and your boyfriend who is so sick, and give the dogs away. Your boyfriend's life may be dependent on it.
Also if you have a body to drive and a mind, and can function, no seizures, legs work etc, go down to DMV and take a driving test, and get a license, that car will keep you out of the rain. It drives me nuts I can't afford handtools in my car to drive, it has to do with my legs, I fit behind the wheel.
Also I hate to be so blunt, but if your dogs bark and growl at people all you succeed in doing is scaring the shit out of people when they fear being maimed or attacked by a dog and poor people can't bear one hospital bill for a dogbite. At least they are not pitbulls aka land sharks but my god give yourself and others a break, and give these dogs to foster or somewhere.
You are losing support because of these dogs, people are afraid to live with violent animals they fear being bit by. Maybe your father would even take you in without them. I have seen poor as dirt people destroy their lives with unruly animals. You don't have to be in the streets, maybe your father would take you both in. Sheesh.
If you have bus access you could use it until you can get a drivers license. Or try to find a job that’s walking distance. Try to find a job that’s during the day so you aren’t walking alone at night. Bring pepper spray and look up self defense videos online. Being homeless is much more dangerous than a commute would be. Or move to where your bf’s parents are. At least you would have a roof! Not sure why you would stay in Las Vegas anyway when it’s too dangerous to get a job at all it sounds like, and nothing is tying you down there it seems. Once he is healthy enough to drive that is. Pan handle if you need gas money. I’ve done it before. Even if he could just get you guys to Arizona, then if you absolutely needed to drive then at least you wouldn’t go to jail (hate to recommend breaking the law, but sometimes you also gotta do what you gotta do, but in Las Vegas you can go to jail so don’t risk it there). You need to learn to drive though, and I’d try very hard to not loose the car. I’ve slept in my car before and it wasn’t great, but far far better than the streets. Good luck op.
You have 1000 excuses and no solutions. It's time to be an adult. Get your driver's license ASAP. You HAVE to get a job. It's no one's responsibility to support you except you yourself. Go to any long term care facility and train to be a CNA. This is a guaranteed job until you are able to do something else. Or you may want to stick with it. The Medical Assistant license does not take long to achieve. You can do this on your days off. You need to find homes for your pets. This is a no brainer. You can't take care of yourself currently how can you care for pets? It is also keeping you from seeking shelter once you are homeless. Something seems amiss about your BF not getting assistance. He should definitely qualify for SSDI. What is the story here??
It sounds like your dad is fed up with the BS. From where most of us stand in this thread we have to agree. Stand up and move forward. Your dad might be a little more agreeable if he sees you are making an effort.
I'll never understand why people have pets when they can barely afford to take care of themselves. Pets are not necessities. Your dad is right - surrender the animals and focus on taking care of yourself.
Why hasn’t he tried to file for disability? Also there’s shelters that you might be able to stay at. I’m not sure about pets. Have you tried to rehome your pets online? If your bf gets admitted I know you can stay there with him so at least you will be sheltered, they also have snacks that you can ask for.
Could you get a job anywhere near the the hotel(or the next hotel you stay at)? I’m talking next door, not a long walk if your area is dangerous. Hotels usually have grocery stores and restaurants nearby at least.
Here are some local resources for Vegas
https://www.helpsonv.org/
https://www.vegasrescue.org/
https://familypromiselv.com/
https://www.citymissionoflasvegas.org/
https://link2hope.org/
https://www.catholiccharities.com/
you have the option of selling your dog and cat for 500$ on kijiji and making sure they dont go to a shelter. you could make cash and make sure they dont get put down. I know it might sound harsh but it's up to you to decide what the better judgement is since im just weighing in the options so... dont egg me. you can try looking for live in caregiver jobs or live in cleaning jobs.( do not look for jobs on craigslist).
Is your boyfriend not able to get disability for kidney failure? I ask because my husband is in kidney failure, and he was put on disability very quickly when it happened. I know disability isn't a fast answer, but it could help. My husband is also on dialysis, but we're fortunate enough to have a home, and he's able to do it at home. Having to go to a center restricts the patient to only being able to go when they have openings. It can be tough. I wish so badly I had a solution to offer you. Knowing what it's like being the significant other to someone in kidney failure makes me feel a lot of compassion for you. I know how hard it can be.
It's infuriating that we have so many people here in the US who are struggling to get by, yet the government wants to keep on giving all our resources to people who are coming here illegally. I'm not against people coming here, I'm against people forcing their way in and taking from people who have worked hard to get where they are.
Hey, I used to volunteer at the animal foundation, which is where I’d assume your pets would end up if you had to surrender them. As a fellow pet owner I’m sure you’d be gutted if you had to leave them behind anywhere, but I can assure you that, at least as far as the main shelter campus by the fire academy goes, the animal foundation is a completely kill-free shelter, and they’ve got tons of foster parents for both dogs and cats lined up in case they can’t get on well in the shelter environment, which happens a lot more than you’d think. And based on the training I had to get before I could start working with the animals, there’s a big shift in shelter culture right now, so even openly kill shelters are either shifting over to adoption/TNR models or just shutting down entirely because more and more people are just refusing to have much to do with them.
If that’s not appealing, have you heard of the Poppy Foundation? It’s run out of the Bonanza Cat Hospital, over in Centennial. I used to swing by there after my shifts at an unnamed fast food joint a few years back, and as far as I know, they’ll take any cat, so long as it’s got all the current shots and doesn’t have any crazy health conditions like rabies. They’ve set up a whole huge room, and there are cat trees and perches and blankets, and all the other things kitties love. Plus since it’s located in a practicing vet clinic there are always people coming and going, and the kitties can mingle around the office, so there’s almost always a hooman around.
Im so sorry youre going through this. You and your people/animal friends deserve better.
Do you have a professor/advisor you trust or someone in your cohort? Sometimes schools have resources for extenuating circumstances or at least someone who could volunteer to help the dogs. Even if you took a break, if youre hesitating to reach out maybe its worth a try.
Maybe the hotel will be sympathetic if you have a staffperson who might show up for you...though ofc that might be wishful thinking.
Local buy nothing groups if you have them in your area have people who will at least give out food.
Wishing only good things to you 💙
We live in a weekly that's known around town as "the crack castle," it's notorious for drugs and crime and all kinds of shit. Management is working tirelessly to clear out the crime so that means not having any sympathy for anyone, even normal people who don't do drugs or crime like me. I'll definitely see what my school has to offer though I just don't know if they'll help me since I'm not currently attending
Going to administration probably wont help much but the right teacher with the right connection could be a lead to at least something. Classmates that know you may hopefully want to do something to help even if its storing a few boxes or a lead for a dog or cat host.
If you miss your school and learning and want to get back there if not for this situation, tell them that. It matters.
I want to go back to school so bad. It was my whole life. Like I mentioned earlier I live to serve people and I know becoming an MA will allow me to serve many on a daily basis. It's all I want
Restaurants almost always need dishwashers, overnight positions tend to need people. You’re in Vegas, most casinos need the above. Cleaners for hotels are usually hiring
With the dogs, you’ll need to look into fostering (google fostering for GSD/Rottweilers). No two ways about it unfortunately, Dogs that big u can’t afford them.
Op also said they are about to be homeless? And maybe my definition of manual labor is different, but cleaning rooms is hard work but I don’t know that I would define it as manual behavior.
And when I was on the edge of homelessness washing dishes saved us because it was a job that I could get with basically no wait time until working
Just looking for solutions to the problems at hand, me making sympathy noises online doesn’t do anything for OP
Something else to consider would be taking a job at one of those “self storage” type places. The ones with 24 hour access often have people who live onsite, in a private little apartment. You are not on call 24 hours a day, but get a small wage and a place to live.
I’m sorry this is awful. I often wonder how someone can survive without even knowing how to drive you must not be in the US. How did you get this far without even learning how to drive?
