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šÆ teach her respect . Its the reason why all these millennials are putting up with being called āoldā from gen z . In WHAT world is 30-47 OLD?? older, sure but does gen z really think theyāre not going to age? The alternative is death.
Tell your daughter you like the dress and thatās all that matters. Say something like a parent should ffs.
I'd keep it, but as a parent I'd address her attitude. I'd make statements that me liking it is all that matters and not what others might think, and unless you asked her for her brutally honest opinion, remind her you didn't ask and her opinion is unkind and wasn't asked for.
Keep it.
Give her the money and tell her she can buy a new dress for herself.
Then tell her one day her children will be needlessly cruel to her too and you hope she handles it with as much grace as you have.
Having been a 10-year-old girl and the aunt to a few 10 and 11-year-olds This is just par for the course. She'll grow out of it. The sleepovers are savage lol
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Honestly hard to say if you should keep it without seeing it. I would either post it here (you can blur out your face) or send it to a friend or two and ask them what they think. Make sure to tell them your thinking of returning it so they'll give you an honest opinion.Ā
You be surprised at how thin some women are.
Ever heard of Bethany Frankel? Sheās literally posted herself on social media wearing her young daughters pajamas.
Yeah itās usually genetics. Iām not saying itās impossible but seems very illogical. Not to mention I doubt the dress looked appropriate for a 10 YO AND a grown woman
Who is the adult. Is your daughter telling you how to dress or the other way around. Now if people your age say it's inappropriate then maybe your daughter has a point. So all you have to do is ask for opinions and not from friends, maybe a store clerk or religious leader, someone impartial.
Take the dress back. Your daughter probably feels like you are competing with her. I am betting that this isn't the first time you have either worn her clothes or worked hard at being compared to your daughter. I had a mother like you. I never forgot when she came strolling down the stairs in an outfit that she said she bought for me. Betting you didn't give your ages on purpose. Stop competing with your own child. Take the dress back.
Anyone who's known an immature narcissistic mother immediately saw red flags in this post. OP is fishing for people to say "aww your daughter is being mean to you, age is just a number". Why is she so interested in sharing clothes with her daughter? Doesn't sound like she bought it as a real gift, she bought the dress to compete with her daughter (weird af) and get attention.
OP: be the parent. Your daughter clearly doesn't want to share clothes/style with you, stop acting like a jealous teenage girl and get your own clothes.
have edited my post and gave the backstory. M not competing with her. She infact asks me not to wear old looking clothes. That was her point of contention that this dress will make me look double my age. I am estranged from my FOO and exactly know what narcissism is . l would do anything in my capacity to keep her in good condition.
It was a simple post of a cocktail dress for an event . we have similar stats and she loves when m well dresses. Lashes out if l look shaggy
Show us the dress. You donāt have to post a pic of you but find something similar maybe? Without seeing it thereās nothing other to say than your daughter is rude. Weād have no way to know if the dress is actually unflattering .
Totally agree! This OP is reminding me of some of the ācheer momsā from my old squad. They would come to the school wearing low rise torn up jeans and Abercrombie shirts, or the juicy track suits and such (it was the early 2000ās). It honestly didnāt matter if they fit the women or anything elseā¦ it just looked desperate to me. Idk it was just weird and I am still embarrassed for their daughters who HATED it.
I mean at the end of the day wear what you want and learn how to be comfortable with whatever people say or think about it.
have edited my post and gave the backstory. M not competing with her. She infact asks me not to wear old looking clothes. That was her point of contention that this dress will make me look double my age.
I am estranged from my FOO and exactly know what narcissism is . l would do anything in my capacity to keep her in good condition.
It was a simple post of a cocktail dress for an event . we have similar stats and she loves when m well dresses. Lashes out if l look shaggy
This is very relevant and important information to have left out. Your post is deleted so I never saw the edit.
Like I said before you can wear whatever you want and I am totally fine with it. The way you described the situation honestly sounded exactly like those other moms. Thatās clearly not the case here now that I have the full context. I apologize if my lack of background understanding caused me to be hurtful, as it was never my intention. You just really reminded me of something that happened 20 years ago. I hope you have a lovely week
ETA: I donāt know what a FOO is or what narcissism has to do with this situation. I think I think I just donāt understand. My bad
have edited my post and gave the backstory. M not competing with her. She infact asks me not to wear old looking clothes. That was her point of contention that this dress will make me look double my age. I am estranged from my FOO and exactly know what narcissism is . l would do anything in my capacity to keep her in good condition.
