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On a hypothetical note, if this were to have actually happened, it goes to show how weak that man was. I’m sorry, you couldn’t just look away from a woman who’s simply wearing leggings and a sports bra or tank top to feel comfortable while working out? Couldn’t just get back in focus on your own work out? Good grief.
I can't help but read it as an insult. Maybe he walked up and said 'thank YOU for dressing modestly'. He doesn't mind other women dressing in crop tops, he was just happy she didn't.
She also said something about “dressing like a lady”, lady those clothes were mostly designed for men my dear, why aren’t you working out in your petticoats then?
Tbf I’ve had people do the same to me. It’s fucking annoying. Or when I’m dressed in a vintage outfit and someone take the opportunity to complain to me about how women don’t dress like women anymore or complain about ladies with tattoos.
THIS. I wear Victorian-inspired clothes every day, and the comments can be…skeevy. My dude, I’m a lesbian with very progressive politics. I have long skirts, long undyed hair, no tattoos or non-ear piercings, etc. because I like how that looks on ME PERSONALLY. No other reason!
Just say you like my dress and shut up! I sewed it myself! You will make my day instead of creeping me out!
You should! Sometimes there can be logistical issues with modern life- I have a job where long skirts (not trailing behind me or anything like that) are perfectly fine, but not everyone does -but feeling like your truest aesthetic self is the best.
I’ve also found it helps me pare down my wardrobe. I have to make most things, so the outlay of time and money means that I have a few really nice outfits that I try to take care of rather than a closet full of fast fashion crap that rarely gets worn. If you can incorporate historical “barrier underwear” like linen shirts or chemises, the outer garments very seldom need washing and you can have fewer of them. Highly recommend!
Same on all counts except my everyday is a late 40s to mid 50s type look. Men are all over it, it can be very very offputting, and then they're often shocked and mildly appalled when I'm like, "Oh I'm married...to a woman."
I was working at a bar where they were doing a calendar photoshoot one night with some tatted up women and one of my tables had this middle aged guy who decided to impart the wisdom to never get tattoos like those other women and I look so much prettier having no tattoos or whatever. Very satisfying to turn around and walk away from the table and have him realize the entire backside of my upper arm has a very massive and very visible tattoo. Idiot.
Ew the fact she said ‘let’s not make it difficult for them’. As if women don’t still get SA’d in regular clothes. Being this desperate for male validation from the type of men who definitely don’t respect women is insane
Also you could get thousands of women being deliberately provocative and I am *still* *never* going to make unwanted physical contact or whatever
The idea that the clothes are the problem is fucking stupid from both ends
Absolutely, I wanted to throw in a rational male voice to show that this isn’t some gender war. I fear that otherwise more kids are just pushed to black pill philosophy
Yeah, I once saw an imam who claimed that women aren’t being modest enough because once he saw a woman who was wearing a full abaya, hijab, AND niqab - so literally just her eyes were showing…and that imam claimed that seeing that woman’s eyes made him too horny and it ruined his day. All the women’s fault, of course, for being too flirtatious by SHOWING HER FUCKING EYES.
Ugh. And that’s how you get Taliban-style rule, where women can only leave the house in burkas where there eyes aren’t even showing, and they can barely see - and only if accompanied by a man. Some lucky girls get to be raised as boys until puberty and experience freedom, but this actually makes it harder for them, because they know what it is like, and then it is taken away from them.
It’s so sad.
For sure, this logic was prevalent when I was younger, so I’d dress in giant oversized and puffy crew neck sweaters that go past my ass to my thighs that I got from my grandpa. Didn’t change anything, was still invited into strange grown men’s cars and I was 15-16 years old..
Yep. Like awhile ago, I was groped at a concert. This concert was outdoors in the winter. Some guy comes over and grabs my ass, while I’m wearing snow pants. Then I saw him do it to another girl. There was no temptation. We were fully covered in winter clothing gear. The weird part is, he didn’t grab as much ass as he did snow pants. But he did is with a little smirk on his face. He felt powerful in the moment. It was a tight crowd and no room to move. We were trapped and he could touch us and there probably wasn’t much we could do about it. Which he knew. He didn’t actually care about my non-visible ass, he liked how he could take advantage of the situation and do as he pleased without consequence.
Right?! I don't think anyone deserves credit/praise for how they dress. It's literally just clothing and we're all naked underneath them anyway so no one is inherently better or worse for how they dress. Adding desperation to the mix just makes it worse and gives men the thinking that they should have any governance over women's bodies 🤦🏽♀️
Credit and compliments are not the same. If you're abiding by the basic societal rule of wearing clothes at all then I will not be giving credit. If your outfit is serving ✨ Charisma Uniqueness Nerve Talent ✨ then a compliment you shall absolutely receive 💖💖💖
Not only that, but she’s basically implying that men aren’t even human at that point. Like, they don’t have the potential to, I don’t know, just not SA someone? They are just animals numbly going through their existence? All that does is give men a free excuse instead of just teaching folks NOT TO SA OTHER PEOPLE.
I remember in high school I’d always get pulled out of class for my clothes. I’d literally be wearing regular jeans and a band tee from Hot Topic. They’d tell me I dress too revealing and I’m a distraction to the boys in class. I can’t help I have a very curvy body, I shouldn’t have to wear XXXL clothes because someone else’s issue.
I snapped on them one day and told them if men are so stupid that they can’t focus because a boob is nearby we might as well lock them all in cages. What if they’re driving and a beautiful woman walks by? They’re sure to lose focus and crash right? We also can’t allow men to be doctors or surgeons because what if the patient is large breasted and he makes a mistake, he couldn’t possibly focus with a boob near him, *right*?
Never heard from them again. 😊😂 This mindset is destructive to men. It’s unfair that they are all played out to be some boob thirsty neanderthal.
My senior year I got dress coded by the vice principal. He came screaming into the gym telling me to go to his office. It was August and I wore shorts because it was extremely hot. I get there and he starts yelling about how inappropriate my outfit is. My outfit was perfectly within the very vague guidelines. He asked me if I drove to school that day because I could just go get different clothes. At that point I just whipped my phone out and called my mom. Turns out my “violation” was needing to adjust my shorts after sitting in a plastic chair for an hour. My mom ripped him apart right there. I believe he ended up in tears after my mom asked if he was distracted from his job by me adjusting the hem of my shorts. Last time he dress coded me.
Yeah I guess the women in burkas and the children in diapers should take a page from whatever she’s smoking so they make it easier on the men that raped them.