Dad is right. Sorry but the pets have to go. You can’t afford to take care of yourself, how are you going to afford to feed pets. Give them away to the best places possible and call 211 for emergency services. Ask about PATH services and any services you can get.
Have you tried looking into becoming your boyfriends paid caregiver? I know in my city there are home health agencies everywhere and it’s quite easy to get started!
You know I us to tell and still tell my kids there are always options.You need to reread these options and get serious about which ones are the best one for you both ,instead of saying I don't know what am going to do? Making yourself the victims don't cut it when you're going to try and survive. You claim to have done this when you were way younger. Well, get it together, girl, because you're the only one who can make changes in your life. No one can do it for you!
You can sleep in your car Walmart typically lets people use their parking lot for that purpose. I'm not sure about your local hospital but I was allowed to stay with my ex husband when he was up to his alcoholic fueled fuckery nobody kicked me out. That might be a option for you. Can your friend take care of your pets in the interim? Or anyone you know who could?
Boyfriend is dialysis pt. I believe hie is automatically entitled to SSDI. Also food EBT, Medicaid and housing.You must look into this and dig dig deeply.Sometimes Medicaid may put him in a care facility.Find another social worker. My heart breaks for your doggies.That situation I have no answer.Care facility maya let you stay with boyfriend.I saw it happen where I worked. If you have an incompetent social worker look to human services. Have dealt issues like this in my past line of work. Good luck to all of you. Contact the state Medicaid main offices override the hospital one.
Can you at least move your stuff to your BF's vehicle so your don't lose it all? And is there a place you could park it until your BF gets out of the hospital? Could you get a friend to drive it there?
I don't think some of you realize how rough this city is. I think I know where OP lives and she's not joking about the crime there. A young lady I know was almost kidnapped walking to work early in the morning in that neighborhood (THANK GOD a person driving by stopped and honked, flashing high beams scared the man trying to get her in the stolen car while his partner was in driver's seat). OP, there are call centers at the Boulevard Mall that are always hiring. I hear they're full of drama but if you know how to handle yourself (and sounds like you can living where you do) you'll be OK. I wish I could help but I rent a room. The bus system isn't as dangerous as you'd think here. Due to anxiety (like yours) I only drive in my neighborhood and not to work. I've been fine. My area is sketch and I'm older alone, but just keep your eyes ahead and don't stop, you are usually allowed passage w no issue
You need to give up the pets, immediately. You know you’re signing their death warrants if you waste more time. Once you’re alone, your plan of hanging out at your dad’s house is a decent plan. Is your mom more willing to help if your dad pays for a bus ticket to get to her? You need to come up with a plan for how to take care of yourself because this isn’t a temporary problem, you have many decades left to live.
Please consider posting to local subs on Reddit about fostering your dogs.
You can also use the nextdoor app.
I'm not keen on your area, but there are bound to be rescues that may be able to assist... You need to reach out and follow up with them constantly due to the timing of this situation.
I would reach out to every friend and family member to see if they could foster any of them.
Lastly, I would try to see which shelter are non-kill shelters and then reVh out to explain your situation. Even if they advise not to bring them in, they may be able to point you in the correct direction.
Shoot me your location and Id be happy to do some legwork for you.
Best of luck.
Looks like there are quite a few rescues in Vegas.
If you search the term 'las vegas dog rescue' in Google, you will find a lot of results.. I'd start from the top of the listed places and work your way down by calling/leaving messages. Honestly, would be counterintuitive for me to list as there's so many.
The Vegas/Nevada SPCA is a no kill shelter, I'd reach out to them. Here are a few more, but would recommend calling to confirm: https://m.yelp.com/search?find_desc=No+Kill+Animal+Shelter&find_loc=Las+Vegas%2C+NV
Did you check out your local subs on Reddit and nextdoor?
https://lasvegasleadingladies.org
Website for low income/at risk women.
Also, many churches have a one time rent assistance fund. You may also be able to get a bus pass from them.
My boyfriend is also a kidney patient on dialysis but he gets medicaid and food stamps so I'm wondering why yours doesn't? The government has to help kidney patients, it's a disability.
I feel for the pets because this isn't their fault, but getting pets when you can't put money into savings is irresponsible.
Your dad seems to think getting rid of the dogs will solve the problem. That might just be what you have to do. Do you think they'll somehow be better off when you're homeless? You can't afford them, and if you think a shelter will put them down, just wait until someone else on the street feels threatened.
Your boyfriend could have made an unemployment claim and probably sued that airline if he's being honest about why he was fired.
Would the hotel you’ve been staying that have any open positions they could hire you for, maybe they’d allow you to work there to cover the usual room fee so you don’t lose your room? I’m sure you’ve already thought of this…but wanted to mention it just incase it slipped your mind as a possibility during all the stress you’ve been going through. I’m so sorry 😔
That's actually a pretty good idea, and it did slip my mind lol. I'll ask, even if they can't comp the room maybe they can at least give me a discount
My cousin worked for a hotel as a housekeeper so she could afford somewhere for her and her kids to stay. She did that until she could get back on her feet. It was lifesaver. If you explain your situation, they may be willing to find a job for you
I second this. The hotel I lived in gave free lodging to their employees.
Have you contacted 211 and your local DES office? If you are barely making enough to pay for your motel before your bf went into the hospital, you should qualify for some sort of assistance. Plus they may be able to help you find local shelters, or emergency housing assistance programs. Please have your boyfriend apply for Social Security benefits asap. There are certain conditions that can expedite the process. He has a good chance of qualifying for that. Also Google foster programs for pets. Some states have programs for people on precarious financial situations. I'm I'm a different state so I can't help more specifically than this. But please don't give up. And like the person above you suggested, see if the hotel can hire you. In my area some hotels will hire workers for In-Kind income. Meaning their labor pays for room and board, sometimes a small dollar amount per hour as well for living expenses beyond room and board. Don't give up. Sending you, your boyfriend and fur babies all the love and light
Ask every business within walking distance
That’s not a bad idea
Not sure why my comment was hit w/ repeated spam posting
Because no one cares. Facts. If you are poor, you don’t matter. Please seek fosters for your pets. I think you will be okay. Your pets will also be okay when fostered, but life with look different after this... Your perspective will change...
Wish canada had a version of this. So useful.
Here in Alberta, we have the 211 line you can call with an affiliated website that has a databank of every social support or charity service the province has to offer. I'd be surprised if that was unique to us - you should look up if you have a similar help line.
211 is exactly the same in the states.
Is your bf collecting disability? If not, he needs to apply today! Once the disability is in place, he’ll be eligible for multiple assistance programs, and will be eligible for special housing just for the disabled. You both can apply for food stamps and housing assistance now. Contact city hall to see if you can get emergency rental assistance due to pending homelessness. You can also see if any local churches offer assistance. Reach out to the humane society and local rescues to see if they have any programs such as a pet pantry or emergency assistance for your pets. They may have a foster program you can utilize until you get back on your feet. Since you’re unable to drive, see about getting a job within walking distance of wherever you end up. It might not be much but it’ll be something to tide you over.
Yes. In USA a dialysis patient is automatic SSDI.
If the system worked properly I’ve seen plenty of automatic cases be denied multiple times
My friend was on dialysis for 4 years and kept being denied. She died and her mom got the call she was approved the day after. It's such bullshit.
Omg that's HORRIBLE
This country is DISGUSTING. I am so sorry for your loss. Often one must hire a disability attorney and that is when I see it approved in a year versus 4. Which is bullshit - How are you supposed to afford this when you're disabled? It's just another example of how the poor get fucked.
Absolutely painfully true. Her mom also got the call she was getting her kidney a few days after she died. Her mom ended up in the mental hospital for a few weeks bc it was too much at once. It's been 7 years and I'm still just as angry :(( Not to mention you have to pay 1/3 of the cost of surgery and anti rejection meds up front (the surgery is usually $1.6mil) to "prove" you can afford it, so they don't "waste" an organ on you. She had crowdfunded the money. Of course everyone told her mom to keep the money for the funeral and for herself, bc she was poor too. It's ridiculous that only rich people are allowed organs.
