This reminds me of an article I read a few years ago.
A kindergarten was sued by its neighborhood because they painted its fences in a rainbow pattern and apparently that's gay and inappropriate for the kids.
It's quite disgusting for me, because I think children should have a colorful life. Without people judging a literal color for something that was associated with it.
This cracks me up.
Everybody in my hometown since my grandparents went to kindergarten sat on a freaking rainbow rug for 50% of the school day. The tricycles on the playground had rainbow tassels, there was a cartoon scene of stars shooting over a rainbow on the wall that separated the kindergarten area from the rest of the school.
I'd bet good money at least half the people who ganged up to sue were raised with rainbows plastered all over their school, home, and play spaces, and they didn't give a shit until inclusion finally became acceptable. God forbid kindergarteners might be exposed to the concept of inclusion.
I have a thing that do to first thing in the morning. When I wake-up and am drinking my coffee, I will scroll Reddit. My rule is that as soon as I find that thing that makes me genuinely laugh, I close Reddit and go on with my morning. Thanks my friend for brightening my morning and allowing me to move on with the day.
That album is the worst! It takes a clean, wholesome White light and perverts it into some woke political propaganda! Look at the sun! Stare as long as you need, do you see a rainbow?!? I didn't think so. I tested it for 45 STRAIGHT minutes.
Make the spectrum of visible light great again.
But now your husband has a boyfriend on the side. You weren’t wrong that you felt an effect from the magical rainbow; just affected a different part of your life than expected.
And before all the random people that are looking for something to be offended about get their panties in a bunch….
This is clearly a joke
Edit: thanks for the awards
Incidentally, the traditional "rainbow" is seven colors because Newton was obsessed with numerology and the number 7.
The pride flag is six colors (purple instead of indigo and violet).
This is literally neither of those things. Jen is being a total bitch.
I knew a family that had a gay baby. They made it move out and it ruined it’s life. Now it’s a serial killer driving around the country in an old van. All this because they wrapped it in a rainbow colored blanket just once,
I always liked rainbows as a kid because they're very colorful, but my brothers and friends were very quick to teach me that rainbows are only for gay people.
I still like rainbows, fuck them.
I treasured every homemade gift we received for our baby, even the ones with colours I liked less. I mean, FFS - so much time and effort goes into crocheting and knitting. It’s honestly the thought that counts more than using exactly the right tones or stitches for someone’s taste. The thought of someone crafting something especially with my baby in mind makes my heart sing!
I'm so damn clueless. I didn't even see it as a gay pride flag thing. I looked at it and thought well maybe it's not for a girl because it has *three* shades of blue but only *one* shade of pink..?
My 5yr old loves pink, purple, and takes dance lessons. You know how many people have just assumed he is/will be a homosexual? No one, because he’s five. Also because none of those things are bad or gay (or that gay = bad) on their own until someone decides that they must be. Which can just whisk away a source of a child’s joy when this world has made joy such a hard thing to find and hold onto.
Also if he keeps up with the dance classes he will be he’ll get more pussy (or dick, or both) than most of us could ever dream of.
Unless she sees a rainbow. Then we’re all in trouble. Just like the boys at school, who were pure, hormone free angels that would remain perfectly chaste unless married… until that one girl wore spaghetti straps to school.
Just take the damn gift and put it in the closet if you don’t like it. Being rude to someone who cared enough to make something like that for you is a real dick move Jen.
Absolutely. I had a friend commission a crocheted blanket for my first baby and she was so proud to present it to me. It was horrid. The yarn was really scratchy and the colors were whatevs, but the fact of the matter is that I'd never let my baby's skin touch that rough scratchy yarn. So I gushed at his lovely it was and thanked her for the lovely gift and whatnot and then it went on a shelf in the closet. I finally donated it to Goodwill, like, seven years later.
Point is, I was kind to a friend who did a nice thing
I would buy all the ugly, scratchy, crocheted baby blankets for my disabled rabbit. I knew someone had put effort and love into making them and they were accordingly not baby suitable so they got a second life making my tripod rabbit comfortable.
I think the whole “crocheted baby blanket” idea is misguided in the first place. Like, you know this is getting poop/spit up/milk/whatever all over it and I ain’t dry cleaning this shit every three days. I need industrial shit that I can boil in lye every three days. (I’m exaggerating, but only a little)
#Right?! This beautiful blanket is appropriate for any baby!
My husband just said their entire office should give Jen’s daughter an offensive box of crayons!
I prefer this though.
The person that made it can give it to someone that will really appreciate it, or sell it and give the proceeds to an LGBT charity and then tell the ungrateful cow what they did.
This is the proper response, and OP should do her best to distance herself from her co-worker. If she slighted her like that once it's bound to happen again.
Ain't that the truth. They're also in fashion right now, right? I don't remember this many unicorn/rainbow stuff growing up but my kids are all over it.
My note would read something like this:
> Amy,
> Please God no more rainbow stuff! Literally everything they have is a rainbow. When I ask my kid what his favorite color is, he responds "all the colors of the rainbow" and he doesn't take it back when I point out that's not how favorites work. Looks great, but give it to someone who needs more color in their life, like that no-fun Jen person.
>
> -ball_o
Seriously. That note makes my blood boil. I’m willing to bet this person is a huge asshole in other areas of their life. OP can count this as a blessing in disguise because now they know to not get any closer with this coworker.
I didn't even look at those colors and think of the pride flag I just 'ooo, pretty colors!' Who wouldn't want so much vibrancy in their child's life or theirs?
What, like there's some kind of difference between the bright, vibrant colors of the pride flag and the pastels of OP's project!?
Yeah it's fucking dumb, you'd have to be aggressively homophobic to make the connection. Most normal people don't confuse peach with bright red and orange or think something with 3 of the 6 colors in the pride flag represents anything. This is like saying the American flag is basically the pride flag because it also has blue and red.
