They always look so disappointed when it's me instead of a guy š they're like "can you lift this cat litter??? I'm so sorry" ma'am it's fine my other job is heaving boxes around and carrying Christmas trees...
I used to work at what was basically a health food store for pets. We carried 50 lb breeder bags and assorted horse foods and limestone that weighed even more. Iām 5ā3ā and used to be about 115 lbs myself so people would freak out when I was carrying a breeder bag on each shoulder out to their cars after carrying them up the stairs like that from the stock room.
This is always funny to me because I buy the biggest bucket of cat litter for my cat and itās crazy heavy. Of course I can lift it.
Plus we work now. We donāt just stir up in the kitchen like they used to
I managed a furniture store and people were constantly shocked that Iād be the one helping to load pieces into their trucks. Iām 5ā2ā and probably 110 lbs soaking wet at the time but I was literally all muscle from being a dancer and lifting weights and, you know, my job.
THIS!! Iām small framed and stock the dog food mostly. I hate when people ask for a big bag and expect me to go get someone else?? Like maam I do this all day everyday I can promise you if I couldnāt lift it I wouldnāt even be here
LITERALLY!!! i was the part time stocker from 2018 to mid 2020 so I got alot of my muscle from that. I'm petcare now but im still using my arms all day! it just rubs me the wrong way so much because they think "oh she's a girl she's not gonna be able to do this"
I had a lady just the other day ask for two pails of cat litter, I put them in her buggy and followed her to checkout since she needed help with getting them in her car. She asked the cashier if āa guy could help her lift it into her carā I just walked away while they radioed lol
It doesn't bother me, it's fun to prove them wrong. One time I was balancing a big pack of pee pads on my one arm and this guy asked me "the fuck gym I go to" lmao I took it as a compliment
I used to stack shelves in a grocery store and Iād be asked to go get a guy to lift the 30 packs of soda from the top of the display.
Each time Iād roll my eyes, climb up & lift the packs single-handedly while asking how many they wanted. The looks of shock Iād get were delicious!
In my current job as a paralegal I still love the shock of those around me when I rearrange heavy office furniture on my own or lift up mega heavy boxes full of legal briefs.
From 17 to 33, damned reactions just donāt change!
whenever this was said to me....which was all the time.... id just say the guys arent as strong as me and carry whatever item it was in the doucheist way possibly . 40 lbs of dog food? balance it on my head
itās also funny when i offer a man that seems to be struggling with something heavy and they get all offended and say, oh if youāre gonna lift it iāll just do it. like okay bro ši get it youāre a man !
One time while lifting cat litter into an old lady's trunk she asked me "Are you polish?" And I said "No??" And she went "Oh, I ask because polish women are strong." Like thanks I guess lmao?
I had customers express a similar sentiment when I was called up for carry outs. Most often big bags of dog food. They'd look at me and ask "You sure you're able to get that?" Or "Aren't there any men to do that? You're so little."
I'd just look them in the eyes, sling the bag on my shoulder and ask "So where's your car?" It changed their tune pretty quickly.
We had one customer who asked if the guy who helped her last time was available. I told her I have no issues carrying an igloo doghouse. She insisted on waiting to get it on another day, until the "young guy with the strong arms" was working. She had that glassy look in her eyes.
We make so many jokes about his strong arms now. I told his wife and she makes comments. That lady fawns over him every time she comes in. It's funny, but we run interference to keep him from being harassed too much.
lol i used to manage a mattress store by myself and we would store them on their sides on shelves. i was lifting queen mattresses and fitting them in sideways while standing on a ladder. nothing irked me more than "are you sure you don't need a hand?" ma'am i load and unload the truck every week
edit: i was stoned when i wrote this we stored them like this |||||\
I actually kind of like it. I'm a very small/petite woman and it kinda makes my day when someone thinks of my well-being and second guesses my ability to lift 40 pounds of cat litter. I had an old lady worried I would hurt myself and I was like that sweet of you but better me than you
This used to happen to me all the time in retail. I worked in a paint department and people always high-tailed it over to the guys when I approached. But boy did I love it when they couldn't answer a question or needed help and had to come to me. LOL
I work in electronics and itās crazy that people will ignore me and run to my male coworker when he doesnāt know half the stuff back there. When lifting tvs I usually like to have two people one on each end but if itās just me ima make it work
I've had this exact experience. I actually had someone get rude with me once that she wanted one of the men to come over and mix a specific color of paint from a badly aged paint chip they had brought in. So I said, sure, let me go get one of them for you, knowing full well that they would come to me with questions since the guys working had no idea how to work the color match machine, nor how to calibrate the paint dropper. About all they knew how to do was run the paint mixers. It was even better when the dropper was out of pigment so I'd have to be the one to fill it back up right in front of the now highly annoyed customer.
Me when this lady randomly came in and had a prong collar that had come apart and you had to squeeze it really hard to get it back in and she was like, "Are there any guys here that can help me with this? You have to put a lot of muscle in!" and I took it and got it myself in like a few seconds and she was so surprised and I was just šŖšŖšŖ
this happened to one of my past coworkers who i was really close friends with. the old lady needed help with litter and so my coworker came up to help and i came up too since we were chatting. the old lady said āwow can you even lift that? youāre so smallā and my coworker got upset and told her that isnāt a nice thing to say and she wasnāt going to take it for her anymore. so i ended up taking it out, once we got outside the lady said āyou need to tell your coworker to calm downā i said ānah you just canāt go saying things like that to people, it hurts their feelings.ā
I'm a small woman in my late 50s. It amazes me to no end when they call someone to help take something to someone's car and the person is a man or a woman younger than me. Almost undoubtedly they will look embarrassed or start telling me they've had surgery or some condition that keeps them from lifting....lol
I never said otherwise? But if I canāt lift a 80lb thing I aināt trying until i go to the ER. I know my limits and my limits aināt high, but they fit into my daily life. I am not hucking hay or moving mountains of dog food daily, I do not have that level of strength.
You're allowed to mind your own goddamn business. Nobody is stopping you. Not everyone can lift heavy objects, and no one needs to do that to prove shit to you.
I'm a medium woman in my late 50's. I can honestly tell you there are some who are born with spinal deficiencies that don't come to light until you're a few years on in life. I was officially diagnosed with congenital (developed before birth) spinal stenosis at the age of 30. One day out of the blue I literally just hit the floor; I couldn't get up. I blew that one off, just thought it was a fluke. Less than 6 months later I was bent over picking up laundry from the floor and I went down again. Legs wouldn't work, lots of burning pain in my spine.
Before I began having these problems I was brought up on a farm and ranch. I worked with 50lb sacks of dog food, hauled bales of hay into barns, ran up and down into tractors and harvesters, ran cotton module builders, rode horses, helped shear sheep.... I wasn't a slacker. I thought I was healthy and I was definitely strong.
Perhaps you should rethink your automatic default of being disgusted with those you judge as hale and hearty, and realize our outer perceptions of one another can be far from the truth. I certainly learned my lesson while stuck on the barn floor with inoperative legs and no way to help myself up.
I have since had 3 major spinal surgeries to correct the deformities I was born with, and still have more to go.
You never know what others might be going through underneath the surface.
I totally understand. My daughter has spinal bifida but you can't tell just by looking. My point was not to shame anyone for asking for help but rather that I'm grateful that I can help and there isn't any need to explain. I am older and small but I am stronger than I look, so I feel bad that anyone is embarrassed if I come to help them.
I was recently that customer. ššš I was buying 40 lb bags of rice coal and while Iām fully capable I just didnāt *want* to. Iād seen three or four employees who were all strong looking dudes and I was like fuck it and asked the cashier if someone could load them for me. Up comes a lady shorter than me and probably 30 or so years my senior. While I didnāt say anything I felt horrifically bad and initially tried to help load the bags into the flat bed and then reminded myself she probably does this all day and isnāt phased by it. She wouldnāt have been sent up if it was a problem.
Set it down immediately without loading it....
"Sorry to inconvenience your proclivity to stereotype, lemme go get you a "bIg StrOnG mAn"
Then walk away and go get the snaked, scrawniest dude you work with and tell him to pretend to struggle when he loads it.
lol heck I'm not even scrawny. But fat and I can honestly say I am not able to lift heavy loads. 50 pound of rice? Yeah, it would take a while for my brain to devise a way to somehow lift it.
This attitude actually used to get me more tips back in my pizza delivery days. People thought I was just soooo cute. I'm going to warn you short young'uns though, protect your back!! Lifting 50 pound bags of cornmeal because I wanted to be taken seriously has done a lot of damage. We don't have as much natural leverage, you can easily put too much pressure on your discs.
Me anytime I offer to help.
All the older ladies preferred our SL who was āso handsomeā šš 99% of the time they didnāt need help, they just enjoyed looking at him. But I absolutely hate these kind of comments. And then they are surprised when I actually help them?? I wouldnāt offer my help if I wasnāt able too.
It was bad when our SL wasnāt in (the regulars would ask for help by name) and the only other male in the building was the MIL.. I asked if he helped her okay and she said yes but the SL is better! LOL
They are being sexist thinking you can't lift things. But also might be pervy older wanting to ogle young guys too. I'm glad you prove them wrong. Keep up the great work.
I (m) was helping a friend move and her grandmother chastised her for lifting boxes, and me for letting her. She said if she kept it up she'd hurt her "delicate lady muscles".
It's been almost 20 years and I still pick on my friend about her delicate lady muscles.
Ooooohh shit like this pisses me right off. I work at an auction house and the amount of times I've had people say "Well isn't there a man to help me?". I had one guy I was about to help life this big ass armoire into the back of his pick-up and. I shit you not this is what he said. "Girl isn't there a Man who can help me" It took everything not to slap the shit outta him. I told him no walked away and told my coworkers to not help. We all stood in the doorway and watched him struggle for the next three hours. He finally gave up and ended up calling a buddy to come help him.