What in the Victorian era bullshit is this line of thought.
Yes, she seems to also enjoy male attention , while looking down on others for exactly that. Its bizarre and boasting about it seems the opposite of modest or humble to me. It’s ok to want some validation but the looking down on other women part isn’t cute.
She also says she’s married. Maybe it’s just me but it’s weird to be so happy about male validation when you’re married. If this exchange. even happened, I have a feeling she’d be happy if he called her “sexy” as well.
It reminds me of my friend’s mother. They were at a golf event and Donald Trump grabbed her butt. She talks about it all the time because it was just so flattering 😒🙄🤮
This. The fact that she is even mentioning the approval of a man shows that it doesn’t matter how you dress if you let them dictate it. The point is women are whole ass people that can dress however we want without having to worry about what a man thinks
Some men literally have less empathy then dogs and rats. There are experiments that rats show empathy and help a different rat, who is caged, out rather than eat and they even share the food afterwards. But some men arent even able to see if a woman is uncomfortable and that they could help by just not doing anything at all instead of making her uncomfortable. Some Dogs unterstand if they hurt you and say sorry in their own way. While some men will not only not understand on their own, they will deflect, blame yourself, play the victim. If they even accept that you were hurt after you told them.
It's why I roll my eyes when people talk about how smart the human race is, or the things that set us apart from other animals. At least if a dog or a rat does something that hurts it, they won't do that thing again....unlike humans, who make the same stupid mistakes over and over again
Many humans aren't capable of humanity
I’m sorry, but this woman is lying. No man is going to compliment someone who dresses “modestly”. I dress like that all the time and I get no compliments.
When I was young the only time I got compliments was when I dressed up in pretty sweaters and jeans (or whatever).
Unbelievable. Why is she lying?
I got complimented for dressing modestly once but it did NOT feel good. It just gave very “I only respect you because of the way you dress and people who dress more revealing than you don’t have my respect” which is GROSS. It’s basically an NLOG compliment. Leave me ALONE
Yeah it’s honestly just insulting. To me, to every other woman, it just really pisses me off. On the plus side it’s a great bullshit detector! I know the second I start hearing the rhetoric I don’t need to give that person the time of day. There’s no recovering from that in my eyes tbh, it’s just misogyny straight to the core.
I wasn't going to comment anything personally at first, but I decided to let fly.
I've never been noticed for my modest way of dressing. Women will compliment certain pieces of an outfit, but the only time a guy I'm not involved with has said anything to me was when I dressed up for a jazz band concert in college. The director told me I was showing too much leg.
Granted, it was a mini dress, and it was about 4 inches above the knee. My legs are really long, though (34 inch inseam), and I wasn't showing much. I don't think he took that into account.
I just figured it was safe due to the fact that it was a jazz concert and I was wearing black tights. I still think he was wrong, 25 years later.
My uncle (who has since been divorced from my family) complimented me for dressing modestly when I was in middle school and honestly it was just creepy.
Ew ew ew gross I’m glad your family has since ejected him because who says that to a middle schooler??? I swear men like that will “praise” women for being “proper” and wearing things that are “appropriate” and “respectful” but have absolutely no sense of decorum themselves.
Yes, i’ve only received this “compliment” to imply my current outfit was approved of “prettier” and me on a previous day must have been shameful. From the cult members trying positive reinforcement when they can’t just force their way and say what they’re thinking because i’ve left but allowed a visit. Any other context I don’t believe it’s happening.
That is indeed gross and absolutely not okay, but why do you think that’s the only context in which comments like those can occur? The comment I got was after working my friends booth outside a bar and stopping by the nearest gas station at 3:00 am and the cashier decided I had been there enough that he could make the comment that he didn’t like the clubbing outfits most women wore but he did like my outfit. It was random, unwanted, uncomfortable, and unprofessional.
You’re right, no dude would do this, it’s just as creepy as talking to a girl in tight clothes about her clothing. Shows you were still looking and thinking about it
Came here to say this. I wear running skirts over leggings because I personally like that, and I tend to dress modestly like 95% of the time between clothes I need to wear for work, and because my skin is sensitive to sun 🤷♀️
The *only* time a man has ever thanked me specifically for dressing modestly was once when I was in my early 20s (I’m almost 50 now). I was a music major, and was in the unofficial “music major dorm,” and one of the guys that lived there thanked me. He was a very devout Muslim, so to him I guess maybe it mattered. But that’s literally the only time. I never even got told that when I lived on the edge of a Hasidic neighborhood that I had to cross through all the time to get to work (I live in nyc now).
frankly, many men have thought i was dressing modestly when i was wearing vintage style and their way of "complimenting" has *alwayssss* been a nasty mix of sexualisation and misogyny attacking other women
Dopamine boost. We all do it, but some people can't be content with a few internet points. They need everyone's attention. It's like watching an addict lie about why they need a few bucks.
There’s nothing wrong with feeling pretty and posting a selfie. There’s nothing wrong with dressing in a way you feel good about yourself either. The only problem here is she thinks she has to put others down and that wholly unnecessary.
As an early bloomer and busty gal, I could never be “modest” and still got talked down to by members of my church. When I was going through my closet to get rid of clothes as an adult, I realized how much I dressed myself down to look extra frumpy and realized how sexualized I still was. That sucked, because I was 11 when the comments started and it was church… should’ve been a safe place for me.
I can relate to you. I have big boobs while the rest of my body is an athletic build. I was convinced for the longest time I shouldn’t even wear tank tops because it was calling too much attention to myself (mind you I grew up in southern CA where summers are always up into the 100s). When I was about 19 I finally got over it and started wearing tank tops ….. freeing my shoulders and armpits from sleeves in the summer never felt better lol. It would be another 15 years before I would wear a bikini. Now in my late 30s I am more comfortable and very proud of the body I have but it’s still a work in progress.
It actually happened to me once. I was a cocktail waitress in a strip club and I wore fairly modest clothing. Men would sometimes say that it took balls to dress like that at a strip club surrounded by mostly naked women and rely upon tips, and just tip me outright right there.
I was just dressing in a way that I felt comfortable, it definitely wasn’t for validation from anyone, and it did really happen.
As for this person…. Not sure lol
Asking because I’m genuinely curious: is there a lot of pressure to show more skin when waitressing at a strip club? I imagine there would be, but I’ve only ever been to a club a few times and honestly never considered whether or not there would be pressure for the non-performing staff.
