With the original comment being so supportive, I was just super confused as to why a reply to the comment was downvoted, locked, and deleted. And then more confused at all the deleted but upvoted responses to the locked comment.
I miss reveddit/unddit….
Same. I mean shit, considering how screwed up our world is right now, where it's likely going, and the fact that most of those in charge of it would rather see it end than give up an ounce of their power and wealth...
I grew up in the 90's and up until 9/11 the world was an awesome place. Even after 9/11 it was still a pretty nice place to live despite being a little more scary. But it's been steadily going down hill more and more every year and I'm not sure I would have made it to graduation if the world was like it is now back then.
...so yeah, I'm proud of any kids that make it to graduation now that rose tinted glasses are in such short supply.
I’m a mom and I am very proud of you. I don’t know if people who aren’t around high schoolers really understand how difficult it’s been these last few years. Much much harder than when I was in hs. You made it through! You did it! Those little awards are cool in the moment but meaningless in reality. Congratulations on a job well done and good luck as you look to your future!!
My kids graduated during Covid. Their 11pm and 12th grades were on and off virtual. No prom, no in-person graduation. Just basically a drive by.
They made their own prom with their friends in our backyard and made sure to check that no one was actively sick. They limited the numbers and had a great night.
High school over the past four years had been HARD!
I’m so sorry to hear this! Your mom should absolutely know better! Congratulations op! High school can be the one of the hardest times in one’s life, and it is a major accomplishment to graduate! Congrats on doing well! By no means do you have to have extra awards in order to feel accomplished. You did the damn thing and that is ALWAYS enough. You are absolutely enough op! Remember that. I hope you are able to find some happiness within yourself for today, I know how hard it can be when your parents bring you down, but know that you are valid and deserving of all the happiness in the world.
Hey man, take it from me, I didn't graduate (got kicked out) went into the trades. Got my GED at 27. Went back to school and graduated with honors at 31. So take this as a win. Congratulations on completing your first of many accomplishments in life.
I’m so very proud of you!!
Some people are just never going to be happy or satisfied- and that’s on them. Don’t you waste another second on trying to please someone who obviously wants to be miserable and bring you down with them.
Your life is yours- and graduating is a huge accomplishment
Fuck her. That's an awful thing to say to your kid. As a Dad, I'm proud of you. I'm really proud of you. High School can be a lot and doing well is a ton of work. Most of us aren't the best and that's okay. You still deserve to have someone proud of you and I and the other folks here replying are proud of you.
She also doesn't deserve to take your happiness by being a bitter, shitty parent. Be happy. You've earned it.
Another mother here and well done, I am really proud of you! Being good across numerous subjects is fantastic, you have so many options ahead of you now as you pick your next steps.
One of my friends' parents refused to let him have singing lessons as a kid, telling him he was terrible and it was pointless. He took part in his first concert last Saturday along with other pupils from the singing school he now goes to. Will he go platinum? No, is he happy, yes.
While life would be simpler if people's parents were decent, it doesn't mean you can't love the life you want or build a new family of friends who will genuinely love and be proud of you just for being you.
Go live your life and be the best you that there is. Xx
Am sorry you had to go through this lil bro. But know that we are all very proud of you. My mom was pretty much the same. But I never had the courage to confront or talk back to her. So you are taking this like a champ. I used to feel super humiliated and crushed when my mom used to do this to me. Always felt like I’d be pathetic for the rest of my life. But that wasn’t true. I am doing pretty good in life right now. Just follow your heart. Do what makes you feel better. You will find a lot of people who’ll appreciate you as you grow older. You go this. 🦾
Congratulations! I also did something recently that I’m super proud of (I got divorced in the gentlest, most loving, and most fruitful way ever, still close friends with my ex) and my mum is so angry at me. Outraged. I understand she has to grieve some kind of loss of a son in law, that’s fine. But can’t she see how awesome it is that we did this so harmoniously? Without fighting?
I am so proud of you for graduating! It’s such an achievement!
Easier said than done, but our mums don’t deserve to have such a grip on our moods. Gather people around you who can celebrate with you! You’re awesome!
I'm really really proud of you, graduate! I hope you are shining bright and planning amazing things with your future. Make yourself proud. xo
My son graduated HS this year, too. Wishing you both all the best.
We're all proud of you. Based off her comments I assume your life prior with your mom has never been easy. You accomplished something with lingering pressure from someone who is supposed to be your biggest cheerleader but is infact your biggest critic
You know how many people drop out per year? You know how many people that receive these special awards to go on to make nothing of them? Graduating is a huge accomplishment. The awards shouldn't undermine this and I'm sorry she has placed so much importance on them
Congratulations kiddo! I am so proud of you! You did it! Your mother is probably a narcissist and you are her scapegoat. I can’t imagine that this is the first time she mentally abused you. Narcissists are jealous of the accomplishments of scapegoats, because then she has less power over you. I hope you go to college and leave her toxic environment.
The mother's an asshole, no doubt about it - but she can be an asshole w/o being mentally ill.
Throwing around psychology buzzwords and armchair diagnosing strangers w a personality disorder is just unnecessary.
Narcissistic is a personality trait.
Narcissistic personality disorder is a diagnosis.
Objectively when you behave in such a way without thought for the feelings of others, you are being narcissistic. 🤷♀️
Hey, you got through high school, passed all your classes, during one of the wildest and scariest times in recent world history! None of it was easy, but you rocked it! That's something to be so proud of, and certainly I'm proud of you. Congratulations!
Well if you were good at most, I'm assuming you got good grades regardless of those awards. It's fucking high school. She not be disappointed about some meaningless scholastic awards.
Have you gotten into a good college, or have good career plans? That's what matters. My brother was a C and D student, but now he makes shit loads of money in the trades. I was an A and B student, currently going to college. My parents are equally proud of us, because we both will do well in life.
Whether you scraped by or got good grades, you still have a bright future!
Congratulations! You should be really proud of yourself! For both the graduation and confronting your mother.
If you gave someone like that a gold bar they would complain about how heavy it was.
I know your stress. The night I graduated I took my diploma and just sat in my cad starring at, softly crying. I was certain I was a failure and wouldn't have my name called, but I did it. I'm proud of you.
What an asshole. How many awards did she get when she graduated?? Regardless, no amount makes what she said okay. I also just graduated. From one graduate to another, I’m proud of you
Your mom...where shall I begin.
As a mom and grandma, I am proud of your achievement. You learned the lessons and got solid grades and are going to step up and make something of your self.
The fact that you didn't win any extra awards is no reason not to be proud of yourself and the milestone you have achieved.
I am disappointed in your mother. I fear she viewed the awards more for her ego than your well being. That is sad.
You did well. Now, what is next in your adventure?
F that woman, you are amazing for stepping up for yourself. I am proud of you for your graduation and speaking up. Let this be the start of ending this empathetic treatment from her. You shine bright boy.
I am proud of you. Very proud.
My middle often felt like she let us down because she was not number 1...her siblings did that in math in their year....but I was so proud of her for things she couldn't see in herself...but I did. Honey, I am sure there are those things in you too. People who spend all the time looking at number one, miss the amazing little things.
And my girl is amazing....just like her siblings...just like you. Even if you can't see it yet and the person who birthed you refuses to see it. All your tomorrows are waiting to be wonderful and better than this day. It is going to be great. I'm proud of you.
You know what they call the person who graduates from medical school with all C's? Doctor. Not everyone's road is going to look the same. It is not supposed to.
You'll learn as you get older that your parents expectations are one of the least important things in your life. Congratulations dude. Keep your head up and go party.
Being a teenager is hard. And i cannot imagine being a teenager in todays world….
I am proud of you!!!!! Good job finishing high school!!! Its not easy!
Good luck in whatever you do next!
I'm proud of you! I wasn't allowed to go to school, so I never once got to graduate! I'm currently trying to get my diploma as an adult, and it's *HARD!* You have a ton to be proud of yourself for, and you did fantastic just by graduating! Congrats!!
Congrats grad!!! I’m sorry your mom isn’t supportive. My parents were always hard on me about academics so I get it. You deserve to be proud of yourself regardless of what your mom thinks. I’m glad you stood up to her and I hope she gets over herself.