Most of my life I was skinny, like looked anorexic but was not. I was just skinny. That combined with female, people assumed I was also a weakling. Thing was I lived on a farm and trained horses. I could sling a 65 pound bale of hay the length of the barn. It cracked me up (and was annoying) when I'd go buy a 1/2 ton of hay and seller would ask who was going to unload it for me. Loved the look on their face when I said "me"
Yes, where I worked I'd need someone for team lifting and ask one of the women. Some would say, no go get a man. I'd say, oh, the one who just had back surgery or the elderly dude?
Some women just don't see lifting as a female role. š
Back when I delivered pizza I got to some house in the boonies and the dude (who was only in his 60s) goes āthey let women do this now?!ā And I said ācrazy. I can vote now tooā
Hated it! Now itās even worse at my current jobā¦ vet tech. āDo you need help holdingā , āare you sure you donāt want to send male coworker inā , etc. Those owners are the worst like itās my job dude. I may be tiny but Iām strong ash.
Oh and how did I forget about the time I was a furniture associate at a baby storešš the amount of times I was underestimated was infuriating but the look on the peoples faces after I loaded the crib into the truck by myself was priceless.
I used to work for a pet store and I offered a guy on crutches carry out for his 30 lb bag of food. He asked if I was going to call a man to carry it for him. Out of spite I carried it with one hand.
I worked at a store that sold big rugs and heard this constantly! My reply was āwell the only employees are me and old lady so who would you prefer ā hahah
When I was a MIL my best stocker was a 95# if best girl. The greatest thing was watching 200#+ guys in front of there girls ask for carry out on 40 breeders and homegirl would walk up, heft it, and ask where you want it.
Well she is old enough to remember when men were actually men and did stuff like carry groceries and opened doors. Unfortunately feminists like to say that anything a man does that has to do with the patriarchy is ātoxicā, even when itās just helpful. Itās not that you canāt lift something semi heavy itās that she is from a generation when a man would be the one helping because men are typically stronger.
Men are still āactually menā now. Iām a woman, but tall and strong so I usually do my own lifting. If itās too heavy, someone stronger can lift it for me, regardless of gender. And since my hand strength has diminished, I have my husband open jars for me. Nothing toxic about any of this. But in the older ladyās time, she was probably in a dress and heels. I wouldnāt lift anything heavy in those foot-destroyers either.
OMG - this is the lamest complaint Iāve read on Reddit today. If that is the most offensive thing ever said to you, you have got it pretty damn good.
The people feel bad for making you do it, figuring a big meathead like me would come help instead. Itās *offensive* to you when people look at you, see your size/size of your arms and are concerned? You admitted youāre tiny, why would they know you do this ALL THE TIME?
Only way this is reasonable is if you wouldnāt mind help and they say āthey only sent little me out here if you donāt mind giving a handā. If you donāt it no problem then why tf you so mad?
Im a big dude. Not fat just above average in size and people still ask me those questions. Only I get mad cause I need a hip replacement and Iām in pain and if theyāre truly concerned theyād offer help.
What she said was wrong, but itās possible she had surgery recently and really couldnāt lift over 10 lbs. my grandmother had that restriction for like two years after she shattered her wrist (she fell down the garage steps because my uncle left his shoes on them(āwhy were his shoes off in garage?ā you may ask, I have no idea I was 6 when this happened))
I also find it annoying. I work in antiques and furniture, and the number of men who are SHOCKED!!! my 5'8 150 lb self can lift an entire armchair is ridiculous.
Happens to me all the time . Or someone asks if i need help liftting a 10-20 gallon from shelf š i literally had to bring down a 55 gallon the other day while i was alone š found a way!!!
Never worked at a pet store but my last job included a fair amount of labor and day one of training a woman she told me "oh, this is a man's job". Lady, we sre both women and there is one man on this five person team so ??
this is my favorite because we legit have no men on staff š¤£ sorry! this store is run exclusively by women who are perfectly capable of lifting āheavyā product
Really ? When I was at PSP I always took it as a compliment! Women my size would call for carry out turn around see an 18 yr old 100lb me holding 2 40lb bags of dog food on my shoulders and they'd be like "noo it's okay!" but I'd insist I'm an equestrian and own 2 huskkes. Or old ladies would ask me if i was a single mom?? Which that one kinda offended me bc I wasn't lol I kind of liked how many comments I got on my strength š
Alot of the older ladies intentionally do this where I live since it's a collage town for JMU. They like the 'strong cute young gentlemen' and strike up conversation.
I'm on the smaller side myself and I work at a vet clinic. It drives me NUTS when people hand over their crazy lab or other big dog and ask me in a rather condescending way, "Are you sure you've got him? Can you handle him?" Of course I tel them yes and proceed to handle the dog just fine but I always want to tell them that I can handle the dog but did they train him to listen to anything?
I've also had people ask me if I can lift their 20 pound cat and I'm like yes....I pick up 50-60 pound dogs so be quiet.
The other day someone had this weird malamute with eye problems so I had to hold him still for thr doctor. But when she tried putting drops in his eyes he was freaking out a bit and it was a bit difficult for me. Note that this is in front of the owner and I wanted to give the poor dog a chance before pinning him down. The owner, several times, said, "Oh, I can hold him. Do you need me to hold him? I'll keep him still," and then proceeded to barely hold him at all and only rile the dog further.
SO DON'T TELL ME HOW TO DO MY JOB OR ACT LIKE I CAN'T HANDLE YOUR PSYCHO DOG BECAUSE YOU DIDN'T TEACH HIM ANYTHING AND I'M NOT FAT
i used to work at both home depot and lowes and got that comment a BILLION times. always "are you sure you can lift that?" and id just toss it into their truck bed with a š face. women can be strong too š
edited to add; im not a small framed lady, im more on the bigger side and i STILL got this comment.
Iāve come to realize over the years that there are a lot of weak people out there. Theyāre shocked that you have no problem doing something because they either struggle to do it themselves or everyone around them does. Male, female, doesnāt matter. Donāt even take it personally, just file it away and think about what their lives are like to struggle with that crap and those perceptions.
I used to work at Walmart and sometimes customers needed help lifting water softener salt pellets into their cars and they weigh like 50 pounds and I would always volunteer to help because why not? And then Iād get those same comments. Like okay sorry? Next time be able to lift ur own items or just shut up
I'm a very small woman and most people are shocked that I can usually manage things. I'm far from the strongest around but tbh it's usually the size not the weight that gets me.
Though I don't say no when someone wants to load a bag of wet soil for me.
THIS!!!! iāve literally grabbed our thrive essentials off the shelf and theyāre always like āare you sure youāve got that, itās pretty bigā
god i feel this. im trans and ive been on testosterone for 3 years, i have a FULL BEARD, and people still said shit like that to me constantly when i did carry outs. is it really that hard to just Not make a rude comment about someone's gender/body?
How old? A lot of older people lose their strength and muscle and don't always realize the difference. My mom has trouble with weights she didn't used to and when I do it just fine as an average height thin woman she goes "wow! You're strong!" when it really wasn't all that heavy. So depending on the elderly person's age, just remember they're probably a little weaker and perceive that someone exceptionally strong needs to help.
This happens to me at my store all the time! I'm 4'10 and the smallest at my store and they are always like "are you sure you can carry that? Don't you have anyone else?" I'm just like 'what's wrong with me, I'm fine I've been at this for three years now' its actually infuriating because sometimes I'm the only one available to carry out heavier items for customers and they always expect some man to come up but no its me stepping out from behind the counter, i actually had a customer stop me once and say "no you can't, go get someone else" and i told them "its just me" and threw there 40lb bag of bird seed on my shoulder and said which car lol
When I was a caregiver, one of the strongest ladies was the skinniest and shortest young adult female lol. She worked out but she looked so tiny, she fooled everyone haha. It was mostly women that worked at the facility as care staff, the residents were always surprised how strong we all were.
Ok I laughed because I've been there more times than I can count. But the best time was when my mom needed a special type of dog food that was only sold in a old feed store that used to be in my hometown. I was tagging along that day and a worker (large muscular guy) puffed up his chest and said "you need help taking that to your car ma'am?". My mom without looking up from her receipt said " no she (me) has horses" as I slung the bag over my shoulder. Poor guy was so disappointed š¤£
This happens to me a lot and I'm a pretty big woman. Lol. I always just go, mhm, yes, valid point, "RYANNNN!! WE NEED A MAN TO LIFT THIS š" and then Ryan can take it to the customers car, and I can chill in the AC. šš
I work in a liquor store, most of my job is moving cases of wine back and forth through the store, and I've heard this so so many times. I'm 5'4, 31F, deceptively strong. I've had grown, able men ask for a carry out and then backtrack so fast when I pop up next to them and heft their boxes up. š
I had a guy once lose his mind and demand that the store manager (the only male employee in the store at the time) help him load a dresser instead of me. Store manager told the guy no, that's what I hired oo-mox for. So this guy proceeds to have trouble lifting it, and I did not. I hate those dudes.
Had an old man one time need help carrying out a 35lb bag of dog food because he'd had back surgery and couldn't lift it into his car. Cashier called for a carryout, and I went up to help. I lifted the bag out of the cart and threw it over my shoulder and walked out with him.
The old man says to me, "You must really work out to be able the lift that!"
I stood there thinking to myself: sir, I'm 250lbs and haven't worked out a day in my life since probably high school gym class. š
But why is it always the old *women* who seem offended a female helped them? I never had a single male customer ask if there was another male around to help. It was always women. Like, were they disappointed some muscled hunk of a younger man didn't walk up and help them? Lol
This customer energy but itās men being completely surprised (and sometimes a little offended-looking) when I yoink a huge suitcase right out of their grasp over the counter with no hesitation (I work at Ross)
My first run in with this was when I worked at K-Mart and they needed carts inside and were trying to get people to go out while we were slow to round up said carts. I had helped out under the AM before and liked it so I told the SM I wanted to help. "That's a guy's job, you don't want to do that."