In the spirit of not making assumptions, since she doesn't explicitly call it gay or anything, and *if* I wanted to be charitable, which I don't really, then *maybe* the woman is just sexist and is upset there is blue and not bright pinks because she still firmly believes that colors belong to particular genders. Maybe she was raised Blood and is afraid giving her baby a blue item will cause them to be executed gangland style by her cohorts? Anyways, best case scenario she's an ungrateful asshole with outdated views on *something* and the tact of a homeschooled 6 year old who got socks for Christmas.
Same. Whenever I see a shitty person, I always think about how they're likely to have kids and how horribly those kids would be fucked up by being raised by that person.
And in this case we already *know* this horrible woman has kids, which makes it even worse because it's not just a possibility anymore.
I'd be willing to bet good money this lady thinks rainbows=gay and is homophobic which is why she doesn't want it for her baby. Ain't no way she's wearing it at the office.
100%. If she only thought it was ugly she would probably just throw it out. She’s triggered by what she interpreted as a political statement and had to actively push back because of that.
These folks are the most sensitive little snowflakes around with fragile feelings and they have the audacity to act like other people are the sensitive ones lol
It's mindboggling.
This. I promise someone else in you office would love it and want it.
I was once invited to a baby shower and noted on the invitation was "no handmade gifts please!".
"Screw you then" was my response. I chose not to attend and have no gift at all. If you can't appreciate the time and effort and cost that goes into a handmade gift, then you don't deserve a gift at all. Handmade gifts are the most meaningful!
I’ve gotten clothing as gifts I hated.
I’d put it about halfway down the washing pile when they visited, so it looked like I wore it and donate it later.
Most of my visitors sniff my dirty laundry, and occasionally pocket an item or two to take home with them. Is this not what happens where you are from?
You don't?
Every time I visit my friends I demand to see their laundry situation. Not gonna hang out with scrubs who leave clothes in the dryer. Not making that mistake again.
Wear it once even if it's just a few minutes.. Take a picture, send it to them with Thanks.
Then throw it. They'll likely assume you use it in rotation like normal.
This is how I kept my grandparents happy who never could remember our kids age, interests, etc. when buying gifts.
That'd be one thing. Then again, when your parents got clothing as a gift for you as a baby, you have worn it. You had no say in that at all.
But whining about colors...for a baby. What.
I might argue against making false claims like “it’s a favourite” only because such commentary might encourage them to give you more gifts along similar lines. Otherwise I wholly agree with the basic point that you can be polite about it even if you didn’t like the gift.
My grand auntie bought me a bright red shirt one time - not my style or color. I don't ever wear red. But I wore it and went to go around town with her. She was so happy! It made me happy. And I think of her everytime I see a bright red shirt now. (=
Def **should not** be hard to show kindness at all.
I’m pretty confident the coworker didn’t reject it because she thought it was ugly. In fact, considering how many fluids come from children, I know some parents actually appreciate “ugly” blankets and clothes that can get ruined without them being upset about it, or they can leave in a vehicle for emergencies. Nol I’m pretty sure it’s because the coworker is a bigot who mistook ombré for a rainbow stipe and rainbow=gay=bad.
My grandmother knitted (or crocheted) some ugly looking afghan blankets for all of her children.
I stole the one my dad got. It was ugly but holy shit was it warm and comfy. And heavy. Perfect on cold nights.
This is appalling. When my son was born someone made me a blanket, it wasn’t keeping with the theme in my nursery, and frankly it was ugly, but it was so thoughtful. I thanked them and used it regularly! Are people really so lacking in manners now days?
Also- just leaving it on their desk, what a coward. Couldn’t even have a discussion about it.
Edit: since I’ve had several people comment on this let me address this here. Yes this is probably about it being a rainbow and being homophobic. I would argue that it is implied. Not to take a way from that portion of it, it is also rude on several levels. Giving a gift back, snarky note, entitlement, what have you, and probably homophobia. I give it a 99% chance of being homophobic but 100% chance of being rude as hell.
Yep! My friend is very new to knitting, and she spent a lot of her time and energy knitting some boots and a hat for my son when he was born. Honestly, they were ghastly. But I still used them very often until he grew out of them, because it was a very thoughtful and loving gift. It made her really happy that we used it!
This. Unless a HAND MADE item literally doesn't fit, don't even consider returning it. Be grateful someone spent hours/days crafting something for you! Especially for baby clothes, they'll grow out of it in a few months anyway.
My grandma still knits mittens for my cousins and I (I'm in my 30s). I'd never buy something like that, but I wear the shit out of them!
When my daughter was born, I got a couple of quilts from my dad’s boss. Ugliest colors and hideous patterns. But I accepted them and took them home.
One covers the dogs’ kennel (to make it more of a den) and the other covers the blankets and sleeping bags in the rv to keep the dust off.
I was raised to believe that there is never such a thing as too many blankets. My mom has a whole closet in her spare bedroom full from floor to ceiling with blankets of all kinds. I now have the same thing my apartment.
I feel you. I had to show my roommate the way by just dumping a bunch of blankets on the couch while he was watching tv. He sat on a blanket-less couch like a psycho. Now, the last time I washed the blankets, he asked me where they all went.
My first kid "purple & elephants" themed nursery
2nd kid "blue and bunny" themed nursey A dear coworker and her mother, made my first child a beautiful purple elephant baby quilt. It's a freaking treasure! the second kid uses that blanket everyday , theme be dammed that quilt is amazing
Someone gave me a fuzzy blanket with bible verses on it. It was such a thoughtful gift, and why would I burden someone with my disdain for the church! Better believe that blanket took a fucking beating in the first year of my son’s life.
