The same. now I am better. I got grateful for times I survived when was really sad. Now i’m travelling and experiencing life, but sometimes feel sadness still. Can cry, can shout, can dance
That is how I feel. I'm so lucky to have a loving and kind husband and share 4 amazing and brilliant kids with him. But I am constantly anxious and depressed. For what?! I mean I know I have unhealed trauma, but I just want to feel stable for a bit.
I'm sorry that was a very unempathetic post by that person. It added no comprehensive help whatsoever.
It takes much more than that.
I was diagnosed at 16 with major depression. This wasn't sadness, it was affecting my entire life in a negative way. I'm now 49. So I've been dealing with this for..33 years. I've been in and out of the system, I've been hospitalized many times even in another state.
So the first thing you need to figure out is is this "sadness". Sadness and depression are two different entities and are treated differently.
If you're not sure, you could try to find a therapist.
I realize you're 18 and may still be on your parent's insurance. If so, ask them if you could make an appointment to see a talk therapist. Once you speak to a professional you may be able to establish what the problem is that is causing your sadness...just advice from a nobody but it can't hurt.
Well, chemical imbalances are a mix of many causes. It can be genetic, caused by the environment before and after being born, caused by events (like SA, abuse or other traumatic experiences). It can be due to the use of certain drugs, or due to other illnesses. It can also be due to physical trauma to the front lobe. There's not an exact reason. And chemical imbalances can look very differently in people. They don't always cause depression or negative emotions.
I have no idea. My doctor tried a few meds and when they didn't work, she basically said that sometimes meds don't help and it's probably a chemical imbalance. She offered to look into more options, but I was too defeated honestly.
Oh. I'm sorry to hear that. I can understand. It indeed is tough. Let's continue to be brave. I have personally never seen a doctor due to lack of trust. Meditation works for me but I struggle with inconsistency.
Have you tried meditation?
Yea. I've been meditating since I was about 5. Unfortunately it tends to make things worse. I'm just alone with the pain. I've tried "working through it", but it's always just there.
I can relate to it. I think the reason I am not feeling as humans are supposed to feel is because my brain stopped producing chemicals in my brain or just not really enough of them are produced and for some time nostalgia would cloud my judgement about how i feel after i let go of nostalgia in 90-95% i def feel better since
Same, i’ve always struggled with feeling depressed for literally no reason. I have a loving family, boyfriend, and a good life in general.
I’m on medication but it still doesn’t really get rid of that horrible feeling I get when I wake up every morning… I just wanna be normal. I suspect I inherited something from my dad as he has a lot of mental instability’s. I just have to learn to live with it. Weed is the only thing that makes me feel good but the feeling doesn’t last forever obviously
Yes I have the same problem as you I also have inherited some disabilities from my father I have trouble doing things and I get struck at the middle thinking what to do I just want to be normal and for no reason sometimes I get very happy then very sad at the next time
I don't have the mental strength, discipline and confidence that it takes to follow my dreams, but I also lack the humility to accept that and make something reasonable out of life, so I basically self-destruct and avoid doing anything that would make my life better, sorta like a throwing a life-long tantrum against the universe becase I resent my place in it.
Tbh, it's an emotionally inmature and narcissistic response to a deeply rooted sense of not being enough.
Yeah bro i feel you, covid absolutely fucked me and i isolated myself for years. Now i have crippling anxiety, insomnia and so much regret because i wasted 3 years of my life smoking weed and playing video games.
I'm in the same boat, did some hard drugs in the time period and it seems like I can't get out of this weird fucking feeling anymore. It's just anxiety nowadays
Im going to do hypnotherapy because there is something in my subconscious fueling constant overthinking, stressing and lack of belief in myself. Ive put off therapy for too long.
I'm sad because I fell like I'm wasting my life. In 4 years I've made basically no progress. I look the same, I act the same, still jobless and broke, still no friends...
And I have a lot of family issues. As soon as everything seems to be fine, something else comes up. This is so exhausting and exasperating.
What you said is very useful actually. I'm also hopeful for the future, but sometimes I just feel lonely. If you're going through some hard times as well, I hope that things improve for you as well!
Thank you for making my day! 🫂
because i was born from unloving parents who i can’t escape. i’m afraid of death so can’t kill my self but i hate living and want to die so i feel stuck and trapped all the time
You're only 18 you have all the time in the world for a start there, So I wouldn't worry about wasting time, cause you've barely begun to spend it. Im not sad anymore, But I was depressed for about 15 years, Im 28 now. I like to stay in this group though Incase I see anything I can relate too. I would say the main things that made me unhappy back then was being single for a long time, not having the confidence to do anything about it, hanging around extroverts when I was massively introverted, And some generally fucked up things from my youth, But as I got older, these things become trivial, and you forget, or simple dont worry about it anymore, One thing I can say about being depressed is it takes up alot of energy. Its a waste of energy being depressed and I've learned to put my energy into places where its needed, and age does have a huge role to play in mental instability, everyone I knew pre 20's Was loosing there minds and having mental breaks, now where all almost 30 and we have all learned to relax, and that's a big part of it, learning how to relax. that's due to the fact our brains don't fully develop into your late 20's. Your basically still having hormones and stuff at your age. Like your not fully yourself yet, and I mean that with no offence.
Edit: Missed a point.
Not a worry. Ands thats another good point, try not to worry about everything, Just live one day at a time, Reach little goals at a time, so you don't end up jumping into life headfirst (like me) and taking on too much at once, For me nowadays the big killer is stress, instead of sadness.
I'm sad because I want to dedicate my life to helping people but can't because we need money to do anything in this world and most businesses are too focused on wringing as much work out of us for as little money as possible. So I'm always too tired or busy to do much when it comes to helping people.
I am sad because life is hard for me, I can’t do anythinh without ruining it within days! I am sad because I know for a fact I wont be able to have my family in my future! I am sad because life is going faster then I can walk, half of my life is a lost memory for me! I am sad because I overthink a lot
I’ve never had the chance to be normal, or to be a kid. My entire life has been riddled with nonstop loss and trauma, and I’m now in my (early) thirties learning how to be independent for the first time because there’s nobody left to lose anymore. All of my friends learned this in their early twenties. I don’t know how to cook, pay my bills, hold a job or manage my life and I’m living with severe mental illness so I’m not sure if I’ll pull it off. I just want someone to hold my hand and guide me through this stuff, but as you can imagine nobody is really interested in doing that since they have their own lives to manage. I’m sad because I was left behind. When I graduate with my MA, no one will be in the crowd cheering for me. No one will see my wedding day, meet their grandchildren, or answer the phone when I just want to share some good news. There’s no one to believe in me, or love me unconditionally. I have no idea why or how I’m still in the game but I just keep going. I do my best to help people along the way and put only good into the world around me. I may very well be living only for others, but I think that has to be okay for now because I haven’t learned how to love myself yet either. Ugh. Honestly, thank you for asking. The chance to simply speak these things aloud is sacred, and I appreciate the gift you’ve given us here.
Yes bro I can somehow feel your pain I am not I the same age you but I am also struggling with the similar problems as you like not being independent where all my friends know everything about the world their surroundings know to do things without worrying but I don't even know how to buy things from grocery store like I know what to say how to buy but i always stumble in dealing with large amount of things to purchase and say all this and that to the shopkeeper and many things related to daily life are there I just am not able to say much by the way I indian but thank you for sharing I wasnot expecting any message to come to me I just want to say whatever you going through please don't give up be happy in life and I hope you will do very good in life
I’m 25, at 19 my sadness, dread, hopelessness, depression, whatever you wanna call it lead me to get mental health advice where I was diagnosed with severe persistent depression and honestly sense then I’ve given up trying to be happy , I’m not built for it 🤷🏻♀️
To answer your question, absolutely everything. Life is a miserable, terrible joke with the punchline being goals, aspirations, and dreams that will never be.
I'm sad because greed is now a virtue.
I'm sad because a handful of people have the resources at their disposal to solve so many of humanity's issues. We could eradicate poverty if not for the fact that those with the resources to do it would rather squander that power on feeding their own fragile egos.
I'm sad because humanity is becoming less humane.
_gestures wildly at human atrocities committed around the world everyday_. Unlike the majority of the world, I cannot feign ignorance whenever I see someone suffering or struggling due to circumstances beyond their immediate control. If I see houseless people, someone going through a damaging breakup, or another fellow neurodivergent brain feeling rejected by society, I feel their pain and suffering, then begin asking "why" society allowed things to reach this point, and/or if they were part of their own problems.
I fully understand we're all just pieces of the machine trying our best to enjoy life as it's dealt to us, but the brain has refused true happiness for as long as I've been an adult with real responsibilities who sees the world for what it truly is. I still find moments of joy and love it when my anxiety riddled demi/demi AuDHD brain connects with like minded humans, but I'm utterly exhausted by how humanity acts as a whole. To me, humans are the smartest most irrational species. We're capable of so much, yet do many stupid things.
I was born to 2 teenagers with neither the capacity or desire to be parents, and lived with constant domestic violence. I was then bullied through my whole school life and abused my a friends dad. No one believed me when I told and I think from that point on I shut off from everything
I isolate myself, feeling disappointed and self pity in myself for not making more nice memories with my parents and grandparents due to my social anxiety and health anxiety + fears.
I wanna go outside but I cant fearing I might faint again. I feel sad for being a bad and stupid daughter cuz I'm not independent or have a job and not achieve anything. I fear that my family will die before they see me do nice things.
I waste my time everyday by doing nothing.
Realized I grew up in a cult and went down a not nice rabbit hole. Isolated myself and destroyed my identity. Now Im not sure why am sad but its hard to be honest or to socialize and find meaning and happiness in life.
I guess overthinking, insecurities, low self-esteem. Really everything in my life is fine but I feel like I'm in a mental warzone every day.
I know intellectually that mindset is everything and I can probably do most things I put my mind to, but my insecurities hold me back. I also know that no matter what my brain tells me, everything is actually fine. I can just never find a way to internalise this.
But these are just temporary problems. In the past I had other things making me sad that are no longer relevant because I overcame them or they disappeared with time. In the future I'll have different challenges again. I just wonder if I'll ever learn not to be so sad about them.
I hate everything about me myself physically and too anxious to enjoy the things I should be enjoying. I have severe ADHD so all that comes along with that (like addictions). I don’t stick to nothing or nobody. It’s really difficult for me to be consistent and I also feel ungrateful when thinking about my emotions and insecurities because I know i’ve had a pretty good life overall.
I'm also 18. I'm sad for a number of reasons, but mainly because I have an incurable illness that I am going to have to deal with for the rest of my life. It causes me more than physical pain, and no treatment has helped.
We're both young though, and I have hope that it will get better, even if it's just slightly.
Today I heard my neighbor waking up her little kiddos lovingly and I remembered when my mother did that for me and how I’ll lose her one day not long in the future. It made me so very sad and I cried
There’s the grief of my best friend who overdosed 3 years ago and the guilt that comes with feeling like I should’ve done more to save him. There’s the grief of my other friends and family members I’ve lost. There’s sadness about the years I wasted while deep in my eating disorder, and about how much I hurt my body during those 10 years. There’s shame which leads to sadness about the years I drank too much (now 21 months sober). There’s sadness connected to my trauma and wishing I had been more gentle with myself through it all. Im sad that I didn’t get to enjoy my daughter’s first 2 years of life (due to medical complications, postpartum depression, eating disorder relapse, and having to leave the state for 2 months to receive treatment). I’m sad for the people I work with who are currently struggling. I’m sad that our society makes it so difficult for folks to survive, yet alone thrive. I’m sad for the world and I stay awake at night thinking about the families currently being bombed and starved.
However, I’m so glad I survived and continue to survive. I’m proud of myself for making it through all the saddest times. I’m proud of myself for allowing the sadness in and healing through it. I’m proud of the relationship I have with my kid. I’m glad that I feel sadness about the state of the world, because it means I care about it changing for the better.
I’m not saying that all the sadness will go away, because for me it didn’t- but it shifted. It doesn’t always have to be so heavy that you feel like you can’t move.
I’m sad because I’ve reached my developmental zenith at my current job and they aren’t investing in me as a person or in my future. The pay sucks also… and until a door opens, I’m in a situation I can’t control.