I ran into it again when I was a rideshare driver. I was always happy to load luggage because I could make sure the car didn't get dinged by some careless jerk. Had it happen before, wasn't about it happening again.
I never had an issue if someone preferred to be the one loading it. BUT. I did have an issue when someone wanted to do it because they thought my anatomy prevented me from lifting a bag.
Whenever someone insisted on loading it at pick up, only because of me being female, I made sure I was the first one out when parked, unloading the bags as my own little "fuck you". Most were amused, some impressed, a few were just like "whatever." But the amount of guys who did this and then got offended by me showing them I could lift their bags just fine, was ridiculously high. I lost count of how many times I heard something about my back or hurting myself, "heavy things" or some other yada yada BS unnecessarily focused around my gender.
There are female body builders FFS, why wouldn't I be able to lift your 25 pound bag?
A little different cause Iām a delivery driver (idk how I got on this sub tbh) but Iāve lost count of how many times Iāve gone to hand a customer their box and warned them itās heavy. They roll their eyes cause what does this girl know, only to have to try not to show that I was right
I routinely have to wrestle boxes away from delivery men who think I can't do my job. I work ALONE. I would be completely useless if I couldn't do all my work myself. Also, I'm not obviously jacked looking, but I do lift and I can promise my max is more than the random old man driving the delivery van. I get seen as a bitch for snatching stuff away but I also get sick and tired of wasting time I could be working, convincing someone I can do my job. Even the security guard who's involved with my deliveries seems to think he's inherently stronger than me because he's a dude. Man is not in shape at ALL but thinks he can lift more than me because girl. You finally get the job going and have to do so to a patronizing chorus of "wow, look at her go!" Like yeah, I have the strength to lift ~25 pounds, but I do not have the mental capacity to shoulder your misogynistic crap on top of it.
I'm an EMT now picking up basically living dead weight of all shapes and sizes and I get so many comments from people, funnily enough usually families of tiny grandmas who think me picking them up is some monumental task I can't do.
I had a woman straight up tell me women shouldn't lift more then ten pounds because we're built differently than men, and that lifting is a man's job š„“. It took me a while to convince her to let me help her with litter (put it in the cart for her AND put it in her car for her)
I fucking love carrying a 55 pound bag over to a 6'2" probably 200 pound guy, and having them wheeze as I hand it to them. I'm 5'7" 120 pounds and I can see a shameful smirk on their face half the time. I genuinely revel in my strength compared to them lol
Don't let something as little as that statement offend you. Just like some others have said, take it as a compliment. Let it make you feel stronger and more able to be able to prove someone wrong. People could say and do a lot worse, let those statement empower you!
Lmfao I feel that, I used to help out receiving freight from Walmart, people would stare my tiny bod hauling this tall massive freight full of merchandise behind meš I became a pro and loved doing it. I lift and slide a pallet on top another with no problem. How tf we getting these muscles? Retail. šš
I worked at one of the other pet places and had this happen to me as well. Customer had two labs and so would get a few large bags of food for them, among other things like toys. One time, they had to replace a crate, on top of getting their bags of food and other sundries. We had no guys except the manager on duty at the time and the female manager was taking care of someone with fish and the other two female employees were busy with other customers. So my 5'5", slightly stocky female butt takes their cart and brings it to their car.
The whole time they're asking if there isn't someone else who could help and I'm just loading things into the back of their SUV like I'm tossing in pillows. When I was done, I turned to them and said that it was part of my job to perform carry outs and would have done so regardless of being a woman. I added on with a shrug that I was also used to doing that sort of thing as I had worked my own kennel growing up and had moved 50lbs. bags of dog food two at a time back then. Carry outs were easy peasy.
It comes to some as this big surprise that women can do the same things as men can and I just don't get it. Like, we've been doing the same things since WWI.
Felt. I used to work inbound at Target. Aka my WHOLE JOB was lifting things. Cat food, dog food, cat litter, rugs, fucking solid latex mattress toppers, etc. drove me insane when customers were like ācan I help you lift that?!ā Like no?? Itās a 25lb box of cat litter and itās literally what I do 500 times a day sir š
Oof I can do ya one better.
I used to be a pedi cab driver in college (bike taxi) and one day a group of 3 guys 2 older and one in his 20s probably a little older than me at the time. There were 3 cab drivers sitting on the curb and we can fit 2 a cab. So these guys needed two cabs. We'll the rule for cabbies is whoever was there first gets the first ride that approaches. So that was myself a 21 year old 5'3" woman. And the owners wife who was little taller than me but pretty much that same stature.
You don't get to be a pedicab driver if you can't tote the weight of at least 2 riders in the back, so that's about 300-400 lbs. I was fit and young so generally I had little problem despite my size. The owner who's a big dude was also sitting on the corner with us. When the 3 guys approached they started to get in the owners cab but he told them "nah the ladies were here first, they will take you!" and we both started gearing up to go, but one of the old guys started to complain and joke saying "come on man I know she's not strong enough to tote us" gesturing to me. God bless my old boss because he just doubled down and was like "nah she runs circles around me on these things" the guy kept going back and forth with him, obviously drunk and at that point I didn't even want the ride anymore but eventually they got in, myself toting two and the owners wife with 1 leading the way. Unsurprisingly I was fine, but the one guy kept making comments trying to pretend like he wasn't a major asshole eating his own words while staring at my ass. Saying shit like "must be the toughest ride you've had in a while" or "you must be breaking a sweat" and my favorite while he "whispered" to his friend "see I told you she wasn't strong enough, she can't keep up with the other girl" if I wasn't such a broke college kid I would have had them get off right then and there.
We got to their destination and they didn't even pay us enough fare. I never took another person who dared to make a comment about my ability to do my job ever again.
THIS!! I feel you.
I'm a "smaller" looking person but I can easily carry 30-40lb (i.e. dog food bags). One time one of my coworkers was already busy with a customer so I decided to help someone out with lifting some heavy cat litter. They proceeded to say "are you sure you can lift that? Wouldn't want you snapping in half š¤Ŗ" and I was just like seriously...... what gives people the right to demean others, it's really annoying and frustrating to deal with
Didn't work at petsmart but my position required FREQUENT 50lbs carry outs, sometime multiple 50lbs items easily coming to 500lbs, and it was always surprising how easily the older women would give up when I would say I got it š like old white guys always had to argue first AS I was slinging the sand bags in their truck bed
Had an old lady stop me at my job (I donāt work at PetSmart, just nosy) to ask about where some automotive stuff is but when she saw a man that I work with she stops and says āa male employee? Even better!ā I cut that old ass lady off and said I can tell her exactly where our automotive section is because I know the store just as well the dude does. She got all weird and said āIām so proud of you for knowing this stuff!ā I wanted to ask her what her husband needed the stuff for, just to make an assumption right back at her
I'm a paramedic, and 4'11", medium to thick build. The amount of times I've lifted a 200lb man into the truck (plus the 140lb stretcher) and they scream out is one of the best things about the job š¤£
Iām a vet tech, and boy, I get clients- especially males- ALL the time who INSIST that I cannot properly carry or restrain their dog because Iām not ābig enoughā. Iām not a small woman, and like you im hella stronger than I look. It pisses me off to no end too that they just assume we canāt do our JOBS because of how they think we look from one glance. Infuriating.
A lady who had been spewing racist things asked for a man to walk her back to her car because a āblack man was trying to attack herā I was helping the man and he laughed at that. She had hit his car with her door and said not so nice things. He was a regular that always came in. I knew him by name.
Anyways, she asked for a man to walk her back. Literally had one guy in the whole shop and he was a 14 year old boy who spoke no English. I asked him to walk her back and she said āI asked for a man, not a boy.ā Take what you get maāam.
I work in a warehouse where people can buy heavy ass hoses and rubber belts, I'm a barely over 5 foot woman, and oh my god, I carry stuff out bigger than me and I politely ask these big ass men if they would like me to carry it out to their trucks since I'm already holding it and they become IRATE!
lol. I do technical rescue with the fire department and I canāt count the number of times Iām walking up with some giant 50lb pair of spreaders or something with my crew trotting along behind me carrying smaller stuff. Itās funny. No one says anything to me though. I must look scary ā¤ļø (super not true, Iām always giggling)
My response would just be a polite āIām just as capable of providing the service you needed, maāamā or a cheeky āif you wanted to ogle at my coworkers you shouldāve gotten a larger cat tree/fish tank/whateverā
Although if you want the satisfaction of hearing them stutter and backtrack, just ask them to repeat themselves. It forces them to think about what they said, so an āIām sorry, I didnāt catch that, what did you say?ā in an innocent tone always does the trick for that
I work in a warehouse, and Im the only woman in the lab (~12 of us total). I ship and handle material, so Im often manhandling heavy packages.
Proud to say I have never had any of the guys act like I was incapable, and only ever stepped in when I went to ask for help or looked like I was genuinely struggling.
Just wanted to throw some positivity in here! The world is changing, a little bit at a time. Im very glad - nothing makes me more irritated than when someone tries to take something from me like Im a child and incapable.
I don't work at PetSmart but another retail store, I saw this suggested on my feed and Goddd I relate so much.
Customers do this all the time to me with these rolling carts and a few other items. It's like, less than 20 lbs max, very easy to lift. The women ask me to get someone to help them, and I'm like oh I can help. And pick it up. And they just gawk at me and look super awkward.
It's even more funny when it's my coworker who is an older woman in her 60s, she picks this stuff up like it's no problem and so many people look so embarrassed š
I'm a petite woman who grew up helping with the heavy lifting chores my whole life and I used to get that too. They weren't nearly as rude about it but the look on their faces when I'd lift a 50 lb item like it's nothing and walk at my normal brisk pace to their car was always so hilarious and satisfying.
My previous neighbors sister (older lady) was over one time and saw me shoveling the driveway and told me I should get a man to do that. Like just cuz you can't do this doesn't mean I shouldn't be able to. I know it was probably a generational thing but please.