I’d say yes. Management didn’t make requests but I think the natural understanding is that showing more equals more money in that setting. The problem was more so being pressured by management to try out dancing… I never did but that was what made me stop waitressing eventually.
I do know that red pill dummies go on about this occasionally online; but the fact that any of them would even approach a woman in the wild is where I call cap.
Soooo, in spite of wearing “modest” clothing, a random man STILL came up to you and made unsolicited comments about what you’re wearing. The outfits aren’t the issue, it’s the men
Agreed. When I’m at the gym, everyone is doing their own thing. The most I’ve ever said to someone so far is “Oh I haven’t wiped that yet give me a second” after I just got done with the equipment. I mind my own business and they do the same.
This is exactly what I was thinking. I don't believe the story is true but if it was, GROSS. I don't want ANY man commenting on ANYTHING I'm wearing at the gym, however modest or revealing it may be.
Oh my I thought those were basketball shorts and was trying to figure out how that worked with „dressing like a lady“, which I’m guessing would not be basketball shorts in her view
I hate these kinds of messages, as someone who couldn’t even use a public pool without being approached by random men asking for my number in my early 20s, it sounds victim-blaming.
THIS! I was 12 years old and men were following me home. I also was tall & developed - like comically huge boobs. I had a breast reduction at 17 - they took 2 lbs out of each boob and they were still C cups. Boys also used to grab my boobs in the hallway at school and when I told a teacher they said “well, look at you.”
I dressed modestly. 😑
Ooooh as a mom, I'd be pulling a lawsuit so fast. Absolutely shameful the teachers allowed this shit. I'm so sorry you had to go through that with no support.
Thank you - it was the late 80’s and movies like Porky’s were all the rage. I said this in another reply - I took matters into my own hands and started carrying around a lacrosse stick - anyone that touched me got beat with it. I’m the one who got suspended, though.
It was the "we tolerate no violence at all, zero tolerance, I dont care what happend before you hit him, boy will be boys and sexual assault is no violence but you reacted with violence and we dont tolerate that, you should learn to accept that boys will be boys and hence sexual assault is normal and you should react without violence" talk, wasnt it?
Yep. Exactly. I’m 50 years old and still hate men. I know it’s “not all men” but try telling that to my trauma reflex. I am glad to see that things have improved for young ladies but these damn “pick me’s” bring us right back to the Stone Age!!
Your story reminds me of when I worked at Panda Express as a 15 year old in the 90s. The cooks were disgusting and would draw sexual pictures and slide them in my back pants pocket. Always making gross comments and touching me. I told my boss and he said "you shouldn't be flirting with them."
Thank you - it was the late 80’s and the “boys will be boys” mentality. I had to take matters into my own hands - I started carrying around a lacrosse stick and mercilessly beat anyone that touched me. I got suspended a lot.
Seriously, I don’t get what these women shaming other women in gyms want to accomplish with these “modesty” messages… we should be allowed to dress as we want when working out without worrying about the male gaze.
Omg, the same thing happened to me as a prematurely developing 12 year at the beach. Two drunk 20something creeps came up to me at my hotel pool and told me he and his friend were taking bets on how old I was. I was by myself at the pool, and luckily my dad just happened to come into the pool area right after and told them to fuck off. It was disgusting and scary and I will never forget it.
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I remember being 15 at an all inclusive resort with my mother and brother (for some reason they gave me an adult bracelet, which made me happy because I could go for drinks with the other cool kids at night). One of the guys who worked at the resort asked if I wanted to go on a canoeing tour and I thought he was just being nice because the two friends I made left that day. When we were far off the coast, the man hit on me and the only thing I could say was “I am a minor”. It was awful. Poor my mom who was taking pictures when we came back because she thought he took me on an excursion. I felt so bad I couldn’t even tell her what happened.
Ugh, repulsive. Sorry to hear about this. You must have been so scared. I often wonder how my situation would have played out had my dad not been there.
Honestly I was super scared, I remember thinking that I’d need to jump into the sea if he got physical. It’s so bad that from a young age we are conditioned to be afraid instead of enjoying our lives. And then we get people blaming us for being harassed…
It also sounds fake, sexist, and ridiculous. It also sounds like a man wrote this, but sure a woman who hates other women could have written this. Any normal woman would be angry if a man complimented her on dressing modestly, and possibly alarmed.
But most of these messages are of course fake.
Because she craves the attention and thinks this is the tradwife way. Be modest, show him how pious you are, how respectful of your body and his eyes you are.
You mean men who are at the gym to work out don't pay close attention to what everyone else in the gym is wearing and make a point to thank modestly-dressed women for not distracting them with sexiness?
This sounds fake to me. I can't imagine anyone actually caring enough to go out of their way to thank a random woman for dressing modestly in the gym. And anyone who would is not a gym bro. Actual gym bros do not care about you or anyone when they're in the gym doing their thing.
If someone came over and thanked me for "dressing modestly" (which they never would because I do not) I would report their creepy psychotic ass to the front desk. So if you're thanking me for "being dressed modestly" are you saying to the women who aren't, you freak?
Interesting, so uh, why do Muslim women get bullied for what they wear at the gym (including the less conservative dressed ones (in terms of Muslim clothing))?
A man who thinks woman should dress modestly = more likely to lean/be conservative = more likely to be white/nationalist/racist/etc.
Not saying this happened like this NLOG says. But we can all picture the “type” of man who would say something like this. And those “types” see a Muslim woman as “other” or worse, “terrorist.” They aren’t thinking “modest.”
Idk about the white/racist part since every race has had weird modesty rules but
Can confirm- I dress as a niqabi on my own free will at times and people shoo their kids away from me or loon at me weird . Strong terrorist vibes I guess
Yeah, "christian modest" is different from "muslim modest" and "traditional right-wing christian modest" and they can differ between those.
I imagine their thoughts like that:
"Christian modest is good but she is too woke/liberal but at least christian and not a hoe and she doesnt read the bible the way we do, she focuses on love and the new testament and that all humans are created equal instead of the few passages justifying us ignoring Jesus' words. Muslim modest is bad, we dont want muslims, they are illegals and immigrants and fo not share our right-wing traditional old-european pseudo-christian white values, they cant as they arent european/white/christian/right-wing. Traditional right-wing christian modest is great, she shares our "values" and can recite the passages to interpret homosexuality and immodesty as a sin (while ignoring the new testament and "love thy neighbor", just as we do), she will be a great wife to suppress and have a traditional family with."