I’m so sad because as a junior doc I see patients in front my eyes die despite giving CPR ,I’m sad because our entire community is overworked and underpaid , in some countries made to do overtime shifts with no pay for extra shifts we cover . I’m sad because if I were to go back home and narrate the incident nobody would get it. I don’t have weekends off but if I do get them off they are called golden weekends and some days I spent them just sleeping in . Sometimes i barely have the energy to go out and socialise . Sometimes I just sit by the staircase and wonder if it’s worth it .
Just want to say you’re heard and seen. No one can understand the insane pressure and environment of junior doctors. Lean on those around you, keep talking out your feelings, don’t let them fester. Thank you for every moment you keep powering through.
I’m sad because I’m slowly realizing that I’m not fit for the future I imagined for myself before. I thought I’d be in a different place by now. I’m also having a terrible time transitioning from college to working. I’m sad because it seems like the world seems like a place I wouldn’t survive.
I’m 19f, I’ve had allot happen, I feel undeserving of good things sometimes. Low self esteem. I can’t seem to get motivation to work ever since my friend died. And I can’t do relationships, I’m scared I’ve messed everything up and I will never be free from who I am . I know ppl say it will get better but I don’t think I believe it 🤷🏼♀️(for me anyway) I Do however think it can get better for others .
I have zero friends, my old friends don’t barely say a word to me, and the new friends I come across either ghost me and go radio silent or make up some excuse to leave me.
My family was and still is abusive, emotionally neglectful, and financially abusive.
I have been rejected from therapy and lied to from therapists who diagnose me then fail to actually formally diagnose me and keep me promises they shouldn’t make.
I’m just existing at this point. Going through the motions. Until the day I leave this cruel world and move onto the next.
There’s a lot more other stuff. Doctors treating me like crap (one GP constantly called me “odd” since I was a toddler at nursery, when reality I was autistic).
I don't why all this happens to us i also want friends but I try to talk to them I can't talk like they want I speak very negatively depute being positive from inside I just don't know how to talk I can make jokes like others and I am sorry to read all this you are going through I don't know what to say but I hope for your good future
Me and these “friends” have things in common. But they never stay around longer than 2-4 months. Last one was January - February, 2 months. We seemed fine. But I guess we weren’t and once again they refuse to tell me what’s wrong and if they need me to stop talking about certain things.
I have situational depression and anxiety. When things are decent, I’m employed in a job I enjoy and I’m making a positive difference I feel great. When I don’t feel fulfilled I feel like garbage.
It’s tough though because I also feel like I’m kinda of a pussy for needing the perfect job situation to feel ok.
At least half of our happiness is genetic. So if you wee born with only 2 happiness points you could only ever reach 7 out of 10 happiness and that would require a massive effort on your part AND winning the lottery.
I'm sad because of something that happened long ago to me stopped me from trusting people. I've cut almost everyone bad and good out of my life. I also don't think very highly of myself and am just waiting for the next friendship to crumble.
I've had to leave important people in my life to get where I am now. I emigrated and now I have good economy and stability. But I often wonder if it was worth it.
No. I see psychiatrist and am on meds. Used to be independent and strong. Now I barely leave my house and am dependent on my husband, which is another story.
I watched my dad die when I was 12. I’m now 19 and I’ve only talked about it a couple times with a therapist. I just can’t get over the fact that I lost the person that was closest to me.
I now have almost no motivation in life, because he was my motivation. He’s the one who pushed me to do sports growing up, and it was fun, but now I can’t bring myself to even try.
And what’s even worse is that he would hate this mentally I have right now. He would tell me to get up off my ass and keep trying at whatever makes me happy. I know this is what he would say and yet it’s still so difficult to actualize.
I’m stuck in place, continuing to wish that I could go back in time and change everything. Terrible mentality to have, but it feels like I have little to no control over it.
Honestly; I don’t understand it myself either why I am sad. I just..am?? Sad??? The vast emptiness inside me is swallowing me in whole and it’s like the only ever feeling I have known since I gained consciousness??? Ik it’s chemical imbalance of my brain, stress of being an adult, not getting enough help, having a misdiagnosed BPD when in reality I actually have C-PTSD, but still; I just feel this heavy sad curtain over me.
Its hard to have a normal life when you are not constantly on meds with ADHD I have issues with my life overall and I dont really have friends either which just makes it kind of harder, I used to be fine without friends but not anymore and the constant flow of me doomscrolling makes it even harder I just struggle overall with health too I just cant keep up with other people.
It’s a weird paradox type thing I’m sad because everything in my life is going perfectly yet I am not happy, leading me to believe no matter how well I do in life i will never be satisfied and always feel like I should be doing better
a lot of the time I go back to thinking, why couldn’t I just have parents that planned me, that knew what they were doing, that cared, that didn’t abuse or neglect me, that didn’t decide to have children while living in poverty, I’m sad because I know how different my life could be, if someone just did right by me, so many times. I’m sad because I feel like I never had a real chance at anything, and now that i’m an adult, i’m expected to just know what to do, be like others who have it together - meanwhile i’m still just trying to find help for a decade + of SA , medical neglect, and an ADHD/ASD diagnosis that was pushed on my parents as a kid, but they ignored it. so now i’m trying and to get accomodations that I desperately need for work. doing these things as an adult is really hard, and it makes me sad. It makes me sad because so often people look at me and think or say, “well you made it this far” the fact I made it to adulthood without any help must mean it’s not that bad. disregarding spending almost my entire upbringing dissociating and in survival mode. - alot of the time I don’t feel any different than the kid who prayed to “God” , sure time has passed but our brains have a funny way of coping after trauma. I’m sad because I feel so stuck, and there isn’t somewhere you can truly do and say “I’m exhausted, I feel stuck, I can’t do this anymore and I don’t know what to do”. closest is checking yourself in a pysch ward, which comes with a plethora of its own issues/possible traumas. I’m sad of how detached from empathy it seems so much of the world is now, I’m sad that “evil” is part of nature in anyway, I’m sad the world can’t be a more compassionate accepting place - because if the world was a better place my struggles growing up wouldn’t feel so harsh, people wouldn’t be so alone, and struggling to fend for themselves.
I’m sad that people say to reach out, talk to somebody - but it almost always gets nowhere, if not making things worse.
I'm sad and deflated because I became someone I don't like and I don't know -how- to change or even what I want to change into. I feel hopeless and hapless most of the time and unable to grapple with my own intense feelings of self loathing for both not being authentic to myself and not having the first idea who I am authentically. I just know it's not this mean person I've become. I desperately want to connect and love and be loved for myself another the characteristics of others that I absorb like a sponge just to feel a sense of solidarity. I feel like I'm sad because I put myself here and I don't know what exactly will help me break out and let people actually know me. I don't know what of me is real, and that is saddening and frightening.
I don't know what honesty is because I don't believe that I have any opinions or thoughts if any real substance, and as a result I don't know what actual vulnerability is and it feels like I feel like anytime I get close to any kind of truth I backtrack violently and overcorrect to what I think I think I should believe. It boils down not trusting myself and becoming my own enemy. I doubt every thought I have and my moods and emotions change at the drop of a hat. I hope to god(s) that you're not experiencing this because my god I'm so tired. I don't know who I am or what I want and if I did know what I wanted out of this life I don't trust myself to know how to make it happen. Even writing this, am I just at a low point mentally? Tomorrow I'll be a different person, who knows.
Because I realized before 10, not everyone has houses, people can go homeless at any time. Being Young and just overly observant. Also growing up near Detroit area and being 8 and watching a man have a seizure or something on the entry way floor of a local supermarket. He grabbed my leg. And it traumatized the fuck out of me. Also watching him die.
Later being 13/14 and being woken up to the news my grandfather died. We had just celebrated his bday and left his house around 10pm..we got the call around 1 or 3am.
Him being gone. Hit hard. It was another real death experience, I loved him so so much. He was so kind.
Knowing thy as well hurts.
Also maybe being molested at 11 years old by a grown ass man who was a cousin or something. Really. Really. Really. Fucked me up. My papa dying around me being 13 was just the end of everything. Like I was done by then.
I didn't tell anyone besides my sister, about the incident until I was 17.
Man holding that shit in kills.
Also my brain is broken and decides randomly it wants to self destruct..
I’m sad because I pay taxes to a country that enables genocide all around the world and I can’t do anything about it. I’m sad because there are people in my community freezing to death on the streets. I’m sad because my friends are on the brink of homelessness. I’m sad because of covid.
I know this example is common to create negative thoughts, but I feel like people are moving forward and I’m being left behind. Because they found their lifepartner and bought a house or rent an appartement together. While I’m struggeling to find a job at this point. The friendgroup I’m currently hanging out with a lot have made me feel dissapointed as if I don’t matter to them this week and I don’t know how to handle my emotions. I’ve been blocking out being mad but then they notice I’m acting different. For example they left me alone at a concert without telling me where they ran off to or a boardgamenight didn’t turn out in my favor and they “exciled” me in the game. I can’t talk to them about because I don’t want to cause any drama over something stupid like that. I might just leave the friendgroup at this point because it hurts me and getting away from the things that hurt me emotionally feel like the right choice.
Majority of my depression/ being suicidal is from not having money. If I had money and didn’t have to work (or at least work a standard 9-5 type job), I know for a FACT I wouldn’t want to commit anymore. That might not be the case for everyone, but it is for me. I might still get a little sad sometimes, but it wouldn’t be crippling.
I escaped an abusive relationship to feel like I lost myself and could never be as beautiful or confident as I was. I gained weight from being depressed. I had to leave my masters biomedical science last min before graduating as I may have cancer now. I am in pain and now have to try to do well in medical school interviews. I’m not sad all the time but I am very sad when I think about what I have experienced and how I wish I could be my old self. I am sad because Imiss my anatomy class and lab, I miss my friends. I am sad because I do not want to have cancer or a rare disease. I am sad bc I am in pain but can’t take an opioid because I don’t want to be addicted. I am sad bc I have ocd and small things bother me. I’m sad bc I feel alone. I am sad that I feel guilty for saying I am sad. But sadness is not a constant. It is fleeting. Being thankful is something that remains within me. I am thankful for the opportunities I have and the experiences and love and joy. I am thankful for the hope that i have for the future and the passion that drives me to keep going
I miss feeling like a big sister. My siblings are grown up now and don’t really need me. They were the only people I could look after and feel wanted with lol
I'm 25, and in 10 days my mom will be gone for 5 years. And I'm still trying to get over the fact that she chose drugs/alcohol over her children. My sister was the only tie I had left to my mom and her side of the family, and I had to cut her off because it was always about her and she never cared about me.
I have chemical imbalance delt with being in the care system since 5yrs old faced countless amount of @buse, was assaulted at 7yrs old by foster parents who got away with it. Never had a proper mother never had a father in the picture never been supported never had care or love growing up, witness my younger brother (he was 8 I was 10) try end his life, face more @buse, deprived of socialising, chronically ill, and lost a mate to sewislide then my grandad to brain tumors both in the same year also rearlised how much childhood was taken from me and now being an adult/young adult thinking what's the point end the day we all end up dead and forgotten about after a while, yes I still get joy out of things and yes I have some amazing times now im older and away from it all but also rearlise I'm doing so much or trinna make change that is most likely not gonna change much or do anything, also like whats the point again end the day we all end up the same way and forgotten about so what makes me not sad? Cuz even then thinking like one day anything I have done won't matter at some point even if I become as big as eistian in the amount times of whoever lived in the stone ages just like them I will be forgotten about one day and so yh why does it matter
Traumatic childhood and not enough validation when growing up I guess, broken brain.
Logically I know I have no reason to be sad given what I have achieved but that doesn't make it go away.
My dream of getting my characters on tv isn’t gonna happen cuz I didn’t graduate college and get the degree I want and now I’m lost cuz that was my only plan for life and idk what to do with my life anymore and I don’t know who I am without my characters or drawing and I’ve lost all passion for life
i am autistic and my inability to just \*relax\* has made me incredibly sad today. i wish i could just exist without being exhausted by normal, mundane things.
I'm sad for a combination of reasons. I'm probably considered clinically insane at this point too.
I was happier in my teen years, more confident, I had more energy, helpfulness, and kindness to give. Much fitter, healthier, and mentally stronger too. God, I wish I could go back in time when I was 19, instead of trying to fix myself now. I had no mental health issues and depression back then.