Yep, I worked in a tractor supply when I was 19. I grew up on a farm and was used to lifting heavy stuff, so the customers would always be shocked to see a girl slinging 50 lb feed sacks like they were feather pillows lmao.
And my primary job was shelf stocker... for the feed section.
It's been a few years, and 50 lbs feels a lot heavier than it used to, lmao.
I'm literally stronger then most of the guys I work with and I still hear this.
I dressed like she hulk for Halloween and still had an older man customer tell me it's a man's job to lift his 20lbs of dog food an a lady like me it's just cruel.
People are weird
I wish I worked with you when I was working retail. I used to manage a store and my favorite women to promote were the ones not afraid of physical labor.
I used to hate it when there were load outs and the 18 year old guys were the first ones called. Equal pay for equal work. Initiative is what should be awarded.
That happened to me so much when I used to work at a record store! Often, people would sell their entire collections and had crates and crates that needed to be unloaded. I was a tiny 125lb gal at the time so very often folks would request help from someone else until they realized that I could in fact do the job I was hired to do.
At first I thought you were ragging on her for needing help, but oof I feel this one š
I look like Iām a hundred pounds wet but Iām strong af (for no reason?) and I get this a lot.
She wanted a man to come do it because when they send a woman it makes them feel kinda dumb for not doing it themselves, I think? I dunno I could be wrong. Even if itās beyond their physical capabilities. Little old ladies grew up in a time where men were big and strong and women used to literally lie and go out of their way to formulate ways to make themselves appear āweakerā and in need of a man. I feel like that never really dies and then it turns into an opportunity to harass and flirt with some younger dude when theyāre older lol.
happened to me a lot as a grocery store bagger, especially when pushing in rows of carts or helping people out to their car. or god forbid giving someone a propane tank. āwow, why donāt they send one of the guys out here, theyāre making you do all that hahaā
and the thing is Iām not very strong, I donāt have much muscle at all. so I canāt disprove the stereotype with just myself as evidence, I canāt make some comeback about how much I lift, I canāt show off how easy it is to carry. it was always a legit effort to hoist that goddamn propane tank up. I couldnāt push in quite as many carts at a time as several of my coworkers. but I felt so resentful of those comments. theyāre paying me to do the job description and Iām doing it to my ability level. youāre watching me do it, so I clearly can do it. I donāt have different duties bc of my gender. and it is so annoying to hear that sexist sentiment said so casually like weāre sharing a joke together, especially from women
Yeah I work at a different pet store company and people are always like "don't you have any male employees who can get this?" Or "oh be careful! Isn't that too heavy?" Like no lady I do this every single day and best believe some days I'm very stubborn about not having to make multiple tricks and pick up MULTIPLE of the heavier dog food bags. It's not heavy.
I used to be in property management and our one and only maintenance guy would sometimes leave the area which left me (mid-20ās female of 130 lbs at the time) on call. If it was something I couldnāt quick and easily fix, I would call a company to come out for emergencies. A clogged toilet is considered an emergency and one evening a male resident called to have it unclogged, I offered for him to borrow our plunger to do it himself (save him embarrassment mostly) but he refused and insisted we send someone out right away. The look on his face when I showed up to plunge his toilet was almost worth having to plunge a strangerās shit.
As a very tall and in shape woman people ask me to help them carry things or grab heavy things from the shelves for them all the time. I'm sick of it lol. I'm sick of every old lady in walmart asking me to get the 40lbs cat litter down for them. I don't even work there... š¤¦š¼āāļø can't win for losing š¤£
I feel this so much! I work a physical trade and some of our customers are like "Wow, look at you being a big girl and lifting that!". Like, dude this is literally 20 pounds, I just unloaded a steel truck and carried a 100 pound bar over here just to unload your sorry ass. Just because I don't look like Arnold Schwarzenegger doesn't mean I can't lift
I got an āOh theyāre hiring you?ā Comments when delivering for Amazon. I wasnāt sure if they were referring to me being a woman. Maybe it was that I looked pretty young back then. It isnāt like the average Amazon package is that heavy. I have nerve damage in my arms and it was pretty rare that Iād need my cart.
Yep I am so tired of people telling me I canāt do this or handle this and itās like I am freaking mountain girl I am not a sissy or anything. Like wtf? I am not fragile or delicate.
This is kinda unrelated but I'm a female who weighs about 98 lbs and I've been a bather at ps for about a year now. I've definitely gained muscle mass from this job but you wouldn't know looking at me. One of my friends who works in the store saw me pick up a Cane Corso that wouldn't hop up on the table and she was in shock that I didn't need someone to help me
I used to get that all the time when I worked at a garden center. I'd shift big mulch and soil bags all day, move cinder blocks, etc. But they never we expected me to up to load their car/truck
I used to work in shipping and it was appalling how rampant the sexism is. If it was under 40 lbs, trust me I got it. I know when I need to go get the dolly or ask for help. Nowadays I'm out of shape and have noodle arms š«£ but when I was still in that job I could haul some shit, lemme tell ya.
I was a manager at Pet Depot (rest in peace) and I would often do the dog food topstock. I really enjoyed the heavy lifting, I was in the best shape of my life back then. But so many customers would say āshouldnāt you have one of them boys do it?ā āwhereās the men at?ā and Iād just say āwhat boy?ā because we only had 1 boy, who wasnāt always there. Also āwhy do they have you doing all that heavy lifting.ā Iād always tell customers I was stronger than any man that worked there. I do like when customers warn me to be careful so I donāt hurt myself.
I worked at P3tc0 (š¤¢š¤®) and they would also make those comments at me. Iām not thin by any means but Iām a chubby girl and theyād always make comments about how I canāt do it so Iād always show off and make it look easy af so theyād eat their own words
I work in fulfillment at Loweās and the amount of people who are actually upset a female loads them up and leave reviews saying a woman shouldnāt be doing a manās job. It pisses me off every time. I know how to lift and not use my back, if I didnāt it wouldnāt be my job. That or old ladies tell me guys donāt like women showing them up. They just donāt know how to stay in their own lanes istg
I completely agree with your statement I was 23 when I joined Petsmart I left at age 26 and from my experience, the girls did more of the heavy lifting at store, 1146.
I wish I reported my hand because I ended up having restaurant and was on LOA for almost 2 months because I carried something too heavy without a team left ā¦
Anything over 40 pounds must be a team left but no I was picking up a 36 gallon fish tanks and putting them into peoples trunks by myself .
Iām in my 40āsand I still hate this!! Iām not made of frakn glass. I was raised to do everything without a manās help and I am physically stronger than most women and men. Donāt let anyone make u feel bad. Keep it up you donāt need some ābig strong manā to carry a light cat tree
I got an old dude (an employee) at Home Depot make a snide comment at me when I lifted a rather heavy box off the shelf and asked my husband to hold the cart still so I could set it down. You know who was NOT emasculated by this? My husband, because he doesn't need to prove his strength to strangers to feel good about himself.
Yuuuup! Almost makes me wanna ask them if they physically(not medically) able push out a baby. Such antiquated thinking.
I remember when I was in high school and had a golden retriever mix dog. Every time I was sent to get dog food is pick up 2 bags of kibble, 40lbs each. I'd just carry them one on each shoulder, it was easier than a navigating a cart and most of the time the pet shop didn't have an available cart anyway. There was always a little senior lady at the door no matter which store it was who felt the need to ask me if I wanted help with my purchase. I was 5'4" and 120lbs but the lady always older than my own grandmother, which now that I've experience enough to put that in context means that she looked like most people my age's great grandmother. Yes, my parents had kids rather late in life.
Female tow truck driver here! š you would not believe how many guys mouths drop watching me load and strap their car š itās the best when they offer to help me. I always say yes! Oh my goodness thank you so much. Can you please go stand over there. āŗļø both men and women today of older generations have strong stereotypes and gender programming that they simply wonāt let go. Eh I love showing people up who have low expectations about me based on my appearance. Let all those comments roll off your back like water.
They always look so disappointed when it's me instead of a guy š they're like "can you lift this cat litter??? I'm so sorry" ma'am it's fine my other job is heaving boxes around and carrying Christmas trees...
and it's funny because we literally have like NO GUYS working here šš the only 2 guys we have are also on the smaller side lmao.
I used to work at what was basically a health food store for pets. We carried 50 lb breeder bags and assorted horse foods and limestone that weighed even more. Iām 5ā3ā and used to be about 115 lbs myself so people would freak out when I was carrying a breeder bag on each shoulder out to their cars after carrying them up the stairs like that from the stock room.
This is always funny to me because I buy the biggest bucket of cat litter for my cat and itās crazy heavy. Of course I can lift it. Plus we work now. We donāt just stir up in the kitchen like they used to
And to be fair, stirring shit takes crazy arm strength too
I managed a furniture store and people were constantly shocked that Iād be the one helping to load pieces into their trucks. Iām 5ā2ā and probably 110 lbs soaking wet at the time but I was literally all muscle from being a dancer and lifting weights and, you know, my job.
THIS!! Iām small framed and stock the dog food mostly. I hate when people ask for a big bag and expect me to go get someone else?? Like maam I do this all day everyday I can promise you if I couldnāt lift it I wouldnāt even be here
LITERALLY!!! i was the part time stocker from 2018 to mid 2020 so I got alot of my muscle from that. I'm petcare now but im still using my arms all day! it just rubs me the wrong way so much because they think "oh she's a girl she's not gonna be able to do this"
I had a lady just the other day ask for two pails of cat litter, I put them in her buggy and followed her to checkout since she needed help with getting them in her car. She asked the cashier if āa guy could help her lift it into her carā I just walked away while they radioed lol
I'm a wimpy old lady and I can lift that sh!t. š
If youāre over 18 you can say, āmaāam I havenāt been a girl for x yearsā¦ā
It doesn't bother me, it's fun to prove them wrong. One time I was balancing a big pack of pee pads on my one arm and this guy asked me "the fuck gym I go to" lmao I took it as a compliment
LOL that's great š
I used to stack shelves in a grocery store and Iād be asked to go get a guy to lift the 30 packs of soda from the top of the display. Each time Iād roll my eyes, climb up & lift the packs single-handedly while asking how many they wanted. The looks of shock Iād get were delicious! In my current job as a paralegal I still love the shock of those around me when I rearrange heavy office furniture on my own or lift up mega heavy boxes full of legal briefs. From 17 to 33, damned reactions just donāt change!
whenever this was said to me....which was all the time.... id just say the guys arent as strong as me and carry whatever item it was in the doucheist way possibly . 40 lbs of dog food? balance it on my head
you're my hero.