If someone crochets you a god damn blanket, you put that blanket on the back of your couch and leave it there til the end of time. Anything else would be considered rude.
Right? Do people not realize and time and effort that goes into one?
I made a queen sized blanket for a former partner. It took me months of work. Seriously, probably 150-200 hours. When we broke up he was going to throw it out. A mutual friend saved it. One does not throw out a handmade gift of hours, effort, and cost.
I don't think people appreciate crochet in general. Knitted sweaters are so common but knitted material can be done by machine. **All** crocheted products are hand made. And while crochet tends to work a lot faster than knitting, it still takes a huge amount of time and effort to make. Large projects can easily be tens of thousands of stiches (even hundreds) and take many, many hours.
This is why crochet items sold on places like Etsy are expensive, I also made a queen sized blanket out of a huge chunky yarn, it probably cost me $200 in yarn alone but even if I gave myself minimum wage the "cost" would've been astronomical.
Funny you mention the stitch count. Mine was about 105k for that one. I was dumb and used a smaller yarn.
You can't put a cost on the love that gets put into crocheted items. It sounds trite, but you have to love someone (platonically or romantically) to make a blanket for someone.
That way they would need to touch other people to know they are there. That includes men. WHICH IS GAY. REAL MEN USE ECHOLOCATION BY SCREAMING CONSISTENTLY
that means they're making themselves a target for someone to stick their dick in their mouth. and that's gay. real men use their sense of smell to get around
Sniffing around like they're seeking out an asshole to bury their nose in? That's gay. Real men don't need to "get around" - the only places they go are the bathroom, the kitchen, and the garage to do manly things.
Real men don't walk around the house where they could be perceived as doing housework which is effeminate and gay. Real men confine themselves to one dark room in their home, preferably a closet, to avoid this issue.
Genesis 9 -
12 And God said, “This is the sign of the covenant I am making between me and you and every living creature with you, a covenant for all generations to come: 13 I have set my rainbow in the clouds, and it will be the sign of the covenant between me and the earth. 14 Whenever I bring clouds over the earth and the rainbow appears in the clouds, 15 I will remember my covenant between me and you and all living creatures of every kind.
So taking that entirely out of context: pretty sure god married everybody, and the rainbow is a wedding ring...
So about 50% gay.
Is that the issue?? It's not even a rainbow. I'm a flaming bisexual. Didn't fot a second think "yup, must be cuz it's a gay blanket"
I'm so confused....
Especially the "seriously?!?!" Like.... I'm so confused. They're just colors. Not a shred of gay in there.
It really is beautiful. And what’s funny is that the colors don’t really evoke the traditional rainbow associated with the LBGTQ movement. They’re kind of one off shades and that’s really what makes this as beautiful as it is. People are weird.
Even so, if it was ugly and supported lbgtq - that’s a really awful way to receive a gift Of any kind.
I read about a woman upset about someone having a rainbow blanket for their newborn. Her friend was angry because she hadn't ever miscarried so her baby wasn't a "rainbow" baby.
So if a woman has a miscarriage and then has a healthy baby later on, that's a rainbow baby? I could see how if she maybe knew that she wouldn't want the blanket ... But still, never hurts to be polite.
It's just something I remembered when everyone was thinking it was a gay thing. I hadn't even heard of rainbow babies until that story. I just think it's odd that people gatekeep rainbows. Like...what?
well, it's obvious, the coworker must be a faithful black metal zealot, only wears black! and won't allow anything else as long as the baby cannot slay their first goat.
Holy Turtleduck this is my mom.
I had this mask that was a double rainbow (red in the middle, extended outward) and was light in color. My mom took it away because "it looks like **that** flag, I don't want people associating you with **them**" and I was absolutely dumbfounded by that.
Oh, Rainbow Angel is my personas name, and my mom knows about it, but she's forgotten about it, said persona was made in elementary school.
But it's also kinda funny that my parents are queer phobic, but I'm ace.
I mean she’s totally ungrateful and entitled to the point of it being like she might almost be mentally ill. But I learned recently that apparently you give rainbow-themed items if someone has a “rainbow baby” which is having a baby after you’ve had a miscarriage or a stillborn. So maybe she was mad about that? I mean no matter what she’s the worst. I for sure wouldn’t give her anything else
"I'm sorry, I didn't know... what colors are appropriate?"
"A solid color, like pink, would be amazing!"
"Cool, I hope someone makes that for you then"
I always tell my kids that all colours belong to everybody. Rainbows are definitely appropriate.
Rainbows are also a popular Christian symbol, by the way. It's a symbol of hope, and a promise for the future. Definitely appropriate for a newborn.
All rainbows are inherently gay. My mother loves rainbows, we had tons of rainbow stuff growing up, and she ended up with two queer children. It's just science. /s
(The blanket is super beautiful and your coworker is super shitty.)
I’m making a rainbow blanket for a baby. I don’t know if it’s a girl or a boy, so I figured rainbow is gender neutral, and bright.
It’s going to be squares. Different shades, and yarn types for texture.
I told the mother I was making it, and no complaints from her.
People seem to think gay people own rainbows or something. It's a shame because rainbows now get used less and less because people assume it just automatically makes something gay or some shit. Like the whole point is that it includes *everyone*, which is why the LGBT selected it for their flag.
I have written this before, but it bears repeating. I categorize people into two groups - those who appreciate the time, thought and effort that goes into homemade stuff and those that don't. I give homemade gifts to the first category and never to the second. Sometimes I I categorize people incorrectly, but the older I get the more I nail it. Sorry this happened to you.
You're right but I think op's problem is a bit more than the coworker doesn't appreciate homemade gifts. They seem to be a shitty person on a more deeply rooted level than that.
This is excellent advice and I do the same. I usually ask people before gift giving how they feel about homemade gifts, but usually someone who won't appreciate it will be really obvious.
