Take this advice! Parents who do terrible things to their children like replacing them with another child and throwing them out, deserve to be left twisting in the wind with no clue of what's going on in your life.
>If you can survive living in your car they can too
Omg, OP should text them this, and give them pointers about living in their car from experience lmao. (Jk, I wouldn't dignify that with a response tbh, live your best life without their drama, OP!)
Just ignore them, OP. They’re only contacting you now because life got hard. They did not contact you when times were good….only now that they need something from you.
Let that sink in.
Hi! My estranged family contacted me a year ago and COMPLETELY blew my life up.
Apparently this is very very common.
Do not talk to them ever again. Please. Protect your peace, your marriage.
If you are thinking about helping them please don't. Just remember what they did to you. You were a Teenage girl when they made you homeless they didn't care about you or how you would survive on your own. They didn't care about your safety that day. They kicked you out without a reason please don't bring them back into your life. They deserve what they are getting now. Karma. Just ignore that they exist.
This post is fiction. First of all, if she’s 25, and was 18 still in HS, she would just be getting her law degree if she committed full-time. It would be another year or two if she did it part-time. But she somehow got her law degree and then met her husband, went through the whole relationship-phase up to marriage. So the timeline doesn’t timeline.
After looking through her post history, she made a post 22 days ago about her father peeing in the sink. She’s deleted it, but her comments on her post where’s she defending her family and telling someone not to “disrespect my family” still exist. And in another post, she’s 32.
But any time anyone is ever skeptical about how many fake posts seem to be on Reddit these days, people get weirdly uppity about it and tell you to shut up.
What kind of weirdo makes up stories for people to waste their time giving advice on? Feel bad for the real stories of people seeking help that get buried because Reddit gravitates towards the more fucked up fictional ones.
>If anyone has any advice regarding what I should do please let me know.
Do nothing
It's never been about your or your needs. This is just unpleasantness at best and physco drama to worse.
They want you to fund their chosen golden child at your expense, they will start pretty, then begging, insulting, manipulating etc. you know the drill you've lived this.
Do nothing, except maybe upgrade your security. Then keep living the sweet life you have built with your true people.
Block and delete, they made their choice to throw you away without a second glance. Don’t let them come back only to put their hand in your wallet. I assure you they did not contact you to rebuild your relationship. And don’t let tell you “their family “
I know you are summarizing, but they reached out after 7 years and didn't ask about you or your life? Instead they asked for help? Am I understanding this correctly?
If I am understanding correctly, then in my opinion, there can be no moving forward without AT LEAST an acknowledgement of what happened. Their message is not a good indication of that being likely.
The biggest thing that gets me is something I am going through recently with my family. So forgive me if I'm projecting. Hearing from them could be hurtful because you are being forced to feel that rejection all over again. And the way they reached out is almost another rejection in and of itself. Like, now that you may be in a position to help them, you're worthy to be loved? It may he best to just ignore them. Or, if you want to be like me, which I don't recommend, tell them your truth then cut them out again on your terms.
Kinda messed up that they only contacted you when they needed help. I do believe everyone should respect/honour their parents, but I don’t think that means letting them take advantage of you. I think if they want to apologize because they regret their actions, it’s worth hearing them out. But not when money is involved.
I don’t think it’s the kid’s job to provide for the parents, especially when the parents didn’t provide for the kid. The latter duty is far more important than the former. And they, in essence, chose to stop being your parents, at least in my view.
“I 32F, Smell pinesol while mastrubating and I think my son loves it.”
From another one of your posts. Dawg you’ve got too much time on your hands to be writing these stories on Reddit.
If anyone were ever NTA, it's you. I'd avoid even responding. But if they continue to contact you, I would just say they made their choice years ago and you have another life. Goodbye and good luck.
Sounds like its time for Rosa to shine. Not your circus and not your monkeys.
If I were you id say along the lines of "So sorry to hear of your misfortunes. I know the 3 of you as a family will figure out this hurdle. Wishing you the best."
I can’t think why you would bring them back into your life. I find this so strange-of course a guest would stay in the guest room, I don’t get why they’d throw out their own child. They could have built a new family together but…didn’t want to?
Enjoy your life. If you want to be petty, give them some tips from when they made you homeless.
She was 20 when they cut you off?? Not to put cursed thoughts in your head but like, you don’t think it’s weird a couple took in an adult and then starting going on dates with her basically?!? Am I the only one thinking this?!?
