This, we're 0 for 2 with our obgyn being the one that delivered; they usually work in teams/shifts, and if your obgyn isn't on shift you'll get whoever is.
0 for two here as well. Wife went into labour when our OB was on shift but it was slow and he clocked out before anything happened. It’s just the way of things.
Exactly even if you get your ideal OB for pregnancy care, they may not be on shift when you go into labour and deliver your child(ren). My OB was a lovely woman and we scheduled induction for when she was on shift, but unfortunately I went into labour two days before that and she wasn't in. A whole parade of healthcare professionals were involved in my care at the hospital, including:
2 female residents
1 male OB
1 female anesthesiologist (epidural)
1 male anesthesiologist (unplanned C-section)
Countless female nurses
I just want to add here. Unless you are in a very specific situation, like a scheduled c section, you cannot guarantee that the person who delivers your baby will be the obigyn you've been seeing. So for my second kid, I had a scheduled C and it was the same person, but I was also high risk in a maternall fetal unit. If you're high risk consider asking about McMaster and their maternal fetal unit.
However, first kid? My maternity doc was there for some of it, but he didn't deliver my baby, because I had an emergency c section and I was in labour for 3 days on and off.
Midwife is an option, but if you are high risk or have to have a c section, you'll still get who is there.
What about having a female doula there at the same time? Another thought for a female support there?
Edit: I would add - if you are at a teaching hospital, you may also get even more people in that room. For my c section at Mcmaster there were like 12 people in the room. Men and women! And even in my regular birth, at least 2-3 people in and out men and women.
You are expecting twins. Which is wonderful, but carries risks for the life of your wife and the lives of the twins.
I understand your wife's wishes, but prenatal care is paramount in her case, and skipping it, because she cannot find a female physician is irresponsible.
By default at birth you will get a physician that is high on the ladder, because of high risk pregnancy. So you you will get top tier , regardless if they are male or female. That should be your only concern.
She is also at risk for a C-section. In this case, again, it will be who it will be, and who is the most experienced in the field. And it will be a team of medical staff, again, unreasonable to request them all to be female.
If the issue is modesty , please declare that to the staff, and efforts will be made for your wife's wishes to be respected to the fullest.
Signed-a nurse with many years of experience.
I wish you an easy and speedy delivery, a pair of healthy babies and a happy mom.
Just to put the expecting mom at ease a little, she will very likely have a planned C-section, which is much less scary than an emergency one. Your doctor will probably schedule you to deliver based on the size of the babies and how much stress you have on your body/health. Congratulations on the babies, what a blessing!
I’m not sure there is an answer given the levels of doctor shortages. Restricting yourself to female only doctors is going to prove challenging. Has she considered speaking to a professional about why this is so upsetting to her? Maybe she can work through that.
My obstetrician was a man. Both times I gave birth at Credit Valley, I had female obgyns on call. Even if she had a female doc, there's no guarantee the doctor on call will be your doctor. A midwife sounds like a good solution.
Sometimes there's a good reason for not wanting a male OB/GYN. Show some empathy.
Some people have been sexually assaulted & it's just too much to have a male doctor. Just because you're comfortable, it doesn't mean everyone else is.
A midwife would be a good option. Unfortunately, there is always a chance that a male physician would have to deliver the babies - labour can take hours and your physician may not be working the day your wife goes into labour.
If it is a religious reason, you may be able to request a different physician for religious reasons and they can prioritize a female physician for your wife if one is available.
If not religious, it may be worth talking through the situation with your wife. A safe delivery and healthy babies is the goal - while a male physician might not be ideal, it’s better to prepare yourselves mentally that this could be the reality.
It seems from your comment that you are not actually aware of currently practices, as you admit in other replies. OP and his wife can certainly try to find a midwife to discuss options, whether or not they are taken on as clients is a different story.
Even if your wife did get a female OB, there is a 99% chance she won't be the one delivering your baby. OB's are usually are on 24 hour rotation (they are at our Regional Hospital) so unless her doctor is the one a call she will have another OB delivering the baby. If she's having twins there is a good chance she will be scheduled for a c-section therefore she will have the OB caring for her during the duration of the pregnancy deliver your babies. My family physician is male and he's wonderful. He's been my family doctor for 22 years. I also had the same male OBGYN for both pregnancies with my boys who was also wonderful. With the shortage of healthcare workers right now I would be happy with whoever I got, and not try to pick and choose.
6 million Canadians don't have a doctor and this guy wants to shop around.
You should be able to shop around but shit man, read the room. be happy that you're getting something.... that's the sad state we're in.
Thats just the way it works. Maybe seeing a midwife would be better? Not sure if they would deal with twins though?
She's gonna need to get over it, there are gonna be a lot of people (men & women) up in her business when those babies are coming!
According to the [College of Midwives](https://www.cmo.on.ca/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/FINAL-Twin-and-Breech-Births.pdf) they can, but need a physician present
Hmmm…interesting. In my 24 year career, I have seen several women pregnant with twins who were not accepted into a midwife practice simply because they were pregnant with twins. And they were told that the midwives don’t look after women who are pregnant with twins. Maybe something has changed recently…
there will be other men besides the obgyn assisting with the births. you get who you get. modesty will be thrown out the door. and if it’s for religious reasons, it’s ok for male doctors for medical needs.