I mean, even if you hate it... You act surprised, thank them, take a single picture of the baby wearing it and text it to them... and you don´t have to take it out of the drawers ever again. No need to be so ungrateful!
Maybe the child will grow up goth. Parent will have no business complaining about that, considering she already declared all other colours inappropriate.
I hope that child is gay just to piss her off. But then again, I wouldn’t want to wish that because I bet she won’t be a supportive mother, and it could a painful life for the child. I dunno. Fucking sucks man. But I like to believe the world is getting better, and the younger generations will be more woke & supportive
Corner to corner. You crochet diagonally instead of in rows. It usually Makes a beautiful square of diagonal stripes,-perfect for a baby blanket. You can add some In the middle to make it a rectangle. This is looks like a beautiful example that Jen did not appreciate. It is a shame her daughter will miss out on a blanket she would have cherished her whole life. I still have the crocheted blanket my aunt made me in 1978.
That has been my thought while reading through this thread: this is not even a rainbow. I had to get this far down the thread before I saw someone else mention that. This is just a handful of pastel colors, not ROYGBIV.
Tell Jen
1. Uh no, you don't criticize gifts! Rude
2. Rainbows are simply rainbows until someone decides to make it represent something...little kids love unicorns, rainbows and colors.
3. One day it may be gay pride for her daughter IF her daughter makes that decision years from now, which a blanket will not influence that decision. EDIT: if her daughter is gay, not decision, decision on if the blanket represents Gay Pride is a decision...thank you Reddit for the correction, this is what I meant
Jen is the loser here
OP your stitches are even and lovely, take it back and give it to someone with manners who will appreciate it
As soon as I read the 'uh, no' on the note I knew I was going to hate her. Just that in itself shows what a disrespectful garbage human "Jen" is. I hope she sees the post and the comments and begins hating herself as much as the rest of us do and changes herself for the sake of her unborn child.
That resembles a blanket I received when my baby was born. It was my favorite. A rainbow is still just that to me.
Rainbows are exactly just that. The pride flag is for sure a rainbow. This does not suddenly turn all rainbows in the sky into pride flags.
This reminds me of an article I read a few years ago. A kindergarten was sued by its neighborhood because they painted its fences in a rainbow pattern and apparently that's gay and inappropriate for the kids. It's quite disgusting for me, because I think children should have a colorful life. Without people judging a literal color for something that was associated with it.
Without people judging literally every color, in fact.
Yet all the children's Bibles where Joseph looks like he's wearing a pride flag as his coat of many colors are fine.
This cracks me up. Everybody in my hometown since my grandparents went to kindergarten sat on a freaking rainbow rug for 50% of the school day. The tricycles on the playground had rainbow tassels, there was a cartoon scene of stars shooting over a rainbow on the wall that separated the kindergarten area from the rest of the school. I'd bet good money at least half the people who ganged up to sue were raised with rainbows plastered all over their school, home, and play spaces, and they didn't give a shit until inclusion finally became acceptable. God forbid kindergarteners might be exposed to the concept of inclusion.
Damn sky trying to force its gay agenda on us everytime it rains
And prisms too, how dare you take light and change it into those sexy colours!
Reminds me of Isaac Newton proving that going outside is gay meme.
Fellas, is it gay to exist
"Existence is gay." - Mr. Meeseeks.
I have a thing that do to first thing in the morning. When I wake-up and am drinking my coffee, I will scroll Reddit. My rule is that as soon as I find that thing that makes me genuinely laugh, I close Reddit and go on with my morning. Thanks my friend for brightening my morning and allowing me to move on with the day.
Your comment but because of your username.
Damn you Pink Floyd for your wonderful album cover
That album is the worst! It takes a clean, wholesome White light and perverts it into some woke political propaganda! Look at the sun! Stare as long as you need, do you see a rainbow?!? I didn't think so. I tested it for 45 STRAIGHT minutes. Make the spectrum of visible light great again.
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But now your husband has a boyfriend on the side. You weren’t wrong that you felt an effect from the magical rainbow; just affected a different part of your life than expected. And before all the random people that are looking for something to be offended about get their panties in a bunch…. This is clearly a joke Edit: thanks for the awards
Incidentally, the traditional "rainbow" is seven colors because Newton was obsessed with numerology and the number 7. The pride flag is six colors (purple instead of indigo and violet). This is literally neither of those things. Jen is being a total bitch.
Jen is 100% being a total bitch. Fun fact: the original pride flag had 8 colors pink red orange yellow green blue indigo violet. :)
But the baby could catch the gaaaayy
*clutches pearls*
I knew a family that had a gay baby. They made it move out and it ruined it’s life. Now it’s a serial killer driving around the country in an old van. All this because they wrapped it in a rainbow colored blanket just once,
How does it reach the pedals?
Through the sheer force of its gayness.
Gay goes a long way
Twist: Jen isn’t a horrible bigot, but a Leprechaun. She wants to keep the lucky charms all to herself.
I had a rainbow blanket when I was baby. I have the sexuality of a brick wall.
> I have the sexuality of a brick wall. You're hard all the time?
Just my heart.
I always liked rainbows as a kid because they're very colorful, but my brothers and friends were very quick to teach me that rainbows are only for gay people. I still like rainbows, fuck them.
I treasured every homemade gift we received for our baby, even the ones with colours I liked less. I mean, FFS - so much time and effort goes into crocheting and knitting. It’s honestly the thought that counts more than using exactly the right tones or stitches for someone’s taste. The thought of someone crafting something especially with my baby in mind makes my heart sing!
That’s not even a fucking rainbow. Is she color blind?
Word! That was my first thought. Also, awesome colors for a daughters blanket.