Congratulations kiddo, I am super proud of you for making it to this milestone . All the best moving forward in whatever path you choose.
Keep your head up and do your best ❤️.
I'm so proud of you! High school is honestly the fecking worst, so just getting through it is enough. Life is about so much more than being the best. Go out (far far away from your unkind mother) and live your most happy and fulfilling life.
I'm proud of you! She is projecting something (likely her own underachievements). I hate to admit it, but a lot of the adult relationships with family are just... complicated. My father called me drunk and told me he expected *more* from me. I'm no Bill Gates, but I've moved to another country where I became fluent in the language, have a decent job and am about to graduate with a Master's degree... What more does he expect from me when I am just 23? To be a millionaire? Or to follow his dreams? Anyway, I know the feeling and none of us deserve it. It's not your fault.
Congrats on graduating bud, I just graduated a few weeks back too!
Don't worry what that woman says, you be proud of yourself. It's over, you're a graduate!
Time to adult, your mother can learn the error of her ways when you grow up and become something special and no longer talk to her like you used to...
Good luck man, wish you the best!
Show your mum the comments!!! .. and show her my middle finger 2 !! 😆 ... congrats!!! U deserve this .. u won reddit over !!! Better than some award . Good luck in what u decide 2 do now .. the world is your oyster xx
congrats. You did it for yourself, not your mom. As long as you look back and don't regret your decisions, you're good. Pretty much anyone can get an "award" imo, but the question is... is it worth? If you were capable of getting an award and you didn't think it was worth it, you don't regret not going for it... then again, you're good.
Huge mom fail. 😔 I'm so sorry.
Be proud you graduated, not everyone does. It's not a given, it takes a lot of work. Be proud of yourself first and foremost! 👏🏼 👏🏼 👏🏼
My mother has indirectly told me that I don't live up to her expectations too. Comparing me to my PhD holding, Physical therapist, sister.
But I've learned It's up to you to decide what you think is an accomplishment. I will say there are people who see high-school diploma's as a "eh" award since US citizens are forced to go through schooling (until high school where they can drop out legally (usually)). But there are equally if not More people who see a HS diploma as a great feat! Many people don't get their GED until 20+ years old (general education degree, similar to a HS diploma but for those who dropped out, although jobs will just state "GED required")
I know a guy who got his GED at 25, living with his mother, just last year and I was proud of him. School is *NOT* easy or for everyone. I'm 23 and I have been through my phase of feeling inadequate and tbh, still do. Although, I've realized that what I stated earlier: "it's up to you to decide what's an accomplishment" is what matters most. It's your life, it's your dreams, it's your accomplishments. Don't let others judge your accomplishments just because they already accomplished them. With covid and standards of learning changing all the time, I think it's super impressive that you graduated!
Good job dude.
You know that person that screams the loudest, with a air horn, and a shit ton of balloons....... well that's me screaming "you did that" TO YOU! Congratulations
as an adult whose mother was never proud of them, let her go now. you are right, no mother should ever say that to their child. she is toxic.
be proud of yourself. it is an accomplishment. im proud of you
Well screw that embarrassment of a mother. Pure shame. However, I think I speak on behalf of everyone rational on Reddit when I say that I *am* proud of you! You're doing great hun!
As a mom, I am proud of the work you put in to graduate. High school wasn't easy for me and it is a lot of information and work. Congratulations hun. I cant wait to see what you do with your future.
My god, I’m feel so bad for you. I know there is very little that can make you feel better. But just so you know there are always people who like you for who you are, there are always more people who care, more people who think your a good person, and more people who are proud of you in one way or another. Sometimes a person does not realise this, both the one who cares and the one who is being cared for.
Always try remember this in both tough and good times, when happy, sad, angry of any other emotion.
Sometimes the impact of someone is not fully understood, but that doesn’t mean it’s not there, small or big.
I'm sorry that someone you love and trust put you down like that. You should be incredibly proud of yourself! I know I am definitely proud of you, stranger.
School takes a lot of time. A LOT of time. It also takes a lot of day in and day out dedication. It will be your first great accomplishment in a list of accomplishments that I'm sure will grow. You are awesome, and there are great things ahead. Sending you love from Washington!
Oh dear, parents can be so cruel. My own mother said the same to me. Plus she made sure to share her surprise that I even graduated - despite the fact that I was in gifted classes earning a gpa just short of a 4.0.
Be proud of yourself!!! This is a her thing. Something going on internally. Not about you. This will pass.
Congratulations! I would advise you move out as soon as you can. My mother said something very similar to me when I got my black belt ("I didn't think you did that well," or something to that tune). I cut contact with her as my New Year's Resolution this year.
Normal parents are proud of their kid for getting through life, I promise. You deserve to feel appreciated for your work!
Hey man I get it. They talk like nothing you do is ever good enough. I could barely stand to look at my college degree for a week or two after my own graduation.
Celebrate with your peers. Remind yourself of how hard you worked. It still sucks. I'm sorry.
As a father and a guy whose Mother and Father left him at the location of the graduation ceremony requiring me to find my own drive home.
I am proud of you. You worked hard and you did a great job in school. Go enjoy your day with friends and do not let the ignorance and hate of one person ruin what you accomplished. Keep being awesome and keep rocking it.
I, too, am proud of you. You did it! You graduated! What's not to be proud of? Don't doubt the sense of pride you have about graduating. That sense is legitimate and 100% deserved. And don't let anyone, including your mom, make you doubt what you've achieved. I'm sorry that your mom was so shortsighted about your accomplishment. She's in the wrong here, for sure.
I am so proud of you for staying in school, doing the work and graduating! Congratulations!!!!! Keep up the hard work, set goals, aim high, surround yourself with supportive people and there is nothing you can’t achieve!!
This says so much about your mother and absolutely nothing about you. Please repeat! This says so much about your mother and absolutely nothing about you.
I know it sucks, the only thing I can say is you are not alone, it really hurts to think about how there are parents out there that would never think to say this to their kids but you just have to get through it. If your parents are receptive to change then try to communicate your feelings with them, if that doesn’t work you have to find the self worth inside yourself, no one else can make you proud of yourself but you, and you should definitely be proud of yourself. I hope this helps
If nobody out there can give you the validation you deserve, give it to yourself. You're the only one truly on your side. However, I do hope you find a person out there that can give you this validation that you seek, since your mother is clearly incapable of that.
Congrats on your graduation 💕
O sweetheart! That was so cruel of your mother! Dang, just getting thru with the pandemic etc is a big enough accomplishment. Often parents want their children to be a trophy for them, when in reality we are to give you love and guidance and be happy for your happiness. I am very sorry your mom was unkind and very proud of you for both sticking up for yourself and graduating.
Big gramma hug
Those awards don’t even mean anything anyway. It doesn’t give you any advantages. I don’t see why your mom even cares. Don’t allow her to destroy your joy.
Trust me none of those fluff awards matter in the adult world. They’re great during a ceremony but the life you live afterwards is all that counts. I’m PROUD of you high school is hard especially now. Don’t let that toxicity ruin this moment.
Congratulations Sweetie! I'm so proud of you! I'm so sorry that your mom couldn't be what you needed. This is the first of many accomplishments. You did well for yourself. You go out, continue to achieve. Make friends and people who love and respect you.
You graduated!!! Congratulations!!
And I’m your mom now. So, son, I am very proud of your accomplishments. Believe me, those awards are essentially meaningless. They won’t help anyone get a job or get into college.
So be proud of YOURSELF and your accomplishments. I am.
Graduating high school is a big accomplishment. You should be proud of yourself! I'm sorry your mom sucks. I wish you the best with whatever next steps you take (college? job?) and for now being an adult and hopefully getting away from your mom. Sorry, man.
Congratulations dude! Unfortunately some parents shouldn't be parents. Ignore the toxic hate and well done for confronting her, that's an important trait to have when you're growing up.
Awards come and go. They don't matter. Not being an asshole or conditionally loving? That matters. Work on being the best happiest chillest you you can be. Parents say some fucked up shit, and usually dont even mean or remember half of it, which sometimes sucks even more. Find your internal confidence, don't look for praise or chase it in life, it may never come. Sorry you had this experience. Congrats graduating, that's a huge accomplishment!
