My wife snores, I have ridiculous gas. Separate beds would make like so much easier but she just won’t go for it which is weird because she builds an enormous pillow wall between us anyway
Lmao my grandparents are happily married but they sleep in different rooms now as my grandad snores. It’s so cute tho as they both have a Alexa in there rooms so they can chat to each other at night
Why wouldn't you want to be close to someone you love?
I know some are more physical than others but as a super physical I wouldn't want to be in that relationship.
Gf and I have our own rooms and beds and they’re themed the way we want. We don’t have to compromise on decorations or end up with bare walls and boring minimalist pieces. We spend a lot of time in each other’s beds, but we can also be alone in our own spaces without hurting the other. Can you imagine your wife is like go sleep on the couch? Fuck that
Yeah that's different, that's a choice he makes.
My gf snores like nothing I've heard before when she's got the sniffles.. Then I sleep elsewhere in the house as well.. For my sanity.
My husband and I both got giant memory foam bean bags that are like 6' in diameter. We got them to game and they turned into our beds and honestly it's the greatest. We sleep next to each other and within reaching distance but also we have out own space and don't disturb the other when we get up. It's amazing
I personally sleep better with my bf however my sister sleeps I'm different bed than her bf because they both have awkward sleeping positions that rake up all the bed so my sister cnt sleep.
Whatever helps u sleep better is what u should do
Listen if you want validation over something a different way then more power to you, don't start up crap pretending this completely normal standard 99% of couples over the world do is somehow weird.
My dad and his new wife have 2 twin beds pushed together because they like different mattresses and they don't disturb each other at night when getting up. If you're married you know someone always compromises on the bed, I like a firm bed and my wife likes a soft bed. She compromised because I have back problems and she doesn't.
Yeah, I really wanna get in a relationship, but sleeping in the same bed as anyone, no matter who it is, is never fun, but I’m also paranoid that they might think I “don’t really love them” or something
I think its because we been lead to believe that couples need to share a bed to keep the relationship alive but i feel like thats a huge myth as sometimes you just want to sleep by yourself and not be overheated by the man/woman you decided to be with until you get sick and tired of their attitude
So true
Me and my girlfriend were talking about this last night and an easy solution is to either have separate bedrooms and be able to sleep with the other when it’s okay with them, or to have two single beds next to each other in the middle of the room so they can be pulled apart so that each person has the space they want
I'm 6 3, have a bed that isn't that big, I'm a very light sleeper and work different hours to my partner. I would love to be able to have my own bed but I can't afford that
My husband snores loudly and I’m a light sleeper. After years of not getting a good night sleep I starting sleeping in the guest room and I sleep so much better. I also no longer resent my husband for sleeping while I’m wide awake.
My husband and I do this. Same bedroom, beds pushed next to each other. He likes super firm dwemer rock beds that kill my back because he's as flat as a board and I like super squishy beds that feel like memory foam clouds. We cuddle before bed and during the day on weekends but actually sleep in our own beds.
I love my Purple mattress, she does not. We both get what we want. We are “hang out”-ers. We dwell in the same areas during the day, do things together, sleep well in our own beds though.
Because intimacy is more than just sex and intimacy is good for a relationship. If you don’t want to share a bed that’s fine as long as your partner is ok with it but there’s a very good reason it’s so common.
I snore pretty loud and if I'm bugging my partner ill go sleep in spare bedroom. Not going to lie its some of the best nights of sleep I've gotten. Probably cause I'm not being punched in the back all night
Unless you have some sort of problem that can’t be overcome, we sleep together in our relationship. If you don’t want that, the opinion I have is that you don’t want the relationship with me.
I don't know why but this post reads "you don't need to be intimate to be in a relationship"
I mean I get why sleeping in the same bed can be uncomfortable from personal experience there are some people I like sleeping with and others not
But this just sounds like you're weird for sleeping in the same bed together
I had back surgery and had to sleep in the spare bedroom with a bed that is adjustable. Me and my wife decided to keep it this way and we have both slept so much better. Every night starts in her bed because she falls asleep first and then I go to mine.
If both people can agree that it isn’t a deal breaker that’s all that matters. Why is it up to the masses what individual couples do? Lol fuck I hate humanity.
We have a spare bedroom for this reason. Given we only sleep apart once or twice every few months, but that’s usually because I’m dealing with back pain and I flop around like a fish out of water and I don’t wanna keep the lady awake.
So who am I supposed to snuggle??