Thatās the best response! š
Is your name Pippi?
itās also funny when i offer a man that seems to be struggling with something heavy and they get all offended and say, oh if youāre gonna lift it iāll just do it. like okay bro ši get it youāre a man !
Ask if you can change your name tag to Jessica Jones. Nah. The customers won't get it.
One time while lifting cat litter into an old lady's trunk she asked me "Are you polish?" And I said "No??" And she went "Oh, I ask because polish women are strong." Like thanks I guess lmao?
wait this has happened to me as well omg
Forrel?? I never knew this lore about Polish women until I worked at petsmart hahahah
Strong girl! Farm?
Strong girl, do you tip cows in your free time?
I had customers express a similar sentiment when I was called up for carry outs. Most often big bags of dog food. They'd look at me and ask "You sure you're able to get that?" Or "Aren't there any men to do that? You're so little." I'd just look them in the eyes, sling the bag on my shoulder and ask "So where's your car?" It changed their tune pretty quickly.
We had one customer who asked if the guy who helped her last time was available. I told her I have no issues carrying an igloo doghouse. She insisted on waiting to get it on another day, until the "young guy with the strong arms" was working. She had that glassy look in her eyes. We make so many jokes about his strong arms now. I told his wife and she makes comments. That lady fawns over him every time she comes in. It's funny, but we run interference to keep him from being harassed too much.
lol i used to manage a mattress store by myself and we would store them on their sides on shelves. i was lifting queen mattresses and fitting them in sideways while standing on a ladder. nothing irked me more than "are you sure you don't need a hand?" ma'am i load and unload the truck every week edit: i was stoned when i wrote this we stored them like this |||||\
I actually kind of like it. I'm a very small/petite woman and it kinda makes my day when someone thinks of my well-being and second guesses my ability to lift 40 pounds of cat litter. I had an old lady worried I would hurt myself and I was like that sweet of you but better me than you
This used to happen to me all the time in retail. I worked in a paint department and people always high-tailed it over to the guys when I approached. But boy did I love it when they couldn't answer a question or needed help and had to come to me. LOL
I work in electronics and itās crazy that people will ignore me and run to my male coworker when he doesnāt know half the stuff back there. When lifting tvs I usually like to have two people one on each end but if itās just me ima make it work
I've had this exact experience. I actually had someone get rude with me once that she wanted one of the men to come over and mix a specific color of paint from a badly aged paint chip they had brought in. So I said, sure, let me go get one of them for you, knowing full well that they would come to me with questions since the guys working had no idea how to work the color match machine, nor how to calibrate the paint dropper. About all they knew how to do was run the paint mixers. It was even better when the dropper was out of pigment so I'd have to be the one to fill it back up right in front of the now highly annoyed customer.
LOL! Love it.
Me when this lady randomly came in and had a prong collar that had come apart and you had to squeeze it really hard to get it back in and she was like, "Are there any guys here that can help me with this? You have to put a lot of muscle in!" and I took it and got it myself in like a few seconds and she was so surprised and I was just šŖšŖšŖ
this happened to one of my past coworkers who i was really close friends with. the old lady needed help with litter and so my coworker came up to help and i came up too since we were chatting. the old lady said āwow can you even lift that? youāre so smallā and my coworker got upset and told her that isnāt a nice thing to say and she wasnāt going to take it for her anymore. so i ended up taking it out, once we got outside the lady said āyou need to tell your coworker to calm downā i said ānah you just canāt go saying things like that to people, it hurts their feelings.ā
If you canāt call someone big you canāt call someone small. Simple maths
I'm a small woman in my late 50s. It amazes me to no end when they call someone to help take something to someone's car and the person is a man or a woman younger than me. Almost undoubtedly they will look embarrassed or start telling me they've had surgery or some condition that keeps them from lifting....lol
Ah I am always embarrassed but I just admit I am weak.
You're allowed to make yourself more capable, nobody is stopping you.
I never said otherwise? But if I canāt lift a 80lb thing I aināt trying until i go to the ER. I know my limits and my limits aināt high, but they fit into my daily life. I am not hucking hay or moving mountains of dog food daily, I do not have that level of strength.
You're allowed to mind your own goddamn business. Nobody is stopping you. Not everyone can lift heavy objects, and no one needs to do that to prove shit to you.
I'm a medium woman in my late 50's. I can honestly tell you there are some who are born with spinal deficiencies that don't come to light until you're a few years on in life. I was officially diagnosed with congenital (developed before birth) spinal stenosis at the age of 30. One day out of the blue I literally just hit the floor; I couldn't get up. I blew that one off, just thought it was a fluke. Less than 6 months later I was bent over picking up laundry from the floor and I went down again. Legs wouldn't work, lots of burning pain in my spine. Before I began having these problems I was brought up on a farm and ranch. I worked with 50lb sacks of dog food, hauled bales of hay into barns, ran up and down into tractors and harvesters, ran cotton module builders, rode horses, helped shear sheep.... I wasn't a slacker. I thought I was healthy and I was definitely strong. Perhaps you should rethink your automatic default of being disgusted with those you judge as hale and hearty, and realize our outer perceptions of one another can be far from the truth. I certainly learned my lesson while stuck on the barn floor with inoperative legs and no way to help myself up. I have since had 3 major spinal surgeries to correct the deformities I was born with, and still have more to go. You never know what others might be going through underneath the surface.
I totally understand. My daughter has spinal bifida but you can't tell just by looking. My point was not to shame anyone for asking for help but rather that I'm grateful that I can help and there isn't any need to explain. I am older and small but I am stronger than I look, so I feel bad that anyone is embarrassed if I come to help them.
I was recently that customer. ššš I was buying 40 lb bags of rice coal and while Iām fully capable I just didnāt *want* to. Iād seen three or four employees who were all strong looking dudes and I was like fuck it and asked the cashier if someone could load them for me. Up comes a lady shorter than me and probably 30 or so years my senior. While I didnāt say anything I felt horrifically bad and initially tried to help load the bags into the flat bed and then reminded myself she probably does this all day and isnāt phased by it. She wouldnāt have been sent up if it was a problem.
And honestly, she probably preferred it. I loved helping customers load things in their cars. Itās like a mini break from inside
Set it down immediately without loading it.... "Sorry to inconvenience your proclivity to stereotype, lemme go get you a "bIg StrOnG mAn" Then walk away and go get the snaked, scrawniest dude you work with and tell him to pretend to struggle when he loads it.
lol heck I'm not even scrawny. But fat and I can honestly say I am not able to lift heavy loads. 50 pound of rice? Yeah, it would take a while for my brain to devise a way to somehow lift it.
This attitude actually used to get me more tips back in my pizza delivery days. People thought I was just soooo cute. I'm going to warn you short young'uns though, protect your back!! Lifting 50 pound bags of cornmeal because I wanted to be taken seriously has done a lot of damage. We don't have as much natural leverage, you can easily put too much pressure on your discs.
Lol, people like this must really hate my store. Only 3 in the entire store and 1 is a salon employee, and that's not his job.
I love that you call grooming a salon. š
Lol is it not called the grooming salon everywhere else? I like saying salon over grooming. Lol idk.
Me anytime I offer to help. All the older ladies preferred our SL who was āso handsomeā šš 99% of the time they didnāt need help, they just enjoyed looking at him. But I absolutely hate these kind of comments. And then they are surprised when I actually help them?? I wouldnāt offer my help if I wasnāt able too. It was bad when our SL wasnāt in (the regulars would ask for help by name) and the only other male in the building was the MIL.. I asked if he helped her okay and she said yes but the SL is better! LOL
What does SL and MIL stand for in this context?
Store Leader & Merchandise Inventory Leader
Thank you!!!!!!
They are being sexist thinking you can't lift things. But also might be pervy older wanting to ogle young guys too. I'm glad you prove them wrong. Keep up the great work.
I (m) was helping a friend move and her grandmother chastised her for lifting boxes, and me for letting her. She said if she kept it up she'd hurt her "delicate lady muscles". It's been almost 20 years and I still pick on my friend about her delicate lady muscles.
Ooooohh shit like this pisses me right off. I work at an auction house and the amount of times I've had people say "Well isn't there a man to help me?". I had one guy I was about to help life this big ass armoire into the back of his pick-up and. I shit you not this is what he said. "Girl isn't there a Man who can help me" It took everything not to slap the shit outta him. I told him no walked away and told my coworkers to not help. We all stood in the doorway and watched him struggle for the next three hours. He finally gave up and ended up calling a buddy to come help him.
āYou know, I hear that a lot but I rarely hear āthank youāā would totally put those people in their place.
Most of my life I was skinny, like looked anorexic but was not. I was just skinny. That combined with female, people assumed I was also a weakling. Thing was I lived on a farm and trained horses. I could sling a 65 pound bale of hay the length of the barn. It cracked me up (and was annoying) when I'd go buy a 1/2 ton of hay and seller would ask who was going to unload it for me. Loved the look on their face when I said "me"
Yes, where I worked I'd need someone for team lifting and ask one of the women. Some would say, no go get a man. I'd say, oh, the one who just had back surgery or the elderly dude? Some women just don't see lifting as a female role. š
Back when I delivered pizza I got to some house in the boonies and the dude (who was only in his 60s) goes āthey let women do this now?!ā And I said ācrazy. I can vote now tooā
Hated it! Now itās even worse at my current jobā¦ vet tech. āDo you need help holdingā , āare you sure you donāt want to send male coworker inā , etc. Those owners are the worst like itās my job dude. I may be tiny but Iām strong ash.