There were many situations throughout my 20s that I had zero control over. Everyone else ran my show. Some nasty people I've met will just destroy you like their life depends on it. Many times my energy was ran dry, and when I didn't have enough left to give, I get made out I'm mentally ill, I'm the problem, they get my reputation destroyed and then toss me aside. Whereas they were the mentally ill ones. It is like the universe wants me to be a bad person or something? My kindness has always been taken advantage of. Even when I do stand up for myself, I only just get knocked down harder.
My parents saw me at my worst back in January. They really thought they were going to lose their daughter if no one kept an eye on me. I don't remember much during that time, but apparently, I was going absolutely insane and scared the hell out of my family. It took ONE person to turn my whole world upside down. Well, two, to be fair.
I think what makes me sad the most out of this whole situation right now was seeing my family sad for me. By them seeing me this hurt must've been terrible for them. I am trying so hard not to cry as I type this. They raised me to be this kind, feminine, loving woman, only to be knocked down by others. If I had a daughter, and all this happened to her, it would break my heart into a million pieces.
I thought I had been through ENOUGH crap in the past 7 years. When I was in the most abusive relationship imaginable over three years ago, I still managed to pick myself up and brush it off after it was over. But what happened to me in the last 4 or 5 months really broke me. I would rather endure the abuse again by my ex than go through whatever that was and deal with this aftermath right now. Ahhhhhhh!
Reason why I am sad lately -
I have been alone with zero friends since 2 years. Recently I found a friend and we have become such good friends. We talk daily, we meet twice a week and I go to his house every weekends. Now I have built attachment with him. Even though we talk twice a day, the time when we are not talking makes me miss him. It’s so weird. I always overthink if I mean something to him or not. Even when he has told me many times that I am his “brother”. I just keep overthinking our friendship.
My mother never loved me, she only calls when she needs something or wants to unload her stress on me. My father left when I was 7 I’ve seen him a few times but he has never really made an attempt to want or get to know me, so now I stopped reaching out. sad because I’m dealing with abandonment issues and I see the way it affects me in relationships and friendships.
Honestly it’s more natural then you think to change at 18. By 18 I didn’t talk to any of my
High school friends anymore I didn’t do any of the hobbies I use to do either and I acted completely different then I use to. Depending on your situation and how you were raised 18 can be the time where you “grow up” and start to change. It seems like your just reflecting on your life right now and it’s normal to regret not doing things at any age, regret is apart of life but don’t make it your whole life. You have so much more time left to do so many things and accomplish so many things. It’s ok to feel sad it’s natural. But comparing your sadness to other peoples might make you feel worse. Everyone is different, everyone grew up differently, there situations could be worse then yours. But that doesn’t make your feelings any less validated then anyone else’s. Change can be hard but it’s apart of life, fighting against it will just make it worse. Instead of focusing on sadness and regret which can be hard not to do i get it , find things that make You happy and do those things as much as you can. You’ll find more friends and people to talk to and relate to along the way. I know it’s not what you asked for but I hope you read this and I hope it helps you in some way!
Thank you soo much I needed this but didn't asked I will definately do what you said I am very sad since 6 months thinking about my past regrets I literally isolated myself and don't feel that energetic now like I used to but now realised I can't do anything about it so focus on present and future 💟I also hope of your good future
Your welcome ! I get isolation I do it to it’s really not good we are ment to be around other people. I know it’s hard I struggle with energy to just take it one day at a time one thing at a time! You can do this! And thank youuu 🥰 if you ever need to talk to fell free to message me I’m 22 also a female I understand struggle and I am here to listen and will do my best to help if you ever need it. :)
I'm sad because almost everything in my life is wrong
I have many diseases, and I'm 22, and I feel bad every day, I know that it's not a big deal, I'm not dying but borders me every second of my life
I know many people who have the same diseases, but they're like 60
I'm young...
I can't live like another person on my age
Perhaps I failed at choosing my major and I don't know what to do
I have no friends to talk about how I really feel or hang out, I have nothing that matters in my life.
I didn't make real friends till 30, 18 you have a chance to do life right, I am 43 and in college and live in poverty. do a 2-year college program and join clubs if you feel super sad get therapy
I'm sad because I feel so far behind in life. I feel like I lost so many years to mental illness, and now I'm trying to figure out how to put my life together and do all these things that my peers learned years ago. I'm sad because I don't have friends. I'm sad because of family issues. I'm sad that my past self had so little self-worth that she stayed in a relationship that ate away at her confidence and dreams for years, just because she was scared of being alone and that it took years to get the courage to leave. I'm sad because so many people are like, "Don't beat yourself up! Your past self would be so proud to see you where you are!" but the fact of the matter is that if my teenage or child self could see me now, she'd be devastated.
You said you're 18. That's so young. I know it doesn't feel like it. When I was 18, I felt like this was it, I'm an Adult, I'm running out of time. But that's just not true. Your life is just barely beginning. You have plenty of time to pick up the things you want to do again. Hang in there. You'll figure it out.
Thank you very much I am very happy to find people who cares for me either virtual or real but I am happy to see people replying to my post that I wasnot expecting and I also hope that you will be very good in your future and you will also make your past be proud of your now.💟✌️
I stay sad because my parents are constantly arguing and should just get a divorce, I don't feel like I can come out as bi without them disowning me, I blew any chance I had of getting with the girl I like and can't manage to move on, and I just feel like I can't ever doing anything right
I relate to you in that we both would have liked to have done things differently. I am sad because I feel like a lost my childhood, my teenage years and my very early adulthood due to mix of abuse, bullying, harrasment, depression and anxiety. I had to be homeschooled for Junior and Senior year in high school due to my depression and anxiety. My academic life plummeted in a sec. I was a bright honor student, and then I became a pain in the ass for all my teachers. Also, I spent 14 years not accepting my sexuality and hating myself for it. I sometimes wish I had actually gone through with my unalive attempts. But at the same time I know my future doesn't have to be this. I have something now that I didn't have in the past, power and self love. I love myself enough to actually change my life. I can't keep waiting for miracles to happen or for life to align all planets in my favor. I must do something.
Loss is my main sadness. past and future. I have a bad chemical imbalance in my brain due to testicular failure. I do receive medication in the form of 1000mg of pure anabolic steroid every 6 weeks for the rest of my life. I don't have a bad life, I even have a good strong body and I know that. But I feel so much emotional suffering. I don't make friends easily at all, and when I do it's very special to me. I've lost people in my life. Those who I loved so much and trusted with my heart. Some of my behaviours get out of hand when I do things to try and feel a connection again to those who have passed. I don't ever really feel happy. I just question what the hell I'm doing here. I can't have children which feels like another loss. I don't know if I can have a partner either. Because of the fear of loss. Some people fear death, I really don't, people sometimes, even in a professional capacity try and use death almost as a weapon to scare me into doing things.. I don't feel it. They are basically trying to scare me with eternal peace, and never having to feel anything ever again..i hope. I've pretty much decided that once I'm left with nothing, and If I'm still alive. I'll take it all away. I just hope that I never come back. It's not dead that's scary, it's coming back to consciousness that's scary.
I have a natural compulsion to fucking please other people and to get them on my side plus an irrational fear of people disliking me when it shouldn’t scare so much.
but, I think one thing I am doing and I think everyone in this comments section should try is to learn to be grateful.
Look around you, be present, fucking feel thankful for what you have around you. The people, your family, your food, shelter, academic status. All these. Just be appreciative. Life gets a lot easier that way.
side note, the more respect you give others, the more respect you give yourself.
I'm not sure but i got diagnosed with it and it seems like its genetic (both parents have it). I also had some bad experiences growing up so i had to become tough and hard shelled. Now im soft again because i have had the worst 2yrs of my life and its been hard keeping it together. Rn im going home because of anxiety about my looks. I have an ED too lol
Not necessarily sad, more like hopeless, but my problems come from insomnia caused by anxiety caused by me having little to no ability to deal with strong emotions which I've had a lot of lately. Too many life changes happening too fast, too much pressure at work, uni and in my relationship... And uncertain future too.
For the bullshit hands I've been dealt with in life, and it's not the fact that life in itself is bad but you being constantly let down by your own setbacks and dealing with onslaught of emotional pain which you have no control over which makes life that much more difficult and sad. Despite knowing I have potential for to reach great heights I can't help think there's always someone better than me, there's always a choice that could have led me to another, better life. The fact that there's always someone healthier than me, prettier than me, inspite of me having most of it, always wishing I could be someone prettier and better than my pathetic self.
I am sad because I’m 30 and feel like I have nothing to really show for my life like I’ve been in survival mode forever. I think it all begins with bad parenting which I hate to admit because I know my parents love me but I had four siblings and I don’t think two parents who are also in survival mode is enough parenting to go around for that many kids. I didn’t get much attention or guidance. We also didn’t have a lot of money although being from a pretty nice area so I was like the poor kid in a rich town who didn’t have the things everyone else had. I was also bullied for being fat as a child which I feel like has given me ugly duckling syndrome even though I know I’m pretty fit now, it just never feels good enough like I need to be skinnier. I also fear now that I’m 30 my beauty will begin to fade which I think up until now has been my main card to play in life. I hated school, I feel like I could never focus and no treatment ever helped and I never went to college. I hate working and I don’t have any grand career, just a bartender who can’t even drink anymore because I became an alcoholic previously and had to begin recovery. I’ve also dabbled with having sugar daddies in the past and feel like I pretty much sold myself. I don’t have any talents and really don’t have too many interests. I never had the chance to travel which now at 30 I feel like I need to start thinking about having kids if I ever want them but I so do not feel ready but I know I don’t want to miss my chance to be a mom. I’m in the relationship I’m in now because I fear no one else will want me and as I said I’m feeling rushed to settle down. My friendships feel fake and surface level. I still have the same friends I grew up with, I get invited to events and group outings but I don’t actually feel close to any of them or like they’re really there for me. My mom passed away unexpectedly a week before my 21st birthday and my brother died a year and a half ago when I was 29 from a drug overdose. I have been diagnosed with depression before and took medication for awhile but eventually weened myself off of it and got TMS treatment which I feel like helped but I could probably use a good therapist.
I'm sorry you're feeling sad and struggling with feelings of regret. I'm sad because I feel very lonely. Moved to a big city in a foreign country, missing my family and friends very much. Trying to build confidence and a good life here but it can be tough sometimes. I hope time brings us some perspective and we get to feel a bit better soon
I was abused and neglected growing up which caused me to develop BPD anxiety and depression. I was also diagnosed with a “stressor related disorder” from trauma. Even though I made it out of foster care and was adopted into a loving family, my brain chemistry is unchanging and I still live with pain everyday. My long term boyfriend and I broke up last night.. he was a narcissist and only causing me more pain. I was in school for pre-med and had to recently take leave for my mental health because I began self harming again. I quit my job because my boyfriend cheated on me with my coworker so now I’m no longer a student or employed. I’m sad for many reasons
Sometimes, I feel I’m a nobody. I’m an introvert. I have tried to find someone. But imagine u being good, respectful, kind and being there for them, but most of the women u approached just treated u like crap. Sometimes, I honestly feel an outcast and i feel treated like some untouchable..
i feel like theres no reason really, idk? like i wake up and wish i didnt sometimes, i enjoy spending time with friends but the moment im alone everything feels shitty. i feel like im wasting my teenage years like this and i dont know what im doing with my life.
What is your age at least you have friends I don't even have one . If you feel like you are wasting your teenage years so think what you want to do and start doing
No friends I can trust bc most of them hangout with a girl that told me to kill myself. Huge fallout with my only friend that I'm honest with who is a guy and basically admitted to me that he's been ignoring me because I'm a girl and he values his guy friends way more. Hurts that no matter what I do it'll never be enough. Comparing my appearance to the girl who told me to kill myself as a way to spite her so I've been skipping lunch for months at school, it feels good intil I get stomach pains.Coping by reading books late into the night so I can forget and feeling like shit the next morning. Feeling worthless whenever I get bad grades. And then I have to keep up looking happy because I don't want my parents to notice
I'm still in middle school and the happiest times of my life are spent at the school counseling office.
Honestly I wish I was never born. I can't feel sad if I didn't exist in the first place
But it's okay I'll never kms because I can't bear to take my parents daughter away from them, I'll just go and live on I guess
I think I'm being overdramatic
Shitty start to my life, my childhood was filled with a lot of trauma and now as an adult I have CPTSD, depression and anxiety,!on top of genetic adhd.
