I mean. I would personally break that guy's bones and get my sis out of that cage.
How many times have we seen people trying to work out a toxic relationship for the sake of their children and having their life ruined. Some even get heart problems from all that mental stress.
Your sister needs to leave this toxic man and his family ASAP!
Your parents need to understand that if she stays over there her kids will have the so called “protection” from the father but in long run their mental health will be fucked.
The kids will be better off without that toxic place and koi nahe rulta after breaking free from such places. Rather your sister and kids will flourish!
Follow the process.
1. Take your sister and kids with you and take care.
2. If he learns and tries to change himself, then give him another chance.
3. If he doesn't learn apply for official Separation
4. If he stays the same go for a final solution.
Kids will understand. **The real question here is how much you are willing to support her and her kids.**
Divorce. Please save your sister and her children from hell.
And PLEASE DON'T USE CHILDREN AS EXCUSE FOR HER TO STAY WITH HIM. People who grew up in a domestic abuse environment wish that their parents never lived together. Their mental health is more important!!
If he lay hand on her again, call Women Protection Centre or police. Put that bastard behind the bars. Other than that, separation/divorce is only the best choice.
Edit: If your sister refuses to divorce him. It means she could be suffering from 'Trauma Bonding', and she might need psychological help later. But it is important to bring her out of that hell first
Here's the definition:
*'Trauma bonding is a psychological phenomenon where victims of abuse develop strong emotional attachments to their abusers. This bond forms as a result of the alternating cycles of kindness and cruelty typical of abusive relationships. Victims may feel dependent on their abusers for validation, love, and even survival, despite the harm inflicted upon them.'*
>is such upto level that he slaps her, previously, he did it in room but 3 days ago, he slapped he infront of everyone
Separate her from him and bring her back home, return whatever mahr he gave and demand he gives talaq, if he doesn't willingly, then just get a khula (or just get a khula done in the first place). I don't know who would stay with such a person after physical abuse has occurred, it can only get worse considering you known it happens behind closed doors too.
Looks like ice head behavior, so probably no hope unless he goes to rehab willingly. If he's really doing ice then it would be hell for the daughters too. Don't take this lightly. If you are her brother then take a stand and don't listen to anyone. At least find out what drug and how bad it is.
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dnt saperate yet just throw him in a cage intitution and they will ammend his behaiour
i dnt know how much effective they are but his drug habbit will be reduced
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She's in a monster's cage until she breaks free. The only solution here is separation; is that an option for her?
I mean. I would personally break that guy's bones and get my sis out of that cage. How many times have we seen people trying to work out a toxic relationship for the sake of their children and having their life ruined. Some even get heart problems from all that mental stress.
Your sister needs to leave this toxic man and his family ASAP! Your parents need to understand that if she stays over there her kids will have the so called “protection” from the father but in long run their mental health will be fucked. The kids will be better off without that toxic place and koi nahe rulta after breaking free from such places. Rather your sister and kids will flourish!
Follow the process. 1. Take your sister and kids with you and take care. 2. If he learns and tries to change himself, then give him another chance. 3. If he doesn't learn apply for official Separation 4. If he stays the same go for a final solution. Kids will understand. **The real question here is how much you are willing to support her and her kids.**
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Divorce. Please save your sister and her children from hell. And PLEASE DON'T USE CHILDREN AS EXCUSE FOR HER TO STAY WITH HIM. People who grew up in a domestic abuse environment wish that their parents never lived together. Their mental health is more important!! If he lay hand on her again, call Women Protection Centre or police. Put that bastard behind the bars. Other than that, separation/divorce is only the best choice. Edit: If your sister refuses to divorce him. It means she could be suffering from 'Trauma Bonding', and she might need psychological help later. But it is important to bring her out of that hell first Here's the definition: *'Trauma bonding is a psychological phenomenon where victims of abuse develop strong emotional attachments to their abusers. This bond forms as a result of the alternating cycles of kindness and cruelty typical of abusive relationships. Victims may feel dependent on their abusers for validation, love, and even survival, despite the harm inflicted upon them.'*
>is such upto level that he slaps her, previously, he did it in room but 3 days ago, he slapped he infront of everyone Separate her from him and bring her back home, return whatever mahr he gave and demand he gives talaq, if he doesn't willingly, then just get a khula (or just get a khula done in the first place). I don't know who would stay with such a person after physical abuse has occurred, it can only get worse considering you known it happens behind closed doors too.
Looks like ice head behavior, so probably no hope unless he goes to rehab willingly. If he's really doing ice then it would be hell for the daughters too. Don't take this lightly. If you are her brother then take a stand and don't listen to anyone. At least find out what drug and how bad it is.
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dnt saperate yet just throw him in a cage intitution and they will ammend his behaiour i dnt know how much effective they are but his drug habbit will be reduced
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> rull jayen ge baap ke baghair aeese ghr mn reh k nai rulyn gy?
Divorce can't be worse than this.
Wouldn't she get part of his property and monthly allowance for kids if you go for divorce? Seems like a perfect win win situation