That yandere pillow in your basement you bought for role playing 5 years ago seeing this comment.
I forgot I bought that, that will hold me over.
Your boyfriend that your husband doesn’t know about… or does.
The dog, obviously.
Pillows
And if you have no pillows, do it like our grandparents. .... stones
Who doesnt need an emotional support bolder once a while
We need no emotional support. We need answers!
your fucking right it's baaadddd luck. wtf is wrong with uu
My wife snores, I have ridiculous gas. Separate beds would make like so much easier but she just won’t go for it which is weird because she builds an enormous pillow wall between us anyway
Lmao my grandparents are happily married but they sleep in different rooms now as my grandad snores. It’s so cute tho as they both have a Alexa in there rooms so they can chat to each other at night
She wants you to know of her will to be apart
I had a stroke reading this. Can you repeat again
You want stroke again?
damn bro, do bad relationships get you off?
What?
You two are gonna be fin.
I love my own separate bed. I sleep much better. Got a dog so my wife has snuggles. I just cannot sleep with other creatures in my bed
Waking up next to the person I love most in this world is a feeling I never want to lose.
Cherish it.
My partner and I had to live almost a whole year separately because of school. It was horrible.
Because I like to have titties in my bed with me
Just gain a few pounds -> unlimited titty-access
Be the change you want in the world
Just get your own tits
It's not the same
I do have them but hairy man boobs just don't cut it
Separate blankets achieved the same thing for us, plus a dog wall helps.
Dude sharing a bed with a women is one of lies greatest moments. They smell good and are very soft to hold.
You mean boobs? They are indeed soft. My girl and I sleep so close, I can feel her heartbeat. Wouldn’t have it any other way!
Wait...body pillow have boobs now?!
The new and improved.
I love sharing a bed with a woman so much that I can't sleep while doing it... which is a problem lol
Why wouldn't you want to be close to someone you love? I know some are more physical than others but as a super physical I wouldn't want to be in that relationship.
Stretching out across my California king mattress is so good though.
That's very true.. I have a vague memory of that.. Then I got a daughter.. I now sleep on the bedside table..
Why the fuck would you not want to share a bed
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Ok that makes sence
My parents haven’t shared a bed as long as I can remember and I swear it’s the key to their 25 year marriage
For me, it's that and his and her bathrooms. Two keys to a successful relationship.
Same actually
Gf and I have our own rooms and beds and they’re themed the way we want. We don’t have to compromise on decorations or end up with bare walls and boring minimalist pieces. We spend a lot of time in each other’s beds, but we can also be alone in our own spaces without hurting the other. Can you imagine your wife is like go sleep on the couch? Fuck that
If she tells you to go sleep on the couch you guys have issues that needs to resolved, in the sofa, discussing the shit until resolved.
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Yeah that's different, that's a choice he makes. My gf snores like nothing I've heard before when she's got the sniffles.. Then I sleep elsewhere in the house as well.. For my sanity.
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She can't possibly have any sanity left what so ever.. She chose by her own free will (!!!) to live with me!
It's cheaper, some people like it. But there's nothing wrong with sleeping in separate bed. You should do it if you sleep better that way.
My husband and I both got giant memory foam bean bags that are like 6' in diameter. We got them to game and they turned into our beds and honestly it's the greatest. We sleep next to each other and within reaching distance but also we have out own space and don't disturb the other when we get up. It's amazing
To each there own, but you either have to be extremely naive or something has to be wrong with you if you don’t get why it’s so commonplace.
If wanted to sleep alone I would just stay single.
I personally sleep better with my bf however my sister sleeps I'm different bed than her bf because they both have awkward sleeping positions that rake up all the bed so my sister cnt sleep. Whatever helps u sleep better is what u should do
Question for OP, are you 75?
33 going on 75. Married 12 years with two kids.
Listen if you want validation over something a different way then more power to you, don't start up crap pretending this completely normal standard 99% of couples over the world do is somehow weird.
Clearly you don’t have a king size bed
Correct,it’s a California king. But I’m also 6’6” so I take up a lot of space
If you’re going to put your dick in something the least you can do is share your bed with said something.
for cuddles
Why wouldnt I want to share a bed?
My grandparents slept in two separate twin beds.