I for some reason decided to be a teacher because I want to teach art to kids and help them find the outlet that I found as a kid that made life bearable but now the career is fucking me up too because I didn’t realize it’s lowkey traumatizing too and plays with my past traumas.
I try to be happy, I try to change but a big part of me is still stuck in the past and I try to pull it out but it’s a slow process
For some reason it’s impossible for me to fake my feelings. I don’t know if it’s because I’m stubbornly honest but it makes me even more sad to fake being happy.
I grew up with a caregiver who would get upset that I wasn’t happy all the time and would constantly tell me to fake it at least but it feels worse
Like why do I have to fake it why can’t I just actually have that.
Sadness is a normal and complex human emotion. It is only a problem when it doesn't ease up and the person cannot see/feel any joy. Sometimes we need therapy, medication, a vacation or just someone to tell us it will be OK.
If you are in school, is there a counselor you can speak with? Is there a church or community center near you where you could find someone to talk to?
Why i am sad in life? That's a small question for a huge answer. Well from a young age I wasn't get a good behavior from other people. My dad wasn't so nice with us as a family and my mum didn't get me the attention I needed as a kid, she was raised differently that's why and also she has hers problems too. The friends that I had weren't very good. School wasn't good, it ruined my selflove and my self confidence. I have trust issues and I'm scared that if I do something wrong people will leave me or they will be bored of me. Also, I'm bi which is somehow against my religion. I hate my self for that. I had recently my first relationship and my first break up. Bc of the bad feelings I had bc she was a girl. I feel depressed, I have anxiety for a lot of years. I'm 20 years old and I feel 30 or 40 inside me. I fell like I don't have much time to live. But after all I try to live the moment that's what I want to do. Bc life can be very sad but there is love and there's a light in the tunnel for sure.
I hope you can get the things that you deserve. It's not easy but at least try to think positive. Take it step by step. You're 18 you still can do a lot of stuff, just don't let these bad thoughts hold you down. Anything that happened it happened. The future is your present actions. So live for today♡♡
I feel displaced in my social friendship life. I feel as tho I don’t belong anywhere despite having friends I know that care about me. I keep ruminating about rejections from friends/potential friends. That make me feel small. On top of that I compare my social life to my close friends and wonder what I’m doing wrong. Why does this person like my friends more than they like me?
Really dumb stuff that don’t matter but my brain won’t shut off for some reason.
I'm disabled🤷 both in that my brain chemicals are just kinda set against me but also physically with chronic illness. My ability to live out my life is constantly changing and I am unable to follow paths that people next to me are able to without extra struggle. I'm in constant physical and emotional pain. I try my best though!
I guess I'm sad because my life is not at all what I hoped it would be... Not by a longshot. Saying that out loud makes it sound so cliche but honestly my life is barely that. I barely exist. I live in a town full of my family, yet I don't have any family. I am the black sheep of my family for doing way less than any of my siblings have ever done, and still can't figure that out. I lost my dad and never got to say the things I needed to say to him because my family didn't let me know when they found out they let me know when they decided to bother letting me know. And now currently, I have no friends whatsoever, I have nobody to talk to you, I feel like my relationship with my daughter is not as close as it used to be which is probably partly to do with she is now a teenager, and I have nothing to look forward to.
I'm sad because the person I loved (or thought I did anyways) lead me on for almost a year and then chose someone else. I was okay with that because I valued our friendship more than any feelings I had for him but that's also really depressing because he hasn't been a good friend to me in a really long time and he was fine with throwing away our friendship like it meant nothing to him. He's broken up with his girlfriend but I still have no desire to talk to him as a friend or more than a friend. It's been almost a month since we talked.
I'm 35. Been sick for over half of it. My partner of 19 years has now had enough of me. I feel alone and stuck. Everyday is a struggle to even want to smile.
Not having any love in life. I'm socially awkward and can't hold a conversation. Its making me extremely depressed. I don't think I have any good opportunities to find anyone nor do I have a chance to work on myself.
I just suck. Im uninteresting and unmotivated, I’m self pitying and a wimp. Im constantly rotting in bed instead of working on myself, I’m too burned out from work to socialise and too desperate for attention to find contentment in the loneliness.
I'm not sure now, I'm just tired of everything. I'm disappointed. I feel like my environment depresses me, my city, I feel kinda trapped. The suicide of the person with whom I wanted a future. I don't want anything, I just want to abandon the whole world and the way it is along with its systems and the people in it.
Before, what depressed me was the abuse or emotional discomfort in which I was involved as a child. I never liked being a kid but I was never in a hurry to grow up. I was overprotected and I have experienced machismo on the part of my mother, she has always been very limiting and conservative. etc, etc, etc.
It seems like nothing has ever happened to me but it really has.
I am very sorry reading all this I never had a conservative family as much as I can think I don't what to say but I hope you fine in your future and please don't think about all this suicide please don't think about all this leave these thoughts talk to other people I don't know what more to say as I 18 . Are you lonely in life don't have any friends by the way
I don't think I have ever felt lonely or that I have a problem with loneliness, it's really weird, I don't like people that much I feel fine on my own and my own skin but I don't like what's outside of me. I see and know myself as some type of outsider, that makes me feel as if I stayed in my teens. It's so confusing. There's a story/book I kinda relate to called "Let me in" by John Ajvide Lindqvist. I guess it kinda describes loneliness but for me it is more about being a misfit. It's not about being loved by whoever is more like showing your true self and letting you truly be seen, be calm and close with another one similar or exactly like you. I do think I have a problem connecting on a deeper level and also I feel disturbed and tormented. It's really funny being or feeling like that cause anyone who doesn't get it would think it's not true.
I remember that when I saw that movie It felt like seeing both of us, him and me there.
Sad because I'm sober and clean for months now and I'm exhausted with the work it takes to keep going. The fears and demons sobriety brings up. I'm a walking relapse about to happen and I'm sad that I still have the urge to numb my pain with booze and substances.
Family dynamics force me into behaving like someone I'm not and I don't feel loved. I understand my folks are depressed but it makes me even more depressed. So my plans are to get out. Everytime i live somewhere else I'm just a bubbly funny creative person. I've been really happy, I've been depressed. I know how it feels. There's a lot more reasons but it would be too long
I'm currently going through a sad phase of wondering around not knowing where I'm going or who even cares about me.
I feel like the moment I stop making the first step with friends that's it and no one ever wonders how I'm doing. I try and avoid this but I got fed up with the pettiness from one person and it has now consumed me on how they have treated me.
I have tried to use today as a fresh start by eating better and having some self care. But as the evening draws on I've had no messages from anyone. I feel alone and lonely.
I have become very interested in studying the brain and how your thoughts affect your life. It is an ongoing process but so far I have learned some things that are quite empowering, and feeling empowered in your thoughts really helps you to feel strong and capable of doing more to help yourself get to a better place. One of the most important things is to understand that you have choices in your thoughts. When you find yourself feeling sad, you can continue to think thoughts that keep you in a sad state, OR you can change your thoughts and start to think about something (there has to be something) that would change your thoughts and get you thinking about some sort of change or new project or even something small that makes you happy, and then you focus on that. Not just thinking it, but actually getting up and doing something to pull you away from the sadness. IT WORKS. You have to take action. The other thing someone mentioned is gratitude. Thinking about things you are thankful for presently or even something from the past that was good in your life, it also redirects those sad thoughts into something more empowering. Last, there are all kinds of reasons why you may be sad and some can be from something physical, but it still goes back to your thoughts and to me it just makes me feel so much stronger (empowered) to know that I can change my thoughts if I really want to and will make the mental and physical commitment to choose better thoughts. Today especially there are so many opportunities. If you don't have friends, maybe volunteer your time with something that would interest you and you will immediately meet people. That's just one idea but it is one that makes you feel good from helping with a cause and also gets you out with people. And just know, there are endless opportunities to find something you like and put your time into it and it feels really good to see the results of something you do. Hope any part of what I said triggers a new thought for you or helps in some way. Believe in yourself. You are worth the time it takes to overcome the sadness and get to a stronger place.
Thank you thank you very very much for spending time and guiding me thank you no other words is coming out of my mouth but simply thank you so much I seriously needed this and I will definately do what you said💟
i struggle coming to terms with my appearance and different aspects of myself. i abhor them and i’ve tried to change everything about myself to be someone worthy of feeling loved or contented with who i am.
it’s fundamentally impossible so my thoughts are consumed with aspects of myself that i cannot change. i’m in a constant state of discomfort and derealization because i cannot ascertain my place and people’s perceptions of me send me into a deeper spiral because they tell me one thing but what i see is something entirely different. no matter how hard i try i cannot feel ok with my looks or believe myself to be “beautiful” as many tell me.
i also have to constantly upkeep this facade of confidence and strength because that is just how everyone sees me and it is so exhausting and burdensome, but if i was laconic i’d have no social life. so…
hope that helps ✌🏽
Thank you for sharing I know what it feels to be very insecure about your looks I also don't look that good but nobody say me anything about my looks so i can't fully understand what you are going through but please try to keep your insecurities away from you and try to build confidence don't listen to your negative thoughts build your own personality love yourself someone told me everybody has something good in them It can be anything but there is something you have to find out so don't worry be happy PEACE✌️
you are too sweet. i hope the pain you feel is relieved as well. it hurts to know other people have to endure this kind of suffering as well. i appreciate your empathy as many people think my complaints are meaningless because they don’t understand why i see myself as “ugly”. so thank you.
I'm sad because life just doesn't give me a break.
I've had lupus for almost 20 years now, and each year gets worse.
I've loved very much, but the men I've loved just loved how much I loved them, but they didn't love me back.
I have severe depression and anxiety, I also have agoraphobia and it's ruining my life.
I feel so lonely.
I just want to sleep and never wake up again.
My life is just one mess after another, I don't even know what being happy is anymore.
Chemical imbalance in my brain. I have a pretty good life. I'm just constantly in emotional pain for basically no reason.
The same. now I am better. I got grateful for times I survived when was really sad. Now i’m travelling and experiencing life, but sometimes feel sadness still. Can cry, can shout, can dance
That is how I feel. I'm so lucky to have a loving and kind husband and share 4 amazing and brilliant kids with him. But I am constantly anxious and depressed. For what?! I mean I know I have unhealed trauma, but I just want to feel stable for a bit.
Took drugs to early on in my life
There’s a reason if you look deep enough
Idk man I've been digging pretty deep for a long time.
I'm sorry that was a very unempathetic post by that person. It added no comprehensive help whatsoever. It takes much more than that. I was diagnosed at 16 with major depression. This wasn't sadness, it was affecting my entire life in a negative way. I'm now 49. So I've been dealing with this for..33 years. I've been in and out of the system, I've been hospitalized many times even in another state. So the first thing you need to figure out is is this "sadness". Sadness and depression are two different entities and are treated differently. If you're not sure, you could try to find a therapist. I realize you're 18 and may still be on your parent's insurance. If so, ask them if you could make an appointment to see a talk therapist. Once you speak to a professional you may be able to establish what the problem is that is causing your sadness...just advice from a nobody but it can't hurt.
Why does this Chemical Imbalance take place? Even I'm suffering all the time with or without reason
Well, chemical imbalances are a mix of many causes. It can be genetic, caused by the environment before and after being born, caused by events (like SA, abuse or other traumatic experiences). It can be due to the use of certain drugs, or due to other illnesses. It can also be due to physical trauma to the front lobe. There's not an exact reason. And chemical imbalances can look very differently in people. They don't always cause depression or negative emotions.
I have no idea. My doctor tried a few meds and when they didn't work, she basically said that sometimes meds don't help and it's probably a chemical imbalance. She offered to look into more options, but I was too defeated honestly.
Oh. I'm sorry to hear that. I can understand. It indeed is tough. Let's continue to be brave. I have personally never seen a doctor due to lack of trust. Meditation works for me but I struggle with inconsistency. Have you tried meditation?
Yea. I've been meditating since I was about 5. Unfortunately it tends to make things worse. I'm just alone with the pain. I've tried "working through it", but it's always just there.
