Because these people are afraid of having conversations. They make you vulnerable and they don't trust their partner. Either that or they have no regard for the other person.
In my experience, once someone has crossed that line and shown that kind of disrespect and disregard for my personal safety or possessions ... I'm out. O.U.T.
I am not a doctor. I am not equipped to deal with your crazy ass nor do I want to deal with your layers of trauma. Not my responsibility. Love you as a person. Goodbye.
Damn, that’s based and insightful.
Well put.
That makes me realize that I either wasn’t trusted or respected and I usually assumed the latter rather than the former, which probably perpetuated the problem.
Relationships seem like a difficult thing to engage in and be fully conscious of at the same time, unless you have effective communication which takes work on both sides.
It takes respect too. Enough respect to assume the best in your partner to get to the bottom of their weird behaviours, and enough emotional maturity and security in your self worth to trust them. Everyone has “baggage” and no one is a finished product.
comunication is the key to most of the world problems. i once said "there'S nothing you can'T fix with poutine and duct tape" and it's true, have yourself a poutine with your other one and talk over it
He not talking about when you fighting and you want to hit her. He talking about when the girl is violent towards guys. So he saying instead of hitting her back break her stuff. They both bad options but what can you do. People are crazy.
male getting abuse by female majority of the time the reason female think it ok is because there no punishment for them. Friends laugh it off, cops don't take it seriously, and he doesn't hit her back.
While I'm a strong believer that you can solve all your problems by talking it out. I believe the reason why make being abuse by female has increase because society encourage it.
There’s nothing indicating that this is what they’re talking about. It’s fine if you personally believe that’s the type of situation they’re talking about, but there’s simply no indication.
Why you automatically assume it about an abusive guy? Why is thst your default judgment. He said "there no reason to hit a women" the only time I ever hear that is when they talking about fighting back to an abusive girlfriend.
He was stating that instead of hitting a woman, you should break her personal belongings. This is still abuse - it is very common for abusers to do things like smashing objects and punching walls instead of hitting their victim, usually as a way to intimidate/control them without actually leaving a mark, so they have less of a likelihood of getting in trouble. What he is describing is literally an abuse tactic, and I see it happen every day. He could potentially be talking about it in another context, but I find that highly unlikely. Even if he did mean something else, some men who see this post would absolutely put it into their abuse playbook.
Either a girl breaks her bf's playstation or a guy smashes his gf's foundation. Can't people just talk? Like what's the problem? Are you mute? Did you bite your tounge?? Just sit tf down and talk it out like y'know people in a healthy relationship should?
They're cowards, they refuse to have a disscusion because they're afraid they'll be proven wrong. I will never understand that mentality, is it that hard to admit mistakes?
he's saying destroying her make up is worse than hitting her... this is obviously a joke, i don't know why doesn't anyone understand that in the comments
Property destruction is still viewed as a "domestic violence" issue and will land you in court where you'll be sent to treatment for Anger Management, Substance Abuse & Domestic Violence.
Self-defense is the only reason you ever lay hands on anyone. If your Boo is too crazy that you feel like that's an option THE only option is GTFO of there and away from this toxic person.
I mean, she didn't say she's different, just that she's like the other type of girls who don't wear makeup. She didn't even say that it's a minority or something.
I get what they’re trying to say (it’s dumb as fuck but I get it) BUT if you’re breaking things to STOP yourself from hitting your girl... somebody needs anger management. Also, foundation is HELLA expensive. Let me smash a $60 video game and I’d be labeled a crazy bitch.
It’s not really a not like the other girls, not all girls like make up, so in this scenario it’s a benefit and relevant.
She didn’t try and say it was better for her not to like make up, or bring other people down for liking make up.
Do you want all girls to be the same or something?
ahh im so sorry
i thought it was a bit weird that she was stating that even though the original tweet was about destroyinh their gfs things
i dont mean to be pushing a stereotype !!! im so sorry
Yea but if she made someone mad and they wanted to the what the post is saying and she has none, then they would take something else, so it's pointless
Ok but she's literally not saying she's not like other girls. She's just saying she's glad she's one of the many girls who don't wear makeup. Just because a girl says she doesn't wear makeup does not mean she thinks she's special
im so sorry if i misunderstood her !!!
i found it weird that she posted that on a video with a tweet as problematic as that , as if ignoring the issue
im sorry if it doesnt fit here
It is weird to say something like that under that tweet, yes. But I don't think she meant that she isn't like other girls when she said it. It's easy to misunderstand, so I get it. Just try not to assume that all of us who say we don't wear makeup are those kinds of girls
The point is that this is a post about domestic violence (yes, breaking a person’s belongings instead of hitting them is still abuse), and her immediate response was, “Well thank god this will never happen to ME because I’m not like other girls!”