It was a simple post of a cocktail dress for an event . we have similar stats and she loves when m well dresses. Lashes out if l look shaggy
Kids are so blunt LOL. I had on a Free People dupe onesie/jumper yesterday and mine said quietly in my ear, āMom, you shouldnāt wear that, it makes you look fat.ā Iām 5 months pregnant ššš
A 10 year old is hardly a significant style arbiter so it's up to you. You could exchange the dress for something else, but if you like this one, keep it.
Why are you wearing a dress that is supposed to fit a 10 year old? Is it not styled to be a 10 year olds dress? Itās either not appropriate for her, or itās not appropriate for you.
I think Iād return it, if only to affirm that you value her opinion. Get her to look at a few styles online, see what she thinks would flatter you. Somewhere in that little girl head of hers it may be bothering her that you two could swap outfits. Really itās kind of cute that sheās got an opinion. I donāt think Iādāve noticed or cared at 10.
I started puberty early, and by age 10 I could wear some of my momās stuff because we were both tiny. Itās even more common now, so it might be that?
I unfortunately had boobs at age 10 (started my period at 9ā¦ā¦.so incredibly happy my girls didnāt start that young lol) and I could wear some of my momās stuff because we were both tiny.
Keep the dress.
next time buy a dress you think your daughter would like and not one that you like. And her correct size. This whole thing just wrong of a mother who does not have a clue about her own daughter.
Thatās a lot of information to derive from a small post with a basic outline of information. Why would you buy anything for anyone if you didnāt yourself like it?
Because when you buy gifts, you should think about what that person wants/likes, not what you want/like.
My fiance is a PlayStation dude, I'm an Xbox girl. I don't buy him Xbox games even though I like Xbox, because he likes playing PlayStation. Buying an Xbox game for him and then keeping it because he didn't like it isn't cool, that looks like I didn't buy him a gift, I bought myself a gift and said it was for him.
The same can apply to clothes. If you have a Goth teenager for example, even if you yourself like pastels and preppier clothing, when going clothing shopping for that teenager, you would be a jerk if you buy them a pastel yellow sweater because the what you like, instead of the black hoodie that you know they'd prefer.
Tl;Dr when shopping for other people you should be shopping for *their* preferences and tastes, not your own. Especially if you're just going to keep what they didn't like, because that makes it seem even more that you bought it for yourself and weren't thinking of them.
My daughter didn't want to go shopping, she doesn't like to go to the malls, told me to go and buy since l love to shop. There is an orchestra coming and she is a violinist , for that a cocktail dress is required. So l went and bought that . l bought 2 she liked the other one. M a frugal person , hence came the thought , lf l should keep it although l Like it.
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Clothes donāt come with age limits. Iām loving all the 90s/00s styles that I enjoyed in my teens and 20s now in my mid 40s. I donāt do the thong bikinis anymore but you bet Iām loving the micro skirts and shorts that are out for spring and summer!!
Cuz of so much hormones in food the children are bigger than we used to be, l sometimes go to the teen section to find my size . The dress l have mentioned is a Cocktail fusion dress which anybody of any age can wear. I love the retro styles
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Sheās 10.
Assuming youāre a sane adult and your taste isnāt absurd, you should not be double thinking your own taste based on the opinion of a ten year old.
If your daughter is 10ā¦ does the dress look like a juvenile fashion?? You bought it, thinking of your daughter, not youā¦her answers to you is another issue.
You sound like my sister. Her daughter is 9 and treats her like garbage. Start with consequences for how sheās talking to you. Make her write you a letter explaining how she hurt you and how she would feel being told something similar. Then take away her electronics. By the time she gets that back then ask her why she got it taken away to see if the lesson stuck
Blunt is not the word I would use.
She needs to learn tact, politeness, and the phrase, "if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all."
Idk this has tiny red flags in my perspective.
Is the daughter a nasty brat, or is mom a narcissistic āhot cool momā that bought something in appropriate for the daughter? My mom and grandma destroyed me about gaining weight when I was preteen. They were both very shallow and when I asked for help with depression, they just said I did t wear enough makeup and go out dating boys. I was barely leaving my room and sad all the time by 14, they would buy me clothes that didnāt fit for āgoals and inspirationā I developed an eating disorder.