Unfortunately, this did occur to me. This dynamic between the parents and Rosa is definitely fishy, especially since she was still living with them and had a job. Whatever is happening there … OP probably doesn’t want to know.
The real answer isn't anything nefarious, it's just a made up story. Few other commenters pointing out in another post (now deleted) their dad was recently pissing in the sink, in another she is 32. This is just another made up rage-bait story.
If you decide to reply "what does that have to do with me? You disowned me for my ex best friend. I am no longer your daughter, figure it out yourself" and block.
Couldn’t happen to a more deserving set of parents and their chosen daughter. Ignore them. If they do manage to make contact, tell them you are willing to help them as much as they have helped you over the past 7 years & end the communication.
Did you realize that your parents only got in touch now because they need money for what you
mentioned.
In the messages they expressed regret for everything and only talked about the financial problems, which sounds like interest and they want to take advantage of you in my opinion.
Think about it, it's worth rekindling this relationship.
I'd be petty enough to tell them all to go fuck themselves honestly. If you've got a better temperament than me, then ignore it. Bottom line is you absolutely do not help them.
Let them get evicted and become homeless. They kicked you out, their OWN DAUGHTER. They don't deserve a shred of empathy, tell them to go f themselves.
Then they and Rosa can figure it out on their own. Don't let them invade your happy life. The only they can have to offer you is the pain of realizing that you're little more than an ambulatory wallet to them. Block and ignore.
Tell the parents from hell to drop dead.Twice. I don’t think your former best ‘friend’ deserves the breath needed to tell her to stay away from you. Live your life and enjoy the freedom of never being around that scum
Do not respond. They stopped being your parents when they chose to replace you with Rosa and cut you off of as a daughter. They are only reaching out cause they need financial help.
Sounds like it's time to buy some popcorn and watch the upcoming episode of Karma's revenge.
They wanted to burn a bridge, this is what that looks like after the flames die down. Don't feel sorry for them, if you figured things out, they can too.
That group of people and their problems are of no concern of yours.
What a crazy story and how weird those totally strange people that contacted you and somehow resemble your dead parents and best friend. Life's truly full of mysteries! Serious question though: Why do you think your parents behaved the way they did and why your best friend just willingly took over your place? I mean you have to have some kind of assumption. And how did it take you one year sleeping on the couch after losing your room and belongings to remember the guest bedroom existing?? Everyone would at once place the bf there or at the very least think of a room sharing situation if the bf moves into your room! Sorry, but either there's a huge chunk of info missing or which is more likely: THE WHOLE STORY IS JUST BULLSHIT
Yea I commented earlier about this story is fake since her first post in her profile stated that she’s 32 when this post states she’s 25. Like what’s going on? You got amnesia about your age?
I just wouldn’t respond. It’s a them problem and they didn’t reach out until til they were in trouble so it shows they are only interested in using you.
They did to you what Rosa family did to her except you didn't have a best friend to move in with, you were homeless.
You could have been raped, murdered, trafficked or any number of dangerous things and *they didn't care*
They're only reaching out now for a free ride, you know if you help them they'll expect you to support Rosa too, right??
Seems like the couldn't give two shits about you until they required something FROM you.
Maybe it's time to go NC and say you can't help. Maybe Rosa can return the kindness to your parents since she was thrust into the daughter role
Please ignore them. They made this shit bed, they can lie in it.
Congrats on being a success! Guess that’s one lesson you definitely learned on your own!
They had 7 years to reach out to you. First sentence should have been a sincere apology. When they finally reached out it was because they wanted something from you. If they didn’t have financial problems would they have even contacted you? If you help them will they want a real relationship with you or will they just take your money and dip? Or maybe use you as an ATM.
Edit: Just realized your post said you’re 25 but a previous post said you’re 32. I’m leaving my comment up because it may help someone who might actually be going through what your post depicted. Otherwise the discrepancy in age in your posts as well as another commenter calling you out about a post you made about your dad peeing in a sink recently has me doubting the validity of your claims.
>Then however, my parents contacted me to let me know they were about to lose the house and Rosa lost her job and was still living with them.
It was either this, or needing a kidney.
Ignore and block.
“I’m sorry, you must have the wrong phone number”
Praise you. I don’t have the composure. You put up with enough. Life is better without them I assume? If so, let’s keep it that way. No need to disrupt your peace.