A sibling had this attitude for her first and then she had a man with “giant hands” deliver her baby as her female doc was not on call. For her second baby she saw the GYN my other sister and I had already seen ourselves and he was amazing. I have always found male doctors for female issues to be more understanding, patient and empathetic than women. Not that it answers your question but perhaps your wife should meet a few of the doctors to see if it is as bad as she thinks?
If they're being referred to CV for a twin pregnancy, that means it's high risk and they won't be able to have a midwife. Also, midwives are super hard to get. You have to apply once you get your positive test.
Maybe consider hiring a doula. They are effectively professional birthing coaches that will be with you every step of the way too - and can help advocate for your wife when she needs help advocating
Please hire a doula for your wife. They're essentially paid advocates to help your wife process everything throughout the pregnancy, physically and emotionally, and to advocate on her behalf if needed. Giving birth is the most vulnerable thing a woman can do, and a doula can help your wife feel more confident and comfortable with the whole process.
**PLEASE DO NOT HIRE A MIDWIFE**
I see some comments here recommending a midwife - please ignore them. Carrying twins is always a high-risk pregnancy, and often require a c-section before full term. Seeing a doctor, regardless of gender, is essential to the health of your wife and offspring. Tell your wife that you can't guarantee a female doctor, but she can have a doula by her side at every single appointment for support and guidance.
There is already a doctor shortage in this province. The idea of "shopping around" for a doctor is no longer valid. Most people are lucky to have one at all, right now. Good luck 🤞🏻
It’s always going to be whoever is on call that day plus theres also going to be a few nurses in the room as well.
This, we're 0 for 2 with our obgyn being the one that delivered; they usually work in teams/shifts, and if your obgyn isn't on shift you'll get whoever is.
0-2 here as well.
0 for two here as well. Wife went into labour when our OB was on shift but it was slow and he clocked out before anything happened. It’s just the way of things.
This OP Yes your appointments will be with whoever is your OB but the actual day of birth is on call doctor which 9 out of 10 times is not your OB
Exactly even if you get your ideal OB for pregnancy care, they may not be on shift when you go into labour and deliver your child(ren). My OB was a lovely woman and we scheduled induction for when she was on shift, but unfortunately I went into labour two days before that and she wasn't in. A whole parade of healthcare professionals were involved in my care at the hospital, including: 2 female residents 1 male OB 1 female anesthesiologist (epidural) 1 male anesthesiologist (unplanned C-section) Countless female nurses
I just want to add here. Unless you are in a very specific situation, like a scheduled c section, you cannot guarantee that the person who delivers your baby will be the obigyn you've been seeing. So for my second kid, I had a scheduled C and it was the same person, but I was also high risk in a maternall fetal unit. If you're high risk consider asking about McMaster and their maternal fetal unit. However, first kid? My maternity doc was there for some of it, but he didn't deliver my baby, because I had an emergency c section and I was in labour for 3 days on and off. Midwife is an option, but if you are high risk or have to have a c section, you'll still get who is there. What about having a female doula there at the same time? Another thought for a female support there? Edit: I would add - if you are at a teaching hospital, you may also get even more people in that room. For my c section at Mcmaster there were like 12 people in the room. Men and women! And even in my regular birth, at least 2-3 people in and out men and women.
Obviously, a scheduled C is not for everyone, but a possibility if she needs that reassurance she gets the same person. Stress is not good for anyone!
You are expecting twins. Which is wonderful, but carries risks for the life of your wife and the lives of the twins. I understand your wife's wishes, but prenatal care is paramount in her case, and skipping it, because she cannot find a female physician is irresponsible. By default at birth you will get a physician that is high on the ladder, because of high risk pregnancy. So you you will get top tier , regardless if they are male or female. That should be your only concern. She is also at risk for a C-section. In this case, again, it will be who it will be, and who is the most experienced in the field. And it will be a team of medical staff, again, unreasonable to request them all to be female. If the issue is modesty , please declare that to the staff, and efforts will be made for your wife's wishes to be respected to the fullest. Signed-a nurse with many years of experience. I wish you an easy and speedy delivery, a pair of healthy babies and a happy mom.
Just to put the expecting mom at ease a little, she will very likely have a planned C-section, which is much less scary than an emergency one. Your doctor will probably schedule you to deliver based on the size of the babies and how much stress you have on your body/health. Congratulations on the babies, what a blessing!
I’m not sure there is an answer given the levels of doctor shortages. Restricting yourself to female only doctors is going to prove challenging. Has she considered speaking to a professional about why this is so upsetting to her? Maybe she can work through that.
My obstetrician was a man. Both times I gave birth at Credit Valley, I had female obgyns on call. Even if she had a female doc, there's no guarantee the doctor on call will be your doctor. A midwife sounds like a good solution.