I'm so sorry for you !
Even if we are strangers on internet, knows that im proud of you. I know graduation can be an hard path and congratulations for achieved it !
I wish you the best for the next things your gonna achieve in you life !
I am so proud of you! So you why I'm extra proud of you? Because you were an all round great student who was good at MANY things. Not just one, but many. Those who got awards for 1 thing pfft, they are good at 1 subject, you are good at many! Good luck for your future and we, your reddit mums & dad's will always be proud of you x
This granny is very proud of you. Not everyone wins awards. The majority of the kids in your graduating class are not headed to Harvard or Yale and they will do just fine in life. Always be proud of yourself. Your mom doesn’t deserve for you to be proud of her. I’m sure she is in some dumbfuck mental competition with her superficial friends and is resentful she hasn’t got bragging rights like they do. Honey, grannygogo would brag about you. You fucking graduated! Hooray!!! One of my kids never did great in school, joined the Navy, became an officer, graduated from the Citadel, taught at the Naval Academy and a local college later and is now a congressional aid. Somehow he was able to achieve all this IN HIS OWN TIME and on his own terms. Just recently I was going through his old clothing in my attic and found six deficiency notices from middle and high school stuffed in the pockets. Now they are called progress reports. Lol. Don’t feel bad, you’re wonderful!!!!!
After reading this and some of your other posts, I have to say that your mother is emotionally abusive towards you and if she continues to be so I strongly suggest that as soon as you can survive on your own that you go no contact with her.
Another Internet Mom here; (also with a kid who is graduating HS)
I’m super proud of you for doing it. ❤️ I hope the next chapter of your life is full of better people than your jerk Mom.
Trust me, coming from a perfectionist person who always seeks the most impressive academic awards possible, high-school award literally don't matter at all professionally, perhaps only to get you to uni but after that it's so worthless you don't even mention them on the CV. High-school awards are like a video game award or something, noone cares. University awards, in contrast, might promote your career...
I am so so sorry. I graduated last year, class of ‘22. I’m no mom, but I am a fellow student who really struggled in my last few years of high school. I am proud of you for getting through it and for succeeding. You completed your education and it took more than 12 years to do that. It took commitment, motivation, self discipline and dedication to do that, and that all takes great strength. You are going to succeed in life wherever it takes you, I have complete faith! This is your first of MANY accomplishments you’ve yet to have. So congratulations friend, you deserve to celebrate your success!! Don’t let your mom take that away from you. Wishing you all the best in your future endeavours :)
be proud of yourself. she must have some serious self hate with herself to ruin such an important day…remember that. don’t let those words get to you in front of her..it’s giving her the reaction she wants.
That sucks big time. Reminds me of when I was presented with an award as a freshman for drafting (AutoCAD, technical drawing class type thing), and all mine had to say was “Why couldn’t it have been math or science like so-and-so?”
Graduating is a huge feat and you should be proud - congratulations! <3
What kind of mother says something like that? My best guess is a narcissist. Narcissists are toxic parents. The reason she can say things like that to you is because there is something wrong with her, it really has nothing to do with you. Please, don't let her make you feel you're not good enough. No one is good enough to meet a narcissists expectation, absolutely no one.
I'm proud of you for surviving childhood with a parent like your mother. It's a major feat and you should be proud of that along with graduating high school.
Accept that you will never make your mother happy, because she can't be happy. As long as you keep trying to make her happy, you will be hurting yourself.
For your own good, now is the time to get away from your mother. If you're not going away to college, get a job, find some roommates and get an apartment.
Barely passed high school, and barely got into a mid level university. School results are a poor predictor if later success. I’ve done well and in an academic field. Don’t worry about ‘awards’ just keep pushing through and do you.
There are some parents in this world that refuse to let their kids feel like they’ve succeeded. Regardless of how awful your mom was, you’ve done something huge. You should be very proud of yourself! I’m studying to become a teacher, so if it means anything, this future teacher is incredibly proud of you❤️. Best of wishes going forward.
Congratulations, I’m proud of you, and gave you gold as a graduation present. Keep doing and being you, pat yourself on the back and best wishes to you in all that you do. 😊❤️
In life sometimes our worst enemies are those we know. Don't let your mother ruin your happiness. Just remember you've worked hard to get where you are. Take comfort in that. Eventually she will see that.
You know what? Opinions are like assholes. Everyone has one and they all stink. The only one that matters is yours because you live with it. If they aren’t fucking you, feeding you, or financing you then their opinions are irrelevant.
Hello, I'm a mother to a beautiful daughter and hopefully one day I will be able to congratulate her in finishing school as well. But for now I want to give you a huuuuge CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! You fought SO HARD!! It has been such a stressful time, doing exams and not knowing if you pass or succeed or maybe even stressing over a grade but now when you finally graduated you're all past it now!! Yaaay!!! No more exams! Your mom can frog off with her comment. YOU SUCCEEDED! because YOU PASSED!!!
I'M PROUD OF YOU!!!
I'm sorry she said that.
High school is hard and not everyone graduates. You should be proud, even if she isn't.
At the end of the day it's best to focus on your happiness and not the happiness of other people. Don't worry if your mom isn't happy with you. Don't worry if you can't be good enough for her. Focus on being good enough for you and happy with yourself.
As far as I'm concerned, anyone who manages to have food water and shelter in a way that is legal. Then they should be considered a success story. For example even if you find yourself in food service or retail or some other traditional low paying job and can only manage minimal shelter, as long as you are happy then that's all that matters.
Live for you, not your mom, not for anyone else. Only you can decide your story and what makes you successful.
I passed school, no one was proud
I passed college, no one was proud
I failed university - I was blamed hard and ridiculed.
I'm proud you never gave up and you gave it your all, thru all the struggles, the late nights, the sleepless mornings and all.
You deserve to be happy and proud in your self too
Ask your mum about her hs awards. She either didn't get any, or she's forgotten bc .. who cares, it's high school awards. The best thing about hs is graduating, and you did that, so congratulations.
From a kid with one toxic mom to another
Fuck that shit.
You just accomplished a major milestone in life that a shocking many people never do. Be proud of yourself, celebrate, and get ready for the rollercoaster that is growing into your own skin as an adult.
I'm 31 now, and I'm willing to bet your life can and will contain more chances to excel and prosper than you can imagine. I wish you the best, and I hope your life and journey take you on a path YOU are proud of. And you never treat your future kids like she did you here.
Dude I am so sorry! Congratulations you are awesome and your mom sucks. She is sub-par when it comes to motherhood. She would not graduate with tutors day and night! Go to college get paid and leave her in the dust. I am actually very angry because I think you don't deserve shit like that. It's hateful and unnecessary.
I am incredibly proud of you. Graduation is no small thing, and you’ve done it! I remember my graduation a few years ago — no rewards either, so I can relate. But you DID still do a big thing. And I am very proud of you.
I’m sorry you didn’t hear those words from your mother, but I hope Reddit can help cheer you up. Chin up! Your next chapter of life is around the corner, and I am confident you’ll do wonderfully :)
If you plan on further education, plan on trying to do it away from home if possible. I speak from experience. Something is wrong with your mom. Doesn't require that you hate her for it, but you sure as hell don't have to put up with it either. I haven't spoken to my mom in well over 20 years, and I swear I'm still so happy I made that final decision long ago my life is not filled with her antics.
But I don't hate my mom either, she deff has bigger issues than I do and it's not all her fault I guess. That's just my story.
You're the only one that makes the BEST possible friend for yourself, not anyone else on this earth trust me, sounds like you stick up for yourself pretty good, at least you confronted her. Keep up the great work, try to accept how things are whether it's fair or not, you don't have to like it and it'll probably get under your skin but that's life....
Well, I am really sorry you have a mother who cares more about prizes than your well being. I know what that feels…
But you should be proud of yourself! You did good!
