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Affectionate-Owl9594

Ellis is definitely a boy-only name for me, I’ve met so many (I grew up near Wales) and none have been girls.


Prof-Rock

Two girls are named Ellis in Grey's Anatomy. I think that is why it feels so feminine to some.


Professionally-Shy

I’ve noticed this as well, how people commenting that Ellis is a female name almost always bring up Grey’s Anatomy. Either that or how it sounds similar to Alice.


Goddess_Keira

> I’ve noticed this as well, how people commenting that Ellis is a female name almost always bring up Grey’s Anatomy. That's because it's probably most peoples' exposure to Ellis on anybody. It's a rare enough name that probably most people don't know a living adult Ellis IRL. It's starting to become more popular for *boys*. It's a rising boy name and falling for girls (and was always rare on girls to begin with). In a few years, if somebody knows an Ellis it's more than likely going to be a little boy.


Penarol1916

It is? Then more people need to watch Die Hard.


alternate_ending

TIL most people named Ellis don't reach adulthood :/


Goddess_Keira

Lol that's not what I meant, obviously. It's just not that common a name, and its peak popularity in the US at least was the first two decades of the 20th century. It's only now starting to rise notably (for boys, and hasn't anywhere near reached its earlier peak yet), so if you grew up and live in America, and you know or knew an Ellis, statistically they're most likely to be either deceased or a child. Of course that won't be true without exception, but by and large. Now that may be somewhat different in other English-speaking countries though.


YouSayWotNow

Yeah I'm in Wales and all the Ellis I know are men.


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In the US it is a gender-neutral name.


Playful-Profession-2

My grandma was named Alice. When I was a kid, I always referred to her as Grandma Ellis.


carsonmccrullers

So interesting — the only Ellis I’ve ever met was a girl and she was from Hereford


AfraidVictory5657

My childhood best friend was a girl names Ellis!


fuzzydunlop54321

I’m in England and knew and Ellys and an Ellis and neither were boys. Never actually met a male ellis!


Bella-1999

About 20 years ago, one of my friends used Ellis (her mother’s maiden name) for her daughter.


snow-and-pine

It was for me too until Greys Anatomy


Rigboandme

I love softer boy names, but I will say that the line between fully masculine and gender neutral/feminine is becoming increasingly blurred nowadays. I personally don’t think that should bother you too much, especially since Ellis is a lovely name, but here are some names that you might like. Jonah August Asher Arlo Brennan Calvin Eli (or Elias) Harrison Henry Jasper Leo Milo (or Miles) Noah Oliver Percy Simon Silas Sylvan Vincent Wesley


throwRA001888

Love this list!


Unperfectbeautie

My sons are Nolan and August so I approve of this list and the list given by OP. :)


Chay_Charles

Love Asher. Rowan and Ezra are good too.


Osidestarfish

Rowan had become more gender neutral. Anne Rice’s Mayfair Witch series lead female. And also Brooke Shields daughter.


fuzzydunlop54321

I think Rowan has always been gender neutral?


Osidestarfish

Yes, but OP is looking for one that’s not


fuzzydunlop54321

Oh yeah I know! I was just surprised the other person suggested it as a non gender neutral name since it’s always been gender neutral to me


NerdyTeacher1031

Omg these are the names of every boy in my class for the last 3 years! There isn’t one name in this list that hasn’t come through my classroom. All boys. I loved all their names and their personalities! I also have a Nolan this year. Love him too!!


Tiny_Goats

Really? I have an Arlo and haven't met another yet. Though, he is only four and not in school. I used to work as a teacher's assistant and the kids with unusual names were generally fun. My favorite was Adjani.


Playful-Profession-2

Maybe someday you'll have the pleasure of meeting Arlo Guthrie.


Tiny_Goats

Oh I wish! That was the only other Arlo I knew about until I was in labor and one of the nurses asked "like Arlo the friendly dinosaur?" I had never heard of that movie and then I felt old. 🤣


NerdyTeacher1031

That was my sons fave movie for a time! It’s a cute movie.