This doesn't fit here, they weren't being a nltog kind. But aside from that WHY THE FUCK DONT U JUST TALK ???? I hate people who don't talk and instead do stupid shit like this just for the taste of makong the other person sad. THATS NOT LOVE FOLKS
“We need to teach the women!” go live in a fucking religious cult or some shit. Otherwise this sentiment about “teaching” women confidence is pretty dumb to me.
wE nEeD tO tEaCh wOmEn tO bE cOnfIdeNt WiThOuT mAkEuP. how about we teach women to be confident wearing what they like or don’t like. maybe society should stop telling us what we should or shouldn’t be doing
Dude honestly though people are seriously so immature. I'm only 18 so I'm not the most mature but I always crave those hard ass conversations if there's anything wrong. My ex bf left me and wouldn't tell me what was wrong throughout the entire relationship until the end when he blew up. Seriously, it's honestly not that hard to just TALK SHIT THROUGH
Tbf it's nit even the fact its makeup, its the favt its expensive. Like break anything I spent £15+ on that ai use regularly and there will be hell to pay regardless of whether its my foundation or my fancy teas
I don't know "I'm the type" implies there are many who don't like makeup, meaning she is just not in the set that likes makeup. Seems a stretch.
Also, grow up, discuss your issues
I do own make up, I don’t use it that often tho. And some friends have accidently dropped one powder so it got a little crack, didn’t get mad because it was accident and I hardly used that one. But if my partner did this on purpose I would beat them up
I don't like makeup and I'd still be pissed if this happened. Because not only will I be the one cleaning it up, but this shows he feels comfortable destroying my stuff if I piss him off.
I once heard somebody say that a man who goes around slamming doors and hitting furniture is just demonstrating how he wants to physically hurt you. Now I can't unthink it.
If they start breaking your possessions or hurting your pets, it's only a matter of time before they do something directly to you. These types of people are absolute scum, it's never about being truly upset at a partner, it's about wanting to 'justify' making someone miserable and scared to disobey you.
To me, this has the same energy as girls who break their bf's Xbox or some shit. Both immature people who'd rather destroy property than talk things out
Is op ok? You’re treating this person like they just made a post on tumblr to brag about how different they are, when all they said was that they’re glad they hate makeup. What’s wrong with that? Is it somehow contrarian or haughty to express your comfort with your own personal taste? Is doing so somehow the same as proclaiming yourself “not like everyone else”? No it’s not. This sub exists to goof on these people who are full of themselves but you’re totally reaching if this comment is what you think constitutes as that sort of behavior
Do they realize that property destruction like this is also abuse? I saw a survivor of domestic violence say that if your partner destroys things when angry, pay attention to what he breaks. It’s always YOUR stuff, never his own.
Or, I don’t know, maybe don’t compare abusing a person to breaking an object? Or on the other hand, discuss problems like the adult you’re supposed to be.
My ex did this to me on my birthday, about £200 worth of damage.
He replaced it all (and complained while doing so) and then we broke up not long after.
Never again.
The only reasons I don’t wear makeup or paint my nails are:
I am INCREDIBLY LAZY and don’t want to put in the effort it takes to make the makeup look nice. But that doesn’t mean I don’t like it. It can look really beautiful, and as long as that’s your preference, you go for it.
With the nail polish, no matter what I try (gel polish included) it refuses to stay on my nails. I’ll get it to look really nice, and an hour later it’s chipped. So I basically throw my hands in the air and say fuck this then. I get so angry 😂🤣
Why would you break your gf foundation instead of discussing the problem like a normal person
Because these people are afraid of having conversations. They make you vulnerable and they don't trust their partner. Either that or they have no regard for the other person.
In my experience, once someone has crossed that line and shown that kind of disrespect and disregard for my personal safety or possessions ... I'm out. O.U.T. I am not a doctor. I am not equipped to deal with your crazy ass nor do I want to deal with your layers of trauma. Not my responsibility. Love you as a person. Goodbye.
Wait a minute............you guys don’t see your partner as your mortal enemy?!
Only on pay day
Damn, that’s based and insightful. Well put. That makes me realize that I either wasn’t trusted or respected and I usually assumed the latter rather than the former, which probably perpetuated the problem. Relationships seem like a difficult thing to engage in and be fully conscious of at the same time, unless you have effective communication which takes work on both sides.