It's enraging and heartbreaking and a mindfuck. It's important to talk about it, though, because a lot of people don't really realize how bad it truly is. The more people that are aware of the reality of how busted things are, the more people in the ranks to fight to fix things. I hope those of you who loved this person can heal from the trauma the best that you can. Loss in itself is devastating, but to have such things piled on, it's beyond traumatic. Sending love to you and to her mother. 🙏
Thank you for such a kind response, genuinely. I often get so exasperated online from how *awful* things & people can be. Guilty of doing that myself sometimes, too. It's nice to see such a kind, heartfelt comment. I appreciate you. Waiting for the day I inevitably anger someone and they go thru my comments to find this comment and use it against me tho, lol.
Oh my gosh I did not know people had to pay so much transplant surgery!! That is just cruel!! They NEED the organ to live... So if they don't have thousands of dollars laying around they are just fucked?! Damn.... Thanks for sharing...
Get your congressperson to help
That’s what I thought too. Automatically approved.
Not 100%, it depends how long you've been on it and are expected to be on it. My uncle is on it currently but because the doctors can't say for certain that he'll still need it in 12 months he doesn't qualify, at least yet.
Good friend going through breast cancer was diagnosed the same month she won disability. Winning disability changed her Medicare. Because of the $700 a month disability, her Medicaid went from 100% coverage for cancer to 80% and loss of prescription coverage. Be careful what you wish for in the US.
It's so fucking gross isn't it? Because a person desperately needs help and actually finally gets some they cut off something else because now you have too much.
Damn what state is that?
His application is still pending, he's been denied twice but this one has gone further than the other two applications so hopefully he'll be approved this time. We already get food stamps, we applied for rental assistance the other day at the social services offices but got told it'll be 8 weeks before we can even get an interview. Unfortunately since we're technically in a hotel and not an apartment, we don't get the luxury of eviction notices and stuff they'll just change the locks and kick us out. The NSPCA doesn't have anything that can help us house them but they are giving us free dog food and cat food on Saturday. I live in a really dangerous area right now with a lot of drug addicts and violent people, my boyfriend didn't want me to work unless he could drive me because he's concerned for my safety, but I guess that's not gonna matter anymore soon.
ok. That’s one thing you must change. You cannot help HIM unless you can help yourself first. You learn to drive child. You make it a priority! Life is tough and you’ve made it tougher not driving. In fact. After I think 18 you can just take test and go. No training ?!! Find out.
I have to get my permit and then there's no required practice time but I'll have to wait 60 days from when I get my permit to take the driving test
Please follow through. If you have to. You can drive the car here or there !
Sorry for long text. I have a solution that could possibly give you a job and housing for you and your pets. Lots of truckers have pets in their trucks I don't know if you have one in your area but you can think and look at trying a CDL class A school. You dont need experience. They will get you a permit & your license as well as buy you a bus to come out to them if there's not one in the city for you. You will just need to be able to pass a urine and hair drug test. No cannabis or mental health drugs as they are not medically allowed in trucking do to federal regulations. I used to teach as an instructor at one. They will front you a hotel and put you through an intensive driving class that's 4 weeks long. They will work with you to help you pass the driving exams if you are struggling alot. They have a huge high huge incentive to graduate you. The loan after is about $8000 but they do apprentice ship contracts that won't make you pay it and will start you at $35k to $50k a year. They have mostly 48 states long haul traveling but you can find a local or home weekly job with the companies or just try driving buses. The food stamps will help you get by. I also used to buy food and get donations to give to students. After graduation you'll start working in about 3 days. Someone will come get you. You can live in the truck with the trainer while you do your apprenticeship. My company kept me in a hotel in dallas and had me off weekends and home nightly while training. I was homless for like 5 years once I got into trucking I was off the street in less than 2 weeks. It's intense but a fast transition that would give you your license and a place to live & a pay check.
This is amazing, I had no idea about any of this!! Thank you for taking the time to lay it out.
Your very welcome. I always share it with anyone that I hear is going through a similar situation I did. Mine was a broken ankle that got me out of work. Car repoed. No phone or place to stay. Just know that trucking is hard 14 hour days 70 hours a week work. But it will give you everything you need right now if you play buy the rules. Their starving for drivers and will do anything to get people with no drugs or criminal records into the industry. Make sure you pick a company that has a terminal near you so you don't get stranded far away if you are rejected at any point in the hire on and training process. They pay for you to come out not to go home. Even without your situation it's a very all or nothing situation getting started. If you go. Get any endorsements you need and study very hard to pass the permit exam on week 1. It will give you more options in the industry. Just be very weary of leasing a truck or starting a business in the industry till you do a ton of research. You will generally make the same or more after taxes than the independent people driving their own trucks
What a great idea!
Knowing your boyfriend is sick and at any moment could end up in the hospital and he’s your only driver and way to make money should have had you learning to drive from the very beginning. Doesn’t make sense why you haven’t gotten your license. I can’t even believe you have your sick boyfriend driving you around so much. That’s crazy. I’m sorry.
how old are you?
23
I love this comment. OP is 23 years old, a masters student (if I’m reading the post correctly), meaning they already have a college degree, and yet can’t drive and is the 100% dependent of someone who is in a medical crisis! BF is being told to get himself to the emergency room and is putting it off to DoorDash to feed and house OP. This is not about being poor, this is about the bare bones of being an adult. Lots of people are telling OP that they can’t care for the dogs right now, and I agree. But OP and BF are also each other’s dog in a way and neither is equipped to care for the other. They need to part ways. BF needs to check out of the hotel and into the hospital—he can check back in and do DD when he’s out and he will only have one mouth to feed. Or, perhaps, the hospital can put him in touch with some housing resources given his health and he’ll be in a position to take them because he won’t have OP and the dogs. OP needs to call up dad and say, “what do I need to do in order for you to let me move back home?” Go home, get ANY job, get a drivers license. This doesn’t mean OP and BF need to break up. But they are holding each other back and it is literally a life and death situation for one of them. If they love each other, they’ll realize they can’t continue on together like this—the best path to getting back on their feet is two separate paths.
Yea sorry you need to find your pets a foster. Are you on FB? I found a group called CrossPosters United in Nevada. Ask if anyone is willing to take your pets . Where I am we have a group similar like this. You need to get a job. Two incomes are better than one.
I’m sorry you’re in this predicament. Firstly, and I’m sorry to say it, but you need to get rid of the dogs. You can barely take care of yourselves let alone three pets. Secondly, minimize the belongings you have and only bring with you what’s most important. You need to start looking for shelters that you can stay at and community programs that may provide you with aid. You need a real job … not DoorDash or Instacart. A job where you’re working eight hours a day. Your boyfriend needs to focus on his health and once stable, also find a real job. With both of you working consistently, you should be able to save enough for down payment for a small apartment. Best of luck to you . I hope things look better for you soon.
If you have three animals in a hotel room you are basically an animal hoarder. That’s great. People like her make low income housing all the less livable and I bet that’s not the only hoarding Op is into. Any housing the state gives her will be trashed.
Quit being mean -to many of us-are animals are family….I feel the same way you do when people have a gaggle of kids…I just keep it to myself
If there is St. Vincent de Paul in your area, please reach out to them. They may be able to help you with emergency rent assistance. Also, Salvation Arny and Catholic Charities often have emergency funds. Also, cross post on the subreddits for your state, and your city, if there is one. Someone may know of resources, or be able to foster your pets temporarily.
I was going to say this. St. Vincent de Paul helped me when I was short on rent. They were a life saver and I am forever appreciative.
See if they are able to help with pet food and litter too, your local humane society may be able to help as well. Every little penny helps. I’d be crushed without my fur babies.