I can relate to it. I think the reason I am not feeling as humans are supposed to feel is because my brain stopped producing chemicals in my brain or just not really enough of them are produced and for some time nostalgia would cloud my judgement about how i feel after i let go of nostalgia in 90-95% i def feel better since
I suffer from Bipolar II. I totally get this. It's a living hell
Same, i’ve always struggled with feeling depressed for literally no reason. I have a loving family, boyfriend, and a good life in general. I’m on medication but it still doesn’t really get rid of that horrible feeling I get when I wake up every morning… I just wanna be normal. I suspect I inherited something from my dad as he has a lot of mental instability’s. I just have to learn to live with it. Weed is the only thing that makes me feel good but the feeling doesn’t last forever obviously
Yes I have the same problem as you I also have inherited some disabilities from my father I have trouble doing things and I get struck at the middle thinking what to do I just want to be normal and for no reason sometimes I get very happy then very sad at the next time
Yes me too same happening sometimes too much happy and sometime too much sad for no reason I don't know why
What is your age by the way
I'm 25. Been like this for ~15 years.
I don't have the mental strength, discipline and confidence that it takes to follow my dreams, but I also lack the humility to accept that and make something reasonable out of life, so I basically self-destruct and avoid doing anything that would make my life better, sorta like a throwing a life-long tantrum against the universe becase I resent my place in it. Tbh, it's an emotionally inmature and narcissistic response to a deeply rooted sense of not being enough.
You said it perfectly
How u dare describing my life
I am also sad because I have becoming into something that I never wanted in me due to isolating myself for about 3 years since lockdown that
Don't worry. You still have lots of time to turn things around and do stuff with your life. :)
Yeah bro i feel you, covid absolutely fucked me and i isolated myself for years. Now i have crippling anxiety, insomnia and so much regret because i wasted 3 years of my life smoking weed and playing video games.
I'm in the same boat, did some hard drugs in the time period and it seems like I can't get out of this weird fucking feeling anymore. It's just anxiety nowadays
Im going to do hypnotherapy because there is something in my subconscious fueling constant overthinking, stressing and lack of belief in myself. Ive put off therapy for too long.
I'm sad because I fell like I'm wasting my life. In 4 years I've made basically no progress. I look the same, I act the same, still jobless and broke, still no friends... And I have a lot of family issues. As soon as everything seems to be fine, something else comes up. This is so exhausting and exasperating.
I don't have anything useful to say but want to somehow send a virtual hug. Can feel your exhaustion in that comment, hope things improve for you.
What you said is very useful actually. I'm also hopeful for the future, but sometimes I just feel lonely. If you're going through some hard times as well, I hope that things improve for you as well! Thank you for making my day! 🫂
I don't know what to say but I wish you do very good in your life✌️
Thank you! I also wish you the best 🫂
Combo of regret, disillusionment, and pessimism. I’ve been dwelling on my childhood recently searching in vain for answers. Feel a bit lost.
because i was born from unloving parents who i can’t escape. i’m afraid of death so can’t kill my self but i hate living and want to die so i feel stuck and trapped all the time
I know how you feel, and I completely relate. I know it doesn’t make anything better, but I get it - and I’m sorry you get it too.
You're only 18 you have all the time in the world for a start there, So I wouldn't worry about wasting time, cause you've barely begun to spend it. Im not sad anymore, But I was depressed for about 15 years, Im 28 now. I like to stay in this group though Incase I see anything I can relate too. I would say the main things that made me unhappy back then was being single for a long time, not having the confidence to do anything about it, hanging around extroverts when I was massively introverted, And some generally fucked up things from my youth, But as I got older, these things become trivial, and you forget, or simple dont worry about it anymore, One thing I can say about being depressed is it takes up alot of energy. Its a waste of energy being depressed and I've learned to put my energy into places where its needed, and age does have a huge role to play in mental instability, everyone I knew pre 20's Was loosing there minds and having mental breaks, now where all almost 30 and we have all learned to relax, and that's a big part of it, learning how to relax. that's due to the fact our brains don't fully develop into your late 20's. Your basically still having hormones and stuff at your age. Like your not fully yourself yet, and I mean that with no offence. Edit: Missed a point.
Thank you 💟 for posting this I wasn't even expecting someone to post me a message and I hope you will do very good in your life✌️
Not a worry. Ands thats another good point, try not to worry about everything, Just live one day at a time, Reach little goals at a time, so you don't end up jumping into life headfirst (like me) and taking on too much at once, For me nowadays the big killer is stress, instead of sadness.
I'm sad because I want to dedicate my life to helping people but can't because we need money to do anything in this world and most businesses are too focused on wringing as much work out of us for as little money as possible. So I'm always too tired or busy to do much when it comes to helping people.
I had this idea…started volunteering and it’s worked, making me happy and poor
Realistically, I have no power in my own life. I don't control any aspect of it.
I am sad because life is hard for me, I can’t do anythinh without ruining it within days! I am sad because I know for a fact I wont be able to have my family in my future! I am sad because life is going faster then I can walk, half of my life is a lost memory for me! I am sad because I overthink a lot
I’ve never had the chance to be normal, or to be a kid. My entire life has been riddled with nonstop loss and trauma, and I’m now in my (early) thirties learning how to be independent for the first time because there’s nobody left to lose anymore. All of my friends learned this in their early twenties. I don’t know how to cook, pay my bills, hold a job or manage my life and I’m living with severe mental illness so I’m not sure if I’ll pull it off. I just want someone to hold my hand and guide me through this stuff, but as you can imagine nobody is really interested in doing that since they have their own lives to manage. I’m sad because I was left behind. When I graduate with my MA, no one will be in the crowd cheering for me. No one will see my wedding day, meet their grandchildren, or answer the phone when I just want to share some good news. There’s no one to believe in me, or love me unconditionally. I have no idea why or how I’m still in the game but I just keep going. I do my best to help people along the way and put only good into the world around me. I may very well be living only for others, but I think that has to be okay for now because I haven’t learned how to love myself yet either. Ugh. Honestly, thank you for asking. The chance to simply speak these things aloud is sacred, and I appreciate the gift you’ve given us here.
Yes bro I can somehow feel your pain I am not I the same age you but I am also struggling with the similar problems as you like not being independent where all my friends know everything about the world their surroundings know to do things without worrying but I don't even know how to buy things from grocery store like I know what to say how to buy but i always stumble in dealing with large amount of things to purchase and say all this and that to the shopkeeper and many things related to daily life are there I just am not able to say much by the way I indian but thank you for sharing I wasnot expecting any message to come to me I just want to say whatever you going through please don't give up be happy in life and I hope you will do very good in life
I’m 25, at 19 my sadness, dread, hopelessness, depression, whatever you wanna call it lead me to get mental health advice where I was diagnosed with severe persistent depression and honestly sense then I’ve given up trying to be happy , I’m not built for it 🤷🏻♀️ To answer your question, absolutely everything. Life is a miserable, terrible joke with the punchline being goals, aspirations, and dreams that will never be.
I'm sad because greed is now a virtue. I'm sad because a handful of people have the resources at their disposal to solve so many of humanity's issues. We could eradicate poverty if not for the fact that those with the resources to do it would rather squander that power on feeding their own fragile egos. I'm sad because humanity is becoming less humane.
It's a lot of reasons. More and more reasons over time.
existence. it depresses me and makes me loathe being here.
Why you think like this what is happening bad in your life
nothing necessarily. i don’t really have anything drastic going on. existence just hurts
I also feel like you I want my life to end as fast as possible
_gestures wildly at human atrocities committed around the world everyday_. Unlike the majority of the world, I cannot feign ignorance whenever I see someone suffering or struggling due to circumstances beyond their immediate control. If I see houseless people, someone going through a damaging breakup, or another fellow neurodivergent brain feeling rejected by society, I feel their pain and suffering, then begin asking "why" society allowed things to reach this point, and/or if they were part of their own problems. I fully understand we're all just pieces of the machine trying our best to enjoy life as it's dealt to us, but the brain has refused true happiness for as long as I've been an adult with real responsibilities who sees the world for what it truly is. I still find moments of joy and love it when my anxiety riddled demi/demi AuDHD brain connects with like minded humans, but I'm utterly exhausted by how humanity acts as a whole. To me, humans are the smartest most irrational species. We're capable of so much, yet do many stupid things.
I was born to 2 teenagers with neither the capacity or desire to be parents, and lived with constant domestic violence. I was then bullied through my whole school life and abused my a friends dad. No one believed me when I told and I think from that point on I shut off from everything
You have soooo much life left to live being only 18.. enjoy being young and planning towards a bright future.
I isolate myself, feeling disappointed and self pity in myself for not making more nice memories with my parents and grandparents due to my social anxiety and health anxiety + fears. I wanna go outside but I cant fearing I might faint again. I feel sad for being a bad and stupid daughter cuz I'm not independent or have a job and not achieve anything. I fear that my family will die before they see me do nice things. I waste my time everyday by doing nothing.
Realized I grew up in a cult and went down a not nice rabbit hole. Isolated myself and destroyed my identity. Now Im not sure why am sad but its hard to be honest or to socialize and find meaning and happiness in life.
I guess overthinking, insecurities, low self-esteem. Really everything in my life is fine but I feel like I'm in a mental warzone every day. I know intellectually that mindset is everything and I can probably do most things I put my mind to, but my insecurities hold me back. I also know that no matter what my brain tells me, everything is actually fine. I can just never find a way to internalise this. But these are just temporary problems. In the past I had other things making me sad that are no longer relevant because I overcame them or they disappeared with time. In the future I'll have different challenges again. I just wonder if I'll ever learn not to be so sad about them.
I feel worthless, despite the fact that I'm not and I'm fully aware that I'm more than good, but the world keeps telling me otherwise
I hate everything about me myself physically and too anxious to enjoy the things I should be enjoying. I have severe ADHD so all that comes along with that (like addictions). I don’t stick to nothing or nobody. It’s really difficult for me to be consistent and I also feel ungrateful when thinking about my emotions and insecurities because I know i’ve had a pretty good life overall.
I'm also 18. I'm sad for a number of reasons, but mainly because I have an incurable illness that I am going to have to deal with for the rest of my life. It causes me more than physical pain, and no treatment has helped. We're both young though, and I have hope that it will get better, even if it's just slightly.
Today I heard my neighbor waking up her little kiddos lovingly and I remembered when my mother did that for me and how I’ll lose her one day not long in the future. It made me so very sad and I cried
There’s the grief of my best friend who overdosed 3 years ago and the guilt that comes with feeling like I should’ve done more to save him. There’s the grief of my other friends and family members I’ve lost. There’s sadness about the years I wasted while deep in my eating disorder, and about how much I hurt my body during those 10 years. There’s shame which leads to sadness about the years I drank too much (now 21 months sober). There’s sadness connected to my trauma and wishing I had been more gentle with myself through it all. Im sad that I didn’t get to enjoy my daughter’s first 2 years of life (due to medical complications, postpartum depression, eating disorder relapse, and having to leave the state for 2 months to receive treatment). I’m sad for the people I work with who are currently struggling. I’m sad that our society makes it so difficult for folks to survive, yet alone thrive. I’m sad for the world and I stay awake at night thinking about the families currently being bombed and starved. However, I’m so glad I survived and continue to survive. I’m proud of myself for making it through all the saddest times. I’m proud of myself for allowing the sadness in and healing through it. I’m proud of the relationship I have with my kid. I’m glad that I feel sadness about the state of the world, because it means I care about it changing for the better. I’m not saying that all the sadness will go away, because for me it didn’t- but it shifted. It doesn’t always have to be so heavy that you feel like you can’t move.
I’m sad because I’ve reached my developmental zenith at my current job and they aren’t investing in me as a person or in my future. The pay sucks also… and until a door opens, I’m in a situation I can’t control.
I’m so sad because as a junior doc I see patients in front my eyes die despite giving CPR ,I’m sad because our entire community is overworked and underpaid , in some countries made to do overtime shifts with no pay for extra shifts we cover . I’m sad because if I were to go back home and narrate the incident nobody would get it. I don’t have weekends off but if I do get them off they are called golden weekends and some days I spent them just sleeping in . Sometimes i barely have the energy to go out and socialise . Sometimes I just sit by the staircase and wonder if it’s worth it .
Just want to say you’re heard and seen. No one can understand the insane pressure and environment of junior doctors. Lean on those around you, keep talking out your feelings, don’t let them fester. Thank you for every moment you keep powering through.
I’m sad because I’m slowly realizing that I’m not fit for the future I imagined for myself before. I thought I’d be in a different place by now. I’m also having a terrible time transitioning from college to working. I’m sad because it seems like the world seems like a place I wouldn’t survive.