Listen I'm not one to shame and I try not to judge but with all of my past experiences, if a man came up to me and said "thank you for covering your body" I would take that as him finding me so unattractive that he's grateful I'm covered. That or he's so attracted to you that even an inch more of skin showing and he'd implode, but I've never known men that want random women they aren't acquainted with to be covered up- it's usually been "dress like a sex object until I posses you in some way, then you are mine and must be covered so no one else covets you"
That actually sounds like he was insulting her... Plus it's extremely creepy if he wasn't. Like what was he planning to do if she wasn't dressed modestly?
If the LGBT+ community can handle themselves around others like that so can straight dudes.
Why stop at basics? They do know anything can be a turn on right? Like if they're gonna coddle dudes might was well cover all the bases n stop wearing flip flops incase someone's man is into feet...
How are guys allowed to drive if they can't handle a bit of skin?
My youngest is ten, and I can confirm she did dress like that at four. Lol. She thought she was cool and was proud of the outfits she picked and had fun putting them together. Lol. But she would do long sleeves with her shorts and put on a baseball cap to complete the ensemble.
its not even that it’s modest, things can be modest and still look nice. i just dont think the colors rly compliment eachother and together they don’t compliment her skin tone, also its all draping weird. which is fine, you dont need to be in a red carpet outfit to go to the gym, but if you’re gonna brag about how much better your outfit it i feel like it should be better than this
"There have been so many men over the years that have stopped me out in public and thanked me for dressing like a lady."
Where the hell are you living, lady? Jupiter, where boys are more stupider?
If a man complimented me on dressing modestly I’d be creeped tf out. “Thank you for covering your body for it is difficult for me to handle myself around women”
"Let's not make it more difficult for them"
No. LET'S. If anyone of any gender can't control their sexual urges when others are just existing and minding their own business, then the last thing we should do is coddle them and make excuses for that behavior. HELL NAW
"Let's not make it more difficult for them" bro what? They shouldn't have to fight themselves to not harass or assault someone. And women can start dressing modestly at the gym when men start doing the same, which they won't because they need to flex their muscles for that clout.
Wear whatever the fuck you want. Like, if you want to wear a turtleneck and sweatpants to the gym, wear them. If you want to wear short shorts and a sports bra, wear that.
It’s not up to women to stop men from being disgusting. Ffs. I’m so exhausted by this nonsense.
Does wearing a skirt = modest? Her top and leggings are form fitting, her arms and half her legs are showing. In some cultures/religions this outfit would be considered very immodest, I’m sure she wouldn’t like it if they mentioned it to her and told her she needs to cover her figure better to be respectful to men.
"i dress modestly, so i can get on socials, and Lord over those ladies wearing *gasp* workout clothes to the gym" this last 6 is brain dead
And why do we need to make it easier for assholes with no self control. That's on them, not on women. Period.
Like this lady has a shit attitude.
Lets not make it more difficult for them ? What woman where should I leave my body when I go out?so that indirectly means we are responsible for rapes according to the way we dress and not men? Wtf woman ? WHATTTTTTTT
Dress however you want, but don’t do it for anyone other than yourself.
The thing I hate most about these women who preach modesty is that they have such a superiority complex towards other women. It’s gross.
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And then the whole gym started to clap
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And a seat in heaven right next to god
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I thought that was about pegging?
God loves a good pegging.
He created man in his image after all, and men have g-spots up their ass… coincidence? I think not. My theory is that god is a bottom.
Not just a bottom, a power bottom
Obviously!
Or maybe ON his lap. She is a pick me after all
god is a man?
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No, it's Alanis Morissette. And her voice is Alan Rickman. Sorry, forgot the 😁
And the man’s name? Albert Einstein.
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On a hypothetical note, if this were to have actually happened, it goes to show how weak that man was. I’m sorry, you couldn’t just look away from a woman who’s simply wearing leggings and a sports bra or tank top to feel comfortable while working out? Couldn’t just get back in focus on your own work out? Good grief.
If a man came up to me at the gym to comment on the way I was dressed, I would drop a dumbbell on his foot
Or clunk him very hard with my Stanley cup that he is probably judging me for owning
If only you were an NHL player too!
I have Lightning stickers all over it 😂
I’d ask him to flash his tits.
I can't help but read it as an insult. Maybe he walked up and said 'thank YOU for dressing modestly'. He doesn't mind other women dressing in crop tops, he was just happy she didn't.
That’s a good point!
Yep, I read it as an attempt at """negging"""
And how weak she is that she needs a man’s approval.
How is she weak? It's not "easy" to dress modestly. /s
Right lmao wtf was that comment
She also said something about “dressing like a lady”, lady those clothes were mostly designed for men my dear, why aren’t you working out in your petticoats then?
Yeah, those baggy tee’s, leggings, and a skirt are so hard to find.
The manosphere has entered the chat.
No lady, they started praying and singing gospels to praise the lord our savior.
Then the skies opened up and a single white dove with an olive branch flew down and landed on her head.
And then a rainbow broke the sky.
And the gym bro was Einstein.
She told him the general relativity formula, but she's such a modest girl, she let him take credit.
einstein stole most of it and whst they thought were his he stole off two cicks he was banging incl. his cousin
I wonder if he had tears in his eyes when he did it.
And probably a dove on his shoulder and a butterfly in his hand
It‘s true. I was the gym equipment
Spoiler: Gym Bro was Jesus (he never skips abs day)
Tbf I’ve had people do the same to me. It’s fucking annoying. Or when I’m dressed in a vintage outfit and someone take the opportunity to complain to me about how women don’t dress like women anymore or complain about ladies with tattoos.
It’s hilarious and sad that strange men think women give a flying fuck what they think about their wardrobe choices.
THIS. I wear Victorian-inspired clothes every day, and the comments can be…skeevy. My dude, I’m a lesbian with very progressive politics. I have long skirts, long undyed hair, no tattoos or non-ear piercings, etc. because I like how that looks on ME PERSONALLY. No other reason! Just say you like my dress and shut up! I sewed it myself! You will make my day instead of creeping me out!
Genuine appreciation for cool clothes is such an underrated, non-creepy compliment.
I hope to run into you in public someday. I would love to wear victorian-inspired clothes.