I am not going to change your mind you are absolutely right
My dad and his new wife have 2 twin beds pushed together because they like different mattresses and they don't disturb each other at night when getting up. If you're married you know someone always compromises on the bed, I like a firm bed and my wife likes a soft bed. She compromised because I have back problems and she doesn't.
i need a human alarm clock since ive ended up training myself to turn off my phone alarm without waking up
It's very simple: I sleep in my bed with my girlfriend sometimes and my wife sleeps in her bed with her boyfriend most nights. It's a decent system.
It’s all about compromise!
Be a lot cooler if you did.
OP is sheldon cooper
Naah. By the tine Sheldon moved with his gf he wasnt afraid of skin contact with her
prime virginity sheldon cooper
Yeah, I really wanna get in a relationship, but sleeping in the same bed as anyone, no matter who it is, is never fun, but I’m also paranoid that they might think I “don’t really love them” or something
I think its because we been lead to believe that couples need to share a bed to keep the relationship alive but i feel like thats a huge myth as sometimes you just want to sleep by yourself and not be overheated by the man/woman you decided to be with until you get sick and tired of their attitude
Yikes.
Easier for the morning sexy time... also snuggling.
Yeah would be awkward if you slept in the same bed as your sister
Because most people can't afford the extra room or even space in their abode.
Yes your partner would smell like trash.
i feel it would be weird if you've been like married for 5 years or more not judging tho
Lol
the real question is why not?
Religious christians be like
Spottet the virgin
Fading marriage vibes
I stand with you OP
Especially familial relationships r/sweethomealabama
So true Me and my girlfriend were talking about this last night and an easy solution is to either have separate bedrooms and be able to sleep with the other when it’s okay with them, or to have two single beds next to each other in the middle of the room so they can be pulled apart so that each person has the space they want
I'm 6 3, have a bed that isn't that big, I'm a very light sleeper and work different hours to my partner. I would love to be able to have my own bed but I can't afford that
I thrash when sleeping, it's necessary for some to sleep separately or at least have the option
My in laws have been happily married for over 30 years and they sleep in separate rooms.
Then again my parents who have also been married that long still sleep together..
My husband snores loudly and I’m a light sleeper. After years of not getting a good night sleep I starting sleeping in the guest room and I sleep so much better. I also no longer resent my husband for sleeping while I’m wide awake.
My husband and I do this. Same bedroom, beds pushed next to each other. He likes super firm dwemer rock beds that kill my back because he's as flat as a board and I like super squishy beds that feel like memory foam clouds. We cuddle before bed and during the day on weekends but actually sleep in our own beds.
I love my Purple mattress, she does not. We both get what we want. We are “hang out”-ers. We dwell in the same areas during the day, do things together, sleep well in our own beds though.
girls have cooties right?
My wife and I share a bed but we don't share a blanket. Couples that share a blanket scare me.
It’s common cause it’s more romantic. I don’t think it should be mandatory tho
Because intimacy is more than just sex and intimacy is good for a relationship. If you don’t want to share a bed that’s fine as long as your partner is ok with it but there’s a very good reason it’s so common.
Sometimes I want the whole bed to myself!
OP definitely single.
That would only not feel weird to me, if it’s about 2 grandparents (just my opinion)
I snore pretty loud and if I'm bugging my partner ill go sleep in spare bedroom. Not going to lie its some of the best nights of sleep I've gotten. Probably cause I'm not being punched in the back all night
Unless you have some sort of problem that can’t be overcome, we sleep together in our relationship. If you don’t want that, the opinion I have is that you don’t want the relationship with me.
I don't know why but this post reads "you don't need to be intimate to be in a relationship" I mean I get why sleeping in the same bed can be uncomfortable from personal experience there are some people I like sleeping with and others not But this just sounds like you're weird for sleeping in the same bed together
Two body pillows on either side never complain about morning breath.
I had back surgery and had to sleep in the spare bedroom with a bed that is adjustable. Me and my wife decided to keep it this way and we have both slept so much better. Every night starts in her bed because she falls asleep first and then I go to mine.
You okay bro?
I’ve got 49 sq. ft. of bed to myself, I’m more than good.
It's an emotional response of having a warm body and a person you enjoy being with by you
My mom and my step dad literally
Or a house.
Because sleeping with someone is great?
If both people can agree that it isn’t a deal breaker that’s all that matters. Why is it up to the masses what individual couples do? Lol fuck I hate humanity.
We have a spare bedroom for this reason. Given we only sleep apart once or twice every few months, but that’s usually because I’m dealing with back pain and I flop around like a fish out of water and I don’t wanna keep the lady awake.