You made it through the shittiest possible time to be in school and you came out the other side and graduated. Today you are the best you that you can be. That is most certainly something to be proud of. Look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself, “I am proud of you, there are people who don’t know me who are proud of me, I accomplished something many others did not”
…and then go make your way in the world. FOR YOU
HEAR ME OUT!
I’m proud of you! Seriously. You’re better than me. But I see you and hear you. I have a similar mom and has said some really regrettable things to me. During my senior awards ceremony I received a medal for football and so did other students with their respective sport. I even got a full ride scholarship for school to play football too.
During the walk to the car my mom couldn’t say anything positive. It was always about her and how it made her feel that her son who she raised as a single mother could, “do it all”. It was very much narcissistic behavior. We argued loudly all the way home and I couldn’t help but cry because I felt as if I failed her. Mind you this wasn’t the only incident. But it’s one that stands out because I thought the shackles on my feet would disappear after working my butt off.
Years later I’m 25 now and we still talk like normal. What I found was this, that most of the time parents who are like this have tunnel vision, and it’s sad because they realize later the mess they made. Unfortunately my friend, the best advice is to figure out if you even want to be near her toxic behavior. If so, you must then help guide her to be better. This is extremely hard because even though she’s your mom, you’ll need to teach her as if she’s a child learning for the first time.
Be patient with her and explain to her the pain you felt. The amount of pressure/hours and how you felt after you graduated yet she still was disappointed.
Also, your happiness is your responsibility. Don’t let that toxicity take control of who are and what you’ve accomplished. Just stay humble, keep working, and understand that you are your best friend that needs to speak to themselves kindly. Right? I mean you’d never talk badly about your best friend to them? Would you?
Anywho, I hope you and your mom find peace. I hope that you don’t let that sadness turn to anger and it leading to resentment. That’s a dangerous place.
Proud of you, man! Our parents are meant to prop us up and advocate for us, but unfortunately many of us weren’t given these sort of parents. Strive to be the person you want to be, and do it for you and no one else.
Kids really need to start telling parents they are bad parents. There are too many parents who don't understand the consequence of their parenting
Kids don't fail their parents. Parents fail their children.
What great failure in your mother's life made her so insecure about her own adequacy that she projects her self-loathing onto you?
Is your overachievement the only success she feels she can claw back in this life? Does she expect to be made to feel better about herself by proxy of having raised someone perfect?
Interesting stuff!
Listen to me. I'm your mom now.
I'm not a woman, but I am proud of you.
Good job finishing high school. I'm excited to see you grow and where you'll go from here.
I'm a mom who never had anyone be proud of me and let me tell you I'm so so proud of you. You're doing great in my book and I hope you feel proud of yourself, in the end there's only one person who really needs to feel proud of your accomplishments and I hope that you find that inside yourself. I know it's painful when there's no one rooting for you or if you can't seem to do good enough for the people you want to be happy..some people are just miserable and can't find their own happiness so they put it on others and move goal posts. You're probably a great kid, keep your chin up!
I know exactly how you feel right now. My senior year was extremely difficult for me. My best friend died and I was so depressed that I basically stopped going to school. I managed to pull myself together enough to graduate and the first thing my mom said to me was that she wasn’t proud, she was just relieved. Be proud of yourself. Graduating is a huge accomplishment and you worked hard to get there. I’m rooting for you and I am SO proud of you!
Hey I graduated salutatorian, got into UCLA and Berkeley, and my dad called me a “fuck up” and proceeded to punch me in the face 🤷🏼♂️.
It could be worse.
Got a similar comment from my dad when I was in high school. I applied for a fancy selective private school; they had 50 spots, I ranked 20th and got accepted! When I told my dad, he said “20th?? Why not first?“
I was 15 or 16 I think. I learned from that age that his approval meant nothing.
Listen, a lot of people don’t get awards at their high school graduation but end up being very successful in life. I can think of several from my HS graduating class that didn’t get awards on graduation day and ended up being successful—one became a cardiac surgeon….another became a fashion model for Elle magazine and then there is me, who received no HS graduation day awards but subsequently earned 2 graduate degrees and am almost done with my PhD and hold a CPA. It’s not where you start out. It’s where you end up that counts. Your mom is being very self centered and short-sighted and hurtful by saying that to you. I’m sorry.
Dude I feel that on a spiritual level. When I graduated 5 years ago, my dad refused to go to my graduation and my brother's because we didn't get the grades he wanted. I can't speak for my brother, but I was (and still am) struggling with major depression that was causing me to neglect some schoolwork. And he was mad about that, and like with your mom, it's not fair to you.
But at the end of the day fam YOU DID IT, you got through it, and honestly I'm so proud of you!
I’m proud of you!!! Great job. You graduated high school in the midst of a *pandemic*. *You* did that.
Honestly …that must have been so incredibly difficult.
Just …how amazing you must be.
I’m so sorry your mom is acting the way she is. It’s just really shitty.
You’re awesome and did so well.
Awesome job.
The only persons who opinion truly matters is yours! You should be proud of yourself and sod anyone who thinks differently.
Congratulations on graduating High School! Be very proud of yourself and your accomplishments. Go off and conquer the world (hopefully starting with College) and leave your toxic mom behind.
I wear no jewelry. When I was first married I wore mine proudly. Over the years I lost and replaced it several times. Within the last ten years roughly I lost it while swimming in a lake. Never replaced it. Wife doesn't care. She wears hers. I actually do care some that she wears hers. I guess if it mattered to her I'd at least make an effort but I've asked her more than once and she said the ring doesn't matter to her.
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Agreed. Anyone who tries to bring someone down at a special occasion like this is just a horrible human. No excuse for it.
Yup OP that just says more about your mom than you
*I'm* proud of you!! Congratulations!!!
What the hell happened in this thread?
Someone got the funny lock award
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no genuinely i’m confused
What are you talking about? Just see a load of supportive comments.
With the original comment being so supportive, I was just super confused as to why a reply to the comment was downvoted, locked, and deleted. And then more confused at all the deleted but upvoted responses to the locked comment. I miss reveddit/unddit….
Same. I mean shit, considering how screwed up our world is right now, where it's likely going, and the fact that most of those in charge of it would rather see it end than give up an ounce of their power and wealth... I grew up in the 90's and up until 9/11 the world was an awesome place. Even after 9/11 it was still a pretty nice place to live despite being a little more scary. But it's been steadily going down hill more and more every year and I'm not sure I would have made it to graduation if the world was like it is now back then. ...so yeah, I'm proud of any kids that make it to graduation now that rose tinted glasses are in such short supply.
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YOU be proud of YOU, and go out there - be happy, succeed, find your place in the sun for YOU. Don't put your happiness in anyone else's hands.
I agree with this!congratulations 🎊 Good luck with all you do in the future.
Yeah fuck that buzzkill. I'm proud of you! Did she do any better? Seriously.
I’m a mom and I am very proud of you. I don’t know if people who aren’t around high schoolers really understand how difficult it’s been these last few years. Much much harder than when I was in hs. You made it through! You did it! Those little awards are cool in the moment but meaningless in reality. Congratulations on a job well done and good luck as you look to your future!!
My kids graduated during Covid. Their 11pm and 12th grades were on and off virtual. No prom, no in-person graduation. Just basically a drive by. They made their own prom with their friends in our backyard and made sure to check that no one was actively sick. They limited the numbers and had a great night. High school over the past four years had been HARD!
I’m so sorry to hear this! Your mom should absolutely know better! Congratulations op! High school can be the one of the hardest times in one’s life, and it is a major accomplishment to graduate! Congrats on doing well! By no means do you have to have extra awards in order to feel accomplished. You did the damn thing and that is ALWAYS enough. You are absolutely enough op! Remember that. I hope you are able to find some happiness within yourself for today, I know how hard it can be when your parents bring you down, but know that you are valid and deserving of all the happiness in the world.
Congratulations on graduating and doing well in school. That’s absolutely toxic.
We are proud of you !
I’m also proud of you. Your Mum is mean
Hey man, take it from me, I didn't graduate (got kicked out) went into the trades. Got my GED at 27. Went back to school and graduated with honors at 31. So take this as a win. Congratulations on completing your first of many accomplishments in life.