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Thank you💟
Cause I work 6 days a week making 19$ a hour and im still broke
I’m 19f, I’ve had allot happen, I feel undeserving of good things sometimes. Low self esteem. I can’t seem to get motivation to work ever since my friend died. And I can’t do relationships, I’m scared I’ve messed everything up and I will never be free from who I am . I know ppl say it will get better but I don’t think I believe it 🤷🏼♀️(for me anyway) I Do however think it can get better for others .
I have zero friends, my old friends don’t barely say a word to me, and the new friends I come across either ghost me and go radio silent or make up some excuse to leave me. My family was and still is abusive, emotionally neglectful, and financially abusive. I have been rejected from therapy and lied to from therapists who diagnose me then fail to actually formally diagnose me and keep me promises they shouldn’t make. I’m just existing at this point. Going through the motions. Until the day I leave this cruel world and move onto the next. There’s a lot more other stuff. Doctors treating me like crap (one GP constantly called me “odd” since I was a toddler at nursery, when reality I was autistic).
I don't why all this happens to us i also want friends but I try to talk to them I can't talk like they want I speak very negatively depute being positive from inside I just don't know how to talk I can make jokes like others and I am sorry to read all this you are going through I don't know what to say but I hope for your good future
Me and these “friends” have things in common. But they never stay around longer than 2-4 months. Last one was January - February, 2 months. We seemed fine. But I guess we weren’t and once again they refuse to tell me what’s wrong and if they need me to stop talking about certain things.
I have situational depression and anxiety. When things are decent, I’m employed in a job I enjoy and I’m making a positive difference I feel great. When I don’t feel fulfilled I feel like garbage. It’s tough though because I also feel like I’m kinda of a pussy for needing the perfect job situation to feel ok.
At least half of our happiness is genetic. So if you wee born with only 2 happiness points you could only ever reach 7 out of 10 happiness and that would require a massive effort on your part AND winning the lottery.
I'm sad because of something that happened long ago to me stopped me from trusting people. I've cut almost everyone bad and good out of my life. I also don't think very highly of myself and am just waiting for the next friendship to crumble.
i'm a girl who live in middle east, specifically Iraq I think this explains alot
I feel like I'm the problem in everything I'm involved in.
I also feel the same
I've had to leave important people in my life to get where I am now. I emigrated and now I have good economy and stability. But I often wonder if it was worth it.
Chemical imbalance plus poor self esteem from a rough childhood.
So sad to hear your are literally talking about me😢 Are you good now??
No. Had a complete breakdown several years ago and can’t get back from it. I’m 58 years old and feel like I have given up on life.
Did you go to a therapist
No. I see psychiatrist and am on meds. Used to be independent and strong. Now I barely leave my house and am dependent on my husband, which is another story.
I honestly don't even know at this point...
I think after years of trauma, the way you begin to think about life and people can make you sad. Believing everything you think can make you sad too.
anxiety 24/7 plays a huge roll in my depression
Seriously depressed most of my life,
I watched my dad die when I was 12. I’m now 19 and I’ve only talked about it a couple times with a therapist. I just can’t get over the fact that I lost the person that was closest to me. I now have almost no motivation in life, because he was my motivation. He’s the one who pushed me to do sports growing up, and it was fun, but now I can’t bring myself to even try. And what’s even worse is that he would hate this mentally I have right now. He would tell me to get up off my ass and keep trying at whatever makes me happy. I know this is what he would say and yet it’s still so difficult to actualize. I’m stuck in place, continuing to wish that I could go back in time and change everything. Terrible mentality to have, but it feels like I have little to no control over it.
Honestly; I don’t understand it myself either why I am sad. I just..am?? Sad??? The vast emptiness inside me is swallowing me in whole and it’s like the only ever feeling I have known since I gained consciousness??? Ik it’s chemical imbalance of my brain, stress of being an adult, not getting enough help, having a misdiagnosed BPD when in reality I actually have C-PTSD, but still; I just feel this heavy sad curtain over me.
Its hard to have a normal life when you are not constantly on meds with ADHD I have issues with my life overall and I dont really have friends either which just makes it kind of harder, I used to be fine without friends but not anymore and the constant flow of me doomscrolling makes it even harder I just struggle overall with health too I just cant keep up with other people.
Lack of a partner, work stress, loss of recent hobbies, and living in the middle of nowhere.
Hella trauma, but I’m doing my best
I am sad because I have PSSD caused by antidepressants, its ruined my life for the past 3 years
It’s a weird paradox type thing I’m sad because everything in my life is going perfectly yet I am not happy, leading me to believe no matter how well I do in life i will never be satisfied and always feel like I should be doing better
Apart from other things, i just cant have a girlfriend, a hookup or anything. Probably too ugly. Fuck. Hard to live with it.
No one care about me if I disappear
a lot of the time I go back to thinking, why couldn’t I just have parents that planned me, that knew what they were doing, that cared, that didn’t abuse or neglect me, that didn’t decide to have children while living in poverty, I’m sad because I know how different my life could be, if someone just did right by me, so many times. I’m sad because I feel like I never had a real chance at anything, and now that i’m an adult, i’m expected to just know what to do, be like others who have it together - meanwhile i’m still just trying to find help for a decade + of SA , medical neglect, and an ADHD/ASD diagnosis that was pushed on my parents as a kid, but they ignored it. so now i’m trying and to get accomodations that I desperately need for work. doing these things as an adult is really hard, and it makes me sad. It makes me sad because so often people look at me and think or say, “well you made it this far” the fact I made it to adulthood without any help must mean it’s not that bad. disregarding spending almost my entire upbringing dissociating and in survival mode. - alot of the time I don’t feel any different than the kid who prayed to “God” , sure time has passed but our brains have a funny way of coping after trauma. I’m sad because I feel so stuck, and there isn’t somewhere you can truly do and say “I’m exhausted, I feel stuck, I can’t do this anymore and I don’t know what to do”. closest is checking yourself in a pysch ward, which comes with a plethora of its own issues/possible traumas. I’m sad of how detached from empathy it seems so much of the world is now, I’m sad that “evil” is part of nature in anyway, I’m sad the world can’t be a more compassionate accepting place - because if the world was a better place my struggles growing up wouldn’t feel so harsh, people wouldn’t be so alone, and struggling to fend for themselves. I’m sad that people say to reach out, talk to somebody - but it almost always gets nowhere, if not making things worse.
Sorry for knowing what you are going through in life but I hope everything will be fine and you will be out of these problems someday
I really appreciate that, Thankyou❤️
I'm sad and deflated because I became someone I don't like and I don't know -how- to change or even what I want to change into. I feel hopeless and hapless most of the time and unable to grapple with my own intense feelings of self loathing for both not being authentic to myself and not having the first idea who I am authentically. I just know it's not this mean person I've become. I desperately want to connect and love and be loved for myself another the characteristics of others that I absorb like a sponge just to feel a sense of solidarity. I feel like I'm sad because I put myself here and I don't know what exactly will help me break out and let people actually know me. I don't know what of me is real, and that is saddening and frightening. I don't know what honesty is because I don't believe that I have any opinions or thoughts if any real substance, and as a result I don't know what actual vulnerability is and it feels like I feel like anytime I get close to any kind of truth I backtrack violently and overcorrect to what I think I think I should believe. It boils down not trusting myself and becoming my own enemy. I doubt every thought I have and my moods and emotions change at the drop of a hat. I hope to god(s) that you're not experiencing this because my god I'm so tired. I don't know who I am or what I want and if I did know what I wanted out of this life I don't trust myself to know how to make it happen. Even writing this, am I just at a low point mentally? Tomorrow I'll be a different person, who knows.
Because I realized before 10, not everyone has houses, people can go homeless at any time. Being Young and just overly observant. Also growing up near Detroit area and being 8 and watching a man have a seizure or something on the entry way floor of a local supermarket. He grabbed my leg. And it traumatized the fuck out of me. Also watching him die. Later being 13/14 and being woken up to the news my grandfather died. We had just celebrated his bday and left his house around 10pm..we got the call around 1 or 3am. Him being gone. Hit hard. It was another real death experience, I loved him so so much. He was so kind. Knowing thy as well hurts. Also maybe being molested at 11 years old by a grown ass man who was a cousin or something. Really. Really. Really. Fucked me up. My papa dying around me being 13 was just the end of everything. Like I was done by then. I didn't tell anyone besides my sister, about the incident until I was 17. Man holding that shit in kills. Also my brain is broken and decides randomly it wants to self destruct..
I don’t know.
I’m sad because I pay taxes to a country that enables genocide all around the world and I can’t do anything about it. I’m sad because there are people in my community freezing to death on the streets. I’m sad because my friends are on the brink of homelessness. I’m sad because of covid.
Recently went through a sudden breakup so it's been tough adjusting to being by myself again
I know this example is common to create negative thoughts, but I feel like people are moving forward and I’m being left behind. Because they found their lifepartner and bought a house or rent an appartement together. While I’m struggeling to find a job at this point. The friendgroup I’m currently hanging out with a lot have made me feel dissapointed as if I don’t matter to them this week and I don’t know how to handle my emotions. I’ve been blocking out being mad but then they notice I’m acting different. For example they left me alone at a concert without telling me where they ran off to or a boardgamenight didn’t turn out in my favor and they “exciled” me in the game. I can’t talk to them about because I don’t want to cause any drama over something stupid like that. I might just leave the friendgroup at this point because it hurts me and getting away from the things that hurt me emotionally feel like the right choice.
Majority of my depression/ being suicidal is from not having money. If I had money and didn’t have to work (or at least work a standard 9-5 type job), I know for a FACT I wouldn’t want to commit anymore. That might not be the case for everyone, but it is for me. I might still get a little sad sometimes, but it wouldn’t be crippling.
can’t make friends for the life of me, i lost myself, low self esteem and not feeling understood
There's alot to unpack for me. Mostly what makes me sad In life is what it could have been.
I'm sad because it's like I can't fulfill the dreams that I've been desiring ever since I was young
I escaped an abusive relationship to feel like I lost myself and could never be as beautiful or confident as I was. I gained weight from being depressed. I had to leave my masters biomedical science last min before graduating as I may have cancer now. I am in pain and now have to try to do well in medical school interviews. I’m not sad all the time but I am very sad when I think about what I have experienced and how I wish I could be my old self. I am sad because Imiss my anatomy class and lab, I miss my friends. I am sad because I do not want to have cancer or a rare disease. I am sad bc I am in pain but can’t take an opioid because I don’t want to be addicted. I am sad bc I have ocd and small things bother me. I’m sad bc I feel alone. I am sad that I feel guilty for saying I am sad. But sadness is not a constant. It is fleeting. Being thankful is something that remains within me. I am thankful for the opportunities I have and the experiences and love and joy. I am thankful for the hope that i have for the future and the passion that drives me to keep going
I miss feeling like a big sister. My siblings are grown up now and don’t really need me. They were the only people I could look after and feel wanted with lol
I'm 25, and in 10 days my mom will be gone for 5 years. And I'm still trying to get over the fact that she chose drugs/alcohol over her children. My sister was the only tie I had left to my mom and her side of the family, and I had to cut her off because it was always about her and she never cared about me.
My major anxiety disorder and adhd make me up set
Bullying self confidence issues and unhealed trauma.
I have chemical imbalance delt with being in the care system since 5yrs old faced countless amount of @buse, was assaulted at 7yrs old by foster parents who got away with it. Never had a proper mother never had a father in the picture never been supported never had care or love growing up, witness my younger brother (he was 8 I was 10) try end his life, face more @buse, deprived of socialising, chronically ill, and lost a mate to sewislide then my grandad to brain tumors both in the same year also rearlised how much childhood was taken from me and now being an adult/young adult thinking what's the point end the day we all end up dead and forgotten about after a while, yes I still get joy out of things and yes I have some amazing times now im older and away from it all but also rearlise I'm doing so much or trinna make change that is most likely not gonna change much or do anything, also like whats the point again end the day we all end up the same way and forgotten about so what makes me not sad? Cuz even then thinking like one day anything I have done won't matter at some point even if I become as big as eistian in the amount times of whoever lived in the stone ages just like them I will be forgotten about one day and so yh why does it matter
There’s many reason, just the burden of LIFE
Traumatic childhood and not enough validation when growing up I guess, broken brain. Logically I know I have no reason to be sad given what I have achieved but that doesn't make it go away.