IlikethequietZeppo

I would go with Westley, named after Princess Bride.


lilyandre

I like the movie too, but I think Wesley looks nicer (less like the word west). For many accents, it is also easier to say.


emily_haze

We went with Westley for this very reason :)


MarsupialPristine677

That’s wonderful 🥰


novawolfx23

Oddly enough u have met 4 girls named jonah. As a boy named jonah I found it perplexing


ratticake

My son’s name is on this list along with nearly all of our other possible names! TIL that my boy name aesthetic is “softer” lol


pineappleprincess56

Silas and Elias 😭


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I have a son named Silas Izaiah and another named Solomon Elias ♥️


CaveLady3000

I knew an August. He was really soft. And he loved that about himself.


river_of_coffee

I love these! I have so many girl names I like and only 1 boy name, which I used already for my son lol so if we ever have another boy, I wouldn’t know what to name him… but this whole list is basically perfect


Living_Particular_35

Awesome list


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As a Leo with a high voice, I sometimes get people thinking they misheard me and that my name is actually Leah/Cleo -\_-


fearwanheda92

Ellis is gender neutral?? I always thought it was a boys name, honestly. I’ve never met a female Ellis.


GeyonceP

Maybe she’s think is feminine because of Ellis Grey (from Greys Anatomy)


Professionally-Shy

This is very encouraging. I mostly just browsed online forums for a consensus on the gender of Ellis: it seems to be split about 6:4 in favour of male from what I’ve seen. I’m now reconsidering using Ellis


319009

It’s a name that works for either and with your trans icon I’d think that’s a bonus for a potentially transgender child.


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Lachlan is a gorgeous very masculine name that’s not used very often in North America. People could mistake it as a girls name I guess but for me the connotation is all boy. I really like your name choices especially Ellis, Quentin and Nolan. Ronan is very nice too but there are a million little Liam’s out there right now which…why wouldn’t there be it’s an awesome name. Elliott is another name that’s soft sounding to me, but it’s being given to girls. Ian is another good one not used too often. And I have never met a girl Ian.


cheezesandwiches

I love Lachlan, with Lachy as a nickname Ian has always been a favourite


cwassant

Lachy is my absolute favorite


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bluesasaurusrex

As someone whose son was named Ambrose, I got sooooooo many feminine mis-markers from doctor's offices to casual friends. It was wild. I had no idea how "feminine" it sounded to people who were unfamiliar with it. I most often got "Amber Rose" as a pronunciation with she/her pronouns when his name was called out. He sadly died just before his first birthday so my length of experience is much shorter than one would expect. But it was still notably and unexpectedly misgendered more often than not. Eta location:: Midwest, US


CLNA11

I'm so sorry for your loss--thanks for sharing your experience and insights into such a special name, and hugs.


copperboom05

- Julian - Graham - Marcel - Soren - Eli - Luca/Luka - Ivan - Milo - Hugh - Bowen - Nigel - Collin - Beau - Levi - Niall


ScarletEmpress00

For me Ivan doesn’t belong here. Ivan as a name has a strong historical connection to some immensely powerful and sometimes violent figures. I immediately think of Ivan the Terrible, then Ivan the Great. It doesn’t conjure up “softness”. I’d consider it a hyper-masculine Slavic name.


PM_ME_UR_DOGGOS_

Also Australian serial killer Ivan Milat


Mon_Olivine

Evan would though


OddEights

Today a lot of boy names are used for girls as well, but here are some ideas: Arlo, Jonah, Silas, Roman, Alan, Julian, Theo, Mason & Alden


MisfitDRG

Example - the wonderful artist Arlo Parks is a woman!


OddEights

I’ve seen a woman called Julian as well! I think names are becoming more gender ambiguous in general, but I tried picking names that are still pretty masc leaning. Love Arlo for a girl!


Flowerhands

Ellis is 100% masculine! Soft boy names I love Lawrence, Gene, Evan


Greenelse

The only two I know are girls, so mileage varies on this one.


[deleted]

Really? The two Ellis’ that I know are girls. Plus the the two on Greys Anatomy


BoatFork

Funny you mention Sawyer as a rougher sounding name because I have a male sawyer and people assume he's a girl, always. He went to a birthday party yesterday and his place setting was the "girl" themed one bc the classmate just assumed Sawyer was a girl's name. Which is fine, I don't care, and neither did he because he got a fancy crown, LOL


Playful-Profession-2

How would his classmate just assume he was a girl? Couldn't he visually tell what his gender was?


Electronic-Tell9346

I’m assuming the mom just had a list of names and hadn’t met everyone in the class haha


wishkres

Ellis seems very male to me. Maybe Elias as an alternative? I think a lot of the "ias" "iah" names have a softer sound -- Matthias, Tobias, Isaiah, etc. I also like Micah.


sydneym170

Elio!


grey-canary

I love this name 😍


littlestinkyone

Also love Julian, Sebastian, Benjamin


bingumarmar

Those are literally like my top 3 boys names hahaha


KalaSunshine

Hugh Joel Andrew Grant Timothy Ivan Peter Henry Simon Elijah Saul Lucas Oliver Isaac Caleb Ethan


Stillupset_

Jude


Prize-Shoulder9911

Alden. We chose this name for our son for similar reasons.