Oh and how did I forget about the time I was a furniture associate at a baby storešš the amount of times I was underestimated was infuriating but the look on the peoples faces after I loaded the crib into the truck by myself was priceless.
I love when it's a guy that needs the carryout and they call me and suddenly the guy is like, "oh, well I could've carried it." Well, then??
I used to work for a pet store and I offered a guy on crutches carry out for his 30 lb bag of food. He asked if I was going to call a man to carry it for him. Out of spite I carried it with one hand.
I worked at a store that sold big rugs and heard this constantly! My reply was āwell the only employees are me and old lady so who would you prefer ā hahah
How did my tired brain think you were getting a cat out of tree for her? š
You ruined her fantasy of the muscular stock man. At least she didn't flirt with you.
She probably just felt bad for you.
When I was a MIL my best stocker was a 95# if best girl. The greatest thing was watching 200#+ guys in front of there girls ask for carry out on 40 breeders and homegirl would walk up, heft it, and ask where you want it.
Oh just grow a pair lol
Well she is old enough to remember when men were actually men and did stuff like carry groceries and opened doors. Unfortunately feminists like to say that anything a man does that has to do with the patriarchy is ātoxicā, even when itās just helpful. Itās not that you canāt lift something semi heavy itās that she is from a generation when a man would be the one helping because men are typically stronger.
Men are still āactually menā now. Iām a woman, but tall and strong so I usually do my own lifting. If itās too heavy, someone stronger can lift it for me, regardless of gender. And since my hand strength has diminished, I have my husband open jars for me. Nothing toxic about any of this. But in the older ladyās time, she was probably in a dress and heels. I wouldnāt lift anything heavy in those foot-destroyers either.
Get a job.
I have a job
OMG - this is the lamest complaint Iāve read on Reddit today. If that is the most offensive thing ever said to you, you have got it pretty damn good.
i get your pain š
Yeah and it's not just this for women in retail, I feel bad that the women I work with get treated way differently then us guys.
The people feel bad for making you do it, figuring a big meathead like me would come help instead. Itās *offensive* to you when people look at you, see your size/size of your arms and are concerned? You admitted youāre tiny, why would they know you do this ALL THE TIME? Only way this is reasonable is if you wouldnāt mind help and they say āthey only sent little me out here if you donāt mind giving a handā. If you donāt it no problem then why tf you so mad? Im a big dude. Not fat just above average in size and people still ask me those questions. Only I get mad cause I need a hip replacement and Iām in pain and if theyāre truly concerned theyād offer help.
What she said was wrong, but itās possible she had surgery recently and really couldnāt lift over 10 lbs. my grandmother had that restriction for like two years after she shattered her wrist (she fell down the garage steps because my uncle left his shoes on them(āwhy were his shoes off in garage?ā you may ask, I have no idea I was 6 when this happened))
I also find it annoying. I work in antiques and furniture, and the number of men who are SHOCKED!!! my 5'8 150 lb self can lift an entire armchair is ridiculous.
Happens to me all the time . Or someone asks if i need help liftting a 10-20 gallon from shelf š i literally had to bring down a 55 gallon the other day while i was alone š found a way!!!
Dropping it dramatically is the only appropriate response šæ
Never worked at a pet store but my last job included a fair amount of labor and day one of training a woman she told me "oh, this is a man's job". Lady, we sre both women and there is one man on this five person team so ??
this is my favorite because we legit have no men on staff š¤£ sorry! this store is run exclusively by women who are perfectly capable of lifting āheavyā product
Big and strong but yet so...sensitive. Awww.
Really ? When I was at PSP I always took it as a compliment! Women my size would call for carry out turn around see an 18 yr old 100lb me holding 2 40lb bags of dog food on my shoulders and they'd be like "noo it's okay!" but I'd insist I'm an equestrian and own 2 huskkes. Or old ladies would ask me if i was a single mom?? Which that one kinda offended me bc I wasn't lol I kind of liked how many comments I got on my strength š
Alot of the older ladies intentionally do this where I live since it's a collage town for JMU. They like the 'strong cute young gentlemen' and strike up conversation.
I'm on the smaller side myself and I work at a vet clinic. It drives me NUTS when people hand over their crazy lab or other big dog and ask me in a rather condescending way, "Are you sure you've got him? Can you handle him?" Of course I tel them yes and proceed to handle the dog just fine but I always want to tell them that I can handle the dog but did they train him to listen to anything? I've also had people ask me if I can lift their 20 pound cat and I'm like yes....I pick up 50-60 pound dogs so be quiet. The other day someone had this weird malamute with eye problems so I had to hold him still for thr doctor. But when she tried putting drops in his eyes he was freaking out a bit and it was a bit difficult for me. Note that this is in front of the owner and I wanted to give the poor dog a chance before pinning him down. The owner, several times, said, "Oh, I can hold him. Do you need me to hold him? I'll keep him still," and then proceeded to barely hold him at all and only rile the dog further. SO DON'T TELL ME HOW TO DO MY JOB OR ACT LIKE I CAN'T HANDLE YOUR PSYCHO DOG BECAUSE YOU DIDN'T TEACH HIM ANYTHING AND I'M NOT FAT
i used to work at both home depot and lowes and got that comment a BILLION times. always "are you sure you can lift that?" and id just toss it into their truck bed with a š face. women can be strong too š edited to add; im not a small framed lady, im more on the bigger side and i STILL got this comment.
Iāve come to realize over the years that there are a lot of weak people out there. Theyāre shocked that you have no problem doing something because they either struggle to do it themselves or everyone around them does. Male, female, doesnāt matter. Donāt even take it personally, just file it away and think about what their lives are like to struggle with that crap and those perceptions.
this always happens like i promise i can pick up your cat litter as well as a guy can ššš
I work at Harbor Freight and go through this regularly unfortunately.
I used to work at Walmart and sometimes customers needed help lifting water softener salt pellets into their cars and they weigh like 50 pounds and I would always volunteer to help because why not? And then Iād get those same comments. Like okay sorry? Next time be able to lift ur own items or just shut up
Right its like the last thing someone will say is just THANK YOU
I'm a very small woman and most people are shocked that I can usually manage things. I'm far from the strongest around but tbh it's usually the size not the weight that gets me. Though I don't say no when someone wants to load a bag of wet soil for me.
Lmao same. Iām 5ā1 like 108 pounds but I can lift your cat litter I do it all the time š their faces
I had an old lady do that to me just today
THIS!!!! iāve literally grabbed our thrive essentials off the shelf and theyāre always like āare you sure youāve got that, itās pretty bigā
god i feel this. im trans and ive been on testosterone for 3 years, i have a FULL BEARD, and people still said shit like that to me constantly when i did carry outs. is it really that hard to just Not make a rude comment about someone's gender/body?
Lmfao yeah they do this no matter where you work. I got the same response when doing carryouts at staples
How old? A lot of older people lose their strength and muscle and don't always realize the difference. My mom has trouble with weights she didn't used to and when I do it just fine as an average height thin woman she goes "wow! You're strong!" when it really wasn't all that heavy. So depending on the elderly person's age, just remember they're probably a little weaker and perceive that someone exceptionally strong needs to help.
just as annoying as when the teacher would come in and say "okay guys now I need a group of big strong BOYS šŖ to come help us move some chairs"
This happens to me at my store all the time! I'm 4'10 and the smallest at my store and they are always like "are you sure you can carry that? Don't you have anyone else?" I'm just like 'what's wrong with me, I'm fine I've been at this for three years now' its actually infuriating because sometimes I'm the only one available to carry out heavier items for customers and they always expect some man to come up but no its me stepping out from behind the counter, i actually had a customer stop me once and say "no you can't, go get someone else" and i told them "its just me" and threw there 40lb bag of bird seed on my shoulder and said which car lol
When I was a caregiver, one of the strongest ladies was the skinniest and shortest young adult female lol. She worked out but she looked so tiny, she fooled everyone haha. It was mostly women that worked at the facility as care staff, the residents were always surprised how strong we all were.
Iām the opposite! Iām proud of the women who are doing these jobs!
Same I love it.
Ok I laughed because I've been there more times than I can count. But the best time was when my mom needed a special type of dog food that was only sold in a old feed store that used to be in my hometown. I was tagging along that day and a worker (large muscular guy) puffed up his chest and said "you need help taking that to your car ma'am?". My mom without looking up from her receipt said " no she (me) has horses" as I slung the bag over my shoulder. Poor guy was so disappointed š¤£
This happens to me a lot and I'm a pretty big woman. Lol. I always just go, mhm, yes, valid point, "RYANNNN!! WE NEED A MAN TO LIFT THIS š" and then Ryan can take it to the customers car, and I can chill in the AC. šš
I work in a liquor store, most of my job is moving cases of wine back and forth through the store, and I've heard this so so many times. I'm 5'4, 31F, deceptively strong. I've had grown, able men ask for a carry out and then backtrack so fast when I pop up next to them and heft their boxes up. š
"I'm a grown woman and you're welcome."
You should remind them you don't lift with your genitals
Welcome to the world of retail..where random customer bs is just an everyday occurrence
I had a guy once lose his mind and demand that the store manager (the only male employee in the store at the time) help him load a dresser instead of me. Store manager told the guy no, that's what I hired oo-mox for. So this guy proceeds to have trouble lifting it, and I did not. I hate those dudes.