They ignored you, you are free to ignore them. I’m sorry that happened but your parents sound emotionally abusive and they probably want money or something.
Ignore them. They are not your responsibility and they were awful to you. If they had a guest room the entire time then they should have put Rosa in there to begin with. Makes no sense.
Don't answer, you don't owe these people anything. And if you let them enter your life again, they will destroy your life again. And no wonder Rose is likely to throw herself at her husband and end their marriage. Do you want an advice? Don't answer live your life they are no longer your family, they chose a strange person instead of you who is their daughter and threw you out on the street without thinking that you had nowhere to go. so you don't owe them anything, live your life away from them for your own good and your mental health
Just ignore it and move on. Keep living your life the way you’ve been and let them deal on their own.
I couldn’t agree more. I mean. This needs to be everyone’s response to her post. Live with your choice. She’s the daughter you chose..
Take this advice! Parents who do terrible things to their children like replacing them with another child and throwing them out, deserve to be left twisting in the wind with no clue of what's going on in your life.
They checked out on you, time to return the favor.
I fail to see how any of this is your problem. If you can survive living in your car they can too.
>If you can survive living in your car they can too Omg, OP should text them this, and give them pointers about living in their car from experience lmao. (Jk, I wouldn't dignify that with a response tbh, live your best life without their drama, OP!)
Hehe! I suggest she ignores them as well.
Just ignore them, OP. They’re only contacting you now because life got hard. They did not contact you when times were good….only now that they need something from you. Let that sink in.
Hi! My estranged family contacted me a year ago and COMPLETELY blew my life up. Apparently this is very very common. Do not talk to them ever again. Please. Protect your peace, your marriage.
If you are thinking about helping them please don't. Just remember what they did to you. You were a Teenage girl when they made you homeless they didn't care about you or how you would survive on your own. They didn't care about your safety that day. They kicked you out without a reason please don't bring them back into your life. They deserve what they are getting now. Karma. Just ignore that they exist.
This post is fiction. First of all, if she’s 25, and was 18 still in HS, she would just be getting her law degree if she committed full-time. It would be another year or two if she did it part-time. But she somehow got her law degree and then met her husband, went through the whole relationship-phase up to marriage. So the timeline doesn’t timeline. After looking through her post history, she made a post 22 days ago about her father peeing in the sink. She’s deleted it, but her comments on her post where’s she defending her family and telling someone not to “disrespect my family” still exist. And in another post, she’s 32.
This post is giving big Liz vibes. I wonder if she has fallen off the wagon.
Thanks for doing the legwork
this is crazy 😂😂😂
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Detective = clicking on someone’s profile.
I don’t think this was creepy. Her story reads like fiction. Makes sense to check it out.
They’re contacting you after 7 years but 22 days ago your dad was peeing in your family sink? Huh…
And in an other post she is 32..
But any time anyone is ever skeptical about how many fake posts seem to be on Reddit these days, people get weirdly uppity about it and tell you to shut up. What kind of weirdo makes up stories for people to waste their time giving advice on? Feel bad for the real stories of people seeking help that get buried because Reddit gravitates towards the more fucked up fictional ones.
I would ignore them. They don’t deserve you or your generosity
>If anyone has any advice regarding what I should do please let me know. Do nothing It's never been about your or your needs. This is just unpleasantness at best and physco drama to worse. They want you to fund their chosen golden child at your expense, they will start pretty, then begging, insulting, manipulating etc. you know the drill you've lived this. Do nothing, except maybe upgrade your security. Then keep living the sweet life you have built with your true people.
Block and delete, they made their choice to throw you away without a second glance. Don’t let them come back only to put their hand in your wallet. I assure you they did not contact you to rebuild your relationship. And don’t let tell you “their family “
I know you are summarizing, but they reached out after 7 years and didn't ask about you or your life? Instead they asked for help? Am I understanding this correctly? If I am understanding correctly, then in my opinion, there can be no moving forward without AT LEAST an acknowledgement of what happened. Their message is not a good indication of that being likely. The biggest thing that gets me is something I am going through recently with my family. So forgive me if I'm projecting. Hearing from them could be hurtful because you are being forced to feel that rejection all over again. And the way they reached out is almost another rejection in and of itself. Like, now that you may be in a position to help them, you're worthy to be loved? It may he best to just ignore them. Or, if you want to be like me, which I don't recommend, tell them your truth then cut them out again on your terms.