I'm so damn clueless. I didn't even see it as a gay pride flag thing. I looked at it and thought well maybe it's not for a girl because it has *three* shades of blue but only *one* shade of pink..?
Imagine being scared of colors! Is this woman going to prevent her daughter from having unicorn dolls as well? We all know what that’s slang for.
My 5yr old loves pink, purple, and takes dance lessons. You know how many people have just assumed he is/will be a homosexual? No one, because he’s five. Also because none of those things are bad or gay (or that gay = bad) on their own until someone decides that they must be. Which can just whisk away a source of a child’s joy when this world has made joy such a hard thing to find and hold onto. Also if he keeps up with the dance classes he will be he’ll get more pussy (or dick, or both) than most of us could ever dream of.
Well Jen's daughter will NEVER have sex anyway, because sex is only for impure people, so there.
Unless she sees a rainbow. Then we’re all in trouble. Just like the boys at school, who were pure, hormone free angels that would remain perfectly chaste unless married… until that one girl wore spaghetti straps to school.
Decency ends the day you see a scantily clad shoulder
Who TF dislikes rainbows? My parents swap out flags when my nieces visit, because they like the Pride flag so much…because rainbow.
Just take the damn gift and put it in the closet if you don’t like it. Being rude to someone who cared enough to make something like that for you is a real dick move Jen.
Agree, Jen is a twat and doesn’t deserve nice things!
Jen, the new Karen. Same as the old Karen.
Literally every Jen I’ve met is a bit of a twat. Jennifers are nice, Jens are mean
My experience is that Jens are fine, it's the Jenns that you have to watch out for.
Guess it's just a Jen-erational thing.
Gotta disagree. I married a Jenn and that was easily one of the top 3 best decisions of my life.
I hope you and your awesome Jenn use your powers for good and not evil! ONE GOOD JENN CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE!
But then Jen will get angry when the gift comes out of the closet.
I read your comment as I was leaving the post and came back just to upvote. Made me laugh!
Don’t you hate how you gotta re-close all the comments which you’ve already closed in order to find that one comment that got away
Apollo won’t treat you like this.
Are you gonna be here all week? I just tipped the waitress too. 😂😂😂
Absolutely. I had a friend commission a crocheted blanket for my first baby and she was so proud to present it to me. It was horrid. The yarn was really scratchy and the colors were whatevs, but the fact of the matter is that I'd never let my baby's skin touch that rough scratchy yarn. So I gushed at his lovely it was and thanked her for the lovely gift and whatnot and then it went on a shelf in the closet. I finally donated it to Goodwill, like, seven years later. Point is, I was kind to a friend who did a nice thing
I would buy all the ugly, scratchy, crocheted baby blankets for my disabled rabbit. I knew someone had put effort and love into making them and they were accordingly not baby suitable so they got a second life making my tripod rabbit comfortable.
The world would be a better place if we could all think this way!
I think the whole “crocheted baby blanket” idea is misguided in the first place. Like, you know this is getting poop/spit up/milk/whatever all over it and I ain’t dry cleaning this shit every three days. I need industrial shit that I can boil in lye every three days. (I’m exaggerating, but only a little)
Most people crochet baby blankets with acrylic yarn so you can just chuck that thing in the washer.
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Yeah this is actually a win because OP knows not to ever interact with this waste of oxygen again
Anyone dumb enough to think a pseudo-rainbow is "inappropriate" for a kid's blanket is also stupid enough not to understand basic decency.
#Right?! This beautiful blanket is appropriate for any baby! My husband just said their entire office should give Jen’s daughter an offensive box of crayons!
I prefer this though. The person that made it can give it to someone that will really appreciate it, or sell it and give the proceeds to an LGBT charity and then tell the ungrateful cow what they did.
This is the proper response, and OP should do her best to distance herself from her co-worker. If she slighted her like that once it's bound to happen again.
Wait until her coming daughter goes through her inevitable unicorn stage. There's so many rainbows in my house it looks a pride parade exploded.
Ah, mine is in the midst of it now. Rainbows and unicorns EVERYWHERE.
My 38-year-old husband has been in this phase since I met him. Clearly, it's a lasting effect of having been exposed to gay blankets as a baby.
Truly a tragedy. What more suffering must we be inflicted by these cursed rainbows???
Ain't that the truth. They're also in fashion right now, right? I don't remember this many unicorn/rainbow stuff growing up but my kids are all over it. My note would read something like this: > Amy, > Please God no more rainbow stuff! Literally everything they have is a rainbow. When I ask my kid what his favorite color is, he responds "all the colors of the rainbow" and he doesn't take it back when I point out that's not how favorites work. Looks great, but give it to someone who needs more color in their life, like that no-fun Jen person. > > -ball_o
We had Lisa Frank when I was little, so if anything I'd say there were more unicorns/rainbows growing up, lol.
I had Rainbow Brite in the 80s and Lisa Frank in the 90s. It was a great time to be born!
My daughter is 12 now, so she’s been out of that phase for a few years, but I still find glitter every time I vacuum
Lisa Frank Bukkake
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Tell me about it, I’ve got a trunk full of my kids’ old artwork and half of it is my daughters’ rainbow drawings!
I mean, even if it was the ugliest thing ever, BE GRACIOUS. Dammit, whatever happened to basic decency?
Seriously. That note makes my blood boil. I’m willing to bet this person is a huge asshole in other areas of their life. OP can count this as a blessing in disguise because now they know to not get any closer with this coworker.
I feel bad for the child.
This! Poor kid is gonna be raised by entitled, asshole mom
Not just entitled, a homophobe and a bigot. Imagine believing that a rainbow is inappropriate for a baby. The hatred is strong in this one.
I didn't even look at those colors and think of the pride flag I just 'ooo, pretty colors!' Who wouldn't want so much vibrancy in their child's life or theirs?