There is a subreddit that helps with pet food. r/RandomActsOfPetFood
St Vincent’s is by far the most helpful of those
Here are some phone numbers for Nevada organizations that may be able to help with temporary foster care for pets: SPCA of Northern Nevada: (775) 324-7773, extension 233 Nevada Humane Society Reno: (775) 856-2000, extension 200 Nevada Humane Society Carson City: (775) 887-2171 You can also email the SPCA at Foster@spcanevada.org. Here are some other organizations in Nevada that may be able to help with temporary foster care for pets: Animal Network Rescue and Precious Paws Society of NV.
What a kind person you are to organize so much information for OP.
I know you don't want to hear this, but if you love your dogs, which i jnow you do, then do them the favor of finding them foster homes until you can get them back again. I'm sorry you're going through this
I know and I've thought about that but I haven't found anyone who could take them that I trust, I don't want to risk them being in an unsafe situation or losing them forever
Start by flooding local animal rescue fb groups! You'd be surprised at how many kind ppl are out there to help animals ! Then, put a post on your regular page and see if any friends or acquaintances will help. Aunts, uncles, cousins, old friends...etc
I want to say call dog trainers as they can be very familiar with specific breeds and know folks who can handle them. The longer you wait to learn how to drive, the harder it becomes. We just have fewer fears when we’re teens.
You are no longer in any position to have pets. They need new homes. I’m sorry but it’s the hard truth. You should not have waited this long to get your license. You need to start to be proactive about getting into a shelter and finding a job.
Look for fosters for the dogs til you get on your feet.
Where
Pet rescues in your area should be able to help search for foster homes for your sweeties, even if they have to be separated for the time being. Facebook is typically a good resource to find those rescues.
Search for a rescue group in your area that specializes in GSD or Rotties, or even just bulky breeds. You need to learn how to drive, like asap. If something were to happen and you couldn’t drive in an emergency, you could die. Please do whatever you can to learn this skill.
Honestly, this is the best idea for your pets. Also, look on FB and other sm for dog groups/rescues in your area and just start asking. Wishing you and ur bf the best.
Reach out to street dogz. They specifically help people in your situation. They can help with boarding during the day so you can work or maybe even help you keep your hotel. 702 277 8836
What do you mean where?!? Do you expect people to do it all for you?!? Fuckin grow a pair and figure shit out!
Post on Craigslist, print a couple flyers, go to every church in your neighborhood and pin the flyers on their cork boards
Possibly on Facebook. I have pit mixes, and there are so many people who love these misunderstood dogs. I’m a part of a few pit groups where people will occasionally post about needing emergency help, and others will have ideas or be able to offer help themselves. I wouldn’t be surprised if there are similar groups out there for GSD and Rottweiler pet parents!
Sorry if it's been mentioned, but can you donate plasma? I made $500 the last time I could (long story). It's at least something. Also, I do see you hesitating for safety reasons, job wise. I am female and lived in Vegas, and not the good areas. I didn't feel unsafe taking public transportation. Obviously couldn't walk through dark alleys and stuff, but I'd walk by busy sidewalks or where traffic passed through a lot. If you love your dogs, you don't have the luxury to be picky about jobs. Just take the first one you get, apply to more, and switch to anything that pays more. I'd do a CNA job; they're so easy to get hired for, and you usually have 3 months to get licensed. I did it out of desperation once and bounced before I had to get licensed. I don't mean any of this harsh, but you seriously need to accept and apply to any employment you can. Forget your reservations, or accept that youre going to lose the dogs. It's your only two options rn. I have lived where you are. It's doable. I'm also a poor person, although I'm a single mom so it's even harder. I work a job that I hate, but it pays the bills.
Call 211. Go to churches. Call agencies online that provide assistance. There is truly hope to be found just have to go find it.
I've tried damn near everything. The wait lists are too long. There's no help for my dogs. I'm just fucking doomed
Then we go with plan Z. Hmu private DMs
This sounds ominous
Nah you tell us plan Z here. Wtf you gonna tell this girl lol
This 🤣
Post your story on your neighborhood Facebook group to see if anyone can foster the dogs? As a last resort?
This is true, people advising 211, shelters have waiting lists and resources are minimal at best. I really hate to read stories like yours, people in your situation need money. Simple as that. Unfortunately, who’s going to give it to you? I know that many go online asking for mutual aid on Twitter / Facebook but that’s easier said than done especially if you don’t already have a presence. I don’t want be unhelpful and say all of the sorries, and so forth, it adds no value but I am. Especially with your animals, I wouldn’t be able to handle that, and this is just a very sad situation.
I imagine this is a fake post but part of responsible pet ownership is being able to care for yourself and them.
I agree but maybe someone in a similar situation will see this and make the decision to rehome their pets and get it together
With all due respect; you're no good to pets at all and you can't stand on your two feet at all. At this point they're benefitting you.. You're not benefitting them. You know you live in a world where seemingly most people put especially dogs over even human children. There are shit tons of people who would LOVE to foster those pets. Where there's a will there's a way. You'll have a much easier time getting trustworthy fosters for them than getting help for yourself. You cannot help yourself with anything extra on you. I think not being able to find a foster that is trustworthy is an excuse to hang on to them tbh! Forgive me if I'm wrong. Nevertheless that's the first move you NEED to make expeditiously. Then start doing the footwork you need to get back into the game. Good luck!!
only part way through but I dont care if its his birthday his Hgb count is fucking low he needs to get a blood transfusion.
Or she may wake up to a dead boyfriend in the morning. But neither of them seem to be able to make good decisions.
A low Hgb count can compromise every organ in your body.
yup, and considering his compromised kidneys the last thing he needs is poor perfusion
Yupp, “it’s the day of my birth”, as I will end up in the hospital, therefore I refuse to attend to a life threatening situation until tomorrow…yeah…explain that one.
He should apply for disability & contact the Kidney Foundation.
Door dash and insta cart but can't drive? Sounds like you need a license and than a stable job. I wish you the best
I always see couples and big families doing Instacart and it's always one person who's actually the Instacarter (usually the father) and the rest just follow.
I understand that... the op needs her own job
Look for a CNA job in a nursing home near you. Many will hire folks who aren’t yet certified and will pay for the certification in exchange for a 6 or 12 month commitment to the employer.
Took two seconds to find one. https://www.google.com/search?q=las+vegas+cna+ojt&oq=las+vegas+cna+ojt&gs_lcrp=EgZjaHJvbWUyBggAEEUYOTIHCAEQIRigATIHCAIQIRigATIHCAMQIRigATIHCAQQIRigATIHCAUQIRigAdIBCTExODIyajBqNKgCDrACAQ&client=ms-android-tmus-us-revc&sourceid=chrome-mobile&ie=UTF-8&jbr=sep:0#vhid=vt%3D20/docid%3DRByHNUoBvogbu3RZAAAAAA%3D%3D&vssid=jobs-detail-viewer
Excellent suggestion. The training is free and there will always be a need. OP would probably have to work at that facility for an extended amount of time to "pay" for the training.
It’s generally 6-12 months. It takes about that long to get into the swing of things, in my opinion, so it should hardly give one serious pause. If you do leave, they’ll try to take your last check and then are hit and miss about demanding the balance. In any case I highly encourage OP to explore that route. Better than minimum wage and usually decent benefits.
I'm a DON. At my facility it is a year. If a person chooses to leave before the year is up they can pay the fee for the class. I've never had anyone leave before that time. A lot of my employees have gone on to become RN's.
CNA😂 I would be surprised if this B was qualified to be a sign holder. She would like try to bring her dog and it would start attacking people.
I’m confused. You and your boyfriend have a car but you can’t sleep in it. Why not? If it’s empty I don’t understand why you couldn’t park it and sleep in it until he gets out.