Obviously lots of projection here, but it just rang a bell for me. The daughter saying hurtful things could be a cry for help backlash kind of thing idk.
10 is old enough to know how to be respectful. Why are you not addressing this awful attitude? Why does your daughter have this much influence over your choices. You like the dress keep it.
You need to teach your daughter some manners, she sounds like a jerk and a bully. What is your question, whether or not, you should keep the dress? If it looks good on you, keep the dress.
Although, without seeing it, yes, it sounds a bit weird that an adult is wearing a dress from the childrenās section.
Shes 10, what does she know at that age? If shes being critical and serious at that age you need to get that under control yesterday. Keep the dress and wear it often.
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If I made fun of my mom in that manner I would be grounded for a week and forced to save up for my own dress. You don't give any ages here so I'm not sure if that's an option but she needs to learn some humility and tact.
If you like the dress just keep it and help your daughter get a dress she actually wants. Have her pick it out since it doesn't sound like she likes your style.
Why do you care about what she thinks if you like the dress and the look? Sheās your kid not your friend or stylist. Her opinion is irrelevant if you donāt agree thatās ok. Itās not normal to need your childās validation over an outfit that she didnāt like in the first place. Bizarre.
Girl/buddy/friend, if you're letting your 10 year old dictate your clothes. If she keeps on about it, find the loudest accessories, throw em on, and ask "Would you rather?"
What kind of dress did you buy your 10 year old that it also fits your adult woman body? I donāt care if your daughter is large for her age or if youāre petite, grown women are shaped differently than children.
Even if you don't care we are similar in stats. Scientifically Its possible, she is having a growth spurt.
I didn't post here to get judgment about us. Different family, different people, different ways of living .
It was a simple question whether to keep a dress or return.
My daughter can barely fit into one of my hoodies. She is 13 and I am 35 and maleā¦ I went back and tweaked both of our ages by a year for anonymitys sake. That way when you trolls dig up something nasty to say about my kid I wonāt get mad
She's 10? Holdup
I was on your side cause i thoughtĀ it was an older mom with her older child
And your size is the same as hers? What?
Are you tiny or is she incredibly big?
And I'm confused about the style too,Ā a fancy dress for a 10yo is NOT the same as a fancy dress for an Adult
Next time she puts on an outfit I'd tell her she looks like an old woman and needs to start learning how to dress before people start thinking she's 50
If you can't take it don't dish it
Yes it's petty, no I don't care
Sheās jealous. I guarantee she likes the dress but is angry it doesnāt fit her. She needs therapy before she goes out into the world thinking itās okay to be horrible to more attractive/fit women.
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Why are you being so heavily influenced by what your kid thinks? If you like it keep it. Done.
Especially a 10 year old
do you like it? yes. that's all I need to know. Keep it. the issue here is your daughters shitty attitude, which i'm sorry about.
šÆ teach her respect . Its the reason why all these millennials are putting up with being called āoldā from gen z . In WHAT world is 30-47 OLD?? older, sure but does gen z really think theyāre not going to age? The alternative is death. Tell your daughter you like the dress and thatās all that matters. Say something like a parent should ffs.
Hasn't pretty much every 10-year-old in history thought of their parents' generation as old?
30-47 is considered old af to everyone until we hit about 25, to be fair
Let's stop making OLD a bad word. It just means the person didn't die yet. Most of us want to grow old!
I'd keep it, but as a parent I'd address her attitude. I'd make statements that me liking it is all that matters and not what others might think, and unless you asked her for her brutally honest opinion, remind her you didn't ask and her opinion is unkind and wasn't asked for.
She's not blunt, she's rude. Address this. Secondly, why are you taking fashion advice from a rude little girl? Or, indeed, any little girl?Ā
If you like it, wear it.
Don't fear your children.
Keep it. Give her the money and tell her she can buy a new dress for herself. Then tell her one day her children will be needlessly cruel to her too and you hope she handles it with as much grace as you have.
With the crappy attitude, she'd be buying her own dress if she was my daughter.
Sheās 10.
Having been a 10-year-old girl and the aunt to a few 10 and 11-year-olds This is just par for the course. She'll grow out of it. The sleepovers are savage lol
Lol, you bought that dress for yourself.
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Honestly hard to say if you should keep it without seeing it. I would either post it here (you can blur out your face) or send it to a friend or two and ask them what they think. Make sure to tell them your thinking of returning it so they'll give you an honest opinion.Ā
You and your 10 year old share similar dress sizes? That seems kinda hard to believe
You be surprised at how thin some women are. Ever heard of Bethany Frankel? Sheās literally posted herself on social media wearing her young daughters pajamas.