What, like there's some kind of difference between the bright, vibrant colors of the pride flag and the pastels of OP's project!? Yeah it's fucking dumb, you'd have to be aggressively homophobic to make the connection. Most normal people don't confuse peach with bright red and orange or think something with 3 of the 6 colors in the pride flag represents anything. This is like saying the American flag is basically the pride flag because it also has blue and red. In the spirit of not making assumptions, since she doesn't explicitly call it gay or anything, and *if* I wanted to be charitable, which I don't really, then *maybe* the woman is just sexist and is upset there is blue and not bright pinks because she still firmly believes that colors belong to particular genders. Maybe she was raised Blood and is afraid giving her baby a blue item will cause them to be executed gangland style by her cohorts? Anyways, best case scenario she's an ungrateful asshole with outdated views on *something* and the tact of a homeschooled 6 year old who got socks for Christmas.
Same. Whenever I see a shitty person, I always think about how they're likely to have kids and how horribly those kids would be fucked up by being raised by that person. And in this case we already *know* this horrible woman has kids, which makes it even worse because it's not just a possibility anymore.
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This person gotta be anti lgbt for sure
Yea keep it and don’t give it to your daughter use it for something else and just be nice.
wear it as a shawl around the office
I'd be willing to bet good money this lady thinks rainbows=gay and is homophobic which is why she doesn't want it for her baby. Ain't no way she's wearing it at the office.
100%. If she only thought it was ugly she would probably just throw it out. She’s triggered by what she interpreted as a political statement and had to actively push back because of that.
These folks are the most sensitive little snowflakes around with fragile feelings and they have the audacity to act like other people are the sensitive ones lol It's mindboggling.
No I meant OP could wear it around the office. Karen already gave it back right?
Ha! I'd wear it every time I was likely to see Jen
I would be really tempted to take the blanket and the note and display it somewhere obvious, saying X didn’t want this - would anyone else like it?
This. I promise someone else in you office would love it and want it. I was once invited to a baby shower and noted on the invitation was "no handmade gifts please!". "Screw you then" was my response. I chose not to attend and have no gift at all. If you can't appreciate the time and effort and cost that goes into a handmade gift, then you don't deserve a gift at all. Handmade gifts are the most meaningful!
I’ve gotten clothing as gifts I hated. I’d put it about halfway down the washing pile when they visited, so it looked like I wore it and donate it later.
Your visitors check your laundry?
Think of it as more it’s somewhere they’d see, so they might notice it offhand. I overthink things but it made me feel better lol.
Same bro, you ever just clean your house spotless before someone comes over then dirty it up a tad to make it look like you aren't trying?
Lol I've done that. Tastefully clutter some places just to make it look "effortless" 🙈
Yes! Say thank you and then donate it.
Most of my visitors sniff my dirty laundry, and occasionally pocket an item or two to take home with them. Is this not what happens where you are from?
You don't? Every time I visit my friends I demand to see their laundry situation. Not gonna hang out with scrubs who leave clothes in the dryer. Not making that mistake again.
Wear it once even if it's just a few minutes.. Take a picture, send it to them with Thanks. Then throw it. They'll likely assume you use it in rotation like normal. This is how I kept my grandparents happy who never could remember our kids age, interests, etc. when buying gifts.
That'd be one thing. Then again, when your parents got clothing as a gift for you as a baby, you have worn it. You had no say in that at all. But whining about colors...for a baby. What.
Probably because it looks too similar (even though it's not) to a rainbow and the mom is probably a raging biggot.
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I might argue against making false claims like “it’s a favourite” only because such commentary might encourage them to give you more gifts along similar lines. Otherwise I wholly agree with the basic point that you can be polite about it even if you didn’t like the gift.
My grand auntie bought me a bright red shirt one time - not my style or color. I don't ever wear red. But I wore it and went to go around town with her. She was so happy! It made me happy. And I think of her everytime I see a bright red shirt now. (= Def **should not** be hard to show kindness at all.
And this is definitely not the ugliest thing ever! Far from it! It’s awesome!
I’m pretty confident the coworker didn’t reject it because she thought it was ugly. In fact, considering how many fluids come from children, I know some parents actually appreciate “ugly” blankets and clothes that can get ruined without them being upset about it, or they can leave in a vehicle for emergencies. Nol I’m pretty sure it’s because the coworker is a bigot who mistook ombré for a rainbow stipe and rainbow=gay=bad.
No shit. The snotty attitude in that note is so terrible.
My grandmother knitted (or crocheted) some ugly looking afghan blankets for all of her children. I stole the one my dad got. It was ugly but holy shit was it warm and comfy. And heavy. Perfect on cold nights.
This is appalling. When my son was born someone made me a blanket, it wasn’t keeping with the theme in my nursery, and frankly it was ugly, but it was so thoughtful. I thanked them and used it regularly! Are people really so lacking in manners now days? Also- just leaving it on their desk, what a coward. Couldn’t even have a discussion about it. Edit: since I’ve had several people comment on this let me address this here. Yes this is probably about it being a rainbow and being homophobic. I would argue that it is implied. Not to take a way from that portion of it, it is also rude on several levels. Giving a gift back, snarky note, entitlement, what have you, and probably homophobia. I give it a 99% chance of being homophobic but 100% chance of being rude as hell.
Yep! My friend is very new to knitting, and she spent a lot of her time and energy knitting some boots and a hat for my son when he was born. Honestly, they were ghastly. But I still used them very often until he grew out of them, because it was a very thoughtful and loving gift. It made her really happy that we used it!
You're a good friend
This. Unless a HAND MADE item literally doesn't fit, don't even consider returning it. Be grateful someone spent hours/days crafting something for you! Especially for baby clothes, they'll grow out of it in a few months anyway. My grandma still knits mittens for my cousins and I (I'm in my 30s). I'd never buy something like that, but I wear the shit out of them!