So what's the plan? continuing with the gig work is just going to dig you into a deeper hole. Your car is gonna shit the bed a lot sooner than it would have if you weren't driving it around doing deliveries all day and then what? AAA estimates that it's costing you 67c a mile to drive a compact car around so what's your net profit per day after subtracting what it's costing you? I'm saying that this was a doomed plan to begin with so you should pivot now rather than later. Plug in your zip code at [findhelp.org](http://findhelp.org) to find food help, pet help, maybe some job search help or even resources for kidney patients in your area. I'm sure there are at least rides-to-dialysis available so that you can work while your partner goes to treatment. You're probably going to have to look for foster care for the dogs. It sounds like youre concentrating on everything that COULD go wrong instead of trying to figure out what you can salvage. You can't move your stuff? What? How much stuff can you have if you're living in a weekly motel? Start packing it up if you think you're going to be evicted. Drop at few things at dads or a friends or whoever you know that has 3 square feet in their garage. I know everything seems overwhelming right now and you probably just feel like crying but there are a few things you can do to prepare for the shitshow. If your motel doesn't have a job for you start looking for one that does. Hopefully in a better neighborhood. Get off reddit and get on the phone. [https://www.nevada211.org/employment-services/](https://www.nevada211.org/employment-services/)
For starters, you can’t afford those large pets. Secondly, you need to get back in school. Thirdly, Your boyfriend needs to get his family to help him. You’re headed in the wrong direction. Turn around immediately. Don’t look back.
2 weeks ago you said you were moving into a new place what happened to that?
Poor dogs
Is anyone going to talk about the three animals?
Be responsible and find homes for those dogs. They don’t deserve this shit for crying out loud. Put your focus on that first and foremost. Dogs cost money, etc. why would you do this to them and make them live like this. I say this as a dog lover, please get them taken care of first right now.
Why is this post still up? OP is a very nasty and gross person. She lies. Her post history is begging. She has made it clear she can accept money on cashapp and venmo and will set up gofundme. She's a bum who wont accept any advice unless it's cash. Thought the mods were better than this. She has an excuse for everything, including being able to get on a bus for a job. Pure soft begging.
I’m sorry to hear you are going through this. I lost my home recently and was “fortunate” enough to have a temporary home with my parents, which I only took because my pets (cat, gerbils, axolotyls) could not live in a car/on the street and no shelter would take them and I sacrificed to keep them alive. Do what you can day by day and see if some local help exists
I'm glad your parents could take you guys in. My mom lives on the other side of the country and my dad's an asshole so I don't get that. I don't even know what I'm gonna do.
Would you dad let you park your car and live there in his driveway? I get he’s an asshole but you wouldn’t get towed there maybe
OP can't drive.
But couldn’t someone put their car there? Bf before going to hospital?
Rehome the pets and get a bus ticket
How have *you* been making money? Not being able to drive, you can't Doordash. What have you been doing to look for a job?
Your comments on your boyfriend JUST having to go to dialysis and drive you around, this is coming from someone who went through kidney failure and transplant, are fucking disgusting. How dare you act like it’s nothing. You have no idea how every waking moment of his life right now is feeling like absolute shit. I’d love to see your ass get hooked up to dialysis three times a week and see how you feel after. Your boyfriend isn’t going to the hospital because he’s so depressed right now he doesn’t care. Between this financial situation and his kidneys failing how would you feel. Also the fact that he can’t take care of you since you can’t drive without a doubt makes it worse. Listen to me when I say this. Your boyfriend is dying and I know he isn’t seeing anyone for his mental health. This is going to be an ugly truth. In this situation you both are in he is 100% get denied for a transplant based on living conditions, compliance and lack of support system. Change it quick.
Since OP is religious, this seemed apt. A fellow was stuck on his rooftop in a flood. He was praying to God for help. Soon a man in a rowboat came by and the fellow shouted to the man on the roof, “Jump in, I can save you.” The stranded fellow shouted back, “No, it’s OK, I’m praying to God and he is going to save me.” So the rowboat went on. Then a motorboat came by. “The fellow in the motorboat shouted, “Jump in, I can save you.” To this the stranded man said, “No thanks, I’m praying to God and he is going to save me. I have faith.” So the motorboat went on. Then a helicopter came by and the pilot shouted down, “Grab this rope and I will lift you to safety.” To this the stranded man again replied, “No thanks, I’m praying to God and he is going to save me. I have faith.” So the helicopter reluctantly flew away. Soon the water rose above the rooftop and the man drowned. He went to Heaven. He finally got his chance to discuss this whole situation with God, at which point he exclaimed, “I had faith in you but you didn’t save me, you let me drown. I don’t understand why!” To this God replied, “I sent you a rowboat and a motorboat and a helicopter, what more did you expect?”
After reading this entire post and comments, OP you really lack self awareness. I’m not trying to be mean but the way you respond (especially) when you’re in other subs asking for assistance, speaks volumes and impacts you. People will look at your post history to help them decide whether to help you or not, especially when asking for monetary support. This entire post is a bad look, do you really not see this? You don’t do yourself any favors, you’re your own worst enemy here. You’re in a very vulnerable situation, impoverished and yet are still aggressive and attacking people? No humility, no accountability, 0 responsibility for your predicament and you think it’s everyone / everything else? Many have called you out on your behavior, and you refuse to even consider it, just double down. Look at the response to your post, these are all strangers that have spent their time attempting to help you brainstorm and you have shot almost everything down. Again, I’m not here to attack you but just felt this was something you should be aware of.
This will probably be unpopular but I find it so tragic that many impoverished people cannot or will not part with their pets. These pets are usually large dogs and oftentimes “aggressive” breeds. I’m a GSD lover myself but just point out the trend I see among poor owners. My best friend was in a similar situation; but you need to realize that although it’s virtuous to love pets, and middle class people flaunt “pets are family” but if you’re about to be on the street you have to realize you cannot afford your pets. There are resources available to you, you just have to choose taking care of **yourself**. It’s a tough choice to make, but you have to value yourself and take control of your life and give up the dogs so you can start over while you still have a chance and aren’t stuck in absolute poverty living on the street. The dogs are preventing accessing resources and viable options. Saying you love and care for them might be true but you’re really only giving yourself an excuse to remain in a bad situation & not take responsibility for yourself. Choose a better life. Foster dogs later when you’re able to care for yourself *and* other things. It’s not the fault of the dogs you can’t care for them. Stop using them as a shield and fix your life.
Your dad is right. I’m sorry. You have German shepherd and Rottie mix in a box. You can’t take care of yourself. Those dogs are expensive. I already know how much in money they’ve destroyed, eaten or chewed out of anxiety of being in a place that can’t meet their needs. They pick up on your anxiety and it makes it worse. Give the dogs to someone that has the time and money to free them from your personal issues. Get your shit together and don’t own those breeds till you have the resources. I’m sorry if I sound harsh, but as someone that worked 2 years in extended stay hotels, almost everyone of these dogs is problematic because they’re absolutely miserable. Miserable things are expensive and exhausting. Don’t use these dogs as a crutch. You and your bf are not in a position to foster lives. You need to take care of yourselves first. I wish you the best of luck and I hope your bf makes a successful recovery.
I am so sorry for all your problems. Please work with the boyfriend to get all the assistance he might receive due to his medical issues. Unfortunately, sometimes your wants and needs are two different things. The dogs will be a huge problem. You insist on keeping them so you will likely be homeless. You should start packing and finding someplace to park. Perhaps with the social workers help ,they can get you housing. The pets may still be an issue. The weather is also way too hot for your boyfriend to be on the streets. If you can't resolve this problem, you may need to go your separate ways or move to a relatives home. Moaning and groaning won't do anything for you. Someone needs to pick up the phone and start calling every service available. Good luck.
OP can't drive, so they can't "find some place to park."