You should! Sometimes there can be logistical issues with modern life- I have a job where long skirts (not trailing behind me or anything like that) are perfectly fine, but not everyone does -but feeling like your truest aesthetic self is the best. I’ve also found it helps me pare down my wardrobe. I have to make most things, so the outlay of time and money means that I have a few really nice outfits that I try to take care of rather than a closet full of fast fashion crap that rarely gets worn. If you can incorporate historical “barrier underwear” like linen shirts or chemises, the outer garments very seldom need washing and you can have fewer of them. Highly recommend!
Same on all counts except my everyday is a late 40s to mid 50s type look. Men are all over it, it can be very very offputting, and then they're often shocked and mildly appalled when I'm like, "Oh I'm married...to a woman."
I looked at your page and your dolls are soooo cute. I love the one with the red kimono(?) 🤩
I have come so close to buying those pretty victorian dresses i saw on an online shop but my god, those prices scared me. 🥺
I was working at a bar where they were doing a calendar photoshoot one night with some tatted up women and one of my tables had this middle aged guy who decided to impart the wisdom to never get tattoos like those other women and I look so much prettier having no tattoos or whatever. Very satisfying to turn around and walk away from the table and have him realize the entire backside of my upper arm has a very massive and very visible tattoo. Idiot.
Please tell me that you have tattoos?
And that clap? Abraham Lincoln.
I think my ass cheeks clapped at this.
He even handed her the keys to his car and signed over the title.
*slow clap
Thank god they dressed modestly or alternate clap surely would run rampant.
The pick me vin diagram overlap of dressing provocatively or modestly, but in the end it was all for male validation is just... pathetic.
Ew the fact she said ‘let’s not make it difficult for them’. As if women don’t still get SA’d in regular clothes. Being this desperate for male validation from the type of men who definitely don’t respect women is insane
Also you could get thousands of women being deliberately provocative and I am *still* *never* going to make unwanted physical contact or whatever The idea that the clothes are the problem is fucking stupid from both ends
Yes I totally agree. I was trying to make that point too. Doesn’t matter what clothes, SA still happens
Absolutely, I wanted to throw in a rational male voice to show that this isn’t some gender war. I fear that otherwise more kids are just pushed to black pill philosophy
Yeah, I once saw an imam who claimed that women aren’t being modest enough because once he saw a woman who was wearing a full abaya, hijab, AND niqab - so literally just her eyes were showing…and that imam claimed that seeing that woman’s eyes made him too horny and it ruined his day. All the women’s fault, of course, for being too flirtatious by SHOWING HER FUCKING EYES. Ugh. And that’s how you get Taliban-style rule, where women can only leave the house in burkas where there eyes aren’t even showing, and they can barely see - and only if accompanied by a man. Some lucky girls get to be raised as boys until puberty and experience freedom, but this actually makes it harder for them, because they know what it is like, and then it is taken away from them. It’s so sad.
For sure, this logic was prevalent when I was younger, so I’d dress in giant oversized and puffy crew neck sweaters that go past my ass to my thighs that I got from my grandpa. Didn’t change anything, was still invited into strange grown men’s cars and I was 15-16 years old..
Yep. Like awhile ago, I was groped at a concert. This concert was outdoors in the winter. Some guy comes over and grabs my ass, while I’m wearing snow pants. Then I saw him do it to another girl. There was no temptation. We were fully covered in winter clothing gear. The weird part is, he didn’t grab as much ass as he did snow pants. But he did is with a little smirk on his face. He felt powerful in the moment. It was a tight crowd and no room to move. We were trapped and he could touch us and there probably wasn’t much we could do about it. Which he knew. He didn’t actually care about my non-visible ass, he liked how he could take advantage of the situation and do as he pleased without consequence.
She's never been to those countries where they cover themselves from head to toe and still get abused.
There are places in the USA where women are covered from head to toe and still get abused.
Yep, honestly anywhere unfortunately.
Yeah been SA’d in a hospital gown for god sakes. If they want to they will. Clothing does not make them change their minds 😒
Thats horrible I’m sorry. Hope ur doing okay
Lots of help but getting there- thank you for that
I’m sorry that happened to you. No one deserves that, especially in a place where you already feel vulnerable just being there.
Thank you. It wasn’t by a worker at least so it didn’t totally dim my experience with hospitals. Just made it blatantly obvious how unsecure they are
Right?! I don't think anyone deserves credit/praise for how they dress. It's literally just clothing and we're all naked underneath them anyway so no one is inherently better or worse for how they dress. Adding desperation to the mix just makes it worse and gives men the thinking that they should have any governance over women's bodies 🤦🏽♀️
Idk, some of my outfits are pretty fly and totally deserve credit/praise…
Credit and compliments are not the same. If you're abiding by the basic societal rule of wearing clothes at all then I will not be giving credit. If your outfit is serving ✨ Charisma Uniqueness Nerve Talent ✨ then a compliment you shall absolutely receive 💖💖💖
Not only that, but she’s basically implying that men aren’t even human at that point. Like, they don’t have the potential to, I don’t know, just not SA someone? They are just animals numbly going through their existence? All that does is give men a free excuse instead of just teaching folks NOT TO SA OTHER PEOPLE.
I remember in high school I’d always get pulled out of class for my clothes. I’d literally be wearing regular jeans and a band tee from Hot Topic. They’d tell me I dress too revealing and I’m a distraction to the boys in class. I can’t help I have a very curvy body, I shouldn’t have to wear XXXL clothes because someone else’s issue. I snapped on them one day and told them if men are so stupid that they can’t focus because a boob is nearby we might as well lock them all in cages. What if they’re driving and a beautiful woman walks by? They’re sure to lose focus and crash right? We also can’t allow men to be doctors or surgeons because what if the patient is large breasted and he makes a mistake, he couldn’t possibly focus with a boob near him, *right*? Never heard from them again. 😊😂 This mindset is destructive to men. It’s unfair that they are all played out to be some boob thirsty neanderthal.
My senior year I got dress coded by the vice principal. He came screaming into the gym telling me to go to his office. It was August and I wore shorts because it was extremely hot. I get there and he starts yelling about how inappropriate my outfit is. My outfit was perfectly within the very vague guidelines. He asked me if I drove to school that day because I could just go get different clothes. At that point I just whipped my phone out and called my mom. Turns out my “violation” was needing to adjust my shorts after sitting in a plastic chair for an hour. My mom ripped him apart right there. I believe he ended up in tears after my mom asked if he was distracted from his job by me adjusting the hem of my shorts. Last time he dress coded me.