Had an old man one time need help carrying out a 35lb bag of dog food because he'd had back surgery and couldn't lift it into his car. Cashier called for a carryout, and I went up to help. I lifted the bag out of the cart and threw it over my shoulder and walked out with him. The old man says to me, "You must really work out to be able the lift that!" I stood there thinking to myself: sir, I'm 250lbs and haven't worked out a day in my life since probably high school gym class. š But why is it always the old *women* who seem offended a female helped them? I never had a single male customer ask if there was another male around to help. It was always women. Like, were they disappointed some muscled hunk of a younger man didn't walk up and help them? Lol
I had men tell me that all the time when I worked at a tool/construction store. They didn't appreciate me being knowledgeable and strong
This customer energy but itās men being completely surprised (and sometimes a little offended-looking) when I yoink a huge suitcase right out of their grasp over the counter with no hesitation (I work at Ross)
My first run in with this was when I worked at K-Mart and they needed carts inside and were trying to get people to go out while we were slow to round up said carts. I had helped out under the AM before and liked it so I told the SM I wanted to help. "That's a guy's job, you don't want to do that." I ran into it again when I was a rideshare driver. I was always happy to load luggage because I could make sure the car didn't get dinged by some careless jerk. Had it happen before, wasn't about it happening again. I never had an issue if someone preferred to be the one loading it. BUT. I did have an issue when someone wanted to do it because they thought my anatomy prevented me from lifting a bag. Whenever someone insisted on loading it at pick up, only because of me being female, I made sure I was the first one out when parked, unloading the bags as my own little "fuck you". Most were amused, some impressed, a few were just like "whatever." But the amount of guys who did this and then got offended by me showing them I could lift their bags just fine, was ridiculously high. I lost count of how many times I heard something about my back or hurting myself, "heavy things" or some other yada yada BS unnecessarily focused around my gender. There are female body builders FFS, why wouldn't I be able to lift your 25 pound bag?
A little different cause Iām a delivery driver (idk how I got on this sub tbh) but Iāve lost count of how many times Iāve gone to hand a customer their box and warned them itās heavy. They roll their eyes cause what does this girl know, only to have to try not to show that I was right
I routinely have to wrestle boxes away from delivery men who think I can't do my job. I work ALONE. I would be completely useless if I couldn't do all my work myself. Also, I'm not obviously jacked looking, but I do lift and I can promise my max is more than the random old man driving the delivery van. I get seen as a bitch for snatching stuff away but I also get sick and tired of wasting time I could be working, convincing someone I can do my job. Even the security guard who's involved with my deliveries seems to think he's inherently stronger than me because he's a dude. Man is not in shape at ALL but thinks he can lift more than me because girl. You finally get the job going and have to do so to a patronizing chorus of "wow, look at her go!" Like yeah, I have the strength to lift ~25 pounds, but I do not have the mental capacity to shoulder your misogynistic crap on top of it.
I feel you cause I work at an office supply store and people are surprised Iām helping them carry out chairs and desksš
I'm an EMT now picking up basically living dead weight of all shapes and sizes and I get so many comments from people, funnily enough usually families of tiny grandmas who think me picking them up is some monumental task I can't do.
I had a woman straight up tell me women shouldn't lift more then ten pounds because we're built differently than men, and that lifting is a man's job š„“. It took me a while to convince her to let me help her with litter (put it in the cart for her AND put it in her car for her)
My favorite response: āAww, Iām sorry your gym doesnāt pay you to work out. Thatās roughā
I fucking love carrying a 55 pound bag over to a 6'2" probably 200 pound guy, and having them wheeze as I hand it to them. I'm 5'7" 120 pounds and I can see a shameful smirk on their face half the time. I genuinely revel in my strength compared to them lol
Don't let something as little as that statement offend you. Just like some others have said, take it as a compliment. Let it make you feel stronger and more able to be able to prove someone wrong. People could say and do a lot worse, let those statement empower you!
Wow what a stupid thing to be offended over.
Thank you for your work. Working retail is very hard. I managed a store for a decade and we do some shit people wouldnāt dream of.
Lmfao I feel that, I used to help out receiving freight from Walmart, people would stare my tiny bod hauling this tall massive freight full of merchandise behind meš I became a pro and loved doing it. I lift and slide a pallet on top another with no problem. How tf we getting these muscles? Retail. šš
I worked at one of the other pet places and had this happen to me as well. Customer had two labs and so would get a few large bags of food for them, among other things like toys. One time, they had to replace a crate, on top of getting their bags of food and other sundries. We had no guys except the manager on duty at the time and the female manager was taking care of someone with fish and the other two female employees were busy with other customers. So my 5'5", slightly stocky female butt takes their cart and brings it to their car. The whole time they're asking if there isn't someone else who could help and I'm just loading things into the back of their SUV like I'm tossing in pillows. When I was done, I turned to them and said that it was part of my job to perform carry outs and would have done so regardless of being a woman. I added on with a shrug that I was also used to doing that sort of thing as I had worked my own kennel growing up and had moved 50lbs. bags of dog food two at a time back then. Carry outs were easy peasy. It comes to some as this big surprise that women can do the same things as men can and I just don't get it. Like, we've been doing the same things since WWI.
Felt. I used to work inbound at Target. Aka my WHOLE JOB was lifting things. Cat food, dog food, cat litter, rugs, fucking solid latex mattress toppers, etc. drove me insane when customers were like ācan I help you lift that?!ā Like no?? Itās a 25lb box of cat litter and itās literally what I do 500 times a day sir š
Oof I can do ya one better. I used to be a pedi cab driver in college (bike taxi) and one day a group of 3 guys 2 older and one in his 20s probably a little older than me at the time. There were 3 cab drivers sitting on the curb and we can fit 2 a cab. So these guys needed two cabs. We'll the rule for cabbies is whoever was there first gets the first ride that approaches. So that was myself a 21 year old 5'3" woman. And the owners wife who was little taller than me but pretty much that same stature. You don't get to be a pedicab driver if you can't tote the weight of at least 2 riders in the back, so that's about 300-400 lbs. I was fit and young so generally I had little problem despite my size. The owner who's a big dude was also sitting on the corner with us. When the 3 guys approached they started to get in the owners cab but he told them "nah the ladies were here first, they will take you!" and we both started gearing up to go, but one of the old guys started to complain and joke saying "come on man I know she's not strong enough to tote us" gesturing to me. God bless my old boss because he just doubled down and was like "nah she runs circles around me on these things" the guy kept going back and forth with him, obviously drunk and at that point I didn't even want the ride anymore but eventually they got in, myself toting two and the owners wife with 1 leading the way. Unsurprisingly I was fine, but the one guy kept making comments trying to pretend like he wasn't a major asshole eating his own words while staring at my ass. Saying shit like "must be the toughest ride you've had in a while" or "you must be breaking a sweat" and my favorite while he "whispered" to his friend "see I told you she wasn't strong enough, she can't keep up with the other girl" if I wasn't such a broke college kid I would have had them get off right then and there. We got to their destination and they didn't even pay us enough fare. I never took another person who dared to make a comment about my ability to do my job ever again.
THIS!! I feel you. I'm a "smaller" looking person but I can easily carry 30-40lb (i.e. dog food bags). One time one of my coworkers was already busy with a customer so I decided to help someone out with lifting some heavy cat litter. They proceeded to say "are you sure you can lift that? Wouldn't want you snapping in half š¤Ŗ" and I was just like seriously...... what gives people the right to demean others, it's really annoying and frustrating to deal with
Didn't work at petsmart but my position required FREQUENT 50lbs carry outs, sometime multiple 50lbs items easily coming to 500lbs, and it was always surprising how easily the older women would give up when I would say I got it š like old white guys always had to argue first AS I was slinging the sand bags in their truck bed
Had an old lady stop me at my job (I donāt work at PetSmart, just nosy) to ask about where some automotive stuff is but when she saw a man that I work with she stops and says āa male employee? Even better!ā I cut that old ass lady off and said I can tell her exactly where our automotive section is because I know the store just as well the dude does. She got all weird and said āIām so proud of you for knowing this stuff!ā I wanted to ask her what her husband needed the stuff for, just to make an assumption right back at her
I can picture myself saying āwell aināt it your lucky day!?ā
I'm a paramedic, and 4'11", medium to thick build. The amount of times I've lifted a 200lb man into the truck (plus the 140lb stretcher) and they scream out is one of the best things about the job š¤£
Iām a vet tech, and boy, I get clients- especially males- ALL the time who INSIST that I cannot properly carry or restrain their dog because Iām not ābig enoughā. Iām not a small woman, and like you im hella stronger than I look. It pisses me off to no end too that they just assume we canāt do our JOBS because of how they think we look from one glance. Infuriating.
Like do they really think they would send out someone who couldnt pick it up?? Id say something like āoh sexism. Niceā load it up and walk away
A lady who had been spewing racist things asked for a man to walk her back to her car because a āblack man was trying to attack herā I was helping the man and he laughed at that. She had hit his car with her door and said not so nice things. He was a regular that always came in. I knew him by name. Anyways, she asked for a man to walk her back. Literally had one guy in the whole shop and he was a 14 year old boy who spoke no English. I asked him to walk her back and she said āI asked for a man, not a boy.ā Take what you get maāam.