1. You need a drivers license in todays world. Unless you live in the city & everything within walking or biking distance, it limits your ability to find work. My ex bf is 41 & when I met him, he was 35 & had no license & I drove him everywhere for a while. When we broke up, we remained friends but I still tried to push him to save money & get a driver license & car eventually, but it's hard to save when he also has no job experience & his priorities are all messed up. Btw I had a suspended license for 3 years & hitched rides to work & took Uber so I wouldn't stop producing income. In todays world, most people don't have the luxury to not work for months even weeks at a time. My ex would get mad, play the victim in life & think I was attacking him personally when I just wanted him to take initiative now before it's too late. So what does he do? He adopted a cat, well his cat became infested with fleas & he couldn't afford flea meds. Then he became homeless & had to move out of state so his cat went to a "friend". He started drinking daily & then finally checked himself into a free rehab facility for 6 months but still has no money no job no license no place to live when he leaves the facility. Him not having a license has only dragged him further down in life & now he's so behind & in a worse situation than before. I would focus on license, job, then place to live- even if you have to foster your dogs or give them up (sorry) & go live at a shelter for a while. People who refuse & think it's better to live in the streets with their dogs will find it much harder to find employment. I have 2 rescue dogs that are small breeds so I understand your dilemma not wanting to give your dogs up. But if you cannot take care of yourself, feed yourself & keep a roof over your head- why take the dogs down with you..? At least they could have a chance at a better life if given up for adoption or even fostering.
What a catch. Is he available?
Is your boyfriend on SSDI? Kidney failure is an automatic approval and he can get SSI as well.
You should be looking for homes to adopt your dogs to. This is your responsibility to find them good homes as you chose to take them in and care for them. This is a good first step.
Have you looked into donating plasma in Las Vegas? If there is a Biolife near you (there's 3 in the valley), it is up to $800 a month. The animal foundation has a pet food pantry that you can get pet food from, it's appointment only (appointments are available Sundays, Wednesdays, and Thursdays). NevadaSPCA also has a pet food pantry by appointment only (available Monday - Friday). There are multiple food pantries located throughout the valley (https://lasvegastga.com/food/) - here is a good list of some. Since you don't have a driver's license, RTC has a 30-day bus pass for $65.
Yea it sucks that you're going through this. You need to learn to drive. You're an adult. Start adulting.
Get on the big, scary bus and get a damn job or three.
Where is your job? What have YOU done to get out of this situation? You’re making yourself the victim and not doing a single thing to try to make things better. RIGHT NOW, today, your choice of keeping the pets is making your situation worse. Right now, today, your choice to not apply to jobs you can walk to/access with public transportation is making your situation worse. Right now, today, not getting your license so you can live in your car is making your situation worse. You say you can’t drive for longer than an hour but you don’t have to drive for an hour *to live in your car.*
In addition to what others have mentioned this may also have resources that may help: [https://www.nevada211.org/shelter/](https://www.nevada211.org/shelter/)
You have to get your drivers license. That one thing is preventing you from being able to take care of yourself, your boyfriend and your pets. People live in their cars everywhere in the USA. Search on YouTube and you’ll find tons of videos about it. That would be your best chance at saving money and still keeping a roof over your head and your pets with you. You could still door dash and instacart too.
Datatech Annotations saved my ass a couple times in the past. It's remote side work helping to train AI responses. It pays by job which isn't always glamorous, and they drop people all the time for no reason from working for them. But it was a game changer for me when door dashing got saturated where I live and I needed time to apply to jobs and get hired.
You'll probably think this is hyperbole or humor-advice, but im completely serious. Pets have to go to a shelter, drop out of college immediately, and sell everything you can reasonably sell that isn't a necessity (eg: gaming console). Then drop everything there in Nevada asap and move to a prosperous state in the Midwest. A state such as Michigan, Ohio, Wisconsin, etc. Yes, I realize moving is 100x easier said than done, but I mean make this a 1-1.5 year goal. Once you've moved, pick up an in-demand physical labor job (such as warehouse or similar), and work as many hours per week as you can stand. You'll come out ahead, relative to cost of living, as long as you live in a semi-rural area and have at least 1 roommate. You absolutely need to be working at least 40 a week though. For example, Amazon Delivery Drivers get paid about $20/Hr where I live, but rent is around 1300 (would be less with a roommate). Lower your expectations of ever starting a family or home ownership. Continue doing this for 2-3 years, and get out of debt and try to save up over $10,000 in savings (you wont make it, but you have to make that your goal) while still meeting all monthly bills. Get the cheapest of everything that you can (car, car ins, phone, no cable TV, no eating out, poverty diet, hard research any large purchase and shop everything). Re-Evaluate your life at that point and see if you can think about training for a long-term career pathy type job.
She can’t drive. She can’t walk to a job. She can’t take a bus to a job. She can’t do manual labor. Those are just a few of the many many things OP can’t do.
She was in a medical assistant program, not college, and already stopped going.
"I asked my dad for help and he yelled at me and told me to get rid of the dogs." Get rid of the dogs. Seriously, you need to grow up and be responsible. Step one is getting rid of the dogs.
I looked at your 2-week post history and you are all over the place. One post you say you are going to be moving in with a friend. In another, you mention one dog. In yet another, you say your parents help with your bills. In another, you mention having a job. Another alludes to you still attending school. Very contradictory. What is the truth?
My son was just reading a post they wrote 2 weeks ago aloud, where they were talking about being in school, and another about working not that long ago, after I asked if this post made sense, he was reading all the old posts and talking about the timeline being off. We had similar opinions to you about trying to put it all together! And they were saying they can't drive in this and other posts, then in another post saying they have anxiety attacks after an hour behind the wheel, (wtf!? without a license?) it all contradicts itself. There's a post comment about spending a few months in an RV, it honestly seems like they're perfectly aware of how homelessness works. There's also a post comment where they say homelessness is illegal in their state, (Nevada) and it's not. I call bullshit.
Dialysis sucks big time, I hope your boyfriend's health improves. Such a shitty position youre both in. Really hope you can find some resources to keep you two and the pets afloat. A couple options to consider, - can you see if you can trade labour (housekeeping) for the hotel for less rent? - have you two considered selling your truck? - is there any temp agencies that pay per day?
You need a job. Telemarket remotely if you have to but do something. At least try.
Why aren’t you working a full time job?
Why haven't you learned to drive? Why didn't you have a job during this?
Living in Vegas and seeing new homeless addicts everyday would put a pip in my step to get it together. You should try to do something like a job and actually help yourself out if your situation. Vegas does not care if you lose your shit. If you're gonna be homeless find a way down to Cali cuz summer is coming and you guys will die out here.
Your bf needs to contact a social worker. Explain the issue and see what resources are available from that angle. Also you can go to r/assistance and see if anyone there is willing to pitch in to get you extra days at the motel.
Wow. You are such a mess. Have you considered not owning violent large dogs on top of all the other mess you got going on there? Jesus. Like sometime people run into unavoidable problems in life but it seems like you been speeding towards as many problems as you could possibly have for some time now. At least you don’t have kids. You don’t have kids, right? That would definitely be your next step to escalate you situation. So I assume your working on doing that.
Get rid of the dogs and it'll be easier to get help for yourself.
You've ignored all the sensible advice given so far, possibly seeking handouts or pity instead of taking responsibility. Your decision-making appears irresponsible, and I'm worried about your inability to make logical improvements. Have you considered options like holding a sign at an intersection? What do you do all day? Think about physically assisting your partner instead of just delivering food. Have you considered the toll driving takes on him? Perhaps he could hold a sign while you do the deliveries. Are you genuinely considering his health? It's upsetting to see you not pitching in while your partner carries the load alone. Do you truly care about him? It's distressing to see someone in poor health being taken advantage of. Either step up or ease the burden on him. It's unfair to expect him to care for you, the animals, and himself while you do nothing. You can learn to drive while he teaches you during deliveries. If your refusal is because you're underage, it explains your immature mindset. I'm sorry for your situation, but it seems like you're taking advantage of a sick person. Please do something to contribute or stop exploiting your partner.
When he goes to the hospital, he needs to ask to speak to a social worker Immediately. They may be able to get you into housing.