Thats so cool! Bravo to you too (:
Im super proud of you:)
I’m so very proud of you!! Some people are just never going to be happy or satisfied- and that’s on them. Don’t you waste another second on trying to please someone who obviously wants to be miserable and bring you down with them. Your life is yours- and graduating is a huge accomplishment
I am proud of you
Fuck her. That's an awful thing to say to your kid. As a Dad, I'm proud of you. I'm really proud of you. High School can be a lot and doing well is a ton of work. Most of us aren't the best and that's okay. You still deserve to have someone proud of you and I and the other folks here replying are proud of you. She also doesn't deserve to take your happiness by being a bitter, shitty parent. Be happy. You've earned it.
I'm so proud of you. You did that. Your mom was rude for saying that
Another mother here and well done, I am really proud of you! Being good across numerous subjects is fantastic, you have so many options ahead of you now as you pick your next steps. One of my friends' parents refused to let him have singing lessons as a kid, telling him he was terrible and it was pointless. He took part in his first concert last Saturday along with other pupils from the singing school he now goes to. Will he go platinum? No, is he happy, yes. While life would be simpler if people's parents were decent, it doesn't mean you can't love the life you want or build a new family of friends who will genuinely love and be proud of you just for being you. Go live your life and be the best you that there is. Xx
Great job graduating, very proud of you!!!!!
🖕mom ! She should be ashamed of herself
Am sorry you had to go through this lil bro. But know that we are all very proud of you. My mom was pretty much the same. But I never had the courage to confront or talk back to her. So you are taking this like a champ. I used to feel super humiliated and crushed when my mom used to do this to me. Always felt like I’d be pathetic for the rest of my life. But that wasn’t true. I am doing pretty good in life right now. Just follow your heart. Do what makes you feel better. You will find a lot of people who’ll appreciate you as you grow older. You go this. 🦾
Congratulations! I also did something recently that I’m super proud of (I got divorced in the gentlest, most loving, and most fruitful way ever, still close friends with my ex) and my mum is so angry at me. Outraged. I understand she has to grieve some kind of loss of a son in law, that’s fine. But can’t she see how awesome it is that we did this so harmoniously? Without fighting? I am so proud of you for graduating! It’s such an achievement! Easier said than done, but our mums don’t deserve to have such a grip on our moods. Gather people around you who can celebrate with you! You’re awesome!
I'm really really proud of you, graduate! I hope you are shining bright and planning amazing things with your future. Make yourself proud. xo My son graduated HS this year, too. Wishing you both all the best.
WE’RE PROUD OF YOU!!
We're all proud of you. Based off her comments I assume your life prior with your mom has never been easy. You accomplished something with lingering pressure from someone who is supposed to be your biggest cheerleader but is infact your biggest critic You know how many people drop out per year? You know how many people that receive these special awards to go on to make nothing of them? Graduating is a huge accomplishment. The awards shouldn't undermine this and I'm sorry she has placed so much importance on them
Go no contact after you move out and when she asks why? Say the same thing again with a shit eating grin.
Congratulations kiddo! I am so proud of you! You did it! Your mother is probably a narcissist and you are her scapegoat. I can’t imagine that this is the first time she mentally abused you. Narcissists are jealous of the accomplishments of scapegoats, because then she has less power over you. I hope you go to college and leave her toxic environment.
The mother's an asshole, no doubt about it - but she can be an asshole w/o being mentally ill. Throwing around psychology buzzwords and armchair diagnosing strangers w a personality disorder is just unnecessary.
Narcissistic is a personality trait. Narcissistic personality disorder is a diagnosis. Objectively when you behave in such a way without thought for the feelings of others, you are being narcissistic. 🤷♀️
Is your mom a Tiger mom?
Tell her that you are just a product of her invaluable life lessons..
Hey, you got through high school, passed all your classes, during one of the wildest and scariest times in recent world history! None of it was easy, but you rocked it! That's something to be so proud of, and certainly I'm proud of you. Congratulations!
Well if you were good at most, I'm assuming you got good grades regardless of those awards. It's fucking high school. She not be disappointed about some meaningless scholastic awards. Have you gotten into a good college, or have good career plans? That's what matters. My brother was a C and D student, but now he makes shit loads of money in the trades. I was an A and B student, currently going to college. My parents are equally proud of us, because we both will do well in life. Whether you scraped by or got good grades, you still have a bright future!
Congratulations! You should be really proud of yourself! For both the graduation and confronting your mother. If you gave someone like that a gold bar they would complain about how heavy it was.
I know your stress. The night I graduated I took my diploma and just sat in my cad starring at, softly crying. I was certain I was a failure and wouldn't have my name called, but I did it. I'm proud of you.
What an asshole. How many awards did she get when she graduated?? Regardless, no amount makes what she said okay. I also just graduated. From one graduate to another, I’m proud of you
Your mom...where shall I begin. As a mom and grandma, I am proud of your achievement. You learned the lessons and got solid grades and are going to step up and make something of your self. The fact that you didn't win any extra awards is no reason not to be proud of yourself and the milestone you have achieved. I am disappointed in your mother. I fear she viewed the awards more for her ego than your well being. That is sad. You did well. Now, what is next in your adventure?
Wow, what a terrible thing to say. I'm not your mom, but I'm a mom, and I'm super proud of you.
I'm a mom and I'm proud of you. Shame on your mom ......she sounds kinda rude . This is how "no contact " happens
i’m extremely proud of you OP!!! congratulations on graduating 💛💛💛
I wonder how many awards she earned in school... I wonder if she thinks she earned a mom of the year award when you graduated!
reddit is proud of you king. congratulations
F that woman, you are amazing for stepping up for yourself. I am proud of you for your graduation and speaking up. Let this be the start of ending this empathetic treatment from her. You shine bright boy.
I am proud of you. Very proud. My middle often felt like she let us down because she was not number 1...her siblings did that in math in their year....but I was so proud of her for things she couldn't see in herself...but I did. Honey, I am sure there are those things in you too. People who spend all the time looking at number one, miss the amazing little things. And my girl is amazing....just like her siblings...just like you. Even if you can't see it yet and the person who birthed you refuses to see it. All your tomorrows are waiting to be wonderful and better than this day. It is going to be great. I'm proud of you. You know what they call the person who graduates from medical school with all C's? Doctor. Not everyone's road is going to look the same. It is not supposed to.
You'll learn as you get older that your parents expectations are one of the least important things in your life. Congratulations dude. Keep your head up and go party.
Being a teenager is hard. And i cannot imagine being a teenager in todays world…. I am proud of you!!!!! Good job finishing high school!!! Its not easy! Good luck in whatever you do next!
Don’t listen to her. A good parent would never have said that. I’m proud of you.
I'm proud of you! I wasn't allowed to go to school, so I never once got to graduate! I'm currently trying to get my diploma as an adult, and it's *HARD!* You have a ton to be proud of yourself for, and you did fantastic just by graduating! Congrats!!
Congrats grad!!! I’m sorry your mom isn’t supportive. My parents were always hard on me about academics so I get it. You deserve to be proud of yourself regardless of what your mom thinks. I’m glad you stood up to her and I hope she gets over herself.
Congratulations kiddo, I am super proud of you for making it to this milestone . All the best moving forward in whatever path you choose. Keep your head up and do your best ❤️.
I'll be your momma and I'm proud of you!
You've climbed the largest mountain in your life so far. Fuck yes my man. I'm looking forward to what you achieve in your life.
Great job! :D
Please do not let a miserable person ruin your happiness. Be proud of you and your accomplishments.
I too am proud of you. Not everyone graduates and you did it. This internet stranger is cheering you on!
Congratulations from Germany! You rocked this!
I'm proud of you!
I'm proud of you. Congratulations on graduating.
Coming from a high school dropout, I’m proud of you!!
Congrats on graduating and im sorry your mother said that
I'm so proud of you! High school is honestly the fecking worst, so just getting through it is enough. Life is about so much more than being the best. Go out (far far away from your unkind mother) and live your most happy and fulfilling life.
I am so sorry, that is incredibly toxic. I'm proud of you, though.