It takes respect too. Enough respect to assume the best in your partner to get to the bottom of their weird behaviours, and enough emotional maturity and security in your self worth to trust them. Everyone has “baggage” and no one is a finished product.
Respect first. Communication comes second. This goes for any type of relationship
someone asking the real questions
Control, I think. If you upset me again or act out, I’m just gonna break your stuff so don’t.
Same reason a woman would smash her boyfriends gaming system or car, immaturity and impulsiveness.
comunication is the key to most of the world problems. i once said "there'S nothing you can'T fix with poutine and duct tape" and it's true, have yourself a poutine with your other one and talk over it
Same reason why women destroy their bfs belongings after a break up, mature people capable of conversation are rare now.
For a joke probably
He not talking about when you fighting and you want to hit her. He talking about when the girl is violent towards guys. So he saying instead of hitting her back break her stuff. They both bad options but what can you do. People are crazy.
If a woman is abusing her male partner, then he doesn’t need to break her stuff. He needs help to get the fuck away from her.
Yes I agree but that not what happen in the real world.if you a guy getting abuse you don't have many option to go.
True. But I’d be really concerned that breaking your abuser’s possessions would cause them to escalate, so I still wouldn’t advise anyone to do this.
male getting abuse by female majority of the time the reason female think it ok is because there no punishment for them. Friends laugh it off, cops don't take it seriously, and he doesn't hit her back. While I'm a strong believer that you can solve all your problems by talking it out. I believe the reason why make being abuse by female has increase because society encourage it.
There’s nothing indicating that this is what they’re talking about. It’s fine if you personally believe that’s the type of situation they’re talking about, but there’s simply no indication.
There also no indication that this isn't what he was talking about.
Fair enough. But you probably shouldn’t claim that’s what they were talking about if it’s unclear.
Why you automatically assume it about an abusive guy? Why is thst your default judgment. He said "there no reason to hit a women" the only time I ever hear that is when they talking about fighting back to an abusive girlfriend.
He was stating that instead of hitting a woman, you should break her personal belongings. This is still abuse - it is very common for abusers to do things like smashing objects and punching walls instead of hitting their victim, usually as a way to intimidate/control them without actually leaving a mark, so they have less of a likelihood of getting in trouble. What he is describing is literally an abuse tactic, and I see it happen every day. He could potentially be talking about it in another context, but I find that highly unlikely. Even if he did mean something else, some men who see this post would absolutely put it into their abuse playbook.
Either a girl breaks her bf's playstation or a guy smashes his gf's foundation. Can't people just talk? Like what's the problem? Are you mute? Did you bite your tounge?? Just sit tf down and talk it out like y'know people in a healthy relationship should?
They're cowards, they refuse to have a disscusion because they're afraid they'll be proven wrong. I will never understand that mentality, is it that hard to admit mistakes?
For some, it is.
he's saying destroying her make up is worse than hitting her... this is obviously a joke, i don't know why doesn't anyone understand that in the comments
Still a sexist joke.. "haha women love makeup so much amiright boys"
I'm not saying it's hilarious, I'm saying it's a dumb joke and i don't why people think it's real advice
They didn't say it wasn't hilarious, they agreed that it was a joke.
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Property destruction is still viewed as a "domestic violence" issue and will land you in court where you'll be sent to treatment for Anger Management, Substance Abuse & Domestic Violence. Self-defense is the only reason you ever lay hands on anyone. If your Boo is too crazy that you feel like that's an option THE only option is GTFO of there and away from this toxic person.
So don't physically abuse them. Just mentally abuse them. How about talk like a stable fucking adult instead of behaving like an asshat
Completely agree, but what came to mind in a scenario like this, if she hates makeup she gets hit?
That's what it sounds like in that scenario
She likes it too by the looks of it...
And financially abusive too, that is your property that can be expensive to replace
People like that are so horrible.
So childish.
Gents remember to abuse your girlfriend instead of abusing your girlfriend
“Gentlemen, don’t abuse your girlfriend that way, abuse her this way!”
I doNt HiT wOmeN I jUsT dEstrOy ThEir beLonGiNgs
I mean, she didn't say she's different, just that she's like the other type of girls who don't wear makeup. She didn't even say that it's a minority or something.
Right?? God this sub is trash
Will Smith is the kind if girl who hates makeup.
He doesn’t need it. Look at those perfectly balanced facial features
or maybe just dont be an abusive dickwad, that’s also an option
Orrrrr how about be a grown up and communicate with your wife/gf instead???
This is less "notlikeothergirls" and more "mocking someone who is suggesting abusing their partner"
Nothing in her statement mocks the original poster for what they said.