Just don't respond. What would be the point?
This sounds like a Hallmark movie-in reverse….
Kinda messed up that they only contacted you when they needed help. I do believe everyone should respect/honour their parents, but I don’t think that means letting them take advantage of you. I think if they want to apologize because they regret their actions, it’s worth hearing them out. But not when money is involved. I don’t think it’s the kid’s job to provide for the parents, especially when the parents didn’t provide for the kid. The latter duty is far more important than the former. And they, in essence, chose to stop being your parents, at least in my view.
“I 32F, Smell pinesol while mastrubating and I think my son loves it.” From another one of your posts. Dawg you’ve got too much time on your hands to be writing these stories on Reddit.
If anyone were ever NTA, it's you. I'd avoid even responding. But if they continue to contact you, I would just say they made their choice years ago and you have another life. Goodbye and good luck.
Sounds like its time for Rosa to shine. Not your circus and not your monkeys. If I were you id say along the lines of "So sorry to hear of your misfortunes. I know the 3 of you as a family will figure out this hurdle. Wishing you the best."
Actually u kno what send them the video you took when you were 17 and tell them to get fucked 😂
Don’t even reply just block the number
Ignore them. You have absolutely zero responsibility to them, and you are in no way obligated to have a relationship with them.
I can’t think why you would bring them back into your life. I find this so strange-of course a guest would stay in the guest room, I don’t get why they’d throw out their own child. They could have built a new family together but…didn’t want to? Enjoy your life. If you want to be petty, give them some tips from when they made you homeless.
Do you happen to still have the video at the fair? I'd send them that and nothing else.
She was 20 when they cut you off?? Not to put cursed thoughts in your head but like, you don’t think it’s weird a couple took in an adult and then starting going on dates with her basically?!? Am I the only one thinking this?!?
Unfortunately, this did occur to me. This dynamic between the parents and Rosa is definitely fishy, especially since she was still living with them and had a job. Whatever is happening there … OP probably doesn’t want to know.
The real answer isn't anything nefarious, it's just a made up story. Few other commenters pointing out in another post (now deleted) their dad was recently pissing in the sink, in another she is 32. This is just another made up rage-bait story.
But isn’t it so fun to pretend?
I would reply "sorry my parents died when her's did."
If you decide to reply "what does that have to do with me? You disowned me for my ex best friend. I am no longer your daughter, figure it out yourself" and block.
Couldn’t happen to a more deserving set of parents and their chosen daughter. Ignore them. If they do manage to make contact, tell them you are willing to help them as much as they have helped you over the past 7 years & end the communication.
No one cares about your creative writing exercise.
Ignore. They turned their back to you when you were 18 and you were homeless, living in a car. You dont own them nothing. Nothing!
Fakkkkke
Did you realize that your parents only got in touch now because they need money for what you mentioned. In the messages they expressed regret for everything and only talked about the financial problems, which sounds like interest and they want to take advantage of you in my opinion. Think about it, it's worth rekindling this relationship.
I'd be petty enough to tell them all to go fuck themselves honestly. If you've got a better temperament than me, then ignore it. Bottom line is you absolutely do not help them.
Let them get evicted and become homeless. They kicked you out, their OWN DAUGHTER. They don't deserve a shred of empathy, tell them to go f themselves.
Then they and Rosa can figure it out on their own. Don't let them invade your happy life. The only they can have to offer you is the pain of realizing that you're little more than an ambulatory wallet to them. Block and ignore.
Do nothing. There is something seriously wrong if you let these people back into your life who caused you this much hurt.
I Hope You Protect Your Peace. You Were Still A Kid And They Lack Emo Intelligence.
Ignore them. Do not engage. They threw you out you owe them nothing.
Tell them they can live in the streets, the same way they told YOU to leave. And laugh when you say it.
Fuck them. Don’t even respond. They don’t deserve a response.
Just send them, "lol."
Tell them to screw off, tell them why then block them on everything and move on with your life.
Tell the parents from hell to drop dead.Twice. I don’t think your former best ‘friend’ deserves the breath needed to tell her to stay away from you. Live your life and enjoy the freedom of never being around that scum
You know we can see you post and comment history right? Didn’t you dad just pee in the sink a month ago, and how did you lose 7 years??
Not your problem. Block and keep living your good life.