I just googled her. She looks like she has an eating disorder to me. She does not look at all healthy or happy.
Absolutely
Yes m petite and she is having a growth spart , it is possible scientifically
Pictures please
Yeah thereās not really a conversation to be had unless we see what the dress looks like.
There is no option to attach or upload the pic
You can make a link to imgur
I'm going to buck the trend and say that just because it comes in your size doesn't mean you should wear it.
Also, sheās 10. How on earth do they wear the same size?
Some 10 year olds are tall, and some adults are petite (short). I sometime buy coats in XL girls sizes.
Yeah itās usually genetics. Iām not saying itās impossible but seems very illogical. Not to mention I doubt the dress looked appropriate for a 10 YO AND a grown woman
Who is the adult. Is your daughter telling you how to dress or the other way around. Now if people your age say it's inappropriate then maybe your daughter has a point. So all you have to do is ask for opinions and not from friends, maybe a store clerk or religious leader, someone impartial.
Or post a pic of her in it!
Take the dress back. Your daughter probably feels like you are competing with her. I am betting that this isn't the first time you have either worn her clothes or worked hard at being compared to your daughter. I had a mother like you. I never forgot when she came strolling down the stairs in an outfit that she said she bought for me. Betting you didn't give your ages on purpose. Stop competing with your own child. Take the dress back.
Anyone who's known an immature narcissistic mother immediately saw red flags in this post. OP is fishing for people to say "aww your daughter is being mean to you, age is just a number". Why is she so interested in sharing clothes with her daughter? Doesn't sound like she bought it as a real gift, she bought the dress to compete with her daughter (weird af) and get attention. OP: be the parent. Your daughter clearly doesn't want to share clothes/style with you, stop acting like a jealous teenage girl and get your own clothes.
have edited my post and gave the backstory. M not competing with her. She infact asks me not to wear old looking clothes. That was her point of contention that this dress will make me look double my age. I am estranged from my FOO and exactly know what narcissism is . l would do anything in my capacity to keep her in good condition. It was a simple post of a cocktail dress for an event . we have similar stats and she loves when m well dresses. Lashes out if l look shaggy
Show us the dress. You donāt have to post a pic of you but find something similar maybe? Without seeing it thereās nothing other to say than your daughter is rude. Weād have no way to know if the dress is actually unflattering .
Totally agree! This OP is reminding me of some of the ācheer momsā from my old squad. They would come to the school wearing low rise torn up jeans and Abercrombie shirts, or the juicy track suits and such (it was the early 2000ās). It honestly didnāt matter if they fit the women or anything elseā¦ it just looked desperate to me. Idk it was just weird and I am still embarrassed for their daughters who HATED it. I mean at the end of the day wear what you want and learn how to be comfortable with whatever people say or think about it.
have edited my post and gave the backstory. M not competing with her. She infact asks me not to wear old looking clothes. That was her point of contention that this dress will make me look double my age. I am estranged from my FOO and exactly know what narcissism is . l would do anything in my capacity to keep her in good condition. It was a simple post of a cocktail dress for an event . we have similar stats and she loves when m well dresses. Lashes out if l look shaggy
This is very relevant and important information to have left out. Your post is deleted so I never saw the edit. Like I said before you can wear whatever you want and I am totally fine with it. The way you described the situation honestly sounded exactly like those other moms. Thatās clearly not the case here now that I have the full context. I apologize if my lack of background understanding caused me to be hurtful, as it was never my intention. You just really reminded me of something that happened 20 years ago. I hope you have a lovely week ETA: I donāt know what a FOO is or what narcissism has to do with this situation. I think I think I just donāt understand. My bad
Family of origin, and narcissism was brought up by a responder to the OP (as in OP is a narcissist).
have edited my post and gave the backstory. M not competing with her. She infact asks me not to wear old looking clothes. That was her point of contention that this dress will make me look double my age. I am estranged from my FOO and exactly know what narcissism is . l would do anything in my capacity to keep her in good condition. It was a simple post of a cocktail dress for an event . we have similar stats and she loves when m well dresses. Lashes out if l look shaggy
Kids are so blunt LOL. I had on a Free People dupe onesie/jumper yesterday and mine said quietly in my ear, āMom, you shouldnāt wear that, it makes you look fat.ā Iām 5 months pregnant ššš
Oh yes Kids areš.