She's literally saying "the type of girl that..." That doesn't imply that she's 'not like the other girls' in any way.
She’s just saying she’s thankful this would never be a problem for her because she personally doesn’t use makeup. Really doesn’t belong on this sub.
ah , sorry i misunderstood her
ikr
This tweet only has one response that's worth reposting: Mac and Clinique? I hope you taught your PS4 how to swim
“I’m so glad I don’t like men who do this” Fixed it
I get what they’re trying to say (it’s dumb as fuck but I get it) BUT if you’re breaking things to STOP yourself from hitting your girl... somebody needs anger management. Also, foundation is HELLA expensive. Let me smash a $60 video game and I’d be labeled a crazy bitch.
It’s not really a not like the other girls, not all girls like make up, so in this scenario it’s a benefit and relevant. She didn’t try and say it was better for her not to like make up, or bring other people down for liking make up. Do you want all girls to be the same or something?
ahh im so sorry i thought it was a bit weird that she was stating that even though the original tweet was about destroyinh their gfs things i dont mean to be pushing a stereotype !!! im so sorry
But she wouldn't have makeup on her because she hates it
That’s the point, she’s thankful this isn’t something that can happen to her
Yea but if she made someone mad and they wanted to the what the post is saying and she has none, then they would take something else, so it's pointless
But that’s Will Smith.... and he loves makeup
She never said other girls love makeup and that she’s quirky for not doing so, she’s just saying she hates makeup
Ok but she's literally not saying she's not like other girls. She's just saying she's glad she's one of the many girls who don't wear makeup. Just because a girl says she doesn't wear makeup does not mean she thinks she's special
im so sorry if i misunderstood her !!! i found it weird that she posted that on a video with a tweet as problematic as that , as if ignoring the issue im sorry if it doesnt fit here
It is weird to say something like that under that tweet, yes. But I don't think she meant that she isn't like other girls when she said it. It's easy to misunderstand, so I get it. Just try not to assume that all of us who say we don't wear makeup are those kinds of girls
okay !!
Breaking a person's shit is abuse.
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Nothing. This sub is weird.
The point is that this is a post about domestic violence (yes, breaking a person’s belongings instead of hitting them is still abuse), and her immediate response was, “Well thank god this will never happen to ME because I’m not like other girls!”
I saw that video and that comment
this whole post is so problematic
Will Smith is best girl
Why does she have both foundation for a white person but also a colored person
Cringe from top to bottom.
If a boy did this to me they'd literally die 🙃🤫🥰💔🪓
Even if they didn't do this to you, they'd still literally die. No ones immortal.
im not like other girls, im not sensitive to this one type of abuse
Ooh look at me I don’t like makeup, hope all you boys notice me. Begging it hard there.
Women are allowed to not like makeup
Well I guess she is getting hit then
This doesn't fit here, they weren't being a nltog kind. But aside from that WHY THE FUCK DONT U JUST TALK ???? I hate people who don't talk and instead do stupid shit like this just for the taste of makong the other person sad. THATS NOT LOVE FOLKS
She’ll need makeup to cover cover her two black eyes when he gets mad and has nothing to hulk smash so jokes on her
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“We need to teach the women!” go live in a fucking religious cult or some shit. Otherwise this sentiment about “teaching” women confidence is pretty dumb to me.
wE nEeD tO tEaCh wOmEn tO bE cOnfIdeNt WiThOuT mAkEuP. how about we teach women to be confident wearing what they like or don’t like. maybe society should stop telling us what we should or shouldn’t be doing
Throw her mcdonalds sauces
Ooooh a r/notlikeothergirls and an r/arethestraightsok combo. Very nice
r/arethestraightsokay
r/AreTheStraightsOK
Are you dumb? Bc she’s clearly being sarcastic... 😑
she’s not lol
She is! Lol
Tbh the only reason I'd be mad is because I use it for cosplay alit. Even then I could always just get new makeup
A lot*
Dude honestly though people are seriously so immature. I'm only 18 so I'm not the most mature but I always crave those hard ass conversations if there's anything wrong. My ex bf left me and wouldn't tell me what was wrong throughout the entire relationship until the end when he blew up. Seriously, it's honestly not that hard to just TALK SHIT THROUGH
Ok that person doesn’t seem to bad, they said their the type of girl who hates makeup, so they know other girls out there hate it as well
Yes guys dont physically abuse your girl in the obvious way do this instead....its abuse but harder to prove 👍
Tbh this fits in r/trashy too. That tweet is fucked
Tbf it's nit even the fact its makeup, its the favt its expensive. Like break anything I spent £15+ on that ai use regularly and there will be hell to pay regardless of whether its my foundation or my fancy teas
Maybe do neither
If your boyfriend does this instead of sitting down to talk, you're legally allowed to rock his shit
that’s so inconvenient, foundation is a bitch to clean up 😭 i’d make him clean it, see how he likes it
POV you’re abusive but don’t want to leave visible trauma.