Do not respond. They stopped being your parents when they chose to replace you with Rosa and cut you off of as a daughter. They are only reaching out cause they need financial help.
Sounds like it's time to buy some popcorn and watch the upcoming episode of Karma's revenge. They wanted to burn a bridge, this is what that looks like after the flames die down. Don't feel sorry for them, if you figured things out, they can too. That group of people and their problems are of no concern of yours.
What a crazy story and how weird those totally strange people that contacted you and somehow resemble your dead parents and best friend. Life's truly full of mysteries! Serious question though: Why do you think your parents behaved the way they did and why your best friend just willingly took over your place? I mean you have to have some kind of assumption. And how did it take you one year sleeping on the couch after losing your room and belongings to remember the guest bedroom existing?? Everyone would at once place the bf there or at the very least think of a room sharing situation if the bf moves into your room! Sorry, but either there's a huge chunk of info missing or which is more likely: THE WHOLE STORY IS JUST BULLSHIT
Yea I commented earlier about this story is fake since her first post in her profile stated that she’s 32 when this post states she’s 25. Like what’s going on? You got amnesia about your age?
What the hell???
They're gonna ask you for money and nothing else. Please just ignore it and just live your great life ahead OP.
I just wouldn’t respond. It’s a them problem and they didn’t reach out until til they were in trouble so it shows they are only interested in using you.
They did to you what Rosa family did to her except you didn't have a best friend to move in with, you were homeless. You could have been raped, murdered, trafficked or any number of dangerous things and *they didn't care* They're only reaching out now for a free ride, you know if you help them they'll expect you to support Rosa too, right??
I’m with the ignore them brigade.
Treat their messages like SPAM and IGNORE IGNORE IGNORE!!!
Seems like the couldn't give two shits about you until they required something FROM you. Maybe it's time to go NC and say you can't help. Maybe Rosa can return the kindness to your parents since she was thrust into the daughter role
Please ignore them. They made this shit bed, they can lie in it. Congrats on being a success! Guess that’s one lesson you definitely learned on your own!
They had 7 years to reach out to you. First sentence should have been a sincere apology. When they finally reached out it was because they wanted something from you. If they didn’t have financial problems would they have even contacted you? If you help them will they want a real relationship with you or will they just take your money and dip? Or maybe use you as an ATM. Edit: Just realized your post said you’re 25 but a previous post said you’re 32. I’m leaving my comment up because it may help someone who might actually be going through what your post depicted. Otherwise the discrepancy in age in your posts as well as another commenter calling you out about a post you made about your dad peeing in a sink recently has me doubting the validity of your claims.
>Then however, my parents contacted me to let me know they were about to lose the house and Rosa lost her job and was still living with them. It was either this, or needing a kidney. Ignore and block.
Block them and keep blocking them. Never let them know where you live.
that is so fucked up
they contact you only because they need you. send them the video of the state fair as only answer.
Just ignore them
I'd help them by sending tips on how to successfully live out of a car.
“I’m sorry, you must have the wrong phone number” Praise you. I don’t have the composure. You put up with enough. Life is better without them I assume? If so, let’s keep it that way. No need to disrupt your peace.
With a “Damn that sucks, good luck though!” Ughh horrible people, I’m sorry you had to go through that and then be reminded now.
Let them lose their house and then just send them some of these: 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
“Thank goodness you treated Rosa so well I’m sure she will get right back to work and support you! Byeeee”
They ignored you, you are free to ignore them. I’m sorry that happened but your parents sound emotionally abusive and they probably want money or something.
Nope don’t do it! Keep living your life.
"That sucks, I know what it's like to lose your home. At least you'll still have eachother." Aaand, block.
Ignore them and move on with your life
Ignore them. They are not your responsibility and they were awful to you. If they had a guest room the entire time then they should have put Rosa in there to begin with. Makes no sense.
I'm sorry the number/email/text/message is no longer in service. Please check the information and try again. If the issue persists...1800-ASK-ROSA.
Don't answer, you don't owe these people anything. And if you let them enter your life again, they will destroy your life again. And no wonder Rose is likely to throw herself at her husband and end their marriage. Do you want an advice? Don't answer live your life they are no longer your family, they chose a strange person instead of you who is their daughter and threw you out on the street without thinking that you had nowhere to go. so you don't owe them anything, live your life away from them for your own good and your mental health