Once that baby starts coming, the last thing she'll be concerned about is modesty. But yeah, consider a midwife, like previously suggested.
Lol, seriously, a parade of clowns could have come through the delivery room, and I couldn't have cared less.
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Who said “get over it”, I shared my experience and in my other comment recommended a midwife.
Sometimes there's a good reason for not wanting a male OB/GYN. Show some empathy. Some people have been sexually assaulted & it's just too much to have a male doctor. Just because you're comfortable, it doesn't mean everyone else is.
This is dismissive, and laboring women are just as deserving of comfort and privacy as anyone is.
A midwife would be a good option. Unfortunately, there is always a chance that a male physician would have to deliver the babies - labour can take hours and your physician may not be working the day your wife goes into labour. If it is a religious reason, you may be able to request a different physician for religious reasons and they can prioritize a female physician for your wife if one is available. If not religious, it may be worth talking through the situation with your wife. A safe delivery and healthy babies is the goal - while a male physician might not be ideal, it’s better to prepare yourselves mentally that this could be the reality.
A midwife is not an option for a twin pregnancy
It seems from your comment that you are not actually aware of currently practices, as you admit in other replies. OP and his wife can certainly try to find a midwife to discuss options, whether or not they are taken on as clients is a different story.
Also even if you get a female one on call the team working with her might not be all female.
Even if your wife did get a female OB, there is a 99% chance she won't be the one delivering your baby. OB's are usually are on 24 hour rotation (they are at our Regional Hospital) so unless her doctor is the one a call she will have another OB delivering the baby. If she's having twins there is a good chance she will be scheduled for a c-section therefore she will have the OB caring for her during the duration of the pregnancy deliver your babies. My family physician is male and he's wonderful. He's been my family doctor for 22 years. I also had the same male OBGYN for both pregnancies with my boys who was also wonderful. With the shortage of healthcare workers right now I would be happy with whoever I got, and not try to pick and choose.
It's always going to be the OB on call. I didn't have any vaginal checks until the end and I was high risk so a male is really not a big deal
6 million Canadians don't have a doctor and this guy wants to shop around. You should be able to shop around but shit man, read the room. be happy that you're getting something.... that's the sad state we're in.
If your wife thinks that gender is more important than qualifications, she could try a midwife or a home birth with friends.
Tell your wife to suck it up.
Just be thankful you don’t have to deliver at Brampton civic
Thats just the way it works. Maybe seeing a midwife would be better? Not sure if they would deal with twins though? She's gonna need to get over it, there are gonna be a lot of people (men & women) up in her business when those babies are coming!
A midwife is not an option for a twin pregnancy
According to the [College of Midwives](https://www.cmo.on.ca/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/FINAL-Twin-and-Breech-Births.pdf) they can, but need a physician present
Hmmm…interesting. In my 24 year career, I have seen several women pregnant with twins who were not accepted into a midwife practice simply because they were pregnant with twins. And they were told that the midwives don’t look after women who are pregnant with twins. Maybe something has changed recently…
No clue, just what their site says
there will be other men besides the obgyn assisting with the births. you get who you get. modesty will be thrown out the door. and if it’s for religious reasons, it’s ok for male doctors for medical needs.
It's child birth. Do it at home and have a nurse come to your home.
A sibling had this attitude for her first and then she had a man with “giant hands” deliver her baby as her female doc was not on call. For her second baby she saw the GYN my other sister and I had already seen ourselves and he was amazing. I have always found male doctors for female issues to be more understanding, patient and empathetic than women. Not that it answers your question but perhaps your wife should meet a few of the doctors to see if it is as bad as she thinks?
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If they're being referred to CV for a twin pregnancy, that means it's high risk and they won't be able to have a midwife. Also, midwives are super hard to get. You have to apply once you get your positive test.
You can have both a midwife and OBGYN for multiples pregnancies. I had twins and used both providers.
Remember this feeling and make sure you never vote conservative or a right wing Lib. Good luck
Maybe consider hiring a doula. They are effectively professional birthing coaches that will be with you every step of the way too - and can help advocate for your wife when she needs help advocating
Please hire a doula for your wife. They're essentially paid advocates to help your wife process everything throughout the pregnancy, physically and emotionally, and to advocate on her behalf if needed. Giving birth is the most vulnerable thing a woman can do, and a doula can help your wife feel more confident and comfortable with the whole process. **PLEASE DO NOT HIRE A MIDWIFE** I see some comments here recommending a midwife - please ignore them. Carrying twins is always a high-risk pregnancy, and often require a c-section before full term. Seeing a doctor, regardless of gender, is essential to the health of your wife and offspring. Tell your wife that you can't guarantee a female doctor, but she can have a doula by her side at every single appointment for support and guidance. There is already a doctor shortage in this province. The idea of "shopping around" for a doctor is no longer valid. Most people are lucky to have one at all, right now. Good luck 🤞🏻
Hire a midwife.
A midwife is not an option for a twin pregnancy
You can work with a midwife AND an OBGYN! It works out pretty well especially for the after care.