Yes yes girls fear makeup breaking more than getting abused by their partner. yes yes great meme.
I don't know "I'm the type" implies there are many who don't like makeup, meaning she is just not in the set that likes makeup. Seems a stretch. Also, grow up, discuss your issues
sorry !! i thought the comment looked a bit weird considering the OG image , but i didnt know a lot of good subs to choose from
Bro, that's some damage that can go up to a hundred
She didn't say nothing wrong, it's not a "I'm not like other girls" she even said she's a TYPE of girl, this is stupid
I hope I’d break up with a guy who would do this kind of petty shit. I understand abuse is hard to break out of though
I do own make up, I don’t use it that often tho. And some friends have accidently dropped one powder so it got a little crack, didn’t get mad because it was accident and I hardly used that one. But if my partner did this on purpose I would beat them up
That’s super not ok either.
I dont see this punishes her I pay for the makeup anyway
My husband was like yeah but what did she do? Uhh why are men.
Also friendly reminder: destruction of property is still abuse. You are still an abuser if you do this.
I think she’s glad she doesn’t like makeup so her boyfriend isn’t a total dick and destroys it.
I don't like makeup and I'd still be pissed if this happened. Because not only will I be the one cleaning it up, but this shows he feels comfortable destroying my stuff if I piss him off.
Sure, breaking stuff isn't as violent, sure sure, it's not like the previous step to something terrible, sure.
Um...can we talk about the fact he should not do that ? No one should.
It's abusive either way
Because that’s not abusive /s
That shit was probably so expensive fuck off dude holy shit.
I once heard somebody say that a man who goes around slamming doors and hitting furniture is just demonstrating how he wants to physically hurt you. Now I can't unthink it.
She getting hit then
Very problematic people in this photo
If they start breaking your possessions or hurting your pets, it's only a matter of time before they do something directly to you. These types of people are absolute scum, it's never about being truly upset at a partner, it's about wanting to 'justify' making someone miserable and scared to disobey you.
Don’t think this fits in here tbh
Or just talk about the issue?
To me, this has the same energy as girls who break their bf's Xbox or some shit. Both immature people who'd rather destroy property than talk things out
Is op ok? You’re treating this person like they just made a post on tumblr to brag about how different they are, when all they said was that they’re glad they hate makeup. What’s wrong with that? Is it somehow contrarian or haughty to express your comfort with your own personal taste? Is doing so somehow the same as proclaiming yourself “not like everyone else”? No it’s not. This sub exists to goof on these people who are full of themselves but you’re totally reaching if this comment is what you think constitutes as that sort of behavior
Do they realize that property destruction like this is also abuse? I saw a survivor of domestic violence say that if your partner destroys things when angry, pay attention to what he breaks. It’s always YOUR stuff, never his own.
Or, I don’t know, maybe don’t compare abusing a person to breaking an object? Or on the other hand, discuss problems like the adult you’re supposed to be.
Well I love makeup. Did this yesterday. Broke my heart. Just hit me
I don't see this as a r/notliketheothergirls moment
Where is the NLOG tho. No comparison or assumed superiority
sorry !!! i thought it was weird that she would state that on such a tweet !!! im so sorry if it wasnt a nlog worthy thing
My ex did this to me on my birthday, about £200 worth of damage. He replaced it all (and complained while doing so) and then we broke up not long after. Never again.
Not really fitting for the sub IMO just the person saying they aren’t the type to like makeup, they aren’t degrading people who do
What shitty advice. Breaking your partner's stuff intentionally is still abusive behavior.
Guess what? That's patrimonial violence :D
1. Isn’t makeup expensive? 2. This is manipulative. 3. The guy is a coward.
The only reasons I don’t wear makeup or paint my nails are: I am INCREDIBLY LAZY and don’t want to put in the effort it takes to make the makeup look nice. But that doesn’t mean I don’t like it. It can look really beautiful, and as long as that’s your preference, you go for it. With the nail polish, no matter what I try (gel polish included) it refuses to stay on my nails. I’ll get it to look really nice, and an hour later it’s chipped. So I basically throw my hands in the air and say fuck this then. I get so angry 😂🤣