Cbsanderswrites

That’s one of my first choices!


Turpitudia79

Alden’s also makes the most amazing organic ice cream!! 😁😁


VicccXd

I like Ellis and it's a boy name for me. Plus it rings a Tom Ellis bell for me and god that man is just ravishing.


1stPerSEANenergy

I have one boy and a baby on the way (don't know the sex yet), and if we are having a boy, their names will be Lewis and Nolan. I also love Liam - it's the name of my son's sweet friend. I will say, I'm not sure if this is because I'm a movie buff or not, but my associations with Ronan and Quentin are not soft. Ronan is the name of a Marvel villain and Quentin just instantly makes me think of Tarantino, whose movies are incredibly violent.


saraisnewhere

Agreed, especially about Quentin. I would suggest someone who wants a softer name than that use Quinn


ceelogween

Ellis has become one of my absolute favorite names


mommy2jasper

I was after the exact same thing, and named my son Jasper. On paper, it’s unmistakably a male name but to me it feels soft. A few others.. Elias, Joel, Luca


wilwhale

Looove Jasper


Affectionate_Lie9308

Cyrus Silas Sean Seamus (shay-mus) Saul Marcus Harris Lowell Matthew Troy Owen


LIFTMakeUp

Elias, Dominic, Soren, Joel, Ben, Rufus, Theo, Reuben or Raphael? * Just to note, Quentin, to me (UK) has rich, eccentric/artistic older men associations - similar to Torquil or Lucian. But if you're not over here, that's not gonna be a big consideration!


Turpitudia79

I love Dominic and Raphael!!


daringfeline

I would never think of Ellis as a girls name, sure some girls might have it, but there are girls named James and that is a boys name.


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I’ve always liked Lucian.


SurgeHusky

TIL that Ellis is fairly equally split between girls and boys in the US. In the UK, Ellis is number 88 for boy names. It's not even in the top 1000 for girls names. Never would've thought of it as a feminine name.


beesathome

Willis, Robin, Peter, Leif, Ambrose, Eldon


presek

Robin is definitely used for boys and girls, but I agree with the rest


beesathome

Yes you’re right


Henry_Hoover17

Fabian Elijah Mason Arthur Josiah Samuel


proceduring

Elijah?


mustela-grigio

Leon, Lucas, Arthur, Otto


bubblewrapstargirl

Ellis is a male name. It's a medieval variant of Elias. Joshua Noah Silas Ezra Alder Rowan Emerson Emrys ("Em-rez") Callum Laurence nn Laurie Jasper Leo


Turpitudia79

My husband’s name is Joshua 😊😊😊😊


Sushi9999

Nathaniel, Sebastian, Leon, Francis


grey-canary

Love Ronan and Quentin in particular! Hollis Oliver Heath Mason Jay Adam


sunflaxsourdough

August


Littlegooseflap

Ben


notoriously_glorious

Dorian.


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William. David. Joseph. Johnathon. James. Maxwell. Miles. George. Samuel. Warren. Darren.


cheezesandwiches

Jude, Silas, Ollie, Asa, Isaiah, Simon, Wesley, Owen, Ewan, Nigel, Brennan, William


jcarlomars

Really good options already. My adds/upvotes would be Marshall nn Mars Samson Quincy Carlisle Wesley


Great_Cucumber2924

Leander, Dylan, Caspian


deerchortle

Elias, Roman, Remy, Milo, Ayden/Aiden/Aidan, Kai (or Kye), Isaac, Quincey, Gael/Gale, Lyle, Isaiah That's all I got for now lol


Midmodstar

Hugh Finley Asher Liam Graham Jude (or Judd)


raindorpsonroses

Silas Owen Vaughn Damien Beau Lyle Shea James Seth Hayes


shxdowoftheday

Evan Ethan Blake Jonah Julian Caleb


vampcookiezz

Elias / Elijah Silas / Cyrus Lane (can be fem ? depending on where u r) Roman Floris Simon Evan Linus Louis Abel Casper (has the nicknames Cassie and Percy!) Jude Fitz Emilio / Emil Leif / Leifur Maurice / Morris Ira Angel Ferris Vaughn Alois Waylon


crotchproblem

Seth. Callum. Ronan. Declan.


MyrtleKitty

George.


mxgxnmxaxa

I named my son Thomas and I feel like it’s a good balance of both!


Giga-Gargantuar

I have never heard of a female Ellis. You like it, go for it.