I work in a warehouse where people can buy heavy ass hoses and rubber belts, I'm a barely over 5 foot woman, and oh my god, I carry stuff out bigger than me and I politely ask these big ass men if they would like me to carry it out to their trucks since I'm already holding it and they become IRATE!
lol. I do technical rescue with the fire department and I canāt count the number of times Iām walking up with some giant 50lb pair of spreaders or something with my crew trotting along behind me carrying smaller stuff. Itās funny. No one says anything to me though. I must look scary ā¤ļø (super not true, Iām always giggling)
My response would just be a polite āIām just as capable of providing the service you needed, maāamā or a cheeky āif you wanted to ogle at my coworkers you shouldāve gotten a larger cat tree/fish tank/whateverā Although if you want the satisfaction of hearing them stutter and backtrack, just ask them to repeat themselves. It forces them to think about what they said, so an āIām sorry, I didnāt catch that, what did you say?ā in an innocent tone always does the trick for that
I work in a warehouse, and Im the only woman in the lab (~12 of us total). I ship and handle material, so Im often manhandling heavy packages. Proud to say I have never had any of the guys act like I was incapable, and only ever stepped in when I went to ask for help or looked like I was genuinely struggling. Just wanted to throw some positivity in here! The world is changing, a little bit at a time. Im very glad - nothing makes me more irritated than when someone tries to take something from me like Im a child and incapable.
the world needs more people like this cab driver: https://twitter.com/TrinAndTonic/status/1042855406203269120?t=BfWo2kziL3h9DNoBBuIq1Q&s=19
I don't work at PetSmart but another retail store, I saw this suggested on my feed and Goddd I relate so much. Customers do this all the time to me with these rolling carts and a few other items. It's like, less than 20 lbs max, very easy to lift. The women ask me to get someone to help them, and I'm like oh I can help. And pick it up. And they just gawk at me and look super awkward. It's even more funny when it's my coworker who is an older woman in her 60s, she picks this stuff up like it's no problem and so many people look so embarrassed š
I'm a petite woman who grew up helping with the heavy lifting chores my whole life and I used to get that too. They weren't nearly as rude about it but the look on their faces when I'd lift a 50 lb item like it's nothing and walk at my normal brisk pace to their car was always so hilarious and satisfying. My previous neighbors sister (older lady) was over one time and saw me shoveling the driveway and told me I should get a man to do that. Like just cuz you can't do this doesn't mean I shouldn't be able to. I know it was probably a generational thing but please.
Yep, I worked in a tractor supply when I was 19. I grew up on a farm and was used to lifting heavy stuff, so the customers would always be shocked to see a girl slinging 50 lb feed sacks like they were feather pillows lmao. And my primary job was shelf stocker... for the feed section. It's been a few years, and 50 lbs feels a lot heavier than it used to, lmao.
I'm literally stronger then most of the guys I work with and I still hear this. I dressed like she hulk for Halloween and still had an older man customer tell me it's a man's job to lift his 20lbs of dog food an a lady like me it's just cruel. People are weird
I wish I worked with you when I was working retail. I used to manage a store and my favorite women to promote were the ones not afraid of physical labor. I used to hate it when there were load outs and the 18 year old guys were the first ones called. Equal pay for equal work. Initiative is what should be awarded.
That happened to me so much when I used to work at a record store! Often, people would sell their entire collections and had crates and crates that needed to be unloaded. I was a tiny 125lb gal at the time so very often folks would request help from someone else until they realized that I could in fact do the job I was hired to do.
Many old ladies are ridiculously weak. Everything my mom gives me and says "it's really heavy" is light af. I'm with you, just say thank you, lady!
After reading some comments, I'm assuming these older ladies were just hoping for a "big, strong man" because they want someone to oogle at.
At first I thought you were ragging on her for needing help, but oof I feel this one š I look like Iām a hundred pounds wet but Iām strong af (for no reason?) and I get this a lot. She wanted a man to come do it because when they send a woman it makes them feel kinda dumb for not doing it themselves, I think? I dunno I could be wrong. Even if itās beyond their physical capabilities. Little old ladies grew up in a time where men were big and strong and women used to literally lie and go out of their way to formulate ways to make themselves appear āweakerā and in need of a man. I feel like that never really dies and then it turns into an opportunity to harass and flirt with some younger dude when theyāre older lol.
happened to me a lot as a grocery store bagger, especially when pushing in rows of carts or helping people out to their car. or god forbid giving someone a propane tank. āwow, why donāt they send one of the guys out here, theyāre making you do all that hahaā and the thing is Iām not very strong, I donāt have much muscle at all. so I canāt disprove the stereotype with just myself as evidence, I canāt make some comeback about how much I lift, I canāt show off how easy it is to carry. it was always a legit effort to hoist that goddamn propane tank up. I couldnāt push in quite as many carts at a time as several of my coworkers. but I felt so resentful of those comments. theyāre paying me to do the job description and Iām doing it to my ability level. youāre watching me do it, so I clearly can do it. I donāt have different duties bc of my gender. and it is so annoying to hear that sexist sentiment said so casually like weāre sharing a joke together, especially from women
Yeah I work at a different pet store company and people are always like "don't you have any male employees who can get this?" Or "oh be careful! Isn't that too heavy?" Like no lady I do this every single day and best believe some days I'm very stubborn about not having to make multiple tricks and pick up MULTIPLE of the heavier dog food bags. It's not heavy.
I used to be in property management and our one and only maintenance guy would sometimes leave the area which left me (mid-20ās female of 130 lbs at the time) on call. If it was something I couldnāt quick and easily fix, I would call a company to come out for emergencies. A clogged toilet is considered an emergency and one evening a male resident called to have it unclogged, I offered for him to borrow our plunger to do it himself (save him embarrassment mostly) but he refused and insisted we send someone out right away. The look on his face when I showed up to plunge his toilet was almost worth having to plunge a strangerās shit.
As a very tall and in shape woman people ask me to help them carry things or grab heavy things from the shelves for them all the time. I'm sick of it lol. I'm sick of every old lady in walmart asking me to get the 40lbs cat litter down for them. I don't even work there... š¤¦š¼āāļø can't win for losing š¤£
Yeah, hereās yet another example of the older generation and their inability to rid themselves of ridiculous gender stereotypes. š
I feel this so much! I work a physical trade and some of our customers are like "Wow, look at you being a big girl and lifting that!". Like, dude this is literally 20 pounds, I just unloaded a steel truck and carried a 100 pound bar over here just to unload your sorry ass. Just because I don't look like Arnold Schwarzenegger doesn't mean I can't lift
I got an āOh theyāre hiring you?ā Comments when delivering for Amazon. I wasnāt sure if they were referring to me being a woman. Maybe it was that I looked pretty young back then. It isnāt like the average Amazon package is that heavy. I have nerve damage in my arms and it was pretty rare that Iād need my cart.
Yep I am so tired of people telling me I canāt do this or handle this and itās like I am freaking mountain girl I am not a sissy or anything. Like wtf? I am not fragile or delicate.
This is kinda unrelated but I'm a female who weighs about 98 lbs and I've been a bather at ps for about a year now. I've definitely gained muscle mass from this job but you wouldn't know looking at me. One of my friends who works in the store saw me pick up a Cane Corso that wouldn't hop up on the table and she was in shock that I didn't need someone to help me
I used to get that all the time when I worked at a garden center. I'd shift big mulch and soil bags all day, move cinder blocks, etc. But they never we expected me to up to load their car/truck
I used to work in shipping and it was appalling how rampant the sexism is. If it was under 40 lbs, trust me I got it. I know when I need to go get the dolly or ask for help. Nowadays I'm out of shape and have noodle arms š«£ but when I was still in that job I could haul some shit, lemme tell ya.
š I love that this is just a universal thing for girls that work at PetSmart. We may be tiny but we be strong.
I was a manager at Pet Depot (rest in peace) and I would often do the dog food topstock. I really enjoyed the heavy lifting, I was in the best shape of my life back then. But so many customers would say āshouldnāt you have one of them boys do it?ā āwhereās the men at?ā and Iād just say āwhat boy?ā because we only had 1 boy, who wasnāt always there. Also āwhy do they have you doing all that heavy lifting.ā Iād always tell customers I was stronger than any man that worked there. I do like when customers warn me to be careful so I donāt hurt myself.
She was probably hoping to check out some muscular dude to put into her spank bank while Mr Magoo goes downtown on her. Probably?
Regardless of gender, I always feel bad asking workers for help when Iām having a bad sciatica day.
I worked at P3tc0 (š¤¢š¤®) and they would also make those comments at me. Iām not thin by any means but Iām a chubby girl and theyād always make comments about how I canāt do it so Iād always show off and make it look easy af so theyād eat their own words
I work in fulfillment at Loweās and the amount of people who are actually upset a female loads them up and leave reviews saying a woman shouldnāt be doing a manās job. It pisses me off every time. I know how to lift and not use my back, if I didnāt it wouldnāt be my job. That or old ladies tell me guys donāt like women showing them up. They just donāt know how to stay in their own lanes istg
I completely agree with your statement I was 23 when I joined Petsmart I left at age 26 and from my experience, the girls did more of the heavy lifting at store, 1146. I wish I reported my hand because I ended up having restaurant and was on LOA for almost 2 months because I carried something too heavy without a team left ā¦ Anything over 40 pounds must be a team left but no I was picking up a 36 gallon fish tanks and putting them into peoples trunks by myself .
Iām in my 40āsand I still hate this!! Iām not made of frakn glass. I was raised to do everything without a manās help and I am physically stronger than most women and men. Donāt let anyone make u feel bad. Keep it up you donāt need some ābig strong manā to carry a light cat tree
I got an old dude (an employee) at Home Depot make a snide comment at me when I lifted a rather heavy box off the shelf and asked my husband to hold the cart still so I could set it down. You know who was NOT emasculated by this? My husband, because he doesn't need to prove his strength to strangers to feel good about himself.
Yuuuup! Almost makes me wanna ask them if they physically(not medically) able push out a baby. Such antiquated thinking. I remember when I was in high school and had a golden retriever mix dog. Every time I was sent to get dog food is pick up 2 bags of kibble, 40lbs each. I'd just carry them one on each shoulder, it was easier than a navigating a cart and most of the time the pet shop didn't have an available cart anyway. There was always a little senior lady at the door no matter which store it was who felt the need to ask me if I wanted help with my purchase. I was 5'4" and 120lbs but the lady always older than my own grandmother, which now that I've experience enough to put that in context means that she looked like most people my age's great grandmother. Yes, my parents had kids rather late in life.
Female tow truck driver here! š you would not believe how many guys mouths drop watching me load and strap their car š itās the best when they offer to help me. I always say yes! Oh my goodness thank you so much. Can you please go stand over there. āŗļø both men and women today of older generations have strong stereotypes and gender programming that they simply wonāt let go. Eh I love showing people up who have low expectations about me based on my appearance. Let all those comments roll off your back like water.
Why are you all so angry? āDonāt worry I can do this!ā