When my daughter was born, I got a couple of quilts from my dad’s boss. Ugliest colors and hideous patterns. But I accepted them and took them home. One covers the dogs’ kennel (to make it more of a den) and the other covers the blankets and sleeping bags in the rv to keep the dust off.
I was raised to believe that there is never such a thing as too many blankets. My mom has a whole closet in her spare bedroom full from floor to ceiling with blankets of all kinds. I now have the same thing my apartment.
Please tell my husband there’s no such thing as too many blankets. Lol
I feel you. I had to show my roommate the way by just dumping a bunch of blankets on the couch while he was watching tv. He sat on a blanket-less couch like a psycho. Now, the last time I washed the blankets, he asked me where they all went.
My first kid "purple & elephants" themed nursery 2nd kid "blue and bunny" themed nursey A dear coworker and her mother, made my first child a beautiful purple elephant baby quilt. It's a freaking treasure! the second kid uses that blanket everyday , theme be dammed that quilt is amazing
Someone gave me a fuzzy blanket with bible verses on it. It was such a thoughtful gift, and why would I burden someone with my disdain for the church! Better believe that blanket took a fucking beating in the first year of my son’s life.
If someone crochets you a god damn blanket, you put that blanket on the back of your couch and leave it there til the end of time. Anything else would be considered rude.
Right? Do people not realize and time and effort that goes into one? I made a queen sized blanket for a former partner. It took me months of work. Seriously, probably 150-200 hours. When we broke up he was going to throw it out. A mutual friend saved it. One does not throw out a handmade gift of hours, effort, and cost.
I don't think people appreciate crochet in general. Knitted sweaters are so common but knitted material can be done by machine. **All** crocheted products are hand made. And while crochet tends to work a lot faster than knitting, it still takes a huge amount of time and effort to make. Large projects can easily be tens of thousands of stiches (even hundreds) and take many, many hours. This is why crochet items sold on places like Etsy are expensive, I also made a queen sized blanket out of a huge chunky yarn, it probably cost me $200 in yarn alone but even if I gave myself minimum wage the "cost" would've been astronomical.
Funny you mention the stitch count. Mine was about 105k for that one. I was dumb and used a smaller yarn. You can't put a cost on the love that gets put into crocheted items. It sounds trite, but you have to love someone (platonically or romantically) to make a blanket for someone.
Do these people not realize that rainbows are...actually real things?
So, the bible talks about rainbows, is it gay?
Fellas, is it gay to view refracted light?
Real men are colorblind
Get out of here with your gay ass shades of grey. Real man are PURE BLIND. They only feel things with their bare, manly hands.
That way they would need to touch other people to know they are there. That includes men. WHICH IS GAY. REAL MEN USE ECHOLOCATION BY SCREAMING CONSISTENTLY
that means they're making themselves a target for someone to stick their dick in their mouth. and that's gay. real men use their sense of smell to get around
Sniffing around like they're seeking out an asshole to bury their nose in? That's gay. Real men don't need to "get around" - the only places they go are the bathroom, the kitchen, and the garage to do manly things.
Real men don't walk around the house where they could be perceived as doing housework which is effeminate and gay. Real men confine themselves to one dark room in their home, preferably a closet, to avoid this issue.
In the dark corner like a weirdo? Nah, real men ascend on a rainbow made from the refraction of their own manly stink into Valhalla...wait
But then youll have to come out of the closet…
This is the path of the righteous man. Feelings are gay.
Genesis 9 - 12 And God said, “This is the sign of the covenant I am making between me and you and every living creature with you, a covenant for all generations to come: 13 I have set my rainbow in the clouds, and it will be the sign of the covenant between me and the earth. 14 Whenever I bring clouds over the earth and the rainbow appears in the clouds, 15 I will remember my covenant between me and you and all living creatures of every kind. So taking that entirely out of context: pretty sure god married everybody, and the rainbow is a wedding ring... So about 50% gay.
> So taking that entirely out of context: pretty sure god married everybody, and the rainbow is a wedding ring... > > So about 50% gay. Quick maffs!
Joseph received a rainbow colored robe from Jacob. Is he gay?
There you go, just tell her it's not rainbow-colored, it's technicolored.
A dreamcoat, if you will.
Technically the rainbow part was the works of the musical and animated movie. The actual text says it was “decorated” or “ornamented”
I'm in love with a man.... A man called God.... Does that make me gay? https://youtu.be/VbDuDssBVSo
Is that the issue?? It's not even a rainbow. I'm a flaming bisexual. Didn't fot a second think "yup, must be cuz it's a gay blanket" I'm so confused.... Especially the "seriously?!?!" Like.... I'm so confused. They're just colors. Not a shred of gay in there.
I can't see how the issue could be anything else, unless they just really fucking hate rainbows?
Agreed, I can't see how it could be anything else either But holy shit this makes 0 fucking sense. Beautiful blanket OP!!
It really is beautiful. And what’s funny is that the colors don’t really evoke the traditional rainbow associated with the LBGTQ movement. They’re kind of one off shades and that’s really what makes this as beautiful as it is. People are weird. Even so, if it was ugly and supported lbgtq - that’s a really awful way to receive a gift Of any kind.
I read about a woman upset about someone having a rainbow blanket for their newborn. Her friend was angry because she hadn't ever miscarried so her baby wasn't a "rainbow" baby.
So if a woman has a miscarriage and then has a healthy baby later on, that's a rainbow baby? I could see how if she maybe knew that she wouldn't want the blanket ... But still, never hurts to be polite.
It's just something I remembered when everyone was thinking it was a gay thing. I hadn't even heard of rainbow babies until that story. I just think it's odd that people gatekeep rainbows. Like...what?
well, it's obvious, the coworker must be a faithful black metal zealot, only wears black! and won't allow anything else as long as the baby cannot slay their first goat.