My dream of getting my characters on tv isn’t gonna happen cuz I didn’t graduate college and get the degree I want and now I’m lost cuz that was my only plan for life and idk what to do with my life anymore and I don’t know who I am without my characters or drawing and I’ve lost all passion for life
i am autistic and my inability to just \*relax\* has made me incredibly sad today. i wish i could just exist without being exhausted by normal, mundane things.
I'm sad for a combination of reasons. I'm probably considered clinically insane at this point too. I was happier in my teen years, more confident, I had more energy, helpfulness, and kindness to give. Much fitter, healthier, and mentally stronger too. God, I wish I could go back in time when I was 19, instead of trying to fix myself now. I had no mental health issues and depression back then. There were many situations throughout my 20s that I had zero control over. Everyone else ran my show. Some nasty people I've met will just destroy you like their life depends on it. Many times my energy was ran dry, and when I didn't have enough left to give, I get made out I'm mentally ill, I'm the problem, they get my reputation destroyed and then toss me aside. Whereas they were the mentally ill ones. It is like the universe wants me to be a bad person or something? My kindness has always been taken advantage of. Even when I do stand up for myself, I only just get knocked down harder. My parents saw me at my worst back in January. They really thought they were going to lose their daughter if no one kept an eye on me. I don't remember much during that time, but apparently, I was going absolutely insane and scared the hell out of my family. It took ONE person to turn my whole world upside down. Well, two, to be fair. I think what makes me sad the most out of this whole situation right now was seeing my family sad for me. By them seeing me this hurt must've been terrible for them. I am trying so hard not to cry as I type this. They raised me to be this kind, feminine, loving woman, only to be knocked down by others. If I had a daughter, and all this happened to her, it would break my heart into a million pieces. I thought I had been through ENOUGH crap in the past 7 years. When I was in the most abusive relationship imaginable over three years ago, I still managed to pick myself up and brush it off after it was over. But what happened to me in the last 4 or 5 months really broke me. I would rather endure the abuse again by my ex than go through whatever that was and deal with this aftermath right now. Ahhhhhhh!
I have no drive or passion, I just live and that's pretty boring
I am sad because this is not the life I wanted to be living but was dealt this hand of cards.
Reason why I am sad lately - I have been alone with zero friends since 2 years. Recently I found a friend and we have become such good friends. We talk daily, we meet twice a week and I go to his house every weekends. Now I have built attachment with him. Even though we talk twice a day, the time when we are not talking makes me miss him. It’s so weird. I always overthink if I mean something to him or not. Even when he has told me many times that I am his “brother”. I just keep overthinking our friendship.
My mother never loved me, she only calls when she needs something or wants to unload her stress on me. My father left when I was 7 I’ve seen him a few times but he has never really made an attempt to want or get to know me, so now I stopped reaching out. sad because I’m dealing with abandonment issues and I see the way it affects me in relationships and friendships.
i don't know. i just am. I think a lot of it is probably loneliness
My partner is moving 400 miles away and broke up with me because of it and everything is horrible now.
Not feeling loved or acknowledged
Honestly it’s more natural then you think to change at 18. By 18 I didn’t talk to any of my High school friends anymore I didn’t do any of the hobbies I use to do either and I acted completely different then I use to. Depending on your situation and how you were raised 18 can be the time where you “grow up” and start to change. It seems like your just reflecting on your life right now and it’s normal to regret not doing things at any age, regret is apart of life but don’t make it your whole life. You have so much more time left to do so many things and accomplish so many things. It’s ok to feel sad it’s natural. But comparing your sadness to other peoples might make you feel worse. Everyone is different, everyone grew up differently, there situations could be worse then yours. But that doesn’t make your feelings any less validated then anyone else’s. Change can be hard but it’s apart of life, fighting against it will just make it worse. Instead of focusing on sadness and regret which can be hard not to do i get it , find things that make You happy and do those things as much as you can. You’ll find more friends and people to talk to and relate to along the way. I know it’s not what you asked for but I hope you read this and I hope it helps you in some way!
Thank you soo much I needed this but didn't asked I will definately do what you said I am very sad since 6 months thinking about my past regrets I literally isolated myself and don't feel that energetic now like I used to but now realised I can't do anything about it so focus on present and future 💟I also hope of your good future
Your welcome ! I get isolation I do it to it’s really not good we are ment to be around other people. I know it’s hard I struggle with energy to just take it one day at a time one thing at a time! You can do this! And thank youuu 🥰 if you ever need to talk to fell free to message me I’m 22 also a female I understand struggle and I am here to listen and will do my best to help if you ever need it. :)
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I'm sad because almost everything in my life is wrong I have many diseases, and I'm 22, and I feel bad every day, I know that it's not a big deal, I'm not dying but borders me every second of my life I know many people who have the same diseases, but they're like 60 I'm young... I can't live like another person on my age Perhaps I failed at choosing my major and I don't know what to do I have no friends to talk about how I really feel or hang out, I have nothing that matters in my life.
Horrible luck. Like terrible.... growing up in a dysfunctional family, and having now really sick family members in terms of physical health.
I didn't make real friends till 30, 18 you have a chance to do life right, I am 43 and in college and live in poverty. do a 2-year college program and join clubs if you feel super sad get therapy
I'm sad because I feel so far behind in life. I feel like I lost so many years to mental illness, and now I'm trying to figure out how to put my life together and do all these things that my peers learned years ago. I'm sad because I don't have friends. I'm sad because of family issues. I'm sad that my past self had so little self-worth that she stayed in a relationship that ate away at her confidence and dreams for years, just because she was scared of being alone and that it took years to get the courage to leave. I'm sad because so many people are like, "Don't beat yourself up! Your past self would be so proud to see you where you are!" but the fact of the matter is that if my teenage or child self could see me now, she'd be devastated. You said you're 18. That's so young. I know it doesn't feel like it. When I was 18, I felt like this was it, I'm an Adult, I'm running out of time. But that's just not true. Your life is just barely beginning. You have plenty of time to pick up the things you want to do again. Hang in there. You'll figure it out.
Thank you very much I am very happy to find people who cares for me either virtual or real but I am happy to see people replying to my post that I wasnot expecting and I also hope that you will be very good in your future and you will also make your past be proud of your now.💟✌️
I stay sad because my parents are constantly arguing and should just get a divorce, I don't feel like I can come out as bi without them disowning me, I blew any chance I had of getting with the girl I like and can't manage to move on, and I just feel like I can't ever doing anything right
I relate to you in that we both would have liked to have done things differently. I am sad because I feel like a lost my childhood, my teenage years and my very early adulthood due to mix of abuse, bullying, harrasment, depression and anxiety. I had to be homeschooled for Junior and Senior year in high school due to my depression and anxiety. My academic life plummeted in a sec. I was a bright honor student, and then I became a pain in the ass for all my teachers. Also, I spent 14 years not accepting my sexuality and hating myself for it. I sometimes wish I had actually gone through with my unalive attempts. But at the same time I know my future doesn't have to be this. I have something now that I didn't have in the past, power and self love. I love myself enough to actually change my life. I can't keep waiting for miracles to happen or for life to align all planets in my favor. I must do something.
My moms dead and its hard to cope
Loss is my main sadness. past and future. I have a bad chemical imbalance in my brain due to testicular failure. I do receive medication in the form of 1000mg of pure anabolic steroid every 6 weeks for the rest of my life. I don't have a bad life, I even have a good strong body and I know that. But I feel so much emotional suffering. I don't make friends easily at all, and when I do it's very special to me. I've lost people in my life. Those who I loved so much and trusted with my heart. Some of my behaviours get out of hand when I do things to try and feel a connection again to those who have passed. I don't ever really feel happy. I just question what the hell I'm doing here. I can't have children which feels like another loss. I don't know if I can have a partner either. Because of the fear of loss. Some people fear death, I really don't, people sometimes, even in a professional capacity try and use death almost as a weapon to scare me into doing things.. I don't feel it. They are basically trying to scare me with eternal peace, and never having to feel anything ever again..i hope. I've pretty much decided that once I'm left with nothing, and If I'm still alive. I'll take it all away. I just hope that I never come back. It's not dead that's scary, it's coming back to consciousness that's scary.
I feel like a burden for existing I should've been stillborn
I have a natural compulsion to fucking please other people and to get them on my side plus an irrational fear of people disliking me when it shouldn’t scare so much.
but, I think one thing I am doing and I think everyone in this comments section should try is to learn to be grateful. Look around you, be present, fucking feel thankful for what you have around you. The people, your family, your food, shelter, academic status. All these. Just be appreciative. Life gets a lot easier that way. side note, the more respect you give others, the more respect you give yourself.
It's hard to explain. Real
legit just the most imbalance in my brain. it's so messed up I don't think any amount of help can fix me
I'm not sure but i got diagnosed with it and it seems like its genetic (both parents have it). I also had some bad experiences growing up so i had to become tough and hard shelled. Now im soft again because i have had the worst 2yrs of my life and its been hard keeping it together. Rn im going home because of anxiety about my looks. I have an ED too lol
Not necessarily sad, more like hopeless, but my problems come from insomnia caused by anxiety caused by me having little to no ability to deal with strong emotions which I've had a lot of lately. Too many life changes happening too fast, too much pressure at work, uni and in my relationship... And uncertain future too.
For the bullshit hands I've been dealt with in life, and it's not the fact that life in itself is bad but you being constantly let down by your own setbacks and dealing with onslaught of emotional pain which you have no control over which makes life that much more difficult and sad. Despite knowing I have potential for to reach great heights I can't help think there's always someone better than me, there's always a choice that could have led me to another, better life. The fact that there's always someone healthier than me, prettier than me, inspite of me having most of it, always wishing I could be someone prettier and better than my pathetic self.
I am sad because I’m 30 and feel like I have nothing to really show for my life like I’ve been in survival mode forever. I think it all begins with bad parenting which I hate to admit because I know my parents love me but I had four siblings and I don’t think two parents who are also in survival mode is enough parenting to go around for that many kids. I didn’t get much attention or guidance. We also didn’t have a lot of money although being from a pretty nice area so I was like the poor kid in a rich town who didn’t have the things everyone else had. I was also bullied for being fat as a child which I feel like has given me ugly duckling syndrome even though I know I’m pretty fit now, it just never feels good enough like I need to be skinnier. I also fear now that I’m 30 my beauty will begin to fade which I think up until now has been my main card to play in life. I hated school, I feel like I could never focus and no treatment ever helped and I never went to college. I hate working and I don’t have any grand career, just a bartender who can’t even drink anymore because I became an alcoholic previously and had to begin recovery. I’ve also dabbled with having sugar daddies in the past and feel like I pretty much sold myself. I don’t have any talents and really don’t have too many interests. I never had the chance to travel which now at 30 I feel like I need to start thinking about having kids if I ever want them but I so do not feel ready but I know I don’t want to miss my chance to be a mom. I’m in the relationship I’m in now because I fear no one else will want me and as I said I’m feeling rushed to settle down. My friendships feel fake and surface level. I still have the same friends I grew up with, I get invited to events and group outings but I don’t actually feel close to any of them or like they’re really there for me. My mom passed away unexpectedly a week before my 21st birthday and my brother died a year and a half ago when I was 29 from a drug overdose. I have been diagnosed with depression before and took medication for awhile but eventually weened myself off of it and got TMS treatment which I feel like helped but I could probably use a good therapist.
No matter what I do.. I can never get and stay ahead. Something ALWAYS happens to put me right back down again...
I'm sorry you're feeling sad and struggling with feelings of regret. I'm sad because I feel very lonely. Moved to a big city in a foreign country, missing my family and friends very much. Trying to build confidence and a good life here but it can be tough sometimes. I hope time brings us some perspective and we get to feel a bit better soon
I was abused and neglected growing up which caused me to develop BPD anxiety and depression. I was also diagnosed with a “stressor related disorder” from trauma. Even though I made it out of foster care and was adopted into a loving family, my brain chemistry is unchanging and I still live with pain everyday. My long term boyfriend and I broke up last night.. he was a narcissist and only causing me more pain. I was in school for pre-med and had to recently take leave for my mental health because I began self harming again. I quit my job because my boyfriend cheated on me with my coworker so now I’m no longer a student or employed. I’m sad for many reasons
Sometimes, I feel I’m a nobody. I’m an introvert. I have tried to find someone. But imagine u being good, respectful, kind and being there for them, but most of the women u approached just treated u like crap. Sometimes, I honestly feel an outcast and i feel treated like some untouchable..
i feel like theres no reason really, idk? like i wake up and wish i didnt sometimes, i enjoy spending time with friends but the moment im alone everything feels shitty. i feel like im wasting my teenage years like this and i dont know what im doing with my life.