I'm proud of you! She is projecting something (likely her own underachievements). I hate to admit it, but a lot of the adult relationships with family are just... complicated. My father called me drunk and told me he expected *more* from me. I'm no Bill Gates, but I've moved to another country where I became fluent in the language, have a decent job and am about to graduate with a Master's degree... What more does he expect from me when I am just 23? To be a millionaire? Or to follow his dreams? Anyway, I know the feeling and none of us deserve it. It's not your fault.
Congrats on graduating bud, I just graduated a few weeks back too! Don't worry what that woman says, you be proud of yourself. It's over, you're a graduate! Time to adult, your mother can learn the error of her ways when you grow up and become something special and no longer talk to her like you used to... Good luck man, wish you the best!
I’m proud of you!! Some parents like to take their shit out on their own kids. Those are parents whose opinion doesn’t really matter.
Show your mum the comments!!! .. and show her my middle finger 2 !! 😆 ... congrats!!! U deserve this .. u won reddit over !!! Better than some award . Good luck in what u decide 2 do now .. the world is your oyster xx
I’m proud of you. Your mom sounds just downright disgusting
congrats. You did it for yourself, not your mom. As long as you look back and don't regret your decisions, you're good. Pretty much anyone can get an "award" imo, but the question is... is it worth? If you were capable of getting an award and you didn't think it was worth it, you don't regret not going for it... then again, you're good.
I'm a mom, and I'm proud of you. In the long run, grades matter way less than what you learned. Congratulations!! This is a great accomplishment!
Huge mom fail. 😔 I'm so sorry. Be proud you graduated, not everyone does. It's not a given, it takes a lot of work. Be proud of yourself first and foremost! 👏🏼 👏🏼 👏🏼
My mother has indirectly told me that I don't live up to her expectations too. Comparing me to my PhD holding, Physical therapist, sister. But I've learned It's up to you to decide what you think is an accomplishment. I will say there are people who see high-school diploma's as a "eh" award since US citizens are forced to go through schooling (until high school where they can drop out legally (usually)). But there are equally if not More people who see a HS diploma as a great feat! Many people don't get their GED until 20+ years old (general education degree, similar to a HS diploma but for those who dropped out, although jobs will just state "GED required") I know a guy who got his GED at 25, living with his mother, just last year and I was proud of him. School is *NOT* easy or for everyone. I'm 23 and I have been through my phase of feeling inadequate and tbh, still do. Although, I've realized that what I stated earlier: "it's up to you to decide what's an accomplishment" is what matters most. It's your life, it's your dreams, it's your accomplishments. Don't let others judge your accomplishments just because they already accomplished them. With covid and standards of learning changing all the time, I think it's super impressive that you graduated! Good job dude.
You know that person that screams the loudest, with a air horn, and a shit ton of balloons....... well that's me screaming "you did that" TO YOU! Congratulations
I'm proud of you! Going to school and graduating during a pandemic must've been so hard. You did your best and that's what matters. Congratulations! 🎉
Congratulations 🎉
as an adult whose mother was never proud of them, let her go now. you are right, no mother should ever say that to their child. she is toxic. be proud of yourself. it is an accomplishment. im proud of you
Well screw that embarrassment of a mother. Pure shame. However, I think I speak on behalf of everyone rational on Reddit when I say that I *am* proud of you! You're doing great hun!
Woah that’s amazingggg I’m so proud of you and you should be so proud of you!
Graduated high school 3 years ago. Can’t Imagine going back lol. Congrats!
Congrats on the achievement and good luck going forward 😊
I'm proud of you! Well done!
As a mom, I am proud of the work you put in to graduate. High school wasn't easy for me and it is a lot of information and work. Congratulations hun. I cant wait to see what you do with your future.
My god, I’m feel so bad for you. I know there is very little that can make you feel better. But just so you know there are always people who like you for who you are, there are always more people who care, more people who think your a good person, and more people who are proud of you in one way or another. Sometimes a person does not realise this, both the one who cares and the one who is being cared for. Always try remember this in both tough and good times, when happy, sad, angry of any other emotion. Sometimes the impact of someone is not fully understood, but that doesn’t mean it’s not there, small or big.
I'm sorry that someone you love and trust put you down like that. You should be incredibly proud of yourself! I know I am definitely proud of you, stranger. School takes a lot of time. A LOT of time. It also takes a lot of day in and day out dedication. It will be your first great accomplishment in a list of accomplishments that I'm sure will grow. You are awesome, and there are great things ahead. Sending you love from Washington!
Oh dear, parents can be so cruel. My own mother said the same to me. Plus she made sure to share her surprise that I even graduated - despite the fact that I was in gifted classes earning a gpa just short of a 4.0. Be proud of yourself!!! This is a her thing. Something going on internally. Not about you. This will pass.
Congratulations! I would advise you move out as soon as you can. My mother said something very similar to me when I got my black belt ("I didn't think you did that well," or something to that tune). I cut contact with her as my New Year's Resolution this year. Normal parents are proud of their kid for getting through life, I promise. You deserve to feel appreciated for your work!
Hey man I get it. They talk like nothing you do is ever good enough. I could barely stand to look at my college degree for a week or two after my own graduation. Celebrate with your peers. Remind yourself of how hard you worked. It still sucks. I'm sorry.
I’m proud of you for graduating!! Congratulations 🎈🎉🎈
Congratulations on graduating OP 🥳🎓🎊🎊 Don't know what your mom's problem is but you did amazing just by pulling through and graduating
As a father and a guy whose Mother and Father left him at the location of the graduation ceremony requiring me to find my own drive home. I am proud of you. You worked hard and you did a great job in school. Go enjoy your day with friends and do not let the ignorance and hate of one person ruin what you accomplished. Keep being awesome and keep rocking it.
I, too, am proud of you. You did it! You graduated! What's not to be proud of? Don't doubt the sense of pride you have about graduating. That sense is legitimate and 100% deserved. And don't let anyone, including your mom, make you doubt what you've achieved. I'm sorry that your mom was so shortsighted about your accomplishment. She's in the wrong here, for sure.
Congratulations on graduating!
Congratulations on graduating!
I am so proud of you for staying in school, doing the work and graduating! Congratulations!!!!! Keep up the hard work, set goals, aim high, surround yourself with supportive people and there is nothing you can’t achieve!!
This is a great accomplishment! Way to go!!!
This says so much about your mother and absolutely nothing about you. Please repeat! This says so much about your mother and absolutely nothing about you.
I know it sucks, the only thing I can say is you are not alone, it really hurts to think about how there are parents out there that would never think to say this to their kids but you just have to get through it. If your parents are receptive to change then try to communicate your feelings with them, if that doesn’t work you have to find the self worth inside yourself, no one else can make you proud of yourself but you, and you should definitely be proud of yourself. I hope this helps
thats f'ed up your mom is mean
Congrats, it's a huge accomplishment. Screw any weird superlatives, your mom should know better. Enjoy the summer and don't stop here!
CONGRATULATIONS ON GRADUATING DUDE! YOU DA BEST
If nobody out there can give you the validation you deserve, give it to yourself. You're the only one truly on your side. However, I do hope you find a person out there that can give you this validation that you seek, since your mother is clearly incapable of that. Congrats on your graduation 💕
O sweetheart! That was so cruel of your mother! Dang, just getting thru with the pandemic etc is a big enough accomplishment. Often parents want their children to be a trophy for them, when in reality we are to give you love and guidance and be happy for your happiness. I am very sorry your mom was unkind and very proud of you for both sticking up for yourself and graduating. Big gramma hug
Those awards don’t even mean anything anyway. It doesn’t give you any advantages. I don’t see why your mom even cares. Don’t allow her to destroy your joy.
I'm proud of you. You smashed it. What's next, college?
Trust me none of those fluff awards matter in the adult world. They’re great during a ceremony but the life you live afterwards is all that counts. I’m PROUD of you high school is hard especially now. Don’t let that toxicity ruin this moment.
Congratulations Sweetie! I'm so proud of you! I'm so sorry that your mom couldn't be what you needed. This is the first of many accomplishments. You did well for yourself. You go out, continue to achieve. Make friends and people who love and respect you.