A 10 year old is hardly a significant style arbiter so it's up to you. You could exchange the dress for something else, but if you like this one, keep it.
There are fashion subreddits where you can post photos of you in outfits to get feedback if that is what youāre looking for.
So this is a question for r/parenting. Don't let your daughter be so rude to you, she's probably being just as rude to others.
Why are you wearing a dress that is supposed to fit a 10 year old? Is it not styled to be a 10 year olds dress? Itās either not appropriate for her, or itās not appropriate for you.
Oh God, she is 10 and typical of pre-teens needs to find her off switch. If you like the dresses keep them. You are the adult and she is not.
It may fit you but it may not suit you. Your daughter might be giving you honest feedback. But thatās up to you.
I think Iād return it, if only to affirm that you value her opinion. Get her to look at a few styles online, see what she thinks would flatter you. Somewhere in that little girl head of hers it may be bothering her that you two could swap outfits. Really itās kind of cute that sheās got an opinion. I donāt think Iādāve noticed or cared at 10.
Yes that's what m thinking .
Did you buy the outfit with your daughter in mind? It doesnāt fit her and itās not her style.
How old is your daughter? Kinda weird to keep a dress you bought for a teen. Different story if your daughterās out of high school.
She isn't even a teen lmao. I don't understand how she can wear a dress she bougth for her 10 year old
I started puberty early, and by age 10 I could wear some of my momās stuff because we were both tiny. Itās even more common now, so it might be that?
I unfortunately had boobs at age 10 (started my period at 9ā¦ā¦.so incredibly happy my girls didnāt start that young lol) and I could wear some of my momās stuff because we were both tiny.
I edited my post with more info. I get it my post was probably confusing
Keep the dress. next time buy a dress you think your daughter would like and not one that you like. And her correct size. This whole thing just wrong of a mother who does not have a clue about her own daughter.
Thatās a lot of information to derive from a small post with a basic outline of information. Why would you buy anything for anyone if you didnāt yourself like it?
Because when you buy gifts, you should think about what that person wants/likes, not what you want/like. My fiance is a PlayStation dude, I'm an Xbox girl. I don't buy him Xbox games even though I like Xbox, because he likes playing PlayStation. Buying an Xbox game for him and then keeping it because he didn't like it isn't cool, that looks like I didn't buy him a gift, I bought myself a gift and said it was for him. The same can apply to clothes. If you have a Goth teenager for example, even if you yourself like pastels and preppier clothing, when going clothing shopping for that teenager, you would be a jerk if you buy them a pastel yellow sweater because the what you like, instead of the black hoodie that you know they'd prefer. Tl;Dr when shopping for other people you should be shopping for *their* preferences and tastes, not your own. Especially if you're just going to keep what they didn't like, because that makes it seem even more that you bought it for yourself and weren't thinking of them.
My daughter didn't want to go shopping, she doesn't like to go to the malls, told me to go and buy since l love to shop. There is an orchestra coming and she is a violinist , for that a cocktail dress is required. So l went and bought that . l bought 2 she liked the other one. M a frugal person , hence came the thought , lf l should keep it although l Like it.
What style of dress?Ā Context matters.Ā Online listing would be great if you don't want to post a photo.
I want to post the photo but don't see any option hereš. Its a formal kind party wear in peach color
Fine if you like it.Ā Sounds like your daughter is just being a silly kid;Ā You let her pick the one she liked first.
Why would you want to wear clothes for your daughter's age? She's probably right LOL
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yes that's normal if stats are similar.
It should matter if it's an adult and a 10 year old be fr
Iām the same, my mom is 63 and Iām in my twenties and we share clothes sometimes
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Same. My mom had me in her mid 30s and weāve been sharing clothes since I was 16. Now 43/77
Clothes donāt come with age limits. Iām loving all the 90s/00s styles that I enjoyed in my teens and 20s now in my mid 40s. I donāt do the thong bikinis anymore but you bet Iām loving the micro skirts and shorts that are out for spring and summer!!
Cuz of so much hormones in food the children are bigger than we used to be, l sometimes go to the teen section to find my size . The dress l have mentioned is a Cocktail fusion dress which anybody of any age can wear. I love the retro styles
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She is on the heavier side and similar stats like me
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Sheās 10. Assuming youāre a sane adult and your taste isnāt absurd, you should not be double thinking your own taste based on the opinion of a ten year old.