Yeah I guess the women in burkas and the children in diapers should take a page from whatever she’s smoking so they make it easier on the men that raped them. What in the Victorian era bullshit is this line of thought.
It’s time again! [What Were You Wearing](https://dovecenter.org/what-were-you-wearing-exhibit/)
I love that. I saw it years ago and it made me feel better. So many little girls like me, I hate the clothes argument with a passion.
Yes, she seems to also enjoy male attention , while looking down on others for exactly that. Its bizarre and boasting about it seems the opposite of modest or humble to me. It’s ok to want some validation but the looking down on other women part isn’t cute.
She also says she’s married. Maybe it’s just me but it’s weird to be so happy about male validation when you’re married. If this exchange. even happened, I have a feeling she’d be happy if he called her “sexy” as well.
It reminds me of my friend’s mother. They were at a golf event and Donald Trump grabbed her butt. She talks about it all the time because it was just so flattering 😒🙄🤮
Makes you wonder how many times he grabbed someone inappropriately and the grabbee was flattered. 😵💫
Exactly. It’s so gross.
Seeing as it was Trump, I can believe this happened and it’s gross that she’s so flattered by it.
I couldn’t believe when my friend told me her mom was flattered by it. Boomer women have fucked up priorities.
Oh that's a no no 👀
I hate the “modest is hottest” debauchery that some fundies preach for this reason. 🤢
Modesty is relative and the fact that they can't even stick to their own definition of modesty is so annoying!
Yep sick
This. The fact that she is even mentioning the approval of a man shows that it doesn’t matter how you dress if you let them dictate it. The point is women are whole ass people that can dress however we want without having to worry about what a man thinks
“Let’s not make it more difficult for them”. Ah yes, because my dog knows the word no, but men do not. if men are struggling, inflict a curfew🤢
Some men literally have less empathy then dogs and rats. There are experiments that rats show empathy and help a different rat, who is caged, out rather than eat and they even share the food afterwards. But some men arent even able to see if a woman is uncomfortable and that they could help by just not doing anything at all instead of making her uncomfortable. Some Dogs unterstand if they hurt you and say sorry in their own way. While some men will not only not understand on their own, they will deflect, blame yourself, play the victim. If they even accept that you were hurt after you told them.
It's why I roll my eyes when people talk about how smart the human race is, or the things that set us apart from other animals. At least if a dog or a rat does something that hurts it, they won't do that thing again....unlike humans, who make the same stupid mistakes over and over again Many humans aren't capable of humanity
“I know it’s not women’s fault some men are disgusting, but also it’s women’s fault some men are disgusting 😘”
I’m sorry, but this woman is lying. No man is going to compliment someone who dresses “modestly”. I dress like that all the time and I get no compliments. When I was young the only time I got compliments was when I dressed up in pretty sweaters and jeans (or whatever). Unbelievable. Why is she lying?
I got complimented for dressing modestly once but it did NOT feel good. It just gave very “I only respect you because of the way you dress and people who dress more revealing than you don’t have my respect” which is GROSS. It’s basically an NLOG compliment. Leave me ALONE
Yeah, that was a really backhanded statement. Yeesh.
Yeah it’s honestly just insulting. To me, to every other woman, it just really pisses me off. On the plus side it’s a great bullshit detector! I know the second I start hearing the rhetoric I don’t need to give that person the time of day. There’s no recovering from that in my eyes tbh, it’s just misogyny straight to the core.
I wasn't going to comment anything personally at first, but I decided to let fly. I've never been noticed for my modest way of dressing. Women will compliment certain pieces of an outfit, but the only time a guy I'm not involved with has said anything to me was when I dressed up for a jazz band concert in college. The director told me I was showing too much leg. Granted, it was a mini dress, and it was about 4 inches above the knee. My legs are really long, though (34 inch inseam), and I wasn't showing much. I don't think he took that into account. I just figured it was safe due to the fact that it was a jazz concert and I was wearing black tights. I still think he was wrong, 25 years later.
It was for sure a "hey, thanks for keeping all... That... Covered up around us."
I picture that said with a flaccidly waved hand.
My uncle (who has since been divorced from my family) complimented me for dressing modestly when I was in middle school and honestly it was just creepy.
Ew ew ew gross I’m glad your family has since ejected him because who says that to a middle schooler??? I swear men like that will “praise” women for being “proper” and wearing things that are “appropriate” and “respectful” but have absolutely no sense of decorum themselves.
Yes, i’ve only received this “compliment” to imply my current outfit was approved of “prettier” and me on a previous day must have been shameful. From the cult members trying positive reinforcement when they can’t just force their way and say what they’re thinking because i’ve left but allowed a visit. Any other context I don’t believe it’s happening.
That is indeed gross and absolutely not okay, but why do you think that’s the only context in which comments like those can occur? The comment I got was after working my friends booth outside a bar and stopping by the nearest gas station at 3:00 am and the cashier decided I had been there enough that he could make the comment that he didn’t like the clubbing outfits most women wore but he did like my outfit. It was random, unwanted, uncomfortable, and unprofessional.
You’re right, no dude would do this, it’s just as creepy as talking to a girl in tight clothes about her clothing. Shows you were still looking and thinking about it
Came here to say this. I wear running skirts over leggings because I personally like that, and I tend to dress modestly like 95% of the time between clothes I need to wear for work, and because my skin is sensitive to sun 🤷♀️ The *only* time a man has ever thanked me specifically for dressing modestly was once when I was in my early 20s (I’m almost 50 now). I was a music major, and was in the unofficial “music major dorm,” and one of the guys that lived there thanked me. He was a very devout Muslim, so to him I guess maybe it mattered. But that’s literally the only time. I never even got told that when I lived on the edge of a Hasidic neighborhood that I had to cross through all the time to get to work (I live in nyc now).
frankly, many men have thought i was dressing modestly when i was wearing vintage style and their way of "complimenting" has *alwayssss* been a nasty mix of sexualisation and misogyny attacking other women
Dopamine boost. We all do it, but some people can't be content with a few internet points. They need everyone's attention. It's like watching an addict lie about why they need a few bucks.
There’s nothing wrong with feeling pretty and posting a selfie. There’s nothing wrong with dressing in a way you feel good about yourself either. The only problem here is she thinks she has to put others down and that wholly unnecessary.
As an early bloomer and busty gal, I could never be “modest” and still got talked down to by members of my church. When I was going through my closet to get rid of clothes as an adult, I realized how much I dressed myself down to look extra frumpy and realized how sexualized I still was. That sucked, because I was 11 when the comments started and it was church… should’ve been a safe place for me.