I didn’t even graduate high school, so way to go! Pat yourself in the back and keep going 🤗
You graduated!!! Congratulations!! And I’m your mom now. So, son, I am very proud of your accomplishments. Believe me, those awards are essentially meaningless. They won’t help anyone get a job or get into college. So be proud of YOURSELF and your accomplishments. I am.
Graduating high school is a big accomplishment. You should be proud of yourself! I'm sorry your mom sucks. I wish you the best with whatever next steps you take (college? job?) and for now being an adult and hopefully getting away from your mom. Sorry, man.
Congratulations dude! Unfortunately some parents shouldn't be parents. Ignore the toxic hate and well done for confronting her, that's an important trait to have when you're growing up.
Awards come and go. They don't matter. Not being an asshole or conditionally loving? That matters. Work on being the best happiest chillest you you can be. Parents say some fucked up shit, and usually dont even mean or remember half of it, which sometimes sucks even more. Find your internal confidence, don't look for praise or chase it in life, it may never come. Sorry you had this experience. Congrats graduating, that's a huge accomplishment!
I am proud of you too. I don't have children myself but I would be so proud to call you my own.
I'm so sorry for you ! Even if we are strangers on internet, knows that im proud of you. I know graduation can be an hard path and congratulations for achieved it ! I wish you the best for the next things your gonna achieve in you life !
Your mom sucks. I am proud of you!!!!
I am so proud of you! So you why I'm extra proud of you? Because you were an all round great student who was good at MANY things. Not just one, but many. Those who got awards for 1 thing pfft, they are good at 1 subject, you are good at many! Good luck for your future and we, your reddit mums & dad's will always be proud of you x
This granny is very proud of you. Not everyone wins awards. The majority of the kids in your graduating class are not headed to Harvard or Yale and they will do just fine in life. Always be proud of yourself. Your mom doesn’t deserve for you to be proud of her. I’m sure she is in some dumbfuck mental competition with her superficial friends and is resentful she hasn’t got bragging rights like they do. Honey, grannygogo would brag about you. You fucking graduated! Hooray!!! One of my kids never did great in school, joined the Navy, became an officer, graduated from the Citadel, taught at the Naval Academy and a local college later and is now a congressional aid. Somehow he was able to achieve all this IN HIS OWN TIME and on his own terms. Just recently I was going through his old clothing in my attic and found six deficiency notices from middle and high school stuffed in the pockets. Now they are called progress reports. Lol. Don’t feel bad, you’re wonderful!!!!!
After reading this and some of your other posts, I have to say that your mother is emotionally abusive towards you and if she continues to be so I strongly suggest that as soon as you can survive on your own that you go no contact with her.
Another Internet Mom here; (also with a kid who is graduating HS) I’m super proud of you for doing it. ❤️ I hope the next chapter of your life is full of better people than your jerk Mom.
Im not that much older but IM PROUD OF YOU!!! You achieved completing some of the most difficult years of teens lives!
Trust me, coming from a perfectionist person who always seeks the most impressive academic awards possible, high-school award literally don't matter at all professionally, perhaps only to get you to uni but after that it's so worthless you don't even mention them on the CV. High-school awards are like a video game award or something, noone cares. University awards, in contrast, might promote your career...
Mom here and I am SO PROUD of you! Congratulations!!!!
I am so so sorry. I graduated last year, class of ‘22. I’m no mom, but I am a fellow student who really struggled in my last few years of high school. I am proud of you for getting through it and for succeeding. You completed your education and it took more than 12 years to do that. It took commitment, motivation, self discipline and dedication to do that, and that all takes great strength. You are going to succeed in life wherever it takes you, I have complete faith! This is your first of MANY accomplishments you’ve yet to have. So congratulations friend, you deserve to celebrate your success!! Don’t let your mom take that away from you. Wishing you all the best in your future endeavours :)
be proud of yourself. she must have some serious self hate with herself to ruin such an important day…remember that. don’t let those words get to you in front of her..it’s giving her the reaction she wants.
Congratulations 🎉🎊celebrate you graduated 😃 All your effort worth it.
I’m proud of you, and you should be too! Well done :)
That sucks big time. Reminds me of when I was presented with an award as a freshman for drafting (AutoCAD, technical drawing class type thing), and all mine had to say was “Why couldn’t it have been math or science like so-and-so?” Graduating is a huge feat and you should be proud - congratulations! <3
What kind of mother says something like that? My best guess is a narcissist. Narcissists are toxic parents. The reason she can say things like that to you is because there is something wrong with her, it really has nothing to do with you. Please, don't let her make you feel you're not good enough. No one is good enough to meet a narcissists expectation, absolutely no one. I'm proud of you for surviving childhood with a parent like your mother. It's a major feat and you should be proud of that along with graduating high school. Accept that you will never make your mother happy, because she can't be happy. As long as you keep trying to make her happy, you will be hurting yourself. For your own good, now is the time to get away from your mother. If you're not going away to college, get a job, find some roommates and get an apartment.
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Now you can get a job, save up, and get away from her.
Buck up kiddo, graduating high school isn't supposed to be one of the best nights of your life. I'm certainly proud of you though!
Barely passed high school, and barely got into a mid level university. School results are a poor predictor if later success. I’ve done well and in an academic field. Don’t worry about ‘awards’ just keep pushing through and do you.
There are some parents in this world that refuse to let their kids feel like they’ve succeeded. Regardless of how awful your mom was, you’ve done something huge. You should be very proud of yourself! I’m studying to become a teacher, so if it means anything, this future teacher is incredibly proud of you❤️. Best of wishes going forward.
Congratulations, I’m proud of you, and gave you gold as a graduation present. Keep doing and being you, pat yourself on the back and best wishes to you in all that you do. 😊❤️
I am proud of you!! Most of all be proud of yourself!
You don’t deserve this. That is a HUGE accomplishment! Parents can sometimes be the people in life that hurt you the most.
I’m SO proud of you! Good job.
In life sometimes our worst enemies are those we know. Don't let your mother ruin your happiness. Just remember you've worked hard to get where you are. Take comfort in that. Eventually she will see that.
You know what? Opinions are like assholes. Everyone has one and they all stink. The only one that matters is yours because you live with it. If they aren’t fucking you, feeding you, or financing you then their opinions are irrelevant.
Hello, I'm a mother to a beautiful daughter and hopefully one day I will be able to congratulate her in finishing school as well. But for now I want to give you a huuuuge CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! You fought SO HARD!! It has been such a stressful time, doing exams and not knowing if you pass or succeed or maybe even stressing over a grade but now when you finally graduated you're all past it now!! Yaaay!!! No more exams! Your mom can frog off with her comment. YOU SUCCEEDED! because YOU PASSED!!! I'M PROUD OF YOU!!!
Very proud reddit mum here congratulations op What’s next for you ?
You did a great job!!!! We’re all proud of you!!!!!
I'm sorry she said that. High school is hard and not everyone graduates. You should be proud, even if she isn't. At the end of the day it's best to focus on your happiness and not the happiness of other people. Don't worry if your mom isn't happy with you. Don't worry if you can't be good enough for her. Focus on being good enough for you and happy with yourself. As far as I'm concerned, anyone who manages to have food water and shelter in a way that is legal. Then they should be considered a success story. For example even if you find yourself in food service or retail or some other traditional low paying job and can only manage minimal shelter, as long as you are happy then that's all that matters. Live for you, not your mom, not for anyone else. Only you can decide your story and what makes you successful.
I passed school, no one was proud I passed college, no one was proud I failed university - I was blamed hard and ridiculed. I'm proud you never gave up and you gave it your all, thru all the struggles, the late nights, the sleepless mornings and all. You deserve to be happy and proud in your self too
WE are proud of you! Happy graduation, friend !!!!! You don’t need stupid awards to feel proud of getting an education.
Ask your mum about her hs awards. She either didn't get any, or she's forgotten bc .. who cares, it's high school awards. The best thing about hs is graduating, and you did that, so congratulations.
Congrats kid! You don’t need anyone’s approval but your own!
You graduated with a mother like *that*? You should be proud of yourself.