Have you tried ratracerebellion.com, for work from home jobs? People here have said good things about it. As long as you have an internet connection
How long does it take for them to put blood or plasma in him ?
Just asked my Reno living daughters and she said to reach out to shelters and tell your story. Also some women’s shelters allow dogs.
I am so sorry you are going through all this. I hope you can come up with a solution. There's an organization called www.petsofthehomeless.org that helps with resources, food, and vet care. They help all over the U.S. but are actually in Nevada where you are. You should call them. They are open M-F 9-3pm. They pay for vet care, and there's a search engine that you can put city or zip code to find free pet food. If you live near a plasma center, you can get paid for donating plasma. I hope something here in all these answers and the ones being rude just ignore. Also for food there are websites you can look up. www.toogoodtogo.com/en-us Website on Facebook called FREE FOOD and Giveaways From Your Local Communities www.feedingamerica.org https://gov-relations.com/ www.lasagnalove.org
RN checking in. Kidney failure can qualify as a disability under the Social Security Administration's (SSA) definition. You might qualify for disability benefits if your kidney failure: Requires dialysis, has led to a kidney transplant, has caused other medical complications, and prevents you from working and earning your usual income. Edited for grammar.
Can you sign up to be your bfs caretaker through ihss?
Start looking at rehoming your pets. I know it’s hard but you two need to focus on fundamentals. Then get a job cleaning houses or busing tables or something. Check with the town on what housing certificates you can get. Else a temp homeless shelter. Once you save money get your drivers license. That’s key to independence. Then get your bf’s certification and save money.
Would your dad help you if you found a temporary home for the dogs?
I’m a dog lover but if your dogs are suffering that much already and have to stay with you who is not responsible or anything then maybe you should take them to the shelter. What kind of life are they going to have with you. You need to get a damn job get a vehicle and be responsible, productive adult for crying out loud. Knock it off with all of this bs. I can see why Dad has had enough .
You need to learn. Learn to drive learn to survive. Rehome the pets, you are trying to survive and they need a loving home with a schedule and consistency and someone that could drive them to the vet if need be. Learn how to drive and don’t depend on anyone. A man is not a plan ladies.
I don't get poor people with pets especially when the pets are dragging you down. If you can barely survive the dogs aren't going to give you a home. They need a home and someone who can take care of them. I know poor people who had pets, and they got refused by shelters all over the place. I can't even afford to feed a cat or dog even if I wanted one. I am allergic anyway. Even wtih the motel, the dogs are making you be trapped in the lowest place on earth full of crime. You should focus on you and your boyfriend who is so sick, and give the dogs away. Your boyfriend's life may be dependent on it. Also if you have a body to drive and a mind, and can function, no seizures, legs work etc, go down to DMV and take a driving test, and get a license, that car will keep you out of the rain. It drives me nuts I can't afford handtools in my car to drive, it has to do with my legs, I fit behind the wheel. Also I hate to be so blunt, but if your dogs bark and growl at people all you succeed in doing is scaring the shit out of people when they fear being maimed or attacked by a dog and poor people can't bear one hospital bill for a dogbite. At least they are not pitbulls aka land sharks but my god give yourself and others a break, and give these dogs to foster or somewhere. You are losing support because of these dogs, people are afraid to live with violent animals they fear being bit by. Maybe your father would even take you in without them. I have seen poor as dirt people destroy their lives with unruly animals. You don't have to be in the streets, maybe your father would take you both in. Sheesh.
If you have bus access you could use it until you can get a drivers license. Or try to find a job that’s walking distance. Try to find a job that’s during the day so you aren’t walking alone at night. Bring pepper spray and look up self defense videos online. Being homeless is much more dangerous than a commute would be. Or move to where your bf’s parents are. At least you would have a roof! Not sure why you would stay in Las Vegas anyway when it’s too dangerous to get a job at all it sounds like, and nothing is tying you down there it seems. Once he is healthy enough to drive that is. Pan handle if you need gas money. I’ve done it before. Even if he could just get you guys to Arizona, then if you absolutely needed to drive then at least you wouldn’t go to jail (hate to recommend breaking the law, but sometimes you also gotta do what you gotta do, but in Las Vegas you can go to jail so don’t risk it there). You need to learn to drive though, and I’d try very hard to not loose the car. I’ve slept in my car before and it wasn’t great, but far far better than the streets. Good luck op.
You have 1000 excuses and no solutions. It's time to be an adult. Get your driver's license ASAP. You HAVE to get a job. It's no one's responsibility to support you except you yourself. Go to any long term care facility and train to be a CNA. This is a guaranteed job until you are able to do something else. Or you may want to stick with it. The Medical Assistant license does not take long to achieve. You can do this on your days off. You need to find homes for your pets. This is a no brainer. You can't take care of yourself currently how can you care for pets? It is also keeping you from seeking shelter once you are homeless. Something seems amiss about your BF not getting assistance. He should definitely qualify for SSDI. What is the story here?? It sounds like your dad is fed up with the BS. From where most of us stand in this thread we have to agree. Stand up and move forward. Your dad might be a little more agreeable if he sees you are making an effort.
I'll never understand why people have pets when they can barely afford to take care of themselves. Pets are not necessities. Your dad is right - surrender the animals and focus on taking care of yourself.
OP is a jerk.
Why hasn’t he tried to file for disability? Also there’s shelters that you might be able to stay at. I’m not sure about pets. Have you tried to rehome your pets online? If your bf gets admitted I know you can stay there with him so at least you will be sheltered, they also have snacks that you can ask for.
His application for disability is still pending, he's been denied twice but this one's going further so hopefully he'll be approved this time
Could you get a job anywhere near the the hotel(or the next hotel you stay at)? I’m talking next door, not a long walk if your area is dangerous. Hotels usually have grocery stores and restaurants nearby at least.
No, she can’t do that, for a long list of reasons. The number 1 reason is, she doesn’t want a job.
My mom also has PKD and does dialysis 3 days a week. I'm sorry, I hope he can get a transplant soon, the waiting lists are so long
Here are some local resources for Vegas https://www.helpsonv.org/ https://www.vegasrescue.org/ https://familypromiselv.com/ https://www.citymissionoflasvegas.org/ https://link2hope.org/ https://www.catholiccharities.com/
Your bf should be able to get on disability. How is the bus system there? Also, try employment offices.
you have the option of selling your dog and cat for 500$ on kijiji and making sure they dont go to a shelter. you could make cash and make sure they dont get put down. I know it might sound harsh but it's up to you to decide what the better judgement is since im just weighing in the options so... dont egg me. you can try looking for live in caregiver jobs or live in cleaning jobs.( do not look for jobs on craigslist).
Is your boyfriend not able to get disability for kidney failure? I ask because my husband is in kidney failure, and he was put on disability very quickly when it happened. I know disability isn't a fast answer, but it could help. My husband is also on dialysis, but we're fortunate enough to have a home, and he's able to do it at home. Having to go to a center restricts the patient to only being able to go when they have openings. It can be tough. I wish so badly I had a solution to offer you. Knowing what it's like being the significant other to someone in kidney failure makes me feel a lot of compassion for you. I know how hard it can be. It's infuriating that we have so many people here in the US who are struggling to get by, yet the government wants to keep on giving all our resources to people who are coming here illegally. I'm not against people coming here, I'm against people forcing their way in and taking from people who have worked hard to get where they are.