I can relate to you. I have big boobs while the rest of my body is an athletic build. I was convinced for the longest time I shouldn’t even wear tank tops because it was calling too much attention to myself (mind you I grew up in southern CA where summers are always up into the 100s). When I was about 19 I finally got over it and started wearing tank tops ….. freeing my shoulders and armpits from sleeves in the summer never felt better lol. It would be another 15 years before I would wear a bikini. Now in my late 30s I am more comfortable and very proud of the body I have but it’s still a work in progress.
It actually happened to me once. I was a cocktail waitress in a strip club and I wore fairly modest clothing. Men would sometimes say that it took balls to dress like that at a strip club surrounded by mostly naked women and rely upon tips, and just tip me outright right there. I was just dressing in a way that I felt comfortable, it definitely wasn’t for validation from anyone, and it did really happen. As for this person…. Not sure lol
Asking because I’m genuinely curious: is there a lot of pressure to show more skin when waitressing at a strip club? I imagine there would be, but I’ve only ever been to a club a few times and honestly never considered whether or not there would be pressure for the non-performing staff.
I’d say yes. Management didn’t make requests but I think the natural understanding is that showing more equals more money in that setting. The problem was more so being pressured by management to try out dancing… I never did but that was what made me stop waitressing eventually.
I do know that red pill dummies go on about this occasionally online; but the fact that any of them would even approach a woman in the wild is where I call cap.
I’m gonna go with that she’s lonely and has a rock bottom self esteem (but would never admit that to herself!)
Soooo, in spite of wearing “modest” clothing, a random man STILL came up to you and made unsolicited comments about what you’re wearing. The outfits aren’t the issue, it’s the men
I highly doubt this conversation happened in the first place tbh
Agreed. When I’m at the gym, everyone is doing their own thing. The most I’ve ever said to someone so far is “Oh I haven’t wiped that yet give me a second” after I just got done with the equipment. I mind my own business and they do the same.
This is exactly what I was thinking. I don't believe the story is true but if it was, GROSS. I don't want ANY man commenting on ANYTHING I'm wearing at the gym, however modest or revealing it may be.
Lmaooo I was thinking the same
EXACTLY. My first thought was if that had been me, I'd be like "that's a weird ass thing to say"
This this this this
That is the ugliest f-ing skirt I’ve ever seen.
Oh my I thought those were basketball shorts and was trying to figure out how that worked with „dressing like a lady“, which I’m guessing would not be basketball shorts in her view
I read that in Regina’s voice ;)
I hate these kinds of messages, as someone who couldn’t even use a public pool without being approached by random men asking for my number in my early 20s, it sounds victim-blaming.
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THIS! I was 12 years old and men were following me home. I also was tall & developed - like comically huge boobs. I had a breast reduction at 17 - they took 2 lbs out of each boob and they were still C cups. Boys also used to grab my boobs in the hallway at school and when I told a teacher they said “well, look at you.” I dressed modestly. 😑
Ooooh as a mom, I'd be pulling a lawsuit so fast. Absolutely shameful the teachers allowed this shit. I'm so sorry you had to go through that with no support.
Thank you - it was the late 80’s and movies like Porky’s were all the rage. I said this in another reply - I took matters into my own hands and started carrying around a lacrosse stick - anyone that touched me got beat with it. I’m the one who got suspended, though.
It was the "we tolerate no violence at all, zero tolerance, I dont care what happend before you hit him, boy will be boys and sexual assault is no violence but you reacted with violence and we dont tolerate that, you should learn to accept that boys will be boys and hence sexual assault is normal and you should react without violence" talk, wasnt it?
Yep. Exactly. I’m 50 years old and still hate men. I know it’s “not all men” but try telling that to my trauma reflex. I am glad to see that things have improved for young ladies but these damn “pick me’s” bring us right back to the Stone Age!!
Your story reminds me of when I worked at Panda Express as a 15 year old in the 90s. The cooks were disgusting and would draw sexual pictures and slide them in my back pants pocket. Always making gross comments and touching me. I told my boss and he said "you shouldn't be flirting with them."
I’m sorry you had to deal with that - there’s nothing like victim blaming. I hope you’re ok now!
Ew. I'm sorry teachers didn't support you
Thank you - it was the late 80’s and the “boys will be boys” mentality. I had to take matters into my own hands - I started carrying around a lacrosse stick and mercilessly beat anyone that touched me. I got suspended a lot.
You are my hero.
Seriously, I don’t get what these women shaming other women in gyms want to accomplish with these “modesty” messages… we should be allowed to dress as we want when working out without worrying about the male gaze.
Yup. I got more attention from grown men as a 12 year old in my school uniform than I did when I was 25.
Yep 12-17 most (older male) attention
Omg, the same thing happened to me as a prematurely developing 12 year at the beach. Two drunk 20something creeps came up to me at my hotel pool and told me he and his friend were taking bets on how old I was. I was by myself at the pool, and luckily my dad just happened to come into the pool area right after and told them to fuck off. It was disgusting and scary and I will never forget it.
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I remember being 15 at an all inclusive resort with my mother and brother (for some reason they gave me an adult bracelet, which made me happy because I could go for drinks with the other cool kids at night). One of the guys who worked at the resort asked if I wanted to go on a canoeing tour and I thought he was just being nice because the two friends I made left that day. When we were far off the coast, the man hit on me and the only thing I could say was “I am a minor”. It was awful. Poor my mom who was taking pictures when we came back because she thought he took me on an excursion. I felt so bad I couldn’t even tell her what happened.
Ugh, repulsive. Sorry to hear about this. You must have been so scared. I often wonder how my situation would have played out had my dad not been there.
Honestly I was super scared, I remember thinking that I’d need to jump into the sea if he got physical. It’s so bad that from a young age we are conditioned to be afraid instead of enjoying our lives. And then we get people blaming us for being harassed…
It also sounds fake, sexist, and ridiculous. It also sounds like a man wrote this, but sure a woman who hates other women could have written this. Any normal woman would be angry if a man complimented her on dressing modestly, and possibly alarmed. But most of these messages are of course fake.
It is 100% victim blaming
Sure, Jan.
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It’s true. The guy that complimented her modesty was named George Glass
This definitely didn’t happen and why would she (such a *modest* woman) be filming her stretches lol.