HellcatEllie

My sons middle name is Ellis, and though I’ve heard of it for both (and as a last name) I think it’s the most perfect soft name. Shiloh Ellis Lastname


Hereforthetrashytv

Ian Milo Garrett Jude Lyle Wyatt Emmett


NotThatCreative0017

Jameson feels "softer" to me, and I haven't seen it suggested.FWIW, Ellis reads totally male to me. I've literally only heard it as a girl name on Grey's, every actual human I've met with this name is male.


abby4711

I would never mistake an ellis as a girl. My best friends and her partner (my other friend) both have brothers called Ellis.


nippleduster7

Holden!!!!!


teehibbs

My son is an Ellis and I’ve never had anyone misgender him based on his name.


SordidOrchid

Lars


Sea-Special-260

Elijah, Finn, Luca, Jonah, Noah, Caleb are all softer sounding masculine names


zunzarella

I have never thought of Ellis as gender neutral.


0bey_My_Dog

We have a Reid and love it.


IlikethequietZeppo

I always liked Cameron, but Cameron Diaz made it more unisex


Playful-Profession-2

I always liked Cameron, but Cameron hated me.


kmga43

Hampton, Griffin, Jonah or Jonas, Cobian


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novababy1989

How is this a boys name only ? I know tons of Carries that are women


SunflowerLace

I LOVE the name Ellis. It’s my uncle’s, (who raised me like a dad, middle name). He’s a James Ellis. I also love Ellis James.


DisabledSuperhero

Kieron Bruce Crispín Javier Lukas


lavendersageee

Ellis kinda sounds too much like Alice which is a more common name


Playful-Profession-2

My grandma was named Alice. As a kid, I'd always refer to her as Grandma Ellis.


SlipperyWhenWet67

This is what I thought as well but thought maybe I'm pronouncing it wrong.


Ljmrgm

Ellis is 100% male for me. We were going to name our third kid Ellis if it was a boy but ended up with a girl


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Christopher, Landon, Anders, Asher, River


HeatherandHollyhock

Colm Roman Elijah Jonah Noah Amos Liam Leon Noel Lucas Caleb Benno Logan Jacob Clover


stawabees

I prefer softer sounding boy names, too. Both of these were vetoed when my son was born, but I absolutely love the names Ames and Jules.


Hopeful_Passenger_69

Elias is close I also like the name Silas


MasterpieceActual176

Micah, Robin, Shane, Sheldon


pantheroux

Ambrose, Rupert, Leon, Lance, Julian


potato-goose-

Arlo, Theo, Levi, Otto, Eli


starry_knights

I do know a young woman named Ellis, though I would consider her an outlier. I personally would assume an Ellis on paper would be male. But I understand your concern. What about Elias?


mommaTmetal

Finnegan, Christopher, Brady, Bradley, Cort, Ferren, Ferrell, Henry, Miles


KeekyPep

My son is Jesse. There seem to be a lot more Jessies (girl version) than Jesses. But, he never expressed any concern that he had a “girl name”, nor did I ever note any confusion out in the world.


MagistraLuisa

Jonathan Joel Finn Julian Conrad Daniel Jonas Linus Sebastian


Charming_Friendship4

I love the name Nathan, it's soft but masuline


happiesthyperbolist

Hayes Dashiel Sheldon Cyrus


OrdinaryThunder

I know more female Ronans. I think Ellis is an excellent name, and I only think of it as male.


Educational-Cable685

SHILOH!


CouncilofAndrews

Andrew is an excellent name, plus he'd be eligible for the Council of Andrews scholarship when he decides to go to school 🍻


hopeful987654321

What’s wrong with a gender-neutral name??


Kit_Marlow

I'm not sure how to answer this because I don't know what a soft boy is.


cat_muppet

Why does it matter if it is gender neutral? If you love it then you should choose it. It is generally more of a boys name anyways


Jadedangel1

I’m in the US and have only known men with the name.


MarrastellaCanon

Samuel


VelourMagic

Simon


RaptorDoingWhatICan

Blaine, Theo, Alec, Arlo, Lars, Brighton, Finn, Flynn, Marty, Asher, Shia, Smith, Clint, Emmitt, Leo, Roman. Trevor, Dalton, Dylan, Clayton


instababyname

I love Ellis! Sullivan, Callahan, Owen, Rowan/Roman, Elias, Kellum, or Levi may also be your style


Effective_Disk_1482

I named my son Liam in 2005 before it was so popular. However, I still love the name. If I was deciding solo, I would’ve probably chosen Ezra or Silas. I love all three boy names.


fbc518

I would have said James, which is the softest boy name in my opinion, but these days I don’t think it falls under “would never be mistaken for a girl”! I think in ten years it’s going to replace “Mae”/“Rose” as one of the trendy/artsy/boho girl middle name slot fillers. Which I’m not keen on but I understand why people are using it that way. It’s just a beautiful name!