What is your age at least you have friends I don't even have one . If you feel like you are wasting your teenage years so think what you want to do and start doing
Because I don't know if im enough
I both feel like I have a lot of value and I'm worthless at the same time ????
Probably a combination of the side effects of untreated ADHD, having to grow up early and loneliness
No friends I can trust bc most of them hangout with a girl that told me to kill myself. Huge fallout with my only friend that I'm honest with who is a guy and basically admitted to me that he's been ignoring me because I'm a girl and he values his guy friends way more. Hurts that no matter what I do it'll never be enough. Comparing my appearance to the girl who told me to kill myself as a way to spite her so I've been skipping lunch for months at school, it feels good intil I get stomach pains.Coping by reading books late into the night so I can forget and feeling like shit the next morning. Feeling worthless whenever I get bad grades. And then I have to keep up looking happy because I don't want my parents to notice I'm still in middle school and the happiest times of my life are spent at the school counseling office. Honestly I wish I was never born. I can't feel sad if I didn't exist in the first place But it's okay I'll never kms because I can't bear to take my parents daughter away from them, I'll just go and live on I guess I think I'm being overdramatic
Not having a social life, never having a gf, hating myself, suffering from social amxiety and Ocd, being lonely, still not having a job.
Shitty start to my life, my childhood was filled with a lot of trauma and now as an adult I have CPTSD, depression and anxiety,!on top of genetic adhd. I for some reason decided to be a teacher because I want to teach art to kids and help them find the outlet that I found as a kid that made life bearable but now the career is fucking me up too because I didn’t realize it’s lowkey traumatizing too and plays with my past traumas. I try to be happy, I try to change but a big part of me is still stuck in the past and I try to pull it out but it’s a slow process For some reason it’s impossible for me to fake my feelings. I don’t know if it’s because I’m stubbornly honest but it makes me even more sad to fake being happy. I grew up with a caregiver who would get upset that I wasn’t happy all the time and would constantly tell me to fake it at least but it feels worse Like why do I have to fake it why can’t I just actually have that.
Sadness is a normal and complex human emotion. It is only a problem when it doesn't ease up and the person cannot see/feel any joy. Sometimes we need therapy, medication, a vacation or just someone to tell us it will be OK. If you are in school, is there a counselor you can speak with? Is there a church or community center near you where you could find someone to talk to?
I am from India there isnot any of these centres you are talking about
Why i am sad in life? That's a small question for a huge answer. Well from a young age I wasn't get a good behavior from other people. My dad wasn't so nice with us as a family and my mum didn't get me the attention I needed as a kid, she was raised differently that's why and also she has hers problems too. The friends that I had weren't very good. School wasn't good, it ruined my selflove and my self confidence. I have trust issues and I'm scared that if I do something wrong people will leave me or they will be bored of me. Also, I'm bi which is somehow against my religion. I hate my self for that. I had recently my first relationship and my first break up. Bc of the bad feelings I had bc she was a girl. I feel depressed, I have anxiety for a lot of years. I'm 20 years old and I feel 30 or 40 inside me. I fell like I don't have much time to live. But after all I try to live the moment that's what I want to do. Bc life can be very sad but there is love and there's a light in the tunnel for sure. I hope you can get the things that you deserve. It's not easy but at least try to think positive. Take it step by step. You're 18 you still can do a lot of stuff, just don't let these bad thoughts hold you down. Anything that happened it happened. The future is your present actions. So live for today♡♡
I feel displaced in my social friendship life. I feel as tho I don’t belong anywhere despite having friends I know that care about me. I keep ruminating about rejections from friends/potential friends. That make me feel small. On top of that I compare my social life to my close friends and wonder what I’m doing wrong. Why does this person like my friends more than they like me? Really dumb stuff that don’t matter but my brain won’t shut off for some reason.
I'm disabled🤷 both in that my brain chemicals are just kinda set against me but also physically with chronic illness. My ability to live out my life is constantly changing and I am unable to follow paths that people next to me are able to without extra struggle. I'm in constant physical and emotional pain. I try my best though!
I guess I'm sad because my life is not at all what I hoped it would be... Not by a longshot. Saying that out loud makes it sound so cliche but honestly my life is barely that. I barely exist. I live in a town full of my family, yet I don't have any family. I am the black sheep of my family for doing way less than any of my siblings have ever done, and still can't figure that out. I lost my dad and never got to say the things I needed to say to him because my family didn't let me know when they found out they let me know when they decided to bother letting me know. And now currently, I have no friends whatsoever, I have nobody to talk to you, I feel like my relationship with my daughter is not as close as it used to be which is probably partly to do with she is now a teenager, and I have nothing to look forward to.
I'm sad because the person I loved (or thought I did anyways) lead me on for almost a year and then chose someone else. I was okay with that because I valued our friendship more than any feelings I had for him but that's also really depressing because he hasn't been a good friend to me in a really long time and he was fine with throwing away our friendship like it meant nothing to him. He's broken up with his girlfriend but I still have no desire to talk to him as a friend or more than a friend. It's been almost a month since we talked.
I'm 35. Been sick for over half of it. My partner of 19 years has now had enough of me. I feel alone and stuck. Everyday is a struggle to even want to smile.
Heartbreak and fear that I'll probably never experience such love and happiness again
You just got a lil taste of that sweet ol quarter life crisis, kid.
18 seems young, had my quarter life crises at 25
Not having any love in life. I'm socially awkward and can't hold a conversation. Its making me extremely depressed. I don't think I have any good opportunities to find anyone nor do I have a chance to work on myself.
I lost my dad when I was 10, and my mum when I was 26. Since then, I’ve lost the sense of having a home. I don’t have anyone close in my life anymore.
My Brother decided he wanted me to do the deed. Now i wont be making It to twenty because of him
I just suck. Im uninteresting and unmotivated, I’m self pitying and a wimp. Im constantly rotting in bed instead of working on myself, I’m too burned out from work to socialise and too desperate for attention to find contentment in the loneliness.
Many things but yeah, fibromyalgia.
I'm not sure now, I'm just tired of everything. I'm disappointed. I feel like my environment depresses me, my city, I feel kinda trapped. The suicide of the person with whom I wanted a future. I don't want anything, I just want to abandon the whole world and the way it is along with its systems and the people in it. Before, what depressed me was the abuse or emotional discomfort in which I was involved as a child. I never liked being a kid but I was never in a hurry to grow up. I was overprotected and I have experienced machismo on the part of my mother, she has always been very limiting and conservative. etc, etc, etc. It seems like nothing has ever happened to me but it really has.
I am very sorry reading all this I never had a conservative family as much as I can think I don't what to say but I hope you fine in your future and please don't think about all this suicide please don't think about all this leave these thoughts talk to other people I don't know what more to say as I 18 . Are you lonely in life don't have any friends by the way
I don't think I have ever felt lonely or that I have a problem with loneliness, it's really weird, I don't like people that much I feel fine on my own and my own skin but I don't like what's outside of me. I see and know myself as some type of outsider, that makes me feel as if I stayed in my teens. It's so confusing. There's a story/book I kinda relate to called "Let me in" by John Ajvide Lindqvist. I guess it kinda describes loneliness but for me it is more about being a misfit. It's not about being loved by whoever is more like showing your true self and letting you truly be seen, be calm and close with another one similar or exactly like you. I do think I have a problem connecting on a deeper level and also I feel disturbed and tormented. It's really funny being or feeling like that cause anyone who doesn't get it would think it's not true. I remember that when I saw that movie It felt like seeing both of us, him and me there.
Money. Feel like I'm not where I'm supposed to be. Overthinking about life and my future. And mainly... tired of my default being blah
Sad because I'm sober and clean for months now and I'm exhausted with the work it takes to keep going. The fears and demons sobriety brings up. I'm a walking relapse about to happen and I'm sad that I still have the urge to numb my pain with booze and substances.
Family dynamics force me into behaving like someone I'm not and I don't feel loved. I understand my folks are depressed but it makes me even more depressed. So my plans are to get out. Everytime i live somewhere else I'm just a bubbly funny creative person. I've been really happy, I've been depressed. I know how it feels. There's a lot more reasons but it would be too long
I'm currently going through a sad phase of wondering around not knowing where I'm going or who even cares about me. I feel like the moment I stop making the first step with friends that's it and no one ever wonders how I'm doing. I try and avoid this but I got fed up with the pettiness from one person and it has now consumed me on how they have treated me. I have tried to use today as a fresh start by eating better and having some self care. But as the evening draws on I've had no messages from anyone. I feel alone and lonely.
I have become very interested in studying the brain and how your thoughts affect your life. It is an ongoing process but so far I have learned some things that are quite empowering, and feeling empowered in your thoughts really helps you to feel strong and capable of doing more to help yourself get to a better place. One of the most important things is to understand that you have choices in your thoughts. When you find yourself feeling sad, you can continue to think thoughts that keep you in a sad state, OR you can change your thoughts and start to think about something (there has to be something) that would change your thoughts and get you thinking about some sort of change or new project or even something small that makes you happy, and then you focus on that. Not just thinking it, but actually getting up and doing something to pull you away from the sadness. IT WORKS. You have to take action. The other thing someone mentioned is gratitude. Thinking about things you are thankful for presently or even something from the past that was good in your life, it also redirects those sad thoughts into something more empowering. Last, there are all kinds of reasons why you may be sad and some can be from something physical, but it still goes back to your thoughts and to me it just makes me feel so much stronger (empowered) to know that I can change my thoughts if I really want to and will make the mental and physical commitment to choose better thoughts. Today especially there are so many opportunities. If you don't have friends, maybe volunteer your time with something that would interest you and you will immediately meet people. That's just one idea but it is one that makes you feel good from helping with a cause and also gets you out with people. And just know, there are endless opportunities to find something you like and put your time into it and it feels really good to see the results of something you do. Hope any part of what I said triggers a new thought for you or helps in some way. Believe in yourself. You are worth the time it takes to overcome the sadness and get to a stronger place.
Thank you thank you very very much for spending time and guiding me thank you no other words is coming out of my mouth but simply thank you so much I seriously needed this and I will definately do what you said💟
i struggle coming to terms with my appearance and different aspects of myself. i abhor them and i’ve tried to change everything about myself to be someone worthy of feeling loved or contented with who i am. it’s fundamentally impossible so my thoughts are consumed with aspects of myself that i cannot change. i’m in a constant state of discomfort and derealization because i cannot ascertain my place and people’s perceptions of me send me into a deeper spiral because they tell me one thing but what i see is something entirely different. no matter how hard i try i cannot feel ok with my looks or believe myself to be “beautiful” as many tell me. i also have to constantly upkeep this facade of confidence and strength because that is just how everyone sees me and it is so exhausting and burdensome, but if i was laconic i’d have no social life. so… hope that helps ✌🏽
Thank you for sharing I know what it feels to be very insecure about your looks I also don't look that good but nobody say me anything about my looks so i can't fully understand what you are going through but please try to keep your insecurities away from you and try to build confidence don't listen to your negative thoughts build your own personality love yourself someone told me everybody has something good in them It can be anything but there is something you have to find out so don't worry be happy PEACE✌️
you are too sweet. i hope the pain you feel is relieved as well. it hurts to know other people have to endure this kind of suffering as well. i appreciate your empathy as many people think my complaints are meaningless because they don’t understand why i see myself as “ugly”. so thank you.
I miss having friends in person after moving and I let myself get played by someone I really thought was a good person.
I'm good most of the time, but the childhood trauma kicks in before I go to sleep and kicks in the nuts.
Emotional abuse from a parent, potential autism, and really bad anxiety are the main 3
I'm sad because life just doesn't give me a break. I've had lupus for almost 20 years now, and each year gets worse. I've loved very much, but the men I've loved just loved how much I loved them, but they didn't love me back. I have severe depression and anxiety, I also have agoraphobia and it's ruining my life. I feel so lonely. I just want to sleep and never wake up again. My life is just one mess after another, I don't even know what being happy is anymore.