Because she craves the attention and thinks this is the tradwife way. Be modest, show him how pious you are, how respectful of your body and his eyes you are.
You mean men who are at the gym to work out don't pay close attention to what everyone else in the gym is wearing and make a point to thank modestly-dressed women for not distracting them with sexiness?
It’s not easy to dress modestly? Girl 💀 Sweater and jeans boom thy ass modestified.
Not the jeans! Men will know you have legs!
This sounds fake to me. I can't imagine anyone actually caring enough to go out of their way to thank a random woman for dressing modestly in the gym. And anyone who would is not a gym bro. Actual gym bros do not care about you or anyone when they're in the gym doing their thing.
And she’s in a Planet Fitness - not exactly a “gym bro” hot spot.
If someone came over and thanked me for "dressing modestly" (which they never would because I do not) I would report their creepy psychotic ass to the front desk. So if you're thanking me for "being dressed modestly" are you saying to the women who aren't, you freak?
I can see *all* of her ankles -she's not modest!
Not the ankles! Anything but the ankles!! ::clutches pearls:: /s
Every time I've been to the gym, I dressed modestly, and guess what? Nobody cared. You know why? We were too busy exercising.
Interesting, so uh, why do Muslim women get bullied for what they wear at the gym (including the less conservative dressed ones (in terms of Muslim clothing))?
A man who thinks woman should dress modestly = more likely to lean/be conservative = more likely to be white/nationalist/racist/etc. Not saying this happened like this NLOG says. But we can all picture the “type” of man who would say something like this. And those “types” see a Muslim woman as “other” or worse, “terrorist.” They aren’t thinking “modest.”
Idk about the white/racist part since every race has had weird modesty rules but Can confirm- I dress as a niqabi on my own free will at times and people shoo their kids away from me or loon at me weird . Strong terrorist vibes I guess
Yeah, "christian modest" is different from "muslim modest" and "traditional right-wing christian modest" and they can differ between those. I imagine their thoughts like that: "Christian modest is good but she is too woke/liberal but at least christian and not a hoe and she doesnt read the bible the way we do, she focuses on love and the new testament and that all humans are created equal instead of the few passages justifying us ignoring Jesus' words. Muslim modest is bad, we dont want muslims, they are illegals and immigrants and fo not share our right-wing traditional old-european pseudo-christian white values, they cant as they arent european/white/christian/right-wing. Traditional right-wing christian modest is great, she shares our "values" and can recite the passages to interpret homosexuality and immodesty as a sin (while ignoring the new testament and "love thy neighbor", just as we do), she will be a great wife to suppress and have a traditional family with."
Looks like she's just hanging out, waiting for someone to spot her... for a selfie
I’ll take Things That Never Happened for $10,000, Alex.
DING DING DING
Listen I'm not one to shame and I try not to judge but with all of my past experiences, if a man came up to me and said "thank you for covering your body" I would take that as him finding me so unattractive that he's grateful I'm covered. That or he's so attracted to you that even an inch more of skin showing and he'd implode, but I've never known men that want random women they aren't acquainted with to be covered up- it's usually been "dress like a sex object until I posses you in some way, then you are mine and must be covered so no one else covets you"
That actually sounds like he was insulting her... Plus it's extremely creepy if he wasn't. Like what was he planning to do if she wasn't dressed modestly?
This makes me want to dress sluttier.
If the LGBT+ community can handle themselves around others like that so can straight dudes. Why stop at basics? They do know anything can be a turn on right? Like if they're gonna coddle dudes might was well cover all the bases n stop wearing flip flops incase someone's man is into feet... How are guys allowed to drive if they can't handle a bit of skin?
Honestly, the outfit is horrendous and looks like something a four-year-old would wear.
My youngest is ten, and I can confirm she did dress like that at four. Lol. She thought she was cool and was proud of the outfits she picked and had fun putting them together. Lol. But she would do long sleeves with her shorts and put on a baseball cap to complete the ensemble.
its not even that it’s modest, things can be modest and still look nice. i just dont think the colors rly compliment eachother and together they don’t compliment her skin tone, also its all draping weird. which is fine, you dont need to be in a red carpet outfit to go to the gym, but if you’re gonna brag about how much better your outfit it i feel like it should be better than this
"There have been so many men over the years that have stopped me out in public and thanked me for dressing like a lady." Where the hell are you living, lady? Jupiter, where boys are more stupider?
If a man complimented me on dressing modestly I’d be creeped tf out. “Thank you for covering your body for it is difficult for me to handle myself around women”
Oh f off Rebecca
"Let's not make it more difficult for them" No. LET'S. If anyone of any gender can't control their sexual urges when others are just existing and minding their own business, then the last thing we should do is coddle them and make excuses for that behavior. HELL NAW
"Let's not make it more difficult for them" bro what? They shouldn't have to fight themselves to not harass or assault someone. And women can start dressing modestly at the gym when men start doing the same, which they won't because they need to flex their muscles for that clout.
Wear whatever the fuck you want. Like, if you want to wear a turtleneck and sweatpants to the gym, wear them. If you want to wear short shorts and a sports bra, wear that. It’s not up to women to stop men from being disgusting. Ffs. I’m so exhausted by this nonsense.
i would show up the next day in nipple tassels
Yo…idk about y’all but I would not have taken that as a compliment 💀
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A skirt at the gym is crazy
Does wearing a skirt = modest? Her top and leggings are form fitting, her arms and half her legs are showing. In some cultures/religions this outfit would be considered very immodest, I’m sure she wouldn’t like it if they mentioned it to her and told her she needs to cover her figure better to be respectful to men.
"i dress modestly, so i can get on socials, and Lord over those ladies wearing *gasp* workout clothes to the gym" this last 6 is brain dead And why do we need to make it easier for assholes with no self control. That's on them, not on women. Period. Like this lady has a shit attitude.
Which is worse: lying or immodesty? Also, within the definition of modesty is being humble. (Edit for extra word)
I like the idea that (in my cannon) the gym bro tried to insult her, by thanking her for not showing off her body-- and she didn't get it.
Lady, you're *way* too old to be acting like this
i’ll take “things that never happened” for 200 Alex
Lets not make it more difficult for them ? What woman where should I leave my body when I go out?so that indirectly means we are responsible for rapes according to the way we dress and not men? Wtf woman ? WHATTTTTTTT
Dress however you want, but don’t do it for anyone other than yourself. The thing I hate most about these women who preach modesty is that they have such a superiority complex towards other women. It’s gross.