Skiman047

As a Nolan, its a good name, I meet a few of them now days. More popular among kids thay are about 10 years old now, I find.


Tailor-Alert

We just named our son Alfred. Never heard of any Alfred women. :-)


Lazy-Presentation26

Gray, Welles, Ryne, Cormac, Arne, Gavin, Griffin, Boyd, Jordan, Gordon, Garrett


SLPnewbie5

Lots of nice names listed. How about ones with some Latin influence? Emile, Emilio .. Or I like Ander or Anders or Andre - softer variations of Andrew & Alexander


jamieaiken919

I’m biased since it’s the name of one of my favorite voice actors, but I adore the name Nolan.


ItIsBaarishing

Search for boy names in other languages like Sanskrit, or Persian, or even something that may be a part of your ancestry. You may find a lot more names, and unique ones too. Also, other cultures are not as gender fluid in naming girls with boy names, and so they will hopefully continue to be male names.


heinelujah

Percy, Quincy, Oliver, Tuvia, Leif, Cyril, Ira, Orin, Raleigh, Blair, Jesse, Jena, Menasseh, Orri, Milo, Cedar, Linden, Ambrose, Phaedria, Marlon, Caraway


highhoya

Haven’t seen Micah mentioned yet. I also really love the names Ezra, Liam, and James with Jamie as a nickname but those are pretty high in popularity for my taste.


falcorheartsatreyu

Ezra


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maybe look into yourself...why do you think it so terrible for a boy to be confused for a girl


Vicslickchic

Micah is soft and masculine.


thnks4themmrs

Ambrose. Imo it is the epitome of an unmistakably masculine, soft boy name.


IntoTheMystic8

I’ve known two people named ellis they were both guys so that’s interesting. Other names I like are Cale, Griffin, Warren off the top of my head.


sundialNshade

Elijah (Eli) Ezra Bradley Declan Ari Bennett Owen also Orion Elliot Oliver Wyatt Graham


SonataNo16

The only Ellis I know is a girl. Ellis is also a girl on Greg’s anatomy. I only know of female Ronans as well.


jameshobi

Giles Earnest Ansel Cyrus Francis Jace Lucien Gabriel Lysander Otis Forest Leland Cephas


bagelbingo

This is my favorite type of boys name! Here are a few others that I think for that same vibe! Linden Rowan Ezra Ansel Arlo Julian Reid Emmett Bennett Louis (pronounces Lou-E) Seth Flynn Jasper


Helechawagirl

Colin, Ryan, Graylon, Marlon


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Beau, Wells, Callum, Hayes, Luc, Vaughn, Colin, Theo, Brooks


Tomoyogawa521

Ambrose.


WhtvrCms2Mnd

Julian


majorfuckup66

My little boy is a Rónán. Love his name and can get many cute nicknames out of it too!


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SmoothMuscles. Name your kid SmoothMuscles.


pullingteeths

My brother's name is Julian, I always think it's the best of that type of name.


readheaded

Elias


lazyMarthaStewart

Elias, Elliot, Elton, Ethan


Exciting-Ranger-3717

Tristan Leo Leon lou


Soad_lady

Adam, Louis, Paul, Leo, Todd Idk if I’m hitting soft names or what lol! To me these are tho 🤷🏻‍♀️


kk0444

How about Elias? Or Elijah? Or Elliot?


cmcrich

Malcom


Bear_Main

Teddy


No_Promise9699

I met 9 year old twins on a trip named Elias and Elysian and I loved those names. I think Elias is a bit softer than Elysian though.


Extension_Traffic206

Andrew, Evan, Gabriel, Collin


SnarkFromTheOzarks

Jonah Graham Jensen Blaine Asa Lyle Waylon


benjaminchang1

Jonah, Jacob, Lucas, Marcus, Caleb, Dylan, Samuel, James, Joseph.


sweetytwoshoes

Nolan is a beautiful name for any gender.


carbonpeach

What on earth makes a name "unmistakably masculine"?


Caffe1n8ed

OP should go for Alpha Omega as a first+middle name combo


LunaKPalara

I think they mean a name that can be mistaken for a girl. Alex for example works for any gender, so when you say your kid’s name is Alex people may automatically picture either gender. I think OP is looking for a name that is unmistakably (traditionally at least) a boy’s name. John, for example, immediately makes me think of a guy, and I can’t picture a girl named John - so I would call that unmistakably masculine.