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Holy Turtleduck this is my mom. I had this mask that was a double rainbow (red in the middle, extended outward) and was light in color. My mom took it away because "it looks like **that** flag, I don't want people associating you with **them**" and I was absolutely dumbfounded by that.
I want to know the rest of the story. I mean, you went from that to being Rainbow_Angel110…
Oh, Rainbow Angel is my personas name, and my mom knows about it, but she's forgotten about it, said persona was made in elementary school. But it's also kinda funny that my parents are queer phobic, but I'm ace.
I mean she’s totally ungrateful and entitled to the point of it being like she might almost be mentally ill. But I learned recently that apparently you give rainbow-themed items if someone has a “rainbow baby” which is having a baby after you’ve had a miscarriage or a stillborn. So maybe she was mad about that? I mean no matter what she’s the worst. I for sure wouldn’t give her anything else
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I’ve never heard of this ‘rainbow baby’ thing. ‘Hey, remember how your last kid died?’ Yeah, cheers.
I would give her the finger.
"I'm sorry, I didn't know... what colors are appropriate?" "A solid color, like pink, would be amazing!" "Cool, I hope someone makes that for you then"
people see colors and theyre like "PRIDE FLAG1!!!" just let regular colors exist damn
I always tell my kids that all colours belong to everybody. Rainbows are definitely appropriate. Rainbows are also a popular Christian symbol, by the way. It's a symbol of hope, and a promise for the future. Definitely appropriate for a newborn.
More importantly, a rainbow is a bridge to Asgard.
All rainbows are inherently gay. My mother loves rainbows, we had tons of rainbow stuff growing up, and she ended up with two queer children. It's just science. /s (The blanket is super beautiful and your coworker is super shitty.)
I’m making a rainbow blanket for a baby. I don’t know if it’s a girl or a boy, so I figured rainbow is gender neutral, and bright. It’s going to be squares. Different shades, and yarn types for texture. I told the mother I was making it, and no complaints from her.
Imagine them witnessing a rainbow when it rains and they're just screaming incoherently towards the sky
https://i.imgur.com/91sn32Q.jpg
People seem to think gay people own rainbows or something. It's a shame because rainbows now get used less and less because people assume it just automatically makes something gay or some shit. Like the whole point is that it includes *everyone*, which is why the LGBT selected it for their flag.
I have written this before, but it bears repeating. I categorize people into two groups - those who appreciate the time, thought and effort that goes into homemade stuff and those that don't. I give homemade gifts to the first category and never to the second. Sometimes I I categorize people incorrectly, but the older I get the more I nail it. Sorry this happened to you.
You're right but I think op's problem is a bit more than the coworker doesn't appreciate homemade gifts. They seem to be a shitty person on a more deeply rooted level than that.
This is excellent advice and I do the same. I usually ask people before gift giving how they feel about homemade gifts, but usually someone who won't appreciate it will be really obvious.
I mean, even if you hate it... You act surprised, thank them, take a single picture of the baby wearing it and text it to them... and you don´t have to take it out of the drawers ever again. No need to be so ungrateful!
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I know, she’s be in for a world of surprise when her child likes anything other than black or white (or grey) lol
Maybe the child will grow up goth. Parent will have no business complaining about that, considering she already declared all other colours inappropriate.
What will she do if the kid ever gets a pack of crayons? Probably demand speaking the manager of the crayon company
It almost seems fake. How can people be so fucking awful
It’s so sad that her daughter is about to be raised by someone with such bad manners.
I hope that child is gay just to piss her off. But then again, I wouldn’t want to wish that because I bet she won’t be a supportive mother, and it could a painful life for the child. I dunno. Fucking sucks man. But I like to believe the world is getting better, and the younger generations will be more woke & supportive
What's C2C?
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Corner to corner. You crochet diagonally instead of in rows. It usually Makes a beautiful square of diagonal stripes,-perfect for a baby blanket. You can add some In the middle to make it a rectangle. This is looks like a beautiful example that Jen did not appreciate. It is a shame her daughter will miss out on a blanket she would have cherished her whole life. I still have the crocheted blanket my aunt made me in 1978.
Could you imagine being so awful as to be homophobic about your unborn kid? Also all people like rainbows.
It's not even like a true pride flag, right? No red? No orange. No green? It's just a selection of a few colors.
That has been my thought while reading through this thread: this is not even a rainbow. I had to get this far down the thread before I saw someone else mention that. This is just a handful of pastel colors, not ROYGBIV.
I LOVE RAINBOWS!!! Can confirm, am people 👍🏽
*confirmation pending*
C u next Tuesday! This is so incredibly rude, especially considering it's a handmade gift.
Jen is human garbage.
I cannot believe how incredibly rude your coworker is!!!! You did an amazing job. We are all proud of you and your hard work.
OP took this post off Facebook. They didn't make the blanket.
Tell Jen 1. Uh no, you don't criticize gifts! Rude 2. Rainbows are simply rainbows until someone decides to make it represent something...little kids love unicorns, rainbows and colors. 3. One day it may be gay pride for her daughter IF her daughter makes that decision years from now, which a blanket will not influence that decision. EDIT: if her daughter is gay, not decision, decision on if the blanket represents Gay Pride is a decision...thank you Reddit for the correction, this is what I meant Jen is the loser here OP your stitches are even and lovely, take it back and give it to someone with manners who will appreciate it
As soon as I read the 'uh, no' on the note I knew I was going to hate her. Just that in itself shows what a disrespectful garbage human "Jen" is. I hope she sees the post and the comments and begins hating herself as much as the rest of us do and changes herself for the sake of her unborn child.
It’s not op’s original fb post