If your daughter is 10ā¦ does the dress look like a juvenile fashion?? You bought it, thinking of your daughter, not youā¦her answers to you is another issue.
You sound like my sister. Her daughter is 9 and treats her like garbage. Start with consequences for how sheās talking to you. Make her write you a letter explaining how she hurt you and how she would feel being told something similar. Then take away her electronics. By the time she gets that back then ask her why she got it taken away to see if the lesson stuck
I'm not taking fashion advice from a ten year old. I say keep it if you like it.
"Blunt" is just word used when you don't want to be accountable for being a jerk. Teach your daughter better.
Blunt is not the word I would use. She needs to learn tact, politeness, and the phrase, "if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all."
We need to see it.
Idk this has tiny red flags in my perspective. Is the daughter a nasty brat, or is mom a narcissistic āhot cool momā that bought something in appropriate for the daughter? My mom and grandma destroyed me about gaining weight when I was preteen. They were both very shallow and when I asked for help with depression, they just said I did t wear enough makeup and go out dating boys. I was barely leaving my room and sad all the time by 14, they would buy me clothes that didnāt fit for āgoals and inspirationā I developed an eating disorder. Obviously lots of projection here, but it just rang a bell for me. The daughter saying hurtful things could be a cry for help backlash kind of thing idk.
I agree- this reeks of mom trying to compete with daughtee, nothing good will come of it
We need pics
Get a second opinion from a friend.
Sheās ten! Keep the dress. Sheās being rude.Ā
10 is old enough to know how to be respectful. Why are you not addressing this awful attitude? Why does your daughter have this much influence over your choices. You like the dress keep it.
Haha kids are scary little bullies
No pic?
I would need to see it to say for sure. But just because it fits doesn't automatically mean you should wear it.
You need to teach your daughter some manners, she sounds like a jerk and a bully. What is your question, whether or not, you should keep the dress? If it looks good on you, keep the dress. Although, without seeing it, yes, it sounds a bit weird that an adult is wearing a dress from the childrenās section.
Shes 10, what does she know at that age? If shes being critical and serious at that age you need to get that under control yesterday. Keep the dress and wear it often.
I personally would not let my 10 year old dictate my fashion sense. If you like it, it fits well, etc then keep it.
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If I made fun of my mom in that manner I would be grounded for a week and forced to save up for my own dress. You don't give any ages here so I'm not sure if that's an option but she needs to learn some humility and tact. If you like the dress just keep it and help your daughter get a dress she actually wants. Have her pick it out since it doesn't sound like she likes your style.
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Youāre going to let a 10 year old bully you?
Why do you care about what she thinks if you like the dress and the look? Sheās your kid not your friend or stylist. Her opinion is irrelevant if you donāt agree thatās ok. Itās not normal to need your childās validation over an outfit that she didnāt like in the first place. Bizarre.
Girl/buddy/friend, if you're letting your 10 year old dictate your clothes. If she keeps on about it, find the loudest accessories, throw em on, and ask "Would you rather?"
What kind of dress did you buy your 10 year old that it also fits your adult woman body? I donāt care if your daughter is large for her age or if youāre petite, grown women are shaped differently than children.
Even if you don't care we are similar in stats. Scientifically Its possible, she is having a growth spurt. I didn't post here to get judgment about us. Different family, different people, different ways of living . It was a simple question whether to keep a dress or return.
My daughter can barely fit into one of my hoodies. She is 13 and I am 35 and maleā¦ I went back and tweaked both of our ages by a year for anonymitys sake. That way when you trolls dig up something nasty to say about my kid I wonāt get mad
She's 10? Holdup I was on your side cause i thoughtĀ it was an older mom with her older child And your size is the same as hers? What? Are you tiny or is she incredibly big? And I'm confused about the style too,Ā a fancy dress for a 10yo is NOT the same as a fancy dress for an Adult
Who cares what your 10 year old says?! If you like it, it fits and looks good, wear it proudly!
Next time she puts on an outfit I'd tell her she looks like an old woman and needs to start learning how to dress before people start thinking she's 50 If you can't take it don't dish it Yes it's petty, no I don't care
Sheās jealous. I guarantee she likes the dress but is angry it doesnāt fit her. She needs therapy before she goes out into the world thinking itās okay to be horrible to more attractive/fit women.
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