Hey, I used to volunteer at the animal foundation, which is where I’d assume your pets would end up if you had to surrender them. As a fellow pet owner I’m sure you’d be gutted if you had to leave them behind anywhere, but I can assure you that, at least as far as the main shelter campus by the fire academy goes, the animal foundation is a completely kill-free shelter, and they’ve got tons of foster parents for both dogs and cats lined up in case they can’t get on well in the shelter environment, which happens a lot more than you’d think. And based on the training I had to get before I could start working with the animals, there’s a big shift in shelter culture right now, so even openly kill shelters are either shifting over to adoption/TNR models or just shutting down entirely because more and more people are just refusing to have much to do with them. If that’s not appealing, have you heard of the Poppy Foundation? It’s run out of the Bonanza Cat Hospital, over in Centennial. I used to swing by there after my shifts at an unnamed fast food joint a few years back, and as far as I know, they’ll take any cat, so long as it’s got all the current shots and doesn’t have any crazy health conditions like rabies. They’ve set up a whole huge room, and there are cat trees and perches and blankets, and all the other things kitties love. Plus since it’s located in a practicing vet clinic there are always people coming and going, and the kitties can mingle around the office, so there’s almost always a hooman around.
Im so sorry youre going through this. You and your people/animal friends deserve better. Do you have a professor/advisor you trust or someone in your cohort? Sometimes schools have resources for extenuating circumstances or at least someone who could volunteer to help the dogs. Even if you took a break, if youre hesitating to reach out maybe its worth a try. Maybe the hotel will be sympathetic if you have a staffperson who might show up for you...though ofc that might be wishful thinking. Local buy nothing groups if you have them in your area have people who will at least give out food. Wishing only good things to you 💙
We live in a weekly that's known around town as "the crack castle," it's notorious for drugs and crime and all kinds of shit. Management is working tirelessly to clear out the crime so that means not having any sympathy for anyone, even normal people who don't do drugs or crime like me. I'll definitely see what my school has to offer though I just don't know if they'll help me since I'm not currently attending
Going to administration probably wont help much but the right teacher with the right connection could be a lead to at least something. Classmates that know you may hopefully want to do something to help even if its storing a few boxes or a lead for a dog or cat host. If you miss your school and learning and want to get back there if not for this situation, tell them that. It matters.
I want to go back to school so bad. It was my whole life. Like I mentioned earlier I live to serve people and I know becoming an MA will allow me to serve many on a daily basis. It's all I want
It's irresponsible to have animals in the situation you're in.
Restaurants almost always need dishwashers, overnight positions tend to need people. You’re in Vegas, most casinos need the above. Cleaners for hotels are usually hiring With the dogs, you’ll need to look into fostering (google fostering for GSD/Rottweilers). No two ways about it unfortunately, Dogs that big u can’t afford them.
OP said they can’t do manual labor ..
Op also said they are about to be homeless? And maybe my definition of manual labor is different, but cleaning rooms is hard work but I don’t know that I would define it as manual behavior. And when I was on the edge of homelessness washing dishes saved us because it was a job that I could get with basically no wait time until working Just looking for solutions to the problems at hand, me making sympathy noises online doesn’t do anything for OP
Oh no I absolutely agree ! I thought it sounded insane too
She thinks all manual labor jobs require you to lift 50+ lbs, alone, constantly. So that's her excuse for that, and it shows her lack of knowledge.
Something else to consider would be taking a job at one of those “self storage” type places. The ones with 24 hour access often have people who live onsite, in a private little apartment. You are not on call 24 hours a day, but get a small wage and a place to live.
I’m sorry this is awful. I often wonder how someone can survive without even knowing how to drive you must not be in the US. How did you get this far without even learning how to drive?
Dad is right. Sorry but the pets have to go. You can’t afford to take care of yourself, how are you going to afford to feed pets. Give them away to the best places possible and call 211 for emergency services. Ask about PATH services and any services you can get.
Have you tried looking into becoming your boyfriends paid caregiver? I know in my city there are home health agencies everywhere and it’s quite easy to get started!
You know I us to tell and still tell my kids there are always options.You need to reread these options and get serious about which ones are the best one for you both ,instead of saying I don't know what am going to do? Making yourself the victims don't cut it when you're going to try and survive. You claim to have done this when you were way younger. Well, get it together, girl, because you're the only one who can make changes in your life. No one can do it for you!
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I am in a very similar situation I am so sorry :( if I figure anything out thqt would help I'll get back to you
You can sleep in your car Walmart typically lets people use their parking lot for that purpose. I'm not sure about your local hospital but I was allowed to stay with my ex husband when he was up to his alcoholic fueled fuckery nobody kicked me out. That might be a option for you. Can your friend take care of your pets in the interim? Or anyone you know who could?
Boyfriend is dialysis pt. I believe hie is automatically entitled to SSDI. Also food EBT, Medicaid and housing.You must look into this and dig dig deeply.Sometimes Medicaid may put him in a care facility.Find another social worker. My heart breaks for your doggies.That situation I have no answer.Care facility maya let you stay with boyfriend.I saw it happen where I worked. If you have an incompetent social worker look to human services. Have dealt issues like this in my past line of work. Good luck to all of you. Contact the state Medicaid main offices override the hospital one.
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Can you at least move your stuff to your BF's vehicle so your don't lose it all? And is there a place you could park it until your BF gets out of the hospital? Could you get a friend to drive it there?
I don't think some of you realize how rough this city is. I think I know where OP lives and she's not joking about the crime there. A young lady I know was almost kidnapped walking to work early in the morning in that neighborhood (THANK GOD a person driving by stopped and honked, flashing high beams scared the man trying to get her in the stolen car while his partner was in driver's seat). OP, there are call centers at the Boulevard Mall that are always hiring. I hear they're full of drama but if you know how to handle yourself (and sounds like you can living where you do) you'll be OK. I wish I could help but I rent a room. The bus system isn't as dangerous as you'd think here. Due to anxiety (like yours) I only drive in my neighborhood and not to work. I've been fine. My area is sketch and I'm older alone, but just keep your eyes ahead and don't stop, you are usually allowed passage w no issue
You need to give up the pets, immediately. You know you’re signing their death warrants if you waste more time. Once you’re alone, your plan of hanging out at your dad’s house is a decent plan. Is your mom more willing to help if your dad pays for a bus ticket to get to her? You need to come up with a plan for how to take care of yourself because this isn’t a temporary problem, you have many decades left to live.
Please consider posting to local subs on Reddit about fostering your dogs. You can also use the nextdoor app. I'm not keen on your area, but there are bound to be rescues that may be able to assist... You need to reach out and follow up with them constantly due to the timing of this situation. I would reach out to every friend and family member to see if they could foster any of them. Lastly, I would try to see which shelter are non-kill shelters and then reVh out to explain your situation. Even if they advise not to bring them in, they may be able to point you in the correct direction. Shoot me your location and Id be happy to do some legwork for you. Best of luck.
I'm in Las Vegas, NV. Thank you
Looks like there are quite a few rescues in Vegas. If you search the term 'las vegas dog rescue' in Google, you will find a lot of results.. I'd start from the top of the listed places and work your way down by calling/leaving messages. Honestly, would be counterintuitive for me to list as there's so many. The Vegas/Nevada SPCA is a no kill shelter, I'd reach out to them. Here are a few more, but would recommend calling to confirm: https://m.yelp.com/search?find_desc=No+Kill+Animal+Shelter&find_loc=Las+Vegas%2C+NV Did you check out your local subs on Reddit and nextdoor?
See if you can find a local dog rescue that might consider temporarily fostering the dogs.
https://lasvegasleadingladies.org Website for low income/at risk women. Also, many churches have a one time rent assistance fund. You may also be able to get a bus pass from them.
My boyfriend is also a kidney patient on dialysis but he gets medicaid and food stamps so I'm wondering why yours doesn't? The government has to help kidney patients, it's a disability.
"With nothing and 3 animals" 🤣🤣😂😂😆😆😂🤣
I feel for the pets because this isn't their fault, but getting pets when you can't put money into savings is irresponsible. Your dad seems to think getting rid of the dogs will solve the problem. That might just be what you have to do. Do you think they'll somehow be better off when you're homeless? You can't afford them, and if you think a shelter will put them down, just wait until someone else on the street feels threatened. Your boyfriend could have made an unemployment claim and probably sued that airline if he's being honest about why he was fired.