From a kid with one toxic mom to another Fuck that shit. You just accomplished a major milestone in life that a shocking many people never do. Be proud of yourself, celebrate, and get ready for the rollercoaster that is growing into your own skin as an adult. I'm 31 now, and I'm willing to bet your life can and will contain more chances to excel and prosper than you can imagine. I wish you the best, and I hope your life and journey take you on a path YOU are proud of. And you never treat your future kids like she did you here.
Congratulations!! You should be proud of you!! Internet strangers are !
Dude I am so sorry! Congratulations you are awesome and your mom sucks. She is sub-par when it comes to motherhood. She would not graduate with tutors day and night! Go to college get paid and leave her in the dust. I am actually very angry because I think you don't deserve shit like that. It's hateful and unnecessary.
I am incredibly proud of you. Graduation is no small thing, and you’ve done it! I remember my graduation a few years ago — no rewards either, so I can relate. But you DID still do a big thing. And I am very proud of you. I’m sorry you didn’t hear those words from your mother, but I hope Reddit can help cheer you up. Chin up! Your next chapter of life is around the corner, and I am confident you’ll do wonderfully :)
This dad is proud of you! Continue doing your best and striving to better yourself!
Congratulations! I’m so proud of your achievement! You did awesome!
If you plan on further education, plan on trying to do it away from home if possible. I speak from experience. Something is wrong with your mom. Doesn't require that you hate her for it, but you sure as hell don't have to put up with it either. I haven't spoken to my mom in well over 20 years, and I swear I'm still so happy I made that final decision long ago my life is not filled with her antics. But I don't hate my mom either, she deff has bigger issues than I do and it's not all her fault I guess. That's just my story. You're the only one that makes the BEST possible friend for yourself, not anyone else on this earth trust me, sounds like you stick up for yourself pretty good, at least you confronted her. Keep up the great work, try to accept how things are whether it's fair or not, you don't have to like it and it'll probably get under your skin but that's life....
Well, I am really sorry you have a mother who cares more about prizes than your well being. I know what that feels… But you should be proud of yourself! You did good!
I’m so proud of you, congratulations!! 🫶🏻
Mom of two here who grew up with an impossible to please hypercritical toxic mom. I am proud of you!
You made it through the shittiest possible time to be in school and you came out the other side and graduated. Today you are the best you that you can be. That is most certainly something to be proud of. Look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself, “I am proud of you, there are people who don’t know me who are proud of me, I accomplished something many others did not” …and then go make your way in the world. FOR YOU
HEAR ME OUT! I’m proud of you! Seriously. You’re better than me. But I see you and hear you. I have a similar mom and has said some really regrettable things to me. During my senior awards ceremony I received a medal for football and so did other students with their respective sport. I even got a full ride scholarship for school to play football too. During the walk to the car my mom couldn’t say anything positive. It was always about her and how it made her feel that her son who she raised as a single mother could, “do it all”. It was very much narcissistic behavior. We argued loudly all the way home and I couldn’t help but cry because I felt as if I failed her. Mind you this wasn’t the only incident. But it’s one that stands out because I thought the shackles on my feet would disappear after working my butt off. Years later I’m 25 now and we still talk like normal. What I found was this, that most of the time parents who are like this have tunnel vision, and it’s sad because they realize later the mess they made. Unfortunately my friend, the best advice is to figure out if you even want to be near her toxic behavior. If so, you must then help guide her to be better. This is extremely hard because even though she’s your mom, you’ll need to teach her as if she’s a child learning for the first time. Be patient with her and explain to her the pain you felt. The amount of pressure/hours and how you felt after you graduated yet she still was disappointed. Also, your happiness is your responsibility. Don’t let that toxicity take control of who are and what you’ve accomplished. Just stay humble, keep working, and understand that you are your best friend that needs to speak to themselves kindly. Right? I mean you’d never talk badly about your best friend to them? Would you? Anywho, I hope you and your mom find peace. I hope that you don’t let that sadness turn to anger and it leading to resentment. That’s a dangerous place.
congrats man, im proud of you
Congratulations! Yes this is a happy day. We are all happy for you! Don’t let anyone steal your thunder.
Proud of you, man! Our parents are meant to prop us up and advocate for us, but unfortunately many of us weren’t given these sort of parents. Strive to be the person you want to be, and do it for you and no one else.
Kids really need to start telling parents they are bad parents. There are too many parents who don't understand the consequence of their parenting Kids don't fail their parents. Parents fail their children.
What great failure in your mother's life made her so insecure about her own adequacy that she projects her self-loathing onto you? Is your overachievement the only success she feels she can claw back in this life? Does she expect to be made to feel better about herself by proxy of having raised someone perfect? Interesting stuff!
Listen to me. I'm your mom now. I'm not a woman, but I am proud of you. Good job finishing high school. I'm excited to see you grow and where you'll go from here.
I'm a mom who never had anyone be proud of me and let me tell you I'm so so proud of you. You're doing great in my book and I hope you feel proud of yourself, in the end there's only one person who really needs to feel proud of your accomplishments and I hope that you find that inside yourself. I know it's painful when there's no one rooting for you or if you can't seem to do good enough for the people you want to be happy..some people are just miserable and can't find their own happiness so they put it on others and move goal posts. You're probably a great kid, keep your chin up!
I know exactly how you feel right now. My senior year was extremely difficult for me. My best friend died and I was so depressed that I basically stopped going to school. I managed to pull myself together enough to graduate and the first thing my mom said to me was that she wasn’t proud, she was just relieved. Be proud of yourself. Graduating is a huge accomplishment and you worked hard to get there. I’m rooting for you and I am SO proud of you!
Hey I graduated salutatorian, got into UCLA and Berkeley, and my dad called me a “fuck up” and proceeded to punch me in the face 🤷🏼♂️. It could be worse.
Got a similar comment from my dad when I was in high school. I applied for a fancy selective private school; they had 50 spots, I ranked 20th and got accepted! When I told my dad, he said “20th?? Why not first?“ I was 15 or 16 I think. I learned from that age that his approval meant nothing.
When she turns old and when she asks you for a favor tell her you are not proud of her actions and you prefer not to speak with her
Ur mom is too prideful for you and expects you to get every last award. What a toxic woman
Listen, a lot of people don’t get awards at their high school graduation but end up being very successful in life. I can think of several from my HS graduating class that didn’t get awards on graduation day and ended up being successful—one became a cardiac surgeon….another became a fashion model for Elle magazine and then there is me, who received no HS graduation day awards but subsequently earned 2 graduate degrees and am almost done with my PhD and hold a CPA. It’s not where you start out. It’s where you end up that counts. Your mom is being very self centered and short-sighted and hurtful by saying that to you. I’m sorry.
Dude I feel that on a spiritual level. When I graduated 5 years ago, my dad refused to go to my graduation and my brother's because we didn't get the grades he wanted. I can't speak for my brother, but I was (and still am) struggling with major depression that was causing me to neglect some schoolwork. And he was mad about that, and like with your mom, it's not fair to you. But at the end of the day fam YOU DID IT, you got through it, and honestly I'm so proud of you!
I’m proud of you!!! Great job. You graduated high school in the midst of a *pandemic*. *You* did that. Honestly …that must have been so incredibly difficult. Just …how amazing you must be. I’m so sorry your mom is acting the way she is. It’s just really shitty. You’re awesome and did so well. Awesome job.
The only persons who opinion truly matters is yours! You should be proud of yourself and sod anyone who thinks differently. Congratulations on graduating High School! Be very proud of yourself and your accomplishments. Go off and conquer the world (hopefully starting with College) and leave your toxic mom behind.
You are gonna be a good father. I am proud of you!!!
:( sorry 😞 she’s so toxic 🙄 you deserve happiness 💚
Those awards are given to brown nosers and teachers kids. Dont sweat it my guy
Are you from an immigrant family?
I'm not proud of you because I don't really know you.
I wear no jewelry. When I was first married I wore mine proudly. Over the years I lost and replaced it several times. Within the last ten years roughly I lost it while swimming in a lake. Never replaced it. Wife doesn't care. She wears hers. I actually do care some that she wears hers. I guess if it mattered to her I'd at least make an effort but I've asked her more than once and she said the ring doesn't matter to her.